Book Description
"You Want Me To Do What"? is an illustrated book in which the author is a woman who energetically describes the fine art of fellatio. Whatever you choose to call it, "fellatio," "oral sex," "blow job," or "giving head," performing oral sex on a man is a skill that's well worth refining. Having one's genitals lovingly attended to by a learned mouth feels incredible and is an expression of intimacy and trust.
Filled between the pages of this book are informative sex facts, easy to learn instructions and it also has a humorous and playful side to it. Learn about and try out the 25 thrilling and erotic techniques, such as "Deep Throat", "69", "Grooving", "Tastes", "Head Twist", "Rippling", "Jail Break", etc. along with 115 instructional and alluring photos to help improve your odds of providing a truly great blow job every time. Tastefully written for both the beginner as well as the experienced, the book teaches an uninhibited and creative approach in giving the
"Blow Job."
Customer Reviews:
Bob & Diane Say: .......2007-04-11
This book is, in a word, ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!! SO BUY IT NOW!! It's written by a woman who obviously loves fellatio to the bottom of her soul, and who has developed superlative and awesome technique -- making her a true Grand Master of Fellatio!! Truly mind blowing techniques to add to your oral repretoire! In terms of substantive tips, it beats other books on this subject hands down. It is shorn of nonessential details and distills to essence the art of great fellatio -- and thus gets straight to the point. It makes us want to write a similar book on mind blowing cunnilingus -- so let's find a publisher.
Worth the Time.......2006-06-06
I found this read to be somewhat informative prose wise, entertaining & very informative visually. Ms Taylor does a great job of relaxing the reader, let's face it, many women find giving oral sex repulsive. I know because I do sexual counseling. Having said that, I found a lot of her info a tad boring or repetitive, probably because I have read "Blowing Him Away", "Going Down","The Ultimate Guide To Fellatio" etc. etc.
The fun title definitely caught my eye, & if you are a novice, married 20 years or just plain curious, this is a MUST read! Every woman having sex with a man should know this info & be comfortable performing fellatio, which can be VERY sexually exciting for women!
Yes ladies, you can get extremely aroused with the right mindset & knowledge. This is where I think Ms. Taylor's book has the most importance.She delves into:
1)mental preparation
2)making it fun ie; poprocks
3)giving some tasteful (no pun intended) photos on how to achieve it all, mentally & physically.
Women are, for the most part, taught, "only bad girls do that" or they hear how awful it is from their peers or sisters. We are given thousands of subliminal messages that sex is
a) dirty, especially penises (how many penises do you see in R rated movies?)
b) messy,
c) inconvenient, but most of all....
d) a natural thing. Therefore we don't feel it necessary to read a book on sex, I mean, It's "natural" right? GO READ THIS BOOK & learn about good sex. Let me end by adding, one of the later photos shows the woman lying down, head back & the penis entering from above (deep throating). This excellent technique originated from Linda Lovelace & no,not all women who go down, deep throat, you do what is comfortable but don't limit yourself either. Regarding swallowing...99% of the time he won't even know whether you did or didn't, he is too absorbed into the wonderful orgasm you have given him (keep a towel handy). MY fun tip of the day, (I can't recall if this was in the book) get a hot cup of tea or coffee, swish it in your mouth a few seconds & drive him crazy, several times. Have fun ladies, I mean that....& you will after reading this book.
Sure, it's giving! But equality comes elsewhere!.......2005-11-16
I had already reviewed a few books on fellatio - but the cute title of this text really caught my eye. "You Want Me To Do What?" It's not how I feel. But in these "I'll-do-you-if-you-do-me" times, the idea of giving oral sex might seem to be a little one-sided. However, when one really gets deeper into it (or takes it a little deeper), one soon discovers that there are a lot of other satisfactions to be had from performing this most loving of acts, (mainly emotional).
The book follows a very logical progression, starting off first with mental preparation ("Why do this?"), some definitions (like the "gag reflex"), and a recap of male anatomy (the most useful landmark being what the author calls the "Taylor Spot," after herself, which is the area on the underside of his organ, just below the head, which is where a man is most sensitive).
[...] On that score, the large page size and simple layout does give it some resemblance to a bound college thesis. This just means, unfortunately, that the text is too large to carry around in your purse - in case you forget what you're supposed to do. But there's another reason you might not want to read this book out in public - and that's because of the pictures.
Compared to the other works I've read, the most refreshing - and titillating -- aspect of this book is the fact that it is replete with PHOTOS! The images are strictly black & white and almost clinical in their matter-of-fact presentation. But they are certainly much more effective in communicating exactly what it is one is supposed to do. There's an erect phallus in about 90% of the photos (or a dildo that looks just like one) that is either being licked, kissed, and sucked, and then massaged by hands and between breasts! There's never more than at most an inch of penetration, so the photos are just a tease. But for those of you more apprehensive, seeing another woman's lips lovingly caressing and encircling the tip of a man's tool can certainly be very reassuring.
The author spends a fair amount of time sharing some external techniques, which she likes to give cute names. "Grooving," "The No Handed Catch," "Teasing the Taylor Spot," "Peek-a-Boo," and "Rippling," to name just the biggies.
As a hint for greater penetration, the author suggests letting him slide along the roof of your mouth as he goes deeper which will help to avoid the gag reflex. For fun, there's a humorous photo where the head - and the tongue beneath it - are both completely covered with Pop Rocks (carbonated candy) which is the author's favorite treat. There's even an illustrated section on how to use your mouth - to fit him with a condom (which is probably a good skill to know if I should ever decide to become a prostitute!).
