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Unlike most other books, Resonant Leadership undersells itself. With easy justification, the authors or their editors at Harvard Business School Press could have applied a more expansive moniker like "Secrets of Enduring Leaders", or "How to Deal with Burnout," or perhaps even "Being Happy at Work." The work's modest title, though, takes nothing away from its grand ambition: to explain what makes leaders effective amid unrelentingly stressful situations.
The authors, Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee, will be familiar to many businesspeople and management theorists. They collaborated with Daniel Goleman on the bestselling Primal Leadership, which extended Goleman's seminal work on emotional intelligence, and explained how "EQ", not just IQ, underpins success in guiding and directing organizations. With this latest book, Boyatzis and McKee have continued developing their holistic view of management. It's an attractive one. Resonant Leadership begins with recognition of leaders' essential humanity and analyzes the physical, mental, and emotional triggers that make men and women strong or weak as leaders. As readers might expect from an HBS Press offering, Boyatzis and McKee's methodology is appropriately academic, with extensive footnotes and research citations, but it also uses a nice blend of anecdotes from their field work as consultants, and is expressed through decidedly touchy-feely language. What emerges is a highly engaging, readable work that takes business audiences into somewhat unusual psychological territory, far beyond the usual bar charts and spreadsheets.
The book's organization is simple. Boyatzis and McKee start by describing the highly stressful conditions in which leaders operate today, and explain sympathetically how many well-intentioned people fall into what they call "dissonance" due to burnout. Whereas the authors' earlier book focused on the initial ingredients for leadership effectiveness, their interest now is in ongoing, enduring resonance--leaders who can be effective today, but also maintain their edge into tomorrow, as well. Resonant Leadership thus moves from this initial exposition of problems--management ineffectiveness, and/or burnout--to solutions. The authors anchor their prescription around three core qualities which they believe resonant leaders must continually cultivate: mindfulness, hope, and compassion. These may sound like ephemeral concepts, but they form the touchstone of Resonant Leadership and are cited again and again. Readers of Boyatzis and McKee's latest--whether already-strong leaders looking to maintain their effectiveness, or burned-out ones aiming to get back in the proverbial saddle--will find this is a thought-provoking read. --Peter Han
Book Description
Resonant Leadership shows how leaders can recognise the cycles of stress, sacrifice, and renewal inherent in their jobs—and actively utilise the qualities of mindfulness, hope, and compassion to renew their passion and effectiveness. Practical follow-on to the international bestseller Primal Leadership: Goes beyond research and stories to offer proven strategies for how to “do” resonant leadership Successful Author Team: Boyatzis and McKee are co-authors of PL, and Daniel Goleman has written a glowing Foreword to the book which will lend considerable credibility and visibly link the book to its predecessor Addresses a Universal Leadership Challenge: The increasingly short tenure of many of today’s executives, the pressure to make the quarterly numbers, a shaky economy and other stresses in today’s global workplace underscore the urgency of this book’s message and its relevance for executives and managers in all kinds of companies
Customer Reviews:
Self-Help for Leaders.......2007-08-20
Recognizing the importance in leadership to first and foremost `know thyself', authors Boyatzis and McKee use real business leadership examples to demonstrate how a single-minded focus on performance goals or career objectives can ultimately lead to what they define as the Sacrifice Syndrome - over reliance on self and subsequent burnout. They then recommend the use of Mindfulness - listening carefully to our bodies, minds, hearts, and spirits as we pay attention to what is happening around us; Hope - clear thoughts about what the future can be and how to get there; and Compassion - empathy and caring in action - as the renewal pathway away from this Sacrifice Syndrome.
The authors present a sound argument for the importance of maintaining balance between head, heart, hands (and spirit too) in dealing with the stresses of leadership. As I read the book, I found myself wanting more about applying the principles to managing others and had the feeling that the authors had the knowledge and abilities to address this missing - maybe in a past or future book? Recommended for those feeling worn-down by the stresses of leading in today's challenging environment.
Partial recipe for resonant leadership.......2006-09-08
A good framework for Servant Leadership style. Authors drive the point home by hammering three concepts into reader's mind: mindfulness, hope, and compassion. However the book fall short on emphasizing the power of "serving others," which I believe is a vital ingredient for resonant leaders. Many useful real life examples.
Important book!.......2006-04-15
I very much enjoyed Drs. Boyatzis and McKee initial offering with Daniel Goleman, "Primal Leadership", so I looked forward to learning more about resonnant leadership. I certainly wasn't disappointed. I very much appreciated the author's attention to citations and footnotes, indications of valid and solid research -- something that is becoming increasingly rare in these days of making-it-up-as-you-go writings.
Furthermore, I applaud the authors for having the courage to tackle the very important subject of burnout -- there are more leaders suffering from burnout than one would think. I have simply been amazed at how many burned out executives I have met in my time, and how few of them seemed to realize that they were burned out. Plus, the simple and effective perspectives of attending to Mindfulness, Hope and Compassion are very important indicators for workplace success.
