Book Description
If you can count on one thing from "Madea" Mabel Simmons, star of the smash hits Diary of a Mad Black Woman and Madea's Family Reunion, it's that she's got something to say. Now the beloved, sharp-tongued, pistol-packing grandmother has her own book-part memoir, many parts hard-won, hilarious, straight-up in-your-face words of wisdom.
Customer Reviews:
Great book..I couldn't stop laughing.......2007-08-19
I love this book. The minute I started reading the book I could not stop laughing. i recommend purchasing this book, give it to your teens (troubled or not) to learn some common sense as they are growing up.
Funny Book.......2007-08-11
Good Advice with a lot of humor sprinkled in. Very good book. Next a cook book I would love to have that Sweet Potato Pie recipe.
Don't Make a Black Woman take her earrings off was excellent.......2007-08-09
This was an excellent audio book. Done in the voice of Madea the hardcover could not have matched it. Some of the language did get a bit much, but the content advice, humor, and reality were both entertaining, informative and inspirational as well as giving some real life reality checks. I hope Tyler Perry continues on.
Another hit!.......2007-07-25
what more can i say! this book had me in stitches! i would bust out laughin and people would look at me like im crazy..but what she says is true for the most part. great book...A++++++++++
Funny, but predictable.......2007-07-17
For those of you unfamiliar with Mabel "Madea" Simmons, this book will have you rolling on the floor laughing, or nodding your head in agreement with some of the sage pearls of wisodm Madea (via Tyler Perry) shares. But for those of us who are die-hard Madea fans, this book is a "burnch" (as Brown would say)of regurgitated lines and material from TP's hit plays and movies. Not that it didn't make me smile; I had plenty of happy moments reading this. But as soon as I read one sentence, I knew exactly what was coming in the next three paragraphs. This book is a great intro to people who have only seen the movie adaptations of TP plays, but for those familiar with the material, try borrowing it from the library.
Incidentally, Tyler Perry's email newsletter states that there is a movie version of "Why Did I Get Married?" coming out starring Janet Jackson and Malik Yoba, as well as a film version of "Meet the Browns" (starring Angela Basset and a rumored-to-be Jennifer Hudson), as well as a sequel series of "Meet the Browns" (a follow-up to "House of Payne"). TP is a busy guy.
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...Sins of the Father by Jaid Black Candy Morgan has always felt badly about the fact that her father duped and then fired his former protégée, James Douglas Mahoney III. Worse yet, she knows that JD has always believed her to be a part of the conspiracy to get rid of him. When JD comes to power during a hostile takeover of Morgan Chemicals, Candy realizes he will want revenge against her family so she prepares herself to be ousted from the company. But much to her surprise, JD doesn't oust her. Instead, he wants his vendetta against the Morgans settled in an entirely different fashion, in a way Candy never could have imagined in her wildest, most wicked dream... Surrender by Lora Leigh Cole has wanted Tess for years. And he's warned her of this several times. He's also warned her HOW he wants her. Tied down in his bed, under his domination, surrendering to his desires...
Customer Reviews:
Ties that Bind.......2007-06-17
Wow! I read this book in one sitting. I think both stories are real hot reads. I likes Lora Leigh's story the best. I've read alot of her books and she didn't dissapoint. It was well worth the price.
"Ties That Bind" will turn up the heat to scorching!.......2005-08-08
It kicks off with "Sins of the Father", one of my first stories by the legendary Queen of Steam, Jaid Black. Candy Morgan's family company was in trouble. Her father no longer alive to run things, Candy has been in charge, unaware that her father's former protege has been waiting in the wings, ready to take over at the first sign of weakness. James Douglas Mahoney III is ready to take out his revenge, and taking over Morgan Chemicals is just a small part of his plan. His real goal is to take over Candy, the prize that had been dangled before him years ago. This time he's not wearing rose-colored glasses - he knows exactly what he wants and he plans to get it. Unaware of Candy's innocence to his firing, or of her longtime crush on him, JD has specific ideas of Candy's new role in the company, and they involve fulfilling every fantasy he's ever had about her. Very exciting and erotic, "Sins" touches on some forbidden fantasies many women may have about being kidnapped or submission. I think the story focuses more on a woman's pleasure and not about humiliation as JD always is gentle and caring in his treatment of Candy. Definitely a must-read for fans of Jaid Black.