In most of the photos, the woman's face is either upright (taking it from the front), or horizontal (coming down at it from above). The most daring view comes towards the book's end - when her face is leaning back - and her subject is approaching from above and behind her. This posture positions her mouth and throat more in a line, and the technique she's demonstrating, of course - is deep throating!
There are other postures in which to do this, but this is the only one featured in this book. Even so, I think many women might still find this dramatization to be very helpful. What's important here to understand is that the mouth and throat are normally at right angles to each other. In this position, the appendage can't go any further than the back of the mouth. Ladies, if you don't lay your head back - trying to take him any deeper will only make you choke! Trust me!
The section on swallowing is woefully brief. Taylor basically leaves it up to each woman to decide for herself what to do! As an alternative, she suggests having him finish across your face (which is shown in an accompanying photo). I personally found the thought of this to be hugely degrading. It's also missing out on a great emotional opportunity. Ask any man and he'll tell you that nothing says "I love you" more than swallowing - while not doing so, unfortunately, probably says just the opposite!
One of the biggest advantages of oral sex, which the author just touches upon, is its convenience. When women always insist upon having an orgasm every time he does (as female equality has told us we should), then sex, unfortunately, can sometimes loose its spontaneity. For me, a better type of equality for women (than tit-for-tat orgasms) would be to allow ourselves to be a little bisexual instead! Speaking from experience, nothing is more emotionally and physically enthralling - than to spend some time with another woman! It is, of course - why men love us so much!
To conclude, if you're looking for a light-hearted and informative guide to performing oral sex on your man, Taylor's "You Want Me To Do What?" might really hit the spot - without getting you all choked up! I highly recommend it!
Great Information, Poor Presentation........2005-06-30
This book was written and published by Taylor. Mind you the woman knows a great deal about fellatio and the book is highly informative if you can get past the fact that this book lacks a certain amount of eye candy I've become accustomed to. How do I begin: the cover, the numerous photos that are far from publishing quality, the layout of the book, and then there is the writing. All of which is distracting to a very informative book on one of my favorite acts.
Taylor covers several wonderful things in this book but I was distracted by the delivery. Are looks important? When it comes to a book, it is to me. The message is good but if I can't concentrate due to the poor quality of the book what's the point? I just think this book had so much potential.
All that said, there is great stuff in this book that is good. My favorite is putting a condom on with just my mouth. Taylor pretty much covers everything from deep throating to popping candy all with her own brand of wit and slang. It's a great education but the delivery could use some work.
I gave this book three stars for the information it contains but couldn't give it any more.
girldiver:)
a Great Gift.......2005-04-07
This book makes a lovely gift for the young newlyweds, at least the groom will thank you! my sweet sexy husband, Norman, bought several copies of this, one for us, and a few to give away.
Grandma was over the other day, and was flipping through it, as it sat on the coffee table - my oh my - she was surprised! you may want to keep it in a safe hiding place, especially if you have kids in the house, or a mother comming over.
over all, it's a good one. Norman likes to think he's "teaching" me things, but, i knew all the techniques long ago - but he's sweet.
Norm asked Grandma what she thought, after she set it down, she said "aint' nothing new under the sun, but it's nice to see the pictures."
Average customer rating:
- Excellent Book About Relationships
- Needed very much for marriage
- the most practical relationship book
- Get's down to the basics
- "Seven Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly
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The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved
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Book Description
BUILD THE STRONG, DEEPLY POWERFUL RELATIONSHIPS YOU'VE ALWAYS DESIRED
We all crave the heartwarming, incomparable connection of intimacy. But oftentimes, this complete, unrestrained sharing of ourselves is too daunting a task. Now, in The Seven Levels of Intimacy, Matthew Kelly explains step by step how to move beyond our fears and experience the power of true intimacy. By achieving each of Kelly's seven levels, we can understand and gain confidence in our partners and ourselves until we are fully able to experience love, commitment, trust, and happiness.
With profound insight and the use of powerful and relatable examples, The Seven Levels of Intimacy redefines the most important relationships in our lives and how we view our interactions with one another. By finally comprehending and experiencing the great depths of intimacy, we can create the strong connections, deep joy, and lasting bonds that we all long for in our lives.
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"We All Crave An Authentic Experience Of Intimacy. Though our hearts crave intimacy, though our minds understand our deep need for it, the self-revelation it requires is often too daunting a task. Complete and unrestrained sharing of self exposes the deepest human fear of being rejected for being ourselves. In The Seven Levels of Intimacy, Matthew Kelly both acknowledges and calms our fears, while teaching us how to move beyond them to experience the power of true intimacy. Matthew reveals that each relationship is built upon a pattern of interaction. In the beginning stages, we rely on casual interactions, gaining familiarity by focusing on superficialities and facts. We grow closer and begin to share our opinions, learning to accept each other and embrace the growing relationship despite the difference in our experiences and viewpoints. Once our differences and opinions are shared and accepted, we feel safe enough to reveal our hopes, dreams, and feelings, developing trust. With this trust, we open ourselves and are able to share our legitimate needs, becoming liberated from carrying the burden of our real needs alone. At last, we are deeply intimate and both willing and able to reveal our deepest fears. We are beyond judgment and feel trust and acceptance. By moving through and building upon each level of intimacy, we find comfort and gain trust in our partners and ourselves until, by developing and deepening our intimacy within each level, we are able to fully open ourselves, finally opening to the possibility of truly being loved. It is through mastering the seven levels of intimacy that we will break through to fully experiencing love, commitment, trust, and happiness. The Seven Levels of Intimacy is a brilliant and practical guide to creating and sustaining intimacy, whether you are looking for a deeper sense of connection with your spouse, looking for more fulfillment in your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend, trying to improve your relationships with your children, or simply wondering what you should be looking for in a partner. With profound insight and the use of powerful, everyday examples, Matthew Kelly explains how we can nurture the intimacy in our relationships. The Seven Levels of Intimacy redefines how we view our interactions with others. This new understanding leads us to successfully create the strong connections, deep joy, and lasting bonds that we all long for. "
Customer Reviews:
Excellent Book About Relationships.......2007-09-29
Seven levels of Intimacy describes various levels of depth in
a relationship and how they are characterized, from superficial to
a primary trusting relationship.
