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- The Neurobiology of Love, Lust, Loss, and Living Together
- book for "brainiacs," but not necessarily for better boudoir action
- It all starts in your head
- ex-biochemist review - easily accessible, fascinating...
- Disappointing. Waste of time.
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Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life
Daniel G. Md Amen
Manufacturer: Harmony
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Book Description
“The vast majority of love and sex occurs in the brain. Your brain decides who is attractive to you, how to get a date, how well you do on the date, what to do with the feelings that develop, how long those feelings last, when to commit, and how well you do as a partner and a parent. Your brain helps you be enthusiastic in the bedroom or drains you of desire and passion. Your brain helps you process and learn from a breakup or makes you vulnerable to depression or obsession.”
While plastic surgeons, diet gurus, and the pharmaceutical industry may have convinced you that they hold the secret to a fulfilling sex life, the truth is that you already have the only thing you really need: a brain. As the largest and most sensitive sexual organ in the body, a healthy human brain enhances your sex life and heightens sensation. A troubled brain, however, makes emotional and physical connection with others difficult. So forget the implants, the fad diets, and the pills. Learning about this intriguing and sexy organ is the key to your sexual satisfaction.
Based on Dr. Daniel Amen’s latest research in practical neuroscience,
Sex on the Brain shares 12 lessons that help you enhance your love and sex lives through understanding and improving brain function. Filled with practical suggestions and information on how sex can save your life, Sex on the Brain reveals:
• How sex helps prevent heart disease, improve memory, stave off cancer, and boost your immune system
• How the differences between men’s and women’s brains affect our perceptions and interest in sex—and how you can understand these differences to make the most of the opportunities with your partner
• Why breakups hurt so much, and what you can do to ease the pain
• Surefire techniques to fix common problems—depression, PMS, ADD—that get in the way of good sex
• How to make yourself unforgettable to your partner
Everyone wants to know how to improve his or her love life, but so few of us understand the integral role that the brain plays in getting us in the mood, keeping us excited about our partner, and helping us achieve greater satisfaction.
Sex on the Brain explains everything, showing you how use your brain to create a healthy, happy, and hot sex life.
Customer Reviews:
The Neurobiology of Love, Lust, Loss, and Living Together.......2007-08-26
Daniel Amen combines knowledge from over 30,000 SPECT (Single Photon Emission Computerized Tomography) scans that allow him to see the Real Time, qualitative and quantitative brain function; with his superb insights into Human Behavior.
He presents a detailed view of Brain Function every step of the way from Gender Personality Differences, Attraction, Lust, Coupling, and Cohabitation, to breakups and loss of a loved one.
If Freud were alive today, he might well be working at one of Amen's clinics. For the first time in the History of Psychiatry, Investigators in the field are able to define and measure the Biological Underpinnings of Human Behavior. In addition to giving a good portrayal of our sexual existence, Dr. Amen presents some very useful interventions to improve this facet of our lives.
The CD was in WP3 format which was something of a problem to translate, but its contents filled about 6 regular audio CDs. Having spent 33 years attempting a synthesis of Mind and Brain, I found this to be a truly excellent book about a topic that always holds interest, and it is well worth the money.
book for "brainiacs," but not necessarily for better boudoir action.......2007-08-24
This is a nice read, with a good blend of humor, research on the brain and hormones in our body, and the doctor's professional and personal experiences w/ others. Amen does a good job delivering his, and others', brain research, in a way anyone can understand. He is, however, a bit old-fashioned in his views on evolutionary thinking and gender stereotypes. There is also the occasional slip up on sex info., e.g., the claim that self-pleasuring can lead to excessive or addictive activity in vulnerable people. It's a pleasant read, however, if your main aim is to learn about the brain's role in passionate desire, attraction, and love.
It all starts in your head.......2007-08-23
Not too much new but very thorough. Brain chemicals seem to be what causes attraction. And we thought we were picking our partners. Mother Nature is the real decider.
ex-biochemist review - easily accessible, fascinating..........2007-07-28
This is an excellent and very accessible book that primarily looks at what happens in the brain during love, lust, romance, paraphilias, etc. It has a lot of information in it, but it is not overly technical and accessible to the average person. Dr. Amen has a way of simplifying complicated concepts and weaving them into an engaging narrative.
What this book will give you as an understanding of the various parts of the brain and the role they play in our sex lives. It also includes supplements that could be helpful when some areas are over or under active and even typical medications that are used.
The scope of the book is pretty large and covers things like impulsive thoughts, sexual addiction, paraphelias (fetishes), cheating behavior, etc. Anyone who has a sex life will find it very interesting and informative and it will also help you to understand yourself.
Two complimentary books to this one that I highly recommend are: The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating and The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment. These books cover the psychology and some of the evolutionary patterns that gave rise to the way we are hardwired around sex. You can read my review and other reviews to get a better sense of the content, I can't do either book justice in this small space.
