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FatherLoss is a nuanced look at one of the most common and least-studied events in mens lives. Offering a fresh view of the grieving process and practical advice, this book contains information on: how a son can prepare for his loss; coping immediately following the death; a womans role in helping men through it; and the different ways men grieve.
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Profound.......2006-12-28
I only ever saw my father cry twice - the first time was when he accidentally burned himself and was in severe pain, and the second time was at his father's funeral. Now that my father has died, just a week ago, I feel as though a part of my world has come crashing down before me...or perhaps behind me.
This wonderful book is a look at how the loss of a father can affect a man. Based on a nationwide survey of over 300 men, with in-depth interviews of 70 others, the book is a wonderful resource. The first part of the book contains four chapters which tell of how sons of different age brackets (0-17, 18-32, 33-55, and 56 & up) dealt with the loss of their fathers. The second part of the book covers everything from preparing for fatherloss, through mourning, how spouses can help, and advice on affectionate fathering. And, sprinkled throughout are short reports of how famous men felt about the loss of their fathers, including Michael Jordan, Mahatma Gandhi, and Dwight D. Eisenhower.
Overall, I found this to be a wonderful resource. I have read a number of books on men (Iron John, and so forth), but this is one of the most profound books I have ever read. My one complaint about it is that I did not get a hold of this book until after my father had passed. I wish I had read it much earlier!
Don't get me wrong, all sorts of relationships are covered, including how men who had distant or fractured relationships with their fathers dealt with the mourning. It truly has something for everyone.
So, if you are a man with a living father, then I would recommend you get this book in preparation for the loss that will inevitably come. Or, if you are a wife, and wish to prepare yourself for what your husband will face and feel and need, then this book is for you. I give this book my highest recommendations!
Father Loss,..........2006-11-10
I, too, lost my father at an early age. I was seeking a book to help as I struggled with his death many years later.
I rate this book a "2" because it didn't seem to provide the insight or informal counseling that i would have expected in a book, but rather was just a story with several examples of how other folks wrestled with the loss. I couldn't finish the book and have moved on to other books as I wrestle with these issues.
Exactly what I needed.......2005-06-21
In the days following the sudden and completely unexpected death of my best friend's father, I was grappling to understand anything. This book helped me understand a bit what he was going through and what kind of support he needed not only in those first days, but for weeks, months, and years to come.
Fatherloss gently comforts, illuminates and instructs.......2003-04-07
I am one of the four per cent of American sons who have experienced the death of their fathers before the age of eighteen. More than any other occurence in my life, that single event informs me of who I am, what I represent and how I hope to live my life. My bereavement has now lasted some forty years, and, at times, my grief is so freshly-minted it is as if Joe, my father, died just yesterday. Despite the enormous love I held for him, despite the knowledge that he reciprocated that love, I am still in mourning. As an adult and the father of two extraordinary sons myself, I yearn for a sense of peace, for a farewell to Joe, so that I may live the remainder of my life not suffused with the pain of loss.
A friend who has experienced torment over fatherloss encouraged me to read Neil Chethik's "Fatherloss." Knowing the depth of my despair, my friend sensed that reading "Fatherloss" could become a transforming experience. It was.
"Fatherloss" is a detailed study of the impact of a father's death on sons. It comforts, illuminates and instructs. Chethik interweaves anecdotal responses of bereaved sons with his own life-affirming observations and commentaries. His volume gently tears down walls of silence and suffering; it is not only profoundly moving, it is liberating in the understandings it presents to its readers. As Chethik maps the differing responses of sons to father death through the variables of age, prior relationship and impact, he sheds light on the dilemmas and pain sons face as they attempt to mourn, assess loss and rejoin the living.
I now realize that I am far from alone in my reaction to my father's death. Like many sons whose fathers' premature death shattered their lives, I never said goodbye to Joe. Never told him how much I loved him. Never gave him a final kiss. Never thanked him. And the resultant guilt and false sense of responsibility for his death caused my adolescence to be a period of unceasing loneliness and emotional isolation. I disintegrated, despite the outward appearance of success and attainment.
Chethik postulates that instead of words and tears (traditionally associated with female mourning practices), men often act. We make or create legacies. My headlong descent into a life of achievement and altruistic service, my feelings of never quite being able to live up to Joe's gigantic presence, my rejection of praise and any other compliment that would permit me to feel good about my life -- all these behaviors, in Chethik's wise hands, make sense and fit into a larger mosaic of how men respond to loss.
