Sky Woman Falling

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On the New York reservation of the Oneida, FBI Special Agent Anna Turnipseed and Bureau of Indian Affairs Investigator Emmett Parker find the broken body of a community elder who seems to have fallen out of the sky--much like the woman in the Oneida creation myth. But it's a land dispute that's taken her life--and threatening to ground Turnipseed and Parker in facts far stranger than fiction.

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Good tale set in the world of U.S. government/Indian relations.......2007-07-19

In not a huge fan of "Indian country" mysteries (as another Amazon reviewer described the genre), but I enjoyed "Sky Woman Falling" well enough. You get a somewhat unusual mystery scenario and learn, quite painlessly, about the many issues facing modern American Indian tribes in the United States. Interestingly, you don't just learn about how the U.S. government relates to Indians these days, but how various Indian tribes feel about and relate to each other. And, so you don't feel totally at sea if you're new to this genre, you also get that great old mystery/thriller staple: friction between federal and local law enforcement. Like a thunderstorm during the climactic showdown, that particular staple never gets old.

It isn't Tony Hillerman, but still quite interesting.......2007-03-18

Not bad, I figured it out before the end, not a new or surprising plot. However, the aboriginal American detectives are nicely drawn and interesting and I wouldn't mind reading more mysteries with them as the protagonists.

Excellent series.......2006-09-16

I enjoy this series quite a bit because of the Indian lore--not overdone, but insights into the culture, bits about what is happening with reservations/culture. This particular mystery was outstanding in plot and the method of killing off characters. The suspence factor was also quite good. I'd like to see more character development between the two main characters. There's a bit of a sense of holding off on growing their relationship--and that relationship, along with the emotional growth of the two individually play a big part in why I like these books. Without it, they will become just another mystery so I really hope that future books bring and keep these personality aspects to the forefront.

Another great read.......2006-05-16

If you're a fan of Indian Country whodunits, Kirk Mitchell is tops. I could go on, but I'd just be repeating myself. This is a terrific read.

Amazingly consistent with Iroquois politics/culture.......2004-01-17

Sky Woman Falling ranks with Tony Hillerman's best books in its stunningly accurate portrayal of contemporary Iroquois society. He takes a very complex situation, the gambling crisis which has ripped apart the Iroquois, and written a novel which describes not only the internal tensions but the tragic results stemming from this latest assault upon the Six Nations. His command of Haudenosaunee cosmology, spirituality and symbolism is truly unique for a non-Native novelist. There is nothing patronizing is this book. The principals in Sky Woman Falling are Native investigators as are the culprits. He correctly portrays the Native gambling advocates as complex humans seduced, and then corrupted, by casino gambling. Mitchell obviously used a lot of shoe leather travelling around central New York; his descriptions of the land and people are without parallel. The story takes place among the Oneidas but could have just as easily described events among the Seneca, Onondaga or Mohawk. As a Mohawk writer I applaud this book and strongly urge anyone who has an interest in the Iroquois to read it and pass it along to your friends. It would make a great film.
Doug George-Kanentiio
Akwesasane Mohawk residing on Oneida Territory

Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose

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A good place to begin
Fascinating
Be free from yourself
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Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose
Ayala Pines
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How mystical is love really? Sought after, capable of sending us to emotional extremes from abysmal misery to irrepressible joy, love is often perceived as a force beyond mortal control. Is it as dumb, blind or arbitrary as we often think, and are we subject to its whims? Or do we actually choose carefully, if not always wisely, the partners we do? br br i Falling in Love /i shows us that we both consciously and unconsciously select those with whom we have intimate relationships. Written by a renowned psychologist and couple's therapist, this fascinating, engaging mix of psychological research and clinical anecdotes discusses how each of us can, through successful intimate partnerships, help ourselves to grow as individuals. Each chapter concludes with suggestions for those seeking love, and explains how self-knowledge is the foundation to a healthy, satisfying relationship.