While "Resonant Leadership" is an important book for leaders, the one criticism that I have of it is that it is a little light on practical application. For a book that holds a bit more practical applications for leaders, I would highly recommend "Leading People the Black Belt Way" from expert Tim Warneka -- a book that covers similiar territory in a similar "applied academics" fashion, but has the added benefit of offering a few more specific, hands on approaches for developing Mindfulness, Hope & Compassion.
Overall, I would highly recommend "Resonant Leadership".
Mindfullness, brilliant!..........2006-03-09
Intesting book - mindfullness, benevolence, compassion, optimism and hope are behaviors that allow leaders to display the very best of their game. If you are one individuals who aspire to be a SUPERB leader who helps, inspires and drives results, this book will certainly be a roadmoap to get there...
Bringing the obvious to mainstream biz.......2005-12-29
Wow! It's all "new" to the conventional biz press and its legions of fans. Arthur Lynch Williams has said for decades that any meaningful victory can only be accomplished through 'character'. Excitement and passion are only required if you want your reports to be passionate and excited. Great to see the academics now finally on the bandwagon of recognizing truths already gleaned from sport coaching, military leadership, and countless other disciplines and organizational behavior. Read All You Can Do Is All You Can Do But All You Can Do is Enough and Pushing Up People by Art Williams for the real pioneering work in this field. Art is a helluvan easier read too, although this work is important for its contribution to the audience it is intended.
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- Only thing that has helped my son.
- I must read for panic suffers
- Great!!!!
- Great for anyone suffering with anxiety
- Good stuff
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Hope and Help for Your Nerves (Signet)
Claire Weekes
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Customer Reviews:
Only thing that has helped my son........2007-09-29
Only thing that has helped my son.
Only thing that has helped my son.
Only thing that has helped my son.
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I must read for panic suffers.......2007-06-16
Years ago I suffered from panic disorder. This book was recommended to me. I have since bought dozens of copies for friends and family that I think should learn how powerful the mind can be. Dr. Weekes is a genius at making you understand that the more you resist the more the symptoms persist. A nervous mind sees no end in the fear of another panic attack. The fear is what keeps it alive. Read the book if you've ever had a moment or feeling that you're not yourself. This book will change your life.
Great!!!!.......2007-05-18
It has really helped me out alot. Also it has given me some good advice.
Great for anyone suffering with anxiety.......2007-05-13
I bought this book after several months of suffering with severe anxiety and panic attacks. The book is written as if Dr Weekes was speaking directly to me. I highly recommend this book.
Good stuff.......2007-05-12
I am not one of those people who has read multiple self-help books, in fact-- I've read two, this one and Robin Sharma's The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari (which i highly RECOMMEND). I am 18 years old.
I began looking for a self help book after having a good 8 months with light to chronic insomnia. I've had difficulties with anxiety for the past 2 years, have had harsh panic attacks (and sometimes trips to clinics and the hospital), but it wasn't until I had began having trouble with sleep that I had sought help. This was the first "nervous illness" that I could not get a grip on on my own, and after reading reviews here and by various other people, I decided on this book.
I like: That it's not a high-tech vocabulary book. It's simple vocabulary, written carefully by a woman who understands what I was feeling. This is the first time I finally got perspective on what was happening with me, mentally. She deals with various issues, every fear, and describes them fairly accurately. What's best about this book, no doubt, is how it's written. I felt like I was having tea with the lady the whole time.
I didn't like: How it affected me in the beginning. It brought back really harsh and ruthless memories which made me pretty vulnerable. I suggest reading it with someone you trust, or maybe even just in their company, whatever might make you feel more comfortable. I'd also suggest to read it consecutively, maybe not all at once, but I wouldn't stop until you feel soothed and calmed. (because it did eventually calm me)
Her concept of "Floating", which I practice almost every time I'm panic-stricken, takes practice. I still don't have that down, but I feel it work the more I practice. I think "floating" could have been explained better, and elaborated on its definition because it took me a few reads to get even a glimpse on what she meant and what it meant to myself.
I do recommend this book, regardless of age, intelligence, and sex. Definitely worth giving a shot.
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- Bible?? The book is less then a inch thick!
- The Diabetes Food and Nutrition Bibld
- Does Not Deliver What It Promises
- most helpful book so far
- More than one hundred healthful and tasty dishes
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The Diabetes Food and Nutrition Bible : A Complete Guide to Planning, Shopping, Cooking, and Eating
Hope S. Warshaw , and
Nancy S. Hughes
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Book Description
Introducing the American Diabetes Association's first all-in-one food book, a combination of nutrition guideline, menu planner, and cookbook. Readers will learn how to shop, plan nutritious meals, and cook low-fat and healthy foods. The Diabetes Food and Nutrition Bible is divided into three sections: Meal Planning, Healthy Shopping (for fruits, vegetables, protein, etc.), and Recipes (using the ingredients from the previous section). Helpful sidebars throughout the text will offer helpful cooking and nutrition tips.