Needed very much for marriage.......2007-09-17
I bought this book to help me with a presentation for Pre-Cana but it is actually enrighing our marriage more then we would have thought or planned. Worh the read.
the most practical relationship book.......2007-08-24
This is the best book regarding relationship that I have ever read. The good thing about it is it is so practical and what it says in the book make you feel that it was in your heart for a long time, but didn't know how to spread out...It gives you a great chance and a peaceful heart to think hard & thoroughly of what's wrong, when sometimes something we take for granted. Highly recommend...
Get's down to the basics.......2007-08-23
I think this is a wonderful book and chose to buy multiple copies for my family and friends. It truly provides valuable insight into building and sustaining relationships. I now have a better understanding of my personal strengths and weakness which will ultimately help me as an individual and a husband, father and friend. I highly recommend it to anyone who craves the insight regarding "The art of being loved and the Joy of being loved".
"Seven Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly.......2007-02-07
This book has great ideas on how to make your relationships deeper and more meaningful. Nor am I just talking about a romantic relationship, or one with your significant other. This book should drastically change how you view all relationships, from friendships to your (future)spouse. This is a great read for anyone looking to go deeper.
Book Description
For more than 20 years, Betty Dodson has been dedicated to taking the shame out of masturbation, showing it to be a healthy form of sexual expression. With warmth and intelligence, and informative line drawings, Dodson explains how anyone can learn to fully enjoy the pleasures of self-love, pointing out that masturbation is still the safest sex.
Customer Reviews:
Not worth buying...disappointed!.......2007-03-14
Even at a discount rate this book is not worth it. You have some black and white drawings with written accounts of Betty's ordeals. More of an autobiography than a how-to manual.
I am Christian and the first couple chapters, not pages, chapters talk about how we think everyone that masturbates is going to hell. Sure we don't think polygamy is right and we're pro-life, but we also recognize sex as a wonderful gift from God. Maybe instead of doing research on sex so much, she should actually research Christian ideas as well.
Very Disappointed.......2006-10-24
I was really disappointed especially because I had read so many positive reviews of the book. It very boring and the only exercises there actually were was one little chapter. The book was more of an autobigraphy of the author as well as about the history of the acceptance of women's masturbation which I could have read online if i wanted to. I wouldn't consider this a self-help book at all.
A pleasure to "read"!.......2006-08-25
And to think I thought I had "written the book" on this!
A caveat: Why no chapter on vacuum cleaners?
Mildly entertaining, but not helpful.......2005-09-06
This book reads more like a autobiography then a self help book. Dodson spends most of her time talking about her life and her sexual awakening. While some of it is insightful, a lot of it comes very close to blathering stupidity and an odd kind of boastfulness.
The first chapters deal with her unsatisfactory sex life and her sexual encounters with her wonder lover. The art work is nice, but otherwise, it's skippable. She then goes on to her workshops and her spreading the news about masturbation. This part makes her sound like a loonie on a mission, but it's mildly entertaining.
The part that I bought this book for, the how to masturbate section, encompassed less then 20 pages and was vague, frustrating and unhelpful. Anyone, with a bit of thought, could have figured out most of these techniques.
Over all, honestly, it was a bit dull. If you have issues about your genitals, think that masturbation will make you blind, or just want a laugh over someone who likes to jerk off in group settings, buy this. If you want help with techniques, practical advice, or how to use toys, find another book.
Engineering review.......2005-08-22
While talking to the author about designing and marketing a medical device to assist women to exercise their pelvic floor muscles, Betty recommended that I buy this book to learn more about the anatomy and physiology of the female orgasm, and how the device I am designing might play a role. Betty writes from her three decades of experience teaching "selflove" to many women and some men. But it wasn't until page 157 that I found the relevant information. Betty was part of the early efforts in liberating women's thinking, and her stories of that effort are fascinating. She writes well, and makes her story interesting. I had hoped that there would be more clinical information that I could use for the product design; that is the only reason I subtracted one star. If you are expecting an instruction book, this isn't it. But if you want to learn about the emotional and sexual history of one pioneer of the sexual revolution, buy this book.
Amazon.com
If you think dating is a simple process--meet someone, ask him or her for a date or get asked out yourself, try not to come off as a drooling moron, then arrange to get together for a second date or cut your losses and work to meet someone else--well, lucky you. For many people, it's far more complicated than that, and Dr. Joy Browne addresses those complexities in Dating for Dummies. Exactly how do you meet a potential date? How do you present yourself in the most favorable light? How do you negotiate that first date? (One interesting story Browne tells is of a couple who negotiated a weekend together, deciding whether or not they'd have sex, and under what conditions they'd consider marriage and children--all before their first date.) And how do you proceed from there? The process still comes down to chemistry, but Browne shows how many ways there are to make sure you get your best possible chance with Mr./Ms. Right.
