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Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents
Jane Isay
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Jane Isay, the editor who discovered Mary Pipher's Reviving Ophelia and commissioned Rachel Simmons' Odd Girl Out, has written an insightful, compelling book about "the delicate lifelong bond between grown kids and their parents." Isay traveled across the country and interviewed nearly 75 people (including dozens of parents and grown children), and Walking on Eggshells shares moving stories that will help parents and grown children build strong new adult relationships with one another. We asked Po Bronson, author of Why Do I Love These People?, to read Isay's book and give us his take. Read his review below. --Daphne Durham
Guest Reviewer: Po Bronson
Po Bronson is the author of the brilliant bestseller What Should I Do with My Life?, the powerful and poignant Why Do I Love These People?, a hilarious novel called The Bombadiers, and The Nudist on the Late Shift, a collection of "true stories" about Silicon Valley.
When we tell family stories, we so often focus on the beginning and the end. The beginning is the two decades of our childhood and adolescence, and it's been the favorite narrative arc ever since Freud. What happens in your childhood does not stay in your childhood--it haunts the rest of your life. In the last decade, we've suddenly heard more stories of the end--narratives constructed around a parent's death, and often the year spent caring for that parent on their deathbed.
Because these are the conventional narratives, they often distract our attention from the many decades in between. We barely even have a terminology for these years--and the terms we employ sound like oxymorons: "Adult Children," "Parents of Adults." There's an old saying: you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. In the beginning this is true--we're in the care of our parents, like it or not. And in the ending this is also true--they're in our care, like it or not. But in the long middle, this isn't so true. The middle is a period where both child and parent can keep their distance, if they prefer. And often do, harboring resentment. We too often accept that this is just the way it is. "She's never going to change" is a common, fatalist refrain.
In Walking on Eggshells, Jane Isay shines a much-needed light on these years. With a graceful respect for the families she investigates, she tells their stories--how they lost their love, and how they regained it. Isay covers the many ways families develop resentment, and the many techniques they employed to make peace. She shows that small changes in routine can go a long way to restoring goodwill. But it's not a self-help book; it's more of a literary contemplation, and we learn more by inspiration than by emulation.
Though this book addresses the parents directly, I suspect it will be passed back and forth, between generations, in many a family. --Po Bronson
Book Description
On giving advice:
They Don’t Want It.
They Don’t Hear It.
They Resent It.
Don’t Give It.
We raise our children to be independent and lead fulfilling lives, but when they finally do, staying close becomes more complicated than ever. And for every bewildered mother who wonders why her children don’t call, there is a frustrated son or daughter who just wants to be treated like a grownup. Now, renowned editor Jane Isay delivers the perfect gift to both parents and their adult children—real-life wisdom and advice on how to stay together without falling apart.
Using extensive interviews with people from ages twenty-five to seventy, Isay shows that we’re far from alone in our struggles to make this new, adult relationship work. She offers up groundbreaking insights and deeply moving stories that will inspire those in even the toughest situations. Isay’s warmth and wit shine through on every page as she charts an invaluable course through the confusing, and often painful, interactions parents and children can face. Walking on Eggshells is the much-needed road map that will keep you connected to the people you love most.
Customer Reviews:
Don't bother.......2007-10-11
I can save you some money...there is little hope for having any kind of loving relationship with adult children unless you are willing to be a doormat.
A must read for parents with grown children.......2007-09-30
I have insisted to several friends that as parents of adult children, they too, MUST buy the book. I even bought extra copies myself and gave to relatives. It's a "keeper" in my library.
Thank you, Jane Isay for the shared revelations.
So, I am not alone...........2007-09-28
Just when I thought I was all alone in the "inapt Mother-in-law" category, I read the book with such relief!!! Alas, I have company!!!
Disappointing.......2007-09-10
This book makes some good points but didn't go deep enough to help me. I found "When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along" to be far more helpful because the author, Dr. Joshua Coleman, provides much more guidance for a range of situations and goes into much more depth for this very difficult problem.
false relationships.......2007-09-10
I was expecting more from this book than I got. The basic premise stated over and over is: Don't give advice, and hold your tongue. This seems to foster false and fake relationships. Would you want someone to "pretend" they adore you, when thet really can't stand you? I think most people want relationships that are true and real. I was hoping for a book with more advice on how to deal with specific situations, not just "keep everything to yourself" I was dissapointed in the author.