Customer Reviews:
Bible?? The book is less then a inch thick!.......2006-07-18
Maybe its the beginners bible and not the holy bible size they were talking about. This book is for beginners only!! The main part of this book is recipes. If I wanted that I would have bought a recipe book not a book to teach me about diabetes nutrition. This is not a complete anything!!! Try Prevention The Sugar Solution. I am returning the "bible". What a waste of my money having to return this book. Not sure why it has so many stars.
The Diabetes Food and Nutrition Bibld.......2006-03-19
This is a very informative book, with lots of tips. I've tried some of the recipes and they are good. I also purchased the book for a family member and they also found a lot of useful information in the book.
Does Not Deliver What It Promises.......2004-08-16
I would not recommend this book for people who are trying to get their life together after a diagnosis of diabetes. I bought this book because its subtitle is "A Complete Guide to Planning, Shopping, Cooking, and Eating". It is none of those things.
I was particularly interested in the SHOPPING promise because I find that to be the most difficult part of managing my diet. Other books didn't have anything helpful, and despite its promise, this book doesn't either. One has to read through every single recipe, write down the ingredients of what you want to make, and then go out and get it. Just like every other book. So tell me: how does this help with "shopping"? I expected lists of basic staples in a diabetic's diet. There should be lists of "must-haves" for your pantry. This book lies about what it contains, and is sadly lacking in what it needs.
An expensive mistake, don't buy it.
most helpful book so far.......2002-06-10
Now that the condition called "pre-diabetic" has been recognized by the medical profession, even more people need information on meals, recipes and menu planning to aid in blood glucose control. I have just recently been diagnosed as pre- or "borderline" diabetic. Pre-diabetes and diabetes are medical conditions that are vastly under the control of the patient. We have all heard that losing weight and increasing exercise are vital to controlling diabetes. At this point I have read about six books on diabetes and this one is by far the best. Some of the books were a complete waste of money, in my opinion; for example, "Tell Me What to Eat if I Have Diabetes" was for processed and fast food junkies. All of the books present information on goals for blood glucose levels, what are carbohydrates, etc. But for me, I needed help with menu planning, balancing proteins, carbos, fats, calories, increasing fiber, etc.
"The Diabetes Bible" does have workable recipes - the ones I have made were very tasty. The biggest shock comes when you actually measure the serving sizes specified. A 4-ounce apple did not exist in my grocery store - they were all 8 ounces. So, if you follow their menu plans (I used the 1,200 to 1,400 calorie plan), you can eat only half that apple. It is amazing how small a half-cup portion of cooked vegetables is or two ounces of lean protein is an incredibly tiny piece (I once virtuously ate a small fish fillet, only to find out that I had consumed "four exchanges"). And one cup of milk is only a few swallows.
My biggest complaint about the book is that many menus rely on reduced fat cheeses, "lite" sour cream and margarine, although they do admit you can used the real thing, but (obviously) eat even less of it.
It is no lie to say that controlling pre-diabetes or diabetes is a heck of a lot of work. Given the risks of not controlling these conditions - eye damage, peripheral neuropathy, risk of heart attack and stroke - patient motivation to lose weight, increase exercise, control blood pressure and blood glucose, reduce cholesterol, etc. should be high, but it certainly is no day at the beach. The "Diabetes Bible" at least gave me some place to start.
More than one hundred healthful and tasty dishes.......2001-08-09
In The Diabetes Food & Nutrition Bible: A Complete Guide To Planning, Shopping, Cooking, And Eating, Hope Warshaw and Robyn Web effectively collaborate to draw upon their more than twenty years experience with the challenges of a diabetic lifestyle. They provide the reader with a wealth of information on how to turn out more than one hundred healthful and tasty dishes for the diabetic -- meal time dishes that will be enthusiastically received by their non-diabetic friends and family members as well. All aspects of sound and nutritious cuisine for the diabetic is covered including the what to look for and what to avoid with respect to canned and prepared foods from the supermarket, portion control and the role it plays in a healthy eating plan for diabetics; five "Nutrition Superstars" that compliment any diabetic diet; and the diabetes meal plan based on building blocks of healthful eating for people with diabetes. No diabetics's reference shelf and cookbook collection can be considered complete without the inclusion of The Diabetes Food & Nutrition Bible!
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This book is for the hidden victims of addiction--families. For families of addicts, feeling of fear, shame, confusion over a loved one's addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. And the emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow caused or contributed to their loved one's addiction--or that they could have done something to prevent it. As the heart-wrenching personal stories in this book reveal, family members do not cause their loved one's addiction. Nor can they control of cure addiction. What family members can do is find support, set bounderies, detach with love--and eventually discover how to enjoy life whether their loved one finds recovery of not. "Addict in the Family" is a book about sorrow, deception, and pain. More importantly, it is a book of comfort, hope, and understanding for anyone struggling with a loved one's addicton.