Disappointing. Waste of time........2007-03-17
The author wrote a book on sexuality, while considerably lacking knowledge about women and female sexuality.
Book Description
In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washingto— made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, the Gottmans share this vital information so that couples can develop the skills to turn their relationship problems around and create strong, lasting unions.
What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.
Giving an insider’s view of the Love Lab, the Gottmans take the reader step-by-step through the couples’ conversations, before and after they are counseled. The authors also provide an analysis of the couples’ interactions, identifying their core problems and offering suggestions for resolving them. By “listening” to the discussions in this way, you will learn to detect the most common stumbling blocks of a relationship and—most important—how to avoid them.
Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.
From inside the famed Gottman Institute, aka the “Love Lab”: ten scientifically proven, practical ways to strengthen your marriage
“We don’t feel close anymore.”
“You never talk to me.”
“We only have time for the kids.”
“All you do is work.”
“You don’t care about my dreams.”
Do you recognize yourself, or your spouse, in any of these statements? If so, Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, say you shouldn’t be surprised. In fact, their decades of scientific research have shown that most couples face these and other serious problems—but what the Gottmans have proven is that such difficulties don’t have to lead to a broken relationship, or even divorce.
In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, the Gottmans provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. You’ll strengthen your relationship and make it the most fulfilling it can be.
Customer Reviews:
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage.......2007-07-14
Truly a great book from a great author. From the authors of "Creating Your Own Way To Happiness."
matchmaker.......2007-01-11
I bought this for my 23 year old daughter who had broken up with her boyfriend. After reading this book she realized she had made a mistake and they are seeing each other again and happier.
Practical Advice Backed by Research.......2006-11-21
As a marriage and family therapist, I rely most heavily on the work of John Gottman, because he is one of the only authors/relationship experts who uses scientific research to identify the components of successful and unsuccessful relationships.
Ten Lessons To Transform Your Marriage is an engaging format to present his "Love Lab" research findings and related relationship advice. The ten "lessons" were presented through ten different couples, and it was easy to become engrossed in the story of each couple as they talked through their relationship issues. Embedded within each couple's conversation are clues about how they interact and connect, and the dynamics underlying their conflict. By following these conversations and the authors interventions, readers will learn how to uncover the deeper issues underlying ongoing conflicts, as well as how to use productive communication tools to transform relationship issues into relationship improvement and positive change.
What I like most about this book is its message that relationships can be healed and changed even in the face of significant pain, hurt and disappointment. John Gottman's work illustrates that relationship success is not just about a couple's compatibility or about never hurting each other, but instead about open, effective communication. This is a great "reality check" for all couples. This book will ideally give a lot of couples hope about how to transform their relationship problems into fulfillment and satisfaction through the right kind of communication.
I give copies of this book as wedding gifts........2006-11-20
When it comes to books on marriage and relationships, I rely on the Gottman books, where the concepts were gleaned from scientific observation and statistical analysis, rather than pop psychology and opinion. For several years, I have been giving "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" (SP) as wedding gifts, and now I include "10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage" (10L) as well.
Although SP and 10L cover much of the same material, SP explains the concepts in more depth with exercises to apply the material, whereas 10L explains the concepts in a concise yet functional manner, and is heavier on application. I find both books equally valuable and highly recommend one read both--SP first, then 10L, although 10L is perfectly usable as a stand-alone book.
In 10L, we're introduced to 10 couples, each with a different issue. One couple, for example, has a marriage that's so child-centered they're not taking adequate time for themselves. Another couple lives a parallel existence in the house as roommates who don't get along very well. The Gottmans devote a chapter to each couple's problem. In each chapter, there's an explanation of the problem along with a transcript of the couple having a conversation (in some cases an argument!) about their issue. To the right of the dialog, the Gottmans comment on what they notice, with plus or minus signs, a very helpful feature that helps the reader integrate the principles into a real-life situation. After the initial dialog, the Gottmans comment on what the husband and wife did that was helpful or detrimental, and how they can improve. The couple was then sent back to have a second conversation, and in each case the couple made improvements on how they dealt with the issue. Each chapter finishes with more comments from the Gottmans, along with an update on the couple (usually one year later), and an exercise for reader to do with her or his partner.
As I read the dialogs, I covered up the Gottmans' comments and thought my own, then checked to see what the Gottmans thought. Soon I was analyzing the dialog like a pro, which helped me see how to apply the concepts to real life at a deeper level than I gained from just reading SP and John Gottman's earlier book, "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail." One thing I like is that the Gottmans get at the deeper meaning behind some seemingly mundane conflicts. One couple was discussing the time constraints of childcare and volunteer work, but the deeper issue was that they failed to recognize each others' dreams.