Book Description
Over the past thirty-five years,
Between Parent and Child has helped millions of parents around the world strengthen their relationships with their children. Written by renowned psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott, this revolutionary book offered a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduced new communication techniques that would change the way parents spoke with, and listened to, their children. Dr. Ginott’s innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field, and now his methods can work for you, too.
In this revised edition, Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr. H. Wallace Goddard usher this bestselling classic into the new century while retaining the book’s positive message and Haim Ginott’s warm, accessible voice. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to:
• Discipline without threats, bribes, sarcasm, and punishment
• Criticize without demeaning, praise without judging, and express anger without hurting
• Acknowledge rather than argue with children’s feelings, perceptions, and opinions
• Respond so that children will learn to trust and develop self-confidence
Customer Reviews:
"Aha" experience on every page.......2007-10-13
Full of real-world examples of communication with children, excellently structured and rich with insights, this book stands out for me from the crowd of parenting books. This is the book I come back to most often - re-reading the many passages I had previously underlined. I also recommend Einstein Never Used Flashcards by Kathy Hirsh-Pasek and Magic Years by Selma H. Fraiberg.
Who was Dr Spock???.......2007-09-18
I so agree with you. My childhood was not exactly a fairytail story. And I was scared that I wasn't going to be a good parent. But, I was going to change that! My husband and I brought 3 little boys into the big world in 3 years. They were going to be great, fantastic, successful human beings. Dr. Spock just wasn't cutting it in my world. What did he say again??? Then, I heard Dr Hiam Ginott on tv and knew I had to get his book. I watched him every time he was on tv. He was good. Then he died. That is too bad because even my children's parenting generation can learn great details from him. I had friends who commented that they liked my techniques. Mine? Not. Dr Hiam Ginott's.
My favourite parenting book.......2007-02-25
This book is a wonderful addition to any parents' library. I am a child psychiatrist who recommends it frequently to parents. It clearly discusses how important language is in our relationship with our children without being judgmental or preachy. It clearly outlines verbal patterns that many parents get into and helpful strategies to get out of those patterns. The premise is simple --- we need to listen more. However, if you are someone who recognizes this is easier said than done, I recommend reading this book. I get hundreds of books out of the library; there are few that I ultimately purchase. This was one of those few.
Some good info but light on correction.......2007-01-09
I thought there was some good information but I think it was light on correction. While I believe that we need to create a loving, safe, and encouraging environment for our children I also believe that there are times when children defy authority and need to be corrected. This book tries to combat the problem before it happens by the way we communicate with them. Although communication is key to the Parent/child relationship, children need to know that the Parent is in charge, that they must obey the first time and without argument. Don't get me wrong, children are a beautiful blessing from God and they need to be nurtured so carefully. But along with that nurturing comes this demand for obedience because I am their authority. The book was light on parental authority and presented parents merely as guides in a child's life rather than an authority to be obeyed and to protect them. I think our society could use a bit more respect for authority.
Best Parenting Book I've Read.......2006-08-18
The whole premise of the book is that love and common sense are not enough to raise most children well. Good parenting skills need to be *learned*. This book gives terrific examples of good and not so good parenting with each topic it covers. I've read at least a dozen parenting books (I have a very "highly spirited" 9 year old boy) and this one has made a big difference for me in my parenting. The emphasis on validating children's feelings somehow resonated better with me with this book than others, I think because the authors are particularly gifted in presenting the child's perspective. Using just a couple of the techniques in the book, I have been able to keep my son's emotional outbursts to a minimum -- and therefore my own, too. Better for me, and clearly better for him! I understand him better now.
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It's a rare book that delivers so completely on such a broad promise. Mother-Daughter Wisdom is written to connect the dots between a number of separate parts: logical and emotional morality, physical and mental health, friends and family, and in an overarching sense, the relationship between being a woman's daughter and raising a daughter of your own.
Because of the scope of information presented, it can be tricky to pick up the book and look for quick guidance on a particular topic such as adolescent weight issues or childhood asthma; more use, and more pleasure, will be found if you add it to your permanent reference shelf to look through in stages. Author Dr. Christiane Northup (Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom) seamlessly blends personal stories with clear research in a way that creates a compelling read from start to finish, even if the specific topic isn't necessarily one that concerns you. Information is a welcome mix of old school medical advice and new school nutrition and stress relief. In Northup's world, whole foods and loving communication can play just as important roles as antibiotics.
