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Here is a completely updated edition of the best-selling Resolving Conflicts at Work. This definitive and comprehensive work provides a handy guide for resolving conflicts, miscommunications, and misunderstandings at work and outlines the authors’ eight strategies that show how the inevitable disputes and divisions in the workplace actually provide an opportunity for greater creativity, productivity, enhanced morale, and personal growth. This new edition includes current case studies that put the focus on leadership, management, and how organizations can design systems to change a culture of avoidance into a culture of creative conflict. The result is a more practical book for today’s companies and the people who work in them.
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Here is a completely updated edition of the best-selling Resolving Conflicts at Work. This definitive and comprehensive work provides a handy guide for resolving conflicts, miscommunications, and misunderstandings at work and outlines the authors eight strategies that show how the inevitable disputes and divisions in the workplace actually provide an opportunity for greater creativity, productivity, enhanced morale, and personal growth. This new edition includes current case studies that put the focus on leadership, management, and how organizations can design systems to change a culture of avoidance into a culture of creative conflict. The result is a more practical book for today's companies and the people who work in them.
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Divorces rarely work out perfectly.
In the real world, divorcing parents are often in conflict, and lots of arguments are the rule, not the exception. "However, if parents continue to argue after the divorce," says Dr. Philip Stahl, "the children will suffer." Stahl knows parents are not perfect, and in this book he shows imperfect parents how to settle their differences in the best interests of their children.
Here at last is a realistic perspective on divorce and its effects on children. PARENTING AFTER DIVORCE features knowledgeable advice from an expert custody evaluator. Packed with real-world examples, this book avoids idealistic assumptions, and offers practical help from divorcing parents, custody evaluators, family court counselors, marriage and family therapists, and others interested in the well-being of children.
Dr. Stahl's advice will help you avoid the dozen most common mistakes that divorcing parents make -- and spare you the emotional and financial damage they can cost you and your children. His 30-point "sample parenting plan" sets a new standard for families who want to bring order out of the usual chaos of parenting after divorce. The chapter, "What Your Kids Really Think," is by itself worth the price of the book.
This is a powerful, practical book that every divorcing parent should read while there's still time to ensure a secure and healthy future for their children.
Customer Reviews:
The only book parents after divorce need!.......2000-10-31
As a child custody evaluator and parent educator, I keep a list of books that are helpful to parents in these tough times. I just re-did my list and moved this book to the #1 spot! It is clearly written and dispenses practical, wise advice in a way that is easy to read and digest. A must buy!
Great Wisdom and Practical Advice.......2000-10-31
Dr. Phillip Stahl's Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children's Needs contains great wisdom about managing the difficult task of co-parenting after divorce. Dr. Stahl offers practical advice, sensitively communicated. Drawing on his own extensive experience counseling patients and his mastery of the literature of child development and the impact of divorce on children, Dr. Stahl's book provides an accessible road map to the millions of Moms and Dads who strive to provide the best parenting for their children after divorce.
Down to Earth Advice for Divorced Parents.......2000-10-24
Dr. Stahl presents practical, easy to understand advice for divorced parents. He takes complicated terms and makes them easy to understand. He gently helps parents take a look at what they are doing to create problems so they do not just blame the other parent. Most importantly, he tells parents how to gain control of their life for their children's sake.In addition, he presents the child's perspective so parents can re-direct their focus to truly meet their children's needs.
A practical approach to parenting which is great for kids.......2000-10-20
Dr. Stahl presents compelling information for divorcing parents which ultimately helps the true victims of a separating family - the children.
Parenting After DIvorce.......2000-10-04
This book is a very practical guide and an easy read for all parents who are separated or divorced. It's non-judgemental and gives real life examples with statements by children that are poignant and descriptive.
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Marriages are under increasing strain these days, with over half of them ending in divorce. Conflict is seen as grounds to end a marriage, rather than an opportunity to grow closer to each other and to God. The Seven Conflicts is an excellent resource for equipping couples to learn to understand the true nature of their conflicts and deal with them in a way that will actually help their marital fulfillment. Couples will learn to identify their mutual dreams, put differences into perspective, understand each other's underlying motives, and work together as partners who are more in love than ever.
