Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
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Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
John Eldredge
Manufacturer: Thomas Nelson
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Binding: Hardcover

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If Christian men are going to change from a pitiful, wimpy bunch of "really nice guys" to men who are made in the image of God, they must reexamine their preconceptions about who God is and recover their true "wild" hearts, writes bestselling author John Eldredge in Wild at Heart: Discovering a Life of Passion, Freedom, and Adventure. Eldredge throws down the gauntlet--men are bored; they fear risk, they refuse to pay attention to their deepest desires. He challenges Christian men to return to authentic masculinity without resorting to a "macho man" mentality. Men often seek validation in venues such as work, or in the conquest of women, Eldredge observes. He urges men to take time out and come to grips with the "secret longings" of their hearts. Although the book succeeds best in its slant toward a male audience, it also strives to help women understand the implications of authentic masculinity in their relationships with men. Eldredge frames the book around his outdoor experiences and appealing anecdotes about his family, sprinkling the text with touches of humor and overlying everything with heartfelt passion. Even as he mixes eclectic ideas about masculinity from popular movies such as Braveheart with classic words from Oswald Chambers, and lyrics from the Dixie Chicks with stories from the Bible, he points to only one answer for men searching for their true wildness of heart. Writes Eldredge, "The only way to live in this adventure ... with all its danger and unpredictability and immensely high stakes ... is in an ongoing, intimate relationship with God." --Cindy Crosby

Book Description

God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.

Customer Reviews:

2 out of 5 stars Misses the Mark.......2007-09-28

Has some good open insights, but misses the mark as the author wants us to return to the patriarchal ways of thinking that actually hurts true masculinity.Men-The Gods of Love

5 out of 5 stars Wild at Heart Rocks.......2007-09-27

Wild at Heart rocks! Perfect view of God and men - No. A great motivator for men to develop a deep and very personal relationship with God - Yes. Having read the book a couple of times, and now having read other John Eldredge books, I can tell you that my spiritual walk with God has been completely changed in a very meaningful way. In fact 'changed' is probably a word that does not completely convey the real impact of the message on my life -- 'Warped Across the Universe' would be more descriptive.

As a few reviewers have highlighted, the book is not perfect. Nor is it the answer to every man's questions about his masculinity and how we are all formed in God's image. It simply provides a strong framework to think differently about what it means to be a man but yet a Christian.

As mentioned again by several reviewers, although the book has a little bravado here and there, it is not license to mistreat other people, especially not the women in our life's. The message is very clear. Although the God is a Warrior, He is also a compelling force who loves mankind deeply.

Bottom-line about this book is that message, can at least for some men, revolutionize their thinking about God, Church, their families and their relationships with other people. It has changed me in a personal a deep manner that this review cannot even begin to express.

5 out of 5 stars Wonderfully Spiritual and Invigorating - Not Just For Men!.......2007-09-25

I cannot speak highly enough of this book! I learned so much from reading it--about myself, about my husband, about life! In fact, I think I'll read it AGAIN!

5 out of 5 stars Truly Transformational!!.......2007-09-18

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I've seen the message from this book transform not only my own life, but the lives of many, many others as well.

The Eldredges have such a wonderful way of awakening the heart to its natural hunger and thirst for God. They throw us head long into a journey of pursuing God with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength.

The pursuit results in total transformation. Mediocre religion doesn't cut it anymore. We have to have God and we have to see Him powerfully and fully integrated in our every day lives. Walking with God, hearing His voice, knowing His guidance and leading in our lives changes everything.

For true stories of lives transformed because of the power of this message as presented by the Eldredges, see the real life accounts in the Amazon book, Treasures of the Kingdom.

5 out of 5 stars Timing is everything.......2007-09-13

I actually read this book about 4 years ago and remember thinking it was pretty good, BUT for some reason I picked it up a few weeks ago and re-read it. POWERFUL insight. Then just as I was finishing the book, my Dad died. There are no coincidences. This book answered a lot of deep questions I didn't even know I had. It was a real life shaper. TO those of you who are fathers to boys,.. its a MUST READ. The authors insight is right-on and much different than what you would expect from a "Christian author". BTW, I could see why some women might have a problem understanding and accepting some of his insights. I'd say they just need to listen, observe and keep an open mind. This book can save relationships.
The Doctor's Heart Cure, Beyond the Modern Myths of Diet and Exercise: The Clinically-Proven Plan of Breakthrough Health Secrets That Helps You Build a Powerful, Disease-Free Heart
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The Doctor's Heart Cure, Beyond the Modern Myths of Diet and Exercise: The Clinically-Proven Plan of Breakthrough Health Secrets That Helps You Build a Powerful, Disease-Free Heart
Al, M.D. Sears
Manufacturer: Dragon Door Publications
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Would you like to save yourself the indignity, inconvenience and foul taste of modern diet fads? Are you sick and tired of frittering away your money on heart medications that leave you feeling more wretched than ever? Do you spend frequent, precious hours jogging or pounding away at the gym? And despite all of this effort, are you still fatter and weaker than you want to be?

Then it's time to abandon the Modern Gospel of low-fat food and long-duration exercise as a path to heart health. We need the very opposite, says Al Sears, M.D. in The Doctor's Heart Cure. According to Dr. Sears, heart disease continues to be America's biggest killer - and obesity has reached epidemic proportions - because of the fad for low-fat diets and despite aerobics.

Your heart's salvation lies in reengineering the diet and exercise habits of our hunter-gatherer ancestors to fit our modern culture. What does this entail? To build a strong and resilient heart, says Dr. Sears, engage in brief, explosive bouts of intense exercise. Consume a diet rich in high quality fat, pasture-fed meat, free-range dairy, wild-caught fish and liberal helpings of low-glycemic fruits and vegetables. Avoid grain-based starches as best you can. And take appropriate supplements to counteract the nutritional deficiencies of modern produce.

As Director of The Center for Health and Wellness, an integrative medicine and anti-aging clinic in south Florida, Dr. Sears has used this plan to help more than 15,000 patients successfully reverse heart disease, build stronger hearts, manage their weight and abandon their heart medications. In The Doctor's Heart Cure, for the first time, Dr. Sears reveals his entire, proven program, so you too can safely build an impregnable heart.