Customer Reviews:
An Absolute Must Read.......2007-09-10
As a mother of an addict, this book is exactly what I needed. I didn't think I was going to keep my sanity, I really needed help! This book provided hope, advice, encouragement for ME, fulfilled my anxiety with calmness and a real sense of PEACE. Ms. Conyers put this book together with such expertise that it felt like she was my personal counsellor. I took notes throughout and read it in one day. I couldn't put it down. It's helped me deal with my addiction to trying to "fix" my addicted daughter. So much better than any other book I've read.
Best of Many Written.......2007-09-04
I am taking the time to write this review to encourage anyone who is in a close relationship with an addict to read this book. I have read many books on addiction but this one has really changed my way of looking at my own life while dealing with the addiction of a loved one.
A book for everyone who cares.......2007-08-26
When as a parent, your absolutely worst nightmare comes true and you find out your child has addiction issues, finding resources and information is difficult to say the least. This book should be recommended for everyone who knows and cares about anyone with an addiction problem. Addict in the Family gave me insight into behaviors, mine and my daughter's that I have struggled with for two years. It also sheds a light on the road to come. It gave me not only strength of conviction, but also understanding. It was a heaven send to have my own words of fear, concern and love echoed in the pages of this book, and know I'm not alone.
you won't feel alone after this.......2007-01-09
I recomend this book to anyone who has a loved one, friend, nieghbor, co- worker who is involved in drugs or if you are suspicious that they may be. Perhaps also to parents of younger kids who want to be somewhat prepared for thier future, especially if any member of the family has had an addiction of any kind. Addiction is a deadly disease and a very sad one. It helps to see, unfortunately, that you are not alone. But never give up, get educated on it.
Order more than one copy!.......2005-10-01
I read this book in one afternoon, the most informative, educational, and well-spent afternoon in months. This book should be a must-read for anyone who's living with a close friend or family member suffering from a drug or alcohol addiction. This book provided SO MANY answers for me to all those questions that anyone in my situation would ask. This book will be kept close for future reference, a gem that I am extremely happy to have found. I plan to order copies for other family members, as I don't intend to part with mine!
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In this update to the popular first edition of "Young, Sober and Free", author Shelly Marshall presents the shocking real-life stories of young adults who have survived their early years despite becoming addicted to alcohol and other drugs. The current edition features several new revealing narratives told from the perspective of today's recovering young people. These and other firsthand accounts are accompanied by discussions of Twelve Step principles that serve as a guide to young adults in recovery. Whether you are in recovery yourself, a friend or family member of an addict, or a professional who works in the addiction field, this book is a proven time-tested classic that will serve as a valuable resource for years to come.
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There have been huge advances in our ability to diagnose autism and in the development of effective interventions that can change children's lives. In this extraordinary book, Lynn Kern Koegel, a leading clinician, researcher, and cofounder of the renowned Autism Research Center at the University of California at Santa Barbara, combines her cutting-edge expertise with the everyday perspectives of Claire LaZebnik, a writer whose experience with a son with autism provides a rare window into the disorder. Together, they draw on the highly effective “pivotal response” approach developed at the center to provide concrete ways of improving the symptoms of autism and the emotional struggles that surround it, while reminding readers never to lose sight of the humor that lurks in the disability's quirkiness or the importance of enjoying your child. From the shock of diagnosis to the step-by-step work with verbal communication, social interaction, self- stimulation, meltdowns, fears, and more, the answers are here-in a book that is as warm and nurturing as it is authoritative.
Customer Reviews:
An Excellent Buy.......2007-09-26
There are books on autism that I recommend that parents and heathcare professionals read. This is one book that I recommend that they don't just read but buy and keep it for future references.
There is such a wealth of info on autism here. If you can only afford to buy one book on autism. Let this be the one.
The authors take a highly optimistic view of treating autism. However, they make no bones about the fact that the treatment process is long, tedious and can even be painful. The first chapter deals with diagnosis and dealing with the initial shock.
From the second chapter onwards, the authors get down to earth with managing the autistic child. They go down to every detail on how to encourage communication. Start from the very simple and basic. Turn sounds into words. Reward, reinforce ...
Next, it's down to breaking the self-stimulating or injury cycle. Introduce replacement behaviour. The authors go into the dos and don'ts for breaking repetitive actions. Why punishment doesn't work for them. There is also a very practical FAQ section that deals with the common concerns and problems faced by parents and care providers.
The following chapters deal with imparting social skills, providing education and family support. There is so much useful info that it's impossible to finish, let alone digest in one reading. Buy this book and keep referring to it as you manage autistic children and see them grow up.