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A good place to begin.......2004-06-28

I ran into this book at a time when I was eager to learn more about the nature of romantic relationships. It is an excellent introduction and resumé of the voluminous psychological literature on romantic relationships, and specifically, the process of "falling in love." There are suggestions for self-help, but the reader wishing concrete advice will want to consult other books on the topic, in light of Pines's conclusions. I was impressed with her command of the literature and her extensive research and clinical experience; she is extraordinarily well qualified to have written this book. (Contrast this with something like _Are You the One for Me?_, a preposterously naive discussion of similar themes by someone -- DeAngelis -- who has no evident qualifications.) Ayala Pines has given us an excellent place to begin an exploration of our own and others' relationships. Its style is really not academic, and its tone is warm. No previous knowledge of psychology is necessary.

Fascinating.......2001-01-22

A combination of hundreds of studies, insights from the work of scholars across several fields, clinical experiences and observations culled from literature across the ages makes for a fascinating, and helpful, journey into discovering what makes us fall in love with people. Reading this book was a liberating experience. The recommendations at the end of each chapter are quite amusing because of the way that they are worded.

Be free from yourself.......2000-08-12

This book outlines practical, theoric and statistical data that clearly show you how you might be imprisioned by your own patterns of choosing a lover. A real eye opener for me. You are able to understand the difficulty of past or current relationships through identifying your personality type and personal traumas so that you clearly see why you are drawn to the people who are your lovers. She also states that studies have shown, partners who are of unequal phyiscal attractiveness more often than not have unsuccessful long term relationships with one another. It all is seeming to make sense now, isn't it? A smart/academic and informative read. And just really fascinating.

A wonderful and insightful book.......2000-08-11

Reading this book was truly life changing for me. It has a unique combination of what researchers have found in studies, and what the author has found from her doing couples therapy. I don't think I've ever read a book that helped me so much to understand my own longstanding patterns of the guys I end up with!! Who knew there was method to the madness!! Just wonderful, and highly recommended.

Most comprehensive collection of insights on love.......1999-11-10

This book takes the insights from Freud, Eric Fromme, Jung, etc. and houses them in an excellent framework of why and how we love. It includes the data to acompany the psychology. Then it boils it down in common terms for "advice for those seeking love"

Vince

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Hauntingly beautiful, sombre, yet intense!

Good, but not SF

This Novel is NOT Science Fiction

A promising idea that bogs down in melodrama

This is not Science Fiction.
The Falling Woman
Pat Murphy
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Elizabeth Waters, an archeologist who abandoned her husband and daughter years ago to pursue her career, can see the shadows of the past. It's a gift she keeps secret from her colleagues and students, one that often leads her to incredible archeological discoveries and the realization that she might be going mad. Then on a dig in the Yucatan, the shadow of a Mayan priestess speaks to her. Suddenly Elizabeth's daughter Diane arrives, hoping to reconnect with her mother. As mother, daughter and priestess fall into the mysterious world of Mayan magic, it is clear one will be asked to make the ultimate sacrifice. The book won the 1988 Nebula Award.

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Hauntingly beautiful, sombre, yet intense!.......2007-02-10

This haunting novel is centered around the theme of the ancient Maya human sacrifice of messengers to the gods. The messenger would be ceremonially thrown as much as 80 feet down into a cenote, a deep water-filled sinkhole. Most of the messengers would die upon impact. The ones who survived would be sacred and become very influential by providing messages from the gods.

Elizabeth is an archaeologist who had a serious psychological event as a young woman, resulting in her hospitalization. Her estranged husband made a bargain that if Elizabeth would not attempt to contact their daughter, he would assist her release from the psychiatric ward. She becomes an accomplished academic and treasure hunter. Twenty years later, while on a dig in the Yucatan, her daughter shows up in an attempt to mend the wounds of her past.

In her own way Elizabeth is a modern version of the messenger of the gods. She survived a serious suicide attempt and now sees ghosts from the past. They direct her to ancient sites and she is considered to be very lucky--if eccentric--by her peers.

This story of the making peace with the past in order to live fully in the present is compelling and well written. At times its portrayal of human relationships is bleak--there are no easy answers or Hallmark moments. Murphy intriguingly questions the boundary between talent and insanity. A challenging yet fulfilling read.

Good, but not SF.......2007-01-16

I read this book because it won a major SF award. I am not really sure that this book qualifies as SF. Maybe if the definition of SF is stretched somewhat. The main character is a scientist and a sort of alternate reality is central to the plot.

