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Need help with your kids? Learn how to parent with love and logic and be amazed at the great results! Now with a new look and updated content, readers will enjoy passing along this best-kept parenting secret to their friends.
Customer Reviews:
Fabulous Book.......2007-10-05
This book was recommended to me by a newly married woman with stepchildren. I, at the time, was dating a woman with children (none of my own). I was having a difficult time being an 'instant father', and didn't know what to do half the time. I loved this book, and used the information daily. When I am around children now, I still use the information in the book. When I have children of my own, you better believe I'll be re-reading this one. (I also bought this book for my brother)
A MUST-HAVE!.......2007-09-19
There are not enough good things to say about this book. I have it in conjunction with Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood and contrary to some other reviewers, I love having them both together.
I can't recommend this parenting technique enough. I have a 2 year old boy and we started using love and logic principles just after his 2nd birthday. What a difference it made in us all!!! Just like the authors say - it puts the fun back in being a parent. We are always getting comments on his calm demeanor and our ability to always be patient.
If you or someone you know is struggling with a child, toddler to preteen, this book will change the family for the better. It gives you the exact things to say in all kinds of situations, in fact half to book is dedicated to doing just that. This book gives you the tools to restore peace, happiness, hope, order and fun back into your home. I'm so thankful for this book!
THE best parenting book ever.......2007-09-18
All my friend and I SWEAR by this book. This my not be the ONLY book you need, but it surely is one key book you MUST have. Extremely practical - there are actual cases and actual phrases to use, while explaining the philosophy behind the approach. This is the ultimate "how to" book on raising responsible, moral, kind children who understand cause and effect! It also takes the "you vs me" out of it and teaches children that their choices and actions have consequences. As a Christian, it sits well with me. It is especially excellent with defiant or contrary children, and children raise in foster homes or others who have attachment challenges.
Best parenting book my wife and I have found.......2007-09-03
This is an excellent book on parenting, the best my wife and I have found. The principles work very well - we wish we had found it earlier. We and our children are much happier after using this book.
This is very sound parenting. This book teaches you how to raise responsible children who think about the consequences of their actions. It teaches principles and gives you strategies to help your children anticipate the real consequences of their actions - a good thing to learn when you're still a child and "the price tag is still low."
This book is not the draconian book that some negative reviewers have interpretted it to be. The authors advocate genuine compassion for children who experience realistic consequences to their bad choices. It is true that the principles in this book likely require more work on the part of the parent than other approaches.
Regarding whether this book advocates corporal punishment - it does not. Page 221 from the 2006 edition:
"Spankings ... give kids a quick escape from the responsibility of living with a bad choice. Instead of having to live with consequences and think about solutions, youngsters have a brief moment of pain, and then they're off the hook."
"The original edition of this book advocateded the use of spanking in limited, controlled situations. However, as we have grown in our professions and as more valid research has become available, we have changed our postion. There are many good reasons to avoid the use of spankings...[list follows]."
Sick authors.......2007-08-30
Any author who presents themselves as wanting to help children and then advocates corporal punishment is a sociopath at worst or terribly misguided at best. They should never yield power over someone smaller or weaker than themselves. Maybe the authors need to be physically bullied (ex. spanked) by someone 100+ lbs bigger than them so they can feel what a child feels when some stupid or gullible adult follows their advice. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Parents and caregivers- please think long and hard before you hit the children who are depending on you for love and protection. There are much better ways of discipling children. Learn them.
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The mother sings to her sleeping baby: "I'll love you forever / I'll love you for always / As long as I'm living / My baby you'll be." She still sings the same song when her baby has turned into a fractious 2-year-old, a slovenly 9-year-old, and then a raucous teen. So far so ordinary--but this is one persistent lady. When her son grows up and leaves home, she takes to driving across town with a ladder on the car roof, climbing through her grown son's window, and rocking the sleeping man in the same way. Then, inevitably, the day comes when she's too old and sick to hold him, and the roles are at last reversed. Each stage is illustrated by one of Sheila McGraw's comic and yet poignant pastels. (Ages 4 to 8) --Richard Farr
Book Description
A young woman holds her newborn son
And looks at him lovingly.
Softly she sings to him:
"I'll love you forever
I'll like you for always
As long as I'm living
My baby you'll be."
So begins the story that has touched the hearts of millions worldwide. Since publication in l986, Love You Forever has sold more than 15 million copies in paperback and the regular hardcover edition (as well as hundreds of thousands of copies in Spanish and French).
Firefly Books is proud to offer this sentimental favorite in a variety of editions and sizes:
We offer a trade paper and laminated hardcover edition in a 8" x 8" size.
In gift editions we carry:
a slipcased edition (8 1/2" x 8 1/4"), with a laminated box and a cloth binding on the book
and a 10" x 10" laminated hardcover with jacket.
