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The companion book to Ian Kerner's smash success She Comes First, He Comes Next offers women his sometimes radical, always expert advice on everything from the nature of male desire to sex-techniques that work
While women everywhere benefited from Ian Kerner's sexual philosophy of female pleasure in She Comes First, now it's time to learn all about what turns men on and makes them stay on. In He Comes Next, Kerner covers every angle of male sexuality, illuminates the most common sex-life ruts, and offers practical, knowledgeable answers to women's most frequently asked questions. In his role as a sex therapist, Kerner has spoken with countless men not only about the best sex they ever had, but also perhaps more important about the best sex they never had -- experiences they always desired and fantasized about, but were afraid to share with their partners. In the spirit of "full exposure," He Comes Next is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick.
Sexual pleasure goes beyond tips and tactics, however. Our sexual identities -- and the expression, gratification, and growth of these identities -- is fundamental to the success of our intimate relationships. With step-by-step and -- yes -- blow-by-blow detail, Kerner provides a clear, concise, achievable vision of sexual pleasure, one in which each technique forwards the action and where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest -- You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, He Comes Next is the thinking woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest and ensuring that he does the same.
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The companion book to Ian Kerner's smash success She Comes First, He Comes Next offers women his sometimes radical, always expert advice on everything from the nature of male desire to sex-techniques that work While women everywhere benefited from Ian Kerner's sexual philosophy of female pleasure in She Comes First, now it's time to learn all about what turns men on and makes them stay on. In He Comes Next, Kerner covers every angle of male sexuality, illuminates the most common sex-life ruts, and offers practical, knowledgeable answers to women's most frequently asked questions. In his role as a sex therapist, Kerner has spoken with countless men not only about the best sex they ever had, but also perhaps more important about the best sex they never had -- experiences they always desired and fantasized about, but were afraid to share with their partners. In the spirit of "full exposure," He Comes Next is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick. Sexual pleasure goes beyond tips and tactics, however. Our sexual identities -- and the expression, gratification, and growth of these identities -- is fundamental to the success of our intimate relationships. With step-by-step and -- yes -- blow-by-blow detail, Kerner provides a clear, concise, achievable vision of sexual pleasure, one in which each technique forwards the action and where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest -- You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, He Comes Next is the thinking woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest and ensuring that he does the same.
Customer Reviews:
Best Book Ever!!!!.......2007-09-12
This book isn't so much about the mechanics of sex as the nature of love and desire in a monogamous relationship. Don't get me wrong, there is plenty of great factual information about sex, but speaking as a woman, I have always been more curious about the deeper and more substantial mystery of love. This book really delves into that mystery and supplies a lot of expert relationship advice arising from the physical realities of the human body. For example, cuddling releases a hormone called oxcytocin in females and massage releases the hormone vassopressin in men. These hormones encourage feelings of closeness, fidelity and nesting in humans. Spending time massaging your guy actually helps build your relationship, and demanding that he spend time with his arm or leg over you will make you feel more appreciated. Even if you already knew this great little fact, you should still read this book because there are more of these cool tidbits and the book espouses a powerful new way for women to look at sex. Before I read this book, I was caught in a traditional outlook on female sexuality. I thought that sex just wasn't very fun for me and it wasn't really supposed to be fun for me. I had tried other books, but found that the "techniques" they suggested led to some embarrassing situations. I had asked my gynecologist if their was something wrong with me that made sex just no fun. I thought that porn was a necessary evil and didn't really understand why guys spend any time at all watching the stuff. After reading this book, I can truly say that I get why my guy seems to be the way he is. I have implemented some of the suggestions, and man alive, my sex life has been soooo much better. This is my first online review of a book and it is because I just had to come and gush about this book.
I got this book and "She Comes First" 15 days ago as my anniversary gift to my boyfriend and me. He has been too busy with work to read "She Comes First", so I started reading "He comes next." Just this book has been truly great for our relationship. The cover is very suggestive and one of the best parts of the book. While he is walking around the apartment, I will lounge on the chair reading. I have caught him staring at me a bunch. I know it turns him on to see me reading a book about how to turn him on. Further, the book is a page turner. I come home and the first thing I want to do is pick it up and read. I have to hold myself back to wait for my boyfriend to be around. Having read this book, I want to give it to my friend as a wedding present. This book is worth its weight in diamonds.