Nevertheless, This was a well-written and mostly entertaining book which tries really hard at character and plot development. It might even appeal to even those who like hardcore SF.

This Novel is NOT Science Fiction.......2005-11-22

And is a mundane novel as well. This novel should NOT have won the award for what was called the best science fiction novel. 1987, the year of this novel, is thus the start of the Feminist takeover of the Science Fiction Writers of America (SFWA), now called the Science fiction and FANTASY Writers of America, and now the S can stand for a myriad of words, Speculative, Sub-par or other S words you can think of.

This book was awarded, possibly, for those that the SFWA thought needed a course in Sensitivity Training. For the Robert Heinlein's, Isaac Asimov's (who wrote in a eulogy of Alfred Bester that maybe young women do not appreciate being pinched on the butt). Now if you're not in dire need of Sensitivity Training, that is if you do NOT pinch the butts of women in the workplace or random women on the street, if you do NOT say to the same women `hey baby nice hooters', if you do NOT take female co-workers at the Christmas party, hike up their skirts and place their buttocks on the photocopy machine to hand out the copies at the next work day... Well let's take it one step further, let's say you're able to do this without difficulty, that you're not like the alcoholic that has to fight to keep everyday from taking that drink, that you don't have to internally fight with yourself not to do these things, that to not do them is automatic. Why? because you're a professional, because you have other things on your mind like your career, or, shocking of shocking, that you're respectful! If you don't do these things, then you DON'T need this feminism shoved down your throat. Ironically I don't know if Pat Murphy is trying to be the anti-Robert Heinlein (the feminist version). In the book there's a part about this married Italian man whose been wooing the female lead character, she ends up sleeping with him and then he promptly dumps her as he's "dedicated to his wife and children" being the good Italian man he is. So instead of taking it out on married men who have affairs, or maybe Catholicism for generating guilt-ridden, loyal, albeit sometimes cheating married men, or goodness forbid herself, she takes it out on you the (hopefully male) reader. How many men during their lives, have seen women make bad sexual (women call it romantic) decisions, when you know what the outcome will be and then they come back afterwards and take it out on you. It's time for women to be accountable for their own poor decisions, no one else, and no backhandedness too. Sure maybe Robert Heinlein and others went too far on the male side of sexual fantasies, but is Pat Murphy's feminism the solution, to swing the pendulum all the way to the other side. I hope the next `fad' in Nebula Awards after Feminism (if that one ever ends considering the myriad of feminist novels that have been awarded the Nebula) would be centralist, with a dampening ideal, without anyone endlessly and endlessly shoving their ideas down someone's unneeded throat. This level of Feminism makes you feel like if your a male, that you're like the proverbial slavemaster, with women in the muck straining in their harness moving some heavy object in unison, while the slavemaster (you, male) cracking the whip and barking out such unreasonable utterances to women such as: "What!, you bought another pair of shoes/clothing/houseplant, you already have 50 of them", or "no, I don't want to paint the bedroom chartreuse", or the horror of horrors to women, "No, I CAN'T read your mind" (duh). And then at night you lock them up in a cage half submerged in muck as they lick the mud of your boots. The first I noticed of Feminism in the awards I think was Bloodchild for the 1984 novelette by Octavia Butler that was an allegory if men got pregnant. And so in the story, humankind has been utterly and hopelessly subjugated by an alien race. This alien race gives birth to their newborn by placing an egg inside a human until it germinates, then surgically removes it. And the aliens overwhelmingly prefer to impregnate males. So the story has I suppose the female equivalents to such a hopeless and unavoidable fate, the airhead that takes as much of the pseudo-narcotic to ease the pain as possible since he's deserved it, the one who tries to fight it but cannot. Oh my lord! Is this what women think of men, that they're subjugated to having a rod shoved into their abdomen, genetic material released, and then they're surgically ripped open later to remove the birth! You wish you could ease their troubled souls, but alas we all have our hands full with our own dealings with life. I have considered the idea that OK, maybe we males one day should hand over control of Society to women to see if they can have a better go at it, but I wouldn't want to hand over the keys to them if this is their bleak and dismal envision of the world.