Not every page of "Fatherloss" will be crucial to every reader; after all, it was difficult for me to identify with sons who had no relationship with their father or sixty-year-olds who had ample time to prepare for the demise of their father. Thus, some passages of this volume may appear to border on the irrelevant to a number of readers. Yet, "Fatherloss" provides solace, guidance and hope as nothing else I have read in my life has. There are paragraphs in this remarkable volume which will graft themselves on sons' hearts, where their impact will engender a sense of hope, a sanctification of memory and a capacity to relinquish grief. The sheer principled beauty of "Fatherloss" is its affirmation of life through the passageway of grief.
A tender and insightful exploration of male loss........2003-02-22
In the spring of 2001, one marvelously beautiful day, I met a man as I was entering a nursing home that I visit. I commented on the beauty of the day and said that it would be the perfect day to be out on the lake, fishing. He told me that the last time he had been fishing was fifteen years before, with his dad. "I haven't fished since," he said. Such is the impact of grief. And, for this man, the grief was still fresh, felt strongly on pretty spring days.
One of the most frequent questions we get at ElderHope.com is from wives who are witnessing the pain of their husband's grief. For both men and women, FatherLoss, by Neil Chethik and Robert Kastenbaum, is an oasis. Based on careful research, he explains the patterns of loss associated with a father's death, ways to prepare our sons, and ways that we might come to terms with the death of a father.
For the better part of a year, this book lingered in the background of my thoughts as I considered what my son might do if he lost me and what I would feel if I lost my own father. Whether you have lost your father or not, I consider this a MUST READ.
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- Stale
- The third Sid Halley novel
- Fun to read--with a playful mind
- Francis' Deepest Character rides again
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Come to Grief
Dick Francis
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ASIN: 0399140824 |
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Dick Francis brings back Sid Halley, champion jockey-turned-PI of his earlier novels Whip Hand and Odds Against, in this troubling story. Ellis Quint has everything he could want: fame, youth, money, good looks, and talent. What Sid has to figure out is why his friend Ellis also has a streak of sadism that leads him to cut off horses' hooves in the dead of night. Sid's search for the truth leads him into the lowest depths of human nature. Winner of the Edgar Award for best mystery novel.
Book Description
The bestselling author of Decider is back with another suspenseful ride
The hero of Whip Hand returns
Although more than a decade has passed since the publication of Whip Hand, little time has elapsed in Sid Halley's life. Still in his mid-thirties, he remains troubled, courageous, unwilling to admit defeat to disabling injury or to corruption. Now, though, Sid faces nineties' dilemmas, dangers, and deeply demanding decisions.
"I had this friend that everyone loved, and I put him on trial...I grieved for the loss of a friendship, and for the man who looked the same but was different, alien...despicable. I could more easily have grieved for him dead."
Having exposed an adored racing figure as a monster, Sid must testify at the man's trial. But the morning of his appearance, a tragic suicide shatters the proceedings and jars Halley's conscience. Plagued by regret and the suspicion that there's more to the death than has yet come to light, he is catapulted into days of hard, rational detection, heart-searching torments, and the gravest of perils. Business as usual for Sid...
Customer Reviews:
Stale.......2007-09-21
The third novel featuring Sid Halley, the unfortunate jockey who lost his left hand in a steeplechasing fall at a fence. He's still full of his complexes, including the one of guilt towards his former spoiled and bitchy wife. The inevitable villain in this one is a very popular TV presentator, and reminds too much of the one in "Nerve", a book of 31 years before. All in all, the Sid Halley epic is getting tired and stale. "Odds against" (first episode) was very good, and original; the second one, "Whip hand" a bit re-hashed but still palatable. This one is showing worn-off edges.
The third Sid Halley novel.......2007-08-31
This is the third novel by the author about ex-jockey turned PI Sid Halley. I did not think it was as good as the first two, but that is often a problem with sequels. Mainly, I did not like the structure of the novel which starts out near the end of the story, then flashes back to the start of the case and works its way back forward. In some ways the story seemed to be left unfinished.
The novel is about a person with a sick mind who gets thrills by mutilating horses. The novel is also about misplaced loyalties, where people cannot believe bad things about a person, or where people have reasons for not wanting to prosecute even if they know a person is guilty. Many pedophiles and such remain active for similar reasons.