"Surrender" by Lora Leigh kicks off her Bound Hearts series, and was my first by her. Cole has always made Tess nervous, but she can't deny how much she wants him. But rumors of his lifestyle have kept her away from him. Now her father wants her home, so she comes back for a visit, aware that Cole will be there, but is convinced she can resist temptation. But Cole is not taking "no" for an answer this time. He wants her badly, and will have her no matter what it takes. Cole believes there is a certain special bond that exists between him and Tess, one that includes bringing another man into their bedroom to bring her the ultimate fulfillment. Not just any man - his best friend Jesse. Cole loves Tess and only wants to make her happy, to give her more pleasure than she ever dreamed. But Tess feels her desires are wrong, dirty. With Cole's love, she learns that as long as they share in this pleasure together, her fantasies are something special between them, and not anything she should be ashamed of. Instead she finds her soul mate, the man who makes her feel alive and happy.
Both stories have very strong sexual fantasies which are not for everyone. But for those who enjoy these types of fantasies, "Ties That Bind" will not disappoint. It's a book I highly recommend.
Could have been 5 stars.......2004-10-31
Okay, these two stories were absolutely erotic and the sex scenes sizzling, BUT....bondage stories can be written without the humiliation aspect. Tittilation without humilating the women would be preferable. I kept thinking that if a guy tried pulling that attitude on me, he would have gotten a knee in the groin, no matter how good the sex was afterward.
Erotic short stories... .......2004-08-25
Jaid Black's Sins of the Father - Candy & James begin by making a bargain. She marries him (many stipulations in the marriage contract - including absolute obedience) and he doesn't destroy her family's finaces in a business take over. This didn't exactly come out of nowhere. He used to work for her father - deceased - until her father had fired him years ago - for no apparent reason. She agrees mostly because she's wanted him since she was a kid and she figures she'll get out of it eventually - An erotic tale that lets the characters develop.
Lora Leigh's Surrender is the story of Tess and Cole. Tess has been avoiding Cole for awhile after he made a hard pass at one of her father's parties. She was interested but put him off. She is somewhat repressed - living with her very controlling and unhappy mother. She goes to visit her father and ends up spending the week with Cole who is more then willing to fulfill her every desire (including a threesome - which seems to be LLeigh's thing).
Both stories were good. JBlack has a better understanding of how to write short stories but LLiegh's story was also good - though her characters didn't develop as much.
The book all together with both stories is still pretty short and in both stories I wished there was more to them - but enjoyable.
Very Entertaining.......2004-05-01
I enjoyed reading both stories, the authors are two of my favorites. You will love this book if you are into some bondage and two guys and one girl thing. If not, than this book is not for you. Although both stories are about sex the characters seem to be able to form a relationship, which somehow turns in to love. Both authors make their characters work for what they want, so that when you are getting toward the end of each story you don't want it to end.
Book Description
Created specifically for the needs of the AfricanAmerican mothertobe, this wonderfully comprehensive reference contains everything the pregnant woman needs to know about conception, prenatal care, labor, delivery, and baby care. Wonderfully conversational in tone, this intuitive stepbystep guide provides the latest information on:
Health risks such as high blood pressure, diabetes and sickle cell anemia, which blacks suffer from disproportionately
Adapting traditional down home cooking recipes to provide healthful eating for mother and baby
The special needs of single mothers
Spiritual, emotional, and mental health during pregnancy
Cultural information passed down from generation to generation
Interviews with midwives, doctors, fitness experts, and nutritionists. Mama's Little Baby is the first book to provide complete, accessible, and reassuring information for all expectant black mothers (and fathers) looking forward to a healthy, happy baby.
Fully illustrated with more than 100 photographs and drawings
The What to Expect When You're Expecting for the African-American audience
Customer Reviews:
A Must Have for any mom.......2002-02-11
I was surprised to learn that there aren't more books of this type available for black mothers. But this book may be the only reference guide you need! A very easy read, and so full of useful information that I read it chunks at a time! The historical information is invaluable too. This would make a great gift for a special mom-to-be.
OK, but not what I expected.......2002-01-19
I have learned just as much from "What to Expect When You're Expecting" and could really have done without the African names/meanings and tips on how to use kente cloth in a nursery. "WHat To Expect..." is much more thorough, although a lot of the information overlaps. The pictures in "Mama's Little Baby" are great, but not sure that you'll really learn how to bathe a baby based on these pictures...Get "what To Expect" and save the money...
Excellent book for Pregnancy for Black Perspectives.......2001-08-02
This is an excellent book for Pregnant woman from a Black perspective. From the interesting history side stories to the added stories of black woman any black woman will find this useful throughout their pregnancy and through the first few months with baby.
Key things I liked, the section on single moms, down to earth section on going back to work, negotiating leave, creating a budget for the new baby in your life, baby names, and 100% accurate medical information. Paritically on the choices for childbirth, from birthing centers to hospitals and the medications you available now.
This a great book I will keep in my reference for my second child.
