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Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman expose the fallacies of standard management thinking in First, Break All the Rules: What the World's Greatest Managers Do Differently. In seven chapters, the two consultants for the Gallup Organization debunk some dearly held notions about management, such as "treat people as you like to be treated"; "people are capable of almost anything"; and "a manager's role is diminishing in today's economy." "Great managers are revolutionaries," the authors write. "This book will take you inside the minds of these managers to explain why they have toppled conventional wisdom and reveal the new truths they have forged in its place."
The authors have culled their observations from more than 80,000 interviews conducted by Gallup during the past 25 years. Quoting leaders such as basketball coach Phil Jackson, Buckingham and Coffman outline "four keys" to becoming an excellent manager: Finding the right fit for employees, focusing on strengths of employees, defining the right results, and selecting staff for talent--not just knowledge and skills. First, Break All the Rules offers specific techniques for helping people perform better on the job. For instance, the authors show ways to structure a trial period for a new worker and how to create a pay plan that rewards people for their expertise instead of how fast they climb the company ladder. "The point is to focus people toward performance," they write. "The manager is, and should be, totally responsible for this." Written in plain English and well organized, this book tells you exactly how to improve as a supervisor. --Dan Ring
Book Description
The greatest managers in the world seem to have little in common. They differ in sex, age, and race. They employ vastly different styles and focus on different goals. Yet despite their differences, great managers share one common trait: They do not hesitate to break virtually every rule held sacred by conventional wisdom. They do not believe that, with enough training, a person can achieve anything he sets his mind to. They do not try to help people overcome their weaknesses. They consistently disregard the golden rule. And, yes, they even play favorites. This amazing book explains why.
Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman of the Gallup Organization present the remarkable findings of their massive in-depth study of great managers across a wide variety of situations. Some were in leadership positions. Others were front-line supervisors. Some were in Fortune 500 companies; others were key players in small, entrepreneurial companies. Whatever their situations, the managers who ultimately became the focus of Gallup's research were invariably those who excelled at turning each employee's talent into performance.
In today's tight labor markets, companies compete to find and keep the best employees, using pay, benefits, promotions, and training. But these well-intentioned efforts often miss the mark. The front-line manager is the key to attracting and retaining talented employees. No matter how generous its pay or how renowned its training, the company that lacks great front-line managers will suffer. Buckingham and Coffman explain how the best managers select an employee for talent rather than for skills or experience; how they set expectations for him or her -- they define the right outcomes rather than the right steps; how they motivate people -- they build on each person's unique strengths rather than trying to fix his weaknesses; and, finally, how great managers develop people -- they find the right fit for each person, not the next rung on the ladder. And perhaps most important, this research -- which initially generated thousands of different survey questions on the subject of employee opinion -- finally produced the twelve simple questions that work to distinguish the strongest departments of a company from all the rest. This book is the first to present this essential measuring stick and to prove the link between employee opinions and productivity, profit, customer satisfaction, and the rate of turnover.
There are vital performance and career lessons here for managers at every level, and, best of all, the book shows you how to apply them to your own situation.
Customer Reviews:
And the next trend in management is..........2007-08-29
This information is very well researched and clearly presented. Since most of these results were taken from a Gallup poll I recently took at my former company, I can vouch that a significant percentage of the questions are absurd, including one mentioned in this book. Do you have a best friend at work? And how that has anything to do with happiness on the job...
This audiobook explains you how to customize relationships with those who report to you. It's very practical info: everyone is unique and has specific talents that are greater in one than the other. I also appreciated the explanation of how so many managers end up being so pathetic -- especially if they are moved up because they're not very good in their current positions (or my favorites, they kiss butte or know the right people).
No one, by improving themselves dramatically, is trying to become a hero as claimed here...but I am glad Marcus spells out very clearly how it is impossible for a manager to get people to change (change is up to the employee). Props to Marcus for being one of the only authors I've actually enjoyed listening to on an audiobook. All well packaged and marketed with an attention-grabbing title.
Relational Leadership a Proven Performance Winner.......2007-08-27
An evidence-based book demonstrating the performance benefits of relational leadership. In this captivating and engaging read, Gallup Organization researchers Buckingham and Coffman show how good leadership taps individual identity (At work, do you have the opportunity to do what you do best every day?), is relational (Does your supervisor seem to care about you as a person?), and demands accountability (Do you know what is expected of you at work?). These management elements and the several others described are not necessarily conventional wisdom, but clarified as they are in this book, they ring of good old common sense. After nearly 10 years on bookstore shelves, this book speaks more common sense than ever. This book is highly recommended for everyone -- if you have read it more than 5 years ago, read it again.
Great prep course for new managers!!.......2007-08-23
My son had just been made a manager of a large multi-location furniture and appliance and tv company. I purchased (First, Break all the rules) for him to give him some insight to being a manager. He devoured the CD's and called for more.
I choose the same author and purchased more of his work. Thanks for having this quality product available.
Whoever wrote the description of this book on cd did a great job. It was the reason I bought it.
Ideas that are applicable to managers--and a lot more!.......2007-07-18
Heard FIRST, BREAK ALL THE RULES by Marcus Buckingham
and Curt Coffman of the Gallup Organization . . . it was the report
on a massive in-depth study of great managers across a wide
variety of situations, ranging from Fortune 500 companies to
key players in small, entrepreuneurial firms.
It got me thinking about the difference that effective leadership
at the top can make and how, unfortunately, this doesn't
happen as much as it perhaps should.
