Book Description
Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But wherever the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; each person's response to loss will be different. Now, in this compassionate, comprehensive guide, Therese A. Rando, Ph.D., bereavement specialist and author of Loss And Anticipatory Grief, leads you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself.
Whether the death was sudden of expected, from accident, illness, suicide, homicide, or natural causes, Dr. Rando will help you learn to:
Understand and resolve your grief.
Talk to children about death.
Resolve unfinished business.
Take care of yourself.
Accept the help and support of others.
Get through holidays and other difficult times of the year.
Plan funerals and personal bereavement rituals.
How To Go On Living With Someone You Love Dies also includes a comprehensive resource listing and a chapter on finding professional help and support groups.
There is no way around the pain of loss, but there is a way through it. Dr. Rando offers the solace, comfort, and guidance to help you accept your loss and move into your new life without forgetting your treasured past.
Customer Reviews:
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies.......2007-05-14
My favorite choice of books on dealing with the death of a loved one. Educates you on things to expect from grief, suggestions to make it through, and then ways to reinvest in life without your loved one.
Understand your grief........2006-11-10
After learning of this book through the Boulder,CO hospice organization, I have recommended it to three close friends. They all gave it in turn to other family members. Explanations of the grief process reassure the reader that they need not worry if they do not 'grieve' in the same way
others do. Much wisdom to be found here.
How to go on living when someone you love dies.......2006-03-11
This is very easy to read and very practical. The author has great insight into grief and gives much knowledge for men and women going through grief. The book not only deals with all phases of grief, but also looks at secondary losses as well.
I would highly recommed this book to anyone going through grief no matter how fresh the loss or the type of loss incurred.
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies.......2005-09-22
I found the book to be very helpful to me in coping with the sudden loss of my Father. It helped me to confirm that I was not losing my mind.
How to go on Living when someone dies.......2005-09-15
Fresh in my grief, I found this a hard book to read. It has a lot of text book information and probably is very helpful later in grief. But, it reads like a text book and I found it hard to process when my grief was so fresh.
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- What Happens when Doctors Diagnose is WRONG
- an excellent book...
- When Someone You Love Has a Mental Illness
- Wonderful Book
- Doesn't apply to everybody...
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When Someone You Love Has a Mental Illness
Rebecca Woolis
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Customer Reviews:
What Happens when Doctors Diagnose is WRONG.......2007-09-14
The book is good. After seeing 2 other specialist and as time has gone by, we have been fortunate to realize that initial diagnosis was wrong.
Please NEVER stay with one single opinion in cases like this.
I felt like I died for a month after hearing the first diagnose. It was wrong.I will neither get those days back nor erase the pain and stress it caused at the time. It is over and that is a ggod thing. Get a second, third, forth opinion. God Bless.
an excellent book..........2007-01-10
This is probably the best book available for the family members of someone with a mental illness. It includes comprehensive information and practical suggestions for coping with a severe mental illness in a loved one. Highly recommended!
When Someone You Love Has a Mental Illness.......2007-01-10
This is a handbook for families, friends, and caregivers of those with mental illness. It provides clear-cut guidelines, with chapter summaries laid out in useful, easy-to-read charts that include specific suggestions. Very practical, very informative. Covers about any topic related to mental illness you can think of. This book should be required reading for anyone dealing with a loved one with mental illness.
Wonderful Book.......2005-12-31
This book is wonderful. If you are dealing with a family member who has a mental illness (particularly severe schizophrenia), you will find answers and helpful advice throughout this book. The first few chapters provide insight into the illness and it's especially readable because Woolis doesn't get overly medical. She provides enough information for you to understand about the illness and why your relative may have it. The book is chock-full of useful advice, and we have tried many of her suggestions (with success) already. She walks you through ways to talk to your family member during `episodes,` how to get them to perform basic tasks, how to ask them to take meds, and so on. There is advice for almost every situation. And, the best part is that Woolis treats the illness with respect, and encourages us to do the same throughout the entire book. I really felt that her advice is from the heart, and meant to help us. There is a section on how we need to focus on ourselves too, and that was particularly helpful. The book is very user-friendly, and can be read cover to cover or in sections. Many of the sections answer the questions most family members have, and offer concrete and realistic ways in which to handle the bizarre requests and behaviors that accompany mental illness. Everyone in our family has a copy that gets a lot of use. Highly recommended.
