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Master how-it-works writer John McPhee has instructed his readers in the arcana of how oranges are commercially graded, how mountains form, how canoes are built and oceans crossed. In The Control of Nature he turns his attention once more to geology and the human struggle against nature. In one sketch, he explores the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers' unrealized plan to divert the flow of the Mississippi River into a tributary, the Atchafalaya, for flood control; in another, he looks at the ingenious ways in which an Icelandic engineer saved a southern harbor on that island from being destroyed by a lava flow; in a third, he examines a complex scheme to protect Los Angeles from boulders ejected from mountains by compression and tectonic movement. As always, McPhee combines a deep knowledge of his subject with a narrative approach that is wholly accessible; you may not have thought you were interested in earthquakes and flood control, but he gently leads you to take a passionate concern in such matters.
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The Control of Nature is John McPhee's bestselling account of places where people are locked in combat with nature. Taking us deep into these contested territories, McPhee details the strageties and tactics through which people attempt to control nature. Most striking is his depiction of the main contestants: nature in complex and awesome guises, and those attempting to wrest control from her - stubborn, sometimes foolhardy, more often ingenious, and always arresting characters.
Customer Reviews:
Engineering skill, policy blunders:.......2007-01-10
Mc Phee presents three well written, beautifully researched case studies, short term marvels of engineering skill and determination, doomed from the outset by humanity's ignorance and disregard of natural processes. This book examines an unstable river system in Southern Louisiana, unpredictable massive lava flows in Iceland, and episodic debris flows in Los Angeles mountain foothills. Each case presents the heroic bad judgement of short-lived humans in conflict with gradual natural processes, catastrophic at long intervals, by human measure, and ultimately inxorable, indifferent long-term to our futile efforts at intervention. He wastes few judgemental words on the human folly his stories chronicle, but lets them speak for themselves. He fills the shoes of both writer and teacher.
Elegant writing on man's ignorance about nature.......2006-11-27
As always, McPhee is a pleasure to read and a pleasure to review. In these chronicles, based both on narrative and on interviews, McPhee's big theme is ambition (a good thing), hubris (no problem, simple answer), and willful ignorance.
McPhee talks about three major `wars' against nature - the effort to keep the Mississippi River running through New Orleans, the semi-successful effort in Iceland to keep a volcano from filling in a critical harbor, and the ludicrous attempt to prevent fire and flooding from destroying the east side of Los Angeles. In each of these, the threats are portrayed as utterly real and frightening, the science is lucid without being boring or full of jargon, and the people speak for themselves.
If you ever wanted to change the inevitable force of geology by piling up sandbags, stop a lava flow by spraying water on it, or keep your house from being filled with boulders and sand (debris flow) - this book will be a lesson on fighting rear guard actions against enemies that will, eventually, win.
People's Efforts, People's Errors.......2006-06-18
McPhee examines three recent attempts by man to alter natural changes on the surface of the planet. The first is the Corps of Engineers attempt to control of the flow and course of the Mississippi as it heads, with ever increasing power, toward New Orleans, or Texas if it had its way. And if you think that there was not some early warning of eventual problems in New Orleans, note that this book was written in 1989. The second is the partially successful effort by the Icelanders to use water from fire hoses to halt the flow of lava from a very destructive volcano. Finally, the third is the battle between Los Angeles and one of natures weapons of mass destruction, the debris flows coming down from the San Gabriel mountains that, with the Pacific, frame the city. McPhee has also written intriguing books about the geologic histories of Nevada (Basin and Range), Wyoming (Rising from the Plains), California (Assembling California) and about tectonic plates, ice and oil (In Suspect Terrain). In the process he has portrayed the important English pioneers in the discipline such as Hutton and Lyell, in addition to Agassiz and his fascination with glaciers.
The flow of the Mississippi with its enormous drainage extending from Western New York to Montana has been increasing with every newly paved Wal-Mart or football stadium parking lot in the Midwest. In the process it has carved out the sediment that forms the fan that extended the coast line of Louisiana over fifty miles into the Gulf in the last century. Historically its mouth has wandered for nearly two hundred miles along the Gulf coast between Mississippi and Texas, creating most of Louisiana. Its flow of sixty-five kilotons (two million cubic feet of water) per second in high years is now channeled by the levies, which are not without defects as demonstrated by recent hurricanes. But that doesn't mean upstream threats can be ignored. The Atchafalaya, with a much steeper drop and connected to the Mississippi by the Old River in Northern Louisiana, is constantly bidding for the Ohio and Missouri mud that gives the Mississippi its color. The saga of the construction efforts by the Corps to keep it as a safety valve to prevent the flooding of New Orleans, and not have it turn the lower Mississippi river basin (the "American Ruhr" as the locals call it) into a pasture or salt water lake, is McPhee's first war story. It has been a "close run thing" with a near disaster in 1973 when the Old River Control, an enormous weir, nearly failed. The proliferation of commissions, competing commercial interests and colorful characters overshadow the geology, but the movement of sediment is still the enemy and the story keeps it under "close surveillance".
The attempt by the Icelanders to control the flow of lava erupting from a volcano on one of their offshore islands is magisterial. This effort is a saga of human endurance, persistence and geological knowledge. He describes Iceland as one of the two most productive geologic hot spots on the planet (the other being Hawaii). However, while the Hawaiian Islands are moving with the Pacific plate, Iceland is being torn apart by the Mid-Atlantic ridge which runs directly beneath it. The 2000 degree (F.) magma under it came up, in 1973, to punch through the sixty mile thick plate of Vestmannaeyjar island "like a sewing machine needle punches through cloth." The offshore island has one of Iceland's main fishing harbors. Indeed, it is one of the most active in the North Atlantic and hence worth saving.
The lava spread in all directions from the volcano, covering most of the island and threatening its harbor. The government decided that it would try to save the harbor by cooling the lava and holding it back with fire and other large water hoses. An Icelandic physicist calculated that one cubic meter of water would change seven-tenths of a cubic meter of lava from red hot flow to hard rock. The water hoses were brought from Reykjavik, the capital, and the American air base nearby at Keflavik. They were trained on the ever encroaching lava day and night at the direction of the fire chief from the base who became known, not unaffectionately or undeservedly, as "Patton".