Many of the ideas I've come across before . . . yet it wasn't until
I heard the spin placed on them by the authors that I came to the
realization that though they were seemingly basic, implementation
of them isn't always quite so simple.
Also, I realized that most of the ideas can easily be applied to great
parenting, great running of virtually any club or organization, etc.
For instance:
* Best managers don't treat everybody like they want to be
treated. Instead, they treat each employee as how he or she wants
to be treated.
And to find this out is easy:
* Just ask!
Among the other valuable tidbits I gained from listening were these:
* Effective managers spend their most time with their best people.
* Great managers know that any attempt to impose one best
way is doomed to fail.
* Never try to perfect people.
* Great managers focus on the future with their people.
* When told an employee was late, great manager almost
always ask why.
Buckingham also did the reading of FIRST, BREAK ALL THE
RULES . . . I was so impressed with this book that I'm now going
to read his other works, including his latest: GO PUT YOUR
STRENGTHS TO WORK.
Best Management Audiobook Available.......2007-07-17
What separates Buckingham and his co-author from the crowded bookshelves is their reliance upon statistics instead of anecdotes. There are too many management books out there that tell you what to do without backing their words up, so this book is well worth the investment. The audiobook, narrated by Buckingham, is especially rewarding, since it's one you'll want to listen to every month to remind yourself that there is a better way to manage and that you need to stay on that path.
Book Description
DO YOU:-+dream about writing the Great American Novel?-+regret not finishing your paintings, poems, or screenplays?-+want to start a business or charity?-+wish you could start dieting or exercising today?-+hope to run a marathon someday?If "yes," then you need#133;THE WAR OF ARTNow, in this powerful, straight-from-the-hip examination of the internal obstacles to success, bestselling author Steven Pressfield shows readers how to identify, defeat, and unlock the inner barriers to creativity. THE WAR OF ART is an inspirational, funny, well-aimed kick in the pants guaranteed to galvanize every would-be artist, visionary, or entrepreneur.Steven Pressfield enjoys great international success as a bestselling novelist.But in order to reach the top he had to do a lot of work to fight the inner demons that told him he couldn't make it.THE WAR OF ART is his challenge to creative block, and his succinct, straight-from-the-hip style will help every reader unleash their personal ambitions, be they literary, artistic, or business-minded.According to Pressfield, the internal obstacle to success is Resistance.Resistance is the difference between the life you lead and the life you want to lead, and can take many forms.Pressfield shows readers how to identify and defeat Resistance at every turn and challenges them to change their amateurish, unsuccessful habits into a professional attitude that can get the job done. Finally, Sun Tzu for the soul!Inspirational, funny, and a great kick in the pants, THE WAR OF ART is the perfect book for anybody who had a goal circumvented by life and circumstance:which is to say, you and everybody you've ever met.
Customer Reviews:
Exactly whats needed to move out of fear and doubt..........2007-10-03
The main theme in this book is we all have a talent, a gift, a purpose. To develop our unlimited potential requires awareness of the big R, resistance.
The author opens up and in short, concise, easy to read chapters shows us what stops us. Our excuses are all exposed for what they are in an instant. This book is in your face, no hold back, tells it like it is. Sure we are a work in progress, we all have unhealed, undervalued parts of ourselves but are we going to use that as an excuse to stop developing our potential?
Creating anything requires working with the good, the bad, and the ugly while moving forward. Die trying, taking action, and you will have lived a good life.
This book got me more determined to take action. I must do verses just think about what I want. Action takes me closer to my goal.
If doubt and fear stop you from becoming who you know you really are this book will be a great kick in the behind. He nails every excuse under the sun made for not following through. Excuses have no where to hide as you turn each page. In the end you will be recharged and ready to move forward.
The War of Art feeds your energy to make life happen. Procrastinate no more.
Resistance is so powerful! Read this to get through it in writing........2007-10-01
A friend of mine reccommended this book and I am glad he did. I am a writer at heart even though I never knew I was, this book gave me the courage to start writing and overcome the resistance he talks about. No matter what your resistance is you can get some great methods and insights from Pressfield. Put it this way, I am a note taker and highlighter with post-it flags, this book has dozens protruding through the edges!
More Guilt of the Right Kind.......2007-09-27
Pressfield's book has been extremely helpful in getting me to sit down at my table and write. It is too bad that the book seems so poorly and haphazardly written. The beginning, in which he defines resistance, was useful, but after that I wanted more depth and found many of the things he said contradicted one another. I found the sections on angels and muses especially didactic and opaque. He never answers the question of why we create resistance for ourselves. Is it because we are afraid of success? That seems a little simple to me, but he doesn't even offer that as an answer. Pressfield shows us a landscape and points out the mountains and lakes in great detail, but he doesn't give us any understanding of the glaciers and tectonic forces that shaped these landmarks, leaving us ultimately unsatisfied. Perhaps a good complement to this book would be Flow.
Like a cup of coffee - works but doesn't last.......2007-09-14
Nothing completely mindblowing or enlightening really, but definitely energizing and motivating for anyone in a lull, particularly creative folk. It's like a cup of coffee or popping a speed pill - gets you pumped for sure, but of short-lived effect.
Decent book.......2007-08-16
This was an enjoyable book to read. Seems the better self-help books have a simple premise: you have to actually put in the effort and do the work. Just being a couch potato reading self-help books doesn't really work. Its like reading Men's Health and expecting to get in shape without actually going to the gym. I didn't find the book to offer life-changing advice, but it was still a good read. Remember...it takes effort, not just the want of effort.