Doesn't apply to everybody..........2005-09-16
This book is excellent for people with relatives or friends who have severe mental illnesses, requiring occasional (or frequent) hospitalization and so on. It is a good resource in that it gives advice and tips for coping with various situations that absoultely will come up when you have a relationship with a mentally ill person. It is practical, there is no hypothesizing about what causes what, no blaming the family, very little "psychobabble." It's almost a how-to manual. It offers some insight into what the mentally ill person experiences, which is helpful to the family who may be frustrated and overwhelmed and very tired of trying to understand.
But it does not offer much for spouses in a relationship with a person with mental illness. Nor does it extend easily to the family and friends of somebody who has a mental illness or brain disorder who is as functional as the "average" person most of the time, but has frequent, incapacitating mood and perceptual problems.
If your loved one has a mental illness which is not so severe as to require hospitalization freqently, or a large degree of psychiatric intervention, this book will provide you with soem understanding, but not as much practical help as it will for people facing more severe problems.
Book Description
Every year millions of Americans are diagnosed with cancer, stroke, HIV/AIDS, multiple sclerosis, ALS, and other life-threatening or life-altering diseases. When faced with a devastating diagnosis people must quickly understand the diagnosis, prognosis, and choose from several treatment options—while still in shock. AfterShock identifies the processes required to respond to a serious diagnosis, regardless of the specific disease.
Social psychologist Gruman offers practical advice in a 10-stage approach to making clear-headed, informed decisions about who to tell and when; how to get a second opinion or find the right doctor and hospital; where to find reliable online information and telephone help-lines about a particular diagnosis and treatment; how to navigate the health care maze; where to turn for support and comfort.
Dr. Gruman not only draws on her expertise in consumer health information and the advice of doctors and nurses, she shares the personal stories of people who have dealt with traumatic diagnoses, including her own experience of having had three different kinds of cancer and a dangerous heart condition. AfterShock is inspiring and empowering, and is an essential companion book to the disease-specific titles that most people with a devastating diagnosis purchase.
Customer Reviews:
Watch the Charlie Rose interview & then buy this book.......2007-07-13
Jessie Gruman, Ph.D., has written an essential reference for just about everyone. She offers a well-informed cushion and roadmap to support what most of us will face quite unprepared--the shock of learning that you or someone you love has a bad diagnosis. Gruman has been there--she's had 4 serious illnesses, including 3 different cancers. She has brought together her own personal experience and her extensive behavioral science and health policy professional knowledge in a very accessible reference. She was interviewed on the Charlie Rose Show on 7/11/07. (You can get the DVD through Amazon) Notice how engaged Charlie Rose becomes from the get-go in his interview with her, due to his own health issues and what she has to say. Don't wait until you get the bad news, and you are in shock. Watch this interview and then buy this book now.
An essential book.......2007-02-17
This fabulous book should be in everyone's medicine chest because like bandages and aspirin, sooner or later, you're going to need it. Gruman skillfully and sensitively guides the reader through the full spectrum of concerns and activities that characterize the first several weeks after receiving a devastating medical diagnosis. Some of the chapters are devoted to topics you would expect in such a book: how to get a second opinion, how to manage the flood of emotions that spill over you. But others are entirely unexpected and therefore, especially welcome: how to deal with your insurance company, how to inform family members and co-workers, how to negotiate benefit managers, etc.
And just in case the above suggests that this is a dry and technical book, it's absolutely not. The great strength of AfterShock is that compelling and often heart-rending anecdotes from real patients, doctors, human resources specialists, and family members provide an emotional grounding for every bit of advice the book contains. This book is essential reading. Like it or not, we're all going to need it sooner or later.
Book Description
Many books have been written for those suffering from depression, but what if you're suffering becuase someone you love is depressed? Research shows that if you are close to a depressed person, you are at a much higher risk of developing problems yourself, including anxiety, phobias, and even a kind of contagious depression.
In this authoritative and compassionate book, psychologists Laura Epstein Rosen and Cavier Francisco Amador explain the mechanisms of depression that can cause communication breakdown, increase hostility, and ultimately destroy relationships. Through compelling real-life stories and step-by-step advice, the authors teach concrete methods that you and your loved one can use to protect yourselves and your relationship from depression's impact. Drawing on their own innovative research, the give sensitive guidance about how to recognize your needs, how to provide the best kind of support, and how to encourage the depressed person to seek treatment. Whether you are the partner, parent, friend, or child of a depressed person, you'll find this book and invaluable companion in you journey back to health.