Unlike the Gottmans, I thought several of the couples were too incompatible to be married. One husband lost their retirement money in a bad deal, had an affair, and routinely minimized his wife's feelings in conversation. I thought this man is too self-centered and immature to be married. However, the Gottmans worked with this couple who reported a year later that on a scale from 1 to 10, they've improved from a 4 or 5 to a 9. Granted the Gottmans didn't use cases where they couple had separated or divorced by the follow-up period.
I think many couples are too incompatible to be married in the first place. However, if both parties take the time to diligently learn and apply the Gottman communication and relationship skills, they'll at the very least be less miserable than they were to begin with. I think the Gottman material is so valuable, you could randomly select any two adults from the phone book, and as long as neither is a sociopath, both could apply the Gottman principles and live together civilly for a year or more!
practical guidance.......2006-11-06
I liked how it uses practical situations. I was able to relate to them better.
Book Description
As a former boy, a father immediately understands why his son builds a tower of blocks, calls it a boom crane, and then knocks it down. But why does his daughter build the same tower, call it an ice-cream cone, and then offer a taste? As Harry Harrison, author of the chunky little bestseller Father to Son, would suggest, fathers of daughters should simply enjoy that imaginative treat, and every other she's likely to dream up.
Filled with short, sweet, inspirational words of wisdom, Father to Daughter is a book of guidance for Dads on loving, shaping-and learning to comprehend-their inscrutable little girls. Divided into stages from infancy on up, it offers a pithy lesson on every page. Helpful reassurance: Tickle her, play with her, give her piggyback rides. She's not breakable. Advice on passing down skills: Show her how to climb up a tree. Also, how to climb down. Your role: Be home for dinner on time. This is very important. Make sure she knows she can call you at any time and you will go get her. This is why the cell phone was invented. Guideposts, both material and spiritual: Give her a piggybank when she's little. She's never too young to learn the value of saving. And, Help her understand that there's more to life than wearing the right jeans. And finally: Prepare for the day when you're not the most important man in her life.
Customer Reviews:
A fun little book for fathers-to-be .......2007-01-02
I received this book in the mail recently and read it in about 20 minutes. It is about 300 or so short pieces of advice for fathers of girls in various stages of development. The quotes are variously witty, funny, instructive, and serious on the challenge men face in raising healthy girls to be self-assured young women. Two thumbs up.
basic instructions.......2006-11-15
I was disappointed with this book for several reasons. I bought this book because I have a one year old daughter and was searching for some insight on how to better bond with her as she ages. This book gave basic instructions that even a teenage parent would know, (if that makes any sense). The book is written on a middle school reading level and did not go into specifics about raising a daughter, it only gave very broad advice. I bought this book for only .46 cents and it was a waste of money. Since the book measures 6 inches by 6 inches I guess it will make a good paper weight ! Not recommended
Brilliant Wisdom.......2006-06-20
I bought this book for my husbands first fathers day this year. I wrote inside that it was the instruction booklet that came with his now four month old daughter.
The only problem I have with the book... I introduce her to the Beatles I named her after a Beatles song "Dear Prudence"
Great Pocket Book.......2006-06-16
At first, I thought this was a silly gift my husband received when I was pregnant with our daughter. I decided to take a look at it, and its such a beautiful book. It has very simple ideas and advice, but very important life lessons.
The whole book is full of common sense ideas, but they are things that get overlooked and forgotten. Every dad should be forced to read this as part of soon-to-be-daddy training.
I'm sorry, Mr. Harrison- this one was a swing and a miss.......2006-06-06
After stumbling upon, at a relative's house, this collection of corny attempts to be witty and creative, I was shocked at how blatantly stereotypical and sexist this book was once I read it cover-to-cover.
Although there were one or two cute trinkets, I particularly remember the following lines much more strongly:
* Mom will introduce her to classical music- you let her listen to the Beatles
* Remember, if you tell a boy not to play with the electrical outlet, he will stomp off or do it anyway. A girl will cry.
* Cheer for her team. Even though they may be called the Pansies.
* Teenage girls spend hours doing something in their rooms. No man has ever figured it out.
* She may look cute, but her diaper can be as challenging as any boy's.
There was also another about letting her mother have time alone with her, and one about protecting her from boys.
In conclusion,
Sure, this book is wonderful- if you live in the 50's......
Book Description
What does it really mean to be a good father? What did your father tell you, that has stayed with you throughout your life? Was there a lesson from him, a story, or a moment that helped to make you who you are? Is there a special memory that makes you smile when you least expect it?
After the publication of Tim Russert’s number one New York Times bestseller about his father, Big Russ & Me, he received an avalanche of letters from daughters and sons who wanted to tell him about their own fathers, most of whom were not superdads or heroes but ordinary men who were remembered and cherished for some of their best moments–of advice, tenderness, strength, honor, discipline, and occasional eccentricity.
Most of these daughters and sons were eager to express the gratitude they had carried with them through the years. Others wanted to share lessons and memories and, most important, pass them down to their own children.
