Book Description
FinallyâYou Can
Understand Her!
Women: complicated and impossible to understand? Do you love and want to please the woman in your life, but just can’t seem to figure her out? That was before For Men Only. Now at your fingertips is the tool that will unlock the secret to her mysterious ways. Through hundreds of interviews and the results of a scientific national survey of women, this book demonstrates that women are actually not random and that they really can be systematized and âmapped.â In fact, much to men’s delight, this book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and pleaseâas long as you know what it is they need. This simple map will guide you to loving your wife or girlfriend in the way she needs to be loved.
Finally.
You Can
Understand Her!
Women: complicated and impossible to understand? Have you given up trying to âgetâ the woman in your life? If so, you are in for a pleasant eye-opener: She can be understood. Even betterâyou can make her happy. Which will make you happy.
The bestselling author of For Women Only teams with her husband to offer men the key to unlocking the mysterious ways of women. Through Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn ’s national scientific survey and hundreds of interviews, For Men Only reveals what you can do today to improve your relationship. And believe it or not, as Jeff assures men, âIt’s not splitting the atom.â
What makes her tick? What is she really asking (but not actually saying)? Take the guesswork out of trying to please your wife or girlfriend and begin loving her in the way she needs. Easily. For Men Only is a straightforward map that will lead you straight into her heart.
And for every guy who rarely reads a manual:
Quick-Start Guide Included!
âWhen we featured Shaunti’s book For Women Only on FamilyLife Today , the phone rang off the hook! When Shaunti and Jeff come back on our broadcast, I’m buying some more phones. This is fresh and relevantâgood stuff for every marriage. Read it!â
Dennis Rainey
President, FamilyLife
Story Behind the Book
âAs I was writing For Women Only to help women understand the inner lives of men, over and over I heard that men wished there was a way to understand their wives, but they felt it was probably impossible. I heard from them, âYou are writing this little slim volume about men, but if it was about understanding women, it would have to be the size of an encyclopedia! Women are random and complicated!’ These men were surprised and encouraged when I assured them that women are neither random nor complicated, and we can be understood. Men just want to love their wives well, and For Men Only will help them do that.â
âShaunti Feldhahn
Customer Reviews:
For Men Only.......2007-10-11
This is a must read for the women who wants to understand why men act the way they do. It will not change them, but it will make you not want to change them, and appreciate them for the way they are made!
Just What I Needed.......2007-09-25
I got this book at a friend's recommendation. I'm getting married soon and I was hoping for some help. The book was very helpful and informative. I liked it for not being biased or a 10 step program. It's literally straightforward information on how most women think. It's already drastically altered the way I relate to my fiancée and it's helped us grow closer together. I'd recommend it to any man that wants a better relationship with his lady. This is a great book to help newlyweds get started out on the right foot.
Undserstanding a Woman.......2007-09-21
The Feldhahn's bring humor and wisdom into an amazingly complex topic - understanding a woman. While my wife certainly is mysterious to say the least, this book provided insights into why she says what she says, reacts the way she does to my words, and what I have done to build walls that she gave up trying to climb. I found that many of her problems could be influenced for the better by my willingness to understand her and speak to her on her terms. This book has helped me help my wife love me more fully. Humble yourself and read it!!
Read this with your significant other.......2007-09-21
Great book on the inner lives of women. Read this with your significant other and it will bring you closer. It is written from a Christian perspective, but this is not overly apparent.
Great book! 5 stars!
Perfect Wedding Book!.......2007-09-07
Ok, so I admit that I read some of my husband's book titled "For Men Only". It's his own fault for leaving it next to the toilet.
We received these as wedding gifts awhile back. I was really curious to see if what it said was true. I have to say that it actually provided some great insight into my own thoughts and feelings and legitimized my feelings for certain issues that have arisen in our relationship. I'd have to say that in my opinion this is a great book to help men understand the average woman. Men, if you've ever thought "That girl is ka-razy!", then this is the book for you!
Two thumbs up!
Book Description
Gary Chapman first penned the best-selling The Five Love Languages more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with over 3 million people as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to 'feel' loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. Dr. Chapman now tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five love languages apply in their relationships. For example, in a business environment, when and how is physical touch appropriate? Take the love language test included.
Customer Reviews:
For everybody.......2007-08-30
I think there are very few books out there that literally anyone could benefit from. Singles, couples, kids, anybody. I recommend this book a lot, if nothing else just for the sheer value of people becoming more aware of their relationships.