They succeeded, but not until three million cubic yards of tephra fell on the island's town (compared to only 500,000 cubic yards, which fell on Pompeii), and three hundred feet of basalt rose next to it. Nature gave in and the eruption stopped after five and a half months. It had increased the size of the island by twenty percent, and perhaps will press its case against the harbor at a later time. While the topography, characters and customs of The Big Easy and Tinseltown may be familiar to us, Iceland is not. Tidbits about the oldest democratic parliament, the Icelandic prohibition against selling beer in favor of "Norwegian Cough Drops" (shots of Johnny Walkersson and Jack Danielsson), the local learning on how to avoid volcanic bombs, etc., add the color. Pages turn.
His final example of man's attempts is the effort of the City of Los Angeles to keep the San Gabriel Mountains (three thousand feet higher than the Rockies from bottom to top) from sending debris into the foothills of the city and washing away houses in the process. Los Angeles has built more than 120 catch basins to arrest the debris. McPhee describes the effect of fire upon the chaparral in the mountains (it provides an impermeable cover which sends the water runoff in a large storm cascading down the valley) is impressive as one of those ideas that seemed good at the time. However, other than the effect of the angle of repose, this section is a bit of a filler in an otherwise very interesting book.
Read this one for pleasure.......2006-05-17
There are books that should be read for the value of the information they contain. There are books that should be read for the beauty and power of their language. There are few that achieve both. This intensively researched page turner never fails to combine clarity and eloquence. Mr. McPhee clearly loves the people and places he describes, and treats them in a witty, friendly way that left me laughing and wanting more.
Nature Bats Last.......2006-02-25
This is among my favorite McPhee books. Not only does he bring his superb skills at description, characterization and narrative flow to these three linked stories; he manages to set out a subtle subtext without ever being explicit.
In a lot of ways, humanity's history on this planet is a struggle against nature. McPhee focuses here on three instances of modern struggles against geologic forces. River flooding, and in particular the channel of the lower Mississippi River; volcanism, and in particular lava flows in Iceland and Hawaii; and erosion, and in particular mass-wasting in the San Gabriel Mountains in Los Angeles.
The message in each case is that mankind can triumph - or at least cope - in the short term, but in the long term, the natural forces will prevail. The Mississippi River will change its channel, despite the sometimes arrogant, sometimes defensive efforts of the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers. Lava flows will eventually overwhelm Vestmannaeyjar, Iceland. The naive and credulous Angelenos who build their homes in the steep valleys of the San Gabriels, despite the mudflow management efforts of the County, are eventually doomed. Nature bats last. The rabbit runs for his life; the coyote runs for his supper. The Corps has to succeed each time; the Mississippi only has to succeed once.
McPhee is far too good a writer to ever come out and say this. Instead, he reports what he has seen and what he has been told and lets his narrative convey his points. That reporting is simply brilliant. As I have argued in other reviews, McPhee is America's greatest living expository writer. This is one of his best books.
Highly recommended.
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HUNTER
The desert was no place for a female. But as chief of security for a top secret operation, Hunter had his orders, and Jennifer Marist needed his protection. He thought he could handle spending a week on the rugged Arizona plains with the one woman he was determined never to touch....
But he hadn't planned on the lure of Jenny's wild, sweet passion— or on discovering a love he'd never dreamed possible.
MAN IN CONTROL
Ever since DEA agent Alexander Cobb had given Jodie Clayburn a Texas-size brush-off, they'd been sworn enemies. But eight years later, this cynical long, tall Texan couldn't believe the baby-faced schoolgirl had turned into such a beauty. Or that she'd help him crack the drug-smuggling case that threatened Jacobsville. he'd risk everything to protect her. Would the man in control finally get caught in his own web of danger...and desire?
Customer Reviews:
Hated Hunter-Liked Man in control.......2007-07-16
dp often has the scenario of older nasty hero and young naive heroine. Most of the time, the hero is redeemable sometime during the book. However, Hunter is just downright cruel through the whole book until the last few pages. Even in the love scenes, he's cruel. I couldn't believe a beautiful intelligent woman would continue to let herself be treated like that. It was hard to read because I had read "The Outsider" and Hunter is featured several times in this book and a likable good guy so thought reading his story would be fun but there wasn't anything fun about it. YIKES!
The redeeming part of this book was "Man in Control" and why 3 stars instead of one. He isn't nearly as mean and nasty and much more likeable early on. There is humor in this story and interesting that Alexander won't make love to Jodie until they are married. That was different then most of the other dp books.
Hard to Handle . . . But Worth the Effort!.......2007-06-12
PUBLISHER DESCRIPTION: Hunter: The desert was no place for a female. But as chief of security for a top secret operation, Hunter had his orders, and Jennifer Marist needed his protection. He thought he could handle spending a week on the rugged Arizona plains with the one woman he was determined never to touch.... But he hadn't planned on the lure of Jenny's wild, sweet passion--or on discovering a love he'd never dreamed possible.
PUBLISHER DESCRIPTION: Man in Control: Ever since DEA agent Alexander Cobb had given Jodie Clayburn a Texas-size brush-off, they'd been sworn enemies. But eight years later, this cynical long, tall Texan couldn't believe the baby-faced schoolgirl had turned into such a beauty. Or that she'd help him crack the drug-smuggling case that threatened Jacobsville. He'd risk everything to protect her. Would the man in control finally get caught in his own web of danger...and desire?
Hunter, published in 1990, centers on Hunter, thought to be somewhat alpha, part Native American security chief, and Jennifer Marist, thought to be somewhat prissy, geologist.
Man in Control, published in 2003, centers on DEA agent Alexander Tyrell Cobb & HR Assistant Jordana "Jodie" Clayburn. This story combines the typical "younger-sister's-best-friend's crush-on turned love-for, the older brother with a DEA investigation; add a dash of humor, family issues, esteem issues; then include ties to the Long, Tall Texans of Jacobsville Texas, and the Mercenaries, aka Soldiers of Fortune, and you have a story as only Diana Palmer can tell it. (One of my favorite DPs!!!)