Excellent book for The Black Family.......2000-05-30
My wife & I had our first child 15 months ago. We find ourselves referring to this book on many different occasion. From what to do when the baby gets an ear infection to what to expect when weaning baby off of the bottle. A must buy, trust me, you will be glad you did!
a must read for african american women.......1998-12-24
This book offers information needed for pregnant women but it specifically relates to the african american woman's needs. You can relate to the stories told by these women. The pictures are wonderful. mostly it prepares the woman for what to expect during each month of her pregnancy and birth. Highly recommended.
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Oprah Book Club® Selection, April 1998: "The first time my husband hit me I was nineteen years old," begins Fran Benedetto, the broken heroine of Anna Quindlen's Black and Blue. With one sweeping sentence, the door to an abused and tortured world is swung wide open and the psyche of a crushed and tattered self-image exposed. "Frannie, Frannie, Fran"--as Bobby Benedetto liked to call her before smashing her into kitchen appliances--was a young, energetic nursing student when she met her husband-to-be at a local Brooklyn bar. She was instantly captivated by his dark, brooding looks and magnetic personality, but her fascination soon solidified into a marital prison sentence of incessant abuse and the destruction of her own identity. After an especially horrific beating and rape, Fran realizes that the next attack could be the last. Fearing her son would be left alone with Bobby, she escapes one morning with her child. Fran's salvation comes in the form of Patty Bancroft and Co., a relocation agency for abused women that touts better service than the witness protection program. Armed only with a phone number, a few hundred dollars, and the help of several anonymous volunteers, Fran begins a new life. The agency relocates her to Florida, where she becomes Beth Crenshaw, a recently divorced home-care assistant from Delaware. Fran and her son adapt, meeting challenges with unexpected resilience and resolve until their past returns to haunt them. Quindlen renders the intricacies of spousal abuse with eerie accuracy, taking the reader deep within the realm of dysfunctional human ties. However, her vivid descriptions of abuse, emotional disintegration, and acute loneliness at times numb the reader with their realism.
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With this stunning novel about a woman and a marriage that begins in passion and becomes violent, the Pulitzer Prize--winning journalist and bestselling author of
One True Thing and
Object Lessons moves to a new dimension as a writer of superb fiction. "If literature were judged solely by its ability to elicit strong emotions," Kirkus Reviews said about
One True Thing, "columnist-cum-novelist Quindlen would win another Pulitzer." And the same will be said about
Black and Blue, a brilliant novel of suspense, substance, and importance.
In
Black and Blue, Fran Benedetto tells a spellbinding story: how at nineteen she fell in love with Bobby Benedetto, how their passionate marriage became a nightmare, why she stayed, and what happened on the night she finally decided to run away with her ten-year-old son and start a new life under a new name. Living in fear in Florida--yet with increasing confidence, freedom, and hope--Fran unravels the complex threads of family, identity, and desire that shape a woman's life, even as she begins to create a new one. As Fran starts to heal from the pain of the past, she almost believes she has escaped it--that Bobby Benedetto will not find her and again provoke the complex combustion between them of attraction and destruction, lust and love.
Black and Blue is a beautifully written, heart-stopping story in which Anna Quindlen writes with power, wisdom, and humor about the real lives of men and women, the varieties of people and love, the bonds between mother and child, the solace of family and friendship, the inexplicable feelings between people who are passionately connected in ways they don't understand. It is a remarkable work of fiction by the writer whom Alice Hoffman has called "a national treasure."
Customer Reviews:
Running Scared... Running Out of Time.......2007-09-30
BLACK AND BLUE is a well written, perfectly paced story with characters a reader cannot help but fall in love with, and yes, hate. It is told from the point of view of Fran, a wife and a mother who struggles between the fine lines of love, loyalty, hatred, and fear. Abused and battered by her husband she struggles with how best to protect herself and most importantly to her, her child.
She finds herself on the run with her son, but always looking around her shoulder, knowing that for now, she may be one step ahead of her abusive husband, but constantly fearful that it cannot last, that he will find them if not today, then maybe tomorrow. And all the while as she finds herself constantly scanning the crowds around her, looking for that one familiar face that would have the power to doom her, she struggles with her son and his confusion over his new life without his beloved father.
A stunning tale that is sure to captivate you. A must read for everyone.
Thank you Anna for such a great read.
A better treatment would have been to present the batterer's interior experience as well.......2007-09-23
Spousal abuse is such a tough topic and this book is a sincere (I think) attempt to make the problem better known and better understood. The most realistic character in the book is the son, who loves both parents so much and lives in the shadow of their awful relationship. The victim's sister is also well drawn. But the victim herself, as narrator as well as protagonist, is still not fully sketched. And everything that happens to her in her new life is a bit too ideal. Then the batterer cop husband is really just a stereotype -- the nasty, hard drinkin', hard lovin' guy who treats his family as possessions. Someone else mentioned that it read like a Lifetime made-for-tv drama, and I would have to agree. That said, the topic is important enough that the book has likely done some good in reaching a broad audience and raising awareness of the issue. It just fails to explain it very well or to offer much insight on how to rectify the matter.