I know my parents marriage was in part saved by this book and some of the deeper understanding it brought them.
If it were up to me, there would be a copy on every book shelf.
Simple and sophiscated at same time.......2007-08-21
Over the years I have counseled many people purchased many, many excellent relationship books, despite the slight Religious References this book is among the top ten, no the top 3 under essential reading. Here advice seems simple untill you start practicing, it takes a bit of work, but the results are excellent! I intend to buy more copies of this and her book for couples on The Five love Languages, to give away. Her advice is excellent for anyone who wants to get along better with someone in their life, family, friends, business associates well as Significent Others.
Another relationship book skimming the surface.......2007-08-01
I liked this book a lot, but it's yet another one that gives the impression that you can fix relationships by simply applying rules that you learn. It doesn't really get into the driving forces of what gets people into the relationship situations that they find themselves in before they start reading it - and these are always subconscious drivers that need to be understood and learned patterns and responses changed. Otherwise, all you do is try to apply things that are foreign to you, and in the long run that cannot work and isn't realistic. Try Fit for Love: Find Your Self and Your Perfect Mate, and then read this. I found that the two in tandem work well, but you need both.
A must read for those in any kind of life situation.......2007-07-10
It really gives you a deeper understanding to things I would've never even thought about as far as relationships and communicating with others.
The concepts are relateable to real life experiences, in almost any situation whether family work friends or significant others are involved.
I'm only 24, but I am glad I read this book now as it has given me a lot of valuable insight into how to express love "languages" to others. A must-read for all you out there that want to communicate and understand your loved ones better.
Very insightful! (warning: religious, but doesn't evangelize).......2007-06-25
I had the original book on my wish list for some time, and then I found out about this book. Later, I saw a friend of mine from church who had a copy, and she said it was wonderful. So I immediately ordered my own copy.
I was not disappointed.
Seeing these insights led me to realize why it was that I preferred certain activities and certain behaviors in a relationship, and it leads me to explore what another could want from me. And since this is directed towards single adults, this seemed more applicable to my situation than the original.
Now, a warning to the non-religious. Yes, this book quotes the Bible frequently. But instead of doing so with the intention of disguising a religious tract as a self-help book, the author does a masterful job of quoting scripture while staying marvelously on point, and he maintains the focus implicitly promised in the title-helping you improve your relations with others.
If you are a single adult, read this book. Don't let the religious sprinklings turn you off. This book is valuable even if you ignore them.
Book Description
How does one define the concept of "family"? Is it primarily a biological link, or purely a social construction? Can it be a combination of both? Does it have to be? In this age of single parents, alternative lifestyles, and joint custody, "family" has become a fluid term which reflects a sweeping change in society -- from the rigid structure of the nuclear family to a more diverse and inclusive circle of people that one refers to as Òfamily.Ó In this revision of their classic work in family therapy issues and techniques, the authors propose Òa new and more comprehensive way to think about human development and the life cycle,Ó by widening the perspective of family therapy to include diversity of family forms and lifestyles, as well as cultural diversity. Their expanded view of family includes the impact and issues at multiple levels of the human system: the individual, family households, the extended family, the community, the cultural group, and the larger society. The new edition offers lively and dynamic writing, with contributed chapters by some of the best-known therapists and experts in family therapy. Some issues with expanded focus include race, class, sexual orientation, gender, ethnicity, spirituality, politics, work, time, community, values, and belief systems. Social workers, psychologists, nurses, and family therapists.
Customer Reviews:
racist, biased, and lacking in helpful information.......2006-12-31
The lack of practical, usable information in this book was unbelievable. Maybe if you have never, ever, in any way considered these issues it would be helpful, but I doubt it, as there was nothing that delved beyond surface, common sense information. The gross overgenderalizations about race and culture were offesive and shocking coming from people in the field. The only thing I took from the book was a heightened awareness of the judgemental biases of people -- even those claiming to be fighting against those things.
Decent textbook hindered by political biases.......2006-11-04
This textbook is a decent summary of the various family life cycle issues. However, the authors' obvious political biases and leanings interfere with a balanced perspective and with the content of the book. Several people in my master's level class found the book to be biased and unhelpful in certain areas.
The book should not be recommended for University programs.......2005-11-12
I am very disappointed, could not force myself to finish it! This book should not be recommended for University programs. It is biased, full of stereotyping, and has "popular", rather than scientific references (with all my respect to Daniel Goldman's Emotional Intelligence commercial success). Textbooks should be professional and free of political agendas.
