On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (On Becoming. . .)

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (On Becoming. . .)
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Dangerous and manipulative

God gave you instincts - trust them not a book

This book should be burned

Dangerous to your child's wellbeing

Not for everyone

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (On Becoming. . .)
Gary Ezzo , and Robert Bucknam
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The infant management concepts presented in this book have found favor with over two million parents and twice as many contented babies. On Becoming Babywise brings hope to the tired and bewildered parents looking for an alternative to sleepless nights and fussy babies. The Babywise Parent Directed Feeding concept has enough structure to bring security and order to your baby's world, yet enough flexibility to give mom freedom to respond to any need at any time. It teaches parents how to lovingly guide their baby's day rather than be guided or enslaved to the infant's unknown needs. The information contained within On Becoming Babywise is loaded with success. Comprehensive breast-feeding follow-up surveys spanning three countries, of mothers using the PDF method verify that as a result of the PDF concepts, 88% breast-feed, compared to the national average of only 54% (from the National Center for Health Statistics). Of these breast-feeding mothers, 80% of them breast-feed exclusively without a formula complement. And while 70% of our mothers are still breast-feeding after six months, the national average encourage to follow demand feeding without any guidelines is only 20%. The mean average time of breast-feeding for PDF moms is 33 1/2 weeks, well above the national average. Over 50% of PDF mothers extend their breast-feeding toward and well into the first year. Added to these statistics is another critical factor. The average breast-fed PDF baby sleeps continuously through night seven to eight hours between weeks seven and nine. Healthy sleep in infants is analogous to healthy growth and development. Find out for yourself why a world of parents and pediatricians utilize the concepts found in On Becoming Babywise.

Customer Reviews:

Dangerous and manipulative.......2007-10-16

I bought the book, I read the book, I threw it in the trash.

When my son was born I followed his cues and fed him when he was hungry. Over the next month I could see a sleeping and feeding pattern emerge. He ate and slept at around the same time every day, within the hour, and that was fine with me.

My sister-in-law used Baby Wise with her son, born a few months before my son. She was so hung up on keeping him on a schedule that when mealtime came around he was famished, and would suck down his formula so fast that she would have to give him more. At two weeks old he was taking six oz. of formula - the dr. had to tell her to cut back. By two months old he was enormous and has been ever since. Before a year old he was wearing a size 5 diaper - and no, there are no giants in our family. I'm not talking bone structure, I'm talking fat. So please take note that this method can also result in over-eating.

Certainly it is important to learn to distinguish hunger cues from other types of behavior. The book says to feed your baby when he's hungry, but at the same time emphasizes and reiterates the importance of a feeding schedule. If you are following hunger cues then you should not be worried about watching the clock.

The language of this book is manipulative. The authors present scenarios of a baby fed on demand and a baby fed using the Babywise method. Of course the on-demand baby spiraled into misery while the Baby-wise baby slept all night and bonded with her family. The authors give no evidence to back up the claims they make in the book.

Do yourself a favor and follow the American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines, or books such as the "What to Expect" series which follow AAP guidelines. Anyone can print their own book making any claim, as these guys have done.

God gave you instincts - trust them not a book.......2007-10-15

Like many first moms looking for a plan to care for this new life, I read this book over and over, before my child was born - and after. I knew of the controversy that surrounded it, and was comfortable to follow the book anyway. I asked many moms who followed this book for advice and did follow it for a time. Our son is now 7 months old, and I feel compelled to write a review, even though I have never done so for any book in the past. There are some good ideas in this book, but my best days came after I finally put the book aside and learned to parent my baby by trusting my God-given instincts. Ask yourself this question: is getting your baby to sleep through the night the main goal of parenting an infant? If so, give it a try. My son did sleep "through the night" as defined in the book by 8 weeks by not following the plan, but his own cues. I found, though, that concentrating on that aspect of his development as baby-wise subtly proposes really distracts from the blessing of enjoying the miracle of a baby. Consider what other goals of parenting an infant you might have. The author of this book refused to be held accountable by his church for his parenting books and course, and therefore the church has released a public statement about not supporting this book, stating their concerns with the material. Look it up first! There are also many former teachers of this material who now publicly voice opposition to the methods after having a child that it didn't work with. Find out why! From my experience, parents with easy babies do use this and have much success. There is nothing wrong with that! Schedules are great. If your baby is not a 'text book baby,' enjoy him/her and relax while he/she develops. Don't miss out on those precious first weeks and months by trying to squeeze him into a mold. I read at least 7 books about babies and sleep from all ends of the spectrum, and it seems that there are some developmental problems with baby wise. We have let our baby cry at times to learn to settle himself - once he was old enough to understand cause and effect (an important developmental necessity). I believe that it should only take a couple times if the baby is developmentally ready, not weeks and weeks. (And our baby was colicky!) Some babies do not have self-soothing skills until 4 months old. (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child). I did find that feeding on a schedule was helpful, but our baby really was hungry after 2 - 2 1/2 hours. We did not feed at every cry, but did feed when he was hungry. So all of Ezzo's ideas are not crazy, but there are good reasons why Focus on the Family, the American Academy of Pediatrics, his own home church, and many other sources do not support this as a parent guide. Do your research first. But first and foremost, enjoy your newborn and do not confuse the process with this book.

This book should be burned.......2007-10-14

Babies have died from parents following the advice of this godforsaken book. It is awful and a selfish way to raise your baby. DO NOT buy this book. Follow your instincts, trust your gut - feed your baby when it is hungry, sleep with it, she or he will grow up secure and healthy.

I wanted to give this zero stars but that was not an option. If you see this book at your bookstore, ask them not to carry it. If you see it at the library - mis-shelve it or better yet - throw it out!!!