I in fact would recommend reading Bloodchild and Pat Murphy's 1987 Nebula winning short fiction novelette "Rachel in Love", the latter found in Nebula Awards 23. They both have science fiction elements and the feminism is different and one gets to read what the fuss is about. They're shorter works too, so the sacrifice in personal time isn't as great. However, where these stories have science fiction elements, this book, The Falling Woman has NONE. It is what would now be called Speculative Fiction. You know what speculative fiction is?, it's fiction. Vanity Fair, The Tale of Two Cities would be considered speculative fiction. Why? because the author created characters that didn't exist and speculates what would happen if they did. Period. Though they may not give the Nebula to Dickens: This is the best of times, this is the worst of times, what, two simultaneous co-existing alternate universes?; it smacks too much of science fiction and that's the one thing the Science Fiction Writers of America (SFWA) would NOT give an award to. What you think, I sound too hard edged serious, then waste your precious time reading this crap and the novels of the ensuing 3 years the Nebula was given to. And it just doesn't end. In 1996 they decided to give it to a lesbian book, as if the four straight years of awards to feminism (1987-1990) wasn't enough, and then to a romance novel by Catherine Asaro. It just goes on and on. It isn't "new"; it isn't a "novel" idea. We all have jobs, schoolwork, responsibilities up to our eyeballs, and we (used to) trust the SFWA to guide us in the one novel (or two including the Hugo winner) we can fit in to read a year. And they fail miserably. They wouldn't just get an F, it would be a Z-. The Nebula Awards post-1987 are no longer to be trusted in worthwhile science fiction. I pray on my knees to the heavens above for the existence of the Hugo Awards, at least there is now one entity that can guide those that wish to read science fiction. Since Ursula K. LeGuin, one of the greatest science fiction writers of any gender, turned to Feminist writing, no female SF writer can now be trusted. This may leave out some worthy books to read, but the rewards of what's not read far, far exceeds what could be read. I know, you're thinking this could sound like censorship. No, it's not. Anyone can write whatever novel they want. You just don't have to read it. No, it doesn't mean your excluding anything from yourself. Read a few Nebula novelettes, or read, Jane Austin, Wind and Wuthering, if you want to read something from a female author, at least it's literature. If you're reading this, and you want to read science fiction, reading a novel by a female author post-1987 has such a paltry percentage of probability of satisfying that. And it's not just denying yourself bleak, film-noir-ish sci-fi scenarios. I reread William Tenn's great Of Men and Monsters that had possibly one of the bleakest scenarios for humankind, and in the end it's turned into a hopeful surprising and brilliant victory.

You don't have to read this book.

I know, you have your little checklist of Nebula Award winners and you're reading the novels and checking them off one by one and now you've come to 1987 and Falling Woman. The problem is that you're considering the Nebula Award winners to be science fiction and nothing can be further from the truth. If the award winners happen to be science fiction then that just happens to be pure coincidence. And this novel is not science fiction, nor fantasy that would be of any interest to science fiction readers. The 80's saw some changes to science fiction, particularly William Gibson's Neuromancer and the start of cyberpunk. It seems in the confusion of this, maybe feminists saw the advantage and decided to propel their agenda.