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Why starches - not fat - are the villains behind heart disease
Why traditional "cardio" may be harmful to your heart
Why cholesterol does not cause heart disease
The real reasons obesity has been skyrocketing in America
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How to enjoy a diet rich in fat and animal protein — while strengthening your heart
How The Doctor's Heart Cure makes it easier-than-ever to reach and maintain your ideal bodyweight
Why heart disease continues to be America's biggest killer
Why the conventional approach to heart disease fails
The three key principles for building heart health
The new paradigm for healing heart disease and achieving heart health
How to rediscover your natural diet
What our ancestors really ate
The link between heart attacks and other health problem
How AGEs accelerate the aging of the heart — and how to control them
Why long-duration exercise is a waste of your time, and can actually cause other health problems
Why "downsizing" you heart could you be setting you up for premature death
How to increase your heart's horsepower
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How maintain healthy testosterone levels
The heart attack risks from long-distance running
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Why endurance exercise encourages fat production.
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The most important predictor for chronic heart failure
How to build muscle mass with effective interval workouts
The tragic consequences of the cholesterol drug campaign
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The truth about cholesterol drug research and the incidence of heart disease
The many health dangers of statins - and the healthier, cheaper alternatives
Why heart medications can make your symptoms worse — and the safer alternatives
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Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Compelling read.......2007-09-30

This book providers the information the reader needs to know.Backed up with footnotes.It definately has a possitive impact.

4 out of 5 stars Very Interesting.......2007-06-21

This book talks about some of our more important concerns: our health, our food and our lives. I'm used to read and think about what I read, to compare it with other sources. Dr. Al Sears has made a great job by showing lots of researchs to add to the credibility of his words. I'm slowing modifying my habits, so that I can follow his advices.

5 out of 5 stars PACE yourself.......2007-06-13

I found this book engrossing and what Dr. Sears has to say is very useful and practical. I am trying to use the PACE exercise program with some success although I am uncertain about the fat burning as I sleep. His food diet is just good sense and backed up by many health "authorities", so I think this book from cover to cover is a winner.

3 out of 5 stars A Good Book for Beginners.......2007-05-13

I did not learn anything that I didn't already know from this book. I am, however, one who is involved with continuous nutritional tune-ups and physical fitness. The advice and techniques are similar to those that
body builders already use. As I said in my title, this is a good starter book.

3 out of 5 stars Satisfied.......2007-05-06

The book was very informative. However, with all the health and diet books I have read, they all seem to be similiar in many of the subjects. I just have to siphen out the parts that I believe and try to apply them in my daily life. It was very well written but like all books, you cant agree with everything. I was satisfied but not overwelmed. Thanks.
Ron Caylor
Wild at Heart Field Manual: A Personal Guide to Discover the Secret of Your Masculine Soul
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Wild at Heart Field Manual: A Personal Guide to Discover the Secret of Your Masculine Soul
John Eldredge
Manufacturer: Thomas Nelson
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Abandoning the format of workbooks-as-you-know-them, the Wild at Heart Field Manual takes men on a journey through which John Eldredge encourages them to be dangerous. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires, aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives men permission to be what God designed them to be -- dangerous, passionate, alive, and free. This book is filled with questions, exercises, journaling ideas, and guided exploration of the arts that will lead men on a journey to discover the masculine heart that God gave them.

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5 out of 5 stars Wild at Heart Field Manual.......2007-08-25

I purchased 4 of these books for my sons, on the recommendation of I man I work with. My oldest son said he usually doesn't like self help books, but after reading the first chapter "very intersting.....it hit home". I have promises from my other sons they will now read it. I am happy with my purchase.

5 out of 5 stars Excellent Resource.......2007-01-28

This is the field manual for the book Wild At Heart. Mine is very worn from having been worked through 4 times. This is a great resource if you are working through Wild At Heart, either by yourself or in a group. It will help you really examine and work through the book.

This workbook is well laid out with lots of room for answers, and a number of little sections to help you on your journey as you work through it. Some of these supplemental sections are:
· A Break in the Clouds
· From the Map
· Warning!
· Dispatch
· Getting Your Bearings

Each chapter which parallels the book, begins with a 'Gut Reaction' - what is your first take on that chapter in the book? This helps set the bearings for where you will go in that chapter. As you work through it you will be drawn deeper and deeper into the masculine journey.

Eldredge begins each chapter with quotes that span church history and denominations. He must be one of the most widely read men I have encountered. He draws from that breadth of knowledge to show a variety of views on topics and tries to help you see where God is wanting to work in your life.

The one drawback, if you use it in conjunction with the DVD curriculum, is that the DVD does not follow the book exactly, and with 12 chapters in the book and field manual that follow each other exactly, and 8 in the DVD, it doesn't seem weighted evenly.

The Field Manual is indispensable if you are going to work through the DVDs and is a great supplement to the original book. For you, or other men in your life, this book will be a great tool on your journey to authentic Christian manhood.

5 out of 5 stars Wild at Heart.......2006-03-11

it was a great support of the book, Wild at Heart. It took the book into a deeper level.

5 out of 5 stars A whole new perspective.......2006-01-31

This book answered many questions I have had for years: about myself, about the church; about Christianity. It launched me on a search for these things that has been very enlightening. I highly recommend getting the Field Guide to Wild at Heart which will help make the things in the book a very personal experience.
Pure theolgists and members of churchs that think they have the only way will probably be very upset by this book. For those who want to open their minds and hearts, it is an unforgetable journey.

5 out of 5 stars wild at heart.......2005-10-07

I have not finished this book as I am writing this. I can say the first 40 pages are worth the purchase price. Eldredge really seems to know how a man is to relate to Jesus. Its fairly obvious he enjoys a healthy relationship with our risen savior Jesus--and shows that we all can. Read it......if you dare.
The Rules(TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
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The Rules(TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
Ellen Fein , and Sherrie Schneider
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An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide. Curious bachelors have been observed studying The Rules, some frowning, others with the supercilious smile of the hunter.

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An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide. Curious bachelors have been observed studying The Rules, some frowning, others with the supercilious smile of the hunter.