The book is categorized somewhat loosely by age, beginning with pregnancy and labor, and continuing through infancy, childhood, adolescence and young adulthood. Each section is quite specifically tuned to relating to daughters: Mothers of sons will get some use out of sections on breastfeeding, vaccinations and the like, but emotional concerns and physical recommendations are tailor-made for women and girls, right down to the resource guide that ends the book. By itself, that resource guide is an excellent starting point for further reading, both online and in print. When added to the whole, it is just one more reason you'll reach for the book on a regular basis. Jill Lightner
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Applying the unique holistic approach that made Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause such transforming forces in the lives of millions of readers, Dr. Northrup has created an uplifting, enlightening, entirely new map of female development. Mother-Daughter Wisdom blends soulful truths with groundbreaking clinical discoveries to help women of all ages thoroughly rebuild their health. Whether coming to terms with a painful memory, letting go of harmful beliefs about themselves, or celebrating the love that is passed down from mother to daughter, generation after generation, readers of this book will come to see this intimate bond in a completely new light. Dr. Northrup has provided Amazon.com customers with exclusive discussion topics and questions, intended to enrich your reading of this important and inspiring book. Download Amazon.com exclusive content now.
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With such groundbreaking bestsellers as
Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and
The Wisdom of Menopause, Dr. Christiane Northrup is one of today’s most trusted and visionary medical experts. Now she presents her most profound and revolutionary approach to women’s health. . . .
The mother-daughter relationship sets the stage for our state of health and well-being for our entire lives. Because our mothers are our first and most powerful female role models, our most deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves as women come from them. And our behavior in relationships—with food, with our children, with our mates, and with ourselves—is a reflection of those beliefs. Once we understand our mother-daughter bonds, we can rebuild our own health, whatever our age, and create a lasting positive legacy for the next generation.
Mother-Daughter Wisdom introduces an entirely new map of female development, exploring the “five facets of feminine power,” which range from the basics of physical self-care to the discovery of passion and purpose in life. This blueprint allows any woman—whether or not she has children—–to repair the gaps in her own upbringing and create a better adult relationship with her mother. If she has her own daughter, it will help her be the mother she has always wanted to be.
Drawing on patient case histories and personal experiences, Dr. Northrup also presents findings at the cutting edge of medicine and psychology. Discover:
•How to lay the nutritional foundation to prevent eating disorders and adult diseases
•The truth about the immunization controversy–and the true meaning of immunity
•How we can change our genetic health legacy
•Why financial literacy is essential to women’s health
•How to foster healthy sexuality and future “love maps” in our daughters
•How to balance independence with caring, and individual growth with family ties
Written with warmth, enthusiasm, and rare intelligence,
Mother-Daughter Wisdom is an indispensable book destined to change lives and become essential reading for all women.
From the Hardcover edition.
Customer Reviews:
Dissappointing.......2007-05-08
I have so enjoyed Christians & Mona Lisa's tapes on Intuitive Healing, I thought that this would be just as good. After listening to 2 of the CD's I switched them off, they were so full of negative stuff, that someone having a baby for the first time, would be so fearful of the process. I know when having my own first child, I stopped reading the information, simply becasue we are "wired" to think the worst, instead of what we need to think "It's OK"
AMAZING BOOK.......2007-05-03
This book is amazing. If you have a daughter or not this is a must read!
Some good advice, but a lot of misleading information..........2007-03-11
Christiane Northrup is not a psychologist, as another reviewer commented, but she sure tries to act like one. And she uses her own life experience as her only basis for many of her claims. If this book were just a memoir, I think I would have less of a problem with it. Much of the health advice in this book is either questionable in safety and value (such as consuming large amounts of soy, which is increasingly being shown to be dangerous, or not vaccinating your children at all) or is obvious to anyone with common sense (don't make an issue about how much your daughter eats, eat regular meals with the family, blah, blah). And all of the talk about menstrual cycles and celebrating your femininity and kundalini rising really rubbed me the wrong way. I am all for questioning traditional medicine and healing yourself in natural ways, but I need real science to back things up, not anecdotes from "intuitive healers" (aka psychics.) However, here and there sprinkled throughout the book there are interesting bits of information and interesting perspectives on the mother-daughter relationship. You just have to be a very critical reader while going through this book, and I definitely don't accept Dr. Northrup's authority unquestioningly.
