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The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex: An Indispensable Resource for Pleasure and Seduction
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In Barbara Keesling's latest book for women about sex, the noted sex therapist mines the idea that virtually every good girl yearns in her heart to be a bad girl.
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2 1/2 stars........2006-09-21
this book is not very good. if you have ever had sex this book does not tell you anything new. basically it tells you a couple positions. guy on top. girl on top. it tells you not to wear a flannel pajamas and bunny slippers to bed if you want to turn your partner on. just basic things that are nothing more than common knowledge. sorry to say im very disappointed and would not reccomend this book.
Serious results!.......2006-07-21
I started reading this book when my boyfriend mentioned that his cousin was reading it, and he believed that I defined "good girl", and needed to shift over to "bad girl" by reading this book. I thought our sex life was great, but my partner is older and more experienced than I am, so I took his words seriously and ordered the book.
I'm only 3/4 through the book and it has made a SERIOUS difference in my sex life. We're having more pleasure and more FUN than ever imaginable! I totally rock his world now, and I can't imagine being a good girl ever again!
Most of this book isn't about sex, really. It's about your image of yourself, and how you have been "taught", growing up, that thoughts about sex are bad and that wanting sex automatically makes you promiscuous. It teaches you to embrace sex as something healthy, fun, and needed! Keesling pulls you outside to look at the way you have been behaving, and explains why you're doing this and how to change it to make you feel more confident, and sexier! This goes for walking, talking, sitting, standing, dressing, everything. And it doesn't tell you to dress like a prostitute, either, so don't worry. All of this comfort in everyday life makes you more confident under the sheets. You learn to feel comfortable telling your guy what you want, asking him what he wants, delivering upon both yours and his needs, and having a TON of fun!!
I am so happy I have read this book, and I can't believe I had a sex life before this! This book is fun, informative, and very easy to read. The context is casual, so it feels like you're having a one-on-one chitchat with your favorite girlfriend, which is never boring. What've you got to lose by picking up this book? Seriously!! Good girl no more!! ;)
Newbie.......2006-03-28
I bought the book to help my post-baby frumpiness. After reading the book I think it would have been a fabulous read before I got married. It's a great introduction to seduction and very informative -- but if I tried to bring a feather duster into the bedroom my husband would explode into laughter.
A liberating, fun book.......2005-07-11
This book goes far beyong 'bedroom skills' and deals with how to act like a sensual woman through your daily life. The author covers how what we wear affects how we feel, our walk, posture, the thoughts that go through our minds. It is very interesting. Being faithfully married for fourteen years, this has helped me to be even more attracted to my husband, and our sex life has gone off the charts, as I feel good about who I am. Barbara Keesling writes in a fun way, like she was sitting down having a conversation with you. Great sex truly is 99% mental. This book is sure to help you have the sex you've always wanted if you follow through with the suggestions she makes.
Brilliant.......2005-03-09
As a preface, my mom died when i was 13. I've been wandering around womanhood and feminity without a compass for 10 years. This got me back on course. I'm learning to embrace the power that comes along with being a woman, not only that, but i'm learning to focus it and not be ashamed of it.
This book is not just about sex, but it's about how a woman should see herself. It's about saying it's okay to be sexual, think about sex, enjoy sex, exude sex. It is not about being a slut. It's about being empowered.
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Say good-bye to diapers and hello to fast, effective potty training, from the parenting author millions trust
Potty training your child doesn't have to be a stressful experience. Parenting authority Elizabeth Pantley helps your child get on the road to bathroom independence without frustration, confusion, or tears.
Elizabeth Pantley's easy no-cry solution will help you:
- Determine the right time to start potty training
- Create a simple and effective potty plan
- Increase your child's self-esteem and independence
- Motivate a reluctant potty user . . . and more!
Plus, this is the only potty training book with complete bathroom safety checklists and childproofing strategies.
