Book Description
Now You Can Effectively Parent Your Strong-Willed Child
Does your child constantly misbehave and ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Is your relationship with your child based on conflict instead of mutual respect and cooperation? With the help of this groundbreaking book, you can create a positive, respectful, and rewarding relationship with your child.
Inside are proven techniques and procedures that provide a refreshing alternative to the ineffective extremes of punishment and permissiveness. Parents and teachers alike will discover how to effectively motivate the strong-willed child and achieve proper conduct. You will learn how to:
·Understand and empathize without giving in
·Hold your ground without threatening
·Remove daily power struggles between you and your child
·Give clear, firm messages that your child understands and respects
·And much more!
"Eminently useful and readable! This book should be a part of every parent's and school's reference library."
—Judy E. Hunt-Brown, principal, Elk Grove Unified School District
"A grand book that teaches everybody in the family new skills and encourages more peaceful, socially acceptable lives at home, school, in the office, or in any social group."
—Barbara O'Donnell, principal, St. Francis Elementary School
"A highly recommended eye-opener; beautifully documented."
—Stewart E. Teal, M.D., clinical professor of child psychiatry, University of California, Davis
Customer Reviews:
A Quick and Ezcellent Read!.......2007-10-03
I hate that I saw myself, as a parent, portrayed in the Ineffective Action & Soft Limits categories. I started to recognise behaviors in myself that needed addressing and what success! Thank you Dr. MacKenzie from my whole family!
Setting Limits - Saved my relationships with my Kids and Husband!.......2007-09-24
I can't express how important this book has been in our family. I still return to it every now and then - it's great to re-group and re-learn its lessons. This book gave my husband and I the power to deal with our strong-willed child, and even our more compliant child - together, consistently, fairly, and sanely.
Better books out there.......2007-09-13
This book is based on the ideas in Positive Discipline. There is practically nothing new, except the idea that a spirited child will test your limits again and again, so you have to be even more consistent. There! Now that you know that, just get the Positive Discipline, which is excellent. It describes the background of the method, specific approaches, gives you ideas for all ages. "Setting Limits", btw, is much harder to adapt to a toddler. The writing is leaves something to be desired as well.
Best parenting book I've ever read!!.......2007-09-11
Dr. MacKenzie is a God-send! The techniques in this book are helping to complete transform my relationship with my strong-willed 7 year old (who also has ADHD!). After all the years of being worn down by power struggles and tantrums, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my back. This book is well-written, a quick read, and TOTALLY PRACTICAL. If you have a challenging strong-willed child, there is no other book or advice that will help you more. You will QUICKLY begin to have a calm, cooperative, tension-free home!!
Great Book.......2007-09-10
I found this book extremely helpful and full of wisdom. I am so glad a friend recommended it and I have already recommended it to moms who may or may not even have a strong willed child. Great help for parents.
Amazon.com
Recently, temperament traits have come to the forefront of child development theory. In Raising Your Spirited Child, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's first contribution is to redefine the "difficult child" as the "spirited" child, a child that is, as she says, MORE. Many people are leery about books that are too quick to "type" kids, but Kurcinka, a parent of a spirited child herself and a parent educator for 20 years, doesn't fall into that trap. Instead, she provides tools to understanding your own temperament as well as your child's. When you understand your temperamental matches--and your mismatches--you can better understand, work, live, socialize, and enjoy spirit in your child. By reframing challenging temperamental qualities in a positive way, and by giving readers specific tools to work with these qualities, Kurcinka has provided a book that will help all parents, especially the parents of spirited children, understand and better parent their children.
Book Description
The spirited child — often called "difficult" or "strong-willed" — can easily overwhelm parents, leaving them feeling frustrated and inadequate. Spirited kids are, in fact, simply "more" — by temperament, they are more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and uncomfortable with change than the average child. Through vivid examples and a refreshingly positive viewpoint, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka offers parents emotional support and proven strategies for handling their spirited child. Raising Your Spirited Child will help you:
- Understand your child's — and your own — temperamental traits
- Plan for success with a simple four-step program
- Discover the power of positive — rather than negative — labels
- Cope with tantrums and blowups when they do occur
- Develop strategies for handling mealtimes, bedtimes, holidays, school and many other situations
Filled with personal insight and authoritative advice, Raising Your Spirited Child can help make parenting the joy it should be, rather than the trial it can be.