Caustic Personal Agenda.......2005-09-02
I actually looked forward to reading this text, but upon furthr examination, found it to be a very "glass-half-empty" approach to the family life cycle. It is blatantly obvious that the 2 authors have their own political agenda to cram down our throats. Their vitrolic accusations against males, whites, Christians, etc. insight me to become an advocate for those they discriminate against - to expose their hypocritic instructions to be respectful, empathetic and flexible toward others. And by the way, for "experts" to use the term "homophobic" is a clinical and education travesty. To discriminate against those who do not condone the lifestyle by calling them names is simply politically correct, immature, and evidence of their agenda.
The authors' agenda overrides all else.......2003-05-25
I used this book, which came highly recommended, to teach a graduate-level course in Family Therapy. At first glance it seemed like a useful text, having earned a great deal of praise from other professors. However, the book was a disappointment to both myself and my students.
While I would not go so far as to say that the book contained no useful information, much of the book's potential utility was overshadowed by the authors' transparent political agenda. An example of good clinical advice provided by the authors was to ask wealthy families, in an initial interview, how they are using their funds to help the poor. Coming across with this overtly judgmental and clinically irrelevant question in the first interview is clearly not the way to win over a troubled family.
When studying the book, it was often possible to forget that families seeking therapy may actually have troubles of their own. The articles in the book focused largely on sociopolitical issues. Obviously, one cannot discount the influence of the larger context; however, struggles with gender unfairness in the workplace are rarely the presenting problem which drives an entire family into a therapist's office. Perhaps it was for this reason that focused, practical clinical advice for the budding clinician was nearly absent from many of the articles.
Pragmatics aside, the book was also lacking in terms of scholarship. A variety of grand claims were made by various authors with limited citations to support these claims. Despite the reference lists at the end of each chapter, I found it jarring to read several consecutive paragraphs without footnotes describing, for example, the "typical" presentation of clients from different cultural groups. There was also a surprising tendency on the part of some authors to make detailed references to their personal lives in the article. While anecdotes can certainly be illustrative, they should not serve as the basis of an article.
Overall, I was very disappointed in this book and would not assign it again. While there was some useful information embedded in a few of the articles, on the whole this book attests to the need to keep textbooks agenda-free.
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Customer Reviews:
The Child with Special Needs book.......2007-08-17
This is an excellent book and resource for any parent or teacher, nanny or counselor or therapist who may interact with children with disabilities. It is extremely useful and is an easy read (much easier and more friendly to read than Greenspan's other works). I'd recommend it especially for parents when they first learn that a disability may exist.
Engaging Autism is better.......2007-08-17
After our son was diagnosed with developmental delay, this was the first book I read. It was helpful, but since he was subsequently diagnosed with ASD a few weeks later, I read Greenspan's other book (Engaging Autism) and found it to be more detailed. The jargon is somewhat difficult to follow at times, and it seems as though both books could be shortened by about 200 pages without much loss of information. I feel obliged to write that the best book about helping your child with ASD that I've found so far is "More Than Words" by Fern Sussman. It has almost all of Greenspan's points in an easy-to-read, illustrated "how-to" format. You can also order it from the North Carolina Autism Society bookstore's website for less than half of Amazon's price. (Hopefully the Amazon people won't delete this review now!) Good luck.
DIR/Floortime Intervention Has Had Profoundly Positive Impact on My Child's Development.......2007-02-14
After a well regarded developmental clinic in my city found my child to be vexed with significant cognitive and speech delay (my child was not yet two), I accidentally stumbled upon Greenspan's book, The Child With Special Needs.
This discovery has been the best thing that has happened to my child and family. I "inhaled" the text's instructions about how to begin doing a home floortime program with my child. Yes, doing three or more sessions of floortime daily was taxing. And I certainly wasn't convinced that I was doing floortime perfectly. Yet, I persisted and my child responded with great enthusiasm. And we had great fun to boot! My intuition that DIR/floortime had something unique and important to offer my child fueled my quest to find DIR/floortime specialists in my area. My search was successful, and my child has benefited from a DIR/floortime intervention for five years. Despite his regulatory and sensory issues, he's soaring socially and academically. I describe him as the happiest human being I've every met and marvel at the very warm way he interacts with family and friends (it's hard and poignant to recall the dismissive comments made about my child by well meaning therapists and teachers.) Greenspan's approach has a lot to say about how inaccurate predictions about kids with special needs can truly turn out to be.