Dangerous to your child's wellbeing.......2007-10-12

'Babywise' advice linked to dehydration, failure to thrive
Matthew Aney M.D.

Expectant parents often fear the changes a new baby will bring, especially sleepless nights. What new parent wouldn't want a how-to book that promises their baby will be sleeping through the night by three to eight weeks?

One such book, On Becoming Babywise, has raised concern among pediatricians because it outlines an infant feeding program that has been associated with failure to thrive (FTT), poor milk supply failure, and involuntary early weaning. A Forsyth Medical Hospital Review Committee, in Winston-Salem N.C., has listed 11 areas in which the program is inadequately supported by conventional medical practice. The Child Abuse Prevention Council of Orange County, Calif., stated its concern after physicians called them with reports of dehydration, slow growth and development, and FTT associated with the program. And on Feb. 8, AAP District IV passed a resolution asking the Academy to investigate "Babywise," determine the extent of its effects on infant health and alert its members, other organizations and parents of its findings.

Not for everyone.......2007-10-08

This book and it's theories is definitely not for everyone. In fact, my wife and I have yet to find anyone who has tried it and been succesful with their child because of it. For some babies what this book recommends will work very well but for many others, such as my daughter it will only result in a lot of tears and frustration. The recommendations in this book are very inflexible. The theories make sense only if you assume that every baby has the same requirements for sleeping and eating. As adults we don't all have the requirements or follow the same cycles, so why should babies?

What we ended up doing is trying to follow a routine of eating, followed by playing and then sleeping as the book recommends but using cues from our daughter to determine when she eats and sleeps. Our daughter has her own internal cycle and by following it rather than the clock she has been a much happier baby.

On Becoming Baby Wise: Book II (Parenting Your Pretoddler Five to Fifteen Months)

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Be a Wise Parent and DON'T get Babywise
I love this BOOK!!!!
Be wise with Babywise and it WILL work for you!!
Great addition to the series!

On Becoming Baby Wise: Book II (Parenting Your Pretoddler Five to Fifteen Months)
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It's reality-check time! You are at least five months into your tour of parenting duty by now. The complexity of child-training has begun to come into focus. You have learned that as your baby matures both constant and variable factors continually influence his or her development. What behaviors can and should you expect from your pretoddler? Feeding time for your pretoddler, for example, is now more than a response controlled by a sucking reflex. For the pretoddler, mealtime is part of a very complex, conscious interaction between what the child does and what his parents expect him to do. Right and wrong conduct will be encouraged, discouraged, and guided when necessary. In fact, right and wrong patterns of behavior will now be part of your baby's entire day. That's why feeding time, waketime and sleeptime provide wonderful opportunities for training and Babywise Book II will guide you all the way, from the high chair to playpen, from the living room to the back yard. This series teaches the practical side of introducing solids food, managing mealtimes, nap transitions, traveling with your infant, setting reasonable limits while encourage healthy exploration and much more. You will learn how to teach your child to use sign language for basic needs, a tool proven to help stimulate cognitive growth and advance communication. Apply the principles and your friends and relatives will be amazed at the alertness, contentedness and happy disposition of your baby

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Buy something else.......2007-10-05

Give this one a miss, especially if you are breastfeeding. Lots of misinformation that can be a problem for lactating mothers. Plus, disturbing ideas about "disciplining" babies for perfectly normal behavior, like using their hands at mealtimes. I think these methods would be quite damaging. Look for something recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, or try something by Dr. Sears or Penelope Leach instead.

Be a Wise Parent and DON'T get Babywise.......2007-08-14

Scheduling sleep in a baby over 4 months is a good idea. However, scheduling breastfeedings and "playpen" time is not. Also giving your 6 month old a finger squeeze because he/she decides to grab the bowl during feeding time or touch at things is also not very wise. Ezzo punishes babies for doing things that are essential for their development, like grabbing things in site and exploring the world around them. Furthermore, he thinks that young babies actually understand punishment. A 6 month old is not being defiant when he/she is trying to grab at things and play around. Where does Ezzo get these strange ideas?

The sad thing is that Ezzo claims to be a Christian. When Christ commanded us to not hurt any of these little ones and Ezzo is doing just that. There is a difference between a two year old looking at you straight in the eye and doing something he knows is wrong after you told him no and a baby playfully grabbing at their feeding bowl. Somehow, though, Gary Ezzo sees no difference and sees punishment as fitting for both. Somehow he thinks babies are manipulative little beings that want to slowly take over and ruin our lives. No, children are a blessing from God above and we should cherish their curiousity and indulge them in learning. Not neglect them in a playpen for 45 minutes after they are obviously not happy.

It's no wonder Dr. Dobson, Tedd Tripp, and Dr. Cloud, three Christian parenting writers, along with many others, have discredited the advice of Ezzo.

Sleep scheduling is about the good only thing in this book, but his method on this is still unwise. I reccommend "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth, MD. Or even Dr. Ferber over this kook anyday.

There is so much in here that SHOULD NOT be applied to Babies.

I love this BOOK!!!!.......2007-06-25

I used this book with both my children 11 years ago. I was so excited to blow the dust off of it and use it again with my new baby! It's be a while and I'm a litle rusty so I wonderd if it would work again. It did!! This book and Baby Wise have made my home so enjoyable. I needed it being a Mom again at 40.

