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excellent.......2007-09-23
The book was in great condition. It didn't even look used! Great seller and great product!
WOW!.......2007-08-07
This book is an absolutely wonderful resource!!! There are a tremendous amount of strategies and examples provided to teach students how to enhance their comprehension. The best thing about this book is that it not only provides the various strategies, as many often do, but it shows real world examples of how each strategy can be used for a variety of ages and subject matter. In addition, it provides an excellent resource list of recommended books, magazines, and newspapers for teaching content.
This is a must have for anyone interested in helping students develop their comprehension skills!
What they should have let you read before you graduated.......2007-08-07
This book is absolutely wonderful. The ideas are fantastic, it breaks it down and gives you examples of how to use the strategies! This helps the new teacher and the teacher that wants to re-vamp their strategies. I definetely recommend this book to EVERY teacher. It's also a great addition to a professional development library.
Reading Teacher's Must-Have.......2007-08-03
This book sums up a lot of key elements of literacy education. The strategies in it will surely broaden your students' classroom experience and hopefully develop lifelong learners.
Excellent Professional Resource.......2007-07-17
The newer edition of this book is wonderful. It is packed with useful information that every teacher can apply to their reading instruction. I found the text easy to read, the recommendations are practical, and this book is a wonderful companion text to "The Comprehension Toolkit".
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- Some insights into borderline behavior
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Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.
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Some insights into borderline behavior.......2007-10-05
Those who have read my other reviews will not be surprised to find that I give this book a mixed review. I found the book full of insights into my and other conditions. But there were also some things that caused me a bit of heartburn...
On page 50 the author states: "Psychotherapy for the adult borderline is a lifelong need and provides structure, insight, and management rather than cure." Note that she does not say "I think psychotherapy for the adult borderline..." Thus she avoids (I think) the pain of putting herself somewhere closer to being on the same level as a "borderline" person, and elevates her evaluation closer to being one of "objective" truth. That fact that probably most current therapists would agree with her makes this "objectification" easier. She does not seem to accept that any "cure" depends not only on the level of pathology of the patient, but also on the appropriateness of the treatment and the skill with which it is carried out. A better treatment might have a better chance of coming closer to a "cure." She provides the patient little to hope for in this direction.
On page 51 the author quotes Susan Vaughn's book "The Talking Cure" as saying that long-term therapy "reroutes the brains neurons and creates permanent changes in self-perception." This appears to allow for a contradiction to the statements on page 50, I think.
On page 95 the author says: "Borderlines who have suicidal tendencies evoke powerful feelings of guilt and fear in family members, as well as in therapists." Although this statement is probably *usually* true, it appears to put all the burden on the borderline person. "Borderlines evoke..." She could have said (but did not) that "some borderlines I have known evoked *in me* feelings of..." That would have revealed her in a more honest way but also on a more vulnerable level than she probably wanted to admit. In any interaction between a patient and a therapist there are TWO people involved. Not all therapists would *necessarily* react to such a borderline person with feelings of guilt and fear. The borderline person's fear may evoke pre-existing fears in a therapist. It may not. The therapist MAY find herself separate enough from the patient to realize the difference between them.
On page 159 the author quotes Linehan with what I assume is approval as saying that borderlines should not be viewed as different classes of people:
"It is by making these individuals different in principal from ourselves that we can demean them. And perhaps, at times, we demean them to make them different. Once we see, however, that the principles of behavior influencing normal behavior (including our own) are the same principles influencing borderline behavior, we will more easily empathize and respond compassionately to the difficulties they present us with. [p. 26]"
But immediately following this is something that I found puzzling; the author states that "Children of borderlines should not be led to believe that their experience is normal. Borderlines *sense* that they are different and deserve validation of their suffering." Well, yes, but the placement struck me as a bit incongruous coming immediately after her evoking Linehan's indication that the difference was not "fundamental".
I think it is useful for the therapist to enjoy the separation between herself and the patient, at the same time as admitting their similarity to him or her. I see too few therapists who do this.
Very important for therapists to read.......2007-09-26
A very well written book on a subject that is difficult to understand and difficult to work with in counseling.
Fantastic Insight Into Motherhood Styles.......2007-09-20
I knew my childhood was not normal. Now I know why. It makes forgiving much easier when understanding the whys and wherefores are clarified.