Book Description
If you’re looking for a fun Saturday night date or a happily-ever-after mate, this is the guide for you. Whether you’re young and haven’t dated much or older and have been out of circulation so long you’ve forgotten how to flirt, dating can be intimidating. Author Dr. Joy Browne, America’s favorite psychologist, demystifies the whole dating process, from getting a date, plotting the place, and having a great time (or dealing with dud dates) to moving beyond a first date, playing it safe, and how sex can impact a budding relationship.
In this new edition, Dr. Joy offers updated guidance on how to find a date, covering "speed dating," Internet dating services, and singles nights at grocery stores and other unexpected places. She delivers fresh pointers on a whole host of topics, including:
- Building your confidence and polishing your social self
- Determining if you’re really ready to date
- How to meet and approach Mr. or Ms. Intriguing
- Where to go, what to do, what to wear, and what to avoid on the first date
- Taboo subjects, such as your ex, sex, politics, and religion
- Cell phone and e-mail etiquette
- Moving from dating to a successful relationship and the four stages of attachment
- Breaking up (just in case Mr. or Ms. Right wasn’t) and avoiding pity parties and pitfalls
- The dos and don’ts of Internet dating
Dr. Joy Browne’s nationally syndicated daily radio show is the longest running program of its kind. Dr. Joy has won numerous awards for her work including the American Psychological Associations President’s Award and the Talkers Magazine award for Best Female Talk Show Host (two years in a row). She was #10 on the list of the 25 Greatest Radio Talk Show Hosts of All Time, and has been named one of the 100 Most Influential Talk Show Hosts nine times. Dr. Joy can frequently be seen on television as a guest on shows such as CBS’ The Early Show, Oprah Winfrey and Larry King Live. Dr. Joy has authored: It’s A Jungle Out There Jane, Dating for Dummies, The Nine Fantasies That Will Ruin Your Life, and Getting Unstuck.
Dating For Dummies, 2nd Edition includes advice for special dating situations such as long-distance relationships, office romances, single parents, senior citizens, and more. It gives you worksheets to help you objectively analyze your date expectations and evaluate a relationship. Packed with real-world wisdom, confidence boosters, and a dash of humor, this is the guide to help you get out of exile, get into dating, and perhaps even get into a meaningful relationship.
Customer Reviews:
Dating Tips for Dummies.......2007-08-16
This book is very comprehensive just like the other books in the `dummy' series. The book consists of 8 parts with several chapters in each part. The first 7 parts go through all the essential for a person to get started on their dating. The last part is more a collection of common sense dating tips listed in groups of 10, such as 10 tips on do's and don't of dating and 10 ways to know your in love etc.
When I first approached this book I thought it would be a collection of facts and pointers without much explanations. Kind of like a cross between a dictionary and an encyclopedia. I was pleasantly surprised to see that this book really does start from the beginning. If begins by analyzing the dating scene to help the prospective dater know what to expect.
Next it starts at the most important place for anyone to start. Self-confidence. Without self-confidence your dating is doomed to failure.
The author, Dr. Joy Browne, realizes this and presents confidence building exercises and knowledge to differentiate between real and false confidence. Next, you learn how you can improve your `social self' , getting into the right frame of mind to meet people and have fun.
Chapter 4 takes this exploration deeper, helping you take a look at some basic psychology. This will help you avoid self-sabotage later when you are dating or trying to build a relationships. The next 3 chapters (5-7) focus on the mechanics of dating, from approaching to setting up a date to acting appropriately on a date.
This book is very comprehensive in the quantity and scope of the dating tips it contains. If you are having trouble getting started with dating then this book is a great place to start. You will learn the basics for long-term success in dating and relationships as well as useful dating tips to get you out and socializing.
Best Dating Book I've read.......2007-07-27
This book is awesome!! Frank and detailed advice on how to date--from where to go for the first meeting, the second date, etc. How to be clear if the person is not for you, warning signs, etc. Will save you lots of time in regard to the common mistakes and thinks of things that I wouldn't necessarily consider on my own.
Goes into great detail but is clear-headed and realistic. I recommend it to my friends, clients and anyone wanting to date or currently dating.
A waste of time.......2007-07-25
Book was too long. Too much information and advise was very outdated! Seemed like she was living in the 50's or something. Some very basic things were questioned. I was confused after reading half the book.
Off the chart waste of time........2007-02-15
Full of contradictions and recitations of conventional wisdom. Her "You cannot date if you are separated" rule that is her mantra throughout the book is contradicted in her "rebound" chapter where she says: "I think formulas are a bit rigid here".... Come on, NO dating within one year of the divorce????? Life is short- our hair is falling out andor turning gray, our brain cells dying and our skin shriveling. Date when you want to date- wait maybe one day, one year, one decade, it's up to the indivdual, not some pop doc.
The "never" and "don't" lists are either inherently obvious or are horrible attempts at some humor.
Abandoned Guy.......2006-08-17
Hey!, my wife left me 2 years ago, I've been through therapy and taking prozac, my therapist says it's ok to date women, even If I'm still married, but Dr. Joyce says you MUST NOT???, come on!, she has no clue about my life and my feelings, she has no right to come and tell me good from evil, bad from wrong, she's not my mother!. Besides that, I like her advice on the reason for approaching someone, get in mind all you want is to get to know the person and see if you both get along, don't think further than that objective. Some useful tips, but some seem too needy and nice for a guy!, the moment you let a woman know you are interested, the moment she losts interest in you!, I've experience on that, believe me.