Book Description
There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right here, right now, it’s time to dry your tears, put down that pint of ice cream, log out of his e-mail, and open this book to Chapter One–and start turning your breakup into a breakover.
From Greg Behrendt, the co-author of the smash two-million copy bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You, comes It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken--the ultimate survival guide to getting over Mr. Wrong and reclaiming your inner Superfox. From how to put yourself through “he-tox,” to how to throw yourself a kick-ass pity party, Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game. You will learn:
• Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do
• How to keep your friends and not lose your job
• How to avoid breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex
• Reframing reality—seeing the relationship for what it was
• How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, brighter future that awaits
Complete with an essential workbook to help you put the crazy down on paper and not take it out into the world, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken is a must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you.
Customer Reviews:
Destined to be one of your "breakup buddies".......2007-10-04
Reading this book after a breakup is a little like Bridget Jones taking relationship advice from the Smug Marrieds after her breakup with Daniel. But still, I didn't think the authors' writing was pedantic in any way.
The basic message of the book was, "get over him already." Filled with Q and As and basic exercises to get things out of your system, the book also offers strategies for coping effectively with getting over your breakup. Most importantly: do not call. Having recently gone through a breakup myself, I'd add another commandment to the list: don't cry over every little thing that reminds you of your ex (case in point: my ex's last name was Smith, and for three months after the relationship ended, every time I ran into someone with that last name, I burst into tears).
The book is funny and witty, and highly enjoyable, even if the authors aren't the most highly qualified to write about the subject (almost everybody could write a book about how someone or multiple people broke their heart). Many of the things the author says are completely true and blatantly obvious, but the person getting over the breakup doesn't always realize it. The book also made me realize that I'm not as heartbroken as I thought I was.
Great guide for those ready to move on after a breakup.......2007-09-28
I am a psychologist working at a college counseling center, and I have recommended this book to several of my clients who have experienced a relationship breakup. However, because the tone of this book is very lighthearted, almost irreverent, I've been selective in my recommendations. The authors--a husband and wife team who talk freely about their own past breakups--infuse plenty of humor into their work. There can be a thin line between being funny and empowering versus funny and belittling, and I do believe the authors fall well on the side of the former, but still, I'd recommend this book mainly for those who are READY to move on after a breakup but just are not sure how to do so.
The book has two main parts: "The Breakup," which centers around coming to terms with the reality that the relationship is truly over, and "The Breakover," which focuses on coping with this new reality. The chapters contain a wealth of helpful information, from personal stories by the authors to simple exercises and questionnaires to occasional recipes (I plan to try the "Crack Brownies" soon!). The second part of the book focuses on "Breakup Commandments" and contains a special chapter for men called "Dude, Get Off Her Long." On the whole, however, this book is mainly geared towards empowering women who have been dumped, with the authors frequently using endearments designed to give a much-needed self-esteem boost (including calling the reader "Superfox," "Pretty Lady," and "Hot Stuff").
Overall, the main point of this book is that the breakups are like a serious illness which is undeniably painful yet completely curable. With empathy, wisdom, and wit, the authors provide plenty of hope that you can pass through the destruction and devastation left by your broken relationship and embrace the wonderful new life waiting for you.
Funny but sad for brokenup couples.......2007-09-20
I'm not picky reading books. sometimes i read business books, and sometimes i read romance or salty novels.
I used to read serious psychological books and cooking recipe books..and so on.
I love books because through reading books i could know what i never got an experience and never done before.
The reason i say that i'm not picky reading books something is that i've read kind of simple, humorous and might be low quality but useful book for our life.
The book is just 'It's called a BREAKUP Because it's BROKEN'
Actually the author wrote this book as a kind of solution for just broken couple especially for girls. how to get over it and how to forget my ex. and what should we do after breaking up the relationship. As you know we spend so hard time after breaking up. The author as a counselor is trying to get people who just broke up encourage. But the side effect of this book is just that the breaking up relationship looks like easy to handle and solve, even subtle and simple one. Anytime we could find another partner as a girlfriend and boyfriend. just forget your ex even if you are so difficult to being alone and trying to find new one. Because of author's these statements make this book so funny and humorous.
Isn't it too much sad ? Through talking other people's sadness we could enjoy reading.
But i should recommend this book for just breaking up couples. It could help them.
Your replacement best friend.......2007-09-15
Greg and Amiira do a great job of providing sound advice and personal experience while topping it all off with great humor. Sure, not everyone is going to find the advice in this book overly astounding. For example, I think most girls know that it is probably not a good idea to keep calling your ex or secretly stalking his old hangouts. However, Greg and Amiira give the little extra nudge you need in order to see the light at the end of the tunnel and not pick up the phone instead of just knowing that you shouldn't. Plus the little extra bonus in this book is reading about all the crazy things people have done after a break-up. Reading their craziness pushes you to be even more sane and on your way to becoming a SuperFox!!
The only downside to this book for me was that I was the one that broke up with my boyfriend. Ninety percent of the time the book takes the perspective of the person dumped. It still was helpful, but just because you ended a relationship doesn't mean it hurts any less. I would have liked to see both perspectives more.
Not very helpful.......2007-09-15
After mutually agreeing to break up after 4 1/2 years I was still very sad and looking for something to help. This book wasn't it.