A great learning experience.......2007-08-17
I read She Comes First by the same author before I read this one which was just as educational for me as it is for a man. That being said, He Comes Next was quite a learning experience! While I am good at "it", there's always room for improvement in whatever you're doing and reading this book cemented that belief. It helped me understand how a man thinks and why and how he feels (not so different from us ladies) about sensitive issues. I expected the book to be primarily about learning to give a better oral sex like She Comes First is, but I was pleasantly surprised to find that there was much more to it than that. I did, however, appreciate the education I got about oral sex. I certainly hope to satisfy my partner better now-emotionally and physically.
A great big O.......2007-07-01
I'd give this book a big O for outstanding. This book goes beyond just serving as a how-to on having great sex, but first and foremost provides a how-to on having a great relationship. (And, believe it or not, the two really are connected.) Continually entertaining, informative, and insightful from cover to cover, this book will likely suck (ok, puns are hard to avoid in writing this review) you in from the start and keep your attention throughout. As the author conveys throughout the book, the secret to having an exciting relationship in the bedroom is to first have an exciting one outside of it
WOW! This is an Amazing Book!.......2007-05-13
I picked this book up on a whim and read it cover to cover without putting it down. The author truly "has a handle" on how to please a man. He is straightforward and provides easy to understand instruction. I would recommend this book to anyone. I was amazed at what I learned and just applying a few of the techniques in this book will maximize your and your partner's experience.
Always learning.......2007-05-13
I think any man will appreciate a woman reading this book-it's written intelligently and I believe will truly enhance the male sexual experience when employed by women (and in turn, the men will reciprocate!)
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With wit, expertise, and an enthusiastic approach, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus dispels myths and delivers concise information on going down on a man. Featuring a complete resource guide to books, videos, illustrations, and websites depicting fellatio, every tip, trick, and technique for giving skilled and unforgettable fellatio is provided. From talking to your partner about fellatio to male pleasure spots and sexual response, Violet Blue covers rimming, shaving, positions, oral sex games for couples, flavored lubricants, sex toys, and a plethora of oral techniques. Original, unpublished erotic vignettes by Alison Tyler are sure to get readers in the mood for trying out these tips.
Customer Reviews:
Great book!.......2007-07-27
This book was very informative and helpful. The author presented the subject matter from all different perspectives in a fun, sensitive, and nonjudgmental manner. A great read!
Great bedtime book.......2007-05-14
This starts out slow but taught me things even my man didn't know He thinks I should have gotten this book sooner
disappointing.......2007-03-15
This is certainly not a "guide," as the title suggests. It talks a great deal about and around the issue, but offers little in terms of technique. I guess if you're not sure you even want to do it, this book might be helpful in making you more comfortable with the idea. But if you are actually looking for some specific advice that will give him "mind-blowing pleasure" as the book title infers, you won't find it here.
Promises to be an interesting read..........2007-03-10
I'm about fifty pages in to this... I found it boring at first, but it seems to be getting more interesting. It is very informative and surprisingly long. My only disappointment is that the pictures are drawings (and not very good ones). Considering who it's written by, you would think that there would be some stock pictures that could be included... That would have been a lot better.
Incidentally, my husband is very excited by some of the new techniques that I have learned already.
Great advice.......2007-01-18
I've given a few copies of this book to young, inexperienced girlfriends who are afraid to ask about sex, and reluctant to experiment. Each of them have thanked me in the end, and feel it is great advice. Since receiving the book must feel uncomfortable, I came up with a patented technique to break the ice. First session, I give her the big O and refuse to undress. Then I give her the book and tell her to dazzle me tomorrow. They all say it has improved their skills. Practice makes perfect girls, get a copy of this.
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At some point, every guy--player, geek, mamas boy, "regular Joe"--meets a woman who makes him want to be a boyfriend. A good boyfriend. Problem is, unless hes had some first-rate training (by a previous girlfriend, a sister, a mom), he probably doesnt even know what that means. Felicity Huffman and Patricia Wolff come to the rescue with a rollicking--and whip-smart--handbook to navigating the minefield of male-female relationships. Directed at men (though of course its women wholl buy it, then leave it at their boyfriends place--accidentally on purpose), A Practical Handbook for the Boyfriend lays out the many steps involved in becoming a good boyfriend, while still maintaining guy-dignity. It covers issues like: - Who decides when you become a boyfriend (answer: She does.) - How to look like youre listening, even when youre not (If youre busted, just say "Youre so pretty, Im distracted.") - Ten things never to say on the first date (#4: "I just did that to freak you out.") - Finding the middle ground between too cool (think third grade) and too eager (think surprise visits) - Why becoming a good boyfriend is a lot like training for the A team Filled with humour, ribaldry, common sense, and assorted outdoor skills, A Practical Handbook for the Boyfriend is the next dating guide to dominate the bestseller lists.