And a Big Book Edition, 16" x 16" with a trade paper binding.
Customer Reviews:
I agree - this book is for warped minds.......2007-10-16
I was given this book and only recently got around to reading it to my children (we have lots of books to get through!). It starts out cute, and very quickly declines in to "strange behaviour". I'm a mother of 4 children whom I love dearly, and I do NOT want them to think that I'll be sneaking in to their homes later in life whilst they sleep. How creepy is that. And I really hope my son does not grow as a man who sleeps with his teddy and sucks his thumb. I'm shocked this book was published. Hollywood could make a really creepy movie out of this one.
Didn't like the message.......2007-10-12
This book is very popular with my husbands family so I got it at my baby shower - I didn't like it a bit. Infact I got rid of it. I think any mom that is driving across down to climb up a ladder and into a window to rock her son to sleep is just strange!! I was fine with the book until I saw the picture of her in the car with the ladder on top. I just find that creepy. I won't be reading this to my son and I dread the day I have to tell my inlaws not to read it to him either. Its just creepy!
This is a Top Ten Creepy Children's Book.......2007-10-03
This starts off kind of cute. The mother has a child in her arms and she tells him, "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living my baby you'll be." As an expression of a parent's unconditional love it's a great little saying from a mother to her son. And then you turn the pages, the kid gets older, and the you see the mom sneaking into the teenage son's bedroom and repeating the mantra. It seems a little Oedipus, as I'd not really like to think about my mom sneaking into my room when I was a teenager but ok, still kind of cute.
Then the son gets married and moves away. Happy ending? Not exactly. Now the mother straps a ladder to her car, drives across town, and breaks into the son's house, sneaks into his bedroom and while he's sleeping with his wife next to him tells him "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living my baby you'll be." Ok, having seen Psycho, I have to say I'm a bit disturbed. This continues through the son's life, until the mother is dying, and the son repeats her mantra back to her.
The last page in the book shows the son, cradling his newborn, repeating his mother's mantra to the baby, and the cycle repeats. If this were a movie, I would have expected the creepy horror music to well up, have the son look into the camera and start an evil cackle as the picture faded to black.
A comfort.......2007-10-03
It was my Kindergarten teacher who introduced me to this book when I was about five years old. It was a hard time for me at that age because my mom was gone a lot but this book made it a little easier. The song "I'll love you forever" still rings true today and occasionally I even get a little misty eyed. Looking back I remember singing it to my grandmother who couldn't help the tears that filled her eyes and a slight smile on her face when she hugged me "Your right little one and it will never change". It's a comforting book about love between parents and yes even grandparents that passes on generation to generation.
This is one of my favorite children's books and will remain so. However I believe that sadly now we are becoming more and more politically correct and thats unfortunately effecting our children's books. Judge for yourself but remember that sometimes if you look to closely you lose the magic completely :)
I love my mom.......2007-09-28
This book is has impacted me in such a way, and from such an early age, that it will resonate forever.
It is only a sad book if you don't know how to celebrate the life of a loved one. I think it's good for children to question the lessons of this book.
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Every day headlines are filled with examples of narcissistic individuals in positions of power who are nothing more than impostors plundering and wrecking havoc on the lives of others. From the corporate moguls of Enron and WorldCom to the clergy leaders of the Catholic Church, we daily encounter narcissists and the self-serving systems that enable them. Helping people reclaim their lives from this sinister exploitative force is the mission behind Payson's book, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family. Using simple metaphors from the American classic, The Wizard of Oz, Payson illustrates how Dorothy's journey captures all the seductive illusions and challenges that occur when we encounter the narcissist. Empowering the reader with the ABCs of unhealthy narcissism and the unique problems that occur when a person becomes involved with the narcissist, Payson gives step-by-step practical tools to identify, protect, and heal from these destructive relationships. Largely un-addressed in the psychology and self-help literature, this ground breaking book offers hope and help to those who have been drawn into these devastating relationships. She includes illuminating case studies that identify the problems that occur in the different types of relationships, from co-workers, to friends, to parents, to lovers. Readers employing these insights and skills will find new abilities to identify and protect against the narcissist's manipulations and take back control of their lives.
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Lightbulb moments!.......2007-10-05
The recent demise of a particularly confounding romantic relationship sent me looking to purchase my very first "self-help" book. Most of the time, people make sense to me. However, a year's worth of WTF? with this person really had me confused, as I'd never met someone quite so self-obsessed, empathy-free, and with a hair trigger temper if his knowledge/opinion was questioned. This book was really a lightbulb moment for me-- it really put into context not only his confounding behavior/actions, but also my inexplicable responses/behavior that were, frankly, not the me I thought I was. It's been an eye-opening experience to understand the overt narcissist/co-dependent relationship, and to see how I have been in this same dance (in subtle and not-so-subtle ways) a number of times with friends, family, and at work. Some of these relationships I could (and did) walk away from. For those that I feel I can't (family, co-workers), this really gave me the knowledge to understand the dynamic and deal with it effectively, rather than continue to get emotionally caught up in the situation and, ultimately, give the narcissistic personality the "knee-jerk" reaction that s/he thrives on.