Whilst I like the fact that they try to get you to think positively about yourself, the "superfox" term is outdated annoying and distracting.
It covers questions or feelings you may have, but the "you thought your break up was bad" sections aren't very positive. I found myself not wanting to read them because I want encouragement, not stories of other peoples nightmares that could happen to anyone.
I have found other books helpful and I will keep them or give them to friends in need, this book will be donated to my local library. Hopefully someone else (maybe younger than mid-thirties) will find it helpful or insightful. I did not.
Book Description
Following the tremendous success of Cross Bones, Kathy Reichs explores another high-profile topic in Break No Bones -- a case that lands forensic anthropologist Temperance Brennan in the middle of a gruesome international scheme.
Summoned to South Carolina to fill in for a negligent colleague, Tempe is stuck teaching a lackluster archaeology field school in the ruins of a Native American burial ground on the Charleston shore. But when Tempe stumbles upon a fresh skeleton among the ancient bones, her old friend Emma Rousseau, the local coroner, persuades her to stay on and help with the investigation. When Emma reveals a disturbing secret, it becomes more important than ever for Tempe to help her friend close the case.
The body count begins to climb. An unidentified man is found hanging from a tree deep in the woods. Another corpse shows up in a barrel. There are mysterious nicks on bones in several bodies, and signs of strangulation. Tempe follows the trail to a free street clinic with a belligerent staff, a suspicious doctor, and a donor who is a charismatic televangelist. Clues abound in the most unlikely places as Tempe uses her unique knowledge and skills to build her case, even as the local sheriff remains dubious and her own life is threatened.
Tempe's love life is also complicated. Ryan, her current flame, has come down to visit her from Montreal, and Pete, her former husband, is investigating the disappearance of a local woman -- and he and Tempe are staying in the same borrowed beach house. Ryan and Pete compete for her attentions, and Tempe finds herself more distracted by her feelings for both men than she expected.
Break No Bones is a smart, taut thriller featuring the kind of high-stakes crime that makes the headlines every week. Reichs, the inspiration for the hit FOX TV show Bones, is writing at the top of her form, and Tempe has never been more compelling.
Customer Reviews:
A bone to pick.......2007-10-03
While I generally enjoy the Tempe books - and this is overall no exception - this is not my favorite of the series. Tempe is again undecided and scattered through half the book - does she love Pete or does she love Ryan? Is the guilty party Marshall or Daniels or someone else altogether? She's constantly "all in a froth" and "agitated," seemingly forgetful of the fact that she is not a member of the police force and should therefore, perhaps, simply give them the information she is aware of and then stay out of their way. Then again, that would make for a pretty dull book :-) However, I just don't care for the way Tempe is presented in this book - she is entirely too excitable overall and that state of mind seemingly has been transferred onto Andy Ryan as well.
However, the irrepressible Pete is as entertaining as ever and the sub-plot about Emma and her battle with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma is just heart-rending. The actual mystery - what happened to the people who had been killed and the mysterious fracture of only their 6th cervical vertebrae - is great also and keeps you guessing almost to the very end. Overall, I can recommend this to fans of the Reichs' series, as well as fans of the genre of forensic thrillers, as that aspect of the book is fabulous.
Break No Bones.......2007-10-01
Although not my favorite book by this author, it was still very good. In general, I really enjoy this author and would highly recommend any of her books.
Good but flawed........2007-09-30
This entry in the Brennan series is much better than the disasterous Cross Bones. The plot is good and kept me guessing. BUT... as Kirkman correctly pointed out in a previous review coroners do not do autopsies. This isn't a trivial error. Also, one of the bodies in the book has been hung. But the head has falled off. OK - the human head isn't attached to the rest of the body by bone, but only by muscles and ligaments. But the rest of the body is still hanging from the noose. What's keeping it there??? In reality the rest of the body would have fallen when the head fell off. This is a stupid error for Reichs to make.
I'll give it 3 1/2 stars.......2007-09-27
This episode has Tempe Brennan in South Carolina filling in as a teacher at an archeology field school. But she and her students find a recent burial among the Native Indian burials. She's asked to stay in Charleston because the coroner there (who's also Tempe's friend) is ill. Soon another body is found hanging in the forest, and then another washes up in a barrel. Of course, Tempe can't keep her nose out of it and gets involved finding out why these people died, who did it and why. And during this week, she's sharing a friend's home with her estranged husband and her boyfriend. Yeah, right...like that would happen...this IS fiction.
This is a good book for a plane ride or rainy day. And, of course, there's plenty of fodder for the next book.
Coroners do not perform autopsies .......2007-09-27
The entire premise of this book is incorrect. Charleston County has both a coroner and medical examiner system (forensic pathology). The office of the medical examiner would have been involved from the beginning, since the two offices work closely together. To think that an out-of-state anthropologist would be given free rein to evaluate the remains, including having the bones stripped without an autopsy first, is preposterous. She was not a physician, let alone licensed, credentialed and privileged to practice forensic pathology in SC. She may have been invited to consult because of her forensic bone expertise but she would never have been permitted to do what was chronicled.
I trained at MUSC and practiced in Charleston. And I could not believe what I was reading. Ms. Reichs had done her Charleston research well in terms of locations, restaurants and attractions (although two of the plants she listed I had never heard of and I lived there 20 years), but not about the coroner/medical examiner system, which was the crux of the story. I struggled with whether or not to finish the book because I was so incredulous. But I did.