This book is for all fathers, young or old, who can learn from the men in these pages how to get it right, and to understand that sometimes it is the little gestures that can make the big difference for your child. For some in this book, the appreciation came later than they would have liked. But as Wisdom of Our Fathers reminds us, it is never too late to embrace it.
From the father who coached his daughter in sports (and life), attending every meet, game, performance, and tournament, to the daughter who, after a fifteen-year estrangement, learned to make peace with her difficult father just before he died, to the son who came, at last, to appreciate the silent way his father could show affection, Wisdom of Our Fathers shares rewarding lessons, immeasurable gifts, and lasting values.
Heartfelt, humorous, engaging, irresistibly readable, and bound to bring back memories of unforgettable moments with our own fathers, Tim Russert’s new book is not only a fitting companion to his own marvelous memoir, but also a celebration of the positive qualities passed down from generation to generation.
Customer Reviews:
Widsom for Older Sons who are baseball lovers.......2007-09-30
After my 77th birthday I remembered to pick-up my older daughter's birthday gift for my 76th birthday! It is a sure-fire winner! When I had gotten past the middle of Tim Russert's stories from a wide variety of sons and daughters, I chose five top favorite Chapters: "Daddy's Girl, "The Character, "Hands and Feet, "Being There, and "Baseball."
Tim's love for the Cleveland's Indians and the NY Yankees came shining through! His personal relationships with the stories of Truman & MacArthur, Rudy Giulani, Al Gore, and Russ Limbaugh provide profound wisdom from a huge variety of Fathers. As I noted foreign names like Bill DeSisto, John Smyntek, Vince Guerriori, Arnold Annunziata, I came across a lovely story of "Hermie's Hands" from Knoxville, Tenn. His name was Jon Hernmanson.
(Too bad that my Father who was employed as one Knoxville Water Worker never came to know Hermie with eight fingers on his hands!)
The Titles of "The Lawyer, "The Lock, "The Lesson, "The Tickets, "The Diagnosis & "From-a U-Fadder" bring tears or laughs from my repeated reading!
After finishing I shall buy copies for my Grandsons to keep for Christmas! Over-Joyed yet Under-whelmed from the older still wiser retired Chaplain, Fred W Hood.
Tim Russert--Wisdom of Our Fathers.......2007-09-26
My new book was received in Great shape and very fast! Thank You very much! ONH
Have to Buy.......2007-08-22
How this gets below 5 stars is beyond me. This book is what it is and is long overdue. There is no genius behind it because it's just a collection of peoples' stories. Russert didn't write it, but he wrote Big Russ and Me. I haven't read that, but it must be pretty good to garner this kind of response.
When I was last home, my dad gave me the copy because I'm working on a project pertaining to the same subject matter. He hadn't read it yet, so he just told me to read it and send it back. It is so good that I sent him a copy with this note, "Dad, this book is way too good. This copy isn't coming back to you, so here is one for you. Love, Christien."
Wisdom of Our Fathers: Lessons and Letters from Daughters and Sons.......2007-08-03
Definitely as touching as Big Russ,Russert's first book. It's a page turner. You'll laugh and cry..
This book puts everything into perspective.......2007-08-02
One of the best books on parenting. Not a scientific approach but rather a by-the-seat-of-your-pants look at what it means to be a good parent. You get a peak into the minds of so many children, today's adults, something that is impossible to do with your own kids. A must read for any parent.
Thanks Tim for having the foresight to put this collection together.
Customer Reviews:
New methods in this book work better than traditional ones.......2007-10-05
I am a grandparent of a 5 year old boy, diagnosed with ADHD at age 4. I have read several books on the subject, plus reseaching ADHD on line. If you employ the same methods by which you were raised, not having ADHD, or the methods your parents used to raise you, you are missing the target by a mile. ADHD children are different in many ways and you must learn how and what to do for them as individuals. They are precious little people with vast potential for love and success in life. Only by you learning how to help them manage their lives, in a loving caring manner can you help them. This book offers proven methods to help the child at home and in school and in life. I do recommend this book. You also need to read other books on the subject and try to find a CHAD group or other support group for yourself because you are not alone in your struggle to save your child and family. I also recommend ADDitude Magazine as well as, Making the System work for Your Child and The Gift of ADHD, all from Amazon.com. It takes a village to raise a child. Good luck.
good book.......2007-09-17
I think this is the book.If you could only get one adhd book,this would be the one to get.It is very respectful overall and it avoids extremes on the medication issue.It had a lot of helpful information but not too much.You can't fix it all at once!Overall-very good.
Excellent book.......2007-05-18
I am a physician and a parent of a child diagnosed with ADHD. I have read many articles, books and found this book to be the most concise and helpful. He explains ADHD, medication use, evaluation process including ruling out other medical disorders, nutrition, laws that entitle your child to receive assistance. Gives detailed charts/sample letters to help with parenting. I highly recommend it.