The reviews really sold me on this book, and I certainly was not disappointed (in spite of my cynicism). Very well written, very highly recommended!
Helpful but specific.......2007-10-02
A friend was brave and wise enough to tell me she thought my adult sibling has this disorder. For years our family has been wondering about my sibling's difficult personality, focus on self, and lack of compassion for the rest of us. We have been living a life of self-blame and wondering what we did wrong. Receiving a "diagnosis" of NPD is like someone finally opening the window in a very stuffy room.
This book is good, but it makes for slightly more difficult reading than books such as the more colloquial _Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist_. However, if you already know for sure that someone has NPD and are looking for answers to "what do I do?" instead of the "why," a book on setting boundaries might be more helpful--most books on NPD end up pointing you in that direction, anyway, but without much guidance themselves on the subject.
Unfortunately, most books on NPD (such as this one) seem to be about one or more of three relationships; an NPD: parent, boss, or spouse/significant other. It may be difficult for those of us who don't fit this mold to glean useful information from books which break down the NPD person into specific roles.
I also question the author's advice to write a letter to someone with NPD. A parent and I have been in correspondence many times with my sibling, and have always been surprised at how easily my sibling can misconstrue the written word, only to turn it around into a quick (or long) attack. Writing to my sibling is a scary endeavor. However, that's hopefully the only advice that seemed like it might backfire so severely, so most of the book is truly helpful and informative--especially if this topic/diagnosis is a new one.
Wizard of Oz, & other narcisists.......2007-08-07
Straightforwardly laid out with a crystal clear logic. I only wish I could have read this book 20 years ago. It would have saved me much heart-ache & confusion.
Narcissism, a how (not) to book.......2007-07-14
This book was a very in-depth study of the narcissistic personality disorder. It taught me how to recognize the pitfalls in dealing with narcissistic people, and how to manage your own behavior when embroiled in a personal/professional relationship with individuals suffering with this disorder.
Depends on what you are seeking.......2007-07-05
I am an adult child of a narcissistic parent. I found chapters 1 - 5 very interesting with a fascinating take on how different children within the same family can receive somewhat different abuse from a NPD parent and/or how those children respond to their individualized suffering. I found this book as helpful (but no more helpful) than the two others I had read in providing strategies to limit NPD abuse. From Chapter 6 on (roughly the last third of the book), the book was of limited use to me as it talked about having an NPD individual in an intimate love relationship or a social/professional relationship. I finished the book, but realized that for my purposes I had really finished it after Chapter 5.
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If alcoholics and addicts won't accept help until they are ready, what gets them ready? This book provides an answer in clear and concise terms. Dispelling two damaging myths - that an addict has to hit bottom and that intervention must be confrontational - the authors' proven approach puts love first and shows families, step by step, what to do next.
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Great .......2007-07-24
This book is great for anyone interested in learning about addiction. It gives a well rounded and educated approach for an intervention. Although, I would probably use more books than just this for a reference if you're going to try an intervention, but that is just from experience.
Hazelden?? Be Very Afraid.........2007-04-21
If you have an addiction...Dont choose Hazelden as a place to start your recovery. I'm a Graduate of Tiebout and stayed at the Hotel Jelinek. They will try to brainwash you by using meds.
Immeasurable!.......2007-04-10
This book is an INCREDIBLE help - even if you don't end up doing an intervention for your loved one. It's title derives from the term "Tough Love," and theorizes putting LOVE FIRST. It gives clear and concise explanations of every aspect of addiction and treatment to those who aren't quite understanding the whole picture. If you are, or are dealing with, friends and/or family of an addict, this book is a must-read. If you do choose to do an intervention, it gives step-by-step instruction on how to do it with love, and includes all the organizational tools you'll need.
Love First.......2007-01-19
This is a very good book. If you have anyone in your life who has an addiction that is out of control, you should read this and take action immediately. This book gives you all of the tools you need to plan an intervention and get treatment for the addiction.
A Godsend.......2007-01-04
Our intervention group followed the suggestions for a successful intervention to the letter. This was a valuable guide. Our intervention was successful, and I believe a huge part of that success came from the "how to" format presented in this text. The book provided answers for every possible scenario and explained the logic behind the recommendations.
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You don't have to dread the teenage years! Learn how to parent your teens without nagging or yelling and prepare them for a responsible adulthood.