Customer Reviews:
Boyfriend Toyfriend........2007-10-10
Love it. Humorous even for the girls to read, and definitely informative for the guys. I found the majority of what was said to be true from a female perspective, although it varies from person to person bc not everyone woman is alike.
Haha.......2007-09-07
Haha, just try to get a guy to read this, if you can good luck, they just don't get it.
The book is a good, truthful, funny read....it just confirms we women think alike.
Pay Attention Guys.......2007-05-18
Want to know what women talk about when you're not around, guys, and how we think? Why we act crazy sometimes or fish for compliments? How to deal with it all without going crazy or getting stuck in a fight? Or worse, on the couch? Read this book. It has lots of truth and some really good tips for things like how to pretend to be hearing us while you're really watching that all-imporant playoff game, so that we don't turn the TV off and ruin everything by choosing just then to talk about our feelings. It's also funnier than most chick lit. Also pickup a copy of God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters, which is right on.
Hilarious and oh so true.......2007-05-07
I left this book laying in the bathroom and now all of a sudden I'm getting flowers and champagne from my husband. He obviously was reading some of it. He started dressing nicer for me instead of the work clothes all the time and he makes a point to take me out on dates. I found the book humerous and worth reading for myself just to laugh at how nuts we women are. My husband started reading it because it was mysteriously the only new material to read in the bathroom :). It was truly worth buying.
Chick Lit For Guys.......2007-04-27
I picked up a copy of this book because it was recommended in several reviews of another book I liked alot. Suffice it to say that I was disappointed. This is just the same bad advice for girls in chick lit turned on its end for guys. It talks about how to pretend to be listening, how to manipulate to get what you want but make it look like you're really doing what the other person wants, and so on. It also talks about giving up alot and letting the girl have her way because you can't win. At least that's how I perceive these messages. I also don't think guys women would really be interested in would do any of this stuff. I know I wouldn't be interested in them. The other book I mentioned is God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters which I did like alot. Those are the only two books I've really read or seen with advice for men on women, at least that isn't about just getting into bed with us. I do think the book deserves praise for trying to help guys out, I just think it did it by telling guys to behave in a more womanly way and in truth that wouldn't really be all that appealing to women in the end.
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Make him chase you...Until you catch him.
Never shy and always laugh-out-loud funny, Sherry Argov's Why Men Marry Bitches is a sharp-witted manifesto that shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one. With the grittiest of girlfriend-to-girlfriend detail, Argov removes the kid gloves and explains why being extra nice doesn't necessarily mean he'll be more devoted. The guide shares real-life "no holds barred" interviews with men who answer the following in raw detail:
- How do men manipulate a relationship to keep it casual?
- Do men deliberately push women's emotional buttons?
- How can she convince him commitment was his idea?
- How can she invite a proposal without saying a word?
Whether you are single, married, recently separated, or just fed up with your family members telling you to fetch a husband because time is running out, Why Men Marry Bitches is the must-have guide that will show you how to exude confidence, win his heart, and get the love and respect you deserve.
Customer Reviews:
Great book!.......2007-10-06
A must for every woman who is dating and one day plans to get married!! Great insight!!
Worth Every Penny.......2007-09-22
This is a laugh-out funny, insightful book about men...as well as women. Despite the catchy title, this is NOT a book that tells you to play mind games or teaches you how to land a husband. It actually challenges the notion that anyone needs a relationship to feel complete. In addition, it reaffirms what most of us already know---men are turned off by clingy, needy and insecure women---the same qualities that most women find unattractive in men.
The book lists 75 relationship principles as well as practical advice on every day situations, and they do work! The advice on how to handle a relationship that isn't progressing is outstanding. All my guy friends are crying "foul," now that the secret is out.
Bottom line: Get it, read it and enjoy it. You'll get some good laughs out of it, and also several "ah-ha" moments.
Learn to maintain the right attitude to attract men..........2007-09-10
This book is an important book for women who worry allot about getting married. It gives a much-needed push out of the `needy' frame of mind into an independent, in control woman. This not only frees you from obsessing about success with men but it also ends up making you more attractive to men.