Customer Reviews:
Strongly recommend.......2007-08-14
This book is one of the best parenting books available. It is one of the few books that actually offers substantive advice about how to deal with certain behaviors. Furthermore, it is the only book that I have read that maintains a positive outlook on "spirited" children. The book does not focus on ways to change the child and does not imply that the child has a disability. It simply teaches the parent how to deal to deal with behaviors and feelings of the spirited child. I cannot say enough about how wonderful the book is. I reread parts of it nearly every night.
Saved my mind.......2007-07-20
I was so sure my son was different in so many ways that I would never be able to keep up with him. This book helped me decide which of his spirits needed extra attention from me and how to direct that spirit once I identified it. Now when he goes nuts jumping up and down on the bed, I know it's because he has a lot of pent up energy from having to be still for a long time (i.e. school). When he gets very quiet and withdraws I know he is needing special one on one attention because something has bothered him too much and he's embarrassed by that. There are so many nuances for each of our children and this book really helps figure out the particular ones that your own child is gifted with.
raising your sprited child.......2007-06-08
The book was great. I was very please with it. I recomend it to everybody.
If you think you need this book, then you do!.......2007-05-21
This book is fantastic. I just can't say enough great things about it. If you think your child might be "spirited" do yourself a favor and give this book a read.
A great guide for the perplexed (parent, that is).......2007-04-22
This lady obviously knows her stuff, as well as her audience. Ms. Sheedy Kurcinka seems to be describing my child in some passages. I found the tips for heading off a meltdown quite helpful. And it's of course comforting to know I'm not in this alone! I'd recommend the book to any parent who's getting gray dealing with a "spirited" child.
Book Description
2005 Gold Medallion Award finalist!
Dr. James Dobson has completely rewritten, updated, and expanded his classic best seller The Strong-Willed Child for a new generation of parents and teachers. The New Strong-Willed Child follows on the heels of Dr. Dobson's phenomenal best seller Bringing Up Boys. It offers practical how-to advice on raising difficult-to-handle children and incorporates the latest research with Dr. Dobson's legendary wit and wisdom. The New Strong-Willed Child is being rushed to press for parents needing help dealing with sibling rivalry, adhd, low self-esteem, and other important issues. This book is a must-read for parents and teachers struggling to raise and teach children who are convinced they should be able to live by their own rules!
Customer Reviews:
Very insightful book.......2007-10-02
Very interesting to read; we have a strong-willed 2 year old son but he hasn't done anything yet that compares with what most of the situations in this book discuss. I think by reading this and other books by Dr. Dobson and others, we will be better prepared to handle future behaviors. I appreciate the examples he uses and the references he gives. I also like how he uses his own life and experiences to make his points. I especially agree with Dr. Dobson's major point in this book: to dampen the terror of and redirect certain behaviors while not breaking the spirit! Our little's guy's will is what makes him special and dear to us and it's how we go about shaping him that will create in him a well-behaved, productive, pleasant-to-be-with person! Of course, we have to let God lead us, as Dr. Dobson thankfully reminds us.
How To.......2007-10-01
Summary: How to deal with all the effects of the kind of bad parenting I preach in other books. Self-esteem, adhd, and sibling rivalry are all effects of bad parenting. These aren't descriptive of normal, happenstance human behavior, but the behavior of those children whose essential needs are not met and furthermore needs which are exploited and violated by the kinds of cruelty Mr. Dobson suggests in all his writing. Please read Alice Miller or Charles Whitfield instead. Want to know how to be a better parent? Get some therapy and start finding out how you can change yourself first because you were probably raised badly if you have children like this, all you've done now is recreate it with your children. Get some therapy and deal with your parents, read some Alice Miller, then get some real parenting books that advise you on how to have some freaking empathy. Also, if you want good children, find out what "good" is first! "Good" does not mean convenient and quiet. Good means open, honest, vulnerable, curious, courageous, and most of all integrity. You want children with integrity? Have some integrity yourself! Children learn by example, not bullying.
Don't compete with exceptinal children!.......2007-09-10
I had a VERY strong willed, defiant little boy. I consider myself a faithful and devoted Christian who reads and studies the bible regularly.
Benjamin was willful and defiant from the time he was two years old. Some of our Christian friends (not all) decided that Benjamin problem was that he needed more corporal punishment and recommended Dobson's book. (We often were lectured about not sparing the rod). We did spank him on occasion and it did produce the desired temporary effect of submission. I mention "temporary" because he simply considered it a challenge and would revert to former behavior. It became clear that achieving the same result would require continued punishment of increasing severity. At that point, my wife and I decided that we would not spank him again but instead come from a place of unconditional love and show patience.