I am incredibly grateful that I learned about this intervention strategy for kids with developmental disabilities. I encourage every parent who finds themselves on this very difficult journey to learn more about this approach. I have found the Floortime Foundation's website to be a great source of information, particularly Greenspan's web radio broadcast...a gold mine of ideas (at no cost to parents!).
Midwestern Mom
Helpful.......2007-01-12
This book is quite helpful for people who are interested in knowing more about autism and other developmental disorders. Autism is a treatable disorder whose symptons can be dramatically reduced with proper intervention. This book goes a long way in explaining autism and various developmental activities that will help children overcome autism.
On occasion "pschological" language makes certain passages a bit difficult to understand. But overall a useful, well written book.
Not for all special needs situations, but helpful.......2006-09-19
The methods in this book detail considerable sacrifice of parents time and resources devoted to one child; in a multiple child or two-working parent household, this would not be as beneficial and produce results as claimed from Floor Time program. Also, there are many types of special needs children with needs not addressed in this book. While overall helpful and a must-read for involved parents, continue seeking assistance from local programs and teachers/therapists, and use this as one small part of your reading list. This book does not address all the needs of all special needs children, but it is helpful and gives detailed explanations and plans to begin with. We have four special needs children with four separate diagnoses, so we are not first time parents, nor is this book the definitive program or resource for any of the four. Read it, try it, then continue researching and resourcing!
Book Description
This sociological analysis of the system of marriage and family focuses on the family as an institution in society. It uniquely encompasses many facets of society, and students are able to learn about family seen through a cultural and historical perspective. The book sets a high conceptual standard, but uses informal writing and minimal jargon. It presents the perspectives of critical and questioning academics (feminists, progressives, anti-racists, independent-thinkers, cross-disciplinary types, etc.) within a scholarly, well-researched text. It addresses a host of real world issues and practical concerns.
Customer Reviews:
Sociology of the family through the lens of Conflict Theory.......2005-08-01
Using conflict theory as their starting point, Coltrane and Collins provide an excellent introduction to the sociological study of the family.
Women Studies.......2005-05-24
I am a Latino, Mexican American, male femenisth. I read this book for my Women Studies minor family course named The Family in Cal State Dominguez. I really recomend this book to all the people that really want to know the true history of the human family and how it has been changing and why it will always will change... at the same time you will start to see that gender roles were never started at the beggining of humanity...that gender roles were created in diffrent cultures at the hurticultural stage of society and were very strong at the agregarian stage... but right now in industrial societys gender roles are becoming more simmilar little by litlle to be able to survive... I can tell you more about this book...but you need to read it and I really recomended.
Book Description
At no other time in American history have parents, teachers, and mentors been more desperate to find proven ways to reach teens. In response, best-selling author Gary Chapman presents The Five Love Languages of Teenagers. It contains practical guidance on how to discover and express the teen's primary love language- the way that he or she will best receive love. It is tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair engulfing many teens today.
Customer Reviews:
Adapting Your Love .......2007-05-09
Your relationship with your children changes as they grow, and this CD will help you figure out how to adapt your love to your growing child.
This book is very worthwhile reading.......2007-03-17
As your kids grow, how they want to receive love and affection changes and if you don't change along with them you risk the chance of damaging your relationship with them. This book will help you develop a more meaningful, adult relationship that will bring more joy to both of you. Buy it, read it and pass it around.
EXCELLENT--MUST READ BOOK FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!.......2007-01-10
My husband and I read/listened to this book together and we highly recommend it to all parents of teenagers. Practical advice that's easy to follow. No magic pill for the difficulties of adolescence, but very encouraging!
Review of the Five Love Languages of Teenagers.......2007-01-09
I felt really stupid after I bought this book because it isn't for teens; it is for adults who have teenagers and how to love them. My mother read some and enjoyed, but since I am not a parent I didn't read all of it.
Excellent Book for Parents of Teens & Pre-teens.......2006-08-13
Great hands-on advice for learning how to love your pre-teen and teenager. I wish now that I had this book when my first daughter was a teen.
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If parents, educators, and youth workers were to read only one book about helping adolescence—this would be the one. Chap Clark managed to get inside the world of US teenagers and reveal the depths of angst, pressure and loneliness they feel. Hurt is a illuminates the under layers of teen culture, the places where adolescents are most honest and vulnerable, only to discover that today's youth are indeed a tribe apart—and it is the adults who have isolated them.