Customer Reviews:
Long on theory, short on practical advice.......2007-05-17
By the time I found this book, I had already read numerous other books and articles on depression. Most of the books out there are written TO the depressed person, but usually (certainly in my experience) the depressed person isn't interested in reading books! The book stresses getting clinical help, but in many cases that person strongly resists clinical help!
I was looking for practical help for myself. How do I keep myself from slipping into depression, and making a bad situation worse? How can I pull my loved one out of their shell? How can I overcome that person's resistance to professional help? What is the best way to deal with a fit of anger or sadness caused by the disease? These questions are not answered by this book.
If this is your first book on depression, it might help you understand the disease better. But if you already know the basics, and are looking for help in caring for a person you love who has depression, it just doesn't deliver much.
Somewhat helpful, but doesn't deliver what subtitle promises.......2005-07-09
This is a good resource, but a bit repetitive and not as user friendly as I would like. When dealing with a major depressive, you don't have the energy to wade through a lot of this book. A structure with "key info" and "in-depth knowledge", allowing the reader to get the most important information up front then go back for the details would be easier to use.
Ultimately, I wanted more focus on ME, the person who cares about a someone who is depressed, and less on the depressed person. There are a lot of good books out there for the depressed person. My expectations of this book were to have concrete ways to not "catch" the "contagious depression", to not "lose myself" as the subtitle suggests. After reading the book, I don't see how my interactions with my two majorly depressed friends over the last year could have been handled much differently. And I did catch their depression, and I did lose myself for a time. So while I feel more educated about depression in general, I still am looking for more and better ideas for protecting myself while still helping my loved ones.
work as a team.......2003-07-14
_Maintain your routine as much as possible._ is one of successful techniques offered by Drs Rosen and Amador in this helpful handbook for people whose loved ones suffer from clinical depression. Although the book is well-organized and the tools are presented with clarity, some of us may have reservations about following all of the advice, _The experience of craving sexual release and having a partner who is not interested in sex can be very frustrating. It is important to acknowledge your sexual needs. If you cannot have sex with your partner, one solution is autoerotica._
It is the authors' intent to _provide you with information about depression, its treatment, and the help that is available_ Moreover, _provide examples of common reltaionship problems when a loved one is depressed._. I appreciated the simple and straightforward approach offered here. For example, the stages to healing are easier for me to remember because of the mnemonic TRIP. Trouble - difficulty with interpersonal interactions in the first and typically, unnoticed stage. Reaction - an initial response that may be either conscious or unconscious. Information - gathering data about the problem, reading this book, a move away from denial. Finally, Problem solving - conscious response to the trouble based upon the data gathered. This TRIP through depression is described in relationships with partners, children, parents and friends.
The guidelines for support are presented with equally unassuming directness. First, the authors advise, have realistic expectations, and second, offer unqualified support. Third, is one you already know, maintain your routine as much as possible. Fourth, share your feelings and fifth, try not to take it personally. That is the most difficult one for me to remember and apply. I can get so frustrated at times that I forget about the context of the situation. Having read this book has helped me to keep its simple advice in mind. The last two suggestions provide a way out of the problem for everyone involved. Six, ask for help. Seven, work as a team. I don't feel that I am facing my difficulties alone when I know that there is help outside of the relationship and support within the relationship. Keeping these guidelines in mind has helped me to understand depression as just one more problem that a family or friends face together. There is a chance that this can make us stronger.
A drawback I experienced with this book is that the guidelines are applied systematically to the point of redudancy for each class of relationships. On the other hand, I was surprised to discover that depression is contagious. From reading this book, I came to realize that the depression that I experience clearly can affect those who live with me. After this discovery, I was motivated more strongly to cure because the someone I love who is depressed can very often be me.
From a spiritual perspective, I find that I am most vulnerable to depressive episodes when I lose hope and faith. I have found tools in WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE IS DEPRESSED that have helped me maintain a stronger spiritual commitment, and a way to help those I love. If you are interested in depression, relationships, psychiatry or sociology, this book may be interesting to you.
PEACE
Simple minded.......2003-01-02
Someone I care for has just gone into a major clinical depression so I've been reading everything I could get my hands on to understand both him and the impact on me and our relationship. Of all the books I've read, this one was least helpful. Perhaps if I'd just hatched out of an egg and had no experience with life, it might give me information I didn't already have from living every day. It is so simple-minded, condescending and addresses the obvious so blandly - I felt it was a total waste of money. Anne Sheffield's book on Surviving when They're Depressed was a godsend - as was Terence Real's on men's depression. This one - gave me nothing at all. I don't usually slam things but this was useless in my opinion.