You know what? The improvement was almost immediate! We were amazed because the answer was so simple and so obvious. When we compete with a child it becomes impossible to express love and affection under stressful circumstances unless we as PARENTS are mature enough to rise above.
Benjamin is six now and has largely outgrown his behavior. Is he still strong willed? Yes, but he is also exceptionally brilliant, creative and shows more leadership for his age than any of his peers. These qualities will serve him in life more than his young age inclination to disobey. Don't sell yourselves or your children short!
A Saving Grace.......2007-09-08
While I think most people who read this book will be immediately sidetracked by the author's support of spanking, I would encourage these people to read the book again. Specifically for two reasons:
1. James Dobson does not state that you should spank your child for every act of disobediance. In fact, he states several times in the book that spanking should NOT be used in this way and he outlines very specifically how spanking SHOULD be used. He also states several times that there are many children who will NEVER need a spanking. So everybody jump down off those soap boxes of yours and read the next point...
2. Some of us (myself included) have children who do not respond to creative parenting or setting boundaries with your run-of-the-mill consequences. These are the children who laugh at the thought of time-out and run circles while you are giving them a consequence. These children welcome and even look forward to confrontation. These are strong-willed or willfull children. If you have one of these children, you know there are so many wonderful things about them, but that life can be a string of battles as well. If you have not been fortunate enough to have your parenting abilies tested down to your core and you have more compliant children, please ask around to see if any of your friends have strong-willed children. Then, talk to them and find out how it feels to use every modern parenting strategy in the book (those ones that are guaranteed to work!)and still feel like you are failing your children. Find out how it feels to see how other children behave and respond to these techniques and wonder what you're possibly doing wrong. Please try not to be judgemental of these friends of yours (if you can even get them to talk about their children-they probably know how perfect your own children are). It is a relief to read a book that does not restate the same failed strategies over again. Spanking is such a small part of this book. There is a greater message here. Dobson empowers parents to be parents again. Not negotiators, not doormats, not even friends (however, I believe you will have a life-long friend if you parent with the balance of authority and love he advocates). These strategies apply to many families and I would encourage any reader to keep the greater message in mind.
I would also like to address the many reviews that stated spanking has been scientifically proven to produce unhappy, dysfuctional children and adults. There have been studies done to support both sides of this argument. If you do your reading, you will find this to be a fact. So all of these studies pretty much leave us at square one.:-)
If you are at your wits end, please be sure to read this book. I believe that it can give control back to the parent and actually prevent senseless abuse that often results from a parent's feelings of helplessness, frustration, and exhaustion from parenting a willfull child.
Excellent Book.......2007-09-05
This book was easy to read and full of excellent advice. I noticed when I read the earlier reviews that people either love it or hate it. I think it has practical advice for dealing with strong willed children and I was able to begin applying its principles right away. My son responded well and he is a happy well adjusted 3 year old.
Book Description
The bestselling five-week program to improving the disruptive child's behavior--now updated and revised
Based on more than 40 years of collective research, parents and longtime child behavior experts Dr. Rex Forehand and Dr. Nicholas Long have devised a program to help you find positive and manageable solutions to your child's difficult behavior. Now in a revised and updated edition, Parenting the Strong-Willed Child is a self-guided program for managing disruptive young children based on a clinical treatment program.
This hands-on guide provides you with a step-by-step, five-week program toward improving your child's behavior as well as the entire family's relationship. Providing you with the necessary tools for successfully managing the difficult child, the book covers specific factors that cause or contribute to a child's disruptive behavior; ways to develop a more positive atmosphere in your family and home; actual reports by parents of difficult children; strategies for managing specific behavior problems; how to tell if your child might have ADHD; and more.
Download Description
Based on more than 40 years of collective research, parents and longtime child behavior experts Dr. Rex Forehand and Dr. Nicholas Long have devised a program to help you find positive and manageable solutions to your child's difficult behavior. Now in a revised and updated edition, Parenting the Strong-Willed Child is a self-guided program for managing disruptive young children based on a clinical treatment program.
Customer Reviews:
very practical.......2007-10-14
Practical method that really works. First half of the book is a good introduction to simple child psychology that most parents are not familiar with. second half of the book is a step by step program that really works. After reading this book, I discovered, that parents too need to learn how to become better parents.