I had read several of her other books and liked them, so I picked this one up at the airport. I thought she had some really great similes and metaphors, but by and large I found her writing self-conscious and superficial. I agree with the reviewers about the lack of character development and the situation with the dueling suitors was a bit far fetched. There was a lot of filler, such as (paraphrased), "I opened my Dell, booted it up, watched the blue screen and got online." I do not know why she had to refer to Boyd as "the chow" over and over. The "twirly eyebrows" got old, too. There were factual errors; veins don't pulse, arteries do. Writing "scrips" instead of "scripts," as an abbreviation for prescriptions. I expected someone in the medical field to know better. I, too, thought the plot was disorganized and strained credulity.
Perhaps I am being too martinetish about the details; probably because I was so off-put by the incorrect framework.
That having been said, I thought she shone when discussing technical aspects and I enjoyed those parts. I also learned that killing people to sell their bodies is called "Burking, "after a Scotsman, William Burke, in the 1820s.
I am giving it a one because of the factual inaccuracy; were it not for that I would have given it a two--it is just not as well written as her others.
Book Description
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
From the Paperback edition.
Customer Reviews:
Hekpful but lacking.......2007-09-13
There are a wide variety of obsessive, addictive, compulsive situations, and the author focuses exclusively on people breaking up from a relationship. If that is where you are coming from (and most people will be), the book is excellent because it covers the internal thinking that goes on in your head and how you can transform that into something more realistic and objective. I really liked that and found it beneficial.
My concern is that some of the most dysfunctional addictive situations are NOT based on actual relationships, and the author should at least touch on these. For instance, how about a high school student who has an obsession with one of their teachers? The book is pretty lengthy, so to intentionally exclude such cases just seems wrong to me.
I read an earlier copy of this book, but I can see that only the cover has changed for 2003, not the contents. Maybe a second edition could address my concerns.
Great Insights - .......2007-07-18
The insights represented in the book have been key to helping me take purposeful steps to begin to realize God's best for me.
Addiction will almost always lead to destructive behaviour. The insight here helped me understand how, through my addiction I had placed a relationship before God - and with the end of the relationship a couple of years ago, I took a path that would surely have led to my destruction.
It was an incredibly painful eye opener - I chose to sin after a break-up, yet my break-up was not with God - so why did I betray God? Howard Halpern's book will encourage you to find that source of insecurity and need for validation and help you on a road to realizing the gem that lies inside every one of us.
I would recommend picking this book up, going through the table of contents and selecting three key topics that are most relevant to you right now and dig in. You will be blessed for taking the chance.
This book finally gave me the strength and insight to move forward!.......2007-07-15
As with many reviewers above, I've read tons of relationship books and self-help books in the past but haven't quite come across anything that hit me so profoundly. I was involved with this emotionally abusive man for over a year who was clearly bad for me. The problem was that I was also addicted to him and although I knew my intuition was telling me to end it for many months, I just couldn't get myself to do it. We used to go through phases of break-ups and make-ups, stress, tears, countless sleepless nights and eventually people's patience (family & friends) started to grow thin as they realized it was no use trying to convince me to get out. It was like, I was this lonely little bird, emotionally battered and exhausted but couldn't fly out of the cage in a fear of the unknown and the terrifying separation anxiety. Each time this happened, I found myself holding onto him even tighter. One day, while mindlessly searching for some resources to help me get out of the misery, I came across Dr. Halpern's book. I was skeptical in the beginning but the more I read the reviews, the more I wanted to give it a read. Once I started the book, honestly, I found myself relating to every single aspect of this addictive behavior that was deeply rooted in my psyche. It was like an autopsy of the whole situation, if you like. So I finally got a courage to end the relationship 2 weeks ago. At this stage, I'm going through all the raw emotions like depression, sadness, loss, insomnia etc but the difference now is that I know it will only last for a limited period of time and I know I have a strength and insight to move forward. I strongly believe in myself and the brighter future ahead of me. I recommend this book to anyone who's going through similar experiences as I have (be it a toxic relationship or a marriage) and sincerely hope you reclaim yourself and have a happy life that you truly deserve. I know I will!
An Addiction is an Addiction.......2007-07-15
This book is as relevant today as when it was first published,maybe more so as we see more relationships fail every day. For anyone involved in a 12 Step recovery group, the author makes a clear and identifiable comparison between other addictions and addiction to a person. And unlike other so called self help books, "How to Break Your Addiction to a Person" shares practical steps to a solution. If you ever wondered "what went wrong", this is a most rewarding read.
better than I expected.......2007-07-03
The brightly coloured cover and the snappy title had me expecting something less substantial from this book and I was pleasantly surprised! It is a meaty read with clear explanations, constuctive advice and exercises to help the reader out of this emotional trap. Well worth the cash and the time.
Average customer rating:
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- When Am I Going to be happy?
- Easy to read, to the point
- Amazing little book
- Buy This Book!
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When Am I Going to Be Happy?: How to Break the Emotional Bad Habits That Make You Miserable
Penelope Russianoff
Manufacturer: Bantam
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback
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| Self-Help
| Health, Mind & Body
| Subjects
| Books
Happiness
| Self-Help
| Health, Mind & Body
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ASIN: 0553282158
Release Date: 1997-01-01 |
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Learn to change the emotional bad habits that make you unhappy.