Be wise with Babywise and it WILL work for you!!.......2007-06-16

I read this book with my first son, and being a new mom it was hard for me to follow this structure to the T. I kept re-reading the book to find all the answers for my son's specific situations, and was getting frustrated when he wasn't sleeping through the night at 8 weeks. However, I had to learn that the guidelines are GREAT, but are meant to be flexible for your child's needs, and parental assessment is key. My son had colic, and I was nervous to let him cry all the time, but learned that no matter what I did he was going to cry, so I let him. Soon I realized he needed to sleep A LOT more than I thought, and by 4 months he slept through the night 12 hours solid! Without Babywise I would not have had a guideline of how often to nurse, how long to nurse, and how many naps my son needed. The PDF method was my saving grace!!!

NOW I have my second son, and I was able to follow the Babywise method a lot more closely right away (still using parental assessment for my child's needs). Having more experience, not being a nervous new mom, and having an 18 month old to watch after as well, I can follow the Babywise methods with confidence. In doing so he has successfully been sleeping through the night (8-10 hours) since 9 weeks old. He is happy when he's awake and our household is very peaceful considering there is a newborn and a 20 month old residing here!! Especially if you plan on having more than one child this book is a must! 3 CHEERS FOR BABYWISE!!!Thank you!!

Great addition to the series!.......2007-06-10

After following Baby Wise book one, my daughter was successful at sleeping through the night by 7 weeks! She followed the first book almost to a T! So I ordered this second book, and I really like the ideas especially when it comes to High Chair manners and feeding solids. I also, like how they deal with the heart of the child and not just behaviors! Great book for any parent, whether you've done the first book or not!

On Becoming Baby Wise: The Classic Sleep Reference Guide Used by Over 1,000,000 Parents Worldwide

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Stay away from this book, if you love your child.......2007-10-09

This author wants parents to ignore all instincts and for women to ignore their maternal instincts (i.e., nursing on demand, nurturing your child as they need to be and picking up on child's cues to nurse and be held). This book is all about how to force babies to adapt to parents lives pre-parenthood, without asking parents to adapt to their babies. I think this is an unfortunate book and dangerous to children and parents everywhere. Don't waste your money.

Babies are not animals.......2007-10-09

This kind of "baby training" makes me sick. Babies are PEOPLE, not animals who need to be trained like dogs. They know when they're hungry, they know when they're tired, and they know when they need to be comforted. A sweet little baby spends 9 months nestled inside the warmth of his mother's body. We shouldn't expect a baby to come straight out of the womb and immediately adjust to sleeping in a cold, hard crib away from his mama. When a baby is "crying it out," the only thing she is learning is that she has to depend on herself for comfort because she can't trust anyone to come help her.

People who are considering buying this book should do themselves a big favor and buy some Alfie Kohn books instead. Search "attachment parenting" here on Amazon, and you'll find some worthwhile reading material that will benefit you AND your baby.

Manipulative and unhealthy.......2007-10-09

Highly recommended!.......2007-10-07

I have seen lots of negative publicity regarding the BabyWise books that are unwarranted. The book does not tell you to only feed your baby at certain times and ignore the crying, nor does it tell you to leave your baby in a playpen for an hour at a time. What the book does tell you - is to feed on a "schedule" BUT to also be watchful of cues from your baby that they require more feedings (ex/ # of pee/poo diapers). It also tells you to introduce the playpen for 10-15 minutes at a time, 2 times a day - gradually increasing the time to what you feel comfortable with. The book helps you see the common sense in parenting. It is great! I got lots of huffs from people who didn't agree with what I was doing but anyone who meets my daughter says that she is one of the happiest and most contented babies ever. My baby is about to turn a year this month and has done awesome under the philosophies I used from BabyWise I and II. My pediatrician (who didn't know that I was doing BabyWise) said that I was doing a great job with my daughter. Read the book for yourself and decide if it is what you want to do - it is worth it to look into!

Should be a pamphlet, not a book.......2007-09-26

Babywise offers some useful advice, but Ezzo shoots himself in the foot with his arrogant, negative, manipulative tone.

I had to force myself to finish reading this book so that I could write a complete review. I lost patience within the first 50 pages; the author spends as much time and effort railing on attachment parenting as he does explaining and defending his own theory. He blames attachment parenting for almost every problem in society: obesity, learning disabilities, even postpartum depression and child abuse. His hatred of this parenting method seems totally irrational, and oftentimes he doesn't even have his facts straight. He repeatedly asserts that attachment parenting is rooted in Freud's birth trauma theory, but I have read a great deal about it and have never come across anything mentioning to Freud or birth trauma.

Ezzo calls carrying one's child in a sling an "extreme" behavior. He spends a paragraph arguing for circumcision with incorrect and unreferenced "research." His comparisons between "Chelsea," a baby raised on the babywise method and "Marisa," a baby raised on attachment parenting's principles, are so exaggerated that I couldn't take them seriously. Clearly not all attachment-based children turn out like the nightmare child Marisa- if they did, attachment parenting would have disappeared long ago.

The book is also poorly edited. I found numerous spelling and punctuation errors, not to mention common typos. Not only does Ezzo lack any real credentials, but he also didn't bother hiring even a freshman English major to check his writing for common errors.

If you choose to buy and read this book, keep in mind the fact that you will just be reading 211 pages of some guy's opinion. Ezzo is not a doctor, nor a qualified childcare expert of any kind. If he would have left out his ultraconservative, arrogant views and simply published the essence of the babywise method, this book would be 50 pages long and maybe a worthwhile read.

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Over the top workbook.......2006-07-04

Be prepared to spend tons of time reading, answering multiple choice questions, hunting down answers in the back of this clumsy oversized book. It is too much of a pretty good thing. Needs reworking and a good editor to trim it down and make it more user friendly. It has more words in it than the book Becoming an Emotionally Focued Couple Therapist and duplicates lots that is in that book. They need to redo this and its companion as a set. Right now it is only the covers that go together.

