Book Description
FinallyâYou Can
Understand Her!
Women: complicated and impossible to understand? Do you love and want to please the woman in your life, but just can’t seem to figure her out? That was before For Men Only. Now at your fingertips is the tool that will unlock the secret to her mysterious ways. Through hundreds of interviews and the results of a scientific national survey of women, this book demonstrates that women are actually not random and that they really can be systematized and âmapped.â In fact, much to men’s delight, this book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and pleaseâas long as you know what it is they need. This simple map will guide you to loving your wife or girlfriend in the way she needs to be loved.
Finally.
You Can
Understand Her!
Women: complicated and impossible to understand? Have you given up trying to âgetâ the woman in your life? If so, you are in for a pleasant eye-opener: She can be understood. Even betterâyou can make her happy. Which will make you happy.
The bestselling author of For Women Only teams with her husband to offer men the key to unlocking the mysterious ways of women. Through Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn ’s national scientific survey and hundreds of interviews, For Men Only reveals what you can do today to improve your relationship. And believe it or not, as Jeff assures men, âIt’s not splitting the atom.â
What makes her tick? What is she really asking (but not actually saying)? Take the guesswork out of trying to please your wife or girlfriend and begin loving her in the way she needs. Easily. For Men Only is a straightforward map that will lead you straight into her heart.
And for every guy who rarely reads a manual:
Quick-Start Guide Included!
âWhen we featured Shaunti’s book For Women Only on FamilyLife Today , the phone rang off the hook! When Shaunti and Jeff come back on our broadcast, I’m buying some more phones. This is fresh and relevantâgood stuff for every marriage. Read it!â
Dennis Rainey
President, FamilyLife
Story Behind the Book
âAs I was writing For Women Only to help women understand the inner lives of men, over and over I heard that men wished there was a way to understand their wives, but they felt it was probably impossible. I heard from them, âYou are writing this little slim volume about men, but if it was about understanding women, it would have to be the size of an encyclopedia! Women are random and complicated!’ These men were surprised and encouraged when I assured them that women are neither random nor complicated, and we can be understood. Men just want to love their wives well, and For Men Only will help them do that.â
âShaunti Feldhahn
Customer Reviews:
Just What I Needed.......2007-09-25
I got this book at a friend's recommendation. I'm getting married soon and I was hoping for some help. The book was very helpful and informative. I liked it for not being biased or a 10 step program. It's literally straightforward information on how most women think. It's already drastically altered the way I relate to my fiancée and it's helped us grow closer together. I'd recommend it to any man that wants a better relationship with his lady. This is a great book to help newlyweds get started out on the right foot.
Undserstanding a Woman.......2007-09-21
The Feldhahn's bring humor and wisdom into an amazingly complex topic - understanding a woman. While my wife certainly is mysterious to say the least, this book provided insights into why she says what she says, reacts the way she does to my words, and what I have done to build walls that she gave up trying to climb. I found that many of her problems could be influenced for the better by my willingness to understand her and speak to her on her terms. This book has helped me help my wife love me more fully. Humble yourself and read it!!
Read this with your significant other.......2007-09-21
Great book on the inner lives of women. Read this with your significant other and it will bring you closer. It is written from a Christian perspective, but this is not overly apparent.
Great book! 5 stars!
Perfect Wedding Book!.......2007-09-07
Ok, so I admit that I read some of my husband's book titled "For Men Only". It's his own fault for leaving it next to the toilet.
We received these as wedding gifts awhile back. I was really curious to see if what it said was true. I have to say that it actually provided some great insight into my own thoughts and feelings and legitimized my feelings for certain issues that have arisen in our relationship. I'd have to say that in my opinion this is a great book to help men understand the average woman. Men, if you've ever thought "That girl is ka-razy!", then this is the book for you!
Two thumbs up!
From a Woman.......2007-09-05
I read For Women Only and then read For Men Only and I loved it. While For Women Only provided much insight, this book provided a much needed sense of freedom to be a woman. For a long time, I had assumed that much of my personality traits were not good, but it was b/c my traits were different than guys and were not understood by the guys in my life. In reading the book, I began to understand that I was not crazy just a woman :)
Average customer rating:
- Awesome book
- P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!
- If you are having a hard time in your relationship...
- A Classic!
- Why is this book so popular?
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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
John Gray
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
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Amazon.com Audiobook Review
Relationship counselor John Gray focuses on the differences between men and women--men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, after all--and offers a simple solution: couples must acknowledge and accept these differences before they can develop happier relationships. In this unabridged version, Gray gives a spirited delivery of his message, especially when role-playing typical male/female interactions. Although it takes some time to adjust to his slightly nasal tone, the information is sound and gives both men and women helpful hints on improving themselves and their union. (Running time: 9.5 hours, 6 cassettes) --Sharon Griggins
Book Description
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.
Customer Reviews:
Awesome book.......2007-10-09
Its not only great for learning about your partner, but about yourself too. This is a great book.
P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!.......2007-09-06
It's amazing book. Another one that I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
If you are having a hard time in your relationship..........2007-09-03
I am a skeptic when it comes to self-help books, so I wasn't too excited when my husband purchased Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus for the two of us to read.
We had been together for seven years and our relationship was at an all time low. A number of things had happened and we had grown apart.
Then we read the book and saw ourselves on most of the pages. Many thoughtful and open discussions followed. It was the beginning of a recovery process which lasted a few months and has a perfect outcome. We are so close and so in love now - the centers of each others universe.