Two classic Diana Palmer reprints, both are solid stories that are typically DP. These two are probably reprinted together because Hunter appears in Man in Control.
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Self-proclaimed "feminist and former shrew" Laura Doyle sets forth a whopper of a game plan for establishing profound intimacy in one's marriage. Building on the gender stereotypes defined by bestselling author John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus), Doyle seeks to heal the overworked, underappreciated wife who snarls at her mate's every thought or action. Her message to these smart, self-sufficient types: check the nitpicking, the unsolicited opinions, and--egads!--the finances at the marital door (although she says it's still okay to wield control at work). Many women will find such advice archaic and offensive; some will simply laugh off this credential-free anachronism when they receive the book as a bridal-shower gag gift. Still others, identifying with Doyle's profile of a controlling wife, will be curious enough to dabble in her proposed art of "surrendering."
According to Doyle, the wife who chooses to surrender must learn to take care of herself first, overcome the desire to have more power, and abandon the myth of equality. Delving into the personal tales and sisterly advice shared within each chapter's pages, surrendering wives will further note the need to master unsavory phrases like "I can't," and "Whatever you think"--tough to swallow for a generation of women who value their own opinions. While she fully acknowledges that a few bills will go unpaid and a few deadlines or freeway exits will occasionally be missed, she also insists that surrendered wives will encounter less worry and fear, more money, and better sex. Hey, "Whatever you think...." --Liane Thomas
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This controversial approach to marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave.
Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew -- and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it.
When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.
The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle's model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband's choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy.
Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:
- Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
- Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands
- Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage -- from sexual to financial
And more.
The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.
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In this radical and controversial approach to marriage, Doyle presents "The Rules" for wives, explaining how women can enjoy a passionate sex life, peace instead of tension, and intimacy rather than alienation, by establishing a new balance of sharing, giving, and receiving with their husbands.
Customer Reviews:
Finally! True Feminism!.......2007-06-11
It was such a relief to read this book, especially since I grew up in a household that espoused such wonderful principles. So many people are attracted to the label of feminism that they forget what feminism is supposed to do: give women choices that would be personally fulfilling and lay paths to happiness. Unfortunately, the feminism that many women prefer guarantees women more misery than contentment and more strife than intimacy.
What struck me most about this book is that it is so honest, straightforward and simple. However, I think it's important not to take her words as Gospel or the book as a "Marriage Bible." The author is human, and as such some of her suggestions are merely reflective of her sincere desire to turn her life around, a desire that borders on desperation at moments. This is most likely due to her surrendering being new to her. It is only natural that a person new to something exhibits zeal and goes overboard at times, such it is with Laura Doyle. Her desire to be better is so profound that she doesn't seem to trust herself to exist individually and better herself as a surrendered wife at the same time. However, most likely time and experience will heal these idiosyncrasies in her practice of surrendering.
However, having been married for 11 years and having grown up in a surrendered household, as well as having embraced these principles long before the "liberated woman" found them palatable, I find that true surrender allows you to dismiss these tips/experiences from the author:
1. Only give your opinion when it relates to your desires. (The key here is to give your opinion while keeping your heart ever open to his, and being content with and supportive of what he decides, even if it goes against what you suggested).
2. Give your husband all of your money and resign yourself to asking for what you want. (In my view, true surrender is to allow him to take care of the finances from his money without contributing unless it's for an emergency; a woman's money is hers; a man's money is theirs. That's surrender).
3. Giving up your last name. (You are an individual, a human being with an identity connected to your blood family and lineage, reflected in your last name. Marriage is the uniting of two lineages, not the disposing of yours).
However, these suggestions do not take away from the power of the book. I strongly recommended this book for the women brave enough to better, and thus truly liberate, themselves.
Try It First (put your heart into it).......2007-02-23
Many women are put off by the concept of letting their husband have the upper hand. Letting mine have what he wants within reason is actually quite liberating. If he wants to display his Dale Earnhart flag in the front yard, it's no skin off my teeth, his buddies think it's cool and my buddies know I didn't put it there so what's the big deal? That's just an example but not spending all my time worrying over him (a GROWN MAN) makes my life so much easier. He does as he pleases and I have noticed that without any input from me, we have food on the table, clothes on our backs and a ton of love in the bedroom. When I treat my husband with the love and respect he deserves I get back so much more when I fuss over him. I am putting my trust, faith and confidence in the man I chose to be my husband. I have done many things that this book suggests for years but reading this reminds me to commit myself to being the best wife I can be. I also like that this book is not specifically Christian, Muslim, Jewish...what have you. Read it and give it an honest try before you write a bad review. Remember, feminism means embracing and celebrating a womans ability to make CHOICES. Some of us exercise our right to choose by surrendering and/or being homemakers. Don't hate, just be happy that everyone is different. This lifestyle may not be for everyone. If it's not for you, please go find your bliss and leave us happily surrendered wives alone.
Two Thumbs Up!.......2006-11-29
This book gives you simple tips to help regain intimacy in your marriage. Sometimes we (us women) are just so comfortable the way things are that we forget how GREAT it used to be at the beggining or how wonderful dating was. Well let me tell you I read the book and I'm back to that stage! Your husband really wants to make you happy, but sometimes we just don't let him, we are too controlling, and this ruins intimacy, not only in the sexual way, but the type of intimacy that makes you feel so lucky you have him in your life. Read this book if you feel like you are always controlling everything, or if you feel deprived in any way, or better yet, read it even if your relationship is already okay, I guarantee if you follow the simple steps you will regain the wonderful man you married and most importantly YOU will feel so much better about yourself!
If You Only Buy One Book to Fix Your Husband Or Boyfriend, Buy This One........2006-09-18
I've read a lot of books about dating and choosing who to stay the course with and who to let go of, and how to handle yourself at that level. I'm seeing someone exclusively now, so I moved on from SURRENDERED SINGLE to THE SURRENDERED WIFE. This book has improved my relationship like no other, except for RELATIONSHIP RESCUE, which is totally different and improved other things than THE SURRENDERED WIFE did. These two are my Top 2 I recommend to friends. (I also recommend GETTING TO COMMITMENT if there are any commitment issues on your part or his, coming up at any stage of dating, relationship or marriage.)