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You are a creature unlike any other (Rule #1)--that's why you need . . . The Rules. A simple set of dos and don'ts, The Rules will lead you to where you want to be: in a healthy, committed relationship. Unlike today's haphazard dating customs, The Rules recognizes certain facts of life. That men know what they want. That a man is either attracted to you--or not! That men want a challenge, not an instant or easy victory. When you follow these commonsense guidelines, you treat yourself with respect and dignity--and demand that men do likewise. Although they sound old-fashioned ("Don't see him more than once or twice a week"), they encourage you to lead a full, satisfying, busy life--outside of romance. Although they seem tough ("Don't talk to a man first"), they will teach you how to accept occasional defeat and move on. And although they require discipline ("No more than casual kissing on the first date"), they will bring out the best in you and in the men you date. The goal? Marriage, in the shortest time possible, to a man you love, who loves you even more than you love him.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Followed the rules! Now blissfully MARRIED!!!.......2007-10-10

The Rules is a great book. As a feminist, I want to say that this book works for women who are tired of doing all the work. As a wife, my husband is glad that I followed the rules because he told me that he respected me more than any woman he dated before me.

The men who comment here who are against 'games' are men that we women should avoid! Run fast because this 'man' wants to be lazy, unaccountable, boring and most importantly not thoughtful.

Us women strategize about our education, our careers, and how we take care of our bodies...and that is responsible, but somehow having some guidelines and goals for our romantic lives is considered trite by many of the reviewers. Well let them bumble in the dark. I read The Rules and I worked them and they worked for me!

1 out of 5 stars Hm..........2007-09-18

The most interesting thing about this book is that Ellen Fein DIVORCED after the publication of this book (in 2001, I believe). Shouldn't this be a gigantic red flag for anyone considering buying this trash?

I mean, aside from the fact that neither of them are qualified counselors, nor do they have any sort of professional background.

Of course, I may have a personal hatred for this book, seeing as my own thrice-divorced mother decided that this was an appropriate gift for me... when I was only 12.

2 out of 5 stars "I did accidently get married to Mr Wrong using this book though I must admit.".......2007-09-17

As a man I suggest: be careful.

"Rules" behavior is "very desirable girl" behavior systematized; it's personal branding (i.e., somehwat false) to weed out (mostly) useless players and genuinely low-status males to a lesser extent (girls want to hook the highest-possible status male with "honest," long-term intent; or alternately entrance a reliable shlub and probably cheat on him). "Rules" behavior comes naturally for high-status girls because their lives are filled with people and multiple potential suitors every day, usually for a reason: because they're hot and charming, in that order. Now by the Rules, the man is supposed to intuit and codify the woman's high social status, therefore mentally exalting her as "virgin" rather than "whore," and therefore "a serious mate," which is the only man a decent girl wants, theoretically, making the Rules seem good for women out for long-term mates.

All the times I've been in love have been no-sex situations, I'm sorry to report. This mimics Pleistocine times when two people naturally grow into an item over at least a few sexless years, and everyone occupies the same tribal ground on a daily basis; anybody's status is already basically known by everyone: what they do, how useful and hot they are, and what the cultural ideals exalt. Everybody's status is a little variable, but common knowledge and regularly discussed (indeed, probably the most interesting thing to discuss, especially for women ((hence gossip mags, which fill the need with celebrity simulacrums))).

There's the rub: in Pleistocine times, as a "Rules"-ish girl, you could jabber away with your girlfriends by the girl-fire, maddeningly flirt with other males, not talk to the man for several days, driving him crazy, wait for his approach, and this would come naturally, and you'd very organically "hook" the male, who you've probably known for years, and hey, he's developed genuine love for you, however temporary. In our times, "Rules" behavior wants to convey the image of high status, which would be more organically transmitted in previous epochs. You're trying to artificially engineer, probably over a smaller space of time, how marriage-love happens. And it can work.

But as a man in this society, I don't know you, you don't know me (everybody agrees it's really, really awkward at first), which is the exact opposite of the Pleistocine. I meet you at a bar, I have a tenuous connection to you; you bail on a phone call, I still don't know you. I'm trying to figure you out, of course, so you can exploit this mystique, but your existence is barely definite to me. Your evasion might make me interested, but if I know other sexy girls who are much more definite in my mind, why bother? You potentially exclude the most happening men, who you'd be most interested in marrying, provided they weren't chronic philanderers, and their having an active social life where you're not initially important does not necessarily make them philanderers. Telegraphing your status by the Rules doesn't mean anything if nobody's listening. Men will "listen" to your protracted and indirect conveyance of status to the extent you're uncommonly attractive and charming. If you're a little unattractive, your rouse will possibly hook a desperate shlub, only, and you'll be like the guy who only dated fat girls off of Craig's List: doomed to mediocrity by the dating conditions you observe.
It's not wrong to call this strategy fundamentally just "bluffing;" in a bluff, you imagine the smoothest operator (who you want) not falling for it.

Maybe some mystery propels me at you: but likely how propelled I am is based on how attracted I am to you, how "cool" you seem on what little I know of you, and that requires substantial, if fragmentary, prior knowledge. A very gregarious, great man might barely have an IMPRESSION of who you are, even if he goes on a couple dates with you. Instead he'll find somebody who has already MADE AN IMPRESSION, due to how our society is set-up right now. Not talking, not making dates, ending phone-calls; that's only effective to the degree you've already solidified your hotness/high social status/definiteness as a reliable personality who exists in the man's mind, and "nerd"-y imagination is the best engine to create this image. So the Rules can function like nerd-bait; probably not what you want.

There's your second rub: male pick-up artists make more sense, for men, since women take 80% of status from behavioral and cognitive cues to place them in a big social picture. Men take the majority of your status-idea from your image, how hot you are. This might be an evolutionary freak. I've known conventionally "beautiful" women whose personalities utterly kill my attraction, it's rare but it happens...OVER SEVERAL MONTHS. Men's insanely easy-to-predict superficiality may be based on the fact we don't know any of you yet, but hey, our innate superficiality is five times yours, so we get obsessed with it. Still, in the long-term, ESPECIALLY with marriage, your personality DOES matter, and I don't mean lame evasion-techniques to create temporary mystique and sexual fixation. That only works on the suckers, the losers.