Amazon.com
The original Joy of Sex, published in 1979, became the lovemaking guide to intimate discovery and experimentation for a generation of adults. This updated, 30th-anniversary edition is a gorgeous, sensual book that will delight lovers, whether they're discovering sex or renewing passion. Purple print on pale pink and soft lilac pages lend a sensual air before you even start reading. Beautiful drawings (and a few color photographs) of young, smiling, coupling couples (heterosexual only) serve to graphically illustrate sexual positions and interactions. The facial expressions convey affection and tenderness as much as passion.
The nonjudgmental, gentle tone, aimed at both novice love makers and those looking to expand their sensual play, is lyrical and not at all sleazy. The updated content includes safe sex cautions and a section about AIDS. True, this new edition isn't updated enough to seem particularly "new" to readers who came of age with the original edition. The content is still exclusively heterosexual. Surprisingly, vibrators merit only one paragraph (while "foursomes and moresomes" get a full page), and lubricants are treated dismissively. But this book will appeal to a whole new generation of readers, and even readers who still own a lop-eared, 30-year-old Joy of Sex will find sensual sparks rekindled with this lovely new edition. --Joan Price
Book Description
Nothing compares to
The Joy of Sex
Since 1972, more than 8 million people have come to this wise, witty, and uninhibited bestselling guide to lovemaking and found all they wanted to know about achieving greater sexual satisfaction. They have discovered how sex can be playful and imaginative, erotic and passionate, pleasurable and exhilarating. Now, with this fully revised 30th anniversary edition,
The Joy of Sex promises to captivate an entirely new generation of readers.
Beautifully designed and lavishly illustrated,
The Joy of Sex provides a fresh view of sexuality in the 21st century. Filled with provocative illustrations and 16 pages of new full-color photography, the updated text continues to discuss a wide range of subjects in practical detail while still maintaining Dr. Alex Comfort’s no-nonsense yet fun approach to matters of the libido.
The Joy of Sex remains the most comprehensive sex manual on the market. From current concerns about health and practicing responsible sex to the risks presented by AIDS and other venereal diseases, Dr. Comfort contends with every aspect of our sexual territory. Above all, this remarkable book emphasizes the importance of a happy and relaxed sexuality in our lives.
Now more than ever,
The Joy of Sex is for people who want to make their lovemaking richer and more exciting. Complete with elegant photographs and superb drawings that capture in full, frank detail the intimacy of the act of love, it is undoubtedly a contemporary classic.
Customer Reviews:
Imagine Rombauer's The Joy of Cooking... and add sex to the mixture........2007-05-24
On lilac folds, with a hint of retro in themes, Comfort incites us all.
oldie but goodie.......2007-01-24
this is a good basic to have in the arsenal. the tie-up, teasing trick is still one of the best ever. if one actually read the book, they'd get the hairy armpit thing - it's related to the section on the smell of your lover. take it or leave it, like everything in the book, it's just information. yes, it's hetero sex. no, it doesn't delve into anything extremely spicy - it's a starting point. most people don't start out right off with anal sex or whips and chains. those have their place as well, but this is not it. This is The Joy of Cooking of sex books - a basic starting point with enough so that you can know where you may want to seek more details. or not.
Contrarian View from a young guy.......2006-10-03
I bought the hardcover edition of The Joy of Sex several years ago. This morning I picked it up and read it from cover to cover. I enjoyed it greatly. The new edition is beautifully printed with elegant line drawings and full color photographs. It preserves the quirky charm of the original edition, but this may be its biggest flaw.
Alex Comfort essentialy invented the modern sex manual when he wrote the first edition of The Joy of Sex in 1972. We can thank Comfort's pioneering efforts for the sagging shelves of sex books we enjoy in our bookstores today. Still, some of his advice sounds hopelessly dated. My favorite anachronism is a sexual position he calls the "Negresse." I'm not sure how that made it past the editors. Supposedly "completely updated for the 21st century," the book has a distinctly 70s feel. I find it charming, but some of the other Amazon reviewers don't.
Despite its flaws, this book deserves its status as an enduring classic. Comfort's approach to sex is humane and thoughtful. Reading his descriptions, you get the impression of a sensitive field scientist with a knack for philosophising about human nature. Other sex books get so wrapped up in the mechanics of sex and so enamoured with graphic depections of sex that they lose some of the human perspective. Comfort's book holds on to it tenaciously. A book with a wise and unbothered approach becomes even more welcome at a time when you can see images of every imaginable sexual act on the internet. There are better technical manuals on sex. Read Comfort's book for context and for beautiful drawings. Above all, read it to learn how take your time and savor lovemaking in all its varieties.
The Joy of Heterosexual, Monogamous, Married, Vanilla Sex.......2004-11-17
This is a how to manual for conservative couples who are already married, are completely monogamous, and yet seem to have difficulty understanding the basic concepts of penetrative sex.
If you're not heterosexual, this book has nothing for you.
If you're not in a monogamous marital relationship, this book has nothing for you.
If you don't believe that good sex always MUST be about love, this book has nothing for you.
If you are interested in sex that deviates from [...] intercourse, like vibrators (not a real [...]), S&M (not loving), [...] (icky), or oral sex (only a warm up to the real thing), this book has nothing for you.
The values in this book display a certain creepy outdated male bias where the only good sex is love sex and the only real sex is penetrative (even though the writer awknowledges that this doesn't get women to orgasm). Any other kind of sex is inferior.
If you already believe that, then this book is for you. If you think that there can be enjoyable sex without true love, marriage, and monogamy or good sex where the male isn't the focus of all orgasms, then pass this archiac manual by. It certainly isn't updated for the 21st century I'm living in.