5 stars from me too.......2007-03-15
I am only halfway through and already I am planning to buy a copy for my child's teacher and doctor. Best book on ADHD I have read yet...thorough, concise, understandable yet not condescending, and 100% looking out for the child's best. Read this and you will get educated, not discouraged.
Real-World Help.......2007-03-10
Of all the books I've read about parenting children with AD/HD, this is the most useful. The author, Dr. Monastra, runs an attention-disorder clinic that offers a class specifically geared to parenting children with AD/HD. He has taken that class, simplified the content, and broken it down into eleven lessons. While it is of course no substitute for attending a ten- or eleven-week class, the lessons are clear and highly valuable. He explains the condition from a brain-function standpoint, discusses the different medications (what they do and when each type might be most useful) and outlines simple techniques that can help address some of the biggest areas of difficulty. The book was very readable and engaging. Dr. Monastra understands that many parents of kids with AD/HD have AD/HD themselves, and he designed the book with that fact in mind. He also provides his "top 40" list of typical behaviors that parents may feel they need to address. Overall, I felt like I was reading about my own child, and his advice was extremely helpful.
Book Description
With the divorce rate spiking at a dizzying 60 percent, it’s safe to assume that young couples and experienced partners alike may lack the skills and understanding necessary to sustain a committed relationship. Psychotherapists Linda and Charlie Bloom present 101 techniques delivering practical guidance and make it clear that, regardless of past experience, anyone can develop the basic strengths, skills, and capacities needed for a great relationship. Each lesson is presented as a simple, one-line thought followed by an explanation using real life examples — from the authors' own experiences in sustaining their marriage of 31 years to those of the thousands of couples they've professionally counseled or who have taken the Blooms' life relationship seminars. This book demonstrates how anyone can find ways out of a painful relationship, and how couples can enrich their own relationships through working through love's challenges.
Customer Reviews:
A Must Read Book Before Getting Married.......2007-09-30
Don't let the title fool you. This book is great for anyone who is in a relationship.
really renews my belief in love.......2007-02-05
this book is amazing. i stumbled upon it in the bookstore and it was the last copy on display. i picked it up and thumbed through it and i was hooked. i'd never heard of the authors and this book. unfortunately i think we give a lot of credit to authors who get on major television shows and some authors that have good stuff to say don't ever get the credit they deserve....
back to the book...it's a great book the chapters are short and sweet (but not too short) and as other reviewers have mentioned the couple has lots of experience as therapists and a real married couple. i plan to suggest to my boyfriend that we read a couple of chapters an evening and discuss them. i really like the concepts in the book and think if you're in a serious relationship leading to marriage you owe it to yourself to get this. i suspect if you're already married you can still benefit too!
very good book.......2006-11-18
this is a must have book, whether or not you're married or even after! My husband and i highlighted sections that meant something to us and discussed them. really helped us over a hump! Highly recommend and it's an easy read.
A must have for those just married or about to get married!.......2006-03-13
Background:
I am getting married in about 10 weeks. My fiancé and I have recently had to deal with several issues that have surfaced. We are both very open, well educated and understanding, but all of a sudden we had trouble communicating well regarding several topics. We both come from parents who are remarried, and the overall divorce rate is very high in our family which scares us both. Furthermore, my mother's second marriage is one of those wonderful relationships that are written about in children's fairytales, and lately I have felt pressured that my relationship must to compare to hers.
Review:
If you are married, thinking about getting married, or recently married, you owe it to yourself read this book! If you aren't hooked on the book by the end of the table of contents I would be shocked!
I found this book at a local bookstore while browsing through the relationship section and it is GREAT! The book is basically a compilation of mostly lighthearted tips and pointers drawn from real life experience which would take a newly married couple many years to figure out. The book tackles many subjects, which after reading seem so simple and straight forward that I would have felt silly had I not understood them; however the truth is, I had never thought about these subjects, let alone how to deal with them.
After about three hours I am half way through the book and really feel like I am learning lessons that take others years of marriage to learn. The book has also helped my confide in, and understand the many benefits of a long enduring relationship that I had not thought about. Many of the books' subjects also revolve around the controversies and hurtles that a long term relationship will eventually face. The wonderful wisdom that Charlie and Linda Bloom present, is not how to try and avoid these rather unavoidable circumstances, but instead how to use these difficult times to help your marriage grow and become stronger than it would be had these situations not occurred. This is a great feeling, especially for men whose married and single friends often say very derogatory things regarding relationships in general.
Worth reading.......2006-02-02
For newlyweds or those married for a number of years, this book has many gems of wisdom to offer. My husband and I have been married for 28 years and read the book together and found it refreshing and helpful in some areas where we recognized chronic tension in our relationship. The authors' overall assessments of a variety of relationships and wisdom for handling various issues that arise between committed couples is on target. It is worth reading and would make a good gift for weddings (or anniversaries!)