All men would more or less love 100 sexually-attractive girlfriends at once, so if you're too much too fast and too easy, it's easy to imagine a man codifying you as an ideal slut (your behavior indicates in itself other females could be sexual doormats). That's something to keep in mind, but being overly evasive and non-sexual, if you're not exceptionally attractive, is more dangerous for you in our times. Obviously, if your whole package is wonderful, even if you're a little "easy," you gain hand by suggesting you'll leave him. Implementing the Rules in the first months sets up a stupid game where the question is how important you are to him, and the answer is: 1)how hot you are, 2)how willing he is to jump through hoops based on nothing but hot you are (answer: as willing as he is a worthless nerd).

Avoidance when the man barely knows you traffics in partial insanity, since your social coolness is largely irrelevant to men (he knows how hot you are, based on how hot you are, and can accurately imagine how easily you can get laid). In fact, your attachment to other men ("I'm already going out on Saturday with some friends") means virtually nothing to him, because he knows other men desire you, if you're desireable. Overall such smokescreens probably have a negligable effect; when I think of other men going out with girls I've been really into, it creates jealousy (moreso if I know the male), but if I don't know the male, it induces a desire, after a while, to let the girl go. After all I can't compete with a man I can barely imagine. On the other hand, if a man is going out on Saturday, a woman's knowledge that he has other females desiring him is probably more important by a factor of three at least.

So contemporary human sexuality is virtually FUBAR, due to the evolutionarily unprecedented need for a woman to become a real person with high status, in the man's eyes, and also not be so available. A woman who wants a long-term mate should find a balance between creating familiarity and evasiveness. I guess that's what most girls try to do naturally.

Acting like a princess could systematically alienate the really great men. The Rules are probably best for girls who want to marry dorks and cheat on them.





5 out of 5 stars This Book is right on the money.......2007-08-17

I honestly cannot fathom why there is such an outcry about this book. Can someone please explain to me why it's such a terrible thing for a woman to hold a man to high standards.

It was easy to do the rules when I was younger. Men drove to my house (I lived with my parents while I was in college) and I had a curfew. I grew up in a small town so if a man was a player or a bad person, we all knew about him. The village of women in a small town usually stick together.

If you now live in a big metropolis like I do, the men with bad intentions can easily hide in the crowds.

I'm not saying all women act with integrity but neither do all men.

Everytime I do the rules, I attract a man who adores me. Pure and simple.

Let's examine why some of these rules work.

Only returning calls. Women like to talk on the phone for hours, men don't. When you call a man you run the risk of him being in the middle of the game or busy with a hobby. When a man calls you, it's because you're on his mind and he has something to say.

Not meeting a man halfway. Trust me, if a man wants to see a game, a fight, a concert, etc...he will drive a 100 miles if he has to.

Not talking to men first. If a man is interested he will find a way to contact you. There are shy men granted, but if a man is really interested, he'll make it happen.

The man HAS to set the tone of the relationship. You want a man who is delighted to take you down the aisle of marriage, not a man you have to "force" or give an ultimatum to.

You CAN do the rules and be yourself but you have to use some sense of decorum when you first meet someone. You can't let it all hang out. Would you do that on a job interview? I think not.

The Rules help women who are too "nice". Being "nice" doesn't get you married, doing the Rules do.

I'm now single and dating again after breaking off a long term relationship that was not going to end up in marriage. I could have stayed and dated him for the next 20 years but I want marriage. He didn't, I do and we're now broke up, pure and simple. When I meet men now I don't even mention the relationship. If they ask I simply say he went one way and I went the other way and I'd rather not bore you with stories of an ex and I leave it that.

Now the Rules doesn't mean you can look like a slob. I eat right, I workout like a fiend, I have long hair and a healthy body. That's what men like period. I don't dress for women, I dress for men.

I am doing the rules again and ladies it works. It doesn't matter how old you are, they work. I'm now living life to the fullest, I go places where there are single eligible men, I'm really happy and over the bitterness of the breakup and I'm ready to meet my future sweetheart.

It's only a matter of time before he finds me and I'll be doing the Rules to the "T".



5 out of 5 stars The Rules.......2007-08-13

Many thanks for the prompt service. The book arrived in very good condition in New Zealand.
Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
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  • Another excellent one!!!!!!!
Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More
Joe Vitale , and Ihaleakala Hew Len
Manufacturer: Wiley
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Praise For Zero Limits

"This riveting book can awaken humanity. It reveals the simple power of four phrases to transform your life. It's all based in love by an author spreading love. You should get ten copies of it——one for you and nine to give away. It's that good."
—— Debbie Ford, New York Times bestselling author of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

"I love this book! I feel it will be the definitive personal-change/self-help book for at least a generation and viewed as a watershed event by historians. There is real potential for this book to start a movement that will end war, poverty, and the environmental devastation of our beloved planet."
—— Marc Gitterle, MD, www.CardioSecret.com

"This book is like a stick of dynamite, and the moment you start reading, the fuse is lit.

It blows away all the complex and confusing success paradigms of the past and reveals a refreshing and clear path to transform your life with just one simple step. As you explore Zero Limits with Vitale, be prepared for a journey that is both challenging and inspiring beyond anything you've imagined."
—— Craig Perrine, www.MaverickMarketer.com

"There are more than 6 billion different manifestations of human existence on the planet?and only one of us here. In Zero Limits, Vitale has captured the truth that all great spiritual, scientific, and psychological principles teach at the most fundamental level. Boil it all down to the basics and the keys are quite simple—— the answer to all life's challenges is profound love and gratitude. Read this book; it's a reminder of the truth and ability you already possess."
—— James Arthur Ray, philosopher and bestselling author of Practical Spirituality and The Science of Success

"Wow! This is the best and most important book Vitale has ever written!"
—— Cindy Cashman, www.FirstSpaceWedding.com

"I couldn't put it down. This book elegantly sketches what I've learned and learned about in twenty-one years of personal study, and then it takes it to the next level. If you're looking for true peace along with 'the good stuff,' then this book is for you."
—— David Garfinkel, author of Advertising Headlines That Make You Rich

"Zero Limits is Vitale's adventure into the most mind-altering reading experience of your life."
—— Joseph Sugarman, President, BluBlocker Sunglasses, Inc.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars transformational book.......2007-10-05

Zero Limits can only be described as life altering. The pure and simple practices of the Hawaiian healing method detailed in the book can literally change the world as we know it.