My favorite piece of advice from this book is setting time aside to spend with each other uninterrupted by TV, reading, etc. We do this at least a couple of times a week. Sometimes we just sit together in silence and relax; sometimes we discuss something trivial that's on our minds... These are perfect moments.
Obviously, it is hard for me to write all this because it is very personal. However, I sincerely hope to help another couple through this book and save them months of anguish. I wish someone had given us Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus a few months earlier.
A Classic!.......2007-08-30
Almost everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex!
Just great! A must have!
Why is this book so popular?.......2007-08-24
The reasons why this book gets two stars from me are as follows:
POSITIVE:
- Gray did make a few good, common sense points: Do nice things for your partner, don't try to fix your partner, be direct in making requests.
- Some real-life examples are true to life (such as the wife who keeps trying to coax an answer to "Is anything wrong?" out of her mate.)
NEGATIVE
- Gray is extremely self-righteous, which is very annoying.
- The book is VERY repetitive, which makes it hard to read.
- The Mars/Venus analogy gets annoying after a while.
- His gender assumptions are extremely rigid, without much room for individuality.
- Some of his examples are hair-raising: he tells the story of how his wife tore giving birth, and ran out of pain killers a week after delivery. When he came home from work, she told him that she was in pain all day and felt abandoned. His reaction? He exploded, shouted at her, and stormed off. What normal man would do such a thing??
- His dislike for the word "could" is hard to explain. He claims that "could" must be replaced with "would", or the husband will not respond to any requests.
- He claims that it is natural and important for women to fall into deep depressen regularly where childhood issues resurface and she has nohing left to give this world. If her man does not support her, she will fall into a panic. WHAT?!?
- His phrase dictionary is plain ridiculous. Here is an example: If a woman says "I am so tired, I can't do anything" a man will hear "...Picking you was a big mistake" unless he has read Gray's true interpretation. Uh-huh!
- The most offensive part of the book, though, is this assertion in the introduction: "About 10 percent of women will relate more to being from Mars. This is often simply a result of being born with higher testosterone levels than most other women." WHAT?!? If my readers don't agree with me, then they have a hormonal problem. This statement unsubstantiated, false, nonsensical, and brazen. Interestingly, he does not address the fact that some men may not find themselves in these pages, either.
Overall, the book deserves two stars, considering that it had a little bit of merit to it.
Book Description
Finally—A Pregnancy Book That Won't Put Men to Sleep
My Boys Can Swim! tells real men everything they really want to know about pregnancy, such as: How much is it going to cost? Why does your wife primp before seeing her doctor when she hasn't put a stitch of make-up on for you in months? And, most important, what's it going to do to your sex life?
This rollicking, laugh-out-loud book is for expectant dads in search of bottom-line pregnancy information, without all that boring touchy-feely stuff you find in those books written for women. Inside you'll discover helpful—and hilarious—information and insights on such topics as:
The Maternity Wardrobe: "A key part of the maternity wardrobe is maternity underwear—parachute-like undies big enough to fit an NFL defensive lineman."
Baby Names: "Don't give your kids mockable names like Thaddeus, which is Greek for 'I'm a dork and should be beaten up.'"
The Birth: "No one told me it's normal that babies' heads can be misshapen at birth. I was convinced that my wife gave birth to Veldar, the conehead."
Customer Reviews:
Perfect book for dads-to-be.......2007-09-24
My husband used to read books all the time. But now only has time for things about the length of a newspaper or magazine article. This book is really short and funny. So it keeps his attention enough to actually be informed as to what is going on. He reads a little at a time while things progress. And has laughed out-loud on a couple of occasions.
Best book for new dads!.......2007-09-18
My husband LOVED this book. It's written from a husband's point of view which is hilarious. While it doesn't provide tons of medical info, it gives just enough for my husband to understand some of what I'm going through. Each night he read some of it outloud so we could both enjoy it. The humor in the book was great and it has helped him realize that neither of us is going crazy...all of this is normal. I definitely recommend this book to any dad. They will certainly enjoy it!
Great for the father to be.......2007-09-16
My husband enjoyed this book and learning about what to expect. The humor in it is great and the topics are right on target in each trimester. My husband kept telling me what he learned from the book.
For dumb dads.......2007-09-13
This was a totally dumbed down book. My husband actually likes being a father and was insulted by this book. This is for a dad who likes to sit on the couch, drink beers, and not do stuff with his kids. Sorry book.
yeah...whatever.......2007-08-23
The author tries to have that cute "Dave Barry" thing but instead just plays on old stereotypes that all guys do is watch football and don't know thing about women's bodies or what happens with a pregnancy. My wife and I are expecting our first child and I was thinking this may be informative. Instead it was a quick, one day read with jokes that wouldn't even be funny enough for Mad Magazine on a bad day. Sorry, but this one wasn't for me and felt like a waste of money.
Book Description
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be He's just not that into you.
Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.
Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mind-sets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
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He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
Customer Reviews:
I should have written this book!.......2007-10-07
Many years ago the term was "GU (geographically undesireable)". I always said that if you lived 500 miles away and a man was into you, he'd make the trip and if you lived next door and he wasn't into you, it'd be too far to go. I never bought or read this book as I thought the male author was just pompous and sarcastic about women. But, read it in a waiting room and got to laugh out loud and enjoyed the style and bluntness of the responses (even if the letters were made up). I have always wondered why women can be intelligent, attractive, interesting and interested but, when a man walks into her life (or into the room or into view of her), she becomes willing to settle for whatever crumbs he throws her way. Even in a work environment, women support men over women! Wake up ladies, they don't give up their friends or lives for us. Why do we feel we must? (No, not ALL of us, but damn near all!).