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A How-To Book for Parenting Teens!.......2007-08-13
In today's complex world, it is harder and harder to know what to do to maintain better relationships with our teens as well as to guide them appropriately. This book is a must for anyone who finds themselves at a loss by the challenges of the teen years, especially given the changes in our contemporary lives.
A book and a philosophy admired by counselors in this area.......2007-07-05
The Love and Logic series has been greatly appreciated and used by a number of counselors in the southwest Missouri area. I find this book especially helpful not only for restructuring the behavior of one's own children, but for helping to create a win-win sitution for teenage students. It also makes a great gift for friends and family who are looking for new ways to lovingly outsmart.
Ann L. Allman, Ed.D.
excellant book.......2007-05-13
I have just started this book and am nearly done with the new edition of Parenting with love and logic. This book was recommended my my childs vice pricipal at school. It has been a big help. It isn't easy working with teens especially if the parent has been doing things differently most their lives and to try to retrain as a parent and also the child is hard work and persistance consistance is the name of the game! Always remember, it's NEVER too later to try something new.
Parenting Teens With Love And Logic.......2007-04-03
This book was very informative. The techniques the authors describe are effective, and easy to implement. The effort required is well worth it if you are truly interested in changing your teen's behavior.
The last chapter of the book contains what the authors describe as pearls. They are great dialog starters for tough subjects like sex drugs and money.
The only thing I would change about this book; is buying it thirty years earlier, when I raised my first teenager.
This book should be called "White Middle-Upper Class Christian Parenting with Love & Logic".......2007-03-21
Bluntly put, I found this book over generalized, arrogant, assuming and idealizing. The use of behaviorist techniques is the book's single redeeming quality, offering a small peak into the world of behavioral therapy and its effectiveness when working with teens. Even still, parents would be much better off buying a book on behaviorism than reading the repetitive stories and dialogs between parents and teens.
In terms of ethnicity, race and religious views, the book does not apply cross-culturally. Race and ethnicity are never addressed; two topics that have play a significant role in child rearing. The name of the book is not Christian Parenting Teens With Love & Logic, but it should be. Constant references to God, Christ and The Bible are made and cited as sources for how to be a good parent. A good researcher and author acknowledges their bias at the beginning of a book, but Foster Cline and Jim Fay fail to do so. "It is ok to express the desire to our children that they lead a heterosexual life. Christ's message in the new testament is very clear : God's children are all and equally loved." The author's religious beliefs so heavily saturate the information presented that it is clear they cannot separate their personal biases or even acknowledge the existence of them. The religious stereotypes are appalling, saying that parents should watch out for teens who, "wear black clothes and jewelry with inverted pentacles", that they suggest involvement in satanic activity. However, when I was a teenager, all of my friends and I wore black and studied unique religions and spiritual systems. None of us were satanic or involved in cults; we were artists. This is yet another example of how the authors stereotype and force their personal ignorant beliefs on the reader.
In terms of gender, Parenting Teens With Love & Logic does a superficial job of addressing the topic. Changes that occur in boys and girls are lightly discussed. This is a recurrent issue throughout the book- it touches only briefly on every topic and never goes into detail. While sex and gender are two different topics, it is important to look at how the author addresses both.
If I had to pick one reason, of many, why I would not recommend this book to a client or friend, the discussion of sex and sexuality would be it. The authors personal beliefs about sexuality and premarital sex are so deeply ingrained in each word of this book that Cline and Fay's message is crystal clear: premarital sex is wrong and you should only have sex with one person, your spouse, or else you will get an STD, AIDS, or have issues with fertility later on. Sweeping generalizations and simply inaccurate statements are made in reference to how boys and girls view sex. "A girl usually regards sex as being closely related to reproduction. A guy usually considers sex a physical and emotional release." Not one female I spoke with would concur with this statement, rather they all passionately disagreed and deemed the author arrogant and challenged the statement as an old fashioned myth not in any way applicable to women today.
In summary, the pitfalls of Parenting With Love & Logic far outweigh the few pearls of behaviorist wisdom. As a professional I would not recommend or cite this book as a good source for parenting skills or wisdom, but rather as a superficial, inadequate and biased book that ought to be re-titled. Parenting books that claim to hold no ethnic or religious affiliation should contain only information, research, and techniques, not personal opinions. As previously stated, Parenting With Love & Logic is not one of these books.
If you really want to have some fun though, do a little research on Foster Cline...had I done it before I would not have bought this book.
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- opened my eyes
- Where is it, when will I get to read it.
- Still struggling with how much this concept applies in my own life
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The author of the bestselling Facing Codependence unravels the intricate dynamics of toxic love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. In this revised and updated edition of Facing Love Addiction, internationally recognised dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody clearly outlines the debilitating 'toxic' patterns played out by love addicts and the unresponsive love avoidants to whom they are painfully and repeatedly drawn.