So much info, and so little.......2007-09-15
Unless you have a master's degree in psychology, you may find this book alarming. Suddenly you will be diagnosing everyone you know, including yourself, as a borderline.
Lawson should have dedicated a chapter to OTHER personality disorders, and mental disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia, so as not to confuse us.
This is a good book for people who have been DIAGNOSED with BPD or who are struggling to deal with others who are. It's not a tool for amateurs. But it's somewhat of a good start.
Precise, Readable, and Validating.......2007-08-26
Christine Lawson writes about the mysterious and confusing mental illnesss known as Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD. Friends and relatives who are close to BPDs are usually the only people aware of some personality imbalances. Those at work or in the community usually think otherwise; that the BPD is a "go-getter", or a high achieving individual and committed passionate community member. What makes the ups and downs of anger, self-centeredness, and reclusiveness so difficult to bear is that BPDs are so adept at hiding their dysfunction from the public. Even counselors or judges are often deceived by their intense survival skills, which are linked to some childhood trauma whereby they overcompensate for fears of abondonment. The results are broken and damaged relationships, controlling and manipulative mothers, and disallusioned children and familty members. This book is a must read for any family member coping with a mother with emotional dysfunction. It should be required reading for therapists and lawyers and judges who work in family law. Informative and well articulated, this book lays out an indepth understanding for the laymen and professional alike. Extremely helpful and a must read for persons coping with mental health involving separation, child custody, or family relationships in general.
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Flexibility and tolerance are learned skills, as any parent knows if they've seen an irascible 2-year-old grow into a pleasant, thoughtful, and considerate older child. Unfortunately, for reasons that are poorly understood, a few children don't "get" this part of socialization. Years after toddler tantrums should have become an unpleasant memory, a few unlucky parents find themselves battling with sudden, inexplicable, disturbingly violent rages--along with crushing guilt about what they "did wrong." Medical experts haven't helped much: the flurry of acronyms and labels (Tourette's, ADHD, ADD, etc.) seems to proffer new discoveries about the causes of such explosions, when in fact the only new development is alternative vocabulary to describe the effects. Ross Greene, a pediatric psychologist who also teaches at Harvard Medical School, makes a bold and humane attempt in this book to cut through the blather and speak directly to the (usually desperate) parents of explosive children. His text is long and serious, and has the advantage of covering an enormous amount of ground with nuance, detail, and sympathy, but also perhaps the disadvantage that only those parents who are not chronically tired and time-deprived are likely to get through the entire book. Quoted dialogue from actual sessions with parents and children is interspersed with analysis that is always oriented toward understanding the origins of "meltdowns" and developing workable strategies for avoidance. Although pharmacological treatment is not the book's focus, there is a chapter on drug therapies. --Richard Farr
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A groundbreaking approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other intractable behaviours, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in this field, now updated to include the most recent research.
Almost everyone knows an explosive child, one whose frequent, severe fits of temper leave his or her parents standing helpless in their fear, frustration, and guilt. Most of these parents have tried everything –– reasoning, behaviour modification, therapy, medication –– but to no avail. They wonder if their child is deviant or just plain bad.
Dr. Ross Greene has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't bad, and neither are their parents. Rather, explosive children suffer from a physiological deficiency in frustration tolerance and flexibility. Throughout this compassionate book, Dr. Greene demonstrates why traditional treatments don't work for these kids and offers a new conceptual framework for understanding their behaviour, along with new language to describe it. He explains the latest neuroscience findings about the importance of flexibility, and, most important, he shows parents specific, practical ways they can recognize the signs of an impending explosion, defuse tension, and reduce frustration levels for the entire family.
o For parents, psychologists, educators and ADHD groups.
o In addition to the scientific foundation of the book, Greene addresses parents in practical ways that will help show results in difficult children and their effect on families.
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A Must-Read for Parents of Challenging Children.......2007-10-05
Ross Greene has written an incredibly insightful book about the kids for whom traditional parenting techniques just don't work. He explains well why kids who yell, scream, and generally melt down over what seem to be -- to parents and others -- inconsequential things can't just "be flexible." And he explains well why the traditional carrot-and-stick approach of rewards and consequences just doesn't work with these kids. As a parent of a child who went from colic as an infant to tantrums as a toddler to explosions and melt downs as a child, I know what he's talking about, and I've tried all those other techniques that haven't worked. Greene lets parents see that kids who lack frustration tolerance and flexibility need extra support and a different approach to learning those skills, the way a kid with a reading disability needs extra support and a different approach to reading. It all makes so much sense, but is a great departure from the typical limit-setting approaches. Once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down. It's really helping me to become the parent I want to be!