One thing I really like about this book is that it is in point form (called principles), with insights into the psychological aspects of men, women and relationships. This is followed by examples which illustrate the points clearly.
To give an idea of the kind of IMPORTANT principles you will learn I have taken a couple of good ones from the book which reveal how different this book is from others on the same topic of `how to get a man'.
Take the following principle as an example, "Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control". Applying this insight means you maintain your independence including keeping yourself occupied with friends and activities. This will make a man more attracted to you as he has to chase you a bit and you are not too available. This explains the following principle really well, "There's nothing more prized to a man then something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get." It is the challenge that inspires a man. So become a challenge and men will seek you out.
Most important is to SHOW you don't need a man in your life like shown in this principle, "When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer marrying you because he doesn't worry about what you'll be trying to take away from him."
Besides these wonderful insights on how to attract the attention of a man there are also insights on how to build your own self-esteem and how to occupy your time without needing a man around. This book helps you from the inside out with tons of tips and advice on how best to date men. This book is definitely worth reading, even if you already have a man in your life.
A man's view.......2007-08-31
Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and donot take for granted.
Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.
WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.
For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.
The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.
As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice.
What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.
The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.
I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.
Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.
Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.
So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.
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I am a testimony for this book! =).......2007-08-30
I am currently in a very happy, and successful relationship with my fiance. When I read the book, everything it says reminds me of myself, and the nature of my relationship.
The principles are true! My boyfriend has helped me become a stronger and more independent woman. And he loves me more for the person that I have become.
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- A Woman's Dictionary of Men
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Book Description
THIS IS THE BOOK THAT WILL COMPLETELY CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT MEN!
In this funny and fascinating guide for women, thousands of men confess what turns them on, what turns them off, and what turns "for now" into "forever."
What makes a man fall in love? Why do men really cheat? What does he want in the bedroom? What's the one thing that men crave in a relationship more than anything else (besides that)? The surprising and insightful answers to life's biggest relationship questions can be found here in the pages of MEN, LOVE & SEX: The Complete User's Guide for Women. Using an exclusive Harris Interactive poll that surveyed more than 5,000 men and women, Men's Health(r) editor-in-chief David Zinczenko and coauthor Ted Spiker have written the book that explains and decodes the male creature how they act, what they think, and what they want in their relationships.
With shocking and never-before-seen statistics and powerful confessions, the New York Times bestselling authors present a modern survival guide for women into the inner-workings of the male mind, explaining everything from why he clams up during a fight to the moment he knows he's found the one. This indispensable guide will help women understand the men in their lives through every step of courtship first dates, fights, break-ups, make-ups, marriage, and everything else along the way"so that women can break through and see what's happening inside the often bewildering male mind. How? With such features as:
Say This, Not That: Perfect communication strategies for women to get what they want and to get men to open up!
Masculinity Mastered: The surprising truths about men's feelings and how you can figure out exactly where he stands!
The Ultimate Male Decoder: What it means when a man doesn't sleep over, when he gets insanely jealous, when he grunts during conversation, when he buys an appliance for a birthday gift--along with insights into dozens of other male mysteries!
Wondering Woman: Answers to women's most pressing questions about men. Why can't he say he's sorry? Why can't he fight like an adult? Why can't he aim inside the toilet?
Men's brains, feelings and actions can be harder to interpret than abstract art. So let MEN, LOVE & SEX: The Complete User's Guide for Women become your guide to navigating a relationship through all of its stages. Once you know the secrets to the male mind, you'll be able to bridge the communication gaps that divide men and women. You'll be able to strengthen the relationship you have now"or use your new insights to find the perfect man for you. In the end, you'll get better talks, better sex, better fighting, better understanding, better love, better relationships, and a better life.
For the both of you.
Customer Reviews:
A Woman's Dictionary of Men.......2007-09-22
I checked this book out from the library and found it so useful I had to purchase it for my collection. I love how it has the man's point of view on a lot of questions we have, not a women's guess of what a man wants. It will prove to be very useful reference material. I would almost called it a women's dictionary of men.
men think.......2007-09-20
I found the book quite insightful of what guys really think about us. I learned alot of how they think. Great book.
Eye Opener!!.......2007-08-23
I was very impressed with this book. It was very easy to read and understand, and it was filled with TONS of useful information. A lot of it seems common sense, but obviously we don't use it. I received an objective perspective by reading and understanding relationship and dating issues from a man's perspective. Definitely recommend!! It's a must read!!!