Ladies, heed Greg & Liz's advice!.......2007-09-29
This audio book is pure genious! It's straight-shooting, blunt, and full of "tough love" which hopefully will knock some sense into those of us who hang on to guys way too long hoping things will "get better". It's an easy listen, because you know it speaks to you. You will truly feel that Greg & Liz are your caring friends or siblings when you listen to their advice. I only wish Greg's live comedy show incorporated some of the material in the book, rather than the endless vulgarity he seems to think is necessary to be funny in a live performance. Stick to writing books, Greg! That's where your true talent is...
Ouch! But True!.......2007-09-19
What I like most about this book is that it doesn't allow any wiggle room for excuses. (My excuses *love* wiggle room.) The truth isn't always fuzzy but it certainly sets me free.
It's freeing for me to know that I'm strong enough to deal with the truth. Because life goes on - fabulously well - whether or not he calls. I think this book makes women stronger. No more skirting the issues. Walk tall. Besides we look a lot more attractive that way!
Marginal, obvious advice for women in denial........2007-09-08
It's hard to believe there is a market for this book. I considered it so bad I wasn't even going to drag it over the public library and donate it. I was ready to pitch this book into the garbage after only half an hour of reading, but I struggled on over several weeks, reading little bits at a time thinking perhaps I just wasn't appreciating the book's attempts at New York humor.
The marginal advice filling it still doesn't seem worth the effort of carrying the book two blocks to the library. Its success must be a symptom of how confusing the role of the modern, liberated feminist in America has become? I suppose the book is based on the folklore that "love blinds." How else could perfectly sensible women be so confused as to not see the obvious? This is a book for women who are blind, in denial, desperate, confused, dumb, from Venus, totally inexperienced, spending too much time in psychoanalysis, spending too much time rationalizing everything some guy they think they want to marry says or does to the point of reaching a hopeful conclusion when all the facts say the opposite.
Save your money. The "Dear Abby, Annie, Beth, etc." columns in most newspapers provide much better advice than this lightweight tome that was probably only quickly written to separate a lot of very confused and naive women from their hard-earned money. Don't over-analyze men. Like politicians don't pay any attention to what they say unless it happens to match how they act. Men are pretty uncomplicated as a group. Women who spend hours dissecting them over lunch with their girlfriends can't even be certain the people providing them support don't have a different agenda as far as their success in love is concerned. If you want to know more about men, talk to your mother and lots and lots of men friends who aren't just interested in getting into your panties and then with their curiosity satisfied, are ready to move on to the next challenge. Male co-workers or acquaintances are much better sources of advice than this book.
This volume really wasn't worth this much time to review, but since so many readers seemed to think it contains "Insights from Heaven" I think they've got their directions confused. At best the information provided is so obvious that a child should be able to recognize it. Much of the more complicated advice is bull, or seems like it might have come from a laughing, horned and hoofed creature residing in a place far away from Heaven and hotter than the planet Venus.
This book is CLASSIC! .......2007-09-06
A must read for every smart woman! Another great book that I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
Customer Reviews:
Interesting but not scientific.......2007-09-25
How does a person become a spiritual/sex guru? I was curious and decided to purchase and read this book.
I did some research on David Deida, and it appears he has no formal education on either psychology or human sexuality. What he does appear to have, however, are powerful insights into eastern beliefs on sexuality greatly differing from our own western version.
Although the author sites absolutely no scientific rationale to provide support for his views, I found his views to be fascinating. For example, in a chapter "Stop Hoping for Your Women to Get Easier":
"So she will test you. She might not be fully conscious of why she is doing it, but she will poke your weak spots, especially in moments of your superficial success, in order to feel your strength. If you collapse, you've flunked the test....It never ends. A woman will always test her man for the pleasure of feeling his strength in loving, his capacity to transcend nuisance, his persistence in his own truth, and his capacity to share that truth in love with her, even when she is complaining- especially when she is complaining."
The author provides a refreshing eastern perspective on sexuality, masculinity, and feminity. It isn't entirely politically correct. But it is sexually correct. I am sure not all feminists would agree with the author's views. But those who seek the truth will find the author's unique perspective to be invigorating as having a good night with a woman who loves, and therefore tests, him.
MUST reading for all men.......2007-09-20
This is the 'how-to" book our fathers could never write (God bless them), and the best men's book on relationship I've ever read. Not because it teaches you tricks, or how to please a woman, but because it it shows men how to stand in our masculine power as our true selves, rather than someone who denies themselves to please others. I could never be in the incredible relationship I'm in today without the lessons I've learned from this book, and that includes having clear boundaries where self respect, awareness, integrity and purpose must come first in our lives. We always get the relationship we deserve...this book helps us deserve more. I use this book as a basis for the men's group I'm leading.
Great look at sex in loving relationships.......2007-09-09
I was impressed at the level of honesty by the author. He was very open about his desires and fantasies, and how these can exist in a committed relationship. He really teaches that it is not our dark side that is inappropriate, but how we handle it.
His views on the relationship dynamic were also helpful. The male and female priorities are inherently different, and once we accept these differences, love can actually exist. This theory has helped me in my personal life and relationships.
I would recommend this book to anyone that is willing to be honest about their relationships and sexual life.
Unravel the mysterious behavior of women!.......2007-08-30
Deida gives guys a great guide to understanding the often maddening behavior of their woman. He explains what they are really desiring and how we can satisfy those desires.