A great guide for parents struggling with an explosive child!.......2007-08-14
I was pleasantly surprised by the straightforward approach to this book. Instead of a psychobabble, Dr. Greene explains potential reasons your child may be struggling to control his/her outbursts in language a layperson can understand. More importantly, we found very practical, effective help for dealing with these frustrating explosions that have become very disruptive to our family. I feel hopeful after reading this book that we can finally help our child deal with the frustrations of life in a healthy, appropriate manner. If you are looking for solutions without thousands of dollars in therapy and medication that may not be warranted for your child (although sometimes it certainly is), I would highly recommend this book.
Review on the book Explosive Child.......2007-08-13
I think it is a very didatic book for both parents with this type of problems in their families or for professionals.
not a cure all, but the most helpful approach yet .......2007-07-26
Last year my 16 year old stepdaughter moved in with us. She has ADHD and ODD. I had never even HEARD of ODD at that time. I could not believe that a 16 year old could throw TANTRUMS but she has my 4 year old nephew beat. She could melt down over the smallest things! This book confirmed what I knew in my heart - that she doesn't WANT to be a bad kid and she DOES want our LOVE. Learning to negotiate with her in a positive way has been incredibly helpful and there have been much fewer meltdowns since my husband and I read this book.
Can relate to so much.......2007-07-17
I was amazed when I began reading the book The Explosive Child. I am about half-way through the book so far and I have learned much already on proactive ways to approach different situations involving my difficult 4 year old son. This is extremely important. Although he has not had an official diagnosis at this time, I can relate to much of what these other families encountered while raising their chilren. I highly recommend this book to any parent who is trying to raise a child who has difficulties with change (especially), constructive criticism, and many other roadblocks in the life of a parent/child relationship. I am looking forward to continuing to study this book.
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A Framework for Understanding Poverty teaches the hidden rules of economic class and spreads the message that, despite the obstacles poverty can create in all types of interaction, there are specific strategies for overcoming them. Through case studies, personal stories and observations that produce some aha! moments, Payne clearly strikes a chord in her readers., and provides a hopeful message.
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Excellent tool for educators.......2007-10-03
I just went to a one-day workshop on Ruby Payne's book and found it to be extremely valuable. I teach in a school of 2500 students, 30% of whom live in poverty. This book was an excellent tool to teach the concept that students living in poverty (especially generational poverty) often live by a different "code" than the middle class. With that said, our public educational system is largely based on the middle class code, which these students may have a hard time fitting into. Payne gives a great overview of the issues that impoverished students MAY be facing, and I don't think her work can be taken as an "all or nothing" view. Obviously, not every person reacts that same way to any given situation. However, Payne's information opened my eyes to the disparities in my classroom, and gave me a great deal of insight into students' behaviors.
This book does not perpetuate poverty--it gives educators invaluable tools to reach out to and engage our students who are living with the realities of poverty every day.
Everyone should read this book.......2007-09-23
This book is almost a workbook. It presents the culture of poverty in a way that is easy to understand and helpful to all. This should be required reading for teachers.
Beware Ruby Payne.......2007-09-18
This book perpetuates the institutionalized racism and classism that creates students who are unsuccessful in schools. Payne, whose "research" is anecdotal at best, completely unverified at worst, suggests that teachers teach to poverty, instead of fighting the social injustices that cause it. She works from the deficit theory of poverty, which has been widely discredited since the 60s, and her anecdotal examples are racist stereotypes.
This book makes white, middle-class teachers think they understand poverty, when in reality, the advice she gives teachers perpetuates poverty and does nothing to address the complex causes of it. Ruby Payne is laughing all the way to the bank.
A must read for any type of educator/counselor.......2007-09-12
This book presents a comprehensive view of the way people in different areas of society think; what things are important to them, where their priorities lie. It has tools for working within the area the student or client lives and ways to facilitate movement from one area to the next.
Classist drivel.......2007-08-28
I honestly can't believe that school districts pay a great deal of money for Ruby Payne's books and programs. While they may have slick packaging, scratch the surface and you will find damaging anecdotes that stereotype those living in poverty. Under the guise of helping to understand and improve the lives of these individuals, it serves to portray them as coming from a culture that is deficient and must be fixed to fit "our" mold. In addition, it proposes that there is a "culture of poverty". This theory has been disproved.