An okay book, but not brilliant.......2007-09-04
This book reflects the sad reality of one of the many plagues affecting this world: domestic abuse. Whilst fully sympathising with Frannie, the main character, and abhorring the psychological and physical tortures she went through by the hands of her husband Bobby -including the pain reflected by their son Robert, physically untouched but emotionally damaged- I found the construction of the narrative a bit boring. There's no nicer way to say it, I just didn't think this book was a page-turner.
The issue of domestic violence, however, is dealt with realistically and I believe that some parts of this book could be of help for the many ladies out there who suffer every day.
Not a satisfying read for such a sensitive subject .......2007-08-28
I thought that this book was well written on a compelling subject. I did think that Anna Quindlen dwelled on Frannie being an abused woman a bit too much. It seemed to me that I was reminded of this fact at just about every 20 pages or so. I wouldn't say it was truly satisfying reading experience. It wasn't a terrible book, but not a super read. Now, I think that her other novel "One True Thing" was a top-notched book and heads above this one. Sorry. I'm still a fan of Ms. Quindlen and I will continue to read all her books.
Not bad..........2007-08-11
It wasn't my favorite book of the year, but it was interesting enough to keep me up till 2:30 in the morning. A plus for me was definitely the characters. They were fleshed out enough to seem so real at times, I was afraid of Bobby Benedetto myself half the time. I liked how she took her time with the story, developing the character, and making Bobby seem more than the typical abuser and Fran more than the typical victim.
That being said, my two biggest issues were that there were some scenes that didn't need to be here. I'd finish one or two and ask myself what it had to do with the story. The other problem was that I could smell the ending a mile away. I won't give it away, but those who read it might know what I'm talking about.
Otherwise, it was a good novel. Not the best written in the world, but it was enough to keep me engaged. I'll look for other works by this author in the future.
Book Description
Michael Baisden, the bad boy of literature, strikes gold again with this provocative, nationally bestselling novel about love, lust, and lies.
Malcolm Tremell lives the life that most men can only fantasize about: exotic cars, designer clothes, and a steady stream of sexually available women. For the past twelve years, for a very generous fee, Malcolm has willingly played the role of temporary companion and lover. But the endless nights of meaningless sex and secret rendezvous with married women have begun to weigh on his conscience. Malcolm is suffering from job burnout. He soon discovers, however, that a life-style change won't come so easily, not with the allure of so many beautiful women and thousands of tax-free dollars.
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Self-published phenomenon, lecturer and relationship expert Michael Baisden strikes gold again with this provocative, nationally bestselling novel about love, lust and lies. In the tradition of Eric Jerome Dickey and E. Lynn Harris, Baisden weaves a fast-paced, true-to-life story about the drama of male-female relationships. "The Maintenance Man" is a gripping, raw novel.
Customer Reviews:
read it.......2007-09-22
i liked this book and i would recommend it. i plan on reading it again.
Quick read but still a waste of time.......2007-08-12
Full of name-dropping, advertising, vulgar language, misguided definitions of being a gentleman, and how relationships and friendships work. Sensationalistic and predictable. An obvious attempt to write a book that would "SELL". (Yeah it's going to be a movie. Let's hope it will be better than the book.) MY ADVICE....SKIP IT!!!
The maintenance man.......2007-08-04
DO NOT BUY THIS BOOK!! This was the first Michael Baisden book I have read and it was so terrible. I was extremely bored and the story was very predictable. It had the typical "get the girl in the end story" and that is not realistic. I will not read any other Michael Baisden books. I think I got the hint as to what his books are like. Great read, Coldest Winter Ever. That's a great book!!!
2nd review of a baisden book.......2006-07-20
this book was terrible. he needed to develop the characters a little more, Malcolms character especially. Mr. baiden needs to take a couple more writing classes because this book was written horribly. the drama in this book was real, but some of the characters were a little confusing. Ariel claims to be professional but she was flirting with the manager from day one. I didnt even finish this book because it kind of dragged on and got boring.
Pathetic Literary Attempt.......2006-06-04
On a national publisher's website Michael brags about being a college dropout and never having taken a single writing class. Perhaps he should have!!