There's so much to say about this book, but I'm going to leave this review short. Just get this one.
I mentioned my top 2 relationship books, and I'm going to mention my third favorite. WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES. The title sounds bad, but it's not about being mean; it's helped my relationship, too.
Stop the Exhaustion! Save and Refresh Yourself and Your Marriage Today!.......2006-08-09
Wow! This book is NOT what I expected in the least! I bought this book used through [...]sometime ago. Thinking it was just another "submissive wife" theology filled book, I was only half interested in it, and so it laid in my unsightly, toppling pile of "maybe I'll read it" books for a couple months.
Meanwhile, I continued on in my daily life, much of which includes my husband. I thought we've had a good marriage, inspite of some very difficult times through some substantial struggles. We felt that since we made it through those times together, when others we've seen often do not, we must have a good marrage. However, there has been years of often unspoken disappointment and growing distance between us. We had fooled everyone, most importantly even ourselves. Soon we fell into just a habitual, mundane rhythm to our days, our marriage, our life together. Outwardly, I was pretending things were fine, but inwardly I had began a mantra of "if he would only change _____, I could be happy, we could be purely happy". This began small and progressed until it popped into my thoughts continually through the day. Love, joy, comfort, and peace were no longer words that would color my feelings toward my spouse. Resentment, frustration, bitterness, and anger clouded and reined in my inner heart. I was no longer fooling myself and I no longer was fooling him either.
One day this all just became too much. Or perhaps it was going on 10 years of becoming "too much". In some soul-searching, I began to see myself and my marriage for what it really was and I did not like what I had to see. It was at this time that I picked up, The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Pease with Your Man, from my forgotten pile of paperbacks, flipped open the cover, and began to read. That moment has not only changed my marriage, but also changed who I am, and who I see looking back at me in the mirror each morning. I am amazed!
This book alone cannot change you or your marriage. But what it can do is give you a mirror in your hand and encourage you to look into it. It gives you the tools, the concepts, the ideas, and the inspiration to honestly change what you see into something pure, true, and thriving! This book gives hope and a step-by-step, non-overwhelming way to overcome habits and thought patterns that have made your marriage less than bliss, if not outright miserable. The best part is that all you need is you, an honest, open, and willing-to-see-and-try you! You do not need your husband's willingness to make a life-changing difference. All you need to change how you feel is YOU!
The book is well written, filled with helpful advice, real life experiences, and even a group study guide, if you choose to read with some friends. The format is so skillfully organzied, you really go step-by-step in small and manageable sections. I actually had to resist the urge to read ahead! (I wanted to realize and take action in what I'd read before reading more.) There are few things I would want to change about the book, and even those things are more out of personal preference and marriage experience. Laura Doyle's openness and wit is refreshing and inspiring to weary women. While offering rest and refreshment for the weary, it also gives no-nonsense, secular, clear guidence to make yourself who you want to be.
For years, I had wanted to change just about everything about my husband. I had even dreamt about how it would be if only he was different. For me, after all the many, many things I discovered about myself when reading this book, the surprise was that the only thing I could actually change was me, and then actually coming to realize that. The greatest, most amazing thing was that was all I had to do. It was this book that gave me this realization and the path to do it. Today, I have true intimacy, passion, and peace with my man. We have something that I would never give up. Friends and family have said, "If only I could have what you and your husband have..."...If they only knew what brought us here! May our love, understanding, and respect for one another only continue to grow, and I hope the same may come to life for you! Enjoy!
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The facts are nothing short of startling--no matter how many people seem to walk down the aisle, the divorce rate in America is at a record high. What's the secret to getting into a happy marriage and, even more important, staying in one? Now world-renowed psychiatrist Dr. William Glasser and his wife, Carleen Glasser, update their classic guide to successful marriages, Staying Together, for couples young and old. As they examine the questions of why some marriages work and others fail, the Glassers advise readers on how to create loving and happy relationships by applying Dr. Glasser's trademark "choice theory." The result is a wealth of new information about who would make a compatible partner and how to improve any relationship.
Customer Reviews:
Glasser, the choice theory master.......2006-08-21
William Glasser really helps me to understand the basics of a healthy relationship...how and why we tend to get and stay together, and ways to sustain relationships. His advice is rooted in healthy common sense. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to find or retain a good 'significant other' type relationship. Glasser's "Choice Theory" is another must-read.
One of the greatest thinkers of the past 50 years!.......2001-11-25
William Glasser, a world-renowned psychiatrist currently about 75 years old, originally came strongly into the limelight because of his seminal work in the 1960s, Schools without Failure. This book, and the progressive educational movement which arose from it, has been studied in teacher-training programs around the country for the last 30 years. In the early 1980s, Dr. Glasser developed an additional theory of human relationship for which he is also famous. It was originally called "control theory" and later renamed "choice theory" in the book by that same name from the 1990s. This book, Getting Together and Staying Together (GTST) is in the tradition of Dr. Glasser's choice theory ideas.
Of Dr. Glasser's published works, besides GTST, I have so far read the following: Schools without Failure, Control Theory, Choice Theory, The Language of Choice Theory, Reality Therapy in Action, What Is This Thing Called Love?, and Fibromyalgia: Hope from a Completely New Perspective. Based on reading all these books, my opinion is that if you are just discovering Dr. Glasser, GTST is probably the very best of his many works for your initial introduction to choice theory for the following reasons: (1) the book is relatively short; (2) it is easy to read; (3) it goes very concisely and clearly into every aspect of choice theory; (4) the information in it applies to every kind of relationship, not just marriage.
I am very impressed with Dr. Glasser's chosen writing style. I have not been privileged to hear Dr. Glasser speak in person, but my guess is that the reason his prose is so extremely accessible is that he writes in the same sensitive, direct, caring voice he uses to train therapists and to counsel his clients. As he so profoundly states in this and many of his other books on choice theory, the foundation of all progress in therapy is the client's trust in the therapist. And trust is based in several important qualities of the therapist, including: simplicity, honesty, directness, empathy and compassion.