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The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.

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Terriffic !.......2007-09-04

Fabulously informative book; great for the therapist, the lay person, the new parent or the adult looking to beter understand themsleves. Quite thorough and engaging. Wonderful, but serious read.

Attachment Theory in all it's glory ..........2007-08-21

What a terrific book ... all new parents should be issued a copy in birthing class!

Becoming Attached.......2007-05-29

I am becoming very attached to this book! Robert Karen PhD is a stunning writer. His prose is clear, succinct, fair, honest and a delight to read. A non-expert would enjoy it as much as an experienced psychologist. A treat all round.

Totally Different Perspective.......2006-11-26

This review probably won't do this book justice. I'm analytical, Master's Degree in Statistics kind of guy, yea, stoic. Psychology. Yea that stuff is for quacks. In graduate school I worked with enough of them trying to squeeze any interpretation out of their "data".

So I have one of those life altering experiences. I go to Iraq as a reservist, spend sixteen months away from my wife and job, come back to a wife that doesn't love me anymore and doesn't know if she can. PTSD, Generalized Anxiety, and Depression all in one. But other than the PTSD symptoms, all of the other things have constantly been in my life working mysteriously in the background.

I go to a shrink as my marriage has fallen apart and I have no one to talk to and she brings up Attachment. I have never heard of it, so the scientist in me wants to learn anything and everything before our next meeting. I next day this book and begin reading "my life away" online and in the book. Or more apropriately "reading my life back." I'm fitting into this mold that is everything I don't want to be, but am and jealous of the mold that is everything that I am not, I'm being divorced by a woman that has been hardening my mold for the last 5 years. This book altered my perspective on so many things. I identified with so many others. It gave me a framework and definitions for defense mechanisims like (passive agressiveness and sublimation), a way to look at my childhood, and although the odds are against me being Ambivalently Attached and seeking Secure Attachment, I can now somewhat accurately "self-reflect" on my life experiences.

I won't lie, reading the history was kind of drab (I read math books for a living that isn't much more exciting), but I can't say pick up this book and start with chapter 7 or something like that. The history gives you a working perspective, something like "at least that didn't happen to me" but then it starts to come into more practicable situations and you start to piece how you fit into the reading. Taking and owning what is yours and totally psychoanalyzing your friends and in my case the divorcing spouse.

The chapter that "WOW"d me the most was Chapter 26 Repetition and Change: Working Through Insecure Attachment. After I was able to piece the picture together of my life and what extent of the symptoms and other things in my life that have related to the entire book thus far. This chapter has given me some hope. Some hope of finding out who I really am and exploring my sloshing bucket of memories for what decisions I have made and what decisions I am making by trying X+Y=Z over and over again instead of tring something like B/Q=A.

This review still does not do this book justice, but I'll put it out there, but it is what it is. If you don't believe in psychobabble and are a hard "nut" to crack, read this book! I have looked down at psycholgists most of my life, like they settled on an "Easier" career because they weren't good enough for a "Real" one. Well I can honestly admit and apologize to any that I may have convinced, that I could not have been more from the truth.

I'm not going to switch careers or anything, but I now have a reference in wich to self reflect and "get a grip!"

NCMom.......2006-08-21

This book explained so much! Growing up with foster parents and no consistent parenting has made life confusing. Its been interesting to read that any adult, even the adults with the same parents from birth also have attachment issues. This is the first book I have found that explains how someone's childhood dramatically affects our ability to attach to our own children. Every parent I know wants to give their children their best and this book shows me how anyone understand ALL the sides of attachment disorder. Most of the books I have found have only explained why a child is not able to attach. What a relief to understand the whole subject.

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This book will change your life!
groundbreaking and marriage-saving
Discovering the Mind of a Woman
Transformation
Not The Full Counsel of God

Discovering The Mind Of A Woman: The Key To Becoming A Strong And Irresistible Husband Is...
Nelson Books
Manufacturer: Thomas Nelson
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If Only He Knew: What No Woman Can Resist
What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women
For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Love Life for Every Married Couple

ASIN: 0785278117

Book Description

In Discovering the Mind of Women husbands learn to understand their wives as Christ would. From this point they learn to respond to their wives in a consistent Christlike manner. A radically transformed and renewed marriage is the result.

Drawing from his own story and the stories of husbands whose marriages were dissolving, Ken Nair reveals major problems in life and marriage. After discussing the problems, he reveals relationship altering concepts which not only will revive a marriage, they will radiate throughout couple's lives as well.

Customer Reviews:

This book will change your life!.......2007-08-25

I have been married nearly 30 years. Three years ago my wife and I went through a Christian program for relationships and applied biblical principals that have transformed our marriage. This book Discovering the Mind of a Woman says what I have been living for the past three years. The bottom line is that God's principals work and this book explains these principals in a concise and biblical way. By letting go of my ego, and pride and getting rid of any sin in my life that God shows me I can die to my carnal nature and put on Christ every day -actually on a moment by moment basis. For me it was like having blinders taken off my eyes. By resolving bitterness and being Christlike by agape loving my wife like Christ loves the church I am experiencing a transformation in my relationships with God, my wife and our children. This is a must read for every man that is looking for a closer walk with God and strengthened relationships of all kinds.

groundbreaking and marriage-saving.......2007-07-27

My dh read this book and then asked me to read it. I found it a refreshing change from other books on marriage I've read. It is the only one I'm familiar with that actually holds men accountable for the success of their marriages and the emotional and spiritual health of their wives.