Finally something that worked!.......2007-10-12
I'm usually skeptical about books that promise "X number of weeks to a better something-or-other" but I bought this book out of desperation when NOTHING seemed to be helping my 2-year-old's out-of-control behavior. Biting, hitting, kicking, throwing things -- you name it, he did it, and usually gleefully. Our inconsistent methods to address his behavior went nowhere.
After just doing "Week 1" of the program in this book, which is "attending" to your child's play (essentially narrating what your child does in play), his behavior showed a dramatic improvement. The other techniques described are fantastically effective, and I finally learned a good and consistent way to do time-outs with my 2-year-old. His behavior after only a few weeks is so markedly different that I'm constantly amazed. He rarely hits and never bites now, and he usually stops all other naughty behaviors with only a warning about a time-out; if not, the time-outs actually work instead of being just a waste of time. (Note to other parents: when we started, I felt like I was putting my son in time-out all the time -- that's gone down to a couple of times each week.) And it's even fairly easy now to get him to do things he doesn't necessarily want to do (wash hands, eat lunch, get out of the bath, leave the playground, etc.) -- just by talking to him (no time-out threats needed)!
But best of all, I feel like our time together is so much happier and more rewarding. He loves the attention and praise -- I thought I was doing this before, but clearly wasn't doing it enough. I love that there's a way to discipline that's calm and matter-of-fact. There's less shouting and anger and a whole lot more peace and laughter.
I found this book offensive.......2007-02-27
There are two hypothetical families that the book follows throughout the course of the program. Lengthy backstories are given for both. One is a family where the wife dropped out of jr college when she married, and supported her husband financially through college, dropping her job as a secretary when she has her first child. This family lives in the midwest. The other family is ultimately a single Mom, living on the coast, who's husband leaves her because he feels emasculated by her career success. She gets the kids, since they "both know even without discussing it that they are primarily her responsibility".
I'm not looking for a book that covers every type of family everywhere, and I don't need it to be totally politically correct. But enough of a backstory is given here, that we can pretty much predict how these folks vote. (I'd also venture a guess as to how the author votes.) And the stories are completely irrelevant. Other books (like Supernanny's) focus on behaviors and techniques, and family dynamics are only discussed as they pertain to the children. This book devotes too much time to guilting women back into the kitchen, IMHO. While this is a fine choice for some, there are many modern families that this doesn't work for, for whatever reason.
If you're looking for a book with step-families, blended families, multi-cultural families, same-sex parents, stay-at-home-Dad's, extended families, dual-income families, or any other perfectly valid variation on Ward and June, look elsewhere. You won't find any of those in this book. You *will* find them in many parts of America.
Very Good.......2006-12-01
I do think that the book was very very helpful. It had comprehensive information written in a clear and friendly way. I am pretty sure every parent has something to benefit from reading this book. Even if you do not follow the 5-week program strictly, you can walk away with the general principles that the book draws your attention to. Very highly recommended.
Parenting the Strong Willed Child.......2006-08-04
Book is in great shape and shipped immediately!
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Book Description
Occasional clashes between parents and children are not uncommon, but when defiant behavior — such as tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity — becomes chronic, it can cause big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, child and family psychologist Dr. Jeff Bernstein has developed a ground-breaking 10-day program to help parents gain back control over their defiant child or teen. This powerful and exceptionally reader-friendly guide explains what causes defiance in kids, why it's so destructive to the family, and shows parents step-by-step how they can end the behavior.
Simple-to-follow and extremely effective, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child will bring much-needed relief to the millions of frustrated parents out there living with defiant children.
Customer Reviews:
very helpful.......2007-10-05
While the author is a bit condescending towards parents, the book is helpful for developing tools for reducing defiance in children. Try it.....it seems to work.
Solid, sober, accurate advice.......2007-10-01
10 Days to a Less Defiant Child is a brilliant book, written by an author who has obvious experience dealing with defiant children and is written in an easy-to-read style. It's already made a huge difference with our seven-year-old son, and we've only just finished Day 3. Of course, like any "self help" book, this one requires changes in the parental "self." So be prepared to read carefully and put the advice to practice, both now and later. The rewards are worth the effort.