Loved it, Loved using it on my hunny!.......2004-07-28
This was a nice, thoughtful re-make! enjoyed every page
Book Description
Nothing compares to
The Joy of Sex
Since 1972, more than 8 million people have come to this wise, witty, and uninhibited bestselling guide to lovemaking and found all they wanted to know about achieving greater sexual satisfaction. They have discovered how sex can be playful and imaginative, erotic and passionate, pleasurable and exhilarating. Now, with this fully revised 30th anniversary edition,
The Joy of Sex promises to captivate an entirely new generation of readers.
Beautifully designed and lavishly illustrated,
The Joy of Sex provides a fresh view of sexuality in the 21st century. Filled with provocative illustrations and 16 pages of new full-color photography, the updated text continues to discuss a wide range of subjects in practical detail while still maintaining Dr. Alex Comfort’s no-nonsense yet fun approach to matters of the libido.
The Joy of Sex remains the most comprehensive sex manual on the market. From current concerns about health and practicing responsible sex to the risks presented by AIDS and other venereal diseases, Dr. Comfort contends with every aspect of our sexual territory. Above all, this remarkable book emphasizes the importance of a happy and relaxed sexuality in our lives.
Now more than ever,
The Joy of Sex is for people who want to make their lovemaking richer and more exciting. Complete with elegant photographs and superb drawings that capture in full, frank detail the intimacy of the act of love, it is undoubtedly a contemporary classic.
Customer Reviews:
the joy of sex.......2004-02-20
The book was good, but reading was difficult because the print and photos where very small.
Customer Reviews:
Way too flowery..........2007-09-19
I've read quite a few books within this genre and found this to be the weakest. Try SM101 or Screw the Roses...
Very enlightening.......2007-08-14
This book was very informative and enlightening. Enter the world of female submission with more than your initial questions answered.
Too Limited...Not Recommended.......2007-08-07
I read this book, hoping it would be a good and indepth look at female submission within the sexual D/s context in general. What I got was what the author personally thought was arousing instead. Most of what she mentions in this book (ie. tips on what to do, wear, how to behave) isn't helpful and it must be realized that such things are highly individualistic. What works for one won't work for all.
I also found the fantasies she mentions in this book of poor taste. I'm not one for racially "Othering" and "exoticizing" people and I resent that she does this in the book (I'm thinking of the Middle Eastern Man against "milky white skin" fantasies). This was written very much from the perspective of a particular white female submissive, and that's what you get, her limited (and unenlightened) perspective. Not helpful.
Take a Step Into Your Secret Garden..........2006-08-09
Have you had a conventional, ordinary, "vanilla" sex life, but feel somewhat unfilled? Have you had thoughts, fantasies, or desires to be tied up, or otherwise dominated? Do you find these thoughts exciting on one hand, but feel guilty, perverted, or ashamed on the other? Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission is the assurance and answers to all those secret questions and desires you've kept tucked and hidden away in your mind and heart.
In the first chapters, Claudia Varrin gently helps you identify if you have a submissive side to your sexuality. This is an excellent help to know if SM is something that truly interests you, before going any further in your reading or discovery. This also helps you to gain a sense of assurance and even excitement about feelings that may have left you feeling shameful in the past. She gives refreshing assurance that your hidden thoughts and desires of submissive intimacy are not perverted, or something to hide and be ashamed of.
She then guides in discovering your submissive "Secret Garden" with healthy understanding and self-confidence, sharing openly her own early feelings and discoveries. This section of the book is truly an opportunity see yourself with an honest, refreshing, new perspective. Varrin then covers a wealth of helpful advice and information on how to talk to your partner, if you desire, with open and productive communication. If your husband is unaware of your interest in SM, this book gives excellent advice for your situation. She addresses ways to comfortably first initiate conversation to a partner that may be unexpecting and unaware of your interest in SM, going over what to expect, different reactions, how to respond, and how to really open up about your sexual interests and explore them together. What fun!
Once you've established and admitted your submissiveness to yourself (and if applicable, your partner) Varrin then covers safe, sane, and consensual play. She covers public and private BDSM etiquette and helpful advice whether you want to keep your play to the bedroom, or in meeting in the public SM scene. A resource list of groups, organizations, books, publications, shops, and magazines is included. Her writing style is open, non-threatening, and personable, allowing you as the reader to explore and discover all at your own pace and desire. Aside from all the informative and useful information, she also includes a nice splattering of her own experiences and her fictional short stories just to spark your interest, or help in bringing your fantasies to life...incase you don't have enough ideas of your own! ;) The book is well-written, hardcover with a glossy dust jacket, quality binding and paper.
Experienced submissives will likely not discover new material in this book, although it could still be an enjoyable read for you. A few have written reviews for this book and rated it as disappointing. It is important to keep in mind that this book is written for women who are just starting to identify and explore a submissive side of their sexuality. It is intended to provide them with clear, helpful, assuring reading and resource lists. It really isn't written to experienced players and Doms, unless perhaps to give a look into the feelings and experiences of women new to realizing their submissive self. If you're an experienced Dom and in love with a sweet vanilla lady, than this could be a good book to read together!
If you are a woman who has been living a vanilla sexuality, but longing for further intimacy, zest, and fun, you will be refreshed, liberated, and inspired by Claudia Varrin's book. It is truly an honest, reassuring, and fun read, especially written for someone who wants a safe and fulfilling look into the amazing world of SM.
boring.......2006-03-23
Made it thru the first few chapters then threw it away. I guess it might be interesting to people who know absolutely nothing. I don't want to put the author down. She is putting out good info. Just not interested enough to finish.