Save your money. Or, better, yet, by something by Jonathan Kozol.
BTW, there's a reason she self-publishes...
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Attachment is the deep and enduring connection established between a child and caregiver in the first few years of life. It profoundly influences every component of the human condition: mind, body, emotions, relationships, and values.
Attachment, Trauma, and Healing examines the causes of attachment disorder, and provides in-depth discussion on effective solutions--including attachment-focused assessment and diagnosis, specialized training and education for caregivers, the controversial "in arms" treatment for children and caregivers, and early intervention and prevention programs for high-risk families.
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Attachments?.......2007-01-15
Excellent book on attachments and trauma. I am not finished yet, but I have already found this book to be very helpful and provide key insights into understanding the children that I am counseling with currently.
Ideas presented used immediately.......2006-07-05
With the info presented, I was able to immediately put into action some of the ideas. And they worked! I feel more confident parenting and isn't that the goal of the book?
Excellent resource for clinicians and parents.......2006-02-10
Many children who were abused, neglected, or exposed to domestic violence in early childhood have attachment problems. This may lead to violent and other anti-social behaviors. Any clincian helping youth with these problems should read this book. It is helpful, clear, and a great resource.
Reactive Attachment Disorder.......2002-09-08
This book is easy to understand and easily explains the basics in symptoms, attachment theory and practice. Solid information for all levels of interst.
RAD and treatment explained.......1999-12-12
This book is a must have for anyone dealing with RAD. The book is easy to read for parents, adults and therapists alike. It's comprehensive explanations of symptoms, treatment and necessary parenting style are a must read. It is eyeopening and gives one hope that there is help and understanding for families dealing with RAD. Evergreen here we come...
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- The best I've read yet
- Just diagnosed? Read this book!
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- Autism Spectrum Disorders
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Based upon Chantal Sicile-Kira's personal and professional experiences with autistic disorders, this comprehensive and accessible source covers all aspects of autism conditions, including Asperger's Syndrome and Pervasive Developmental Disorder, including:
- The causes of autism spectrum disorders
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The best I've read yet.......2007-10-01
Wow, this is the best I have read yet on autism,it actually covers other disorders on the spectrum and after reading it at the library first,I went to buy my own, as i wanted to have it always with me.This includes grief for me! now that is a good thing,(also for carers),then the list goes on, to much to list here,definately a guide for us,in understanding these disorders,i found this material also good for understanding ASD adults. A must read for sure.
Just diagnosed? Read this book!.......2007-09-28
When we first learned our twins were both on the Autism Spectrum, I needed more information and direction to immediate resources. This book has both and so much more from a PARENT's prespective. I found it helpful, empowering, and realistic for moms like me reeling from the initial shock. I'm so glad I bought it, read it and have it on my shelf as a reference guide!
A book of actually great help.......2007-08-09
I have an 17-year old daughter with PDD (Atypical Autism) who does not live with me but with her mother (we are divorced). My daughter's diagnosis came in very late (only about 10 months ago) considering we have been taking her to psychiatrists and psychologists since she was 10 ys old, when the first strange traits showed up. This excellent book gave me a thorough insight on what is going on in her mind, and paved the way to my better understanding her attitudes and better contacting her, as far as it can be done. I have also discussed some of the issues in the book with her mother who, of course, living with her knows her the most but maybe did not grasp fully and with solid scientific grounds what the disdorder is about. I recommend it.
Autism Spectrum Disorders.......2007-07-05
This book has given me a wealth of resources in one package. I can't thank the author enough for giving me an overview of all the different resources and information available both in print and online. I feel empowered to move forward in the direction that best suits my child. Thank you.
Autism Spectrum Disorders: The Complete Guide to Understanding autism, Aspergetr's Syndrome, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, .......2007-05-16
This book was extremely informative. It covered all ages of people with Asperger's It was very helpful in helping me understand my son, who is an adult.
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This book comes from the heart of a little girl(Sarah is eight years old)who has grown up with and who, with her parents, has been involved in helping her younger brother with autism to learn. The book is a testament to the parental support that has fostered a strong positive relationship between Sarah and her brother, with the result that even at a very young age, Sarah has become a strong advocate for Evan and other children with autism.