- Recognize Your Emotional Bad Habits (and start to break them)
- Throw Off Your Security Blanket (and accept that you can have happiness)
- Talk Tenderly To Yourself (and increase self-esteem)
- Use The "To You-Ness To Me-Ness" Technique (and respond to negative comments with firm conviction, not rage)
- Get Rid Of The Imposter Phenomenon (and stop devaluing yourself)
- Accept Praise (and cease being your own worst critic)
- Stop Measuring Your Self
Customer Reviews:
sounded good.......2007-07-28
It just wasn't. the book is for single people who like to party and sleep around... I'm not any of these things. It sounded like a mature book but turned out to be a bunch of stuff I already know about life.
When Am I Going to be happy?.......2006-01-31
Very helpful book. Think everyone should take a look that needs direction in ur life.
Easy to read, to the point.......2005-09-10
This book is very easy to read and gets right to the point. The author is very insightful and really helps you to recognize your emotional bad habits and gives practical, almost simple (in a good way), suggestions to overcome them. It's easy to flip back to the reviews at the end of the sections for the main points to remember. I ordered a 2nd book for a close friend who is now reading it.
Amazing little book.......2004-06-20
This is without doubt one of the best self help books I've ever read, I have been reading self help books for three years now trying to break free from the oughts and shoulds of life.
Its helping me find the authentic me and giving me a spine of self confidence to live life as I believe I'm meant to.
I thoroughly reccommend this book.
Buy This Book!.......2003-09-28
This book has helped motivate me to overcome my shyness and depression. Russianoff is a knowledgable yet understanding author...it's like talking to your ideal best friend! The book relates to so many areas of my life. Almost every chapter has dealt with something close to my heart. I plan to read it over and over again so that I can fully absorb Russianoff's lessons and incorporate them into my life.
This is the greatest self-help book I've read!
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In this fascinating book,
Gary Renard and his Ascended Master Teachers, Arten and Pursah, teach you how to integrate advanced spiritual principles into your everyday life. Doing so leads beyond theory to an experience of the Divine and the undoing of the ego. Your progress will be accelerated to such a degree that, with continued practice, you can’t help but stop the need to reincarnate . . . once and for all.
Like Gary’s first book, The Disappearance of the Universe, this work elaborates on the teachings of two spiritual classics, The Gospel of Thomas and A Course in Miracles. By focusing on a unique brand of quantum forgiveness, rather than the old-fashioned kind, and taking the understanding of the importance of thought up to a whole new level, your goal will become nothing less than to break the cycle of birth and death.
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Advanced Forgiveness.......2007-10-11
This second book by Gary Renard uses simple and clear language to discuss the concepts in a Course in Miracles. Gary's personal stories are (as in Disappearance of the Universe) both entertaining and fascinating. This book, like the first, focuses on practicing advanced forgiveness and understanding who we really are. The meditations offered in the book are very helpful, especially the one relating the original form of prayer (silent). This is another beautiful book by Gary Renard.
It's Up To You,.. Not A Book.......2007-10-08
A very important fact that the author neglected to mention is that reincarnation is UP TO YOU. You decide if you want to come back. Many people decide not to. There is NO CYCLE, I know first hand. I actually go to a real medium, the deceased teacher that comes through confirms that, along with numerous books written by well known authors like George Anderson, Jane Roberts (Seth Material)etc. Pick up "The Eternal Validity of the Soul" by Seth, if you want real answers.
I am recommending this book to everyone I know.......2007-10-03
This book picks up where The Disappearance of The Universe leaves off, and the story continues... And it is surely the most incredible, powerful, and life changing story I have ever read. Mr. Renard takes us along on his continuing journey with his two ascended masters who teach us accelerated forgiveness techniques. It is through reading this second book that I feel even more awakened to the truth of what this world is, what I am, and how to get Home. Through Mr. Renard's teachings I am not only awakening, I have at long last found my true calling and am now on an entirely new path that I enjoy and love. This is really something after the traumatic past from which I have emerged. If I can heal from sexual assault and years of self-destructive behaviors, then so can others. Thank you Mr. Renard for writing a book that gives some tools that have the power to truly change lives. I am recommending this book to everyone I know.
Your Immortal Realty.......2007-09-26
Very good book. This is a subject, that I believe very strongly in. Read this book with an open mind, and you will enjoy it. I wish everyone would open their minds, and consider what Gary has to say.
disappointed.......2007-09-21
Felt duped.
Gary has given me fodder to practice forgiveness after lying in his DU book.
Is he adding to the universal hypnotism of "this world"?
Is he discrediting the REAL channeling like A Course in Miracles?
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Practical solutions to a problem that may affect 80% of school children.
Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, bestselling parenting educator Barbara Coloroso offers a practical and compassionate book destined to become a groundbreaking guide to this escalating problem.
Coloroso helps readers recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm; the bullied who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the bystander––peers, siblings, or adults who don't act to defuse the situation. Readers learn:
o What bullying is and what it isn't; the three kinds of bullying; and the differences and similarities between boy and girl bullies
o How to read the subtle clues that a child is being bullied
o Seven steps to take if your child is a bully
o Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to a bully
o Why zero tolerance policies can equal zero thinking
o Why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies.
o o Bullying is a widespread problem. In a 2001 study by the Kaiser Foundation in conjunction with Nickelodeon TV network and Children Now, 86% of children ages 12–15 interviewed said they get teased or bullied at school––making bullying more prevalent than smoking, alcohol, drugs, or sex among the same age group. Barbara Coloroso is an award wining author. Parenting Through Crisis and Kids Are Worth It! each won a Parent's Guide Award 2001 from Parent's Guide to Children's Media.