Easy to understand.......2007-01-19
I have other books by Christiane Northrup and I wasn't disappointed with this one. There are so many issues and points that are relevant, I seem to jump around and read what I want - but its easy to read and digest. Thank you!
Freeing, insightful, helpful.......2007-01-17
This book is one of the most helpful books I have ever read. It offered so much insight and I identified with it so much! If you want to be enlightened about your womanhood, your relationships, your childhood, your health, this is a must read! Definitely recommend it.
Book Description
The challenge for mothers of sons is to realize that because we do not share a sexual identity, that because we have not grown up in a male body, we cannot presume to understand everything there is to know about our sons' worlds.
-- Patricia Stevens
In this absolutely superb collection of mothers' personal narratives, some classic writers, as well as exciting new voices, ponder the conflicts and joys of raising sons. Patricia Stevens's Between Mothers and Sons is the first anthology in which women writers attempt to answer the question that all mothers have contemplated in the course of mothering the opposite sex: "Who is this male child who came out of my body?"
After all, the mother/son relationship is the foundation of all male/female connections. Yet in our culture, it's a relationship that has been far less closely observed than the relationship between mother and daughter.
From the earliest days of nursing to the good-byes as college and adulthood appear on the threshold, from adoptive families to biracial, from Native American to African-American mothers, these pages cover a broad range of experience. These writers collectively explore the delights and frustrations, the deep and often-conflicted emotions they feel in their roles as mothers to their male children.
"Diamonds are forever, but love can easily get lost....I picture the broken pieces of my heart inside me like the shrapnel of a war." In Jo-Ann Mapson's heartbreaking "Navigating the Channel Islands," we read of the intense pain that appears in the wake of her adolescent son's rebellion. On a more comical note, Deborah Galyan's "Watching Star Trek with Dylan" is a must for any mother who has wondered about a young son's love of things mechanical. And Valerie Monroe's bittersweet "Feet" will touch every mother on the planet: "As I unwrapped the slippers and carefully placed them on this rug, I thought, they're his feet, after all. And step by step, they will take him away from me."
Between Mothers and Sons resoundingly, if unflinchingly, celebrates this new journey that we are all making with our boys.
Customer Reviews:
Something here for everyone.......2005-03-07
As with many short story / essay collections, it is hard to review the book overall as the individual contributions are uneven.
In this case, almost all are moving and at least some will touch a heartstring (or raw nerve!) in every mother.
Many play the feminist angle, which I felt may be somewhat misplaced in a mother-son relationship.
A couple I'd already read in other collections (e.g. `Toddler'), including one of my personal favourites, Jonathan Bing by Priscilla Leigh MacKinley, about a mother who lost her sight during childbirth and has to adapt to becoming blind and the responsibility of responsibility of caring for a new baby at the same time ... the thought alone makes me shudder, but she writes about it beautifully and it was a joy to read again.
All-in-all, I enjoyed this book and would recommend it.
Memorable reading, great range of experiences.......2000-01-22
Each in her own way, the writers in this collection make complex connections -- with their sons and with readers. There's a great range of experiences here for the reader who wants to concentrate on the mother-son relationship rather than on family relationships in general.
I sometimes cried and more often laughed -- but I also thought about my female friends and their sons, and agreed with what I was reading -- then remembered my mother and sisters and their sons, and argued back -- considered my male friends, and understood more than I had before.
The authors had some great stories to tell, and the quality of the writing fully repaid a second (and for some essays, a third) reading. The author's own very moving contribution was my favorite, but months after reading the book, there are many moments I remember.
Incredible.......1999-12-04
I bought Between Mothers and Sons for myself as a Mother's Day gift when my son was 3 months old. I was moved viscerally by the essays contained in this book. Although I do agree with the reviewer from Wisconsin that the collective voice of these essays is limited, I feel that the emotional tumult felt and expressed by these very talented women is universal.
Great writing but limited perspective.......1999-07-14
Stevens has gathered a well-written and insightful collection of essays by very talented women. The challenges of raising sons are presented in sometimes poignant, frequently amusing, and generally thought-provoking ways. But I kept wishing for some other perspectives. All of the women whose writings are collected here seem to be on a single page. They're all feminists; few get any child-rearing help or wisdom from the boys' fathers; most seem to have no spiritual foundation (LaMott is an obvious exception). I would have liked to read a more balanced collection of authors.
Book Description
A new perspective on parenting and connecting with children...