The criticisms mentioned in reviews here and elsewhere on the 'net are gross exaggerations and misrepresentations. It is worth noting that these reactionary comments were all made by men. If these husbands allow their wives to read the book, the women will find themselves amazed at their agreement with Mr. Nair's insights.

Most popular works on Christian marriage focus quite strongly on the wife's duty to reverence and obey her husband--this one stands out as proclaiming the balancing (and in my opinion, currently more needed) view of a husband's Christlike, sacrificial (Eph 5:25) love for his wife.

The proof, as they say, is in the pudding, and the true eternal value of Mr. Nair's work is evidenced by the happier husbands and wives who have benefitted from his book. Without a doubt, husbands who take his exhortations to heart will find deeper true intimacy with their wives on every level.

Discovering the Mind of a Woman.......2007-06-16

A must read for men seeking to be better husbands. It gave me insights into why my wife reacts the way she does to my words and actions. I plan on including this along with a few others like it to help divorce proof my small group.

Transformation.......2007-06-10

I have seen, in my own life and in the lives of others, the fruit of Ken Nair's teaching. The concepts within this book are not of Ken's own imagining, but are inspired; indeed, they can be found in the scriptures. "Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?"
Matt 7:16

Not The Full Counsel of God.......2007-01-31

Though much of Nair's books contain good scriptural truth, he does not "declare unto you all the counsel of God." I have attended his seminar and his counsel is one-sided and his viewpoint of women is condescending, unrealistic, and unBiblical.

1. By implication, Ken teaches the only reason wives sin is because their husbands are not being Christlike.

2. In his books and presentations, Ken freely applies Scripture to the responsibilities of husbands, but does not apply them to wives or even address their Biblical responsibilities except to teach the only job a wife has is to berate the husband when he is not being Christlike.

3. Ken condemns husbands for their sins, but allows wives to freely indulge in those sins:

Ken says that women "are the historians of the family and always remember past offenses." Even though in 1 Corinthians 13:5 reliable translations tell us that true love does not keep a record of wrongs, Ken encourages wives to do the exact opposite.

Ken says, "outbursts of anger are the only way women can get men to listen," and yet, Ken encourages such anger ignoring James 1:20 and Ephesians 4:31-32 that such behavior is sin.

One walks away from Ken's books and seminars wondering if women are truly capable of sin unless their wayward husbands drive them to it.

4. Worse of all, Ken is guilty of only quoting partial verses. 1 Peter 3:7 says, "You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, *as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.* The section between the asterisks is omitted from Ken's workbooks and presentations changing the emphasis of the verse. This is not the only verse Ken only partially quotes.

5. Ken knows he stands on shaky ground and manipulates those who question him by accusing them of being carnal and "fleshly."

The bottom line is that Ken is correct when he instructs Christian husbands "ought to love their wives as their own bodies." However, he does everybody a grave disservice when he fails to instruct a wife to "respect her husband."

Those struggling in dysfunctional marriages will do better with certified Christian marriage counselors or the writings of James Dobson or other qualified Christian counselors, but I cannot with clear conscience recommend Ken's books and his expensive seminar and his very costly, three-year-long discipleship course.

On Becoming Toddlerwise (On Becoming. . .)

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This book is AWFUL! I threw mine away!
A good guide to behavior and expectations
BEWARE of Gary Ezzo!
Not for Me
Child Training Is Ok Folks

On Becoming Toddlerwise (On Becoming. . .)
Gary Ezzo
Manufacturer: Parent Wise Solutions
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Binding: Paperback

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On Becoming Childwise: Parenting Your Child from 3-7 Years
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ASIN: 0971453225

Book Description

From First Steps to Potty Training There is no greater fulfillment a parent can receive than the upturned face of a toddler, eyes speaking wonders and a face of confidence in discovering a brand new world with Mom and Dad. In just over a year, the helpless infant emerges as a little moving, talking, walking, exploratory person marked by keen senses, clear memory, quick perceptions and unlimited energy. He emerges into a period of life know affectionately as the Toddler Years. How ready are you for this new experience?The toddler years are the learning fields and you need a trustworthy guide to take you through the unfolding maze of your child's developing world. On Becoming Toddlerwise is a tool chest of workable strategies and ideas that multiplies your child's learning opportunities in a loving and nurturing way. This resource is as practical as it is informative.With over two million homes to their credit, trusted parenting authors Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam bring their collective wisdom, experience, and insights to bear on this critical phase of growth and development. From first steps to potty training made easy and everything in between, it is all here for you.

Customer Reviews:

This book is AWFUL! I threw mine away!.......2007-09-23

Toddler Wise was awful. I am an educator with a masters degree in Education, Counseling and Guidance and Educational Leadership! No wonder why our kids are out of control. This book in not in the best interest of the child and the book Baby Wise is WORSE!! I do not recommend this book to anyone.

A good guide to behavior and expectations.......2007-07-18

The "Babywise" series has truly helped me understand what to expect and how to deal with different issues that come up with raising a baby. I love the authors' philophies that a happy and healthy child comes from a strong and loving marriage. They also believe that we, as parents, are training our children to be positive members of society with self-control and ethics. Their parenting style isn't for everybody, but it has worked nicely for us so far, and so I expected the guidelines to follow suit in this book. "Toddlerwise" didn't disappoint, but the one thing it lacked was a section explaining how to achieve certain behaviors. For example, they believe in training your child to play independently, which I think is a very important skill. However, when they say to train your child to play in one place by themselves by laying out a blanket and having them play in that space for a certain number of minutes, I was left with the question, "What if they crawl/walk away?!" I guess you just try, try again, but I honestly was left asking the questions, "How" or "What if..." more so than I was with the first two books. Still, if you are a "Babywise" parent, you will get something out of "Toddlerwise."