Another cornerstone of Dr. Glasser's remarkable ideas is the highly unusual belief that the purpose of therapy is to get done with it as quickly and effectively as possible. I have spent many frustrating years observing fellow mental health professionals who believe (because they were trained to, and because it is so very profitable a practice) that it is "simply not possible to begin any meaningful therapy until adequate time has been spent discussing the scope of the client's problem." Unfortunately for therapy clients, "adequate" is usually defined as a minimum of five, and usually ten, 50-minute sessions of rehashing the client's entire life history billed out at $100-250/hour. In delightful contrast, Dr. Glasser states that from the very first second that he meets a new client, he wants to get the therapy moving toward teaching the client self-reliance based in self-responsibility. In pursuit of this goal, he refuses to waste time mulling over the client's painful past. He believes a therapist's proper focus is what is making the client miserable, right now, and that this is invariably trouble with an important relationship.
In short, the overall goal of Dr. Glasser's unique therapy (called "reality therapy") is to lead his clients to see that they are =not= helpless, hopeless victims of fate. Instead, he assists them in discovering that they have the wherewithal, at all times and places, to examine the current choices they are making, figure out if those choices are causing more pain than they are eliminating, and make new and better choices as needed.
I would highly recommend this wonderful book to you if you feel you are having trouble achieving close, intimate, emotional connections with others (either through not having a close relationship at all, or not feeling intimacy with someone who is supposed to be very close to you, such as a spouse). Also, if you read this book or any other written by Dr. Glasser and are impressed with his ideas, you can get a referral for a therapist in your area trained at the William Glasser Institute by contacting the institute directly via the internet. (I am not permitted to provide the web site here, but I located it easily for myself by using a search engine.)
Love after Marriage.......2000-06-12
Whoever wrote the words "for better or worse" into the marriage vows obviously had some experience of what the Glassers call "the mystery of marriage". How is it that people who get together into this most public of declarations of love find it so hard to stay together or even to stay as friends? The book "Getting Together and Staying Together" examines this issue in detail referring to marriage as "a practice in desperate need of improvement".
The book has an interesting history. It is written by a well-known and very experienced psychiatrist and his wife is co-author. It is a rewrite of a book that Dr. Glasser himself published in 1995 practically on the eve of his marriage to Carleen. The new version collates the wisdom of both their professional lives and especially of their married life together. As such it is a wonderful mixture of the therapist's eye and a couple's down-to-earth daily experience. Where the original "Staying Together" started from a Choice Theory perspective and applied it to marriage, this new book takes different marriage experiences as the starting point and processes the experiences in terms of Choice Theory. The mixture of e-mail messages, discussions, therapy examples and courageous self-disclosure by both authors bring this book to life and give it a very practical value. It even has a chapter on the surprisingly neglected topic of "sex after marriage".
Drawing interesting comparisons between marriage and friendship the authors show how the dangers of external control psychology creep so easily into married life. They speak of the "seven deadly habits" (criticism, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing) that hasten this death of marriage. They also point to how certain differences in a couple's needs intensities can make it more difficult to have a good relationship.
This book has a lot to offer any relationship but it would be fair to say that it deals most specifically with the more formal structures that encircle and threaten the marriage bond. The Glassers offer both the theoretical base and practical suggestions for improving, even resuscitating, a relationship. Most important of all, the book offers the reader a total shift in perspective. It elaborates a truly possible but not necessarily easy answer to the "joyless tedium" of an endangered relationship. It invites each person to take control of what the person really can control. One area it does not deal with explicitly is the changing nature of the relationship when children are born but it is a relatively easy matter for the reader to apply the Choice Theory principles to these and other situations.
I would very much recommend this book to anyone, married or not. Indeed it would provide excellent discussion material for pre-marriage courses and even for social and personal classes for young people. This is one of those rare books where the authors are preaching what they already practise ... and it's very definitely "for better".
Book Description
William Alexander had a simple dream of having a vegetable garden and small orchard in his backyard. It was a dream that would lead to life-and-death battles with groundhogs, webworms, and weeds; midnight expeditions in the dead of winter to dig up fresh thyme; skirmishes with neighbors who feed the vermin (i.e., deer); the near electrocution of the tree man; and the pity of his wife and children.
When Alexander decided to run a cost-benefit analysis, adding up everything from the Havahart animal trap ($60) to the Velcro tomato wraps ($5) to the steel edging ($1,200), then amortizing it over the life of his garden, it came as quite a shock to learn that it cost him a staggering $64 to grow each tomato.
A gardener with an existential bent, Alexander gives excellent advice about everything from peaches to leeks, while tackling such questions as What do our gardens tell us about ourselves? Do we get the gardens we deserve? And why does the groundhog have to take one bite from half a dozen tomatoes when any gardener would gladly grant him six bites of just one?
Customer Reviews:
Great book gift for green thumbs (and brown thumbs).......2007-08-09
I HATE gardening, but thoroughly enjoyed reading Alexander's odyssey of his quest to build his dream garden. Very funny account of epic battles with weeds, rodents, and bugs as he tries to prevent his little "hobby" from ruining his life. Your gardening friends will love this book (and non-gardeners will too!)
A tasty little story.......2007-08-02
His wife's insistence on an old fixer-upper of a house means the author can have the garden, orchard, and even meadow he's always dreamed. Once the house is livable--and everyone in town knows it has to be repaired to be livable--the owners start on the grounds. Landscape contractors, who are always late and leave their backhoe to winter in the author's yard, promise a garden to be proud of--and then bring plans for some very ordinary rectangles.
Not to be daunted, Alexander picks heirloom plants to grow his produce. He is determined to have the same fruit and experiences he remembers from his father's gardening. Organic gardening should be easy when he has only four trees and a small garden. He can pluck off the hungry worms and organically protect his crops from predators of all types.
After learning how much time is involved in using the organic bug sprays--first you find the caterpillar, then you spray him--how much it costs to put in something other than grass walkways, and that some animals are not deterred by six thousand volts, he gets down to serious gardening.
His wife and children begin to question his sanity. His plants don't always grow the way he expected. Who knew growing roses would kill the corn? Sitting down to calculate the cost of his succulent heirloom tomatoes gives him a jolt he thought he'd only get from his electric fence. Did his dad really do it this way? Had he been hoodwinked about how much fun this all was? When did the hobby become a second job?