Your Family Can Triumph Over Clinical Depression!.......2002-01-28
This is a must-read book for anyone struggling to understand a loved one's depression. You'll learn the do's and don'ts of caregiving. But more than this, you'll learn the importance of trying to maintain your own mental health and sense of normalcy, in the face of what can be a debilitating illness impacting all members of the family. A lot of the advice is common sense, the kind of thing your loved one's psychiatrist might tell you--if only he or she weren't so pressed for time. Plus it's nice to know you can help your loved one without trying to be Superman or Superwoman. In fact, the first step to helping your loved one is to realize that you (and the rest of the family) have needs as well. So be nice to yourself and get this book. And then hang in there. Your family really CAN triumph over depression!
Book Description
This book is directed toward the caregiver or "strengthened ally" of any of the more than seventeen million Americans who suffer from this common but often misunderstood affliction. Woven throughout are the personal experiences of Mitch Golant, who spent most of his childhood with a mother who was seriously depressed, an experience that not only catapulted him into his work as a clinical psychologist, but also informs this book with a tone of compassionate understanding. Among the many subjects addressed are: * the warning signs of serious illness * how to distinguish between real depression and a normal case of the blues * how to comfort a depressed person * how to maintain intimacy and communication * how to deal with the mental health community * the most successful forms of treatment * specific things to do and say that will help * what to do when someone threatens suicide
Customer Reviews:
Not really helpful.......2007-04-10
nothing you can't find on the internet. don't waste your money on this book....
Someone you Love is Depressed.......2006-02-02
Very Good and helpful book hoping it will keep me on the right track where I want to be. It has helped my boyfriend understand alittle more.
Thank You ! Thank You ! Thank You !.......2005-02-22
My love one and me were is a very low situation before I started reading this book. He has slight depression and taking Paxil as a medication. Aside the side effect of the pills, depression also changed some of his behavior, and his attitude toward our daily life. I felt negleted, and suspect that our love is no more there.
The worse thing is I don't know what is happending, how to deal with that, and should I talk to him.
After reading this book, it clearly explained everything I need to know. From what kind of symptoms he may has, what kind of medication will result to what kind of effects, to how to deal with the situation, and how to conduct a positive communication.
I am grateful about reading this book. Becuase of it, those depressive conversations during a big disagreement, I was able to calm myself and really see through the heart of the one I love, to see behind it was just a inconfident and insurced heart which need a strong ally. Instead of arguing over nonscence, I gave him a hug and kiss, and reassure my love one we will go throught whatever turmoil together.
This book saved our relationship, saved my love one, and saved me. Like a lighthouse, it points a direction with light. I am very grateful.
Not overly informative.......2005-01-16
Honestly, the only way to help a loved one understand depression is to talk to them about it. Do some research on the internet about the symptoms, common issues and what to look out for. I don't expect someone to read a book about depression because no case is the same.
A depressed person says..........2004-08-23
The person while he gives good advice in some areas but not in others. The book ignores some of the real and unsolvable causes of depression such as, the crises of expectations with regards to oneself and how society operates on the whole.
Some people are and will be depressed through their biology/neurology throughout life no matter how successful they are. You can't ignore people who have everything in regards to resources yet kill themselves or are hopelessly miserable. How can one have all those resources, doctors, therapists, and the best medicine and alternatives can offer at ones disposal and then still be depressed for instance?
A failure to understand that some people are victims of the laws of genetics, environment and nature of society... permanently. Many times people are also brought to the brink through our cut throat and uncaring capitalist society. Case in point: Many people commit suicide due to financial issues they cannot get out of which many aren't there own fault, debt accumulated through just paying for a roof over your head, means to get to work and the 'true' necessities of modern working life.
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When Someone You Love Is Wiccan: A Guide to Witchcraft and Paganism for Concerned Friends, Nervous Parents, and Curious Co-Workers
Carl, M McColman
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Book Description
At last, a book that explains Pagan spirituality to non-Pagans in a balanced, accessible way, while acknowledging the natural anxiety many of them may feel when confronted by a son, daughter, sibling, friend, or co-worker who suddenly proclaims, "I'm a Witch!" Wicca and Paganism are among the world's fastest growing religions. Because so many Wiccan newcomers are young, it may be understandably worrisome, even frightening, to many of the parents, other family members, friends, and associates of today's witches. This book offers an objective, honest introduction to this newly popular old religion, while providing comfort to worried readers. Non-Pagans will appreciate this fair and responsible overview of one of the most mysterious-and misunderstood-modern spiritual paths.