Customer Reviews:
Best Potty Training Book Out There.......2007-05-21
Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Potty Training Solution is one amazing book. She knows exactly what a parent needs to succeed in teaching their toddler to use the potty. I have twin boys and I never thought I would be able to get them to stop peeing on the floor and into a potty. Elizabeth's book helped me do that. The one thing that I like best about the book is that Elizabeth has real families telling their potty problems. Wow!!! I'm not alone, real people, real problems but with Elizabeth's help, a real solution. That is what I love about the No Cry Potty Training Solution. It is easy to follow and the quick reference guides are wonderful. Most importantly, Elizabeth eloquently describes that you don't have to follow a set standard on how or when you should potty train. She simply states that it is ok to follow your child's cues and do what works best for you and your family. Only you know your child best. I however, think that Elizabeth knows every child best. I recommend that if you are even thinking about potty training...look no further, run out and get this book right away. I promise you won't be able to put it down.
Okay book, if you do not have an extremely stubborn child.......2007-05-09
I really liked the take of this book....be calm, let the child lead, be calm, the child will not be ready until he/she is ready, be calm. Did I mention that a ton of this book is based on you? Like I said I did like the book, it was easy to read and made sense...EXCEPT if you have a totally stubborn child who absolutely refuses to go on the potty. There is no practicals on how to deal with problems like this. What do you do when your child is ready, but can not be bothered to stop playing? I think the book can be improved greatly by some practical answers other than maybe your child is not ready.
Another good book in the series.......2007-03-16
This book is very user friendly. Although many of the ideas I knew about I found Pantley's methods and explanations bring those into a new light. Using the new and the old techniques, my daughter almost trained herself by 32mo including night time. She has only had a hand full of accidents since she announced she would no longer wear diapers and she is now well over 3. There were definitely no tears shed for this adventure! I am using the same philosophy with my 2 year old niece and she is potty trained at home, only wearing a pull up out of the house and at bed.
A helpful book.......2007-02-09
I was anxious about potty-training my little one. This book helped me feel more prepared before tackling it. I like the quiz that helped you decide if your toddler was showing readiness signs- another way to eliminate the guesswork.
The author takes a low-stress approach and constantly reminds the parent that they set the tone for potty training. It CAN be a fun process for both you and your toddler.
Good information on potty chairs (pros/cons) and different prizes to incorporate in the learning process.
user friendly.......2007-02-01
WOW!! I enjoyed this book. I found this book to be straight forward, easy to follow-- I guess user friendly. Potty training is hard enough. I didn't need something complicated and time consuming to read- which I found with other books. I was able to read this book in segments and initiate plan of action. Thank you for a book that works!!
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Widely considered the leading book involving nutrition and feeding infants and children, this revised edition offers practical advice that takes into account the most recent research into such topics as: emotional, cultural, and genetic aspects of eating; proper diet during pregnancy; breast-feeding versus; bottle-feeding; introducing solid food to an infant's diet; feeding the preschooler; and avoiding mealtime battles. An appendix looks at a wide range of disorders including allergies, asthma, and hyperactivity, and how to teach a child who is reluctant to eat. The author also discusses the benefits and drawbacks of giving young children vitamins.
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Confused about feeding your baby or toddler? Child of Mine, by noted nutritionist Ellyn Satter, is an essential guide for every new parent concerned with nutrition and appetite. Satter's advice is thorough and straightforward: "You can't control or dictate the quantity of food your child eats, and you shouldn't try. You also can't control or dictate the kind of body your child develops, and you shouldn't try. What you can do, and it is a great deal, is set things up for your child so she, herself, can regulate her food intake as well as possible, and so she can develop a healthy body that is constitutionally right for her."
Child of Mine provides information on all aspects of feeding, from pregnancy through the toddler years. Satter begins with historical and social perspectives on infant feeding, describing how formula was developed and discussing the social movement that lead to accepting a child's input into his or her own development. Nutrition during pregnancy, infant feeding, introducing solid foods, building positive eating relationships, and avoiding eating disorders are all discussed. The sections on breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, and on the regulation of food intake (particularly the relationship between parental attitudes and children's eating habits) are especially recommended.
Satter provides specific nutritional information (including charts, diagrams, and nutritional breakdowns) interspersed with a no-nonsense, experienced perspective that will help you establish good eating habits that your children will benefit from long after they're out of diapers. --Ericka Lutz
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Feeding with Love and Good Sense.......2007-09-15
This book is great for parents of infants through preschoolers. It combines information on feeding dynamics, parenting, nutrition, developmental stages of eating and children's behavior. I purchased it to gain more information on feeding as a professional (occupational therapist) and have now started buying it as part of baby gifts. I wish I had it when my kids were babies.