I am a Daka (A Tantricka) and more into the spiritual side of sex. The movement of energy up and own the spine with the breath. Orgasms that last for hours and hours (my personal record is 4 and a half hours) with ever more intense waves of pleasure, building upon themselves wave after wave of vaginal and clitoral orgasms, a symphony of pleasure.
This book goes for using pain, to keep spiritually numb, ethically numb, morally numb and physically numb people interested long enough to achieve short duration, low intensity orgasms. Which is all right if that is all you are capable of. Just wrote this review because it was solicited of me. Again don't mean to put the author down. It just wasn't for me.
Her scenarios were interesting but I have found scenarios to be affective when they are a recreation, or reenactment, of a past life. In other words an experience which, I and the woman I am with, had in a past life. These come naturally, for me, and don't require a script. And would be totally ineffective with someone else's script.
For example I had many woman slaves in a past life. I trained them as pleasure slaves and gave them great power to select when, where and with whom they wished to practice the skills I taught them. I married them off rather then selling them into situations they did not seek. My women where the best educated, most skilled, most self confident, powerful women on the planet at the time. When they find me in this life I tie a silk scarf around their left ankle. It reminds them of all the gifts I gave them then. It reminds them of the surrender they want to make to me. It excels them into performing act of kindness on me.
My point is I don't see how vanilla routines or scenarios can have an audience. But perhaps I just lack imagination. Perhaps I am too old to learn new tricks.
Amazon.com
Even though writing about sex probably ranks on the joy scale somewhere between reading about it and having it, Elizabeth Benedict feels that many writers don't do justice to the act. So she has developed a novel idea: a guide book for fiction writers seeking to create better sex scenes. Benedict, a teacher in Princeton University's Creative Writing Program, doesn't concern herself with pornography but rather with a contention that sex scenes are pivotal in carrying the plot, story and character of some novels. Her point is emphasized through many interviews she conducted with authors on their experience with and views on writing about sex. Now, if she would only visit the film industry . . .
Book Description
Five years after it was first published, The Joy of Writing Sex remains the classic guide to writing convincing sex scenes. Elizabeth Benedict covers all the issues, from the first time, to married sex and adultery, to sex in the age of AIDS.Her instruction, supported with examples from the works of today's most respected writers-among them, Dorothy Allison, Russell Banks, Alan Hollinghurst, Joyce Carol Oates, Carol Shields, and John Updike-focuses on crafting believable sex scenes that hinge on freshness of character, dialogue, mood, and plot.In this revised edition, Benedict addresses the latest sexual revolution, intimacy on the Internet; adds new interviews with Edmund White, Darren Strauss, Stephen McCauley, and other writers; and updates her selections to include examples from the best fiction of the past few years.
Customer Reviews:
Very Disappointed.......2007-09-22
I agree with the review that says this book is dull, dry and boring. Very hard to get into, and hard to stick with it.
I am an aspiring romance writer and bought this book to help me write the love scenes. It did not meet my needs in any form whatsoever.
This book is more a discussion of the different types of sex: heterosexual, homosexual, masturbation, incest, rape, adultry, etc, and would be better categorized at such. It also seems to be aimed at those who write sex scenes that are just for the sake of sex, not scenes about love shared between two people. While it may be helpful to some, it wasn't to me and my writing.
This is the first time I've ever requested a refund from Amazon, it was that bad.
The Joy of Writing Sex.......2007-05-12
The information has been very helpful to me during my writing.
Brilliant, provocative, and sexy.......2006-11-07
As a writer of a *non-fiction* book about sex, I found plenty of fine instruction in this book for fiction writers. Benedict skillfully blends tips and well-developed advice from a writing instructor (I wish I could take her course!) with excerpts from writers she admires who illustrate her points. This is a marvelous book for writers about sexuality -- non-fiction as well as fiction -- and for any writer interested in craft.
Joan Price
Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty
Another Collection Filler Taking Up Shelf Space.......2006-10-14
We get it already -- good sex in literature should be about more than just titillating your audience. What if you just want to write good smut? What then? What if you're not interested in pulling forth the great American novel? How to Write a Dirty Story by Bright gave more information on techniques for writing interesting scenes, whatever your plot motivations (or lack thereof). And all of the excerpts about why writing good sex scenes is important seemed superfluous. If I didn't already know why I wanted to write good sex scenes, I would never have picked up the book in the first place. Still, it was a good piece to round out my collection. I recommend buying it used.
Not a how-to; more a collection of short-short stories, none of which are "joy"ous.......2005-10-24
And, if this is an illustration of the "joy" of writing sex, I would hate to see an illustration of the "horror" or writing sex.
One of the short-shorts in the version I purchased of this book details the experience of a male gas station clerk being highly aroused when another male enters his gas station and rapes him in the back room. Is this a sex scene worthy of a story to be sold as literature, or is it a transcribed version of something someone saw at a pay site on the Internet? Do we really want to be sending a message to the public that rape is an acceptable, exciting form of sexual intercourse? I can think of several victims I know who would not appreciate that, one of whom was killed by her attacker.
Customer Reviews:
Excellent Book.......2006-12-16
Maybe the best book out there for getting over a bad relationship and moving on. This book goes over each phase of what its like to have a real broken heart and what to do about it. I strongly recommend this book for anyone who is really suffering because of a love relationship that ended.
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- Light Her Fire
- hoping for more!
- Outstanding in Some Ways ... So-So in Others
- A must for every man.
- Useful book for improving ALL relationships
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Book Description
Whether your marriage is in the doldrums, your relationship is on the skids, or you're single and looking for love, Ellen Kreidman shows you how to become a world-class lover, the kind that plays for keeps. Here is a seven-step guide to real and lasting happiness that truly works! Discover:
What turns her on -- and turns her off.