BEWARE of Gary Ezzo!.......2007-07-07

Before buying this book do your research. Why choose a parenting book that is highly controversial when you could choose one of the many that is backed and endorsed by the medical and child development community without hesitation?

Gary Ezzo and his wife have no formal medical, theological or child development training. Gary Ezzo isn't even a real minister and does not have a theological degree. In fact, the Ezzo's own children and their spouses have formally and publicly severed ties with Gary and his wife. His books and his character have drawn wide concern and criticism. Ezzo claims his wife has pediatric nursing experience, however these claims have never been proven through her very limited and brief work history. Even reading his own website you will find absolutely no qualifications mentioned. These people have none. What business do they have writing parenting books?

You may or may not know that his books are the secular version of the religious parenting books he originally published called "Growing Kids God's Way" which have been rejected and raised alarm by many Christian organizations including Focus on the Family. Ezzo was excommunicated from 2 former churches and forced to leave a third. Christian and Secular experts alike have raised the alarm no Gary's philosophies. His "Babywise" books are self-published because his publisher, Multnomah, stopped publication and returned the rights to Gary due to the fact that they received much criticism from hundreds of pediatrician's, developmental specialists and lactation experts on the safety of the practices recommended in this book. The publisher was highly criticized due to the fact that there was no medical editor who reviewed the book and no peer or medical review of any of the supposed "research" Ezzo claims to have done, as most parenting and child development books have. Normally parenting books should also have extensive and varied works cited to support the recommendations. Babywise has two! Even those two have been shown to be misrepresented and misinterpreted. The parenting strategies described in Babywise and many statements and claims given are not backed up by medically proven facts or knowledge. In truth, many of his supposed facts are considered false by the medical community and have caused harm to innocent children when parents believe them to be true. When Ezzo himself has been asked to show research or medical data that supports his statements he informed his interviewer and the book's critics "...you will need to take the time to pull it together, if you are really interested."
Multnomah had to halt publication for fear they would be held liable for the harm done to the many children suffering from dehydration, failure to thrive and more as a result of reading "Babywise". It is almost unheard of for a book like this to be dropped by the publisher. Some parents may be confused by the fact that the newest edition of this book has a medical doctor's name, Robert Bucknam, attached to it. That is all it is. The text of the book is almost 100% identical to the previous editions and the basic PDF recommendations remain the same. Although Gary Ezzo has a habit of easily dismissing any criticism against him as false and untrue, he has been described by many who have known him as manipulative, dis-honest and egotistical. He is known in the Christian community for spreading false and hurtful rumors to harm the reputations of those who criticize him. He has had to change churches and business relationships many times and has obviously left many hurt people in his wake. Check out www.Ezzo.info, http://www.rickross.com/reference/gfi/gfi5.html and www.nospank.net/ezzo3.htm among other's for more information. I have been unable to find any expert who recommends or defends Ezzo and the only articles I've found that support him and Babywise are written by Gary Ezzo himself! Most interesting to me are the sad stories from parents who tried, even taught, Ezzo's methods and very much regret it now.

I have personally seen one of my friend's children become unhealthy and emotionally damaged from using this program. Not only that, but my friend was anything but peaceful and relaxed as a result of this parenting style. She was consumed by the constant schedule and worry to stay on schedule and go "by the book". I watched as her child cried and was ignored due to the child not following the schedule. I was also very sad to see her mother discourage everyone, even her grandparents, from holding her. She was visibly irritated when people wanted to hold the baby and the child was constantly in a carrier on the floor. By the age of one, her daughter already appeared to be lonely and have little bond with her mother. I've never seen such a young child look at her mother with clear disdain and anger. It was frightening. She rejected her mother's breast at an early age, which her mother was very sad about. I was quite shocked and confused at how my friend was raising her child. I knew her to be a loving, bright, educated, fun and highly capable person before having children. I knew this bizarre behavior was all stemming from this book. A few years later when I had my own children and was looking at parenting styles and books I did a little research on Babywise and was astounded at what I found. I was up all night in surprise and horror at the depth of harm this book has caused, and surprise at how many people have fallen under Ezzo's "spell". I have mentioned just a small portion of what I read and learned above. Please do your own research, too, before buying and following this book.

Thanks,
A Concerned Parent

Not for Me.......2007-06-06

I thought this would be exactly what I needed. It had a schedule with a list of things to do and follow, instructions if you will. After getting to know the little person my son has become over the last year and learning to trust my own instincts, I know will never be this regimented and harsh. I want my child to feel secure in making his own decisions and for him to have his own wishes and ideas.I want a book to not only say this is permissable but encouraged it. I just do not see how this books advice would help him develop his own cognative,leadership abilities or help his confidence. I would not want to be treated like this so why would I treat my child like this. I have to admit this is the exact opposite way I thought about child raising when I was pregnant and when I read the book. It may work for others and I mean no judgement to those who like this book; it just is not for me, and I like schedules! I found "The Confident Child: Raising Children to Believe in Themselves", "Parents Do Make a Difference: How to Raise Kids with Solid Character, Strong Minds, and Caring Hearts" and "The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two" and a couple of the Dr Sears books more helpful.

Child Training Is Ok Folks.......2007-03-23

It may not be your choice for how to raise your child, it may not be how your child responds... But folks, we are all different and one thing for certain, Christ taught us not to judge, lest we be judged... All families are different and there is NO NO NO ABUSE advocated in this book!

From a devout Dr. Sears, LLL, attachment parenting Mom--Reb Bradley and Rick Fugate are OK too. This is a method for a more structured family. It isn't for me, but as I say, I do advocate the Child Training Tips in Bradley's and Fugate's books, even for a far less structured mom.