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opened my eyes.......2007-09-30
This book helped me to see my dangerous 'love addict' patterns that prevent me from having a fulfilling relationship. Men always think I'm sweet and kind, I didn't realize how much of a doormat I was allowing myself to be until I read this book and saw my patterns I've been living in the relationships I've had for tha last 12 years!
Now I am armed with knowledge about how destructive my love addict actions have been, I've joined a program suggested by this book and am on the road to my recovery.
One interesting pattern in this book is that of the love addict when they are involved with the love averse. My last relationship was with this type of man and it ended in absolute disaster and heartbreak. This book has given me insight and hope for one day being the "type" of person who will attract a genuine and loving man once I am healed and ready for the type of relationship I truly deserve.
Where is it, when will I get to read it........2007-09-03
This item has still not arrived, where is it please! I can't get through to anyone to find out where the hell it is. Help.
Still struggling with how much this concept applies in my own life.......2007-07-30
This was the second book by Pia Mellody that I've read. In it she defines who a love addict is as well as the type of person such an addict latches on to (the love avoidant), she describes the addictive process created between the two, the recovery process and what a healthy relationship looks like.
I was less thrilled about this book than either of the other ones (Facing Codependence, The Intimacy Factor) not because it's less good in any way but because I'm (thank the goddesses) only slightly love addicted (lol), I think.
What the book did for me was that it made me more aware of dysfunctional patterns in my love life. Some areas of my relationship are very functional but others aren't and now I have a better understanding of how they work the way they do and why.
It was also very interesting to learn that you can be both a love addict and a love avoidant in your relationship depending on the situation at hand.
Pia also gives many guidelines on how to act. Becoming aware of a problem doesn't mean you see a solution. Therefore Pia explains how to deal with the urge to fall back into your old behaviors and I find these steps work to address any kind of issue. She explains how to make requests and how to deal with your emotions.
Besides those strategies I just mentioned I valued the book most for the depiction of what a healthy relationship should look like and Pat Mellody's essay on unrealistic expectations. I found myself struggling with the question of what are realistic and unrealistic expectations. How well does your partner have to meet your needs to qualify as the one you want to stand by? How little does your partner need to meet your needs to qualify? When is it ok to want more? When is enough?
If I hadn't known already what codependence is I would not have gotten the message of this book. I didn't consider myself love addicted and still struggle with the concept for myself. It's not that the book isn't well written but that I believe one has to be open to its message that makes me suggest reading The Intimacy Factor and then Facing Codependence first before reading this book.
great!!!.......2007-07-20
Honeslty I didnt think I was a "Love addict " until I finished this book. It was a suggestion made by a close friend. And so I did this book and figured out I was because, yes some didnt apply BUT MOST of it did. Even if you do not have a addition to love it helps with relationships. I highly think this book works for everyone
challenging reading for me.......2007-07-03
I think I must have been in some resistance/denial place the first time I read this book, I kept thinking "this doesn't apply to me" and "that bit doesn't apply to my husband". I'm glad I gave it another read as it all fell into place the second time around.
She gives a different take on co-dependence than I'd read from other books, I thought I'd worked through that stuff but it seemed I had a whole bunch more to look at. Ouch.
Another great aspect of the book is the clear and detailled description of what a healthy relationship looks like; someone with love addiction problems didn't get to see that in their family of origin and the dysfunctional relationship feels normal.
Recommended reading (by me) if these are your issues.
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Release Date: 2006-07-06 |
Book Description
This revolutionary guide offers an alternative to stumbling blindly, outlining the ideal mindset for confident men and opening a new era in men\'s perception of dating and interacting with women.
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Finally, a book that allows us men to remain men while still pursuing a healthy relationship with women........2007-07-31
I read this book over and over again while highlighting and taking notes. In the first chapter I was able to identify with the author, and acknowledge that I was the type of guy to whom he was referring.
If you are like me, and suddenly lose all sense of self once you meet a woman that intrigues you on all levels, you NEED this book. Most of the content is very relevant to day to day dating, and acts as a quick reference guide to almost any situation. I bought this three months into dating a girl I really like and it immediately helped me overcome certain insecurities while allowing me to still be myself and give the girl I'm dating the ability to choose me. It's refreshing! Finally I understand how to be the "real" me in any dating situation, and how to feel confident no matter what the outcome may be.
I wouldn't recommend this book to men who are looking to just get laid, or who view women as objects. This book is for guys like me, who, believe there is something real out there, and are willing to work hard on themselves and take the necessary time to have "it."