Customer Reviews:
Someone else said it- great idea, poor execution.......2006-11-01
The books promises more than it actually delivers. It's attitude towards other monothesitic religions is condescending, and the feeling of elitism is present through the entire book. Furthermore, the author compounds this by "fluffy" statments on the nature of Pagan practice and a seeming ingnorance not only on the more spiritual levels of Witchcraft, but also on many of the questions he tried to answer himself!
I bought this book to help a loved one understand my religion, and now I see all I have done is waste my money.
Get your family and friends on the right path .......2006-02-26
Frankly, I was very concerned when I first ran across this book. I wondered if it was a 'fundie' text imploring people to convert my Wiccan friends to Christianity. What a pleasant surprise when I opened up the text and found out it is not.
As others have accurately noted however, the well-intentioned author simplifies Wicca. He then attempts to lump this in with Paganism. Wicca and Paganism are two different concepts. Perhaps the text itself could be toned up in another version of the book.
Overall, this is a useful resource for people who want to be supportive, but are not sure what they are supporting. It would be an important purchase for local libraries---where `concerned people' might turn after learning the news about a loved one.
The title is important as it is in order to reach the wavering people who would otherwise be susceptible to 'bible-thumping' propaganda about these very practices. Most importantly, the book does not condemn the practitioner and instead encourages readers to accept them as they are.
Great book............2005-07-19
This is a very good book for people that have no idea or the wrong idea of what Wicca is. I agree with 80-90% of the material, not that the other 10-20% is wrong just that I see things a bit differently.
EEEEEWWWW!.......2004-11-16
I was suspicious from the get-go with this title. It sounded too much like "When Someone You Love Is Dying/Has Cancer/Has AIDS" -- the kind of literature one gets from clueless but well-intentioned counselors. I had to force myself to get more than three pages into the book. And, I confess, I could not bring myself to finish it.
Specifically, it trotted out every fear and misrepresentation and half-truth about Wicca: "You may have heard <this>" and "Many people believe that we do <that>." And then pointed out how wrong these ideas were, as if all Wiccans held a multi-colored but monolithic block of beliefs.
Unfortunately, both when I read this as a practicing Wiccan and when trying to read it from the "curious co-worker" viewpoint, I became defensive. It seemed both apologetic and self-righteous. It tried to be deferential, but came off as condescending: "You poor, misguided mainstreamer! Here, let me set you straight."
Further, it tried to lump Wicca, Witchcraft and Paganism into one large blob, allowing that there were differences in practices among these folks, but that they were related enough for this text to be inclusive. Ha!
My advice: If you need something to hand to a Nervous Parent or Concerned Friend, either Scott Cunningham's "The Truth About Witchcraft Today" (Llewellyn Publishing), or Tuitean & Daniels' "Pocket Guide to Wicca" (Crossing Press) does a much better job of factual presentation without paranoia. (Pocket Guide has a potential advantage of not having the word "witchcraft" in the title -- an insurmountably scary word for some folks.)
Great idea, poorly executed.......2004-05-21
I was very, very disappointed with this book. I bought it to share with my boyfriend to help me answer some of his questions about my religion. I decided to read it first, and realized that he already knows more than this book provides, and probably in a much better light.
It's written on a 4th or 5th grade level, very simplistically, which makes it sound not all that intelligent, and by result could give the impression that Wiccans are not all that intelligent as a whole-- which is definitely the opposite of my experience. It lacks any beauty, any real insight, and I don't know why people are saying it was well researched, as it is something anyone with a basic understanding of Wicca could write. If it were my own first exposure to the old religion, I'd probably walk away shaking my head & saying, "Those people need a reality check."
It could be useful in a limited sort of way, ie, the boss that needs to see something in print that you're not a devil worshipper, but you don't care if he has any real understanding- but I strongly suggest reading it before giving it to anyone you truly want to understand.