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So sweet and positive.......2007-01-30
We bought this book for our 6 year old, who is an older brother to our 4 year old autistic son. He loves reading it again and again because it so well describes his own brother. The sibling perspective is charming - and one that many adult authors simply fail to capture. A beautiful book.
Portrait of Love.......2005-02-15
This is one of the best books I have ever read by, for and about a sibling who has autism. Sarah, the young author of this book draws a rich portrait of her day-to-day life with her brother, Evan. She provided all the illustrations for the book and her family is a rich portrait of love and acceptance. The bright colors Sarah uses suggests hope and understanding. I like the way she explains and understands Evan's behavior; she knows he likes to chew on frozen foods and uncooked pasta because he likes the crunchy consistency. She understands Evan's way of communicating; e.g. she identifies the sounds Evan makes in response to certain circumstances, such has his happy humming when he is in water.
I loved the way Sarah used technical terms she learned from Evan's team intervention specialists. When she uses them, she says quite matter-of-factly, "All I know is we have fun." I like the way she interacts with Evan and accepts and loves him unconditionally. All of the things they do together and all of the socialization she unwittingly teaches him through natural example, she is doing it for love and because it's just plain fun. Get this with SUNDAYS WITH MATTHEW.
Great Book.......2002-12-29
When it comes to supportive, creative and POSITIVE siblings, Sarah Peralta is at the top of the list! In her new book, All About my Brother, Sarah explains her brother, Evan, to her readers with compassion, entusiasm and a true appreciation of his abilities. If I could give a gift to every individual on the spectrum , it would be a sibling as wonderful as Sarah. This book shpould be in the home of every family with a member on the spectrum. It should be read to and by brothers and sisters,neighbors, and peers, It belongs in every school library. Sarah was eight when she wrote this book, but her wisdom and optimism are ageless.
Great book for Siblings.......2002-12-24
Sarah describes everything I go through with my brother. She did a great job. My teacher loves this book too.
If someone in your family has autism you have to but this book.
Sarah you r the best cossin.......2002-09-17
Sarah the book is very good i am prord of you do you like it?
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Helps children deal with death.......2007-09-01
My eight year old son struggled with the death of an uncle. We found this book at the local library. He read it and then recommended that I read it - "it will help you too, mom." We had to purchase our own copy and got one for our school's guidance office. Great way to remember a loved one and deal with the loss at the same time.
Not a bedtime story...but therapeutic for those who are grieving.......2007-06-07
This book is not meant as a soothing bedtime story. It is a direct, frank look at death and grief, designed for children who are confronting the death of a loved one. I know that some reviewers were disturbed by the fact that this book covers death by suicide and homicide, but from my position providing counseling in schools, I can say that I have found that to be one of the book's assets, as (unfortunately) I counseling kids who have lost loved ones to suicide and homicide. This book is rather long, partiuclarly because it is written in a comic book type format, with many captions and speech bubbles. I would highly suggest that you do NOT try to read the whole book to a child in one sitting. The book is broken up into sections (How Do People Die? Feelings About Death, etc.), and those are good guidelines for starting/stopping. Read one section and talk. Listen. Answer questions. Draw. And let it be. Try another section later. Don't feel that you have to read all of the sections. Just go with what's relevant for your family. I have found that this is a fabulous book to get kids talking. It's non-threatening. They can choose to identify with the dinosaurs in the book or not. Also, Amazon says this is for ages 4-8. I would say that this is not the best book for the younger set (4-5), and I would extend the upper range to 13 (or even older). Young teens like the comic book style, and because the text does not talk down to its readers, they find the content relevant as well.
Doesn't relate to anything real.......2007-03-08
I did not enjoy this book and would not use it in my work.
Very helpful, easy to use only the relevant parts.......2007-01-05
My four year old daughter is grappling with death because the mother of one her friends just died very suddenly. We've found this book to be helpful in making things concrete for her, 4 year olds aren't really into abstractions.
I understand some people's reservations about the section on suicide; since my daughter is still in the early stages of reading we just skip it. I quite liked the idea of introducing the possibility of helping others through organ donation, but that's just me.
I must disagree with the reviewers who criticized the hamster to grandparent progression, it seemed to answer the material issues on something relatively minor (a rodent) before the more frightening death of a grown-up. I certainly was never as upset about a pet hamster of mine dying as I was about a person, so that seems a safe way to get started.