Gives you hope.......2007-09-25
My son was diagnosed with ASD at 2. I read many books and this was my favorite. It was clear, easy to read and most of all it gives you techniques on how to help your child overcome. It gave me hope when I was facing his diagnosis.
Very positive and encouraging!.......2007-06-01
Although I have not purchased this book, I have read a copy that I borrowed from a library.
While the author of this book doesn't guarantee that autistic kids will improve suddenly as soon as their cargivers start giving them the help they need, she talks about how much they can progress eventually if their caregivers give them all the help they need. I really like books that tell us about how much autistic people can progress eventually if they are given every chance to progress as much as they can, and that also give examples of those who have made great progress already, as a result of being given every chance to progress as much as they can. In fact, I really like all books that offer solutions to major problems and/or better alternatives to the status quo!
Treasure Trove of Information.......2007-05-13
This book can be a great addition to the library of people with children who have been diagonosed with autism. It is definately a book with shows a ray of light at the end of what seems to be a dark never ending tunnel.
Renewed Hope.......2007-05-07
I liked this book. After reading a book that smashed all my dreams for my son I read this Overcoming Autism and it renewed my hope for a better future for my son. It's an easy read, light hearted and positive uplifting book
Book Description
A non-technical, true-to-life book that shatters the myths about homosexuality, its causes and cures. Not based on simple pat answers, you Don't Have To Be Gay gives clear instruction, well-documented argumentation, heartening encouragement, honest self-analysis and practical suggestions. Perfect for all who desire to understand homosexuality and its root causes.
Customer Reviews:
Faulty "research" = invalid conclusions.......2007-09-11
I realize that this book was originally written in 1987 and at that time, the studies cited by this amateur author weren't so grossly out of date as they are now. However, this book is in its 4th printing (2000) and a good scholar, rather than someone with a moral agenda to push, would have updated their research.
Even in 1987, the studies cited were outdated, clearly biased and/or lacking any scientific validity whatsoever (psychoanalytic "studies" from the 1960's), or blatantly misrepresented (John Money's "success" of gender socialization? Read "As Nature Made Him" by John Colapinto for the real story).
Gender orientation and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing; homosexuality is not a "symptom" of a "damaged" gender identity. Neither gender nor sexual orientation is 100% socialization, as Konrad tries to claim; there IS an inborn component, which he would have learned had he done some current research - but of course, that would only happen if he had actually wanted to give a fair and balanced study of the topic, which is clearly not his purpose.
Konrad's use of "science" is a joke at best and dangerous at worst as he tries to push the idea that homosexuality is a disorder, a symptom, and not only a "choice" but the WRONG choice. This book should've died in the 80's where it belongs.
For the new struggler.......2007-06-27
Pastor Konrad's book, "You Don't Have To Be Gay" is one is read initially back in 1989 at Outpost Ministries. It was challenging to me then as I started out my journey out of homosexuality.
Today, I like blessing brothers just starting their journey with copies of "You Don't Have To Be Gay" as a means to help them along in their journey! I highly recommend it for any man leaving the Gay Lifestyle or for men wanting to help them!
Insightful. Accurate. Worth a read by even the detractors........2007-05-04
Never finding solace within the so-called "gay community", never mind that if you're not a certain way (aka 'the stereotype'), you'll be laughed and harrassed by as many within the "community" as those who'll maim gay people (which is also a sin - violence against another is always violence), I bought this book. And read it.
I used to be homosexual. I used to be very much gay-rights, pro "civil unions", and so on. But noting how so few in the gay community seemed to care about these things, that was the first sign. Having visited 9 annual festivals/parades since "coming out", I've seen a lot of changes. None of them very good and would only incite the ire of people far less "diplomatic" than I.
It is worth the read. For anybody, including counselors and psychiatrists and especially gay men, longing for loving relationships rather than sleazy and dangerous liasions with other men who certainly won't care about anybody except themselves.
While I never thought myself inadequate as a male, the remaining reasons that incite people to homosexuality are told with gravitas and veracity. You cannot find solace in an area filled with other people also lacking solace. Especially if you have to do certain, uncomfortable things in order to "feel accepted" or even "normal" when you know it isn't and you know they won't change regardless what you do to attain their favor. It's ersatz.
Even Roseanne recently made a statement, which only reflects the narcissistic behaviors in the gay community. And she didn't need to apologize for them because she was correct. Keep in mind, she helped promote GLBT people as equals during the 1990s (at least until the final year of her TV show when they were turned into stereotypes as well.)
Maybe I never found the right man. But I was laughed at by plenty of them over the last decade because I had goals and ideals. They just wanted to get off or mock anybody who didn't "think" just like they did. Or claimed to. And, the ultimate irony, it was the gay "community" that had me seeking other options. What they call living is deplorable, and if they are represented by the parades and festivals featuring X-rated materials and acts, then there's a lot of warped folks out there who can't realize they are only adding fuel to the political fire. (A certain singer, a few months back, described "gay culture" quite adequately and that was the wake-up call for me.) But the time for cynicism is over. It's time to move on. I want to thank Jeff for an eye-opening, legitimate book. I wish I had read it sooner.