I'm a true believer.......2007-09-23
I didn't think this book would work. I read the other reviews before I purchased, and figured all I had to lose was the cash. I was already at the end of my rope. In one week, I cannot believe the change I see in my son! Don't let me fool you, we had to change too, my husband and myself, but omg the difference and the calm in our house is unbelievable, and I'm only on day 6 ! Well worth it. We spent thousands on a shrink and went no where. I spent less than $20 on this book!
Although my boys didn't grow halos in ten days..........2007-09-19
Although my boys didn't grow halos in ten days, I found this book to be very helpful in raising a very defiant six year old and his three year old brother who is beginning to copy his big brothers behavior. There were three points in the program that I was able to implement immediately: 1. Start listening to your child. 2. Stop the yelling. 3. Pick your battles.
I know the term "pick your battles" has been around forever, but the author really showed how to implement it. Staying calm and not yelling has kept my stress level much lower. Often my child is surprised when I ask him (calmly!) to explain why he is behaving inappropriately. It will often diffuse a full blown tantrum. This is the first book about defiant behavior that has given some help and hope.
Reassuring Guide to better parenting........2007-08-12
I feel better as a parent after reading Dr. Bernstein's book. But at times it is difficult in certain situations to adapt his philosphies to te real world. Maybe it takes practice and time. The book definetly identifies the triggers that increase negative behavior, which I found very helpful
Book Description
It's easy to recognize a strong-willed child. Difficult to discipline, at times impossible to motivate, strong-willed children present unique, frustrating, and often exhausting challenges to those who care for them. But now, the miracle parents long for can happen. Offering new hope, achievable goals, and a breath of fresh air to families and teachers, Cynthia Tobias explains how the mind of a strong-willed child works - and how to use that information to the child's best advantage.
Customer Reviews:
You Can't Make Me (But I can be persuaded).......2007-04-10
This book is an excellent reference for training your children. I wish I had read it when my son was younger. I would highly recommend it. Cynthia Tobias is a gifted writer, and makes the book a joy to read.
Changed my relationship with my son.......2007-03-23
I was always having struggles with my son. Every instruction became a long and frustrating discussion. Just trying to get him in the tub became a hide and seek game every night. Then I read Cynthia's book. It changed my relationship with my son. Cynthia gives excellent tips on how to talk with an SWC. This book brought a new and refreshing way of helping my child do what is asked without the struggle and in a much more positive way. How you word your instruction is the key. I highly recommend this book and have given several copies away. I keep extras around just in case I run across someone that struggles as I did. It was a relationship saver!
Parenting Insights for impassioned children.......2007-02-18
Tape format makes it easy to get the information and strategy tips. A good product for a parent on the go--and perhaps in the car alot!!
As a strong-willed impassioned parent who is parenting a strong willed impassioned child, I appreciate that Ms Tobias offered some insights and strategies to defuse the combat. I have a better understanding of ME and my child! On day one after I had listened to her tapes (while running errands) My child comes in the kitchen in the morning, only to be disappointed by his scrambled egg breakfast. Instead of my being upset and saying.."you will eat it or else.." I tried Ms Tobias' tactic. I said, "OK, well we have a problem and I need your help. You have had A, B, C, and D for all different breakfasts this week...which was alot of variety. I need your help then in coming up with some new breakfast ideas." What happened next? Dear child felt "heard" and sat down to eat his breakfast, and we have had no complaints for a week! No suggestions yet either.... BUT as any parent of an SWC (strong willed child) knows We parents have to pick our battles. Also these kids were created by God to be this way for a purpose. We have to help guide them to use their strong convictions and passions properly.
Super book.......2007-02-06
I could not put this book down! After struggling with my child and not understanding what was going on with her, I realize I have a strong-willed child! Ms. Tobias goes into detail describing how you can identify a SWC and presents many strategies in dealing with them. I know I have a very special child and Ms. Tobias gives practical advice in helping parents help a SWC to become a successful adult!
Strategies for Life.......2006-08-19
Mrs. Tobias is right on the money with teaching strategies of learning skills and relationships with the strong-willed child. I bought this book at a convention for Homeschoolers. I bought several other books written by Cynthia Tobias. Easy to read and understand. Don't be surprise if you read somethings about yourself. I did!
I purchase duplicate books from Amazon to give to my child's teachers to read and keep in school library. There is something for everyone to learn by reading this well written book!