Most of Clark's research took place in Crescenta Valley High School in north Los Angeles County. One might wonder how a middle-aged dad could get inside the heads of so many teens from so many walks of life. He did this by doing what most adults are unwilling to do—spending time with teens and asking questions, by showing a genuine curiosity in their world and a willingness to hear their answers without judgment. The results are riveting.
Ultimately this is an indictment of our increasingly adult-centric society that is more invested in adult interests than the individual needs of our youth. By the time adolescents enter high school, most have been subjected to at least a decade of adult-driven agendas. He slams coaches who are so invested in winning at youth sports that they leave mediocre athletes on the bench or pull them off the team. He points to the once playful dance classes that somehow morph into intensive dance training and regional competitions. Or the high school junior who faces a nightly four-to-five hour marathon of homework only to rise at 7 a.m. for morning band practice before AP calculus. We reward youth for their adult-pleasing achievements, failing to consider the price of isolation, stress and fear of failing that this generates.
Clark (the author of Daughters & Dads 1576830489 and From Father to Son 1576832945) concludes the book with solid recommendations for turning this tide. Unfortunately, he often defends his research and recommendations, as if a critical academic was looking over his shoulder. The truth is this book belongs less to the world of academics and more appropriately in the hands of anyone who lives with or directly works with teenagers. --Gail Hudson
Book Description
What do teenagers really think about adults? If you think you know the answer, you may be in for a surprise. According to Chap Clark, today's adolescents have largely been abandoned by adults and left to fend for themselves in an uncertain world. As a result, teens have created their own world to serve as a shield against uncaring adults. Based on six months of participant-observer research at a California public school, this book offers a somewhat troubling but insightful snapshot of adolescent life. It will surprise and enlighten parents, youth workers, counselors, pastors, and all who want to better understand the hearts and minds of America's adolescents.
Customer Reviews:
Eye-Opening.......2007-04-13
This book was recommended to me by my youth pastor, and as a senior pastor I'm glad I've read it. If you thought you understood youth and their lifestyles, then think again. Chap Clark reveals that the youth of today are greatly different than the youth of twenty or even ten years ago. Combining hard sociological data with a Christian compassion for young people, the author enlightens anyone who comes into contact with teenagers. I strongly recommend this book to any parent, pastor, church leader, or other adult who is working with teens. We can't truly minister to younger generations until we've taken the time and effort to understand their unique needs and wants. Clark does an excellent job here of summarizing them both.
a book for every parent, or person who works with kids!.......2007-03-25
Very sobering look at the state of adolecent thinking. Well researched and informative. A must read!!
Sociology, not theology.......2006-01-11
I bought this book expecting to get a healthy dose of sociology along with some seriouse theological reflection on the sociological data. I was wrong. In my opinion this book was too heavy on sociology and too lite on theology. If Clark would've spent more time connecting the sociological conclusions to theological implications, the book would've been a gem.
If you love youth, you'll read this book........2005-10-20
Below is the book review I submitted to Group Magazine regarding this book.
This is an academic resource that differs from most in that it describes what the adolescent culture of today looks like through the eyes of those who live it.
Dr. Chap Clark has given those who care for, and work with youth another gem. This resource is for any adult (parents, counselors, teachers, professional youth workers) that has significant interaction with teenagers. Most importantly, this book offers wisdom and insight as to how to connect with teens that are abandoned and hurt. A major premise (and proof) of this book is that these abandoned and hurt teens are not just the "at-risk" youth, but a shockingly large group of students that have been left behind by well intentioned adults and their created programs. You will not find "over-talked" postmodern rhetoric in this book. You will find compelling, hard-hitting data that clearly states the crisis that teenagers are experiencing today. Hurt will be difficult for some to read because it challenges the very landscape its readers have created. Further, it is a deep book and could be challenging for some with limited reading skill level.
Every Adult Should Read!!.......2005-10-13
This is an outstanding presentation of quality research that has practical application! Youth NEED adults. They need a supportive, safe environment.
Chap Clark does a great job of opening our eyes to the reality of the life of high school students. A change needs to happen in the societal view of how to help youth become healthy, happy, successful adults...and this is a good start!
Book Description
In Discovering the Mind of Women husbands learn to understand their wives as Christ would. From this point they learn to respond to their wives in a consistent Christlike manner. A radically transformed and renewed marriage is the result.
Drawing from his own story and the stories of husbands whose marriages were dissolving, Ken Nair reveals major problems in life and marriage. After discussing the problems, he reveals relationship altering concepts which not only will revive a marriage, they will radiate throughout couple's lives as well.