You needn't be a gardener to enjoy the humor in this book. The history of tomatoes and potatoes, and insights on the Anasazi Indians thrown in with ridding the garden of Superchuck, the groundhog, is true fun for the reading. Cultivated entertainment.
Armchair Interview says: Humor and hoeing, planting and waiting, bugs and bug sprays flow together to give you an enjoyable read.
Enjoyable memoir of a man and his garden.......2007-07-26
I am by no means a gardening expert, more of a beginner, but I enjoyed this memoir of one man's obsession with and relationship with his garden. I found it informative and funny. I took as much what not to do, as what to do, from the book. I mean, you can see the excessiveness of his spending and learn from it as much as you can learn from the ways he fights pests on his fruit trees. I read books like this for inspiration and I was inspired by his mistakes and successes. All in all it was an enjoyable light read.
For the Gardening Obsessed.......2007-07-26
This book speaks to every obsessed gardener in America. The majority of the public, however, won't get it. They put in a few pansies, water them when they think of it and go on with their lives. But a few of us have an insatiable drive to work the soil, wage a constant war with the elements and beat off ravaging beasts just so we can be overwhelmed with too much produce.
Our neighbors think we're nuts--why would someone put themselves through all that labor and expense to get something they could buy at the corner market for $0.85 a pound? (Yeah, well I don't get the mountain climbing thing either.)
I like Alexander's writing--it was cute and witty and perfectly illustrated a man trying to work in his career, family and home improvement projects around his gardening obsession. All 2,000 square feet of it.
Although organic gardeners will be disgusted with how often Alexander reaches for the spray can, most will be able to relate to his journey.
A really cute read but I can't review the recipes as I didn't try them out yet.
As an animal lover..........2007-06-28
... I too was distressed by the chapters where the authors obsession defies his place at the top of the food chain and his "logical" abilities. When the local fauna decide that his exorbitantly expensive garden is the local salad bar, he goes on the war path and attempts to destroy everything alive that is not a plant.
While this is somewhat disheartening, it is also illuminating. I place this book alongside ElectroBoy on my bookshelf, and alongside The Omnivore's Dilemma, because it makes such a natural segue between the two.
William Alexander is truly obsessed with his garden. What ought to be a nice, pleasant way to pass time and to get some exercise and food turns into a dangerous obsession, resulting in damage to his finances, his health, his psyche, and his marriage.
It is amusing, in parts, however.
Read it, if only to see what lengths people will go to in order to save their hobby. It is an interesting study, really. Probably not a book I will read again, but it is one that I will think of from time to time.
Harkius
Customer Reviews:
A must for all abused persons.......2007-10-10
This is a great book for everyone that's been verbally abused, past and present. There is nothing like reading firsthand from someone that has been through all the emotions herself. Marcia Powers writes what we all feel and gives us a way to cope and answers our fears about leaving.
Not helpful at all... Please don't get this..........2007-09-17
I have read several books on verbally abusive relationships and I had to put this one down half way through, because like a previous reviewer stated it really does put too much blame on the victim. I would not recommend this book to anybody who is trying to get out of a verbally abusive relationship.
One of the better books on the subject.......2007-01-12
This book talks about how to manage your life, whether you get out of a verbally abusive relationship or not. However, I really think any book dealing with the subject should also include information on how to escape a harmful relationship. This book is excellent at identifying the problem, and giving realistic ways of dealing with yourself. But no one can survive constant crushing blows to their spirit, self-esteem, and identities forever. If one becomes aware, one must make a change.
Shines a harsh light - both ways.......2005-11-16
This is a tough book. As you can probably tell from the other reviews, there is great divisiveness on what everyone thinks this book is trying to say. As someone very much acquianted with verbal abuse, it is very easy for me to see the passions arise about this book, just as the passions arise when verbal abuse happens. I hope I can shed some light on this very touchy subject.
On the one side, the abuser "justifies" their behavior by claiming that the victim "caused" him to act that way (I use "him" because that is the most common). The victim "blames" the abuser because the abuser has "caused" her to feel worthless and "beaten." I believe this is the most common dynamic.
Let's just all agree that verbal abuse is disrespectful, harmful, and in general not a healthy activity because of the damage that it causes. This book helps the victim of verbal abuse drop her "victimhood" and take charge of her life in standing up to the abuse and getting out of the relationship, which in most, if not all cases, is the best thing to do. It correctly and clearly states the hard facts: Verbal abusers rarely take the time and effort to change their behavior, quite often see nothing wrong with it, and usually won't even admit that they ARE verbally abusive in the first place. Sacrificing the abused's happiness and well being because they believe they can change the abuser is not healthy or realistic. It is the abuser that must change. That rarely happens.
The book also serves a secondary function by addressing the not often talked about notion of the personal responsibility of the victim; As in the case of Patricia Evan's books, victimhood is on par with sainthood; that author blames the abuser and glorifies the victim, yet doesn't acknowledge the underlying problem: Why does someone continue to endure this abuse? How does the victim avoid it in the future, and become resilient to its affects?
There must be an element of self-acceptance and other-acceptance by the abused in order for any real healing to begin. Self-esteem, as Ellis argues forcefully in his other books, is a dangerous myth. Only with self-acceptance and other acceptance, without leveling blame, and with recognizing that being a victim is not a lifestyle that one lives and is happy doing so, will the abused be able to begin the path to healing.
If you are a verbal abuser and are struggling to come to terms with your actions, this book will certainly give you practice in empathy. It will be difficult to read for you, but very cathartic. Highly recommended for both abusers and abused, if combined with Ellis' Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (A Guide to Rational Living).
The 'secret' strategies imparted here have been tested by time .......2005-10-14
Mistreatment by a partner usually is considered physical, so most books on abuse focus on physical abuse - but verbal abuse is just as damaging, and THE SECRET OF OVERCOMING VERBAL ABUSE: GETTING OFF THE EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER AND REGAINING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE tells how to overcome it. The 'secret' strategies imparted here have been tested by time and aim to allow the reader to thwart self-doubt, guilt, depression and more. Author Albert Ellis is a renowned psychologist who works with psychological educator Marcia Grad Powers to create a program which works.