One final thought: Love is about the soul. Not the body. Homosexuals tell us it's love of the body; that much is incontrovertibly clear. And what they do in the name of demanding equality is not love.
Awesome book!.......2007-02-24
This book gave me hope when I'd been told for years to just accept myself as gay. It angers me that my counselor had never heard about his information. I had to find it myself.
For the person who does not want to stay gay or is tired of living the gay lifestyle.......2007-01-05
This book is a great resource. It is written, not for the person who is happy being gay, but for the person that is looking for a way out. The research is excellent, and the author himself walked away from the gay lifestyle so he speaks with authority. I too have walked away from being gay and I highly recommend this book for someone just starting to research the facts and is looking for hope.
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Edelman shares her own painful story and the stories of many other women who, as children or adults, lost their mothers. She explains the stages of grief and adjustment. She considers the secondary effects that can occur: the girl-child filling the lost mother's role at home for father and younger siblings. If you've lost your mother, you no longer have to face it alone.
Book Description
A classic bestseller, now newly expanded and updated-the book that first acknowledged "mother loss," a woman's most profoundly life-altering passage
An instant bestseller in both hardcover and paperback, Hope Edelman's Motherless Daughters explores the myriad ways that losing a mother can affect almost every aspect and passage of a woman's life. First published a decade ago, it is still the book that motherless daughters of all ages look to for understanding and comfort and that they press into each other's hands.
Building on interviews with hundreds of mother- loss survivors, this life-affirming book is now newly expanded to reflect the author's personal experience with the continued legacy of mother loss; now married and a mother of young children herself, Edelman better understands how the effects of mother loss change over time and in light of new relationships.
A work of stunning courage and honesty, Motherless Daughters is a must read for the millions of women whose mothers have gone, but whose need for healing, mourning, and mothering remains. It is a timeless classic.
Customer Reviews:
Not really relevant to my situation.......2007-02-14
I bought this book for myself, after a friend recommended it (whose mother passed away when she was 13). My mother passed away in August, and it's now February. I was really looking forward to reading the book, as I thought it would help in the healing process. I think the book is better suited for someone who lost their mother at a young age, like the author. My mother passed away when I was 41, and the book doesn't really touch on motherless daughters who are my age. There have been certain excerpts that have helped, but after finishing the book, I found myself wishing it had been different.
Not what I expected.......2007-01-19
I ordered a few of these when our mom died to give to my sisters. After reveiwing it, I still have them all. This book is for women whose mothers passed when they were young and who haven't had a mother to bring them up. That isn't our case as the youngest of us is 46. It did us no good but I'm sure it might help women in that situation.
Please doing business with you.......2006-11-06
Item arrived in exact condition as described and arrived quickly. Thank you!
Age of loss.......2006-10-27
I read and enjoyed this book when it came out in hardback in 1994. As befits the author's own experience, it concentrates on mother loss by daughters in their teens. I'd be more interested in a treatment of mother loss by infant daughters -- nothing against the book, though.
I just read a review of a new biography of Jean-Jacques Rousseau, who began his "Confessions" by saying "I am made unlike anyone I have ever met." I thought, "That man lost his mother in infancy." Sure enough, two paragraphs down in the review, "His mother had died just after his birth." I guess I'll just read the Rousseau biography for insight into shattering alienation from early mother loss. Though I may also try "Don't Call Me Mother," referenced in one of the reviews below.
Strongly recommended reading for all women, who have lost or who are risk for the loss of their mother.......2006-05-07
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy Of Loss by award winning journalist Hope Edelman is an informative and expertly contributive documentation of the psychological and spiritual effects the death of a mother might have on the life and psychological well being of a daughter. Deftly presenting how the absence of a nurturing maternal hand could influence the development of a daughter's self identity, and what might result from the loss of such a role model and source of emotional support, Motherless Daughters tells of why living beyond a mother's final year reminds a daughter of her exquisite separateness; how present-day relationships are defined by past losses; what the "unmothered" woman can do to reclaim her autonomy and restore her connection to the family of the motherline; and how to understand grief as an ongoing journey. Very strongly recommended reading for all women, who have lost or who are risk for the loss of their mother, Motherless Daughters is to be especially commended or its outstanding presentation of insightful and helpful material for coping with the death of a mother.
Book Description
A nationally known spokesperson for the mentally ill offers hope and inspiration in this moving story of his decades-long struggle with schizophrenia and his remarkable recovery.