Every family has a system... this may or may not be yours. It is an interesting and insightful read.

On Becoming Childwise: Parenting Your Child from 3-7 Years

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Good Food For Thought
Great ideas for positive parenting
A Quack
Excellent Guidance - Lead by Example
Loved it!

On Becoming Childwise: Parenting Your Child from 3-7 Years
Gary Ezzo , and Robert Bucknam
Manufacturer: Parent - Wise Solutions, Inc.
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0971453233

Book Description

As a child moves beyond the toddler years, new challenges arise for parents. Be prepared for this exciting stage with fifteen "Childwise" principles for training children ages 3-7 in happy and responsible living.

Customer Reviews:

Good Food For Thought.......2007-08-24

I have read "On Becoming Babywise" (vol. I and II) as well as the "Toddlerwise", "Preschool", and have just finished "Childwise". Here is what I found particularly helpful in the "On Becoming..." Series:
1)The emphasis on a loving marriage.
2)Stressing healthy eating and sleeping habits as a foundation to happy children (if you are smart about it even a busy mom can serve healthy food)
3)Obtaining eye contact then expecting a "Yes, Mama" or "Yes, Papa" after you ask your child to do something. More importantly, is the idea that even at a fairly young age, you begin to teach your child the "whys" of your rules (e.g. "We take care of other people's property!"). Said at an opportune moment, and always with the same inflection it can become a mantra that your little one soon enough will understand. ... My neighbor watched our two children (3 years and 15 months)for two hours while I helped my husband direct the moving company. ... At the end of their playtime together, the neighbor said to the oldest (boy)that they may just leave the toys out and she would get them later. My son then replied, "Oh no, we take care of other people's property" and then began to put the toys away. ...
4)Complimenting your child's good behavior to reinforce it ("Thank you, Samuel for not allowing the screen door to slam while baby Sara is sleeping. That was very considerate."). ... Add a gentle hug and you have a 2 1/2 year old beaming with pride. ... Now as a 3 y/o, making his big-boy bed makes him even more proud.
5)Deciding whether your child is being disobedient or just childish (it makes a difference). ...

There are other wonderful tools I have integrated into my parenting tool belt. These book have been a delight to use. ... Because we do not just live from moment to moment, we can also plan for lifes little pleasures (e.g. playtime with Mama and Papa or even family outtings).
... Despite what Attatchment Parenting people believe, training your child to navigate through his society is not a bad thing, it is the right thing and loving thing to do.

Great ideas for positive parenting.......2007-02-11

This book gave me GREAT ideas on how to help build moral character into my children! Good advice and perspective for creating a peaceful, loving home atmosphere too. A must-read for any parent!

A Quack.......2007-01-11

Please people open your eyes to the Ezzo's scam before it hurts your family. He has NO background or education in child development or pediatrics. He and his wife are bilking a blind and uneducated set of people who of course want to grow there kids God's way. Insane.

Excellent Guidance - Lead by Example.......2007-01-04

This book not only provides good how-to's, but also relates to why younger children are becoming more and more disrespectful in today's society. I was surprised on how the book was less focused on training the child but more on coaching and retraining Mom and Dad! Lead by example is the true 'moral of the story'. I have implemented some facets and seen positive results/behaviours. Remember people,.....this, as any child-help-book is advice....you either take it or leave it.

Loved it!.......2006-12-13

We have four children (ages 7-2). This book is filled with wonderful advice. I read the book twice and took notes. We are using, "Yes, Mommy" and "Yes, Daddy" and it has been very helpful in preventing the need for discipline.
I love the suggestion that children need to know not only what they did wrong, but also the principle behind it.
I also liked the idea of teaching the children the difference of saying, "I'm sorry" and "Will you forgive me?".
This book is wonderful for any parent, whether they are experiencing huge discipline issues, or whether they just need a few more tools to add to their "belt".

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SunnyFlorida
Thoroughly helpful
Medically Correct
Medically Correct
Not for most women, beware!

Becoming Orgasmic
HEINMAN
Manufacturer: Simon & Schuster
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Binding: Paperback

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Are you shy or self-conscious when it comes to sex? Do you want to learn how to enhance the pleasure you derive from sex? The revised and expanded edition of Becoming Orgasmic provides a program designed to help anyone overcome the myriad obstacles to complete sexual satisfaction.

Whether married or single, young or old, the program presented in these pages will help you feel comfortable with yourself and your ideas about sex and enable you to grow as a person. Becoming Orgasmic will help you:

• Evaluate your sexual history and put it in perspective
• Explore your body through touch
• Understand the effects of pregnancy, menstruation, and menopause on sexual desire and response
• Be comfortable with your body and yourself as a woman
• Share self-discovery with your partner
• Find techniques to try if something turns you off
• Overcome the fear of orgasm
• Learn how to bring yourself to orgasm
• Practice safe sex in today's world -- precautionary measures, social expectations, personal values, and choosing a partner in the age of AIDS

A personal and sensitively written book that is also informative, Becoming Orgasmic is designed to make you feel good about your sexuality and yourself.

Customer Reviews:

SunnyFlorida.......2004-06-10

This book helped me immensely. I bought the book about 7 years ago. Before I read and followed this book, I thought I would be "faking it" my whole life. I doubt I would have figured out how to acheive "it" if I hadn't read this. I highly recommend it to any woman who just doesn't get it when it comes to orgasm and you feel like you're the only one! This book can truly help you.

Thoroughly helpful.......2003-10-26

For all those women out there who think there's something wrong with them... chances are there's NOT!!!