Book Description
From New York Times bestselling author Susan Johnson comes a deliciously daring new novel of love, passion, and exquisite temptation…
When You Love Someone Some men are not for marrying. They have no interest in being dutiful, respectable husbands. What they offer is a sensual paradise to any woman who dares take it. And Julius D'Abernon, Marquis of Darley, is the master of the game.
Julius's scandalous exploits have inflamed the pages of The Tatler for years. It is said he can seduce any woman with one of his smiles. Julius can have any woman he wants, but bedding Lady Grafton? That would be a challenge indeed.
The very reputable Elspeth, Lady Grafton, is as refreshingly candid and quick-witted as she is beautiful and vibrant. Pity that she is the virtual prisoner of her tyrannical, aged husband, a man who cannot gratify his wife in any way. Such a woman should, nay, needs to experience the joys of passion that Julius is ever so qualified to administer—selflessly, of course. One kiss will get her into his chambers. But one kiss turns out to be more than he bargained for and yet not nearly enough…
Customer Reviews:
GREAT READ!!!!.......2007-05-05
I loved this story so much. It was very romantic and I kept it in my personal library.One of Susan Johnson's best. Get it if your a romance lover.
Not quite a 5 but still a solid read........2006-11-16
There are some Susan Johnson books that I found absolutely amazing for their sexuality and intense plot. This one was neither of those for depth. Julias was a bit too aloof for me. I do not mind dark mysterious men that are rakes and seem to have plenty of reasons for thier troubled ways. Julius seemed to have a wonderful family and a perfect life so he just came off a bit spoiled to me. There is no question that Elspith is ripe for a man like this. who would not be marrying such a horrible older man as Lord Grafton. He just gave me chills. For Elspith to find some emotional solice with Julius was wonderful and truly captured my heart. She seemed like a woman that deserved happiness and finally Julius came up to snuff for her. But for me there was just a tiny bit missing from his side and if I was a betting person I would not say they would be totally happily ever after.
*DISAPPOINTED*.......2006-07-22
I was disappointed in this book. Too slow! I also think the cover is misleading. It looks contemporary not historical. I was bored. Hope this helps.
Unremarkable Read!.......2006-04-02
Ms. Johnson is known for her stunning sensual historic reads. Her latest effort "When You Love Someone" is another addition to her lengthy list of accomplishments.
Julius D'Abernon is Marquis of Darley. He can seduce a lady just by breathing. His exploits are well-known through the Ton. But, life is beginning to bore him...there's no challenge...until he sets eyes on the beautiful Elspeth, Lady Grafton. She doesn't fall all over herself to draw his attention. In fact she turns him down but Julius knows women and knows how to turn the "no" into a "yes." It's not long before Julius is enjoying the attention and affection of Elspeth...but she is not totally free...she's married to an older man who is harsh and cruel but he holds her younger brothers situation against her. Will Julius be able to walk away from her after a short time of idyll or will he only settle for having Elspeth all to himself?
Elspeth is married to a nightmare. Her husband is harsh and feeble but he secured her brother's future so she will remain with the old goat. But when she meets Julius while visiting Newmarket. Although she says no to his attentions at first, she finally admits that she is drawn to the handsome and sensual man. She shares one kiss which turns into more then she ever imagined. Will she ever have a happy ending or will she have to live off the memories she's been stealing?
This was read was a tad different...not as sensual as her previous titles. Aside from that the read is much like her other efforts. Strong hero...equally strong heroine. What was different is the fact that Elspeth is married for more then half the story...which, is makes the romance between her and Julius a little unremarkable since it was hard to enjoy a romance where the heroine is married to another. Ms. Johnson is a talented writer but this was not what her readers normally find from her efforts.
Couldn't Put It Down.......2006-02-14
Ms. Johnson does an excellent job of giving a rake his due--as usual.
Customer Reviews:
In response to AnonRom above..........2006-11-30
This isn't a review of the subject book, but I would like to encourage and refer any readers new to Susan Johnson to her earlier works which are dynamite! My all-time favourite is "Sinful." This was the first book I read by Ms. Johnson and I was hooked! I've re-read it now approximately 5 times -- once every couple of years. The St.John and Kuzan sagas are great.
Alas, it seems to be the way with authors that once they've achieved any kind of significant success (as denoted by the mass market-sized and hardback books) that publishers put greater pressure on them to churn said books out and I've pretty much found that when an author starts putting out two books a year, the quality of the story goes down -- way down -- and Ms. Johnson has had her hits and misses in recent years (unfortunately more misses than hits).