Book Description
Your child may be a sensitive dreamer if: he forgets to follow instructions, no matter how clear and simple, she craves praise and positive attention, yet refuses to conform to what's expected, he tells more than his share of fibs and tall tales. If you recognize these actions in your child, you know the frustration of turning to parenting experts for advice only to find the systems don't work, the rules don't stick and strong boundary setting makes the situation worse. The creative-sensitive dreamer is not the strong-willed child. Get this book and learn how to parent your special needs child who is principle -oriented rather than rule-oriented, highly creative, overly sensitive and frustrated at a world that fails to live up to the ideal.
Customer Reviews:
Liked it, but could have more practical advice.......2006-08-08
I liked this book, but I thought they should have included more everyday, practical advice for a child that is a "dreamer."
Wow, Mom and I don't hate each other!!!.......2005-10-20
I am so excited about what I've learned by reading this book. I always thought that my Mother hated me and was intentionally tearing me apart (She didn't think I was much of a treat either). Now I realize that it all boils down to personality and how we look at the world. Differences in the way we perceive the world around us and the different types of things that drive our emotions and goals in life. Each example set off light bulbs, now I finally have the direction I've needed to try to get our relationship to be less volatile. Definitely worth the read!!!
MUST READ!!!.......2005-02-05
If you have found this book then you NEED it! I have always been interested in personality types but when my shild turned 5 I was desperate to 'figure' her out. After reading 'Strong-WIlled Child' I was even more lost. Everything in that book did NOT work (any more with her than it did with me when MY parents tried it on ME!). It was about page 3 of this book that the light bulb turned on and I realized I WAS A DREAMER! As is my daughter. This is the most applicable book on personalities I have ever read!
Incredible.......2004-11-08
I originally bought this book for my wife. But I ended reading it myself one day. And it was definitely an eye opener for me. Not because it helped me as a parent, even though it has. It helped answer a lot of questions I had about myself. What started as an attempt to assist my wife in understanding our daughter ended up as a quasi life changing event for myself. A surprise and a relief. I thought it was just me.
HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!.......2004-05-18
When I read this book, I FINALLY understood my son, and MYSELF! It was an "Ah-HA!" moment for me!! The more I talked to parents who were frustrated with their kids, and asked them questions that were asked in the book,I realized there were a lot of frustrated, misunderstood kids out there as well. I was able to bring up some points from the book and was able to give my friends an "Ah-ha" moment too! One major thing was that they are misunderstood as being strong willed when in fact, they're not, and if children are treated as such,it actually makes things worse.
I found this book SO helpful(and I read a lot of these types of books)that I ordered over 10 copies to give to my friends(and my school and church library)who have kids like this.(I didn't want them to 'suffer' like I did)(Although I hate the term "dreamer" because it implies someone "spacy")
Book Description
This workbook will equip parents, either individually or in a small group setting, with practical skills so that they can competently raise their strong-willed child. Parents will be encouraged through real-life examples and case studies and will learn how to apply the knowledge and guidelines found in Dr. Dobson's new book The New Strong-Willed Child.
FEATURES:
- Getting It Started--an introductory section that presents the main focus of the lesson as well as review of the previous lessons
- Laying It Out--a summary section presenting key teaching points
- Thinking It Through--a discussion section with questions to help parents internalize the lessons
- Taking It Home--a weekly assignment section to help parents apply what they have learned and provide accountability
Customer Reviews:
MY STRONG-WILLED CHILD.......2006-12-15
MY STRONG-WILLED DAUGHTER IS NOW 32 YEARS OLD AND RAISING HER OWN TWO YEAR OLD,STRONG-WILLED DAUGHTER.
I READ JAMES DOBSON'S FIRST EDITION OF "THE STRONG-WILLED CHILD" OVER THIRTY YEARS AGO WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS AN I-R-O-N WILLED CHILD! I DON'T KNOW IF MY HUSBAND AND I COULD HAVE SUCCESSFULLY RAISED OUR DAUGHTER TO BE THE LOVELY, STRONG-WILLED YET FLEXIBLE AND REASONABLE YOUNG WOMAN SHE IS TODAY WITHOUT THE INVALUABLE ASSISTANCE OF THAT BOOK AND ITS INESTIMABLE WISDOM.
I HAVE NOW GOTTEN THE LATEST EDITION OF THIS BOOK TO GIVE TO MY DAUGHTER AND HER HUSBAND AS THEY HAVE GOTTEN THEMSELVES A VERY, VERY STRONG-WILLED LITTLE GIRL WHO IS THE DELIGHT OF US ALL.