It's not completely hopeless for those wishing to read science fiction, but now it takes some work. So unlike women, but like the hopeful plot Of Men and Monsters against overwhelming odds, I'm going to try to optimistically offer some suggestions on what can be done about the Feminism gone rampant within the Nebula awards voting process. Considering the SFWA is comprised half, more or less, of women, they will collude on novels written by female authors making the Nebula Award a political commentary rather than an award to the best science fiction novel of the year. And The Falling Woman reeks of the stench of politics. But there are the Nebula novel nominees. For the year of this novel, 1987, there are six total nominees (and this is another thing, it's supposed to be FIVE nominees, but year after the year the SFWA can't even get this right, every year they have six or even seven nominees; the Nebula jury being allowed to add a novel of their choice, which means some random novel decided by a handful of, or who knows maybe one, person get to add his OR HER personal favorite novel and they won't reveal which one it is, so who knows maybe The Falling Woman was this undeserved addition), the other five novel nominees are written by men. It's a fair possibility that one of these novels deserved be called the Best Science Fiction Novel of 1987, that the women colluded on the one female written novel, and the men were split between the other five choices. A telling of the true science fiction winner would be to see who came in second. My sources do not list that, but a copy of "A History of the Hugo, Nebula and International Fantasy Awards" by Franson and DeVore for this year may have that information. And so if you're wanting to get your science fiction fix for this year and realize that the Nebula winners fails dismally at this, then here are those choices with what I know about them:
- The Uplift War by David Brin, this won the 1988 Hugo novel award so you probably already read it. If not, it's worth reading, quick summary: it's about species being intellectually advanced and humans select chimps to mentally advance as a species. And there's an alien species war going on. This is clearly, thankfully, science fiction.
- The Forge of God by Greg Bear. I haven't read this yet, but I have it on order. Apparently it has a buzz after all these years and has been through several reprints, usually a sign of a good novel, at least a popular one. It's about two alien races, one trying to completely, utterly destroy the earth, and the other trying to save humanity or some shred of it. So far this sounds like science fiction.
- When Gravity Fails by George Alec Effinger. I also have this on order. It apparently is a cyberpunk sub-genre novel. Set in a Muslim country with the usual dismal but technologically advanced settings and a somewhat amoral protagonist.
- Solder of the Mist by George Wolfe. I don't know much about this. An Amazon search should show up more. Gene Wolfe won awards for his Autarch/Conciliator series.
- Vergil in Averno by Avram Davidson. I also don't know much about this one, but knowledge is just an Amazon search away. He writes a lot about some character calls Esterhazy.

Oh yeah, the plot of The Falling Woman was about some ghost/being/entity/something that haunts/visits the female lead character with the Something being the reason the novel was selected to be awarded the once shining, awe-inspiring, but now mud-raked and fetid Nebula award.

A promising idea that bogs down in melodrama.......2005-01-17

Elizabeth Butler is a successful archaeologist and a riveting lecturer and author. Her secret - she can see ghosts of those native peoples that lived in her digs in the distant past. Is she crazy? She questions her own sanity at times, trying to take her own life and abandoning her family (including her young daughter) because she is not sane by corporate America's standards. She is much more at home in the dirt and bugs of the Yucatan peninsula, but her most recent dig is different - one of the ghosts starts speaking to her. The ghost is a priestess of the Mayan moon goddess and as such has blood on her hands - she has led human sacrifice rites and has herself performed the coup de grace in her ceremonies. It is clear that this ghost wants a sacrifice of Elizabeth, but of what type?

Enter Elizabeth's daughter Diane, fresh off a messy break-up and the death of her father, her sole care-giver growing up. Diane arrives at the dig fearing that she is going crazy - she too has the family gift for seeing the shadows, but it's not well developed. Will Diane be the sacrifice required of the ancient priestess? Will Diane go crazy before she accepts her gift? These are the questions that the novel asks, and we are carried along as the dig progresses, simultaneously with the power of the priestess over Elizabeth.

This novel won the Nebula award, granted by science fiction writers, as the best book of the year. The book is clearly not science fiction, but then, neither was Zahn's "This Immortal," a book I thoroughly enjoyed. No, the problem with this book is that it has such a promising setup, but then bogs down in melodrama. Since it's written in the first person (alternately Elizabeth and Diane), the entire novel rests on the sincerity and believability of the main 2 characters. Unfortunately, I never really believed in the characters (especially Elizabeth), so they never earned their right to act in bizarre and self-distructive ways. Similarly, the book treats luck as if it is a tangible, physical force like gravity, but the author uses it a cause for otherwise implausible events.

Finally, there were some scientific and/or philosophical incongruities. For example, for someone who so thoroughly understands the Mayan calendar, it's irritating that she apparently doesn't understand that its origin comes from the fact that the Earth's period of revolution about the sun is not exactly 365 days (it's slightly longer). Likewise, she unwisely groups Mayan and Christian religions together as both being based on human sacrifice when there seems to me to be a fundamental difference. One (divine) sacrifice as a symbol is different that the Mayan idea of lives as divine finance (the more sacrifices, the more power the god will gain). Likewise, consider Abraham's experience when God told him NOT to sacrifice his son. This point wouldn't be so irritating if it was developed, but it's not, like some other philosophical teasers the author introduces and then neglects.