5 out of 5 stars Rev Theresa Claytor, GCFP, CLL.......2007-10-04

This book is so simple that it is hard to fathom. I have been using this ancient Hawaiian healing system and it has been working for me. In order to let go of hoping I can forgive somebody else for a perceived wrong, I just ask to be forgiven. I now know that everything exists within me and not out there. So the way out of a problem is to go within. Thanks I needed that.

1 out of 5 stars Another rediculous rip-off.......2007-10-03

Nothing but sales pitch for his other books, his seminar, and he says nothing about real Ho'O Ponopono.
And I am disgusetd by his published claim that he is "The Jesus of Business".

5 out of 5 stars The Way To Go.......2007-10-01

I bought "Zero Limits", from [...]. Once I started reading it I couldn't put it down. It was fasinating, clear and informative. I enjoyed it so much I bought another copy for my daughter. I'm putting the information to work in my daily life. WHAT A WAY TO GO!!! I'm a much happier camper. I sinceerely recommend it. It will be a valuable part of your library and life. Thank you. E. Thompson

5 out of 5 stars Another excellent one!!!!!!!.......2007-09-30

This is the second book by Joe Vitale that I have finished in record time! He has me hook, line and sinker.
I thought "The Attractor Factor" was great, but this one makes me even more of a true fan of his work.
ANYONE who buys "Zero Limits" will greatly benefit from the information it contains. As far as I am concerned, there is NO OTHER self improvement bok or guru on the market. Joe Vitale's works blow them ALL out of the water.
I can't wait for "The Key" in a few weeks!
Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart
Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
  • Inspiring, funny, appropriate and real
  • practical, down to earth advice
  • Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart
  • A NEW WOMAN
  • a must read for all women
Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart
Michelle McKinney Hammond
Manufacturer: Harvest House Publishers
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ASIN: 1565078438

Book Description

Women will discover the rules and scriptural principles about love that ensure solid, godly relationships. Secrets offers practical advice, inspiring prayers, and study questions to help women understand and recognize real love.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Inspiring, funny, appropriate and real.......2007-06-16

I stumbled upon this book and am so glad I did.

The author has an obvious love and passion for Jesus and a desire to tell others about how to be a godly and virtuous woman. Forget "The Rules" - Read and apply the principals outlined in the book and fall in love with the Savior. In a culture that forces one to immediate gratification, this book will inspire and motivate you to pray for your husband to FIND you ("He who finds a wife finds a good thing") while you are pursuing God's plan for your life. In addition to inspiring single women, this book also encourages married women and provides practical advice to becoming an irresistable wife.

The book is easy to read, humorous, points to Jesus, scripturally based and applicable for today. I like the use of scriptural stories which illustrate not only how to be a godly and faith inspired woman, but how the scriptures are truely timeless and relevant. She also starts each chapter with a prayer - beautiful, powerful and authentic prayer - preparing the heart of the reader to greater faith.

5 out of 5 stars practical, down to earth advice.......2007-05-15

I found this to be a very down to earth book with practical advice. I have begun applying some of Michelle's principles and am finding that they really do work. Recently divorced after 28 years of marriage, I was a little unsure of how to approach dating again. I am now in a new relationship. This handy reference has helped my self assurance and I am using my power much more effectively than I ever would have otherwise. Thanks, Michelle!

5 out of 5 stars Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart.......2007-02-17

I think this book is a must have for all single and seeking women. It certainly changed my outlook, and I have since stopped seeking and resolved that Mr. Right will find me.

5 out of 5 stars A NEW WOMAN.......2007-01-05

WOW! This book was so awesome...again, the title would make you think you would become so intriguing and irresistible you'd snag your next mate. NOT SO!
This book helped you to wash away the residue of old hurts and wrong mindsets. To have a heart for the Lord! SO WONDERFUL!
I bought 8 copies of this book for friends and family. It was so life changing I had to share this wealth of knowledge.

5 out of 5 stars a must read for all women.......2006-10-12

I wish that I could have read this book when I was single, because I would have avoided a lot of heartache. This book helped me even as a married woman to make my relationship better. This is the best book I have ever read about relationships. This is her best!
Courageous Souls: Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth?
Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
  • So that's why . . .
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  • An Empowering Way to Reframe Painful Challenges in Our Lives
  • Some of life's challenges explained.
  • Why Human Challenges Exist!
Courageous Souls: Do We Plan Our Life Challenges Before Birth?
Robert Schwartz
Manufacturer: Whispering Winds Press
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0977679454
Release Date: 2006-12-16

Book Description

Courageous Souls explores the premise that we are all eternal souls who plan our lives, including our greatest challenges, prior to birth for purposes of spiritual growth. The book contains ten true stories of people who planned physical illness, having handicapped children, deafness, blindness, drug addiction, alcoholism, losing a loved one, and severe accidents. Because very different life challenges are often planned for similar reasons, readers who have not faced these specific challenges will nevertheless see themselves - and their motivations as a soul - in these stories. As readers come to realize that they themselves planned their lives, suffering that once seemed purposeless becomes imbued with deep meaning. Wisdom may be acquired in a more conscious manner; feelings of anger, guilt, blame, and victimization are replaced by acceptance, forgiveness, peace, and gratitude.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars So that's why . . ........2007-10-08

If you ever want to get into the backside of your pre-birth planning of your life challenges, read Courageous Souls by Robert Schwartz. Want to know why you attract illness, accidents, birth defects? Want to know why you chose a life of alcoholism or drug addiction, or are around someone who has? Read this book. The stories, while may start out slow at first, are powerful and insightful. Just stick with them. Robert uses mediums who are able to access multiple guides at one time, and your primary guide and listen in on conversations between you and your soul group.

2 out of 5 stars not credible.......2007-09-30

I got to p. 300 and started reading another book. I found this book painstakingly slow to read, the information provided by the mediums: farfetched, and the conclusions drawn by the author, hard to swallow. Often, when mediums are tired, their accuracy rate diminishes. I never heard of any of the mediums used in this book. Robert Schwartz makes everything so complicated when the subject matter is really quite easy to understand. The book just doesn't flow easily and it's not a page turner in my opinion. I'm a believer, but this book really is a waste of time and money. Read Journey of the Soul by Michael Newton, PhD. Instead of using mediums, he enters the superconsciousness of his clients and elicits information from them directly about their experiences on The Other Side.