What a woman really wants -- no matter what she says!
How to celebrate your differences.
Fifty -one ways to keep her fire on high.
How to express your love -- and have a sexy, marvelous time doing it.
True intimacy in a relationship where the needs of both partners are met.
How to become the only man she'll over want -- or need.
Complete with Action Assignments and Confidential Advice on creating exotic adventures and an evening you'll never forget!
Customer Reviews:
Light Her Fire.......2007-01-12
I bought this book because my boyfriend is clueless. I thought I had a better chance of communicating some important needs if I read a book that was written for men. Page 70 alone was worth the purchase. enjoy
hoping for more!.......2006-03-25
I recently bought this and its companion, "Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With you".
The advice in this one has started a few conversations. My husband has enjoyed heckling it, and that has caused a few hurt feelings. It is just close enough to the truth in many ways that I feel heckled too, but not close enough to the truth to help. This reminds me of one of those articles written with the help of gay men to help women understand the men they love. It seems like a good idea, but it doesn't work.
Its companion made for women trying to please their man made, me feel pretty good- brilliant in fact. I had thought of most of the ideas, but they never really worked for my husband. He doesn't seem that impressed by having cookies sent to him at work. It is something a woman would like to have done for her, but the problem is men and women aren't the same. That is why would buy a book like this- right?
In conclusion- If you are a man who wants to get even more confused by women, buy this book. If you are a woman with no creativity, buy, "Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With you". Otherwise, try something else. If you find something that really works, please let me know!
Outstanding in Some Ways ... So-So in Others.......2005-01-31
The product description for this book reads:
"Whether your marriage is in the doldrums, your relationship is on the skids, or you're single and looking for love, Ellen Kreidman shows you how to become a world-class lover..."
This book delivers on the first two promises, for reasons already explained by other reviewers. I believe, though, that the author should have paid more attention to the importance of being a challenge, rather than an ever-willing romantic. Lack of challenge is at least as deadly as lack of romance. I would suggest using these ideas once in a while, giving your partner a glimpse of what you can be, rather than constantly showering her with this approach (as the author seems to suggest).
As far as her "single looking for love" promise is concerned, which is what made me curious enough to read it, this book doesn't offer as much as other works that are exclusively focused on that particular subject. This book is targeted more for men who are already in relationships and trying to keep things lively; not so much for those wanting to attract new romantic partners. For that, I suggest:
1. "How To Make Anyone Fall in Love With You" by Leil Lowndes, 2. "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene (if you dare!)
3. "...The System" by Roy Valentine
The last one is especially recommended if you are the type who frequently hears "You're nice," soon followed by "I think of you as a friend."
Bottom line is, "Light Her Fire" is great (in moderation) for long-term relationships, IF your partner is already sincerely into you, needs more evidence of your romantic feelings for her, and you need ideas to accomplish that (but you probably won't get to that point in the first place simply by "being romantic" -- you have to "create attraction" before it is time to "be romantic"). If you are single, especially if you're the type of man who wants to attract new partners, you would be better advised to read something else; but this book is quite good if your circumstances call for it.
A must for every man........2003-07-16
This is a masterpiece and should be read by every man. Since ancient times, men and women have their roles. Men the stronger one to hunt while women to nurture. As such, nature has allowed a women to "sense" a men whether he is a safe or dangerous to her while a man cannot get how a woman feels (a man can sense how other man feels).
The lack of this sense development leads to men not able to recognize how women (lovers, sibiling, colleagues) in their lives feel. They act, at times without realizing, in such a manner that is so distressing to the women.
This book totally changed my thinking. Kudos to the writer.
Useful book for improving ALL relationships.......2002-04-08
Heard the taped version of Ellen Kreidman's LIGHT HER FIRE
and got a lot of useful advice from it (or at least I hope it is useful advice? laughing here--somewhat) . . . Kreidman, also author of the best-selling LIGHT HIS FIRE, presents many ideas about how to have a passionate, fun, exciting relationship . . . most if not all of what she writes seems to make a great deal of sense, and I believe it can apply to other situations as well; e.g., basic communication with friends, coworkers, children, etc.
Here were just a few of the many concepts that caught my attention:
We all have 10 vaults and 10 virtues.
When asked if you want to do something (such as go to the movies),
don't just say "OK." Respond, I'd love to go the movies with you!
Send personal notes, rather than preprinted greeting cards.
Ask what the other person wants and give it to her. If she tells you
without asking, make sure you note it!
Very romantic: A guy who has roses pout on his wife's bed for their
35th anniversary. (He has the thorns removed.) He tells her, "I've
always wanted to make love to you on a bed of roses."
Once a week, make a date night. Every three months, go away for
a weekend. Once a year, take a vacation with your spouse or
significant other.
Women need something to look forward to; e.g., a trip in six weeks.
For men, it doesn't matter as much.
Plan a special evening at least once every few months. Tell your
partner that everything has been taken care of by you.
Give kids a hug whenever you get the chance. Kiss your partner
like you mean it; i.e., a 7-second kiss.
Don't ask, "What are you doing on Saturday?' Instead say, "I'd
like to go out with you Saturday night . . . are you busy?" Use
"I" statements.
If you're together, hold your partner's hand, give her a kiss, put
your arm around her shoulder. Show the world you enjoy
being alone with her.
Schedule a lunch date, and tell your partner you're putting it in
your book.
Send a no occasion gift of flowers to her office.
Compliment your mate in front of another couple. It has three times
the impact this way.
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