But please give her another try through her earlier works. I guarantee you'll be thrilled!
Wanted to Like - But Just Couldn't.......2006-08-13
When I try new authors, I really want to enjoy their work. I saw this book and thought it would be a good read. I enjoy hot sex in a book, and I love historicals. If I like a new author, I immediately hunt for backlist or eagerly await new books.
Unfortunately, I won't be doing that with future books by Ms. Johnson. I liked the author's writing style to some degree, but I never came to care about her characters. I saw them as one-dimensional and flat. I didn't dislike them, they were pleasant enough, but they were superficial. I never really got to see beneath the veneer that covered each character, even though it was clear the author was trying to pull that veneer off. However, it just didn't work.
The one reason this book isn't getting a lower rating is because of one scene. It is the first sex scene, so called because I never experienced any emotion or even a great deal of sexual tension developing between these too, although there were inklings of it. The characters used words like love, but it wasn't expressed in the sexual acts. In the first act, Duff is in a somewhat catatonic, cathartic state as he mates with Annabelle.
It was the first really deep look into his wounded psyche, and displayed what this book had the potential to be. Ms. Johnson appears to have a talent that got buried under confusing dialogue and a mish mash of scenes that never really explored the inner depths of the characters.
Perhaps in the future, I might be willing to take another look at Ms. Johnson's work, but it's going to need rave reviews and rave recommendations from readers I know who have the same tastes as me. Interestingly enough, after I read this book, I went looking for reviews because I wanted to know what others thought of the book. I didn't find any at the more major romance review sites. This book had great potential and failed to deliver
entertaining Regency romance .......2006-08-02
Before Waterloo "Duff" D'Abernon was a carefree Marquis who enjoyed life to the fullest as he appreciated the London social scene. After Waterloo, Duff became a brooding angry hermit who obtained some pleasure with his horses but never attended any galas. Thus everyone who once knew the lighthearted pre-war youth is pleased to see him about town again by 1816, but upset that his companion is disgraceful Annabelle Foster. She is a scandalized-making actress who has allegedly slept with half of Parliament and the Royals and had a child out of wedlock if you believe rumors before abruptly vanishing from the stage and the hypocritical criticism of the Ton.
Annabelle offers Duff friendship and companionship, but not her heart, having been burned once before which led to her disgrace. Duff accepts as both feels loneliness. That summer of healing leads to heated passion and perhaps love, but neither trusts the other with their fragile hearts and then there is little Cricket to consider.
This is an entertaining Regency romance starring two flawed societal outcasts, one discarded while the other self-exiled. The story line is fast-paced even the interludes as Duff and Annabelle fall in love, but their respective recent histories make a relationship between them seem impossible but a delightful historical possible. Fans will root for this couple to find a way.
Harriet Klausner
Book Description
A highly sensitive and invaluable reference guide for those in crisis. (1992)
Customer Reviews:
Really Understands.......2007-07-07
Of all the books I have read on this topic, this one is by far THE BEST.
This author really gets it. The author understands the emotions that the
one left behind goes through. He further gives excellent suggestions on
how you can best deal with those emotions.
I'm still crying, but at least I know it's OK.......2006-08-17
I think that this is the first book that I have read, that is truly meant for the person that's grieving. My husband has recently passed away from aggressive brain tumor, after two and a half years of fighting. We both were only 26, and not even three years married, when all of a sudden I was alone. I still don't understand why he died; I'm still angry and confused. But reading this book, helped me realized that I have a right to feel that way. That there should be no expectations from me, as to how am I grieving. The author goes on explaining in detail how the loss of a loved one, will emerge to be an individual journey. No two are the same. You should listen to your body and let yourself feel the pain, let yourself grieve...for as long as your body, mind and heart need it.
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone, who has lost a loved one. It would be a great book for those that know somebody, that's grieving and want to learn of the best way to help them with their process. - many very valuable lessons to learn.
I finally stopped Crying.......2001-12-21
I found this book when my lifepartner died two years ago. THis book helped me so much then and now, when certian days come along and I start feeling sad and don't understand. I am in a new relationship and still sometimes find myself missing my former life-partner and I realize through this book that it is entirely normal and to some degree expected.
I recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone they love. It will help you get a handle on your emotions and is very easy to read.