5 out of 5 stars An Empowering Way to Reframe Painful Challenges in Our Lives.......2007-09-17

It has been said that asking oneself the question, "Who was I before I was born?" can teach us the most about our true spiritual identity -- yet few of us have been so enlightened as to have heard the full reply. COURAGEOUS SOULS takes this starting point one step further by exploring just how we may have crafted our entire life around all of our life circumstances -- both the high and the low points.

What sets Robert Schwartz's book apart from other books about spirituality, reincarnation and the afterlife is his organized use of intuitive readings as companion pieces to accompany the various life stories he includes. These intuitive sessions provide a deep sense of interconnectedness and unconditional love shared in our lifetimes which we sometimes lose sight of, as well as insights into how we continue learning life lessons from one life to the next. The stories include descriptions of people who have experienced tremendous suffering who are greatly inspired and relieved to see an underlying sense of purpose and meaning to all they have gone through.

COURAGEOUS SOULS is an exceptional book for anyone interested in exploring the true nature of their spiritual identity, who is willing to keep an open mind regarding the value of some of the most painful challenges we humans face in our lives on Earth; this is highly recommended reading for anyone seeking to reframe and find deeper meaning from the painful challenges, setbacks or hardships in their lives.

5 out of 5 stars Some of life's challenges explained........2007-09-06

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Before I even finished reading this book, I ordered more and had them sent to my friends. This book is amazing.

Told through many soul journies, Robert Schwartz brought in the talents of true mediums who were able to discover decisions that these people made before they were born - again. He did not use just one medium, but several, and they are listed in the back of the book. The individuals who shared their stories are also listed with email addresses -- and if they are able and have the time they will answer your questions.

This book came to me at a time I really needed to be reminded of my own experiences through many lives and the time between our next life. The stories are beautiful because they are able to explain why certain tragedies happen to a person.

I highly recommend this book, especially to those with open and searching minds.

5 out of 5 stars Why Human Challenges Exist!.......2007-08-28

Courageous Souls is highly recommended to anyone trying to understand the suffering, tragedy or loss that has caused them to question life, death and/or God. And who among us is not inflicted by such challenges and questions in our lifetime? In my eight years researching life after death, spirituality and life purpose, I have discovered no better explanation of why human challenges exist than what is so eloquently written in Robert Schwartz's book.

Bob Olson, [...]
All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
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  • I am a feminist and I love this book
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ASIN: 0446618799

Customer Reviews:

3 out of 5 stars A Good Defense.......2007-08-19

Recommended reading for guys who don't want to be manipulated by this sort of behavior.

2 out of 5 stars Glad I read this book.......2007-03-21

Glad I read this. I think most men know that most women do this stuff unconsciously. The authors seem to brand all men the same suggesting that these manouvers are guaranteed to work, while not taking into account the men out there who have high standards and high character. Men have a lot more power in attracting women... (hot chick with ugly guy, but never the opposite). Women have looks, hence the need to use this book.

4 out of 5 stars Reading Material.......2007-02-20

This is a book for those of you who don't remember the rules or just want one book for everything. I love it and even bought some for friends of mine and they also love the book.

5 out of 5 stars I am a feminist and I love this book.......2007-02-08

I am a feminist and I love this book. I have read it several times and flipped through it about 100 times. To me this book is more about SELF RESPECT than anything else. Living your life, keeping active, doing good work, helping a cause, etc. are things this book actually encourages. The book puts men in the proper persepctive: they are wonderful additions to our lives, NOT OUR REASON FOR LIVING!

Every woman that I have talked to about this book ends up agreeing with most of it. I too was skeptical about it...until I read it. It's the things your Mother told you...that you didn't want to hear at the time. And after going through one failed "relationship" after another finally decided that maybe Mom was right. Since reading this book I have had no problem securing the kind of relationship that is healthy for me. And for my male friend.

Men that are critical about the book are basically angry that it teaches women self respect and puts a roadblock in their way of getting a woman in bed as fast as possible. I have talked about this book with my male friends and they too agreed with alot of it, and the only one that disagreed has the reputation of being a "playa" amoungst my circle of friends. That alone speaks volumes.

The book is one of the most important books written about dating in the last 10 years and imo is still very relevant. And until the day that MEN decide to change and liberate themselves, it will remain so.


5 out of 5 stars Be very careful what you wish for- you just might get it!!.......2007-01-22

I was torn as to what rating to give this book. I finally decided on giving it a 5 because I asked myself this question: Does this book deliver on it's promises. After over a decade of experiences in both using and NOT using the RULES, the answer is unfortunately or fortunately (depending on your attitude on the subject) a resounding YES!!! Hence I gave it 5 stars. HOWEVER BE FORWARNED-

Over a decade of doing the RULES (and sometimes not) has taught me that the techniques work too well in that you will attract men who don't deserve your attention AS WELL AS men who do. You see, the RULES works because it feeds on the male ego's attraction to competition and "winning". So yes- you will attract more men and get more attention, but this will not only include attention from the great guy who finds you interesting and intriging, it also includes the shmuck who's always up for a challenge and due to a hurt ego or repressed self esteem issues, needs to prove to himself that he can succeed at getting someone who's somewhat unnattainable. The difference is that when the great guy "catches" you he knows he's lucky to have caught you and wants to keep you all to himself. When the shmuck thinks he has caught you however, he feels he has proven to himself that he's cool and therefore no longer needs you. He didn't want you... He wanted what you represented. The winning trophy. Meanwhile all the other girls who were pining for him overtly, but he wouldn't pay any attention to them because after all - they definitely wanted him- end up being saved the trouble of knowing him in the first place. This happened to me a couple of times using the Rules. It actually ended up ok, because once I figured out what they were doing I began using the rules to manipulate them into giving me lots of money. You'd be AMAZED how easily it works just using what this book teaches you. A guy will do ANYTHING to prove to himself he's still got IT!! Even give you everything he has!! Since they didn't have a problem manipulating me into wasting my precious time I had NO problem manipulating them while dating other guys. But that's just me. Is that what YOU want? Probably not. And the truth is that while my anger made me feel justified at the time, I really am not proud of it now. What's interesting is that the techniques in the book are wonderful gifts to the nice guys but end up only mere manipulation devices when used w/ the wrong guys. Only those with plenty of RULES experience would really understand what I mean by that, but basically when you follow the RULES the nice guy (the one you want) is attracted to an 'essance' of you that is coming through loud and clear while you live your life the way you want. Mr. Wrong is only attracted to the mere challenge and to the idea of "winning" you so he actually becomes like a puppet and you all of a sudden find yourself holding the strings while he dances for your approval in the hopes of his false trophy. The book delivers, but a book called "The List" is a good companion for it and in fact a step above it if you're looking to get married.