In this novel, Sid Halley becomes villified because his investigation results in charges against a friend who people admire. There are some underlying motives revealed as the book develops. There is also Sid's affection for a young girl suffering from leukemia, and his attraction to a young woman working as an investigative reporter.
The three novels, "Odds Against," "Whip Hand," and "Come to Grief," are also available in a combined omnibus edition, "Win, Place, or Show." "Come to Grief," is included in a Reader Digest collection of condensed novels by various authors..
Fun to read--with a playful mind.......2007-04-30
I enjoyed this book--it was IMHO a fun read. As usual, DF has an indestructible hero who seems to court trouble but with impeccable morality. It's easy to root for him. Less than the other 8 books of his I've read, DF has only a bit of technical detail on textiles, leukemia, & horse foods--usually he goes into great detail on some profession such as photography. Of course, there are some difficult-to-believe successes such as a no-armed hero defeating two professional security guards...but it IS light fiction--not Hemingway etc. The crimes are a bit ugly though DF's descriptions are always after-the-fact not during the dastardly deeds. In addition, there are very poignant vignettes with a child suffering from leukemia--& we are left hanging over this. Still, DF IMHO manages to keep the reader interested throughout the novel.
In addition, as in many of his works, DF has some delightful turns-of-phrase (herein mostly concerned with his love-hate "relationship" with a reporter (India Cathcart) with a nasty reputation: "They said she kept a penknife handy for sharpening her ball-points...She trailed me [Sid Halley] behind her like a comet's tail (Halley's Comet?) while introducing me to no one...The serial reputation-slasher...one doesn't cuddle up to a potential cobra.
As for the absurdity of the culprit's actions: "Half of human actions don't make sense in the eye of the beholder."
p.s. Francis has written 4 Sid Halley novels at this writing. (Odds Against, Whip Hand, Come to Grief, & Under Orders--in that order). The 1st 3 have been anthologized: "Win, Place, or Show" 042519972X, "The Sid Halley Omnibus" 033049242X, & "3 Titles by Dick Francis" B000MN3WV4.
Francis' Deepest Character rides again.......2002-05-08
I thoroughly enjoyed "Come to Grief," as I enjoyed "Whip Hand," the second of Francis' three Sid Haley novels. Insomuch as all of Francis' main characters are essentially the same person, Sid Haley fits his bill, but - perhaps by simple virtue of being ressurected through three novels now - Haley is a much deeper, more real person than some of the others. Francis really threw himself into writing Haley, exploring his motivations, fears, bravery, and tenaciousness to a far greater extent than his typical character, and you end up caring about the outcome quite a lot. I listened to this book (narrated by Simon Preebles) simultaneously to reading "Hot Money," and there's really no comparison in quality. "Hot Money" is average, "Come to Grief" is well above the norm.
The other reviewers' comments about this being a darker, more disturbing book than Francis' average are all true, of course, but in my opinion this improves the read.
A Puzzling Book.......2001-09-05
I will admit going into this that I am more than halfway in love with Sid Halley. However, we would not be a good match, since I, like his ex-wife, would be aggravated because he wouldn't be reliable and be home on time for dinner.
Levity aside, I am predisposed to like and of Francis' books about Halley, and there are things I like here. I like Sid having a chance to develop relationships with some people and having a chance to genuinely love, as he does with the little girl with leukemia here. I also really want him to have a satisfying relationship, and he seems to be interested in that, although I don't think the love interest in this one is as pleansant or as good a prospect as in Whiphand.
However, as some other reviewers have noted, this seems to be a rather mean-spirited book. I don't understand why the handsome man who appears to have everything stoops to mutilating horses, and I don't understand what the fundamental message about human nature is here. I think Francis was really trying to say something profound here, but I can't get to it. I was left feeling like I missed something important, and it made me frustrated and sad.
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- Couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel...
- Excellent book I recommend it to parents who are in greif.
- A compassionate work that offers hope for the grieving
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When Mourning Comes: A Book of Comfort for the Grieving
William B. Silverman , and
Kenneth Cinnamon
Manufacturer: Jason Aronson
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Feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression sometimes overcome people who have recently been bereaved, filling them with hopelessness and despair, extinguishing their will to go on living. When Mourning Comes is a unique source of comfort and hope. Written by William B. Silverman a prominent rabbi and Kenneth M. Cinnamon a clinical psychologist When Mourning Comes is not a book about grief, but rather a guide for the grieving. Full of comforting insights and wise suggestions on how to view and cope with the grief of bereavement, this book draws on the author's own experiences and those of people whom they have known and counseled over the years.