Its great to see clinical 'proofs' that help to build parents confidence.......2007-08-05
Feeding seems to be a very emotional topic for many and parents seem to argue a lot with one another around this topic especially if their child is overweight or underweight. In many cases when talking to other parents you hear "My child is doing just fine and I'm not following the methods in that book", or "Well you grew up fine following my techniques didn't you?" mentalities that will be mirrored in our own beliefs and your own parents.
So what I find extremely useful in this book is the clinical evidence and references to studies presented. Since children even in the same family are different its good to hear the history of the previous century and read about the studies conducted. This scientific approach is helpful in building my confidence in what approaches to use and understanding that the approaches put forward in the book are not just the latest fad but something that has been tested and held up to scrutiny. She also discusses where she has been mistaken herself and is willing to admit her mistakes; mistakes that were proven out through (yes) more clinical studies.
So my advice for those looking at this book is read it with a scientists mindset and not with a mind of 'I bet this book proves my wife is wrong'. If you do this then I'm sure you'll enjoy it and find it useful in removing some of the stress of being a parent.
One more thing; I read one review that read:
"We eat curries, stir-fries, pastas, burritos, and a zillion other things. How could a celebrated nutrition expert have so little clue that lowfat food can be wonderful varied stuff?"
I'm sure this reader is more skilled than I at creating low fat burritos and congratulations are obviously due. However, I think this demonstrates my point in that here is an example of someone reading the book wanting to prove out their own approach and then being disappointed and offended that the book wasn't on their particular line of thinking.
Perfect baby shower gift.......2007-07-14
This book really helped us understand about how to introduce food and feed our children. The information incules everything from nursing and bottle feeding, through feeding during the toddler years. Ellyn Satter's philosophies make sense; they were easy to adapt to our life. We learned how to avoid food battles with our two year old. We wish we would have had this book when our first child came along! We now give it as a baby gift to all our friends.
Good Advice on Bottle Feeding and Starting on Solids.......2007-07-13
As someone who adopted my son at 5 months of age, I really appreciated a book that covered bottle-feeding sensibly without making me feel like my child was actively being harmed by formula or that I was a piece of s#$@ for not being able to breastfeed him. Too many books - particularly those from the attachment parenting realm - lead those of us who are unable to breastfeed to despair for our children's future.
It was also helpful when getting my son started on solids. After about 2 weeks he decided he was not going to let me spoon feed him (batted the spoon away at every opportunity). My instinct was to NOT let him hold the spoon and instead to find creative ways to jam that spoon in his mouth. Without this book, I don't know that I would have realized that he was not rejecting the FOOD, but was just really insistent on feeding himself. With this books tips and suggestions, I was able to find ways to accommodate his desire to self-feed with his lacking motor skills.
Also, my sister is a pediatric nutritionist. She gave me this book and always recommends it to all her patients' families.
child of mine.......2007-04-01
although this book had lots of information i needed more direction and actual meal ideas to get started.
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Now available in a 35th anniversary edition, this book describes what happens to us whenever we lose someone or something important. We all need a better understanding of the small griefs in life as well as those larger grief experiences that can overwhelm us. Here is a volume to be kept close at hand. It can be used over the years as you encounter a wide variety of grief experiences or as you assist friends in moving beyond grief to good grief. Examines the stages of grief, from stage one -- a state of shock -- to stage ten -- a struggle to affirm reality.
Customer Reviews:
Art.......2007-07-08
I worked for Hospice Austin and we used this book in our grief counseling groups. It is an excellent guide to the stages of the grieving process.
Great grief survival tool.......2007-06-21
I buy this helpful grief guide for all those who are close to me who have the necessary grief steps to wade or wallow through.