At least I didn't have to pay for this text. Michael, himself, gave me a copy of "The Maintenance Man" as well as two of his other books after meeting me at a workshop in L.A. His attempt to impress me fell far short of my expectations. The problem with Michael is that he really thinks he's a good writer but he just doesn't have a clue. The one thing all of his books have in common are disjointed plotlines, a lack of character development, and the most glaring and sloppy grammatical errors that even my 9 year old niece would have caught. Aside from the fact that Michael Baisden is a dreadfully untalented writer his "relationship videos" are absolutely horrible and represent a vain attempt to present himself as a "self-help, relationship therapist or expert" when he doesn't have a shred of credibility or credentials. It's really sad that couples are taking any relationship advice from him as he is the proverbial "blind leading the blind."
For someone with such subpar talent to be as arrogant as Michael is really puts the nail in the coffin for me. He is fairly competent at shameless, self-promotion, but that's about it. Save your time and your money and read the work of some real literary geniuses like E. Lynn Harris or Eric Jerome Dickey.
Book Description
The Art of Mackin' was the first book of rules for players-from overcoming fears of getting dissed to spotting a stank dead on. Now the expert on mackin' is back with the ultimate straight-up guide for every mack and mack-wannabe. Whether he's after ass or cash, trying to spit game at a Benz-driving Diamond Girl or a street-tough Copper Chick, or if he's just tired of being coochie-whipped, it's time to open up this book and unlock the time-tested secrets of the pimp game.
Customer Reviews:
brilliant.......2007-10-06
every woman and man should read this book to understand how the game is played. one word to desribe this book is brilliant
Required Reading for Aspiring Macks.......2007-08-06
What Is It About?
This is Tariq's follow-up to the art of mackin and does a good job of completing the package. It also talks about male / female dating dynamics and relationships.
What Did I Get Out Of It?
Tariq appears to have made this book to cater to his non African American audience and does a good job of translating the game for all. I got some additional info on non club related game and an expanded list / definition set on the various types of females and males out there in the dating game.
The Good News
Another excellent easy to read book from Mr. Nasheed.
The Bad News
There is relatively little bad news concerning this book. It is a bit short and I leisurely read it over the course of a weekend but, I consider that a good thing. Tariq is short and to the point and doesn't attempt to sugar coat things.
The Bottom Line
This book does a great of rounding out the series and cleans up what The Art of Mackin left out. Get this to complete your lesson in mackin.
Big Mackin Style.......2007-05-24
another great book my Tariq. really breaks the game down. there are many haters out there that want to hate on the title of the book because they cant say anything about his material. he speaks the truth and many people cant handle it. great book
The Mack Within.......2007-01-29
I ordered this book to keep up on my knowledge of "game" and this book did not disappoint. It was filled with information that would keep anyone, in the dating scene, on their toes. I have read the book cover to cover and continue to read it to ensure, I stay on my toes. I recommend this book to anyone, man or woman, who is still in the dating scene. It is not a pimp book of any sort. But an informative book on how to look at people as a whole to choose the right person with whom you are compatible. And always remember, "Never take anyone, at face value!" Because everyone has an agenda. NEO_SOUL_06
Very interesting and informative perspective........2007-01-03
I bought three of these books. One for myself. Then, after reading it, for my son (20yrs), and for my daughter (19yrs). The information contained in this book is exactly what I wished I had known before learning the hard way. If you are aware of someone who doesn't have a father figure to run down some of the finer points of GAME, I would recommend turning them on to this book.
Average customer rating:
- Every black man should read this book
- "a must-read capable of transforming the lives of black men"
- Wow...what an eye opening book..The truth needed to be said!
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More Than Sex: Reinventing The Black Male Image: Reinventing the Black Male Image
George Edmond Smith
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Every black man should read this book.......2006-04-27
Dr. Smith;
When I read your book, "More Than Sex: Reinventing The Black Male Image", back in 2000, and I just had to commend you on producing a must-read capable of transforming the lives of black men-and I was speaking from personal experience. I was, at the time, a 40-year-old, soon-to-be divorced, devoted father of three. I'd been separated from my wife for more than two years (our second separation) and celibate for all of that time, as I began to cope with the frustrating realization that I had been a consistent failure in my attempts to establish the kind of lasting, fulfilling, healthy, loving relationship with a woman that I've longed for since I was a little boy. I am the oldest of four children of divorced parents. I hadn't seen my father since I was 12, and with the exception of my paternal grandparents, there are few, if any, examples of healthy marital relationships among the aunts and uncles on either side of my family. I knew what I was looking for in a marriage; I had only during those two years at the conclusion of my marriage come to realize that I hadn't a clue as to how to achieve it. That is, until I read "More Than Sex."
After reading your book, I'd simultaneously:
1) gained a clear understanding of the choices I made, and their consequences, that led to a failed 14-year marriage, 2) recognized patterns of behavior that pretty much doomed the long-term health and survival of my past romantic relationships with women, 3) learned how to recognize and avoid unhealthy relationship behaviors in myself and in potential partners (and thus allowed one potentially destructive, post-marital relationship to end, and subsequently resisted the temptation--based almost entirely on physical attraction-- to revive a fruitless past relationship) 4) learned what to expect and to offer to achieve the long-term, committed, healthy, loving relationship I've longed for all of my life.