Book Description
A young boy doesn't come with instructions. He just comes with boundless energy, spirit, and love, all waiting to be shaped. And one of the powerful forces in the shaping is the wish to grow up to be "just like Dad," who was himself a young boy once. With apologies to mothers and daughters, there's really nothing like the primal bond between a son and his father.
A little book of wisdom for fathers on raising boys, Father to Son is a guide to the joys and responsibilities of fatherhood. Divided into sections covering the different stages of a boy's life, the book features one succinct lesson per page--some lighthearted, some serious, all supported by the book's strong moral backbone. Here is the importance of passing along skills-- "Show him how to eat an Oreo." "Show him how to put a baseball in a new glove and wrap a belt around it." Of setting a good example--"Be home for dinner." "Do push-ups together." Of staying involved-- "Race him. You'll never forget the day he beats you." "Be sure to meet his girlfriends." Being flexible--"If his favorite thing about organized sports is the uniform, let him wear it to school." Offering guideposts, material and intangible-- "Hang a punching bag in the garage." "Put a computer in his room. Never a TV." "Never tell him boys don't cry-ask him why he's crying." Nurturing responsibility-- "Make him understand that even a small lie makes him a liar." "Teach him the joy of finishing a job." And instilling wonder--"Teach him the joys of staring at the moon." "Encourage him to go barefoot."
Customer Reviews:
insipid, trite, and hackneyed.......2007-03-12
From the description, we thought this was a book of advice and insights. Instead, it is a little book of mundane aphorisms, one sentence nuggets of advice of uneven quality. The book makes a lot of outdated assumptions about gender roles and the nature of fathers and sons and their relationship. We're disappointed, since there aren't many books on the subject. We're sorry we purchased it, even at the sale price of $1.50, and now we will just give it away. Don't waste your money, or your time.
Father to Son: Life Lessons on Raising a Boy.......2007-02-14
This little pocket size book is full of wonderful little gems. It is a great book for a first time father or a father of any age.
Light but fun.......2006-06-26
I thought this was a worthwhile purchase. Everyone in the family got a kick out of reading it.
Great Pocket Book.......2006-06-19
At first, I thought this was a silly gift my husband received when I was pregnant with our son. I decided to take a look at it, and its such a beautiful book. It has very simple ideas and advice, but very important life lessons.
The whole book is full of common sense ideas, but they are things that get overlooked and forgotten. Every dad should be forced to read this as part of soon-to-be-daddy training.
Excellent Guide for Practical Matters!.......2005-08-10
This is by far one of the best books for a new Dad or soon to be Dad! It is simple and practical, and reminds us that the simple things in life are the important things to a child!
***** (5 STARS!)
Average customer rating:
- A light frivolous read
- enjoyable, but not exceptional
- Humorous, but not quite senuous for my taste!
- Had me but then they Lost me
- I am unsure how to rate this book
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The Marriage Lesson
Victoria Alexander
Manufacturer: Avon
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Binding: Mass Market Paperback
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ASIN: 0380818205
Release Date: 2001-05-01 |
Book Description
Lesson #1: Never Tempt a Lady Become a bride? Never! Lady Marianne Shelton has come to London to experience life, and marriage is not part of her plan. To finance her independent future, the pretty country miss pens a series of anonymous stories. Soon they are the talk of the ton-and only she knows that her wicked hero is based on none other than bold, brash Thomas Effington, the future Duke of Roxborough.
Lesson #2: Never Deny a Marquess, Thomas has been thrust into le of Marianne's protector. When she threatens to experience life with the first willing rogue to come along, he decides the best recourse is to tutor her himself. And when he accidentally compromises her honor, he's willing to accept their only recourse: a wedding. Marianne claims she wants no part of marriage, but her intoxicating allure and disarming willingness make her irresistible. And now Thomas is determined to teach her a lesson: that true love will last forever.
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Lesson #1: Never Tempt a Lady Become a bride? Never! Lady Marianne Shelton has come to London to experience life, and marriage is not part of her plan. To finance her independent future, the pretty country miss pens a series of anonymous stories. Soon they are the talk of the ton-and only she knows that her wicked hero is based on none other than bold, brash Thomas Effington, the future Duke of Roxborough.
Lesson #2: Never Deny a Marquess, Thomas has been thrust into le of Marianne's protector. When she threatens to experience life with the first willing rogue to come along, he decides the best recourse is to tutor her himself. And when he accidentally compromises her honor, he's willing to accept their only recourse: a wedding. Marianne claims she wants no part of marriage, but her intoxicating allure and disarming willingness make her irresistible. And now Thomas is determined to teach her a lesson: that true love will last forever.