Written by the foremost researcher on emotional availability in parent-child relationships, this guide will change the way parents relate to children, resulting in more fulfilling relationships on both sides. The first part of the book explains the eight general principles of emotional availability, and uses a wealth of examples to illustrate these principles in action.
First, readers will learn how to identify their own strategies for creating an emotional connection with their children, assess the strengths and weaknesses in their current parent-child relationships, and develop new ways of creating stronger, more nourishing emotional bonds with children of any age. The second half of the book applies the principles of emotional availability to a wide range of ages, situations, and special needs.
Customer Reviews:
Very helpful book based in research.......2006-03-29
When I first started volunteering in my church's nursery, I was somewhat mystified as to how to work with these tiny developing people. I knew cuddling them and reading to them was good, and I knew what kinds of games and activities children at different ages could do. However, I was at a loss as to how to best comfort a tearful child who was clinging to my leg, or how to control a child who had been tantruming for five minutes. As a Human Development and Family Studies major, I had learned about how children developed, but actually learning how to interact with them seemed to be a trial and error type thing I was learning in my volunteer experience. You may have felt that same confusion when working with children as a new parent, or in any occupation that involves children.
"Raising a Secure Child" by Dr. Zeynep Biringen brings all that developmental theory and research into the realm of practicality. She summarizes the main points of child development in the first half of the book and explains the two important theories of attachment and emotional availability. Both these theories are used to define the quality of the parent - child interaction. Dr. Biringen has spent much of her career coming up with practical ways to use these theories to help children and their parents become closer to one another. Plus, the findings she had laid out in her book have been confirmed by other researchers in the field of psychology and child development. She has cited many journal articles that she references throughout her book.
As I read the book, I learned practical ways to take what I had learned in lecture into my volunteer experience to better connect to the children I worked with. For instance, I learned how to really listen to children and do things that truly met their needs. I also learned how to talk to them so they would respond, and even to gently discipline without making myself appear hostile to them. As parents, teachers, and other child care workers, I know that you would like to learn all these skills as well. "Raising a Secure Child" will lay out these skills and the concepts behind them nicely for you. It uses minimal jargon, and a degree in child development is not needed to understand this book. Helpful advice in the boxes at the bottom of select pages highlights main points of the chapter.
Finally, "Raising a Secure Child" is useful in your work with children of any age, and can be applied no matter what family structure your own children or the children you serve come from. There is even a special section for parents who have foster and adopted children. Combining the information in this book with the love and concern you already have for the children in your care will help you create that warm and comforting care environment they will grow and thrive in.
Attachement Parenting is not "pop psychology".......2005-06-06
I am offended by this and that Dr.Willian Sears a quack! Dr. Sears is a pediatrician with years of experience who has studied the effects of AP in his own home. He is not the only one to have studied this either. AP is not meant to cause guilt in parents. There are many ways to do this. You don't have to do everything that AP teaches to feel close to your child. You do what feels right for you.
excellent.......2005-03-05
I would like to pass this out at every Le leche league meeting in the country. unlike the pop psychology "AP" out there which ranges from the guilt inducing to the dangerous, this is the real thing on how to build a relationship with your child. it is a very sad state of affairs that people looking for real outside input on ways to do better than their own parents can only choose between pseudo scientists like William Sears and quasi animal trainers like Gary Ezzo. and a million and one others that offer three or four point programs to "easy discipline". I wish more people would buy this book but because it is rather clinically and "shrinky" they may very well pass it over for more trendy looking tomes. it is such a relief to know, taht unlike what the AP mavens will tell you, you and your child are not "sunk" if you mess up when they are an infant.
A must-have for your parenting library!.......2004-11-19
If you're a parent, you've probably asked yourself whether you're doing all you can for your child. Some things that might come to mind are: all the sacrifices you're making; all the social activities you've chauffered to; or the amount of time you've spent helping your child with their homework. Most parents want the best for their children and strive to be physically available to them, but many miss out on meeting their child's emotional needs.
Children need more than just a homework helper or chauffer to become secure...they need to experience an emotional connection with their parents or guardians. The book, "Raising a Secure Child: Creating an Emotional Connection Between You and Your Child," discusses how parents and other guardians can shape their child's emotional development. The book explains the "parent-child relationship;" teaches parents how to be emotionally available to their child at different stages; and discusses how this connection can affect every aspect of their child's lives.