Simple, Succinct, and Invaluable Resource for Grief Recovery.......2007-05-26
I was given this book when my oldest brother was killed in 1995. When your heart is broken and your psyche is reeling from shock, pain, disbelief, and loss, it is too much to fathom to try to read a long, involved bunch of psychobabble. Granger Westberg's Good Grief is an easy read and truly confirms that the stages of grief through which one travels are, indeed, normal. He also tells you that there are times when you need to seek professional help to guide you through the grief process. In the past 12 years, I have given this book to many friends and acquaintances dealing with various types of loss. To a person, they've all told me how helpful this resource is and have passed it on to others. This book is truly a Godsend to the hurting.
A Blessing and So Simple to Read.......2007-04-08
I was a counelor for over 20 years and have given this book or recommended this little book often. The author speaks truth in such a simple and kind voice. I've been helped by it and I know it has helped those I've introduced to the book. Grieving is sometimes compared to the dying process discribed by Eliz Kubler Ross. Not true. Grief is so very different. The tiny size of this book makes it perfect for a grieving person who can barely read anything and certainly nothing too complicated. It's simplicity makes it a great book for all people. It can also be read again and again as the grief process continues and the griever goes through many changes which feel unique to them but which are usually very common to all of us who have had cause to grieve.
Good Grief.......2007-03-23
This small booklet describes the ten stages of grief and is written in such a manner that it is easy to read and the reader need not read each section in order. It is a helpful reference book that is given out at my church's community grief support group, "The Comfort Zone," which is why I purchased a quantity of them.
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Phenomenal Book.......2007-09-26
I am blessed with a wonderful husband of 12 yrs., six children and a Master's of Theology degree from University of Dallas. Even so, I remain amazed and personally challenged by the spiritual and intellectual clarity found in West's book. Seriously, it is a must-read for anyone old enough to approach the topic of sex.
To the point.......2007-09-26
Well written and to the point. Author does not shy away from answering pointed questions with the truth no matter how difficult it might be to hear.
Great reading even for Protestants.......2007-09-09
Let me begin by saying I am Protestant, reformed baptist to be exact. Beginning the book was mainly out of curiosity for what was the Catholic understanding (which I did not think I would be sympathetic to). I was however, very wrong. While there is a fair amount Catholic beliefs that have to be waded through, this book has revolutionized my understanding. It gives the best biblical description and basis for sex and the best practical applications for having redeemed sex that I've read (which as a single young man who is more than a bit obsessive concerning sex, is a fair amount). This book has become the wedding gift I will give to married couples, and the book that any girl I seriously considered marrying would have to read, understand and accept before I would become one flesh with.
Sex, how God intended it to be........2007-08-10
Mr. West does an awesome job of explaining Pope John Paul The Great's Theology of the Body in this Q & A format. Everyone, whether Catholic or Protestant, Muslim or Jew, would benefit from reading it and discovering just what God's plan is for us in the beautiful realm of sexuality. It should be obvious to us...doesn't God always know best? He INVENTED sex after all didn't He?
Great for anyone!.......2007-05-13
This book is a great guide for anyone looking to find happiness in their relationship. For Catholics it's a well laid out interpretation of Catholic teachings that will help guide you on the right path and it's especially helpful on answering questions for significant others who may have difficulty understanding why these teachings are so important to their Catholic spouses. This book will challenge your relationship, but through those challenges lies the key to having a long and happy relationship.
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While many adolescents today have all the useful accessories of a prosperous society-cell phones, credit cards, computers, cars-they have few of the responsibilities that build character. Under intense pressure to be perfect and achieve, they devote little time to an inner life, and a culture that worships instant success makes it hard for them to engage in the slow, careful building of the skills that enhance self-esteem and self-sufciency. In this powerful and provocative book, Dr. Kindlon delineates how indulged toddlers become indulged teenagers who are at risk for becoming prone to, among other things, excessive self-absorption, depression and anxiety, and lack of self-control. Too Much of a Good Thing maps out the ways in which parents can reach out to their children, teach them engagement in meaningful activity, and promote emotional maturity and a sense of self-worth. Dan Kindlon, Ph.D. is a professor of child psychology at Harvard University. He is a frequent contributor to Child magazine and is the co-author of Raising Cain, a New York Times best-seller. He lives in Boston with his wife and two children.