Anyway, our daughter's tendency is to ask a lot of questions, so my wife and I have both been glad to have something that covers the bases and saves us from having to completely wing it (the more usual response!)
Preview first - way too graphic for our family.......2006-10-10
I had intended to use this book to help my 7-year-old but when I previewed it, I found it to be a case of "too much too soon." It appeared the author tried to address every conceivable way a child might encounter death but, for my child, it would have introduced MANY more fears than it alleviated. Many of the illustrations were especially disturbing. Having a child wail "can we keep our house?" as the obituaries float around the picture was too much. Introducing death by substance abuse and suicide was too much. Discussing the donation of eyes to an eye bank or having the word "autopsy" in the glossary was too much. For young children facing death and the grief process for the first time, I would use extreme caution if considering this book. My child would have had nightmares for ages.
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remarkable insights.......2007-10-06
I don't know how I missed this book for more than a decade, but it is still timely and insightful, explaining many things about the adoptee's experience which didn't make sense when trying to analyze the experience emotionally or intellectually. A must read for any member of the adoption triad.
Primal Wound.......2007-08-13
I feel that this is a must read for everybody adoptee, birth parent and adoptive parent and ever those that were just given away.
Self-Knowledge and Rehabilitation.......2007-07-25
Reading this book is like peering through a window into the secret inner life of the adoptee, which makes it an excellent book both for adoptees and for those who are close to them. Since some of the issues Verrier addresses in this book are common to many people who were not adopted, such as people who were placed in incubators at birth or people who grew up with alcoholic parents, this is also an excellent book for people outside of the book's target audience. In very accessible language Verrier argues that much of the perplexing and often maladjusted and maladjustive behaviour exhibited by adoptees is caused by the trauma they suffered upon separation from their birth mothers. According to Verrier, the effects of that trauma are made worse by the fact that, for the most part, those effects are unrecognized not only by society as a whole, but also by the adoptees themselves. Adoptees whose trauma goes unrecognized are not able to grieve the loss of their birth mothers, which leaves them alone to struggle with the potentially debilitating issues that arise from their unresolved grief. One of the most important functions this book performs is to acknowledge and thereby validate the often silent suffering of adoptees, which may then allow adoptees to begin the process of healing both themselves and their relationships with others. This process begins with the recognition of Verrier's critical insight into the fact that adoptive families are very different from biological ones, and may proceed not only with the help of some of the practical suggestions Verrier puts forward in this book, but also with the help of her more in-depth study of the same issues in the sequel to this book, _Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up_. For anybody who is interested in reading more about the false selves that Verrier says adoptees often live with, I highly recommend R. D. Laing's _The Divided Self: An Existential Study in Sanity and Madness_. Similarly, for anybody who is interested in reading more about the significance of the family for one's sense of one's own identity, and about the significance of one's relationships with others more generally, I highly recommend chapter four of John Russon's _Human Experience: Philosophy, Neurosis, and the Elements of Everyday Life_.
The Primal Wound.......2007-04-24
The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child
I lost count on how many times I said "Just like me" while reading this book.
It should be a required read for any prospective adoptive parent and for all who councel adoptee's and their adopters. Any adoptee who cannot see themselves and how they sometimes feel and behave in this book are in deep denial!
Thanks for the insight! I'm not crazy, I'm adopted! Whew!!
THE BIBLE FOR ADOPTEES!.......2007-02-17
THIS BOOK HITS EVERYTHING ABOUT ADOPTION 100% ON THE HEAD! I CAN'T READ IT IN IT'S ENTIRETY, BUT IS THE BEST PIECE OF WORK OUT THERE!!!
THANK YOU!
GABI532
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"Suicide is a particularly awful way to die: the mental suffering leading up to it is usually prolonged, intense, and unpalliated," writes Kay Redfield Jamison. "There is no morphine equivalent to ease the acute pain, and death not uncommonly is violent and grisly." Jamison has studied manic-depressive illness and suicide both professionally--and personally. She first planned her own suicide at 17; she attempted to carry it out at 28. Now professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, she explores the complex psychology of suicide, especially in people younger than 40: why it occurs, why it is one of our most significant health problems, and how it can be prevented. Jamison discusses manic-depression, suicide in different cultures and eras, suicide notes (they "promise more than they deliver"), methods, preventive treatments, and the devastating effects on loved ones. She explores what type of person commits suicide, and why, and when. She illustrates her points with detailed anecdotes about people who have attempted or committed suicide, some famous, some ordinary, many of them young. Not easy reading, either in subject or style, but you'll understand suicide better and be jolted by the intensity of depression that drives young people to it. --Joan Price
Book Description
From the author of the best-selling memoir
An Unquiet Mind, comes the first major book in a quarter century on suicide, and its terrible pull on the young in particular.