Customer Reviews:
Outstanding.......2007-08-01
This book is a fantastic resource for anyone who works with children. The author gives great insight into bullying and it is an area where parents and teachers really need to take action.
Bullies Times Three.......2006-11-10
This is a wonderfully written book. It presents parents, teachers and proffessionals with all three sides of the triangle created by the ever growing epidemic of "bullying". It calls for social change in it's remedy to this deadly disruption of the lives of so many. The format is easy to read and insightful. It is well worth the time it takes to read and then some. Bravo Barbara Coloroso, the information in this book is informative and inspiring.
The BEST book on bullying.......2006-10-01
This is a must have book for anyone that deals with kids. Our schools have a problem with bullying that the district is presently denying. I hope to start a support group soon - and this will be the one book I highly recommend reading.
I've already purchased multiple copies and have given them to staff at my child's school.
Excellent Incite.......2006-07-31
Excellent Book on the actual personalities of Bullies, their victims and the people who don't step in to help the victim.
The Bully, the bullied and the Bystander.......2006-03-23
It is a book that should be owned definitely by every parent, and also by everyone. It helps with understanding of how and why we came here, why we are who we are, and how to make it better for our kids and actually for every one around us. It describes how a family should treat our kids with respect and freedom. It is one book which I think is a must read. It gives insight into how we can change despite of bad experiences while we grew up. I would recommend it to be bought before buying a crib when you expect a baby! It is like a bible for a christan, Geeta for an Indian, Koran for a Muslim. It tells the three kinds of families, two dysfucntional and how they make long lasting deficiencies in kid's psyche. Then it explains how a backbone family gives freedom and respect to a child and makes him independent and loving. It takes a while to read as it has painful stories of kids who killed themselves because of bullying. This book should be talked about in parent teacher's organizations, at churches, temples , Sunday schools and so on. It is one book that will make a difference in our society. It describes the importance of difference between teasing and taunting and how taunting can lead to suicides, hurts not only the bullied but also instills fear in the bystanders. It weaves the relation of parental upbringing into making a kid a passive bystander as opposed to helper for the bullied. It tells signs to be seen in your child to detect if he is bullied, questions to be asked. It tells the life destroying long lasting effects on his own life if a bully is not stopped! It gives non humiliating strategies how to stop a bully and how to empower a bullied and the critical role of bystander and how to make him help the bullied. A fantastically written book. A life changing book!
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Alone
Thirteen-year-old Brian Robeson is on his way to visit his father when the single engine plane in which he is flying crashes. Suddenly, Brian finds himself alone in the Canadian wilderness with nothing but his clothing, a tattered windbreaker, and the hatchet his mother has given him as a present -- and the dreadful secret that has been tearing him apart ever since his parents' divorce. But now Brian has no time for anger, self-pity, or despair -- it will take all his know-how and determination, and more courage than he knew he possessed, to survive.
Customer Reviews:
KCS Hatchet.......2007-10-06
"The nick wasn't large, but the hatchet was important to him, was his only tool, and he should not have thrown it. He should have kept it in his hand, and make a tool of some kind to help push an animal away. Make a staff, he thought, or a lance, and save the hachet."
Brian is a 13 year old boy who's parents got devorced. He was to stay through the school year with his mom and the summer with his dad, on his flight to visit his dad in a small plane, the pilot had a heart attack, jurked his leg and set a new route for the plane to nowhere. Brian, being the only one on the plane besides the pilot could not fly, and the plane crashed leaving the pilot dead and Brian stranded with only a hatchet for a tool. Brian must learn to survive in the wilderness, alone.
This realistic fictional book teaches you to never give up. If Brian had given up on getting food, building a shelter, or hope that some one will find him, he would have died. I really liked Hatchet and you if you read it, you will love it too. This book is for every person, adult or child, because of the authors way to pull you into the book.
Engaging.......2007-09-11
I read this book in trying to find one that might interest my son. It was just what I needed. My son loves hunting and fishing. He enjoys reading when the right material comes along. Hatched grabbed his attention and we have had Gary Paulsen books in our home ever since. It is a book about living in the wilderness and all that that entails. There is no offensive language or explicit language which has ruined many a good book. I recommend this to those who love the outdoors.
Great for youngsters.......2007-09-07
My 15 year-old goddaughter suggested that I read Hatchet. Clearly it is written for a young audience. I thought it was very, very good, adventurous, and a page turner. It's a story of success under very adverse circulstances. I've since given Hatchet as gifts to youngsters.
Teachers love Hatchet!.......2007-09-02
Brian Robeson, a thirteen-year old boy, is traveling to visit his father who was recently divorced from Brian's mother. The small plane he travels in crashes, killing the pilot and leaving Brian as the only survivor in the Canadian wilderness. The book documents his struggle for survival and dealing with his emotions.
Hatchet remains one of my favorite children's books-one that I felt compelled to read every spare minute until finished. Teachers continually laud this book not only for it's enjoyable reading, but for its many themes-divorce, survival, courage, resourcefulness, determination, confidence, self-esteem. It's also a great learning tool to teach different reading comprehension strategies.
A Must-Read Book.......2007-06-27
And that about says it. Gripping narrative, a quick read, a book about discovery and growth into self-reliance. The Brothers Karamazov it ain't, but this is a book every child and every adult should read.