Customer Reviews:
Couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel..........2002-12-19
I highly recommend "When Mourning Comes" to anyone who can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. That's how I felt, engulfed in my grief over the loss of my mother. This book helped me make the change from being angry over my loss to treasuring the time that I had with her. To see what her goals were and to try to fulfill them for her. I loved all the wonderful stories in this book, especially the ones about "This too shall pass" and the scratch turned into a rose. Thanks so much for this book.
Excellent book I recommend it to parents who are in greif........1999-03-30
I found this book to be very helpful in my time of need and greif. I truly enjoyed the way the authors told stories, about peoples lives and how they all went through of understanding God, life and death.
A compassionate work that offers hope for the grieving.......1998-09-22
I found this book to be very different from others I've read for those grieving the loss of a loved one. This book offers hope for the future. It is a compassionate work that weaves the knowledge of God's love and help in our time of loss.
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From Joan Medlicott, the nationally bestselling creator of the beloved Ladies of Covington series, comes an inspiring, hope-filled tale of a woman who finds the courage to begin a journey that will lead to a whole new life.
When Claire Bennett's husband died, she felt directionless. Their thriving antiques business and beautiful house in the Hamptons, the social scene and her volunteer work -- all seemed empty without Phillip. Estranged from her adult daughter and son, Claire knows that in the depths of her heart she still mourns a terrible loss from a tragic accident years ago.
Fleeing her memories, Claire moves to a condo in Florida, then impulsively leaves to visit her engaged daughter in North Carolina. From the sandy beaches of Boca Raton to a tiny farm tucked high in the Blue Ridge Mountains, Claire gains self-awareness through the unexpected kindness of strangers, and finally forces herself to confront some hard truths from the past.
Finding a joy in life that has been missing for many years, Claire at last reaches out to her son and daughter. And when the healing of old wounds leads her to a new love, Claire realizes that her travels have brought her to a place where she will never again walk alone.
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Life as It Comes
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Sisters with nothing in common? That's Mado and Patty.
Studious and responsible, 15-year-old Mado is the family brain. Patty, on the other hand, is a carefree 20-year-old party girl who lives on her own and has plenty of boyfriends. The two are following divergent paths . . . until their parents die in a car accident and a family court judge reluctantly appoints Patty as her sister's guardian.
Now these two improbable siblings face the challenges of growing up together—but it's Mado who quickly assumes the big sister's role. And it's not a role she particularly wants—especially after Patty announces that she's several months pregnant. . . .
Anne-Laure Bondoux writes with insight, humor, and poignancy about the bonds between sisters—and the challenges of everyday life.
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Courtesy of Teens Read Too.......2007-08-05
Mado and Patty are sisters. Now that their parents are gone, killed in a car crash on their way to the family's vacation home, they're the only family they've got. Still, though, they're very different people. LIFE AS IT COMES is about their life together after the accident.
Patty is her younger sister's legal guardian, and they're doing the best they can together. However, life is further complicated when Patty reveals that she is several months pregnant. If the social workers find out, they might put Mado into foster care, not expecting a twenty-year-old to be able to care for a baby and a teenager. But what can they do?
LIFE AS IT COMES is a lovely, sad, hopeful novel about life, loss, love, family, and growing up. The translation from the French is, as far as I can tell, done quite excellently; the writing style flows wonderfully and is completely absorbing. The very well-done relationships of the fully fleshed-out and interesting characters give the story remarkable depth.
This is one that will stay with readers long after the final page.
Reviewed by: Jocelyn Pearce
Absorbing account........2007-07-10
Anne-Laure Bondoux's LIFE AS IT COMES tells of sisters five years apart in age who have nothing in common - until their parents die and twenty-year-old party girl Patty becomes her sister's guardian. Between grief, changing relationships and a baby on the way, the two sisters must confront and grow in very different ways in this absorbing account.
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The purpose of this book is to assist school personnel, primarily the classroom teacher in being a positive, significant caregiver for the bereaved student. This book is also meant to aid parents of grieving students and to provide help for the student as she/he reenters the school environment following the death experience.
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A tough and savvy Newark cop-turned-P.I., Tamara Hoyleis a sister with a mission: to raise her kid right in a mean town. But now the post has come knocking -- bringing trouble to her door in the person of her "dog" of a former husband, DeWayne.Suspicious "accidents" have claimed the lives of two ofDeWayne's sons from different marriages. And though goodsense warns Tamara to steer clear of her charming, lowdown ex, she has little choice but to offer him her investigative expertise -- because a killer may now be drawing fatally close to home -- to Tamara's only son.