Customer Reviews:
A light frivolous read.......2006-07-07
Let me preface this by saying that I very seldom read romance novels and if I had seen the back cover of this one before I had ordered it, I sincerely doubt that I would have. But that aside, since it arrived, I decided to at least give it a shot. What I found was surprisingly entertaining.
To me there are only a handful of basic plots for a romance novel: 2 people who don't realize they love each other and spend most of the book trying to figure out why they're acting oddly; 2 people one in love with the other, the other not realizing they're in love with the other the one wishing the other loved them, the other wondering why they're acting oddly; 2 people madly in love with each other but kept apart by circumstance for most of the book; or 2 people in an arranged marriage who come to love each other. They all have the same ending of a happy monogamous relationship. The "modern" romances all have several soft porn love scenes written with as few anatomical terms as possibly and absolutely no words that would be found in harder porn.
Ms. Alexander hits all of these requisites admirably, but the surprising part is that she writes extremely good dialogue and the rest of the novel is written more from a stage direction or stage set point of view. Although this doesn't make for characters with a great deal of depth, it does carry the characters' personalities nicely and gives the reader a good feel for place and time.
Since romance novels are so formulaic, and we all know the ending when we pick one up, the climax of the novel comes in those scenes leading up to the "happily ever after" ending. Here Ms. Alexander does push her luck just a touch. She writes 3 scenes that are terribly transparent. An 8 year old could probably figure out what is going on. And the 3 scenes are just over kill with everone trying to trick everyone else. She probably could have gotten away with 1 or 2, but the 3 are just way too improvable. Don't want to spoil the plot, so you'll just have to read it yourself to see.
So, my verdict: if I were a romance novel fan, Ms. Alexander would probably be one of my favorites. Since I'm not a romance novel fan, I can say that Ms. Alexnder's novels are a light frivolous read that can be enjoyable.
My star ratings:
One star - couldn't finish the book
Two stars - read the book, but did a lot of skipping or scanning. Wouldn't add the book to my permanent collection or search out other books by the author
Three stars - enjoyable read. Wouldn't add the book to my permanent collection. Would judge other books by the author individually.
Four stars - Liked the book. Would keep the book or would look for others by the same author.
Five stars - One of my all time favorites. Will get a copy in hardback to keep and will actively search out others by the same author.
enjoyable, but not exceptional.......2006-06-25
The upside: what I enjoyed about this book is that there are some funny scenes, like the scene where Marianne wakes Thomas by emtying a watering can over his head, or the scene where he tries to simulate a Romeo and Juliet encounter but doesn't quite make it to the balcony.... Another plus were the small articles about their (somewhat embellished) relationship that introduce each chapter. They are written by Marianne for a gossip newspaper, anonymously, which gives the story an interesting twist.
The downside: the hero and heroine's feelings are a bit superficial. She doesn't want to marry except for true love, he doesn't believe in it (even though, of course, he is in love). His ignorance over his feelings lasts too long to be quite convincing and she doesn't appear to be too heartbroken when it does not seem to work out.
Humorous, but not quite senuous for my taste!.......2005-03-08
It has been awhile since I read a Victoria Alexander book. I do not know quite what her style is. But normally I prefer my men a little more strong, dark and rakish and not quite so witless. And at times Marriann just seemed too silly with her adventures and nonsense. The book had some good moments so it deserves a chance. And I will read others in the series but this would not be the first author I would run to on a long winter weekend.
Had me but then they Lost me.......2004-06-21
I really enjoyed this book throughout the first 75% of the book. It's filled with humor and I loved that Marianne was a little more confident and proactive than some other novel heroines. However, she began getting on my nerves with her whole: "I won't marry without love" thing. It was so obvious that Thomas was in love with her and she w/ him. But, instead of just getting it all out, she kept hinting around w/ him. It drove me crazy. Also, the games the two played in the end were just unbearable. Rather than be truthful w/ each other, the hero and heroine decide to try and trick each other by involving friends in their silly attempts to bring each other to heel. Don't misunderstand, I did enjoy the book, as well as, the author's writings. However, I think the book was better throughout the first three quarters. Although, there is a "happy ending", the book became a little weak near the end.
I am unsure how to rate this book.......2003-12-08
Never had this problem before. This is my first Victoria Alexander book, so I am not sure how she normally writes.
I gave it four stars because it was very entertaining and so funny. The stars are all for the laughs in this book. I do not think I have laughed so much in a romance before.
I love the story and the characters were very suited, I also loved the sisters, and Thomas's friends.
The part I did not like, was how dumb Marianne was at times. For a woman who was suppose to be such a bookworm and intelligent...she seemed to much a dreamer and silly at times. I wanted to smack her. I understand independence, but she just did not seem very independent to me.
It was fun to read, and I really laughed hard at how hard poor Thomas tried to win her heart....my four stars are all for you Thomas Effington.