Night Falls Fast is tragically timely: suicide has become one of the most common killers of Americans between the ages of fifteen and forty-five.
An internationally acknowledged authority on depressive illnesses, Dr. Jamison has also known suicide firsthand: after years of struggling with manic-depression, she tried at age twenty-eight to kill herself. Weaving together a historical and scientific exploration of the subject with personal essays on individual suicides, she brings not only her remarkable compassion and literary skill but also all of her knowledge and research to bear on this devastating problem. This is a book that helps us to understand the suicidal mind, to recognize and come to the aid of those at risk, and to comprehend the profound effects on those left behind. It is critical reading for parents, educators, and anyone wanting to understand this tragic epidemic.
Customer Reviews:
A Study of Suicide with an Insider Point of View.......2007-07-02
Dr. Jamison's book is written from a unique and compassionate point of view that most other books on suicide are not - she has seriously attempted suicide, and she has bipolar disorder. She accesses a tremendous amount of research to illustrate the epidemic of suicide in the USA - questionnaires such as: How likely is a person to actually go through with the act? Additionally she is able to tell stories of people who have committed suicide that leave everyone wondering - if only... just as in real life. Does the stigma of mental illness continue to pervade society? She plainly tells the facts of suicide - how people accomplish it, why people do it, when people do it, where they do it. She uses her own pact with a friend to show what a ridiculous thought that is --- you promise to call me before you harm yourself --- when people are at that low point in their lives, the last thing they are going to do is reach out for help, even to someone they know suffers as deeply as they do. She is clearly against suicide, but has much compassion for those who suffer such deep and unrelenting depressions. This is not the 1st book you'd want to read on suicide if you are a recent suicide survivor.
Day Has Passed.......2007-06-27
I have read all of Jamison's work, with the exception of _The Exuberance of Life_. The writing presented in this volume has resonance from what I have felt. Night Falls Fast should be considered a guide for families of mentally ill who contemplate suicide. It is tight and concise, from the moral judgements which are placed upon those who attempt it, to instances of unsound internal turmoil. Perhaps it is the chaos within writers like Jamison which creates the flight of the mind. When it lies in artists, a connection with profound wisdom or insight develops.
The patient might imagine a series of events leading to his or her demise.
Incidentally, a separate book about Virginia Woolf's art and manic-depressive illness, The Flight of The Mind, demonstates the reason why a manic might contemplate suicide. In extreme states, it may be the fear that loved ones have plotted his or her demise.
Concerning Night Falls Fast, I find that I can easily relate to many of the reasons presented by the author. The string of notes relating one's final thoughts are tragic, but, at times, poeticaly written, from the depths of despair. It recalls V. Woolf's final letter "I fear we shan't go through another one of these terrible times."
I should end noting that each of my incompetant attempts seem futile. . .
Being always rose up from the hospital cot, from the stains, from what seems inexpressible. Often, the tempest returns; then dissipates.
Intellectually helpful.......2007-05-09
After my partner's suicide as a result of his manic depression, this one book above many others provided me the ability to undertsand and hence, turn a much-needed corner in my own grief process. Although this book can be defined as a "study" with its language and statistics, the author does not forego the emotional aspect of those who are surviving the loss of a loved one through suicide. Her citations, some written by actual manic depressives and schizophrenics, -- as well as historical points taken from as far back as we can go in studying the human phenomenon of depression and suicide, -- keenly educate the reader on just what goes on in the minds of those who suffer from this mental disorder, and hence relief can be attained in understanding their act of self-murder.
Author of Poetic Thoughts from the Heart of a Woman and Mama and Us.......2007-04-05
Some months ago, I appeared on the radio to promote a book of my own, called "Suicide-The Explosion Within" and read this particular book before hand, so that I could have an even better understanding of sucide from both my perspective as well as this particular author's. This book was, not only helpful, both informative and well received.
Helpful.......2007-01-22
I am currently a student of psychology. This book gave a very real insight to suicide. Helpful for me when I begin to see patients.
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