More than dating.......2007-06-12
I agree with much in the positive reviews, such as those by The Capitol and Mr. Maslanka. We can all agree that the world of personal relationships offers a vast subject that no one book - or even many - can or will ever cover completely. Furthermore, the tips and tricks change as the culture changes: what's in this book would have been inappropriate in 1900 and may be outdated by 2010 (who knows?) So dating books are a bit like the blind men and the elephant - everyone knows something, no one has the full picture. But this short tome offers an excellent, succinct approach that promotes honest and direct communication with the object(s) of your affections. Each chapter deals with a different dimension of the dating relationship, and offers a clearly defined method for 'managing' it. The approach permits - even encourages - honest self-evaluation, improvement and growth with integrity. That's a lot better than macho methods that retail themselves like dimestore aphrodisiacs. The book could also be read profitably for advice on communication generally - with friends or family or in business. Like other things, it will be an amusing, idle read for those who do not put its lessons into practice. Those who do, however, will be well-positioned to learn interesting, positive things about themselves and how they relate to others.
All News is Good News.......2007-05-13
The more I read thees books the more value they have to business. A client, ceo of a small company, once told me that ,in business, all news is good news---you must know where you stand and the context you are operating in. True in business, and---as Fenton demonstrates---true in dating. Find out at the outset if there is any interest and,if not, move on. One other example. I try lawsuits and when you do, a key is to empower the jury to decide so that their answers come from them, from the bottom up, not imposed by you, from the top down. Fenton uses the "Opening No" technique where he advises that empowering a woman by telling her, upfront, that a "no, I am not interested" is OK. This takes off the pressure(on both her as well as the male) , making room for considered and, yes, ethical decision making.There is other good stuff, boiled down to 127 pages.
a clear, concise start for anyone looking to improve in the dating game........2007-02-20
When I first purchased this book, I was purchasing it for the sheer hell of it as I had bought about 5-6 other books on the wide world of dating. Fenton lies out a clear, concise formula for greater success with women both on the first date and after the first date. This isn't a pickup book though, there are no clever lines or strategies to get to that first date, although you could apply some of the first date techniques to pre-first dates as well. There are no magical spots to meet women here, when to call, etc. However, it is a book that will explain a great deal of misconceptions many guys, including myself, have about women and what buttons to push and not to push for gaining that compatibility factor with any woman. More importantly, this book gives you the right mindset in dealing with the opposite sex. Perhaps, that's more important than many of these "pickup 101" and "where and how to seduce women" books. Because if you don't have the right mindset, you can read the player books all you want, but it won't make a damn bit of difference if you lack confidence and the right frame of mind around women. That being said, the four star rating is largely due to the fact that some scenarios the author envisions, I just can't see happening too often. The wording that Fenton suggests in some scenarios seems a little too wordy and almost without a doubt, forced in some cases. Overall, a solid book and I'd recommend "always talk to strangers" by David Wygant for a solid pair of books on the enormous realm of dating.
READS LIKE A UNIVERSITY THESIS ON MALE/FEMALE DYNAMICS..........2007-01-30
... and obviously a great deal of thought went into the analysis of every aspect of the female psyche during the writing of this book, which ironically represents the biggest problem your average frustrated chump encounters when trying to meet women - overanalyzing something that should be fairly simple if you're a guy with a cool vibe who's got his act together.
Although I haven't written a book on the subject (yet), my belief is that playful flirting - without serious intent and being indifferent as to the outcome - is always the best approach. Just play it cool, keep it light and go with the flow. Do this consistently and you will achieve positive results.
But if your real problem isn't so much meeting women as much as being the guy who always seems to find himself suffering from migraines due to high-maintenance relationships with difficult/demanding women expecting you to supplicate to them (ie: typical North American ballbreakers with entitlement complexes and/or attitude problems), maybe it's time to think outside the box and consider a more global perspective... perhaps finding a kinder, gentler kind of woman with a sweet disposition and nurturing instinct, like an Oriental woman from the Philippines, or a sexy and passionate South American female who can appreciate a man who makes no apologies for being one (hello, Rio de Janeiro) might be the cure for what ails you... if you'll open your mind to the possibilities, there's many other very appealing options out there that you're missing out on.
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How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You: The Fail-Proof, Fool-Proof Method
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Forget about learning how to make love to a man. First you have to learn how to make a man fall in love with you.
Customer Reviews:
Heard it all before! .......2007-10-02
I would say, don't bother with this book. First of all it's jam packed, the print is tiny and its just an endless stream of sentences so you get bored and loose track and its just a pain! Then the information in the book is pretty useless It has a lot to do with old fashioned seduction techniques which men see through a mile away and has absolutely nothing to do with the magic ingredient that actually makes people fall in love with each other. I think to be honest if someone ever found out what that magic ingredient was they'd bottle it and be world famous by now! The truth is, you can seduce anyone into liking you or fancying you, but 'love', 'real love' I don't think so! Obsession and dependence perhaps... but do you really want that?