Basically, my enjoyment of the book decreased the more of it I read. I grew more and more impatient with the characters and the plotline. A promising idea eventually degenerated into melodrama, when such a good idea deserves better.

This is not Science Fiction........2004-04-07

While this is a solid, oftentimes engrossing piece of supernatural fiction, this is not a Science Fiction novel. I was certain it was, since it won the Nebula Award for best novel. About 100 pages in, however, I was a little disappointed that it wasn't. But it is extremely well-written and all the characters are realistic, even as one in particular is quite insane. This is a story where modern archaeology clashes with ancient mythology through space-time. That may sound like Science Fiction, but this book feels more like fiction with touches of fantasy shown through a woman's mind thoroughly baked in the Yucatan sun. All in all, this is a good book with interesting characters and writing so good that it flows along unnoticed until you find yourself somehow turning the final page. Take care.

Lose That Loser and Find the Right Guy: Stop Falling for Mr. Unavailable, Mr. Unreliable, Mr. Bad Boy, Mr. Needy, Mr. Married Man, and Mr. Sex Maniac

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Very good read...

Lose That Loser and Find the Right Guy: Stop Falling for Mr. Unavailable, Mr. Unreliable, Mr. Bad Boy, Mr. Needy, Mr. Married Man, and Mr. Sex Maniac
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Women in bad or dead-end relationships often ask themselves: "Why do I constantly end up with the wrong guy? Why do I idealize my man and put him on a pedestal when I should be kicking him to the curb? Isn't that bastard in my bed because I let him in?" With interactive features including "The Bastard Test" and "Strategies to See Through the Shining Armor," this book helps a woman identify the wrong type of man, change negative dating habits, and build a relationship that is right for her.

Humorous, punchy, frank, and instructive, Lose That Loser and Find the Right Guy is filled with helpful insights, advice, and pointers for turning around the love life of any woman who's been around the block a few times with Mr. Definitely-Not-Right. Enhanced by its lively, contemporary, full-color design, this book shows women how to find personal contentment and relationship bliss.

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Very good read..........2006-05-25

At first, I thought this book was meant to be funny...of some sorts...I don't know why...perhaps it's the title.

However, this book turned out to be very good and it's easy to read. I read it in one sitting. I did however go back and do the exercises. It's very thought provoking and full of self help information to get any woman to come into reality about what type of man she's been dating....

In addition, the book is very colorful. It's also not a large thick book, it fits into one of my Coach bags perfectly.

The author covers a variety of men and gives them "Mister" titles. She also gives you execises to complete so you can see the pattern you've established regarding the types of men you've dated over the years. Being able to see you pattern will eventually help you to not pick those types of men and move forward to finding man that is not perfect, but right for you.

It's a handy little self help read....

Falling In Love When You Thought You Were Through: A Love Story

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Falling In Love When You Thought You Were Through: A Love Story
Jill Robinson , and Stuart Shaw
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From Jill Robinson, the author of Past Forgetting, comes a true story, coauthored with her husband, the English writer Stuart Shaw, about finding love when they both thought they were through with romance.

When Stuart and Jill first met, neither felt like a poster child for serious love. Stuart was recovering from the alcoholism that had wrecked his marriage and ravaged his career. Jill was recovering from a second failed marriage and believed she was done with love forever.

But then, in a crowded Connecticut diner, at about midnight, Jill caught Stuart's eye and shot him a look that said, I'm designed for you. Immediately drawn to Jill, Stuart asked, Would you like to come to my place for a cup of tea sometime?

What follows is a journey toward commitment. You hear it from both points of view: his and hers. If you've ever felt that your opportunity for love was gone, here's the lively story of the creation of a passionate marriage that will fill your heart with joy and hope.

Online Seductions: Falling in Love With Strangers on the Internet

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As More People Go Online, This Book's Value Increases
More Internet Hype!
Insightful and enjoyable.
Great in-depth review of online relationships
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Online Seductions: Falling in Love With Strangers on the Internet
Esther Gwinnell
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Although this volume appears to tell torrid tales of online passion or to advise how to find the love--or at least the lust--of your life online, it does neither. Instead, psychiatrist Esther Gwinnell focuses on how and why online romances happen. Gwinnell compares the modern online relationship with historical cases of individuals who met as pen pals and fell in love. But she also notes significant differences, such as the subtle personality clues that exist in e-mail as opposed to handwritten letters.