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The Best Book By Far.......2005-01-11
This book by Valerie W Wesley '' When Death Comes Stealing'' is the best book I ever read and I have read all lot of books. This is the best by far. Tamara Hayle is a strong intelligent women with a mission: to raise her kid right in these mean streets, but her ex - husband brings danger to her door when he wants her to investigate in his son's death. Her son in - law. Police say he died because of an overdose on coccain, but he thinks someone killed him and made it seem like he died of an overdose. In Tamara's investigation she discover some grimy news that could end her life and her son's. This book holds action, suspense, and excitement. If you want a great mystery book you should definitly read this book.
Touching.......2003-10-26
A great way to start a mystery series. You feel sorry for Dewayne, because he starts losing all of his children. Tamara Hayle gets into this because her son Jamal is in danger. This was capturing all the way to the end.
Tamara Hayle is the Woman!.......2002-12-27
Thanks to Wesley, mystery has become my favorite fictional genre. Her sassy sleuth, Tamara Hayle embraces those true qualities of the quintessential African American woman; strong and sassy on the outside while all the while able to conceal her internal self-doubts and fears. In the end, it's all done for the betterment of her family, friends, her community at large.
When Tamara takes on the case to find the murderer of her ex-husband's son, she knew that against her better judgement, it was something she had to do. After all, she too shares a son with this man even though he hasn't been much of a father to him. The only thing that I really didn't feel too comfortable with was how Tamara handled the fate of her son. I thought she should have shown more concern in the beginning about his welfare. As the book progresses, however, the motherly instincts kick in better. Tamara also shows us how hard it is for a Sista not to get clouded by her feminine desires when it's the right thing to do.
All in all, this is an engaging book with a strong ending. There are many characters flowing through this mystery. This creates motives and means for many so it concludes in a very unpredictable fashion which is exactly what you want in a good mystery.
Thanks Valerie for the Tamara Hayle series. This is the second one I read and I will definitely be reading them all!
Tamara Hayle is an Ace.......2001-08-01
Tamara Hayle is a single mother and private investigator. She left the police force to pursue this career challenge.
In this novel, Tamara investigates the mysterious deaths of a group of young men. These young men are being murdered, one by one with no apparent justification. The one commonality is that these young men have the same father, who also happens to be the father of Tamara's son. She wants to find out what is going on before Tragedy hits home.
This investigation gives you a look at Tamara the PI, Tamara the mother, and Tamara the woman. It shows her relationships with the men in her life: her brother Johnny, her son, his father (DeWayne), her former co-workers, and they mysterious Basil Dupree. Tamara Hayle is an ace P.I. I never wanted to read mysteries, so this was bought on a whim. Valerie Wilson Wesley has done a great job with this character. I've gotten every Tamara Hayle Mystery since I read this one, although this one is still my favorite.
Absolutely fabulous.......2001-07-15
great book, could not put it down. in the past i have not been a fan of mysteries, however, since reading this book that has changed.
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Also Helpful for Those in the Process of Losing A Parent.......2006-10-21
Recently I was talking with a friend whose father is terminally ill and probably in the last weeks, or possibly even days, of his life. She knew I would understand because I had a similar experience with my mom a little over a year ago. She mentioned how, even though he's still here, something's very different -- he doesn't get excited about news of his grandchildren the way he used to, and he seems far away all the time and disconnected. My experience was much the same and it caused me to first grieve the loss of my old, close relationship with my mother a few before grieving her actual passing. There were a couple of reasons for this and I wish I had better understood what was happening at the time, partly because it would've helped me recognize how close she was to dying, and it would've helped me better comfort her. Just after this conversation, I started reading this book (the third of three recommended to me by Hospice), and there was our conversation and our experience on the pages of the first two chapters. If your parent is terminally ill, don't wait -- read Fiona Marshall's book now. I'm going to send it to my friend and hope it isn't too late for her. It will help you see signs, be prepared, and at least have a little understanding of things that otherwise may catch you off guard and you'll wish you had known them "back then" (I wish I had). I haven't completely finished the book yet, but am already finding it a great comfort.
An extremely helpful book........2006-02-21
I buy extra copies of this book to give to friends. This book puts in writing all the things I have felt and experienced during the loss of a parent...This book made me feel normal about the grieving process. I highly recommend it.