As a result, for the first time in my life, I was able to have a relationship where I felt I had more than a clue as to what I was doing, the motivations driving my choices and my own expectations and sense of accountability. I constantly referred to passages in your book (highlighting the most instructional sections) to avoid backsliding into old, unhealthy behaviors and to remind myself of the new, healthy relationship behaviors you reveal and I've tried to adopt. The result was truly more than sex: a level of harmony, joyous friendship, mutual trust and respect, honest communication and deep emotional intimacy that I have never experienced in any relationship. Beyond that, the sexual attraction and energy we enjoyed was nothing short of mind-blowing--and we hadn't even had intercourse yet! (We were between the Infatuation and Barriers of Control stages of our relationship.)
Today, I am happily remarried (becoming the father of a fourth child as a result). It hasn't been easy, but I am far more sure of myself, and far more confident in my ability to recognize and maintain a healthy, committed, mutually supportive relationship with my wife. I continue to recommend your book to anyone who will listen. I tell them that we think that because we fall in love, it means we know how to love, which is like thinking that because we sometimes get caught in rainstorms, we know how to swim. Thanks to you, I've learned that love is a feeling, but loving is a choice. Thanks to you, I have a better understanding of who, how and why I choose to love.
Thank you, and thank God for inspiring you to write this book.
"a must-read capable of transforming the lives of black men".......2000-04-23
Dr. Smith;
I read your book, "More Than Sex: Reinventing The Black Male Image", a couple of months ago, and I just had to commend you on producing a must-read capable of transforming the lives of black men-and I'm speaking from personal experience. I am a 40-year-old, soon-to-be divorced, devoted father of three. I've been separated from my wife for more than two years (our second separation) and celibate for all of that time, as I began to cope with the frustrating realization that I had been a consistent failure in my attempts to establish the kind of lasting, fulfilling, healthy, loving relationship with a woman that I've longed for since I was a little boy. I am the oldest of four children of divorced parents. I haven't seen my father since I was 12, and with the exception of my paternal grandparents, there are few, if any, examples of healthy marital relationships among the aunts and uncles on either side of my family. I knew what I was looking for in a marriage; I have only during the past two years come to realize that I hadn't a clue as to how to achieve it. That is, until I read "More Than Sex."
After reading your book, I've simultaneously:
1) gained a clear understanding of the choices I made, and their consequences, that led to a failed 14-year marriage, 2) recognized patterns of behavior that pretty much doomed the long-term health and survival of my past romantic relationships with women, 3) learned how to recognize and avoid unhealthy relationship behaviors in myself and in potential partners (and thus allowed one potentially destructive, post-marital relationship to end, and subsequently resisted the temptation--based almost entirely on physical attraction-- to revive a fruitless past relationship) 4) learned what to expect and to offer to achieve the long-term, committed, healthy, loving relationship I've longed for all of my life.
As a result, for the first time in my life, I am in a relationship where I feel I have more than a clue as to what I'm doing, the motivations driving my choices and my own expectations and sense of accountability. I constantly refer to passages in your book (highlighting the most instructional sections) to avoid backsliding into old, unhealthy behaviors and to remind myself of the new, healthy relationship behaviors you reveal and I've tried to adopt. The result is truly more than sex: a level of harmony, joyous friendship, mutual trust and respect, honest communication and deep emotional intimacy that I have never experienced in any relationship. Beyond that, the sexual attraction and energy we enjoy is nothing short of mind-blowing--and we haven't even had intercourse yet! (We are between the Infatuation and Barriers of Control stages of our relationship.)
I've been recommending your book to anyone who will listen. I tell them that we think that because we fall in love, it means we know how to love, which is like thinking that because we sometimes get caught in rainstorms, we know how to swim. Thanks to you, I've learned that love is a feeling, but loving is a choice. Thanks to you, I have a better understanding of who, how and why I choose to love.
Thank you, and thank God for inspiring you to write this book..............
Wow...what an eye opening book..The truth needed to be said!.......2000-01-15
I just finished Dr. Smith's book, and I have to tell you, it's really quite interesting! The author talks frankly about Black men and how they are driven by their sexuality. Anger, impotence, self-esteem, and their relationships with Black women are discussed. Perhaps the most wonderful part of the book would be the story about Dr. Smith himself. He is a Black man who came from an impoverished home, his father dying in prison and having an uneducated mother to becoming a physician. He shares true stories from patients that he's met throughout the years, and many of them I can identify with. It's about time someone talked about Black men with candor!