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Break Out & Express Your Fire. Discover and master the fiery temperament shared by great leaders, entrepreneurs, artists and AD/HD-ers. Are you: - Impulsive? - Risk-taking? - Distractible? - Sensation-seeking? - Insightful or Intuitive? Do you: - Crave risk and excitement? - Have an addictive personality? - Rebel against authority? - Think differently? Then you are a DaVinci. Discover the secret genius that drives risk-takers, rebels, entrepreneurs, artists and ad/hd-ers to achieve greatness. Learn how to express this fire and harness it productively.
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ADHD and all that Jazz.......2007-09-01
Reflections on a Journey: The Collective Works of a Poet Storyteller
That statement above is the title I gave the second chapter of my first book Reflections on a Journey, the collective works of a poet storyteller. It features those thoughts I put to writing regarding my struggles with ADHD, the medical condition I've lived with since I was a kid. The more I read of The Da Vinci Method the more I was reminded of the poetry that became not just that one chapter of my book but the embodiment of the book as a whole. Because I didn't just focus, or even hyperfocus, on the ADHD issue per se but on evey aspect of my life's journey, of which ADHD has played a major part.
What can I say about the Da Vinci Method? I am blown away by everything Garret LoPorto has written from cover to cover, more to the point amazed! Because I feel like he's describing me to a T in regards to describing the Da Vinci type personality, their issues, their struggles, circumstances and conditions they're surrounded by and are drawn to. And more than that what they are capable of, and what I am capable of if I truly apply to myself the advice he's given in this book.
Before ADHD felt every bit like the disease, defect, curse and dysfunction I'd often believed it was since my diagnosis of it over 7 years ago. Now I'm convinced more than ever that that is not the case with the seeds that his book has sown in my heart and my mind. Now I'm believing and knowing for certain that the curse is not a curse at all, but the blessing in disguise it has been all along.
Initially, I had stumbled across this book about 2 - 3 weeks ago when searching online for something else that was ADHD related. But after reading the info on the book's webpage and taking the tests I was intrigued and compelled to purchase it afterward. I didn't want to wait for the book to arrive I went ahead and downloaded and started reading the e-book version of it right away. I was half way through it when the book itself arrived in the mail not even a week ago.
I don't believe finding The Da Vinci Method was a mistake. Moreso, I believe I was meant to find it so I too could do what it's title conveys - "to break out and express my fire".
I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone who has faced the struggles and pain that I and many ADHDers have and felt like giving up time and again due to discouragement, frustration and fear. I have a renewed vigor now and a greater faith in myself I've never quite had before. And if you don't believe me...well then you'll just have to check out my book and see for yourself. That's not just a shameless plug. My own book was 7 years in the making, due not just to the body of material it contains, but mostly to the procrastination and self doubt that got in the way of it's eventual publication. Now I can say with pride I've actually followed through and made that achievement. Though it is a compilation of all my poetry, it is my life story. And one that has often been plagued by many ADHD related challenges and disappointments, great and small. It is my heart and soul poured out on paper.
I'll not be seeing myself so much anymore as the ADHD case, but as someone who's a Da Vinci, thanks in large part to this book's helping me to see myself in a much greater light, and knowing who I am more fully.
So, if you're looking to set your soul free to realize your potential and effect change in this world for the better, then get this book, you'll be glad you did.
I know I am.
Michael Rybak
09/01/2007
If I could give this book ten stars I would.......2007-07-05
I felt like an island my whole life. I never realized how controlled my behavior was until I read this book. In the first chapter alone, I shed years worth of tears. This author understands. There is truth to his words. If you have ADD, you have a strong sixth sense. You'll get it when you read it. You'll want to throw away your drugs and celebrate the unique person that you are. If you have just been diagnosed with ADD, this is the first book you should read. If you are considering drugs to make you "normal" read this book first. It is revolutionary in scope, much more so than The Secret in my opinon. It should be pasted on billboards and talked about on Oprah until we have classes in school that cater to our type rather than drugging us into submission.
I had to come back and update my review. I recently finished reading A book called, The Career Guide for Creative and Unconventional People by Carol Eikleberry. It was written in 1973 and pretty much discusses The Artistic personality discussed in the Davinci Method. In it, Dr. Eikleberry also states that a surpressed Artist becomes neurotic.
Eye-opening and inspiring work!.......2007-06-26
Me finding this book is about serendipity. I have recently been diagnosed as bipolar II (which I suspected I was) and I found very interesting and challenging information in this book that I could apply to my condition. It made me discover Carl Jung, Otto Rank and Julia Cameron, all authors that believe in the healing power or creativity. It's unabashedly optimistic and proud but also cautionary. I also found it inspiring and fresh. It you are looking for an alternative view on bipolar behaviour which could complement medical and educational resources that are already out there, this book will give you food for thought.
Pleasure to read.......2007-04-03
Thoroughly enjoyed reading The Da Vinci Method, interesting and informative, with some thought provoking ideas.
Highly recommend for anyone to read!
No Wonder !.......2007-02-22
I did not suspect I was ADHD until about eight years ago. Now at age 60, this book really hits home. Very helpful. After I read it I said to myself "No Wonder. It all makes sence now". I recommend this to anyone suspecting they are ADD or ADHD rather than considering medications. I fear most medications, they have a lot of negatives and usually don't treat the problem.
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