I've been astounded at the reactions I get from girls who I share his ideas with. They unanimously confirm that he's right on track. I wish I had known these secrets sooner in life!
A must read for any guy who wants a fulfilling relationship rather then a maddening one. Also, woman could also learn a lot about themselves and their guys by reading this.
totally made up .......2007-08-26
The author of this book must be laughing all the way to the bank. He has no credentials and doesn't support anything he says with any research - just his own opinion. Seems to be written for the man who only wants to get ahead - and this makes him feel good about it. Come on guys - we're talking the 1950s male mindset....
Average customer rating:
- This Book Explained SO MUCH about abusive relationships
- I don't understand why he treats me this way. He say he loves me.
- important information for victims and advocates
- Best book on abusers - EVER!
- Every Woman needs to Read This Book!
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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Lundy Bancroft
Manufacturer: Berkley Trade
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Book Description
"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control."
"He can be sweet and gentle."
"He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father."
"He's had a really hard life..."
Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:
€ The early warning signs
€ Nine abusive personality types
€ How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
€ The role of drugs and alcohol
€ What can be fixed, and what can't
€ How to leave a relationship safely
Customer Reviews:
This Book Explained SO MUCH about abusive relationships.......2007-10-05
There were two messages that impacted me the most. First, that many things abusive men do to their partners are practically invisible due to the pervasive chauvinism and misogyny that is considered acceptable in our society. Second, the abusive and controling male needs to present himself as a puzzle that needs to be solved: it's a trick that keeps their partner occupied with guessing about what he'll do next instead of just leaving.
It was the hiding of their true agenda that kept me in a relationship with a couple of abusive males much longer than I should have stayed. I thought I could uncover what "really made them tick" by sticking it out with them. Then I figured that once I resolved the mystery of his disturbing, hostile and angry behavior we could live happily ever after.
This is the first book that helped me through my fantasy of believing I could "rescue" this kind of person from himself. I'd give it the highest rating for that alone. But there is so much more helpful information here that confirmed what I'd feared about them that I'd say this is a must-read for any woman confused about why she's not happy with her partner but feeling it's all her fault. Great as a gift!
I don't understand why he treats me this way. He say he loves me........2007-09-23
If you've ever asked that question, then this is a book for you. It is very comprehensive in covering the multitude of reasons and justifications employed by abusive, controlling men. These types of relationships are killers, and getting help is critical to your well being.
Emotional and verbal abuse were areas of great interest to me and includes degradation, humiliation, keeping in control in all situations, withholding information to maintain control, deliberately doing something to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim from friends and family, and employing great guilt to paralyze and immobilize the victim from acting in a healthy way.
The confusing and detrimental thing in my life was that the abuser worked in a capacity which protected the rights of victims. The hypocrisy of it had me in denial for sometime. Ultimately it took others to tell me I was living in a hell created by an animal who said he loved me several times everyday.
This book was a Godsend to me. If you even think you are in one of these relationships, read this book.
important information for victims and advocates.......2007-09-10
I work for a domestic violence provention and service program. I have given out hundreds of copies of this book. I refer to it often. One of the best books on the "why" that has been written
Best book on abusers - EVER!.......2007-09-05
I have recommended this book to countless people and time and again, they are amazed at what they read. It validates the crazy experiences they have endured with partners or ex-partners and helps them understand that they are not the crazy one in the relationship. They are being systematically manipulated and beaten down, emotionally, mentally and perhaps physically, and their power is slowly being taken away from them.
Lundy succintly explains how abusers operate to gain power over their partners, using a range of crazy making words and behaviors. This book changed the way I look at and relate to abusive individuals and helped me have less compassion for them - which is/was a healthy thing.
The only problem I have with the book is that it focuses mainly on men as abusers b/c there tend to be more men who are abusers. In my experience women can also be mentally and psychologically abusive to their male partners (and others) although they are less likely to become killers of their partners- as too often male abusers can. Women are quite capable of becoming entitled, demeaning and threatening toward others when they don't get what they want.
Still, overall, this is THE finest book on abuse/abusers I have read and I have read a lot of them.
Every Woman needs to Read This Book!.......2007-09-01
This is the BEST book yet on the subject of abusive men. The author knows and teaches about the BS abusers use to manipulate those around them and goes into depth (but not too deep) about their reasoning for such BS and helps the woman understand that she isn't imagining, making things up or whatever reason is given by an abuser to continue his nonsense. I'm buying many copies as presents for people I care about. The book worth every penny! Don't hesitate to purchase!!! My most heart felt gratitude to Mr. Bancroft for taking the time to write this important work.
Whether in an abusive relationship or not, EVERY woman needs to read this book if not for her own relationship, then to help a woman she probably knows who is in one or to avoid future abusive relationships. There should be a course in high school to teach students about this sort of thing and this should be the text book. I saw abuse already happening to young girls when I worked in our local school. It's time we got serious about stopping it instead of looking away. This book would go a long way to accomplishing that.
Book Description
Do you feel like you are too nice?
Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:
-Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?
-Why do men take nice girls for granted?
-Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?
Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.
Customer Reviews:
VERY GOOD!!!!.......2007-10-03
This book was funny and very true. Bottom line-when you treat men like crap, they treat you better. I don't think its for everyone though, some people are just too nice and probally wont be able to handle some of the advice that the author gives. This isn't a bible, just a guide and a very good guide at that.
Men vs. Women?.......2007-10-03
I bought this book a short while after getting out of an abusive relationship, thinking it would help me hold my own in any future relationships so the pattern of abuse wouldn't continue. This idea, however, backfired. What I found myself doing while reading this book was getting more and more angry at men.