Thanks for writing such a wonderful book!
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What real reader does not yearn, somewhere in the recesses of his or her heart, for a really literate, first-class thriller - one that chills the body with foreboding of dark deeds to come, but warms the soul with perceptions and language at once astute and vivid? In other words, a ghost story by Jane Austen.
Austen we cannot, alas, give you, but Susan Hill's remarkable Woman In Black comes as close as the late twentieth century is likely to provide. Set on the obligatory English moor, on an isolated causeway, the story has as its hero one Arthur Kipps, an up-and-coming young solicitor who has come north to attend the funeral and settle the estate of Mrs. Alice Drablow of Eel Marsh House. The routine formalities he anticipates give way to a tumble of events and secrets more sinister and terrifying than any nightmare: the rocking chair in the nursery of the deserted Eel Marsh House, the eerie sound of pony and trap, a child's scream in the fog, and, most dreadfully, and for Kipps most tragically, the woman in black.
The Woman In Black is both a brilliant exercise in atmosphere and controlled horror and a delicious spine-tingler - proof positive that that neglected genre, the ghost story, isn't dead after all.
Customer Reviews:
Truly Chilling Ghost Story.......2007-09-13
This short novel (138 pages including black and white illustrations by John Lawrence) packs some real chills. The ghost story takes place in a remote British marshlands village and surrounding area during the dreary month of November in an unspecified year this reader thinks is probably somewhere around 1920. The story is told is told by a middle aged Arthur Kipps who at the beginning of the book is a happily married stepfather and stepgrandfather to several children. The telling of ghost stories by his family prompts his to write down the tale of his own brush with the spirit world and the personal tragedy it caused him.
When Arthur was a young man of 23 and a fledgling London solicitor he was sent to attend the funeral and see to the affairs of an old woman client who had died in a remote village. After arriving in the town and stating his business he soon discovered there was something sinister attached to everything about the recently deceased Mrs. Drablow. At the funeral he first saw a ghastly looking "woman in black" and more chilling encounters with this strange figure followed. Arthur (and the reader) eventually learn the woman's story and the havoc her malicious bitterness creates for those who encounter it. And in the closing pages we discover what the black clad woman's revenge has cost Arthur himself.
Though first published relatively recently (in 1983) the book is skillfully written in the vein of a 19th century gothic novel. Other reviewers have compared it to Jane Austen but I feel it is more in the style of one of the Bronte sisters and the setting in the marshes recalls Dickens' GREAT EXPECTATIONS. The brevity of the novel and the chilling subject matter are reminiscent of James' THE TURN OF THE SCREW though this book leaves no ambiguity as to the supernatural nature of the eerie happenings.
Classic spooky ghost story loaded with atmosphere.......2007-09-02
If you like a classic ghost story, rich in gothic atmosphere and that tingling sense of dread, you'll love this short novel by author Susan Hill. Written in a 19th century literary style with a modern sensibility, it has the kind of "Turn of the Screw" mood which I found a perfect antidote to the "yet another serial killer" novels that abound. (Not that I don't love a good serial killer story too!)This is a great story for a stormy evening, tucked up in bed!
Classic Ghost Story .......2007-05-15
Excellent ghost story I've seen the movie and the play in London, so naturally I had to read the book, Susan Hill writes a wonderful story of the Eel Marsh house, and the mysterious recluse a dead Mrs. Drablow, who, along with the nearby town, is haunted by the woman in black. Everyone in the village is tightlipped to an unfortunate solicitor who is charged with going over all of Mrs. Drablow's papers to her estate. Upon his arrival he senses something is a bit odd in this town, maybe country people are just a bit different or maybe they are too scared to talk about the woman in black, either case he will soon discover what is haunting this village to silence, a family secret that turned into a hateful evil presence that touches all who wonder into the marsh, with a tragic ending.
where's the scary part?.......2007-02-27
this is probably a case where reading the reviews caused me to have unreasonable expectations. I thought this book would be really imaginative and scary. it was a good read but then i came to the end and was still waiting for something exciting to happen. I seriously think i could have read it by candlelight sitting in my house alone during a thunder storm and never looked over my shoulder once.
An Old English Ghost Tale.......2007-01-24
A story of rainy, salt-spray marshes, twisted lives, and tragic deaths. The most frightening aspect of this story is what is implied...not stated. A great, quick read for grown-ups, and teens as well.
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Customer Reviews:
great book, timeless advice.......2007-01-18
I bought this book several years ago and enjoyed it then. I was in my home library and decided to revisit it because it was such a good read. As with any book it could use updating on the examples but the advice is solid and covers a broad range of topics. I think any woman, young or old, will benefit from the concepts in the book. It's not a one sized fits all type of book with regards to advice on dating a black man as there are some situations that are unique to the black male experience and black culture in general but I will say that the book can probably help you in a relationship with any man. I recommend this to anyone who wants to know better and do better in their relationship with a black man!