Great Book!.......2007-09-06
Another new best seller that I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
Outstanding!.......2007-08-14
This is great book. Every woman should read it. You will be surprised how iformative this book is!
But you must read another new besteller which I highly recommend - "How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You" by Mandy Simons
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Not what it claims--how to REALLY do it.......2006-12-31
As a person who loves the dating/relationship genre, let me assure you that there are MUCH better books out there. This book repackages the techniques usually recommended to salesmen--mirroring the other person in order to build rapport, and "speaking in their language." And that's exactly what you'll be doing--selling a falsified version of yourself in a marginally effective and pretty awkward way. (In spite of her exuberantly triumphant intro, Tracy Cabot is now divorced. I imagine it was hard to sustain this manufactured "bond" for very long.)
If you really want to learn about love languages, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman is much better. It will teach you how to truly interpret and sincerely relate to expressions of love between you and your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner. And if you want to make a man fall in love with you, "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov is hands-down the best. It takes the also-fabulous prinicples behind "The Rules" (which have worked for me beautifully) and makes them practicable for the modern and/or professional woman. (I highly recommend The Rules--loosely interpreted--as well). You can read any of these books in 2-3 hours. I have read the latter two more times than I can count.
If after reading Why Men Love Bitches and The Rules, you haven't solved your dating problems, you probably need to read "He's Just Not That Into You"--which is not about dating as much as it is about recognizing the excuses women make for men when the truth isn't what we want. (Gems include "No, he's not too busy to call you. Calling you takes less time than going to the bathroom. If he's into you, calling you is the bright moment in his otherwise busy day.") This should definitely help build the correct mentality for expecting--and getting--both interest and great treatment from men.
And, finally, "What Southern Women Know About Flirting" has some tips and ideas that will help anyone, but particularly those inclined to play the "Damsel in Distress" card. This one's just the icing on the cake.
Very different than most relationship advice books........2006-08-23
This book presents a unique approach to snagging guys. It teaches you how to use psychology to your advantage. The author argues that there are 3 types of men: visual, auditory, feelings. You speak to and treat each one differently. For example, when talking to a visual man, you say stuff like, "I SEE why you have that opinion". It makes them think that you really are on the same level and that you understand them. I can see why, from a logical point of view, that her advice and techniques would be successful. I was intrigued very much so by her "method" and have yet to try it for myself. To be honest, it wasn't what I expected. Sometimes, it got too wrapped up in psychology that it started to make relationships a little impersonal and mechanical. Well, at least she has her PH.D., so I guess her approach is accurate. I'd still recommend this, though, if you want a different read.
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Confused about feeding your baby or toddler? Child of Mine, by noted nutritionist Ellyn Satter, is an essential guide for every new parent concerned with nutrition and appetite. Satter's advice is thorough and straightforward: "You can't control or dictate the quantity of food your child eats, and you shouldn't try. You also can't control or dictate the kind of body your child develops, and you shouldn't try. What you can do, and it is a great deal, is set things up for your child so she, herself, can regulate her food intake as well as possible, and so she can develop a healthy body that is constitutionally right for her."
Child of Mine provides information on all aspects of feeding, from pregnancy through the toddler years. Satter begins with historical and social perspectives on infant feeding, describing how formula was developed and discussing the social movement that lead to accepting a child's input into his or her own development. Nutrition during pregnancy, infant feeding, introducing solid foods, building positive eating relationships, and avoiding eating disorders are all discussed. The sections on breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, and on the regulation of food intake (particularly the relationship between parental attitudes and children's eating habits) are especially recommended.
Satter provides specific nutritional information (including charts, diagrams, and nutritional breakdowns) interspersed with a no-nonsense, experienced perspective that will help you establish good eating habits that your children will benefit from long after they're out of diapers. --Ericka Lutz
Book Description
Widely considered the leading book involving nutrition and feeding infants and children, this revised edition offers practical advice that takes into account the most recent research into such topics as: emotional, cultural, and genetic aspects of eating; proper diet during pregnancy; breast-feeding versus; bottle-feeding; introducing solid food to an infant's diet; feeding the preschooler; and avoiding mealtime battles. An appendix looks at a wide range of disorders including allergies, asthma, and hyperactivity, and how to teach a child who is reluctant to eat. The author also discusses the benefits and drawbacks of giving young children vitamins.
Customer Reviews:
Feeding with Love and Good Sense.......2007-09-15
This book is great for parents of infants through preschoolers. It combines information on feeding dynamics, parenting, nutrition, developmental stages of eating and children's behavior. I purchased it to gain more information on feeding as a professional (occupational therapist) and have now started buying it as part of baby gifts. I wish I had it when my kids were babies.