Gwinnell uses several examples of online couples and correspondents to demonstrate how romances evolve, flourish, and sometimes wither. The examples are all composite cases to protect the identities of the many people who shared their stories and correspondence with her, but anyone who has experienced a cybercrush can testify that her examples, if simplified for illustrative purposes, are right on target. In the course of her exploration, Gwinnell discusses why cyberromance is suddenly so prevalent, how to deal with both good and bad experiences, and how to protect yourself from bad online relationships. It does an especially good job of highlighting the danger signs that your correspondent may be a pathological personality.

For those wishing to pursue online romance, Gwinnell offers some wonderfully hardheaded questions to ask yourself and your potential significant cyber-other before things go too far. --Elizabeth Lewis

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As More People Go Online, This Book's Value Increases.......2001-03-02

If you ever wondered WHY or HOW total strangers could fall in love or develop deep personal relationships, then read this extremely fascinating book. Dr. Gwinnell's unique insights about how people could develop intense attachments are more important each day, as increasing numbers of people go on the Net. She explains that it is the facelessness of it all that is the key. The person on the other end only has words to guide him or her, rather than sights, sounds and so forth. She offers valuable guidance for those already in such relationships. Definitely a valuable book for the consumer as well as the professional.

More Internet Hype!.......2000-04-11

This book is very useful if one has a table with one short leg (place it under the short leg to stabilize the table). IF you want insightful, RELEVANT information on online dating... look some place else! Look in the mirror, because this book is page after page of cliches and observations that only the brain-dead don't already know. If your reading level is above the sixth grade, you will want to pass on this one! cheers! and good hunting!

Insightful and enjoyable........1999-02-14

If you've looked for love on the Internet, you need to read this book. Everyone else should read it anyway. Dr. Gwinnell articulates the reasons online friendship and romance are so compelling. The book is full of insight and practical advice.

Great in-depth review of online relationships.......1999-01-17

Excellent in depth look into relationships that are formed online, their causes and results that can occur. If one didn't understand they psychology of finding love online, they will after reading this book. It covers every aspect of online relationships, and is brought to the reader in a clear language, without a lot of lingo that might not be understood.

It is also brought to the reader without any sense of bias. It lays out any number of ways online relationships can form, and any number of way they can end up. Very well done!

This book is a must-have for anyone that deals with others o.......1998-05-02

This book is a must-have for anyone that deals with others online, whether it is romantic or platonic. Dr. Gwinnell offers valuable insight on how to pick up subtle clues about the real person that we're chatting with. She reminds us about often overlooked online safety practices, as well as how to safeguard yourself in a real life meeting. Married or single, romantic or platonic, there is fantastic information in here for us all.

As a SysOp on the Adult Entertainment & Games forum on CompuServe, this book has become my bible, and I have and will continue to recommend it to all members.

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An unsettling novel that traces the faltering orbits of the members of one family from a hidden love triangle to the ten-year-old son whose problem may pull everyone down.

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Exposing, forgiving the tattered modern American family.......2002-10-09

Reading this marvelous book I found myself asking the same question over and over until I was nearly shouting it out loud: why isn't Ann Beattie bigger than she is?

Seriously, folks, Falling in Place is an extraordinary book and deserves to be counted among post-WWII 20th century American classics. Hyperbole? Perhaps. But few books succeed as this book does in both capturing their era (in this case the malaise days of the late 1970s) and speaking to all ages.

This is the story of how one family, no more or less dysfunctional than anyone¡¯s, manages to do just the opposite of the title, namely, fall completely apart. It is about family whose members forget they love each other --or forget how to love each other-- until it is too late. The book is a tragedy writ both large and small.

In short, not even Cheever does a better job of exposing the mix of boredom, depravity, lies and heartbreaking affection behind the picket fences of suburbia. And to top it all off Beattie manages to deal with the then trendy "battle of the sexes" without taking sides --and remember this she did nearly three decades ago. This novel needs to be rediscovered. Perhaps, its fate is due to Beattie's overshadowing success in short fiction. But there is room for both Beatties. There must be.