Customer Reviews:
Well Worth Reading!.......2006-11-03
We are using this book in a small group at our church. It is an invaluable resource to help not only marrieds who don't know how to handle conflict, but also for anyone -- friends, parents/children because conflict happens there, too. If you strive to apply the principles, you will find your relationships less tense and more fulfilling.
wise, insightful book.......2003-02-14
This is not only a very wise book about marriage, but a book that will help everyone, married or not, to become better at understanding other people. It explores interpersonal dynamics in an insightful and often humorous manner. I'm single, but again and again I had "aha" moments as I thought of various arguments I had had or various arguments my various married friends had had.
The key is that often we don't fight about what we seem to be fighting about. Instead of an argument being about money, for example, it might really be about security: We can't afford that vacation, because we're trying to save for a house or for retirement. It has charts to analyze each spouse's response to the various conflicts, and a wonderful chapter on how to understand and communicate more effectively with the spouse who responds differently to a particular conflict.
A unique feature to this book: Many of the chapters have short summaries (called "quick takes") so that the reader's spouse can get an idea of what has been said without having to read the whole book.
Easily one of the most insightful of the 100 or so books I've read in the last year.
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A proven plan that breaks the conflict cycle, this book is "mandatory reading for every couple that wants to build lasting love"(John Bradshaw).
When fighting breaks out between a husband and wife, the husband's typical reaction is to withdraw, either emotionally or physically. When he does, his wife often becomes more frustrated and angry, which in turn causes the husband to withdraw even more. The fighting escalates with each subsequent outbreak. But it doesn't have to. During her fifteen years of clinical and laboratory research, couples therapist Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D., has developed a proven program that breaks the conflict cycle for ninety percent of the couples who use it. She advises couples to start with a series of cool-down steps and to move on to resolution exercises that will allow them to address difficult issues and subjects in a nonadversarial manner.
Filled with easy-to-follow advice and helpful anecdotes, Turndorf's book gives couples the advice they need to calm an emotional exchange before it becomes a fight. Till Death Do Us Part offers the path to peace that all fighting couples are looking for.
Customer Reviews:
Maximum help with conflict resolution!.......2000-06-28
I just finished devouring this book. Absolutely great stuff. This is the help I needed twenty years ago. Duh! Now I get it! My marriage of 30 years is over BUT maybe this can help me save a one year old relationship that has foundered due to my lack of "conflict resolution" skills. I'm going to re-read this book then do my best to apply what I've learned. (Then I'll read it again).
Fight No More.......2000-04-27
Most "professionals" try to make fighting acceptable in relationships and I think that is to justify their own weaknesses. This book makes a good case that fighting is indeed not healthy, but can cause massive destruction in a relationship. I've never met any couple who characterizes their relationships as "blissful" if they are frequent fighters. I admire Michael Webb, author of The RoMANtic's Guide. He is one of the few professionals who say fighting is harmful but he also gives wonderful ways to fill your relationship with love instead.
Most Enjoyable Self Help Book.......2000-03-25
This self help book is based on the theory that arguments lead to flight-fight behavior in men. Men then become withdrawn and removed. Dr. Turndorf provides suggestions to cool down the "climate" so that they can reapproach each other. This book is packed with humerous anecdotes and case examples. Its a fun read even if you don"t have marital conflict.
Self-help book that shows how to stop marital war.......2000-01-03
This self-help book centers on Dr. Turndoff's twelve-step method to resolve marital conflict before it turns ugly, abusive, and over. The author AKA Dr. Love bases her conflict resolution methodology on research that has led her to conclude, "fighting creates a chemical imbalance in men" that leads to more aggressive and negative behavior. This book provides ways to end or at least reduce the cycle of marital warfare that spirals into divorce, hatred, and often time's leads to physical and mental abuse.
Though the steps seem obvious, it is helpful to see them written in a simple anecdotal manner that most adults can easily follow. The claim of 90% solution using this technique needs proper perspective, as the users will not have Dr. Love to personally guide them. It seems most likely that most relationships spiraling out of control need a third party arbitrator like Dr. Love to help the couple attain consensus rather than conflict. However, this book might prove beneficial to those partnerships not quite down the escalator trying to avoid the ride to marital hell.
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Read this book if you'd like to improve your relationship and communicate better with your boyfriend, lover, or even your next date! You'll learn how to resolve conflicts instead of escalating or retaliating, enhancing the sense of intimacy and love that brought you together in the first place. "Love Between Men is a treasure...Isensee condenses years of clinical expertise of working with gay couples and translates this into a volume that is chock-full of enormously helpful and practical ways for men to look at, understand, and improve their relationships. It is bound to become a classic..."