P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!.......2007-08-17
A must ready for every woman! Another besteller which I highly recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You by Mandy Simons
Some good information...........2007-08-05
This was a good book. I bought the audio version. It didn't live up to my expectations though. The best book/audiobook that I've bought recently on men and relationships was "He's Just Not That Into You" by the writers of Sex and The City.
Book Description
Wholeness and Healing for Women Caught in the Crossfire.
As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone. Millions of men can’t get through the day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos–and millions of wives suffer as a result.
Over the past decade, nearly 400,000 men have found inspiration and hope in Every Man’s Battle, the best-selling men’s guide to victory over sexual sin. Now, here at last is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored offers godly guidance and wisdom for a woman facing such personal betrayal.
“WHAT DOES GOD EXPECT FROM ME?”
“HOW CAN I TRUST AGAIN?”
“IS IT POSSIBLE TO OVERCOME PAIN AND UNFORGIVENESS?”
“CAN MY MARRIAGE BE REBUILT?”
“WHAT IF I JUST WANT OUT?”
Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every stage in the struggle for sexual purity, Every Heart Restored addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter to you most. Whether you are facing the startling new revelation of your husband’s sin, dealing with a long-term problem, or cleaning out an old wound, Every Heart Restored will meet you where you are and guide you to healing greater than you imagine possible.
Also available: Every Heart Restored Workbook
Customer Reviews:
Deceptive Title.......2007-07-14
If you've just been hit with the revelation of your husband's "secret life", this book may not help. The title is deceptive because it implies that you will be healed after reading it.(Healing is God's job!) I was frustrated with the first few chapters, because it dealt with man's sexuality rather than the wife's torment. My raw agony was nowhere to be found within the pages of this book. However, this book was still useful. Overall, the book was all right.
There were nuggets of practical advice and hope. I liked the way views from both wives and husbands were presented. The most important thing I learned was that it is possible for a husband to love his wife and still sin against her. I don't understand it or like it, but I believe it and this book does a good job of introducing that concept. I also learned a lot about the importance of a Christian wife's role of encouraging her husband spiritually. I liked Fred's description about how Brenda influenced him by lovingly refusing to accept anything less than righteousness from him. I also liked Brenda's attitude that her destiny is forever entwined with Fred's and that when one sins it pollutes the stream for both of them.
If you are in deep pain right now, understand that healing will take lots of time and lots of God. This book won't fix you or your marriage, but it can give you some insight and encouragement. For biblical healing, I strongly recommend "Lord Heal My Hurts" by Kay Arthur.
Great book.......2007-06-29
I'm half-way through it. So far, it is a really great book w/ super insight. I highly recommend it. Best description for this book would be "lifechanging".
WHAT A GREAT BOOK! .......2007-02-23
This is an outstanding book. This addresses a very real problem and does it in terms we can all understand. It is an easy read and includes enough actual stories from actual people to cross the bounds of "it could never happen to us" Thanks Fred and Brenda!
You are NOT alone!.......2006-09-02
This book has helped me realize that I am not alone and that it is completely NORMAL to have these types of feelings.
Women share their personal stories and feelings in this book. Wisdom is handed out to help you make your own decisions.
One word of caution...personally, it kind of fueled my fire in a way...not sure how to describe it, but it almost gave me more bullets against my husband.
It's not a feel good read by any means, but it is a should read.
Realistic and helpful steps to restoration.......2006-08-27
Understanding why your spouse was stupid enough to become entangled in the porno web is one thing; forgiving him and restoring your relationship is quite another. This book lays it all bare and gives practical counsel that, if followed, will help a woman wanting to accomplish that end.
Some reviewers of this book expressed disappointment with the focus on pornography and masterbation, but I bought it anyway. Adultery begins in the mind. With easy access to internet pornography, thoughts are turned into images. Sexual obsessions have mental, spiritual, and emotional ramifications. Each has to be acknowledged and addressed. This means going back to where it begins. Cut off a weed at its roots and it will die. This is a good book for women who are truly ready to forgive.
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"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in She Comes First, a straightforward, intimate, and exuberant guide to cunnilingus. Kerner first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his "sexual inadequacies," and quickly learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than through intercourse. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and describes female sexual response from "foreplay" through "coreplay" to "moreplay." A large part of the book is a graphic, detailed primer on "mouth music," including best positions, step-by-step techniques (illustrated), and tips for tongue and fingers. How long should this last? Until the woman has an orgasm or many, says Kerner, and "melts blissfully before your eyes." "The vast majority of women complain about guys who don't like to do it, don't know how to do it, or simply don't do it nearly enough," writes Kerner. This book will change that. Women: Buy it for your partner! --Joan Price
Book Description
As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.
Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.
Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.
She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."
Customer Reviews:
how can a title like that not sell?.......2007-10-02
A bit over-rated, this work is extremely thorough in mastering her oral pleasuring. I wouldn't, however, say that it presents anything that hasn't been discussed in other literature. The book has simply been packaged and promoted well. Fun for experimentation, but not as witty as some press outlets have led us to believe.
Men, do your woman a favor and read this!.......2007-09-06
I didn't read the book, but my husband did. He read it in one sitting, actually. Based on the "results," I give it 5 stars and wish I could give it more! Wow! I plan on reading it myself tonight.
Coming in second isn't so bad........2007-09-03
I really enjoyed this guide to sex for men. The premise is to basically allow/help your partner to orgasm first, that way you come in second, though this isn't a bad thing, far from it. The author really gives good advice, in detail without being too elusive or standoffish. A highly recommended read, along with Sex Machine: A Man's Guide to What Really Pleases a Woman in Bed.
One of Three Must Have!.......2007-08-18
The next must have is - The Master's Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Perform Successful Oral Sex and Provide the Highest Degree of Pleasure Possible
Fantastic books which every man must read!
Men: PLEASE READ THIS BOOK!.......2007-07-03
I'd like to first mention I'm a woman. I purchased this book along with He Comes Next, but read this one first. It's written in a manner that teaches one to recognize the "real" terms for each part of a woman's sexual anatomy without insulting one's intelligence and not only shows step-by-step techniques to truly please a woman but also clues the guy in on the one thing that's crucial to satisfying her: give her all the time in the world she needs to reach orgasm-don't RUSH her!
No man should go on bumbling through another act of cunnilingus when there's a book like this that will instantly teach him to keep her "coming" back for more and more and more...
Average customer rating:
- Flashback To The High School Girl's Bathroom
- Good For Everyone
- Great book for the single woman in her twenties
- REFRESHING!!!!
- Wonderful Book
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Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling
Jen Schefft
Manufacturer: William Morrow
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Let's be honest. No woman really wants to be alone for the rest of her life. But does being alone mean you're doomed to be miserable forever? Definitely not! And does being single have to equal lonely? No way! You can have the best time of your life when you're single, but you wouldn't know that from our relationship obsessed society, where celebrity magazines devote the majority of their content to who's dating whom and the wedding industry is a $100-billion business. Yet more than a third of marriages end in divorce, and countless other couples languish in unions that shouldn't have happened in the first place.
Don't become a statistic—love yourself and never settle!
Jen Schefft knows that better than almost anyone. In 2003, she got engaged in front of millions of people on television's The Bachelor, only to see it end nine months later when the relationship just wasn't right anymore. A year later, she turned down an engagement on The Bachelorette, and the backlash was relentless. She was labeled a "spinster" by a celebrity magazine, and a noted national talk-show host remarked that she would be "a bachelorette for the rest of her life."
This is a terrible message to send to the millions of sensational single women out there, and in Better Single Than Sorry Schefft makes it her mission to let women know that it's better to be single than to be in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. With testimonials from women of all ages—single, married, in committed relationships, with children (even single moms) and without—this book tells you how to let go of your fear of being alone and how to love yourself and never settle for a relationship that is anything less than you deserve.
Written in a conversational style, as if talking with your best friend, Schefft helps you navigate the pressures of a culture that places an unhealthy importance on being in a relationship and shows you how to find happiness in work, home, and the simple pleasures of everyday life. Above all, she shows you how it's far, far better to be single than sorry. Being single is a time to have fun, learn new things, grow, and blossom—not a time to feel desperate or depressed, so cherish it!
Customer Reviews:
Flashback To The High School Girl's Bathroom.......2007-06-08
I got this as a gift. Reading it was like being zapped back to high school, in the girl's bathroom, where that one click of know-it-all girls were always busy gossiping and deciding how everyone else should behave and what was and wasn't cool. The basic message back then, as with this book, is you are either with us or against us. Conform to what we think women should be. Not a good message for girls or women and certainly won't help you with dating. If you want good advice that doesn't tell you how to be and will work, I suggest God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters and A Practical Handbook for the Boyfriend: For Every Guy Who Wants to Be One/For Every Girl Who Wants to Build One, which are both very good. I also heard The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top is good and just picked up a copy of that.