With a sharp eye, Beattie gives us realism at it's deepest!!.......2002-04-18

I knew someday I would be compelled to write a review of this book. I just had no idea it would be today. So here I am killing time on Amazon when I find out that this, one of my favorite novels, is going out of print? So naturally, I had to....

I also notice the extreme polarity of opinion to Beattie's novels in the reviews below. One has to be in the right frame of mind to read Beattie, who when she wrote 'Falling in Place,' was just coming out of what the critics had called the 'minimalist' movement. Beattie's prose is quite terse, giving the reader a feeling fo averageness. Why? She is quite a realist and herein lies the hidden beauty in her words. In Beatties world the characters just are; They are not likeable or unlikeable and that is the point. No one in life is quite one or the other. And her words. At length, here's a passage from page 51:

Why Spangle? Because there was no one like him, that was part of it. One day, he had taken her hand, before they were even out of bed, and asked if he could hold it all day. When they had to go to the bathroom, they walked back to the apartment, so they wouldn't have to let go of eachothers hands. They had walked along swinging hands. They had propped their elbows on a tabletop and hand-wrestled. He had kissed her hand, rubbed it. "I'm pretending I can keep you," he said. "I'm pretending it's as easy as this."

The reader reads "Falling in Place" to fall in love with prose and characters, not plot and action. And my, there are plenty of characters worthy of attention here. Spangle, the all-too-grown up slacker, Mary, the dreary teenage girl obsessed with Peter Frampton, and Cynthia, the depressed summer-school teacher who, no matter how she tries, can feel nothing but contempt for her students.

Honestly, this book is about the intertwining lives of several wandering souls and if you want plot, it's not here. If, like me, you can't help falling in love with beautiful, idiosyncratic, life-affirming characters and honey-sweet prose, pick this up. All to regretfully, you'll have to get it used.

A depressing disappointment.......2001-10-12

I had to force myself to finish this book. Just as I was going to put it down, "something big" happened, and I thought the story would pick up and things would be resolved. WRONG! I agree that none of the characters were likeable. In fact, they were all pretty mean people. So many things were left undone. I have no idea what happened to these characters and at the end, I didn't care.

Torture.......2001-08-07

I had to weigh in on this book when I saw that it had a 5-star rating because of one review. Here's a dissenting voice: I loathed it. Hated the experience of reading it, hated the characters, hated the writing style.

None of the characters are at all likeable. As soon as you begin to even consider liking one, you get to hear the person's thoughts or see some action that renders them vile. People here just sort of exist, just slide through life, without dreams or ambitions or desires. They take what is handed to them--friends they dislike, stagnant relationships--without liking these things, but without even considering the possibility of taking action to change them. As much as I hate perpetuating stereotypes, I'd have to say that all of the protagonists act and think like stereotypical bored teenagers. Of everyone mentioned in the book, I can only think of one peripheral character whom I liked even a little, and that only because she showed enthusiam occasionally--and in a pivotal scene, two of the book's main characters bonded over making fun of her.

The writing bored me, literally, to tears (which writing has the power to do when you absolutely have to read it for a class). I could not have cared less for her obsessive descriptions of rooms--attempts at characterization through listing, for pages and pages straight, each item lining the walls of someone's personal space. One such description went on for four entire pages. Pages simply listing objects in the room. Imagine an entire book filled with long, dry lists acting as descriptoins of mundane places inhabited by people you don't care about.

If this still seems like something you'd be interested in--well, get it out of the library anyway. It's not worth buying on spec; it's only worth buying if you already know you find something redeeming inside. This was one of the flat-out worst books I read on my way to my English degree, and I can comfortably say that I found nothing to redeem it.

Wonderful.......2000-07-27

What an excellent book this is, and what an original Beattie was, before she caved in to criticisms of her minimalism and started "fleshing out" her fiction (see Another You). Her gift for dialogue is without equal, and her eye is so specific she can forsake metaphor to achieve poetic, almost surrealistic, effects. It has been many years since I read this, but it was so immediate that I still remember parts as if I had read it yesterday.

Falling Awake: An American Woman Gets a Grip on the Whole Changing World, One Essay at a Time

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