For thirty-two years Ken Steele lived with the devastating symptoms of schizophrenia, tortured by inner voices commanding him to kill himself, ravaged by the delusions of paranoia, barely surviving on the ragged edges of society. In this inspiring story, Steele tells the story of his hard-won recovery from schizophrenia and how activism and advocacy helped him regain his sanity and go on to give hope and support to so many others like him.
Customer Reviews:
Excellent book.......2007-09-24
This book presents an incredibly honest insight into the experience of a paranoid schizophrenic. Ken Steele invites his readers into the most personal spaces of his mind and walks us through his life experiences. The book left me in tears. A must read for anyone who works as a mental health provider or seeks to understand what a friend or loved one is going through.
schizophrenia.......2007-06-08
The book writtten in a simple style, is nonetheless extremely moving. It was very interesting to read how a schizophrenic views the world around him, and how we appear to him. An excellent read.
Just Wonderful.......2007-04-10
I recommend this book to all people who want to understand mental illness better or to anyone who just needs to be inspired. Ken Steele gives you such a gripping and vivid picture of his extremely difficult life as a mentally ill person, I felt like I was experiencing it with him. Never before have I been brought to tears from reading a book, nor have I ever felt so much hope that I can overcome adversity in my own life.
Resonate and Inspiring.......2007-03-24
I chose to read `The Day The Voices Stopped: A Memoir of Madness of Hope' by Ken Steele and Claire Berman because I was interested in reading a book on the subject of mental illness. `The Day The Voices Stopped' is about Ken Steele's battle with schizophrenia; along with all the work he's done to better the care and treatment of mental health consumers. Before I read the book, I thought that the book would depress me, and that I would want to stop reading when some of the really bad parts came. But as I read, I got pulled into Ken's life. The bad parts still depressed me, but I kept on reading, desperately wanting to see Ken's happy ending. The book starts with the sudden arrival of Ken's voices; Voices that are constantly harassing and abusing him. Ken jumps from place to place, institution to institution, experiencing tragedy and joy. There are moments in the book when everything in Ken's life seems absolutely dismal, which makes his recovery and triumph over his illness all the more inspiring. The book doesn't stop on the day that Ken's voices stopped; it goes on to chronicle his advocacy for the rights of mental patients, and his struggle without the voices.
I found `The Day The Voices Stopped' to be very enjoyable. Ken bears all, not sugar-coating anything in his struggles. It's a hard, truthful look into the life of someone with schizophrenia], and someone who has been constantly abused both by his voices and people around him. Ken's story is moving and inspirational. It makes one stop and look around at the world with new eyes. The story is written for Ken's point of view, sharing both his thoughts and what his voices said. He retells his story in a detached sort of view, distancing the view from his emotions he's feeling while looking back on his life.
I highly recommended this book, but not to everyone. It is definitely not for younger kids, someone should be at least 15 if they are going to read this book. I highly recommend this book to anyone who knows someone with a mental illness and anyone who has a mental illness themselves. It really shows the thought process and emotions of someone with a mental illness, and helps us to relate to them better. I think it would be a good idea for a parent to read along with the book if their child is reading it, to help explain some things that the child might not understand.
The book is not meant to depress someone. It is meant to give people a window into the mind of someone who is mentally ill, to help them better relate to them, to offer hope. It's meant to move people without mental illness, and to inspire those who do have a mental illness, telling them that they can find their way out of the confusing fog in their minds. In sharing his experiences, Ken has given a voice to those who have been silenced.
A True Hero's Story.......2007-03-24
I chose to read this book as part of a group project at school. I was slightly apprehensive about the choice at first, but I finally decided to go for it and I'm glad that I did. "The Day The Voices Stopped: A Memoir of Madness and Hope" is the life of Ken Steele, told through his own words, about his struggles with schizophrenia. It details his journey from place to place, hospital to hospital and along the very edge of suicide. It describes the abuses he suffers in mental wards and how people took advantage of his position. It also describes his recovery and his life afterwards as a mental health advocate.
The book begins with the day the voices came to Ken. "The voices arrived without warning on an October night in 1962, when I was fourteen years old. Kill yourself.... set yourself afire, they said." I found this a very gripping way to begin his story. We get to see what happened from day one and what things the voices say to him from the start. I think that, by letting us in on all 32 years of his struggle, he lets us into a new way of thinking about mental illness.
I thought that the book and its content would disturb me, but it didn't disturb me at all. The only thing it did was make me think and question my own views on the issue, which I find to be a great quality in a book. The book is slightly depressing, but Steele does offer the reader rays of hope throughout the text to keep it from being one large pit of spirit lowering material.
The book helped me to develop my position involving the care and treatment of those with mental illness and helped me to understand mental illness better. He takes his current feelings out of the picture (most of the time) so that we focus on the moment and what he was going through at the time he's telling about and can understand the hardship mental illness brings to those who suffer from it and their families. I think that everyone should read this book, whether they have a direct connection with mentally ill patients or not, for this reason. "The Day the Voices Stopped" is a very eye opening book and lets us into the minds of the mentally ill so that we can have a better understanding of them. There is, however, some very adult content within the text so the book is not appropriate for children, and parents should also be there to discuss it if their teenager is reading this book. As a teenager, I felt that it was important to be exposed to this so that I don't form the wrong conclusions about the mentally ill and their care, and my parents agreed with me.