--Michael Shernoff, ACSW
Customer Reviews:
Cuts Through the Challenges of Relationships.......2006-01-17
"Author and licensed clinical social worker Rik Isensee cuts through the challenges of relationships and demonstrates ways to solve the everyday conflicts that arise in our relationships. He shows us how we can better communicate with our partners to satisfy each other's emotional and sexual needs. This book does more than help couples solve complicated interpersonal problems, it helps them to avoid them."--© zebraz
Excellent Information.......2005-01-27
I read this book when I got involved with my first "serious" relationship after coming out. That was eight years ago and we are still going strong. I am not going to say that this book helped us stay together all these years, but it was the first resource I could read in order to understand how to make sense of my relationship.
good reading.......2000-01-29
this book is actually cool to read, if you need some insight and can't find it on your own this book can probably help.
Good advice that you would maybe get from your parents........1999-04-27
I found this book to very informative and insightful. However I thought that some of the dialougue was hokey. There are alot of different siuations covered from intimacy to loosing your lover to AIDS. If you have ever wondered why you say some of the stupid things you say, this book may hold some answers for you. It has helped my lover and I tremendously. We have learned how to communicate, and work through our differences without arguing.
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The Way of Conflict teaches strategies for using time-tested knowledge and modern techniques to confidently engage in any dispute and reach a balanced resolution. The book integrates the wealth of conflict skills found throughout the world's major religious and indigenous traditions with the latest scientific systems and conflict resolution theory. Using the cross-cultural metaphor of the four natural elements — earth, water, fire, and air — it identifies innate conflicts in personalities and offers productive paths through the chaos of conflict. Combining her extensive experience as a licensed mediator and corporate trainer with insight gained from years of spiritual study, Deidre Combs uses assessment tests, anecdotes from indigenous and religious traditions, and illustrative folktales to show how to quickly assess a conflict and implement an appropriate resolution strategy. The Way of Conflict helps people overcome the sense of hopelessness they feel when facing personal, national, or international conflicts, and can help improve relationships and decrease levels of stress and frustration.
Customer Reviews:
A very useful guide to conflict resolution with other applications.......2007-01-03
I bought this book to see how it used the elements as a model within the context of conflict resolution/problem solving and to see if I could use the work in other contexts. I think a book like this would be difficult to write well because it requires extensive knowledge, practical experience and a decent deal of awareness and inner work in order to be able to describe the different viewpoints (i.e. earth, air, fire, water and their associated meanings) accurately. I think the author was reasonably successful in this regard. I say that because, since everyone's perception and experience and knowledge is unique, others may, and probably would, have included different exercises, tests or ways of interpreting the directions and their meanings than the author has in this book.
The model outlined in the book can be adapted to your own use (e.g. use different ideas for creativity processes/practices within the context of fire (representing creativity). The value in this book therefore the basics are nutted out for you and you can build upon it or tinker with parts, test and try things out etc and get something to work for your specific circumstances. Also, the model of conflict resolution could be adapted say to a model for change, team building, organisational learning etc., it has many uses since essentially it's based on the medicine wheel and all its associated meanings and uses (e.g. archetypes such as lover, magician, warrior, king).
The book is in several parts and comprehensively outlines the use of the elements for conflict resolution (it's important not to get too stuck on the word's 'conflict resolution' and to think wont apply to an issue or context you're working with). The book is based on the medicine wheel, although references the new sciences, spirituality, systems theory, business, and other domains and traditions appropriate to the topic at hand. The model outlined is basically articulated to arrive at solutions to 'problems' that are more informed and from a higher perspective and awareness than the originating 'problem', that is, using conflict to grow and become more aware, satisified, and develop outcomes that are more effective, efficient and suited to all (i.e. win-win). Basic tools and checklists are provided to get an assessment of your elemental personality style, that of your team and to gain awareness of other's styles, how they benefit (and limit) them and therefore how to work from a holistic perspective. According to the model a problem starts (usually) at the earth phase which is the change or disruption phase where you realise you have a problem and there's conflict in existance. Then, from there it moves to the water or chaos phase whereby things become less stable and uncertain, the initial position may be lost or let go of and things are in a state of flux. This is followed by the fire or evolution or creativity phase, where new solutions are created and passion may be ignited and solutions may be created that look nothing like the original circumstances. The final phase, air or stability is the implementation phase where creative ideas are put into action. This is just a brief overview of the model. Each chapter has an extensive description of each phase, what it might look like, quotes, tools and techniques you can use to work with and through that stage and practical examples and an 'elemental role model' who exemplifies that element, closing with a summary in table format of the element that you can refer to back to. There was only one stage where I felt in the book it bordered on 'New Age' (which is the type of work that I try to avoid), which was her description of transformation (and using some of Shakti Gawain's ideas), alhtough I guess that's just her choice of a model for change.