Good For Everyone.......2007-05-31
This book gives the reader something to hope for: the right guy WILL come along if you are patient and you stay true to yourself. This was an amusing read, mostly filled with quotes from other women who will validate for you that you are not alone in this. I'm glad I purchased this book.
Great book for the single woman in her twenties.......2007-05-14
It seems like all the books I read about being single, are for middle age women or for single moms. It was nice to finaloly read a book that I could relate to, being in my twenties. Very cute and funny.
REFRESHING!!!!.......2007-05-14
I read this book at Barnes and Noble on a study break and I will admit that I found it very refreshing!! Why? too many books about being single seem to focus on some aspect of trying to fetch a guy by improving your looks, by flirting better, by having fewer standards, by networking more, etc. While some of those principles are not always completely bad, they focus on life being better with having the ideal mate in your life (instead of learning how to manage or enjoy life). And then other times, they are outright anti-feminist with principles of encouraging submissiveness, a lack of communication and pretending to be something that you are not which is damaging to BOTH sexes, not just women.
This book I think gets it RIGHT. Jen Schefft talks about ENJOYING the single life, about NOT SETTLING, about not falling into the peer pressure when friends or parents want you to be with someone. I think that this is downright refreshing in contrast to other books on single life. More books should be like this! They should not encourage women to be any less than who they truly are, and changing something about yourself should be because YOU want to do it, not because you want to get someone's attention. This seems to have a slef help twist on a feminist perspective.
Other books that I think that people who might be interested in this book might benefit from are: The Meaning of Wife, Bachelor Girl, Feminine Mystique, A Room of Ones Own.
Wonderful Book.......2007-05-13
I think that every woman should read this book. I am in a relationship, but still found this book compelling. Her thoughts on how you should be treated and loving yourself are absolutely right!
Average customer rating:
- I would be suffering if I had not read this book
- Awsome book.
- A WORTHY READ
- Gray's best book
- helpful, valuable advice for people dating or in relationships
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Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving & Lasting Relationship
John Gray
Manufacturer: HarperCollins
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The latest tentacle of John Gray's formidable Mars and Venus octopus deals with a topic near to the heart of almost everybody--dating. With a lot of insight and common sense, Gray tackles the hard and often messy business of finding "a soul mate." Without fear or favor, Mars and Venus on a Date dissects the dynamics between men and women and the five stages each relationship must pass through: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and, finally, engagement (for marriage, of course). Even though Mars and Venus on a Date isn't The Rules by a long shot, the courtship it describes is surprisingly old-fashioned. It's chock-full of things your mother might say: "Most people find or are found by their soul mates when they are not really looking." "The man should never talk more than the woman." But how to know if the person you're with is your "soul mate?" Gray writes, "When our soul wants to marry our partner, it feels like a promise that we came into this world to keep." Which translates into, "When you know, you know."
Book Description
Mars and Venus on a Date is for all single people looking for love, including the newly separated or divorced who are daunted by re-entering the singles scene. Written with the compassion and understanding that could come only from John Gray, it takes readers through the five stages of dating: Attraction, Ambivalence, Commitment (to monogamy), True Intimacy and Proposal/Marriage. In its pages, readers will find creative ideas on finding a soulmate, making a commitment and sage advice on such difficult issues as deciding when to become sexually intimate and whether or not to live with their partner.
The singles universe can be a nebulous and frightening place, and the men and women alone in this void have great need for the wisdom of John Gray. In the same way that Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus became the ultimate relationship book for couples, Mars and Venus on a Date will be the singles' essential guide.
Customer Reviews:
I would be suffering if I had not read this book.......2007-09-25
This is one of those books that improved my life.
If your boyfriends or ex-boyfriends always try to guess what you think, always give in when you have a fight, and you take that for granted, this is a book for you. In my case, it helped me to understand my boyfriends who do not do these for me. It does not mean they care less. Those are typical things guys do, and it is just the difference between men and women. I recommended my boyfriend to read this book too. Initially he was skeptical, but after he read it, he thought it definitely helped especially on what to do when I am upset. It helped our relationship.
If you are a girl and have problems dealing with your female colleague, or female bosses, this book could help too. It helps me understand women's perspective better from a third person's angle. This book helped me to communicate better with my boss, especially when she was angry or grumpy. Apologize first, let her understand she has the right to be angry, and then explain or not. It worked like magic.