I understand that women do need to stand up for themselves in all areas of life. If anyone understands this, it's me. I don't, however, believe that it's a good idea to get embroiled in the battle of the sexes. I'd like to believe that not all men are bad, and that I can be happy in a future relationship without having to resort to any tricks or manipulation.
While this book has some good advice (i.e., go out instead of waiting by the phone for him to call) I certainly wouldn't recommend it to anyone who has any resentment towards the opposite sex. There are some great books out there which are more healing, and less damaging. Try anything by Kathryn Alice or Kathy Freston, for example. I also recommend "Make Every Man Want You" by Marie Forleo.
Good luck!
A very thought-provoking and helpful book.......2007-09-18
I just finished reading this book, and am in the process of reading her other book, "Why Men Marry Bitches".
I have to say that initially, like some other reviewers here, I was reluctant to read the book due to the title and the simple fact that I don't have much respect for so-called "girl guides". I agree that the title does a disservice to the book, although after having read it, I understand what the author means when she uses the word "bitch". I was afraid that this would be a book about being aggressive and demanding, but that is not the case at all. I am also an independent woman who is emotionally mature, but I must confess I have behaved too nicely many a time. If you read this book, please understand that it is meant to be humorous. Don't follow everything blindly (especially some of the jokey and outrageous advice). Use your own thinking. Like some people here, I don't think you should serve your date popcorn on the first date. But this doesn't 'mean that her advice isn't sound; she exaggerates of course, but what she means is, please don't bend over backwards for someone you barely know. I read some reviews here who claim that this book is about playing games, or that it says things that are too obvious, or that it teaches women to be abrasive. If you actually read the book you will see that she insists that a "bitch" is a woman who is nice, polite and gracious. She never, ever advises bitching and complaining; in fact she devotes a whole chapter to precisely why these tactics never work for women. Some negative reviewers insist that the book tells you to be someone else, and that you should be honest and open about what you want in a relationship. I completely agree with the latter; however, the book tells you to do the same thing. It shows you how to communicate with men on their level, without being too emotional; how to make them listen to you and how to get your point accross, and I repeat, NOT through bitching and complaining, but by presenting strong, logical arguments in a calm and rational manner. Surely this can only promote good communication?
I can understand some viewers' hesitation about the "tactics" that she describes, like boosting a man's ego from time to time. I used to think, why should I boost anyone's ego? If he puts up a shelf and the damn shelf is crooked, why should I praise him? Or better yet, I'll do everything myself. The truth is, you need to praise and acknowledge his effort. Women fail to do this and then we wonder why "there are no real men left in the world". The truth is, for a man to show his generosity, you need to let him do it. Men have sensitive egos (they may deny it but we all know it's true). You put him down once or twice, he'll give up trying and you'll be putting those shelves up yourself for the rest of your life. If that's what you want, fine. But normally it's not, so you start complaining that he never does anything for you. This is how the vicious circle starts. After having read the book, I understand this better. So what if a shelf isn't perfect. You can still thank him for the effort and be tactful about it. Just don't criticize him when he's feeling all proud and manly. Don't criticize him in front of other people. It's basic consideration and common sense, of course. We women like being given presents and flowers, and being paid compliments. Men also like being appreciated. This is only logical. If you are having one of those "ugly" days, the man who truly loves you will say something encouraging, like "you look beautful, and you are always beautiful to me". He will sense your vulnerability and show his support. You do the same for him. Both are white lies; you don't always look beatiful, and he doesn't always succeed in home improvement. But you want him to keep trying, and you encourage and support him. I don't see how this is could be detrimental to any relationship.
Finally, upon having read this book (and her second book which I most highly recommend), I feel a newfound appreciation for men. We women always puzzle over the things men do and often feel like men just don't get it. Well, the truth is, they do get it. They observe you and draw their own conclusions. They will test you to see your reactions to different situations, just as you will test them. You may call it playing games, or dislike it, but no matter what you think, this is normal behavior. We all test each other to a certain extent, consciously or unconsciously, depending on our individual insecurities and preferences. If you fail to acknowledge this simple fact, you fail to acknowledge reality.
I think that this book is not your typical "relationship" book. It doesn't teach you how to "catch" a man, or win him. It teaches you how being a self-sufficient, independent, gracious and considerate person will help you attract the right man and more importantly, will keep him interested and focused on your relationship. Please read this book and you will see that the author doesn't condone games; what she does is help women understand men better and learn to communicate with them better. If becoming a woman worthy of respect (your own and other people's) means you must change yourself, then of course you must, otherwise you will never grow as a person. If you don't respect yourself firstly and foremostly, how can you expect other people to respect you? You would think that this is self-evident, but obviously, looking at the world today, it's not. Sherry Argov's book was written to change that.
MUST HAVE!.......2007-09-12
Its every womans must have bible! Hide it under your mattress...not necessarily a coffee table friendly book unless its girls night. This book has saved all of my future relationships! Best kept secret since He's just not that into you. Loved every detail of the book and her sense of humor keeps you reading all throughout the night!
This book helped MY confidence.......2007-09-08
I resisted this book for years simply because of the title. To be honest, I feel that the author does a huge disservice to herself by using the word "Bitch" in her title. My first instinct was to immediately reject this book because by nature (and as my friends will attest), I'm known as my very positive, easy going, sweet, and loving individual. I try hard to be considerate of everyone around me (male or female), and quite frankly, I shy away from the negative bitch types that I come across in real life. I was also tired of all those dating books which told you what to do and what not to do in the dating world. They silently infuriated me because I didn't want to live my life against a list of actions to do and avoid.