The author has extensive experience as a corporate trainer, mediator and has associated with the Naropa Institue her credentials are therefore sound. There's an excellent bibliography at the back and explanations of how the model fits with other similar works including The Fourfold Way.
Recommended reading.
Resolve disputes and overcome differences.......2004-08-07
Resolve disputes and overcome differences with the help of The Way Of Conflict, where common traps to progress are outlined and implications of conflict outside the situation at hand are considered. Chapters handle everything from initial conflicts to escalation to violence, using first-person and real-world experiences to explore problems and solutions.
Read & get ready to transform your view of conflict forever........2004-05-22
Don't let Deidre Combs light-hearted approach in The Way of Conflict fool you...she is up to serious business here. She offers deep insights into the nature of every conflict and into the heart of every person. Her lessons apply as well from your smallest spat to our world's oldest and most deadly dilemmas. It is my hope that her work sinks a hook into each reader as it did into me and gets us all re-thinking the possibilities for resolving of our worst personal conflicts. From there the resolutions to age-old conflicts in the Middle East, between nations, between peoples are but steps away.
This is not a light read. It is powerful. Like The Artist's Way it has the power to change you and your point of view. It is well researched and has an extensive Bibiography. And all for a very reasonable list price!
Beyond a bargain. A Gift.
some timely wisdom.......2004-05-08
This is one of those rare books that contains a deceptively simple idea that has fascinating and universal applications. It will change the way you think about conflict. I enjoyed the fact that it was practical but also philosophical. It seems very well researched. I particularly enjoyed the multi-cultural use of myths and stories to illustrate the concepts. This is a book full of wisdom.
Customer Reviews:
turn times of possible conflict into chances for camaraderie.......2006-01-18
If you want very concrete ways to respond positively and productively to difficult people and situations (without backing off or escalating) as I did the research for this book, then you maay find it helpful. I crafted this approach after reading 34 (much longer) books on the art and science of conflict, likeability, negotiation and related "get along better" books. Is for those who want a fast read, proven methods, no fluff - and a clear format so they can re-read it in five-minute breaks when one wants to keep cool while under fire. Each year, I re-read it to re-learn these tools. It has helped me to become less reactive - and more helpful and appreciated over time. Life is better. In an often fractious, fast, abrupt world, it has helped me care for and keep the relationships that ultimately give life so much meaning. In fact, I feel so confident that it will help you too, that, when you buy this book and send me an email (www.sayitbetter.com) about the past that most helped you, I'd be delighted to send you, as a gift, my ebook Make Yourself Memorable, a good companion book to keep you on your path of enjoying life.
Best "self-help" book ever! Pays off in win-win results........2002-01-09
As a successful attorney and businessman I have long taken pride in my skill at resolving conflicts, but I have also been haunted by some puzzling failures. As is normal, I tended to attribute those to the failings of the people I had to deal with. This book very quickly (in less than an hour) helped me to see what I might have done differently and how I contributed to the failures. It also conveyed this information gently enough so I could hear it! The book is positive--it suggests effective technics rather than attacking problematic behaviors. The book is about process and it convincingly conveys the notion that in conflict resolution process is the key--how we deal with differences is more important than the specific disputes over facts or logic. A successful conflict resolution is one in which all parties feel good about the resolution and about each other. In this respect, it is consistent with another marvelous short book, "Justice is Conflict," which first helped me realize that in maintaining civilization and civility, the process for decision making is more important than the substantive differences between hotly disputed issues.
The book would have benefited from one more round of editing to eliminate some very minor but irritating clerical errors, however this did not detract from its value enough to cause me to reduce its rating from five stars.
Book Description
How to resolve money conflicts in your light and relationships
Customer Reviews:
Handy tool for an advisor.......2007-03-20
Dealing with couples exhibiting different backgrounds and attitudes towards money, and finances in general, is a challenge. Olivia Mellan has developed a strategy and a book that gauges people's money styles and addresses the need to recognize and how to adapt to each other's differences. I found this an important, basic tool that needed to be in my library, and in my toolkit as an fee-only financial advisor who works with couples.