Why I like this book:

1. Regardless of the critisism the book recieves for being Anti-feminist, it's in reality the most pro-feminist book I've ever encountered.

2. It teaches women not to pay much attention to men. Live your life- only better than before. Take care of your body, Do well in school, Be as happy as you can be, join groups, have fun on the weekends, work for that promotion- Oh, and there are these creatures called 'men' walking around and when you do these things they're going to notice you and want to talk to you and spend time with you.. You can if you want to. If you bought this book you probably do want to, but the point is to go about your day like you don't care whether they call or not. If you do care pretend that you don't, because the truth is, you shouldn't care anyway. After all, don't you have a promotion to go after? If he doesn't call, forget about him cause you have your own thing to do anyway. Someone else will call and then you get to choose whether he's worth your time or not. That ladies, is what this book is REALLY about. Those that think otherwise are too bitter to see it in the right light. And even those that hate it and have TRIED it will tell you it works. The only question is to what cost?

In my experience, The RULES are a great guide for women who want to date. It basically tells you in more detail to give yourself everything you deserve (healthy lifestyle, rich personal and profesional life, etc..) and the men will follow. It tells you not to divulge your life story in the first few dates (good advice. He hasn't EARNED the PRIVILAGE of knowing your personal shi* at that point yet.) And to not be exclusive to any one guy until you have a ring on your finger which is a pretty Pro-feminist idea considering it's pretty much what guys have been doing for centuries...and often even WITH a ring already on their fingers. The book says, that no boyfriend is worth your all your time- only a HUSBAND is. Every other guy is roadkill in your life path just there to help you have a good time. Pretty empowering for women actually. Like I said before though, it works a little too well as the techniques will attract Mr. Right AND some MR. Wrongs that want to know they got the girl that's 'hard to get' and pad themselves on the back for "winning". It's a good buy and it'll keep you busy on Friday nights, but for those of you that are really looking to get a ring on your finger I highly recommend you check out "The List".
The Secret Power of Yoga: A Woman's Guide to the Heart and Spirit of the Yoga Sutras
Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
  • Great fresh perspective and easy to read!
  • Lovely Translation...
  • Simply joy & understanding!
  • Sutras from a feminine perspective
The Secret Power of Yoga: A Woman's Guide to the Heart and Spirit of the Yoga Sutras
Nischala Joy Devi
Manufacturer: Three Rivers Press
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0307339696
Release Date: 2007-03-20

Book Description

Yoga is well known for its power to create a healthy body, but few realize the emotional and spiritual benefits. In The Secret Power of Yoga, world-renowned Yoga expert Nischala Joy Devi interprets Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras, the principles at the basis of Yoga practice, from a heart-centered, intuitive, feminine perspective, resulting in the first translation intended for women.

Devi’s simple, elegant, and deeply personal interpretations capture the spirit of each sutra, and her suggested practices offer numerous ways to embrace the spirituality of Yoga throughout your day

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Great fresh perspective and easy to read!.......2007-07-29

Having been involved in yoga for 20 years I understand the sometimes frustration that all perspectives of the traditional writings are from a male perspective. Devi holds the sacredness of the text while bringing even more heart and compassion to the readings. Thanks! Shannon

5 out of 5 stars Lovely Translation..........2007-07-24

This book is truly a gem. It discusses the Sutras from a heartfelt perspective lacking in most other translations. It will compliment any other reading of the Sutras you have done, and will add a whole other dimension. A must-have for any complete yoga library.

5 out of 5 stars Simply joy & understanding!.......2007-05-13

Have not yet finished reading the whole book - so far it has exceeded my expectations in clarity &feminine inturpretation(can't spell!)of what has been a traditonaly male aspect. Highly recommended!!!

5 out of 5 stars Sutras from a feminine perspective.......2007-04-27

Although most of us view yoga as simply a physical discipline, there is a far more spiritual dimension to it. The entire philosophy of yoga has been contained in Patanjali's Yoga Sutras. Sutra is Sanskrit for "thread" - the sutras are a collection of terse aphorisms threaded together, laying out the whole of yoga.

Translations of these sutras have been done by males over the years and although there are some wonderful books on the subject (Iyengar's "Light On the Yoga Sutras" for one), I have found these books to be rather dry. Well known yoga instructor, Nischala Joy Devi has written an entirely new and feminine perspective on these ancient proverbs. Devi writes in an almost poetic manner and substitutes words that are 'negative' with a more heart centered counterpart. For example, for Aparigraha which is often translated as non-greed, Devi uses "awareness of abundance". This is a very nurturing viewpoint that makes the sutras "friendlier" and more easier to relate to. Meditations and practices are sprinkled throughout to help intergrate the vibe of the sutras into your heart.

She covers books one and two of the sutras and did a brief scan of book three. I am somewhat hopeful that she is intending on covering books three and four (she didn't mention book four at all) in a further volume, but until then, this is enough food for thought for now.
The Secret Teachings of Plants: The Intelligence of the Heart in the Direct Perception of Nature
Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • A work of art
  • Beautiful and Profound
  • for those hungering to travel deeper
  • The missing secrets of the plants
  • Overall ok, not consistent, not visionary
The Secret Teachings of Plants: The Intelligence of the Heart in the Direct Perception of Nature
Stephen Harrod Buhner
Manufacturer: Bear & Company
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 1591430356
Release Date: 2004-10-27

Book Description

Reveals the use of direct perception in understanding Nature, medicinal plants, and the healing of human disease

• Explores the techniques used by indigenous and Western peoples to learn directly from the plants themselves, including those of Henry David Thoreau, Goethe, and Masanobu Fukuoka, author of The One Straw Revolution

• Contains leading-edge information on the heart as an organ of perception

All ancient and indigenous peoples insisted their knowledge of plant medicines came from the plants themselves and not through trial-and-error experimentation. Less well known is that many Western peoples made this same assertion. There are, in fact, two modes of cognition available to all human beings--the brain-based linear and the heart-based holistic. The heart-centered mode of perception can be exceptionally accurate and detailed in its information gathering capacities if, as indigenous and ancient peoples asserted, the heart’s ability as an organ of perception is developed.