Awsome book........2007-08-31
This is an excellent book that helps a lot to manage the many challenges of the dating process. I recommend it as well as I recommned Women are from Mars and Men are from Venus.
A WORTHY READ.......2007-07-28
This could have saved me SO MUCH heartache had I known the difference between men and women when I first started dating. Even though I had brothers I had NO IDEA that they are all hardwired to see the world differently. Could have spared myself and my partners a lot of arguments and hurt feelings.
Please pass this on to anyone who is about to date.
Gray's best book.......2007-02-20
I love this book. Well not the whole book, but the first half anyway. Gray has a view of relationships that is right on target. And he can say it with great skill in about 100 pages. Then he either repeats himself or climbs out on the edge. But no one is better at making sense of this subject and in this book he's at his best. Expect to stop after every chapter and say "Oh, that's why she acted that way." So fellas, please read this book and the Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus book. The rest of his writtings are just the same stuff rewritten, which is pretty disappointing considering the great insight Gray has. And guys - when your done with this book, read The Rules. Between this book and The Rules, you'll understand dating and women much more than women want you to.
helpful, valuable advice for people dating or in relationships.......2007-02-01
This Mars & Venus book builds on the information in the original John Gray book, and applies it to how men and women behave differently once they begin dating.
This book explains the five stages of dating (attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, engagement). Of particular value is the explanation of the anxiety-ridden second stage "uncertainty." Having read this book, the "uncertainty" period of dating is much easier to weather. Not only is it a facet of nearly every single relationship, it is a critical and necessary part to building the relationship. Another important idea from this book is that all relationships go through these five stages (or skip them at their peril), and that most relationships will cycle through these stages several times until the fifth stage, engagement, is reached.
This book helps women slow down and have more realistic expectations at each stage, and helps men understand the behaviors women may be exhibiting at each stage. It also reinforces an idea introduced in "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" that men play the role of giving, and women play the role of receiving, and that this honors our biological/evolutionary drives and simplifies a lot of the anxiety surrounding who should do what in a relationship. Women are encouraged to slow down and recieve, and the book suggests this will enhance a woman's feminine qualities while allowing a man to exhibit his masculine qualities. Men, by contrast, are encouraged to give, serve, and provide and think of meeting the woman's needs.
While these ideas may strike some as anachronistic or worse, there seems to be some common sense to them that may be worth investigating. Since having read this book and experimenting with some of its ideas, I have made my relationship a LOT better and (speaking from a female's perspective), not acting in a male role as persuer (and understanding the difference between active and receptive interest, a distinction covered in great deal in the book) has lessened my anxiety level in the relationship.
Try some of these ideas out for yourself to see how they work. Your mileage may vary but I would recommend this book to any person feeling lost in their dating lives.
Book Description
Based on groundbreaking research, and written by the leading authority in the field, Long Distance Relationships teaches the little-known but critical secrets to a happy and healthy long distance relationship. The first work to comprehensively review, cite, and synthesize five decades of research on separated couples, Long Distance Relationships is the definitive guide for the more than 3 million couples who have to be apart.
Customer Reviews:
Very Helpful.......2007-07-14
Being that I am in a long distance relationship right now I found this book to be very helpful. I know that I have a strong relationship however, I wanted to read this book to get some reassurance as well as some helpful hints to make my relationship even better. I found it nice that he provided boxes throughout the chapter that reaffirmed the things that he was saying so that I can now go back and reference something it will be easier to find it. I found this book overall well written. The one downfall for my self is that I would have liked to have talked a little bit more about same-sex relationships as that is what I am in. However, other than that it was very helpful.
Worthless.......2007-07-12
Maybe for someone in a new relationship this is helpful, but most of it is common sense, and it had no help for people who have limited contact or resources
Not for me........2007-04-16
This book had a lot of helpful tips...but it didn't really captivate me. Also, I felt like I had to have my partner with me in order to complete the activities in the book, which is a little difficult if you are in a long-distance relationship. If you are both setting out on your first LDR then this is probably a good book for you, but if one or both of you already have been in an LDR, you probably don't need this one.
Best Chapters are Free.......2007-03-01
The best chapters of this book are published in PDF format for free on the web.
Wonderful Info.......2007-01-10
For you out there dealing with what I'm dealing right now, it's a must have tool. It beats talking to your friends who don't understand LDRs. LDRs are not hard at all especially when you've met the RIGHT one. It's a feel-so-good-you-want-to-go-shopping-all-the-time feeling!
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