BY THE WAY, THE ADAGE THAT TODAY'S STRONG-WILLED CHILD IS TOMORROW'S LEADER IS TRUE. WHAT KIND OF A LEADER THAT CHILD WILL MAKE DEPENDS UPON HOW THAT STRONG-WILLED LITTLE INDIVIDUAL IS BROUGHT UP.
The New Strong Willed child Workbook.......2006-07-28
Very good and helpful. I learn a lot more if I write them out, but the workbook made me think about what I read then take it a step more and helped me apply it to my life. Very good buy!
Book Description
'One of us may not live through your childhood'. Not only did Kendra Smiley live through Aaron's childhood and teen years, she's telling about it! And a unique twist is the fact that Aaron himself, now a young man, is testifying to his journey as a strong-willed child under the able parenting of his mother and father. How does a parent maintain control - of self and of the child? If you've ever struggled with these questions, you need this book!
Customer Reviews:
A Liberating Read.......2007-01-15
Strong willed children want to be loved, too. I know, I am one. When I was a child, my mother would get into power plays with me. I don't even remember the issue, but the challenge to win was the best part for me.
Strong-willed kids are also enamored with decision-making. As much as possible (or when appropriate), give them a choice. Wear them out with decision-making. Today as a mother of two daughters, I enjoy raising my women of substance, rather than overly-compliant, weak-willed kids.
I like how the author blows away some of the common assumptions of the strong-willed child. Her introspective questions guide readers into effective communication with their child. She also points out those strong-willed children can become great leaders, pioneers in a field, champions for justice, determined to attain goals, and wonderfully devoted friends. For parents struggling with ways to love and nurture relationship with their strong-willed child, find insights and strategies in this book.
Brenda Nixon, www.brendanixon.com
Author of Parenting Power in the Early Years
So helpful!!.......2006-12-21
This is an amazing book for parents of strong-willed children. It was so encouraging and insightful to read perspectives from both a mom and her strong-willed son, and they both also offered very practical, hands-on advice. I highly, highly recommend this book for anyone feeling discouraged or a little lost as they try to figure out how to best parent a child who loves to test. I bought copies for my son's teacher and several friends, in the hopes that they can become the kind of encouragers in his life that Aaron had in his. Thanks so much, Ms. Smiley, for the gift of this book!
Insightful but....................2006-09-12
I need more. I truly understand my child better. It was a great eye opener for that. But I could have really used more suggestions on methods to cope with and discipline the behavior.
Kendra TOTALLY gets it!.......2006-07-02
By virtue of the fact that I've found and read this book, my own strong-willed son (also named Aaron, coincidentally) will live to adulthood. This has been the most helpful and most informa-tive book that I've ever found for dealing with this issue and with these children who deserve respect and understanding.
As a Christian, I appreciated all the biblical citations found on practically every page to encourage me in my relationship with my child. If I had to choose between this book and Dr. James Dobson's new version of The Strong Willed Child, I'd choose this book!!! It is a long awaited treasure.
Encouraging and Intelligent!.......2006-03-26
Enjoyed reading this book by Kendra Smiley. I thought it was clever to include Aaron's perspective as well. Although I wouldn't necessarily say my children are strong-willed, I think Kendra's guildelines apply to the discipline and raising of any child.
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Everything Parent's Guide to the Strong-willed Child: An Authoritative Guide to Raising a Respectful, Cooperative, And Positive Child (Everything: Parenting and Family)
Carl E. Pickhardt
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All children need guidance, yet some are definitely more resistant to parental direction and advice than others. Parenting a child whose personality may be described as "difficult" or "controlling" can leave you conflicted and frustrated. How do you nurture your child, get him to listen, and know who's in charge? It can be done. The Everything(r) Parent's Guide to the Strong-Willed Child helps you work around stubborn and argumentative behavior. You'll learn how to encourage your child to compromise and communicate with you, rather than make unreasonable demands and/or shut down altogether. By learning what makes your child strong-willed, the effects of such behavior, and how to manage it, you can help your child achieve a more tempered disposition and teach him the lifelong rewards of a positive attitude. Psychologist Carl E. Pickhardt shows you how to:
Regain control of your family
Reap the benefits of healthy communication
Discipline to teach, not to punish
Resolve conflict between you and your child effectively
Overcome willfulness in older children
The Everything(r) Parent's Guide to the Strong-Willed Child is your all-inclusive guide to regaining, and maintaining, a healthy and happy family.
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