What is the "Love"? What is the "Alive#? -It's on this book........1998-12-03
Firstly,I found this title is in the The Journal of Emergency Medical Services of Japan. This book has introduced with activity of the Metro Toronro Ambulance.This story has told about how to reduce Paramedician's stress and how to inform the "Lover's death" to the family or relatives.I really had caught warm heart from this story this is because The Metro Toront Paramedician has present this book to the person who lost the lover.And,this book provides how to accept one's saddness and how to go ahead one's life.I think,from this book is able to learn what is the realy love and what is alive. I reccomend this book ,especially medician,paramedician,emagency case cordinator, government officer,student and,simply for all.
Product Description
At last, the definitive guide on how to respond when someone says, "I have cancer." Two-time cancer survivor Roseanne Kalick helps readers communicate caringly with the cancer patient. Many have had the gut-wrenching experience of having a friend or loved one reveal they have cancer, yet few can figure out how to react. Using real stories, Kalick conveys how much most people really want to say and do the right thing and how they often fail. Even those in the medical profession who work with cancer are guilty of etiquette "don'ts." The book is intended for patients, caregivers, family members, and friends.
Customer Reviews:
informative.......2007-01-10
thought the book was very informative and at a reasonable price-service was quick. book was not too long or boreing--have friends who are dealing with cancer and thought this book would help--it did help on how to talk to them--thanks
THE BOOK EVERYONE SHOULD READ.......2005-08-12
THAN YOU to the author is so inadequate for such a book as this.
If there was ever a book that everyone should read this is the one.
Having had three kinds of cancer myself, I can totally relate to so much of what Rosanne Kalick has written. Her book has brought tears to my eyes and smiles on my lips.
I know in my heart that most people mean well with their comments but at the same time they come across as appearing to be brash, uncaring and sometimes downright stupid. When we are in pain, or feeling so sick from our treatments it's often times hard to smile through it all and try not to react to these comments. I know also that many times we as patients tend to over react to what others may innocently say.
This book is a great guide for all of us, both patients, family, caregivers, friends or neighbors. We can all benefit from reading this book and hopefully applying it to our lives.
I have ordered several more copies of this book to share with others. I know it will be going through my church family as well as a lot of my friends. Some are already telling me they can't wait to get their copies.
A Guide to Life, Too.......2005-07-01
Cancer Etiquette, by Rosanne Kalick, is not only an etiquette guide for friends, family, and caregivers of cancer patients. It not only tells us what to say or not to say; what to do or not to do; what to give or not to give. The book could be thought of as a guide for all our interactions in life, and the love, compassion, kindness, and joy that are so necessary. The author is a two-time cancer survivor who has been able to distill what has happened to her, including her good and bad interactions with people, into this detailed, valuable, life-affirming, and timeless guide.
This book should be in everyone's library.......2005-06-18
This book will be helpful for everyone. We have all been in the situation of not knowing what to say or do for someone who has cancer...or any other life threatening disease for that matter.
The book is very readable. It's clear, conversational, not heavy-handed at all. Some of the stories are even humorous. It's got a lot of practical advice for friends and relatives, and also for doctors and nurses. There are suggestions of ways to help out and examples of well meaning, but NOT helpful things as well. Ms. Kalick also talks about connections and community and love. She tells of how groups of people have done things to support a cancer patient, and how much it meant to that patient. Again, there are good suggestions of how to go about organizing something.
Ms. Kalick speaks of her own experiences with treatment for 2 different cancers. She is able to tell what made her feel better, and what made her feel worse. Some of her descriptions are very moving, but she is able to poke fun at herself as well.
This book should be in every doctor's office in the country...for all to read in the waiting room, AND for the doctors and staff to read as well.
An extremely helpful and wise book.......2005-06-18
Who hasn't heard the words, "I have cancer?" Unfortunately, when this happens, most of us are either speechless, or blurt out the wrong things.
Thanks to incredibly perceptive and wise author, Rosanne Kalick, I now know what to say and do when I hear these life-changing words. Kalick and cancer survivors she interviewed have been on the receiving end of countless tactless remarks, and I feel confident that I'll never make those mistakes again.
Sometimes, I learned, the best thing to say is *nothing.* "Take your cues from the patient," Kalick suggests. Respond to what he or she is feeling. "Over time, helping the cancer patient restore some sense of control in his or her life can be an invaluable gift."
This book will be extremely valuable for anyone dealing with cancer, and it's also an excellent gift for anyone in the health care field. Give it to future doctors entering medical school, and anyone beginning a career in medical services - such as mammography technicians.
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