Awesome Book.......2005-09-19
Very good book to read. A woman can get a good glimpse at do's and dont's in relationships. Black men are special and need special attention. [A message to Black women; know your power to influence, positive change, in the lives of Black men but never abuse it. Be patient, and don't expect change over night.]
Gain a New Perspective on Your Relationships.......2004-11-28
I am a white woman dating a black man. Although I do not usually read relationship advice books, I decided to purchase this book after reading some articles of Dr Ronn Elmore's. I was not disappointed. This book is filled with wonderful and practical advice to help you have healthy and fulfilling relationships. This is not a book about pleasing a man, it is very much focused on achieving a healthy balance in your relationship. The book is well-written with clear examples and suggestions for acting on the advice contained. Each piece of advice is given its own section so it's easy to refer back to the "Satisfaction Actions" that are pertinent to you. The advice will not only help you in your relationships with black men, some of it will be useful in other relationships and other areas of your life. I highly recommend this book.
I love YOU, Ronn Elmore!.......2004-06-09
I'm not black, or a woman, or a gay man, but still -- WHAT A BOOK! I received "How To Love A Black Man" by mistake when I ordered E.J. Fienner's new novel about farm life in rural Manitoba in the 1930s, and I was halfway through it before I realized I'd gotten the wrong book! It changed my life! Ronn Elmore has done women and gay men (of ALL colors) a great service.
There is always room for Improvement........2004-02-23
Even if you already have a wonderful relationship this book can still do wonders. Not only do you gain insight to yourself you also find those little secrets to help you go above and beyond. You can make a mediocre relationship into the dream you have always wanted.
Book Description
Ever wonder why some women seem to get all the men? Even the ones who are no where near as good looking as you? Wondering what it is they've got that you don't? They're tuned into their SENSUALITY, meaning they're in tune with their senses, their body, and they know how to receive and give pleasure. Men can intuitively spot these women, and they're drawn to them like flies to honey. And boy do these women know how to dish out the honey! These are The Sensuous Black Women, and you can join their number by reading "The Guide To Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman (And Drive Men Wild In And Out Of Bed!)"
Tips Include:
-How To Attract A Man From Across The Room!
-Been Bad While He's Been Away? Tighten It Up So He'll Never Know!
-Want Your Man To Taste You Down There? Make It Tasty!
- Put His Condom On Him For Him - Using Your Mouth!
- Exercise Your Way To A Bigger And Better Orgasm
There have been other books written about sensuality, but none that have been so all encompassing, and absolutely NONE written specifically for the Black Woman. In writing "The Guide To Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman (And Drive Your Man Wild In And Out Of Bed!)" the spectacular "Miss T." has done a service for Black Women everywhere!
Customer Reviews:
You will read this book over and over.......2007-09-30
This book was off the hook. Did not think a book like this existed until I found it on Amazon. I don't usually leave reviews but I had to! Miss T. definitely knows what she's talking about. There are alot of great tips in here for the bedroom that will definitely blow men away but not only that. I really feel that my confidence has been boosted, in terms of how I feel about myself as woman (a sensuous one!) If you wanna find out how to please a man (even more) and what keeps them comin for more read this book!
Couldn't get more detailed than this... EXCELLENT READ.......2007-07-25
I received this book in the mail in the evening on 7/23 and finished it the next morning. It was hella good! If you've never "turned a man COMPLETELY out," that's all about to change! Sista girl shares blow by blow tips, tricks and techniques on how to send your man home with a smile EVERYTIME. I highly recommend this book for inexperienced and "seasoned" lovers alike, as it has something in it for EVERONE. $10.00?? The info in this book is PRICELESS. I'm glad to have found it!
Finally a sex book for black women!.......2007-05-20
What I like most about this book is its conversational tone. It was like talking to a close girlfriend who was giving you advice on what to do to spice up your sex life. I was a little skeptical at first, but I have actually tried some of the things in her book and they worked! Miss T really outdid herself and I look forward to reading other items by this author!
Just okay.......2007-05-14
If you've been raised from your childhood to be comfortable in your own skin-becoming sensuous may not be an issue for you. However, if you do not know the power of your womanhood regardless of what you look like-this book may be the light and the truth for you. Too much focus on what you can get materialistically from the opposite sex once you become "sensuous".
Pleasure.......2007-03-20
This book is informative, humorous, and extremely well written. I love Miss T's candid and sometimes brutally honest approach to educating one on how to "improve" one's technique. You are never to old/young to be taught new/improved skills.
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- Get Out of That Pit: Straight Talk about God's Deliverance
- Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
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