The one book that I recommend.......2001-07-08
After my mother suddenly passed away, I was having a really tough time coping--nothing anyone would do or say could change the profound sense of insecurity I felt. Short, to-the-point, and not overly "touchy-feely", it simply explains why you are feeling the way you do. I had wished that I had read the book BEFORE my mother had died because the first section of the book focuses on dealing with terminally ill parents and steps you can take to prepare yourself. I recommended it to all my friends whose parents are still living.
A very thoughtful guide. Practical, deep, but not too deep........1999-06-24
A very good guide for a specific type of loss. The author really covers the spectrum of feelings and issues associated with losing a parent. Not only helpful for a child of a deceased parent but also for a parent who remains critically ill. In fact, for the child who has already lost a parent, going through the process of a parent's death is very helpful as well. Not the only book a grieving (adult) child should have but a necessary one.
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When Autumn Comes will help you appreciate and respond to the important needs and delicate issues of our final passage through life. With wisdom and sensitivity, it gives practical keys for creating a holistic, comforting environment for those nearing the end of life so they can face death with peace and dignity. The author shares her intimate relationship with death in the loss of her lover and close friends and in her many years of experience at the bedside of the dying as a hospice volunteer. Her moving journey through grief, tears and companionship shows how we can find greater compassion and understanding in caring both for the dying and for ourselves in our time of loss. “When Autumn Comes shows us that, with compassionate care, the end of life can be a time of personal growth and healing for the dying and their loved ones.”
Dannion Brinkley, chairman and founder of Compassion in Action and author Saved by the Light
“Borrowing from her years of experience as a hospice volunteer, Mary Jo Bennett offers both practical advice and thoughtful reflection on the art of caring for the terminally ill. When Autumn Comes is invaluable to hospice volunteers and other caregivers, who are struggling with the nitty-gritty details of care and the deeper questions that often arise through such loving work.”
James Hallenbeck, M.D., Assistant Professor of Medicine, Stanford University School of Medicine and author of Palliative Care Perspectives
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A Practical Guide for the Hospice Volunteer.......2007-03-18
The experiences of dying individuals in this book were compelling and insightful. Each chapter tells a story of a hospice patient's unique situation and challenges from the perspective of a volunteer. In the margins, the author would pose insightful questions about ethical dilemmas, boundary issues, or problems, that she encountered in this particular assignment. For this reason, selected chapters might serve as effective case studies and be suitable for a training class or discussion group for hospice volunteers.
There is a glossary of medical and hospice terms in the back of the book and a very practical chapter on the physiological process as one is actively dying. Although the author writes openly about her sadness and feelings of ambivalence and conflict, her personal story speaks for the value of compassion in this line of work yet the tone is never maudlin or despondent. Personal opinions are balanced with pragmatism.
In summary, I would recommend this book to hospice volunteers but also to people who are trying to get a deeper understanding of the general hospice experience.
Pleasantly Surprised!.......2005-04-01
I was pleasantly surprised and enlightened by reading this informative book on hospice care. Very well done, with an interesting personal touch.
The Gift of Listening.......2005-03-12
I have been an RN for over 30 years and a hospice nurse for 14 years. As I read When Autumn Comes I discovered how Mary Jo Bennett brings her gift of listening with her whole heart to each encounter with those approaching death. It is clear that she offers a caring and quiet spirit to her patients and shows how we can also.
Autumn Came.......2005-03-03
I found "When Autumn Comes" to be very inspiring as well as comforting reading at the time my father was passing on. I think more than anything it helped me to recognize my own agenda vs. my father's real needs and state of mind. This book helped me to not be so afraid of death and instead to support my father and actually encourage him in this process by my mindful presence. I will never forget this rich experience of being at his side until the moment when he took his final breath. It was an honor, a joy and a privilege and I am so grateful to have had this guidebook for support to enhance my spiritual understanding of the death process.
A Powerful Book.......2005-02-24
The stories Ms. Bennett tells in When Autumn Comes have the power to penetrate deeply into relationship spaces most of us are unwilling to go without a guide. She has learned the sacred art of listening, and challenges me to ask this burning question everywhere I go these days, "How can I help?"
Customer Reviews:
Great book.......2007-09-20
An exellent, well-written, uplifting book for those of us when we experience the dark side of life. Easy to understand and yet full of depth and understanding, motivating one to use these experiences for learning and growth and renewed joy in life and in our faith.
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