Its great to see clinical 'proofs' that help to build parents confidence.......2007-08-05
Feeding seems to be a very emotional topic for many and parents seem to argue a lot with one another around this topic especially if their child is overweight or underweight. In many cases when talking to other parents you hear "My child is doing just fine and I'm not following the methods in that book", or "Well you grew up fine following my techniques didn't you?" mentalities that will be mirrored in our own beliefs and your own parents.
So what I find extremely useful in this book is the clinical evidence and references to studies presented. Since children even in the same family are different its good to hear the history of the previous century and read about the studies conducted. This scientific approach is helpful in building my confidence in what approaches to use and understanding that the approaches put forward in the book are not just the latest fad but something that has been tested and held up to scrutiny. She also discusses where she has been mistaken herself and is willing to admit her mistakes; mistakes that were proven out through (yes) more clinical studies.
So my advice for those looking at this book is read it with a scientists mindset and not with a mind of 'I bet this book proves my wife is wrong'. If you do this then I'm sure you'll enjoy it and find it useful in removing some of the stress of being a parent.
One more thing; I read one review that read:
"We eat curries, stir-fries, pastas, burritos, and a zillion other things. How could a celebrated nutrition expert have so little clue that lowfat food can be wonderful varied stuff?"
I'm sure this reader is more skilled than I at creating low fat burritos and congratulations are obviously due. However, I think this demonstrates my point in that here is an example of someone reading the book wanting to prove out their own approach and then being disappointed and offended that the book wasn't on their particular line of thinking.
Perfect baby shower gift.......2007-07-14
This book really helped us understand about how to introduce food and feed our children. The information incules everything from nursing and bottle feeding, through feeding during the toddler years. Ellyn Satter's philosophies make sense; they were easy to adapt to our life. We learned how to avoid food battles with our two year old. We wish we would have had this book when our first child came along! We now give it as a baby gift to all our friends.
Good Advice on Bottle Feeding and Starting on Solids.......2007-07-13
As someone who adopted my son at 5 months of age, I really appreciated a book that covered bottle-feeding sensibly without making me feel like my child was actively being harmed by formula or that I was a piece of s#$@ for not being able to breastfeed him. Too many books - particularly those from the attachment parenting realm - lead those of us who are unable to breastfeed to despair for our children's future.
It was also helpful when getting my son started on solids. After about 2 weeks he decided he was not going to let me spoon feed him (batted the spoon away at every opportunity). My instinct was to NOT let him hold the spoon and instead to find creative ways to jam that spoon in his mouth. Without this book, I don't know that I would have realized that he was not rejecting the FOOD, but was just really insistent on feeding himself. With this books tips and suggestions, I was able to find ways to accommodate his desire to self-feed with his lacking motor skills.
Also, my sister is a pediatric nutritionist. She gave me this book and always recommends it to all her patients' families.
child of mine.......2007-04-01
although this book had lots of information i needed more direction and actual meal ideas to get started.
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These bestselling doctors walk you through their ten proven stages to recovery from codependency that results from external circustances. Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played, and important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. The doctors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ Himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead readers through their ten stages of recovery.
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Rev. Fuzzy Lake.......2007-01-11
This is a must read for individuals with codependant issues. It is written from a biblical perspective by three Drs. Is uses scripture all the way through it. It is very easy reading and very simple to understand. The very best book on codependancy I have ever read. I use it to counsel people.
Very helpful without being preachy.......2005-12-28
I found the information in this book very helpful. It is easy to read and understand. It is encouraging. It provides insight into what's going on when you're trying to cast off old ways of living that hold you back.
This book is worth reading, not only for the information to help you grow personally, but to be more aware and understanding of others in your life.
Although the authors may be religious, this does not come across heavily in the book and would not complicate a non-religious person using the information and insights to change things they don't like.
This book really is ground breaking.......2005-06-08
Having been raised in a home with an alcoholic father and abusive parents in general, I was left in a codependant stuper. At thrity-something and after the birth of a fourth child I found myself in a serious depression I couldn't shake. Having gone through years of counseling and having dealt with much of my past, I was suprised to see it creep up again. This book gave me some powerfully accurate information as well as some great tools for dealing with my situation. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to finally be rid of the old tapes in their head.
It certainly is a choice.......2004-03-01
Don't let the title fool you. Although this is a book about dealing with failed adult relationships, the main emphasis in on the phenomena of co-dependency. Unresolved issues of childhood are the primary cause, and Drs Hemfelt, Minnerth and Meier go through many real life case studies that lead the reader to examine their own life, as well as the life of thier "significant other". Realizing how your lowly filled "love tank" is affecting your life is a powerful tool for recovery. Realizing you have a loving heavenly father is a key to recovery as well. I think this book is excellent for anybody experiencing a significant problem with a marriage or other long term relationship.
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