This is definitely a book that I would buy, if not for the educational value of it, but for the story itself. Ken's fight for sanity and his miraculous recovery thanks to a new line of anti-psychotics, and his later fight for rights for the mentally ill is an amazing story. I was constantly wondering where he would go, what he would have to deal with, and what the voices were going to tell him to do next. In exposing his story and sending out his voice, he has become a real hero for many people who have been silent for too long.
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- The Whole Enchilada
- Very concise...wonderful!
- Important Information
- The most useful book out there on BPD !!
- New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder
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New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder: Your Friendly, Authoritative Guide to the Latest in Traditional and Complementary Solutions
Neil R. Bockian ,
Nora Elizabeth Villagran , and
Valerie Porr
Manufacturer: Three Rivers Press
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Binding: Paperback
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Book Description
Discover Exciting New Treatments for Borderline Personality Disorder
Now you can overcome the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) and develop a more positive outlook on life, starting today. Inside is a compassionate and complete look at the most up-to-date information on managing the symptoms of BPD as well as coping strategies for you, your friends, and your loved ones. This thoughtful book will teach you how to manage your moods, develop lasting and meaningful relationships, and create a fulfilling, happier state of mind. Your new world of hope starts now as you uncover:
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Customer Reviews:
The Whole Enchilada.......2006-05-07
Dr. Bockian leaves nothing out of this very useful aid to BPD. Starting with a penetrating description of BPD, the book then provides information on diagnosis, various therapies and treatments and how and where to find help. It offers plenty of information which can bring hope and understanding for people who must deal with BPD.
Very concise...wonderful! .......2006-03-22
I have read other books on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but I think that this is the best one yet!
Some mainstream books on this disorder are too technical to be understood by the lay person. Even though I am a mental health professional, the book was really concise and also quite entertaining! This book is also a good reference guide, and provides a wonderful summary for people who are new to learning about this disorder.
So, if you think you have BPD or know someone who has it, I highly recommend this book. Worth every penny!
Important Information.......2005-12-31
As I was searching for a book on BPD, I found it astonishingly difficult to understand the books nature without actually buying it and reading it, which makes the whole "searching and inquiring previously to purchase" almost impossible.
So I decided to give a quick explanation on this book, in addition to a review, so that other people might find the information useful...
"New Hope for people with BPD" is not a self help book; it is a self-help suggestion book. Meaning, the book begins, as does every other BPD book, with describing the disorder, explaining the DSM criteria and giving useful information about the condition. After that, the author proceeds to vastly describing treatment methods found in the USA today.
Throughout the book he covers many different kinds of therapeutic approaches quite objectively, leaving the reader with a ton of useful info and a bigger chance to make an educated decision on the therapeutic approach that is right for him/her. If up until now you had to go to a therapist and raise the question of "how are you planning to treat me?" without knowing anything about other ways, now you can read this book and decide beforehand on the way you see fittest for yourself.
The author includes various alternative approaches, such as alternative medicine, self help and nutritional options, but he does not give direct instruction on how to actually treat the disease, only information about options out there.
It is true that the author does concentrate mainly on the extreme symptoms of BPD, rather than the root of the problem, but then again, he is not presuming to solve the problem, but to help us find a way to solve it ourselves with the help of therapy.
I found this book to be extremely helpful and informational, non-presumptuous, and intelligent, and there's nothing I love more than an author who trusts the readers ability to understand "smart-stuff"...
I recommend this book as your first BPD book, but make sure you modify your expectations - if you can't afford therapy or do not want to go to therapy, this might not be the book for you.
The most useful book out there on BPD !!.......2005-12-21
This book has changed my life...I am able to deal with people in my life who have this disorder FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER....It is very clear and filled with user-friendly, sensitive, competent advice from people who clearly care and who clearly know what it takes for a person with BPD to survive and even thrive in spite of such a burdensome life...It truly is well named....NEW HOPE...It's really the first hope I have ever had for myself and my family members...Thank you Dr. Bockian (Valerie and Nora too) for being so good at what you do !! Reading this book is like talking first-hand to therapists WHO GET IT !!
New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder.......2005-08-31
Written for the layman. Understandable with a lot of pertinent information. My daughter is the one diagnosed and she is going through the text and highlighting what she feels is important and that she can relate to, and so far, most of the pages are predominantly yellow (highlighted). This has been far more beneficial than the text and workbook that were recommended to her that were written for the physician. In fact, the group leader was unaware of this book and took down the information to order copies for all who are treating patients with this disorder.
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