A Great Finance Book for Couples!.......2005-11-10
Chances are, if you're in a relationship you've experienced differences of one kind or another, after all, opposites do attract. However, while many differences can prove to be beneficial to a relationship, conflicting money personalities can often cause serious financial problems. In Money Harmony, psychotherapist and author, Olivia Mellan, provides helpful exercises, dialogues, and other communication techniques to not only resolve these conflicting issues, but more importantly, to restore harmony to the relationship. I definitely agree with John Gray, PH.D. and author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus... every couple should learn the techniques described in this book! - Copyright 2005 by Michelle Jones, editor of BetterBudgeting.com
Wise counsel for financial counselors.......2002-08-06
This is a very helpful and insightful book for financial advisors! Understanding a client's money personality is essential to rendering helpful and practical advice and counsel.
So is understanding the money dynamics of marriag and couple relationships. I have found this book to be of tremendous help in my financial planning practice. HIGHLY recommended!
Robert A. Caldwell, CPA
maybe I'm the only one who didn't like it, but..........2002-04-29
I find Mellan's categorization of people as "money monks"; hoarders, avoiders, etc. to be somewhat simplistic. At different times, I have fit into several of these categories (and still do). I don't like advice from an author who seems intent on making me fit her theory.
There is commonsense advice in here on money and relationships but I was so irritated at the author's tone, which struck me as somewhat patronizing, that I didn't benefit from any of it.
Learn your own money "style" -- and your mate's.......1998-10-14
Psychotherapist Olivia Mellan has seen the relationship problems that money conflicts can cause. As she puts it, "money is never just money." Her experience with couples who clash over finances is laid out in this helpful book, where you'll learn how to identify your own money "style." Since that may differ from your mate's, Mellan offers advice on how to resolve communication problems about handling money, and set financial goals that'll work for both of you.
Book Description
Anger is the most difficult issue for parents. Why is your child so angry? Why do you get so angry with a child you love so much? And when do the anger and the arguments become harmful to your child's development?
The Anger Habit in Parenting helps parents understand that when dealing with their children, anger can become a habit. Responding with anger is a powerful response that gets results. For many parents and children, this tool is so effective that they start using it subconsciously, or in situations where anger is unwarranted and/or unnecessary.
Dr. Semmelroth shows parents how to identify and get over the anger habit, while building stronger relationships with their children.
Through expert advice, along with exercises and stories of real families, this book shows you how to avoid:
€ Temper tantrums € Feelings of losing control € Explosive arguments € Family battles
Customer Reviews:
Kid Cooperation is MUCH better.......2007-03-07
Cold, too analytical and no practical means of employing the changes he suggests except to just 'do it'. Bought this book and Kid Cooperation which I found to be clear, common sense, multiple-option resource for you and your child. Only a few things I don't agree with, such as not rewarding good grades (money). It's helped me a great deal to quit fighting with my 13 y/o and I see immediate changes in his behavior when I employ her suggestions. Much more useful.
Great book.......2006-03-17
If think that the "bribe and threaten" method of discipline (euphemistically known as 'giving consequences')might be doing harm to your relationship to your child and their development, you are right! Read this book, and learn a saner way that works. You will feel enormous relief as will your kids, and be much more effective than you ever thought possible. The book really is more about parenting than family conflict despite what the title indicates. Great in conjunction with The Anger Habit with Relationships, and stylistically an improvement over the original Anger Habit.
Customer Reviews:
Powerful, On Point, & Clear -- An ease read!!!.......2006-04-06
This is the most powerful marital book I have read. It is ease to read and hard to put down. All Christian premarital courses should be developed from the guise of this book. Read it with an open mind and open heart and watch the Spirit convict you!! I own it..bought it as a gift for a friend who is going through marital issues..and now encourage any of my friends considering marriage to read it!!!
Great reference guide, again and again.......2006-01-06
We received this book from the Reverend who married us and have referred to it several times since our wedding day. It is practical, kind and a great resource when you can't seem to pinpoint "what's wrong." It is more about understanding your spouse and nurturing a healthy relationship, than trying to find a "solution" to everything. It is well-organized so you can skip around the topics, but it is also quite beautifully written. Makes a *great* wedding gift, too. :-)
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- Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
- Social Psychology
- Starting Out Right: A Guide to Promoting Children's Reading Success
- Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They're Really Saying
- Stop Sitting on Your Assets: How to Safely Leverage the Equity Trapped in Your Home and Transform It Into a Constant Flow of Wealth and Security
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