Customer Reviews:
Helpful.......2007-09-18
I thought, when I first started reading this book, that it was a bit too simple a read for adults. Still, the opening situation with the girl was so familiar and even a little bit uncomfortable and I thought there must be something in here for me. There was! I think this book and it's lessons would be a comfort to most people who have been wounded in their childhoods.
Bypass this book and keep looking.......2007-06-29
I have read a library full of self-help books. This is the worst. Immediately after reading The Black Swan, I took it and threw it in the nearest trash can. The story of a little girl getting therapy from a swan may be cute but did not transpire into any lasting change. It was like listening to a friend's horrendous story of neglect, abuse and abandonment and then suggesting she "find her center." Most of what the swan offers as help, is New Age psychobabble. If you are not into New Age philosophy you will hate this book.
A good therapudic book to have on hand........2007-06-09
A wonderful parable for all kinds of loss. A good book to have on hand. Perhaps a few copies to share as you are unlikely to get it back, which is a good thing.
Black Swan.......2007-03-23
A new allegorical perspective on an age old, little identified problem. Beautifully done. A must have part of a therapist's library.
Thank you
Recommended for Everyone.......2006-08-29
Susan Anderson beautifully utilizes the power of the fable in conveying complex concepts about life, love, and loss in this easy to read story about the Black Swan. Because this book is a story and reads like one it avoids the blandness and instructional nature of other selfhelp books. By the same token the story is not abstract or meandering. The principals and recovery methods presented in the book are clearly and concisely described so that they may be easily put into practice. Furthermore, the storyline helps to make sequence of the twelve steps or lessons easy to remember. I would recommend this book to everyone.
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- Letters to Sam: A Grandfather's Lesson on ...
- A Book for all to read.
- Irreducibly simple yet profound
- A grandfather's loving legacy to his grandson, and to all of us
- Exceptional book
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Letters to Sam: A Grandfather's Lessons on Love, Loss, and the Gifts of Life
Daniel Gottlieb
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Customer Reviews:
Letters to Sam: A Grandfather's Lesson on ..........2007-05-13
The product is what I expected. It arrived on time and in the condition advertised.
A Book for all to read. .......2007-03-10
Perhaps this is more a sharing than a review. My husband had Polio when he was 25 and for the next 51 years he was a quadraplegic who finished college and worked for 35 yrs. He read this book and commented, the book gave many insights as to what life is really like from a wheelchair and that we are all different. When he died suddenly two days after Christmas I purchased this book for every member of our family to read.
Arlyce, his wife.
Irreducibly simple yet profound.......2007-01-26
"When it gets dark enough, men see stars," according to Emerson. In irreducibly simple yet profound words, Dan Gottlieb shares the wisdom he has derived from living in a wheelchair, battling his own inner demons, and practicing psychology for the past 25 years. His loves, losses, and lessons are informed and inspired by the unique bond he shares with his grandson, Sam, who is also different--growing up with a diagnosis on the autism spectrum. I wish I had this book when my son was diagnosed with autism over 20 years ago. I am overjoyed that we have it now for "Letters to Sam" is a guide for the soul, much more than just another autism book, and a wonderful gift to families.
--Robert A. Naseef, Ph.D., author of Special Children, Challenged Parents and co-editor Voices from the Spectrum.
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A grandfather's loving legacy to his grandson, and to all of us.......2007-01-10
I can honestly say, even as a voracious reader, that this is one of the best books I have ever read. Dan Gottlieb's wisdom, love, and compassion for his grandson, diagnosed with autism, are very evident in this loving collection of letters on all subjects of life. Paralyzed in a horrific accident as a young man, he is the most obvious role model for the boy in advising him on many important matters of living--love, loss, happiness, and most of all, being an individual and learning from life's experiences, no matter what they may be. Sam's diagnosis of autism makes the book all the more poignant, as Gottlieb realizes that the boy may not understand all that is said in the book, but the gesture of writing it shows that he believes in Sam's possible eventual ability to appreciate it.
Without giving too much away, one particular letter that especially touched me was one in which Gottlieb (who is a therapist by profession) relates a story of counseling a young woman who is having serious life difficulties when he suddenly has an embarrassing accident with his urinary bag. In this recount, he admits to severe embarrassment and ultimate emotional connection with the girl, who shows him empathy and understanding even as she is in desperate need of it herself when she goes to him.
This book is not about autism or living with disability. It's about living, loving, and learning how to continue on after disappointment, loss, and tragedy. Gottlieb's amazing courage and wisdom will benefit anyone who reads this great work. I think I know what I'm buying everyone for Christmas next year. :)
Exceptional book.......2007-01-09
This book is deeply thoughtful and moving. Once I started it I could not put it down, and I learned so much from the author, Dan Gottlieb. His deep and unconditional love for Sam, his grandson, is a lesson for all of us. I have recommended it to many friends and have purchased additional copies to give to the people I love the most.
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