Author Stephen Harrod Buhner explores this second mode of perception in great detail through the work of numerous remarkable people, from Luther Burbank, who cultivated the majority of food plants we now take for granted, to the great German poet and scientist Goethe and his studies of the metamorphosis of plants. Buhner explores the commonalities among these individuals in their approach to learning from the plant world and outlines the specific steps involved. Readers will gain the tools necessary to gather information directly from the heart of Nature, to directly learn the medicinal uses of plants, to engage in diagnosis of disease, and to understand the soul-making process that such deep connection with the world engenders.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars A work of art.......2007-05-14

This book is truly a beautifully written work of art. For those who are ready, it can open doors to a new way of being in the world. It will change much more than how you see nature........it will change your relationship with yourself and the world.

4 out of 5 stars Beautiful and Profound.......2007-03-05

This is an intriguing book about our essential connection with the plant kingdom. Herbalists around the world are lamenting the loss of plants that have medicinal properties, some of which have not yet been discovered.

There is a great, and little explored puzzle: virtually every known group of humans has developed sophisticated plant-based medicines and agents for altering states of consciousness. Many are only used in complex mixtures. Too much of one ingredient and not enough of another, and the concoction is either inert or toxic. Yet to have found all these plants and all of their combinations by trial and error would have taken armies or researchers and hundreds of thousands of years. Throughout the world, traditional healers report that they learned about these properties from the plants themselves. They speak of using intuition and the "intelligence of the heart" for the direct perception of nature. Stephen Buhner suggests that this perception comes from the neural network within the physical heart that beats in our chests.

Throughout the book he presents countless examples of people from Thoreau to Luther Burbank and Goethe, who saw deeply into Nature, not through the intellect, but through the heart. He shows us how these people obtained their direct knowledge. It is very clear that Stephen Buhner is not reciting something that he read, but he is telling us about his own direct and deep perception of Nature. He explains how we can all share in this communion with Nature. He goes on to teach us how we, like the shamans of old, can learn the medicinal uses of plants directly from the plants themselves. He also shows us how this opening up to the world of plants can have profound effects upon us.

The fundamental premise is extremely interesting and the second part of the book is excellent. So why "only" four stars? There are two reasons. First, I am not convinced that the connection between living beings can be reduced to electromagnetic fields. The author had some excellent material, but seems almost to lose his nerve, and to try too hard to find a "scientific" explanation for his observations, while not giving enough credence to the evidence suggesting that the web of life is a more subtle underlying property of the Universe.

The second is the style of his writing. He describes the first half of the book as linear and the second half as not. He calls the two halves systole and diastole, to reflect the major cycles of the heart. And he invites the reader to read the book in any order. He tries quite deliberately to move away from a linear, verbal and analytical presentation. Many of the pages are broken up by italicized words or phrases on separate lines and quotations, poems and comments that don't always seem to be in the right place. It may be that he is trying to stir us up and make us think. Or rather to not think: to apply our intuition to his words. But it can make reading a little difficult.

Despite my two quibbles, I hope that this book is widely read for its stories, anecdotes and Buhner's encyclopedic knowledge about plants. It is an interesting but not always an easy read.

5 out of 5 stars for those hungering to travel deeper.......2007-01-16

SECRET TEACHINGS is equisitely written, inspiring and offers new hope for the human species and ultimately for the planet. Buhner's poetic writing is often trance inducing. He superbly describes the territory of the sacred and makes navigation of interspecies communication easily accessible. He lays out the map so all we have to do, is the work. Reading this book, I kept hearing a voice inside saying, "I want this." I knew to what the voice was referring, a life of vastly rich and varied experiences that went far beyond the surface of ordinary daily life. The teachings in this book have become my life guide.

This work is an integration of well documented research on the heart as an organ of perception, writings by those, such as Kabir, Geothe,Thoreau, James Hillman, and others, past and present, who have travelled this way as well as the authors own poetry and life experiences.

SECRET TEACHINGS is a must read for anyone who is intersted in deepening their life experience, who is inclined to go beyond reductionist methods of being in the world and for those who hunger to feel the touch of spirit on their body.

The book is easy to read and easy to skip around in from section to section, following your heart and interests. Buhner lays out in fine detail the process of depth perception; of seeing beyond the surface of things with "the unworn sides of your eyes."

At the end of the book there are several exercises to enhance your awareness of the world while reclaiming the parts of you that have been sequestered away so that with practice, we can once again walk in the world as an integrated 360 degree personality, with joy and sponteneity.

3 out of 5 stars The missing secrets of the plants.......2007-01-09

If I could, I would give the following title to this book: the missing secrets of the plants. The book is beautiful, full of poetry and quotation. But, but and but. You can buy it to reading at the airport, with long lines... If you are, like me, looking for the secret teachings of the plants, feeling the soul of it when you read it, you can not find here.

3 out of 5 stars Overall ok, not consistent, not visionary.......2006-08-17

This is generally a good book to serve as an introduction to the consciousness of working with plants in a sacred manner. However the quality of writing, though well researched, does not inspire. You don't find yourself absorbed in the writing, just reading facts and stories.

There are a few practices buried within the book but they are buried. There should have been seperate areas to emphasize these practices. As an example of the writing style the chapter on healing and death talks about death and how shamans approach it for along time. Then the story about how animals created diseases and how plants offered to help people is relayed. Then the content switches back to the death topic again. The writing shows a general lack of polish and very much lacks telling you how to enter the sacred relationship yourself.

A good book, but did not live up to its potential.

If you are looking for something in this genre with much better writing ability check out Connie Grauds' Jungle Medicine (www.junglemedicine.net). From Connie you will get information that is first hand rooted in the world of shamanism.

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