Book Description
What makes men pay Veronica Monet $2,500 an hour for her services?
After nearly 15 years of being an expensive escort, Veronica Monet shares her secrets in this intimate, funny, no-holds-barred guide, filled with anecdotes from her years in the “trenches.” Veronica Monet's Sex Secrets of Escorts is a must-have guide for any woman interested in enriching the sex life she shares with her partner. Includes helpful hints on:
-Lingerie
-Mood
-Erotic toys
-Techniques that only the “working girls” know
Customer Reviews:
An interesting read........2007-05-07
Although the book was well written and somewhat entertaining, it wasn't what I was expecting. Rather than being a manual filled with "techniques" it is more about the psychology of why men pay to see escorts. If you are interested in that, then this book is a very good one. If you are looking for detailed "how-too's" its not.
Sexy Title for Conventional Sexual Advice.......2006-07-17
I did not see the kind of detail I would expect from an escort with 18 years experience. You would expect that she could fill the book with remarkable anecdotes. Instead she will give examples of her husband's behavior! She talks about men who are ignorant and need advice about how to please a woman in bed. Her clients are all in love with their wives! It is quite a dull book of very banal sexual advice from a conventional woman's perspective. I am concerned if women should try to understand men using the author's "experience". Men will simply be bored.
This is a woman's book!.......2006-07-13
Those of you who want to crucify Monet for being an escort - hold your stones. Open your awareness of sex as a sacred act. Monet answers the calling that sex and spirit are one. Ladies, lets face it. Sex is her bread and butter. We can depend on her functional knowledge and expertise. Her simple presentation is not technique driven. It is the art and grace of sex as a component of a spiritual journey told in practical format. The tips she gives are logical and simple. They empower you because behind them resonates an eternal hum reminding you of the woman you've always been. Her narrative journey highlights ancient sexual knowledge that emerged and blossomed from within Monet herself. Yes, this book gives you the skills to treat your man like a God. Better yet, it reawakens the Goddess and directs the music of your heart to yourself.
Only if women knew.......2006-02-02
Having read this wonderful book from Veronica Monet's Sex Secrets of Escorts, if women would learn from her, there would be no need for escorts. And, I would be saving lots of money. Veronica fulfilled most of my personal needs from a woman, if I can find her.
the cover is the best part?.......2006-02-01
Kind of a snoozer, despite at times reading like a pep rally. Wait till the price goes down.
Customer Reviews:
Texas Size Trouble (5 + stars).......2007-02-16
Book Description: Secret Agent Lawman - Ever since DEA agent Alexander Cobb had given Jodie Clayburn a Texas-size brush-off, they'd been sworn enemies. But eight years later, an undercover operation brought them back together again. This cynical Long, Tall Texan couldn't believe the baby-faced schoolgirl was now an understated beauty who electrified his senses and his heart. Or that she'd help him crack the drug-smuggling case that threatened all of Jacobsville. Tantalized to the core, Alexander would risk everything to possess - and protect - the untouched young woman. This fearless secret agent always got his man -- or in this case, woman. But this time, would the man in control get caught in his own web of danger ... and desire?
Combine the typical story about the younger sister's best friend's crush-on turned love-for, the older brother with a DEA investigation; add a dash of humor, family issues, esteem issues; then include ties to the Long, Tall Texans of Jacobsville Texas, and the Mercenaries, aka Soldiers of Fortune, within a few pages and you have a story as only Diana Palmer can tell it.
Wonderful story..........2006-09-21
I loved this story by Diana Palmer...a great book. I thought it was a very good plot, kind of unique. What i liked the most was that Jodie wasnt portrayed as the usual weak female character. At one point she put her life in danger to save Alex's life. Jodie is tough, intelligent, and not afraid to say her feelings. Alex is just simply great. A very good story!
The worst plot ever.......2006-05-08
This story had no consistency what so ever. At one point, the author forgot the name of the main character. Not to mention, that there were 3 different explanations for the relationship of 1 of the characters parents. I am wondering if anyone even did any proofreading on this story at all. I realize that it is a romance, but the entire plot was left hanging at the end of the book. It seemed like the author was trying to keep the book to a specific number of words or pages and the entire plot was left unresolved.
Man in Control.......2006-03-21
I love this book. If you've read about Cy Parks & Eb Scott then this book will help bring some off the characters from those books into light. Alex Cobb & Jodie are great. This book is sad, funny & wonderful in the end.
palmerfan.......2006-01-06
This is a typical Palmer read, which means the male protagonist is a chauvinist/misogynist, and the heroine is a lovestruck virgin with no backbone who, it seems, is required to suffer a lot of verbal and emotional abuse and humiliation from him before he is able to realize/admit he loves her, and she then anxiously capitulates. The description of this book was misleading as it gave me the impression that after Jodie overheard Alex's excruciating insults, she finally had enough guts to say "who needs this?" and cuts her ties with Alex and Margie until, after 8 years, she agrees to help Alex bust drug dealers. Ms. Palmer's stories are interesting and the romance is hot (even though she only "alludes" to the sex), but I hate that her females are usually victims because they are sexually inexperienced.
Customer Reviews:
The least helpful book on prolonging intercourse!.......2005-09-01
It seems that most of the good and the bad reviews about this book are written by anonymous "reader" living in the middle of nowhere. I bought this and some of the other books available at Amazon hoping to improve my 12 years marriage. I reviewed all of them before I gave them to my husband. We both think that this is the least helpful. Yes, there are pictures but so what? We are not interested in poor quality porn magazine. If you want to improve your sex life it is better to consider one of the other books. They are more content rich and do not make it difficult for you to read them because of a huge font.
That's pretty funny.......2005-01-29
You complain about authors posting reviews of their own material anonymously, but you have no comments on the book... and you post ANONYMOUSLY! The book is excellent. Buy it and learn.
Cutest Photos.......2004-02-29
OK, I haven't read it yet, but I can tell it's neat by the pictures of the couple. They're no asphyxiated models like you normally see. They're a real, common, affectionate couple having a real neat time. They're so cute!