However, after receiving an effusive recommendation from a close friend of mine (who's also a very positive person), I decided to throw away my caution read this book and it has quite literally changed my outlook on life.
Let me first clear up a misconception that was my own: This book does not tell women to change themselves in order to get a man. It does not tell you to be negative, house an attitude, or think that you're better than the world around you. The simple message I came away with after reading this book was that you must BELIEVE in yourself and your unique characteristics, and that in turn, will draw in the RIGHT man for you.
My biggest problem in the dating world was my confidence and this book helped me recognize this. Like so many women in their early 30s, I really wanted to be in a relationship and when a guy would show me attention, the first emotion I'd feel after the initial excitement was an anxious one. My pride aside, I quite frankly saw him as my "savior from the loneliness single world" (since so many of my friends were getting married), and I wanted to do everything in my power to keep him.
And what I'm discovering is that this attitude is exactly what will push him away!!! And trust me, it has in the past!
This book has taught me to repeat to myself the following adage: "This is me in all of my splendor...and it doesn't get any better than this". It sounds corny yes, but I saw a mantra close to this whenever I feel nervous/anxious about being single and it builds up my own self-worth and this in turn draws guys in. Because you know what? It's not about going out there and finding a man...it's about being happy with who you are, and if a man comes along that adds to that happiness-then so be it. It's so incredible freeing because it teaches you to love yourself for all you have. That a man isn't important, and ironically--that attitude in and of itself will serve to DRAW all types of positive people to you (and quite possibly a guy you connect with.)
This review is getting way too long, but that is the gist of my feelings of this book. Is this book perfect? It's not--and that's why I gave it Four stars. There's a section in there that encourages you to cater to his ego by playing the "Dumb Fox", and while I understand what the author is saying, she does go a bit over the top when she suggests never killing a bug or changing a light bulb for fear of emasculating your man. LOL! If it took an independent woman to attract a man, then it will take one to keep him. Show him that you don't NEED him to survive (I can change my own light if you're gone), but that you don't mind moving aside and allowing him to take the limelight now and then to massage his ego (and he does the same to us!)
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5-STAR HIGHEST RATING: "An exceptional book"
Most single women have experienced the sinking feeling of fishing for a date from someone special without receiving so much as a nibble. It is enough to make women wonder if there is something wrong with their bait.
Steve Nakamoto, a former communications/human relations instructor for Dale Carnegie & Associates, NLP personal development trainer for motivational expert Tony Robbins, and professional international tour director understands these feelings. He has written an intelligent, funny, and wise book for women who are looking to catch a guy---hook, line, and sinker. In this entertaining look at relationships, he compares men to fish who are secretly longing to be caught. Women, on the other hand, are wily yet compassionate anglers looking to reel in the big one.
Men Are Like Fish will take readers on a fact-packed fishing trip where they will learn tips on how to initiate great relationships or enhance the ones they already have. The book is sweetly old-fashioned, yet wickedly on target. Nakamoto has also sprinkled zippy cartoons/illustrations and unusually helpful quotes throughout the book.
While the title might imply a single-minded effort to drag an unsuspecting man into the net, the book is actually somewhat Zenlike. It will help women to improve their self-images, broaden their interests, and accentuate the unique qualities they possess that will naturally draw good relationships to them. Nakamoto also spends a good deal of time discussing the end of relationships. He shows women how to let go gracefully, with as little pain as possible, so that they can continue to grow without harboring bitterness.
Steve uses several interesting examples from his own life, sharing many of his triumphs and failures with a good-natured sense of humor. Nakamoto shares one especially funny story about a tight jeans contest where he lost a shapely girlfriend/contestant to judge Clint Eastwood. He writes, "I consoled myself with the thought that Deanna must have had a tough choice: Clint Eastwood (People Weekly's 2001 #2 most popular screen actor of all time) or Steve Nakamoto? It could have gone either way, right?"
Nakamoto also shares good, solid advice. One especially helpful area is "Favorite Fishing Holes: 101 Hot Spots Where the Big Ones Are Biting." It consists of a list of fun and inexpensive activities and places to explore that are bound to be interesting, even if they do not spark a new love affair. Among the many activities that Nakamoto recommends are going to art gallery openings, visiting wineries for wine tasting and tours, and taking city tours or day trips in one's own city or in a nearby town.
Nakamoto does not guarantee eternal love for readers. However, both single women looking for that perfect catch and those seeking to recapture the romance of an exciting relationship will find great value here. Men Are Like Fish is guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a new, more joyful perspective on the oldest sport in the world.
--- Reviewed by ForeWordReviews.com
Customer Reviews:
So good!.......2007-10-10
I loved this book so much, I sent an email to the author. I have never done that before. It is such a witty, intelligent and fun read. I learned a lot from this book. Buy this book! You will not be sorry. It is so entertaining and so full of good information. I am about to purchase Dating Rocks by the same author. Thank you Steve!
How to hook and land the big one.......2007-10-01
I really enjoyed this book, both for its invaluable information and humor.
We can talk until we're blue in the face.... truly, who can reveal what men love in women more accurately than a man?
Some of the revelations may not be considered in the realm of today's "political correctness", but where does pc get you in the real world, seriously? His intention to is to help, not judge. You have to ask yourself...is a few minutes of discomfort worth a potential lifetime of happiness? Men and women, though we do desire same things, are wired differently. We have to treat these differences with respect, rather than aversion, in order to succeed. Men are very observant regarding whether a woman is approving or disapproving of them. (Guess which attitude generates the more favorable response toward you?)