This book is thoroughly helpful. I was almost at the point of giving up hope altogether... then I purchased this book on a whim, after reading a recommendation of it by an on-line sex therapist. Let me say I have NO regrets!! It was one of the best buys of my life.

The style is easy to understand and the tone is compassionate; but it is not patronizing, like some other self-help books can be. On the contrary, I found it to be quite educational. I have learnt a great deal about relationships and dealing with my emotional baggage, in addition to all the detailed stuff about my physiology and how to press the right buttons.

On the whole, this book has boosted my confidence in the bedroom ten-fold. To anyone who has problems achieving the big 'O', I couldn't recommend it more. Ten thumbs up!

Medically Correct.......2001-07-03

What I liked best about this book, was it was not pornography in disguise. So many sex "self-help" books boarder on the inapproptiate. But not this one. The language was respectful and diagrams tasteful.

"Becoming Orgasmic" is very professionally written by doctors, with a lot of clinical research, both their own and by others. What I appriciated was that the doctors did not present a quick-fix, one size fits all solution. This book is meant to help a woman heal herself. THe book stayed respectful and lets the woman that she is not alone and that her dyfunction does not make her weird or strange.

This workbook was recommended to me by a doctor and I recommend it to you.

Medically Correct.......2001-06-27

What I appreciated most about this book was that it was NOT pornography in disguise. Most sexual 'how to' and self help books can be quite degrading, graphic, or base. This is a text book. These two doctors know their stuff and went to great lenghts to write medically accurate and proffionally. (Still, I got a giggle that the doctor's last name is Heiman.)

I like the fact that this book doesn't have a right way, only way, or quick fix formula. It helps one explore all possiblities for sexual dysfunction and helps the woman better unstand her dysfunction.

The tone of this book is very encourageing- just what women need to hear, that your problem does not isolate you or make you different. My doctor reccomended this book to me. I reccomend it to you.

Not for most women, beware!.......1999-06-21

I got this book hoping it would have some new insight and excersises to help me reach orgasm more frequently with my lover. However, I soon discovered everything in the book had already been thought of. You see, this book is aimed at women who have NEVER ever had an orgasm before in their lives, at women who are afraid to look at or touch themselves, at extremely religious couples who need to be TOLD to loosen up, and so forth. It just wasn't for me, and it isn't for most of you who are seeking more fulfillment in your sex lives. Secondly, the illustrations are drawn by a man, and they look more like bimbo models. I'm sure he enjoyed being paid to draw masturbating women. The pictures are not helpful, they're offensive.

Creative Counterpart : Becoming the Woman, Wife, and Mother You Have Longed to Be

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Helpful and concise
Great book
Life changing and Marriage changing...
A gift from God
Pick this one!

Creative Counterpart : Becoming the Woman, Wife, and Mother You Have Longed to Be
Linda Dillow
Manufacturer: Thomas Nelson
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Linda Dillow gracefully and succinctly motivates Christian women to reach for more than they are currently experiencing in their marriages. She includes creative suggestions on how to encourage your husband, live above your circumstances, and develop a plan whereby you can begin to become the woman, wife, and mother that you long to be. She describes a creative counterpart as being more than just a helper. She is a woman who, having chosen (or having found herself in) the vocation of wife and mother, decides to learn and grow in all the areas of this role and to work as though she were aiming for the presidency of a corporation. Also included is a Bible study and project guide, which work perfectly for personal study or small group interaction.

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Helpful and concise.......2007-09-11

I am really enjoying this book. I can tell this will be the type of book I'd read over and over again. Linda Dillow is so "real" and uses so much scripture in her examples and applications to living the Christian woman's life.

Great book.......2007-07-25

I did enjoy this book, however I only gave 4/5 stars because it did not focus much on becoming the "Mother You Have Longed to Be." It did had many good points about being a "creative counterpart" in relation to being a wife.

Life changing and Marriage changing..........2007-04-10

I have read many books on how to be a better wife and this is the only one that doesn't make me chaff! Linda puts it all together in a beautiful format that causes you to strife to be a better counterpart!

A gift from God.......2005-08-26

I stumbled upon this book completely by accident. Shortly before our wedding, I was helping my then-fiance pack up some items for storage. I found this book stashed in his bookcase. A family friend had given this book to his first wife in effort to help them work on their marriage and find Christ again. Unfortunately for both of them, she wasn't interested in leading a Christian life and their marriage ended. Thankfully, this book found it's way into my hands shortly before our wedding, and it provided me with excellent pool-side reading during our honeymoon. This book has been a blessing in my life and I re-read it every few months for renewed conviction and encouragement. Mrs. Dillow is a fantastic author; this book is an easy read that is honest and very practical. I give this book as a gift at every bridal shower I attend.

Pick this one!.......2005-01-09

I have read nearly a dozen books on growing as a wife and/or mother in the past two years, and this is by far the best overall book I have come accross. Dillow writes in a very concise, purposeful and poignant way. Dillow consitently writes the best study questions I have seen in women's books. They are thoughtful, challenging and always very practical. Dillow is both practical and deeply theological.

Chapter 4, called "priority planner" provides the best organizational scheme for ordering your daily life and home that I have seen. I have always been very organized, but Dillows plan took my daily routine to another level - a much more peaceful and fruitful one. I especially recommend this book for moms with several small children who have very little time, or with women who are making home their full time job for the first time and need some help learning how to self manage their time 24-7.

I suggest grabbing your best friend or two and reading this book together, following the study guide in the back. Most of us need the accountability and friendship to process the deep and challenging things that Dillow presents in this classic book. This book would work very well as a curriculum for a church class. Our church also uses it for 1 - 1 mentorship.

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