Helpful.......2003-07-05
Written by someone who really understands the subject matter and has sense of humor, this book is a must read for people who deal with premature ejaculation. I think techniques discussed in the book are useful. However, the best thing about this book is not its size or recommended techniques, but its attitude. Anyone who can get more relaxed, creative, humorous and proactive about the problem should be able to enjoy sex at a greater level and become more self-confedent.
And this book helps to get there.
Birch gives you the keys, but you must open the doors.......2000-12-15
Dr. Birch has written a fabulous book. For those that are hoping to read the book and have their problems solved RIGHT AWAY, then this book is not for you. However, by reading the book and following Dr. Birch's clear steps and suggestions, and then working with yourself to conquer your setback, the possibilites are endless. I went from about 10 minutes to an hour and a half. But most importantly, I am now able to be "in complete control", without the feelings of embarrassment and self let down. By reading the book, it gave me the keys to opening my sexual doors and walking through them successfully. It wont happen 1-2-3, but Dr. Birch lays out a wonderful path.
Average customer rating:
- Ignore older sour-grape review by author Sandra Brown
- It's not me...
- Great book
- Relationship Bible for Women
- Philosophy of Wellness
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The Manipulative Man: Identify His Behavior, Counter the Abuse, Regain Control
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Book Description
Conventional wisdom says that women are the manipulative ones-but tell that to the thousands of desperate women suffering at the hands of a manipulative man. Men can be just as sneaky, passive-aggressive, needy, underhanded, whiny, guilt-inducing, and emotionally demanding as women are accused of being-and more so! As any woman in love with a manipulative man can tell you, it's not easy to get past his charm and your guilt to a place where you can see your relationship for what it is-out of balance, extraordinarily stressful, emotionally exhausting, and potentially dangerous. The Manipulative Man is a groundbreaking prescription for dealing with the manipulative men in your life by using:
Tests to help women determine if they are involved with mama's boys, narcissists, sociopaths, or even psychopaths
Techniques for defining and setting boundaries with their men
Tools to help women improve their relationships with manipulative men
In The Manipulative Man, acclaimed psychotherapist Dr. Dorothy McCoy shows readers how to identify the type of manipulative man they're involved with, deal with the issues his behavior provokes, and, ultimately, salvage the relationship-or move on.
Customer Reviews:
Ignore older sour-grape review by author Sandra Brown.......2007-06-04
Please read this book for yourself as the author is writing her second book on this subject in seven years.
Sandra Brown is a later published author who has posted negative feedback, that I think should be deleted by Amazon because it is harrassment and slanderous.
I refer to the older, untrue, adolscent claim by Brown that "... McCoy copied my book..."
What Brown wrote about McCoy's book shows Brown is far from a professional. Why can't Sandra Brown see that her 'feedback' reveals the same ego-centrical, narcisstic personality traits and characteristcs that form the core personality of dangerous men in McCoy and Brown's own book. Moreover, Brown neglects to mention this author's earlier writings and contributions to the social problem of dangerous men, and has no context.
The real truth is that any trained MSW, psychologist, psychiatrist or other mental health professional should easliy be able to identify this type of personality and guide clients to a healthier emotional life; and more true is that people should be free to select from a variety of books on a subject and read the author whose writing style is memorable. It appears that Sandra Brown MA is not much smarter than a bag of rocks and she has shown it with her posting. Every good writer is either an instinctive or compulsive self-editor, but Sandra Brown' posting shows poor judgement and lack of character. I have written all this in the hope that she see the light on how she presents herself to the public.
People rate Brown's online articles with only average effectiveness.
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Possibly Brown, you are most effective in the prison system, counseling the men you write about.
Your public nastyness to another woman author, in the same field lacks integrity and shows immaturity. Amazon should not have let you start a nasty war with another author disguised as feedback.
It's not me..........2006-12-27
This book is a must read for anyone who has found themself in a relationship and second guessed their own sanity. I found myself glued to each chapter, seeing red-flags and finding answers to questions that I would not dare ask anyone. This is a great reference book to be picked up again and again.
The insight gained is invaluable.
The author's style is sprinkled with humor, and the reader is anxious to delve deeper into the human psyche. Once started, you cannot put it down.
Great advice for dealing with Emotional Vampires.
Great book.......2006-12-19
Manipulation doesn't have a gender, so when I read the Manipulative Man I thought of many men and women who would fit the "case" characters in the book. I just wish I had known how to recognize them at the times I was dealing with them and thinking that "I" was the one who was going crazy. I guess that was my first clue. The descriptions in this book make it easy to stop a manipulative person. It is good to know there are things that I can do to protect myself from these high maintenance people. I look at people from a slightly different perspective now. It really is a very readable and insightful book.
Relationship Bible for Women.......2006-12-13
Every woman on planet should have this book it is really powerful!
Philosophy of Wellness.......2006-11-01
Susan Brown, I wish you had talked to me and read my other books before you posted your unwarranted comments. Please notice I also wrote From Shyness to Social Butterfly, in 2001. The suggestions I gave then are the same suggestions I gave in The Manipulative Man. My book, The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests, was published in 2005. If you read it you will see that I use many of the same tests and make some of the same observations.
I have never seen your book. The quote I used from your book came from a Google search. In the academic tradition, I quote many authors (both books and articles).
I did not choose the format or the focus of the content for the Manipulative Man. It was written in the tradition of another book (read the back cover of The Manipulative Man) at the request of the Publisher.
I wrote my first book, a workbook, in 2001 on stress management. It is now a police related workbook called Losing Our Officers to Anger, Stress and Suicide: A Wellness Solution. I have presented on it at three international conferences. It also follows my philosophy for wellness: eat nutritious foods, get plenty of rest, exercise regularly, stay connected to people, know what you can control (and what you cannot), be aware of your cognitions and how they affect your emotions, cherish your sense of humor, value the unique person you are, use cooperation and conflict resolution in relationships, believe behaviors rather than words, be able to recognize unhealthy (and often incongruent) behaviors and don't needlessly upset yourself.
Susan, please read my other books, then we will talk. No doubt, you made an honest mistake. I wish you continued success with your books.
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