He sets the fishing tone succinctly in Chapter 3, "The Metaphor", men are like fish. This makes it not only palatable, but useful throughout the rest of the book. Some more chapters: "Fishing Lessons", improve your chances with preparation, "Beginners Luck", recapture your lost innocence, "The Bait", make your attraction more powerful, "The Hook", use only the most secure devices, "The Big Fish", decide exactly what you want to catch, "Fishing Holes", invest your time in the best spots, "The Cast", don't spook away men with bad approaches, etc. And alot more goodies.
One thing he stresses throughout is to embrace your femininity. Once you do this, men can, too. Face it...too many women have jettisoned their womanly essence, much to the extreme disappointment of men. Opposites define eachother.
My best to all of you....happy landing!
Outstanding!.......2007-08-14
This is great book. Every woman should read it. You will be surprised how iformative this book is!
But you must read another new besteller which I highly recommend - "How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You" by Mandy Simons
These books are fascinating!
very well written.......2007-07-23
it's simple and entertaining, you learn and realize through the analogy of fishing mechanism, which makes this book more entertaining as supposed to other typical standard "text book" style. I also like his writing style, short and concise, and to the point, it makes you realize many things while reading it. The author has included many great proverbs from all countries and all times, some of them are exceptionally valuable and worthwhile. I have to say this is one of the few books that I find entertaining to read, at the same time, enlightening.
men are like fish.......2007-07-08
some good strategies to get the one you really want. unfortunaltely two have to agree!
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When Larry Brown died suddenly in 2004 at 53, he left a nearly finished sixth novel, A Miracle of Catfish, that revisits several of his favorite themes: fatherhood, alienation, and loneliness. Shannon Ravenel, Brown's Algonquin editor, had the daunting task of trimming the enormous manuscript to manageable size, almost impossible for a responsible editor to do without the help of the author. Brown's prolix, rambling style is at times mesmerizing and at times--just rambling. Brown's notes at the end show us where the story might have gone, but it does not suffer for being unfinished. Larry Brown definitely knew where he was taking his reader, and Ravenel helped him along.
Consideration of the fatherhood theme centers around a man known only as "Jimmy's Daddy," an unregenerate, wretched human being and an ignorant, violent drunkard. His preoccupations, view of women, and treatment of Jimmy might be seen as caricatures if we didn't know that such people actually exist. Another father, with a much more interesting story, is Cortez Sharp, a farmer in the low hills near Oxford, Mississippi, for nearly fifty years. He has a daughter, Lucinda, living "with a retard" in Atlanta. The man is a layabout artist who suffers from Tourette's Syndrome, which makes Cortez think that he is simply retarded. Cortez has a deep, dark, guilty secret which is eventually revealed, but the two things that we know about him from the beginning are that he is terribly lonely and is stocking a pond he just had dug with catfish--thousands of catfish. Two minor players are Cleve, a muderous black man who is an occasional employee of Cortez's and Tommy, who delivers fish to stock Cortez's pond and owns Ursula, the Mother of all Catfish. Jimmy is the hapless nine-year-old who suffers at the hands of his daddy, and comes to the attention of Cortez who tells him--initially--to get off his property. All of these lives intersect in unexpected ways and are changed by the encounters. Brown writes hell-bent-for-leather in a style uniquely his own which carries the reader along, into landscapes interior and exterior. --Valerie Ryan
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Larry Brown has been a force in American literature since taking critics by storm with his debut collection,
Facing the Music, in 1988. His subsequent work—five novels, another story collection, and two books of nonfiction—continued to bring extraordinary praise and national attention to the writer
New York Newsday called a "master."
In November 2004, Brown sent the nearly completed manuscript of his sixth novel to his literary agent. A week later, he died of a massive heart attack. He was fifty-three years old.
A Miracle of Catfish is that novel. Brown's trademarks—his raw detail, pared-down prose, and characters under siege—are all here.
This beautiful, heartbreaking anthem to the writer's own North Mississippi land and the hard-working, hard-loving, hard-losing men it spawns is the story of one year in the lives of five characters—an old farmer with a new pond he wants stocked with baby catfish; a bankrupt fish pond stocker who secretly releases his forty-pound brood catfish into the farmer's pond; a little boy from the trailer home across the road who inadvertently hooks the behemoth catfish; the boy's inept father; and a former convict down the road who kills a second time to save his daughter.
That Larry Brown died so young, and before he could see
A Miracle of Catfish published, is a tragedy. That he had time to enrich the legacy of his work with this remarkable book is a blessing.
Customer Reviews:
Larry Brown's last miraculous novel.......2007-09-05
Another reason to mourn Larry Brown's untimely death is the fact that we will never know just how the lives of the people he created in his final masterpiece would have turned out. Would Cortez have become the father little Bobby deserves, replacing the hapless and clueless daddy who can think of no one but himself? Would we ever know any more about the fish man? Perhaps we already know enough about all the living, breathing, all-too-real characters Larry imagined for us by the time we come to the page where we are left wanting to know more about them and about the others living in his imagination, waiting for future books that won't be written. It's a rare talent who can keep us interested in and even hopeful about the fates of some pretty unlikeable and apparently unredeemable people. Bobby, Bobby's daddy, and Cortez are among Larry Brown's finest creations.
The last hurrah of talented writer Larry Brown.......2007-08-24
'A Miracle Of Catfish' was unfinished when author Larry Brown died unexpectedly. Because the book was almost finished, publication of Brown's last offering to his fans was possible. The book uses ellipsis to show where editing was done, and though unfinished, includes the notes that Brown left behind as to how he planned to wrap up the novel.