MyParenTime.com highly recommends this book -- being emotionally connected to your child will help them foster better friendships, experience enriching school years, help them make better choices, and overall create a child who is more secure throughout their lives.
Many Great Ideas for Parents, Teachers and Caregivers.......2004-09-13
This author does a tremendous job of sharing very useful information that is valuable for parents as well as teachers and caregivers. This is a resource that parents of all ages of children would find useful. Examples and stories make the information real and easy reading. Excellent resource to assist adults in strengthening relationships with children---a key for healthy development and successful personal and academic success. The information shared is based on solid scientific research and the authors credentials are impressive.
Book Description
Current research on brain development confirms what our hearts already know: children need to be with people who care about them. Today, many children spend their days with people who are not family members. Paid caregivers are responsible for comforting children, recognizing their discoveries, and celebrating their milestones. Like parents, many of these caregivers invest fully in childrens lives. They care deeply, and children love them back. Parents are not always comfortable with the ties that grow in child care settings. They want caregivers to love their children, but sometimes they become unsettled when love is mutual and children become attached.
Circle of Love is the first book to explore the emotionally charged issue of love in the child care setting. Based on real-life interviews, this invaluable resource introduces the reader to parents and providers who have found ways to work together to meet the attachment needs of children. The book demonstrates that everyone benefits when parents and providers redesign the family circle and surround each child with love.
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Drawings by Susan Avishai Third Edition Why do people die? How do you explain the loss of a loved one to a child? This book is a compassionate guide for adults and children to read together, featuring a readalong story, answers to questions children ask about death, and a comprehensive list of resources and organizations that can help
Customer Reviews:
a must have for every household.......2006-03-28
What a great book. so easy to read, so clearly put. Earl Grollman does a fantastic job of telling adults just how to talk to children about the difficult topic of death. I often feel shy about using words that seem harsh, like Dead, or she died. but those are the only words that really work. Check out this book and find out why.
Every parent should have this book in their library.
Highly recommended!.......2005-01-05
When my niece passed away from SIDS a little over a year ago, I called a friend who does grief work at the local children's hospital. He recommended this book ~ even took time out of his day to send me a copy. There is no other book, in my opinion for helping kids deal with the death of a loved one. The book is divided into sections to read along with your kid(s), parts for you to read to help you answer questions your kid(s) may have, references, and much more. ~ CV
Powerful, yet easy-to-read is a Winner!.......2004-09-07
As a therapist specializing in grief for 20 years, I have seen many books that help adults to help children with their grief. This is definitely one of the best because it is a simple and effective guide for adults to use during challenging times. It is very hard, as a parent, to focus on a lengthy and very wordy book. Earl Grollman's book is designed to make it easy to find the aspect of the grief process that you are looking for.
Because I also run a pet loss group, I appreciate the sensitivity he brings to this subject. So often, misguided parents or friends try to replace a pet too soon. This author states, "Do not rob your children of the right to grieve, cope with, and overcome their pain." (p. 71)
I also love the list in the back of resources, including groups for various types of loss, and books and movies that may be helpful. Boy would I love to have a lot of those films in my personal library! It's always helpful to have choices as you're moving through the unchartered territory of each unique grief journey.
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Every Oncologist Should Give this to their Patients.......2003-05-01
I did a research paper for college on how children are ignored during the grieving process, particularly when the deceased is their parent. Of all the many books and articles I found during my research, this book became my exclusive favorite. Rabbi Grollman understands how a child's mind works during each stage of development and provides excellent suggestions and advice on how to reach a child at each stage of understanding and awareness. I hadn't considered some of the things he mentioned but found everything to be sound, make sense, and above all, they work as I help my now deceased friend's young children cope with her loss in their lives. This book will also help the adult to understand death better and come to terms with the loss. A win/win for everyone.
Thanks to the Author who made the matter easier.......2002-03-07
A good resource book to understand what a child can take in the event of death in a family. Recommendable
Customer Reviews:
Great advice and MUST have!.......2002-06-23
This book was great!!
Don't let the year the book was written make your decision to buy because the information that Dr. Ginott provides in this book is relevant to our teenagers today. He provides solid advice along with senarios of how to deal with particular situations. This is not a book that you have to read from cover to cover, you can start anywhere in the book depending on the situation at hand.
This is definitely a must have for all parents and educators.
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- Your Pregnancy Week by Week, Fifth Edition
- 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior
- 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child (Guidebook Series)
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- A Child Is Born
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