Customer Reviews:
This book will change your life!.......2007-08-25
I have been married nearly 30 years. Three years ago my wife and I went through a Christian program for relationships and applied biblical principals that have transformed our marriage. This book Discovering the Mind of a Woman says what I have been living for the past three years. The bottom line is that God's principals work and this book explains these principals in a concise and biblical way. By letting go of my ego, and pride and getting rid of any sin in my life that God shows me I can die to my carnal nature and put on Christ every day -actually on a moment by moment basis. For me it was like having blinders taken off my eyes. By resolving bitterness and being Christlike by agape loving my wife like Christ loves the church I am experiencing a transformation in my relationships with God, my wife and our children. This is a must read for every man that is looking for a closer walk with God and strengthened relationships of all kinds.
groundbreaking and marriage-saving.......2007-07-27
My dh read this book and then asked me to read it. I found it a refreshing change from other books on marriage I've read. It is the only one I'm familiar with that actually holds men accountable for the success of their marriages and the emotional and spiritual health of their wives.
The criticisms mentioned in reviews here and elsewhere on the 'net are gross exaggerations and misrepresentations. It is worth noting that these reactionary comments were all made by men. If these husbands allow their wives to read the book, the women will find themselves amazed at their agreement with Mr. Nair's insights.
Most popular works on Christian marriage focus quite strongly on the wife's duty to reverence and obey her husband--this one stands out as proclaiming the balancing (and in my opinion, currently more needed) view of a husband's Christlike, sacrificial (Eph 5:25) love for his wife.
The proof, as they say, is in the pudding, and the true eternal value of Mr. Nair's work is evidenced by the happier husbands and wives who have benefitted from his book. Without a doubt, husbands who take his exhortations to heart will find deeper true intimacy with their wives on every level.
Discovering the Mind of a Woman.......2007-06-16
A must read for men seeking to be better husbands. It gave me insights into why my wife reacts the way she does to my words and actions. I plan on including this along with a few others like it to help divorce proof my small group.
Transformation.......2007-06-10
I have seen, in my own life and in the lives of others, the fruit of Ken Nair's teaching. The concepts within this book are not of Ken's own imagining, but are inspired; indeed, they can be found in the scriptures. "Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?"
Matt 7:16
Not The Full Counsel of God.......2007-01-31
Though much of Nair's books contain good scriptural truth, he does not "declare unto you all the counsel of God." I have attended his seminar and his counsel is one-sided and his viewpoint of women is condescending, unrealistic, and unBiblical.
1. By implication, Ken teaches the only reason wives sin is because their husbands are not being Christlike.
2. In his books and presentations, Ken freely applies Scripture to the responsibilities of husbands, but does not apply them to wives or even address their Biblical responsibilities except to teach the only job a wife has is to berate the husband when he is not being Christlike.
3. Ken condemns husbands for their sins, but allows wives to freely indulge in those sins:
Ken says that women "are the historians of the family and always remember past offenses." Even though in 1 Corinthians 13:5 reliable translations tell us that true love does not keep a record of wrongs, Ken encourages wives to do the exact opposite.
Ken says, "outbursts of anger are the only way women can get men to listen," and yet, Ken encourages such anger ignoring James 1:20 and Ephesians 4:31-32 that such behavior is sin.
One walks away from Ken's books and seminars wondering if women are truly capable of sin unless their wayward husbands drive them to it.
4. Worse of all, Ken is guilty of only quoting partial verses. 1 Peter 3:7 says, "You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, *as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.* The section between the asterisks is omitted from Ken's workbooks and presentations changing the emphasis of the verse. This is not the only verse Ken only partially quotes.
5. Ken knows he stands on shaky ground and manipulates those who question him by accusing them of being carnal and "fleshly."
The bottom line is that Ken is correct when he instructs Christian husbands "ought to love their wives as their own bodies." However, he does everybody a grave disservice when he fails to instruct a wife to "respect her husband."
Those struggling in dysfunctional marriages will do better with certified Christian marriage counselors or the writings of James Dobson or other qualified Christian counselors, but I cannot with clear conscience recommend Ken's books and his expensive seminar and his very costly, three-year-long discipleship course.
Book Description
A new edition of a bestseller, this book covers the changes that occur with normal aging and disease processes from a physiological basis. Filled with illustrations and tables, it covers topics such as gGenetics of aging, developments in Alzheimer's, new treatments for Osteoporosis, new medications for Diabetes, new treatments for Gastritis, and new Nsaids to treat Degenerative Joint Diseases.
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