In Brown's languid southern prose, he explores the lives of several people living in the quiet, countrified outskirts of a small town. Cortez Sharp, a 72 year old man who's wife is disabled, decides to dig out a large pond on his property and stock it with catfish. He lives a solitary life, preferring to be left alone with his vegetable patches and herds of cows. His daughter Lucinda lives in Atlanta with her boyfriend Albert, who suffers from Tourettes Syndrome. Cortez calls Albert 'The Retard', driving a wedge between him and his only surviving child. Cortez carries a dark secret with him, one of horrible proportions.
There's Jimmy, a ten year old boy with bad teeth, who lives near Cortez's farm in an old trailer. Jimmy struggles with his father's temper, his two half-sisters Evelyn and Velma, and his desire to fix the go-kart his daddy built for him. Jimmy's Daddy (known only in the book as 'Jimmy's Daddy') is a typical redneck loser. He drives around in his old '55 drinking beer and smoking cigarettes, fights with himself over trying to treat Jimmy better, and has an affair with a woman at the stove factory where he works that turns out bad (in pregnancy) which threatens his life and marriage to Jonette.
And then there's Cleve, an old black man who used to work for Cortez, mean as a polecat, and murderous to boot. He's been in prison twice and though he swore he'd never go back, he's not quite done committing crimes.
Typical of Brown's unhurried and languorous prose, there's lots of smoking, beer drinking, and driving around. There's surprises like DUI's, tractor accidents, unwanted pregnancies, affairs, fishing, hunting, and a young boy worried about having puppies.
These aren't exactly people you would want for neighbors, but Brown brings them out fully fleshed and alive, and you know there are people out there just like Brown's characters. Everyday folk struggling with everyday problems, inner monologues that both repulse and enchant, and scenes that will suck you into the story despite their slowly building climaxes.
While I highly recommend Brown's work, I would recommend 'Joe', 'Fay', and 'Father And Son' as a warm up to 'A Miracle Of Catfish', simply because this is an unfinished work and may leave the novice Brown reader feeling flat at the abrupt end. It's sad that this is the last time we will hear Brown's voice in the literature world. Enjoy!
Unfinished but pleasing anyway.......2007-07-10
I have the same feeling reading Larry Brown as I do reading Faulkner: He's writing about us! And this latest is the same as the others of his; he has the weather, the land, the people, the animals and all down pat. It's like it is down here. He's just chosen a few characters to show a representation but he uses them to give insight into the universal truths as Faulkner says. It's a shame he wasn't able to finish the book but it's wonderful that his wife and publisher went ahead with what's there. And most of it is there.
I was in the Oxford Hospital getting a stent put in and finally going home after a week of tests and procedures when I read that he'd died suddenly of a heart attack. I always wanted to meet him as I thought we had so much in common. A couple of years before I thought I saw him leaving Square Books as we were going in- my brother from North Carolina who always wants to got to Square Books and my wife and our daughter who lives in Oxford. He had on a gray raincoat or light overcoat and he smiled at us when he saw us getting out of the car and heading into the bookstore. What a loss.
Beverly Lowry of George Mason University has written a fine review in the April 27, 2007, New York Times Book Review and I'm sure there are others. Read this book and you'll want to go back and read his others too.
Dewitt Spencer
You simply MUST READ this book! Such a masterpiece!!!.......2007-07-07
I was devastated when I heard that Larry Brown had passed away. What a loss to his friends and family, and what a loss to his fans. This man could spin a tale, write a story, take you away, pull you in. Such a loss - God bless him!
I have read EVERY book that Mr. Brown ever wrote -- FAY, JOE, FATHER AND SON, etc. When I saw A MIRACLE OF CATFISH on the new book shelf at my library, I almost fell over! Knowing Mr. Brown has passed, I was shocked and happy to see this book there -- all 454 pages of it.
Let me tell you, at first I didn't think I was going to be able to get into this book. Which I found very puzzling! So, I sat down and really READ and by page five I was HOOKED!! I will think of this book for years to come!!! It is just THAT GOOD.
The characters in this book are sooo life-like and believeable. There are not many people in this novel, but you don't need many. Each chapter revolves around one character and their life; however, they are all inter-twined and make the book was it is ~~ EXCELLENT.
The main characters are Cortez Sharp, who farms and raises cattle. His wife is ill and his grown child lives in Atlanta. He is older and very lonely. He decides to build a pond and stock it with catfish. When the author describes the tomato sandwiches Cortez makes, yum, hook me up with one!
Another main character is Jimmy, a young boy who lives with his white trash family down the road from Cortez. He is a lonely little guy whose step-sisters treat him like crap. His mom, Johnette {gotta love the names!}, works, eats, and sleeps (around!!) and doesn't pay her children too much attention. Hence, Jimmy is looking for attention, affection, interest, and love. He wanders down by the new pond only to get kicked off the property by Cortez Sharp, which is how these two main characters meet.
My favorite main character was Jimmy's dad who is only referred to as Jimmy's daddy. Such a loser! Such a womanizer! Such a sorry excuse for a father! Always thinking of himself, always looking out for himself. Loves his old '55 car more than his family. But all of these bad traits make him the great character he is. You have to give Jimmy's daddy credit -- he does try, he does love his family; however, if something bad is going to happen it happens to Jimmy's daddy. He never quite makes things work right for himself or his family.
Cortez Sharp decides to have a pond dug and filled w
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