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Great book for discussion/review with group of parents.......2005-10-24
I liked the book and it makes you think about your behavior towards your kids. What kind of parential behavior will help the kids in the long run. I thought it was very well written and this book leans itself very good for review and discussion with a group of parents.
Kindlon didn't tell me a thing I didn't already know........2005-07-17
I am frequently exposed to indulged children, and yes, they often have (or grow up to have) some serious problems as a result of being indulged. This book was right on the money. Aside from the parents who do the indulging, however, what person *doesn't* realize this fact? Unfortunately, those are the very people not likely to read this and benefit from it.
I have no real issues with the book. It's full of truth. It's just that when I was finished, all I could think was, "No shock, Sherlock."
Interesting focus.......2004-12-12
Choosing character as the focal point of the book brings out an interesting perspective on raising kids. This book is not about developing smarts, physical or artistic ability, and not even about disciplining your children. Moreover, it goes as far as suggesting that getting your teenager into the right college may be a counterproductive goal (imagine that!) Refreshingly, it zooms in on what kids need to develop a personality, rather than on what, perhaps, parents want them to have, and that alone sets the book apart. Many of the book's findings are based on statistical analysis of focused studies, which again is both rare and welcomed.
Being a parent is a demanding job, but many of us refuse to see it as such. We work enough at work, and at home we often seek some indulgence and fun with our kids. We want to be their friends rather than their guardians. At every moment, we want them to love us, and in any case not hate us. In short, oftentimes we are parenting for ourselves, rather than for our kids, for our convenience and pleasure. All this is not good news for our children. In fact, it betrays our rather passive role in their upbringing.
Some of the findings stand out as less obvious. That eating disorders in most cases can be traced to early childhood. That early learning of self-control, of coping with delayed gratification and boredom lead to higher SAT scores. That most sexually active teens wish they had waited.
The most thriving group of kids participating in the main study shared five characteristics. They had dinner with the family on a regular basis. Their parents were not divorced. Their room was clean. They engaged in community (even household) service. And they did not have a phone in their room.
To summarize, the book's advice seems merely commonsensical: spend more time with your children, set limits, encourage their engagement in an absorbing challenging activity, let them fail so that they have opportunities to learn from their failures. In fact, the book is more than just regurgitation of self-evident truths. Its strength comes from two sources: hard data for its conclusions and practical advice for parents. Truths are often simple (as in dieting: forget the fads, just burn more calories than you take in). But living your daily life according to what you know is right for your children - now there's the rub.
On the personal level, this book will probably help me say "no" to my 4 year-old more easily. And even though parents' "I'm doing it for your own good" argument never made much sense to me, just like ferberizing our child worked, I believe letting my son cope with manageable frustration is ultimately beneficial for him.
I would recommend the book to all parents and, perhaps, to some interested teenagers as well.
An easy, interesting read, but ultimately shallow.......2003-09-01
How to avoid spoiling kids is an important subject for parents of teenagers who have the means to provide their kids with a comfortable life. Unfortunately, this book doesn't really provide much insight into the situation. It's full of contradictions and doesn't help you understand how to walk the line between caring and indulging.
Many of the excerpts from real interviews with teens seem manipulative, with quotes selected to prove the current point the author wants to prove (which changes according to the chapter). What's lacking is any real context or analysis of the quoted teen's situation.
Ultimately the book provides some food for thought, and can be read in a few hours, but it's irritatingly simplistic.
almost good enough.......2002-05-23
This book touches on a subject but never gets past the surface. The content contains lots of interesting stories yet doesn't quite explain the reasons behind parents inability to set limits, to give consequences, and to be honest with children. I found these explanations fully explained, as one other reviewer noted in the recent book called "Hollow Kids" which is a more serious, well researched description.
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The Mistress Manual.......2007-10-02
This book is EXCELLENT for beginners and good for dominants who have a little more experience. I would also recommend for subs to read most of this book, it would be helpful in deciding and telling your significant other what you want and what you would like to try. VERY good book, in depth, and it reads very well.
My girlfriend went nuts for this!.......2007-07-25
Innocent, sweet, wholesome small town girl....now a whip wielding, thigh high leather boot wearing dominatrix....!!!! Get your lady a copy!
Mysoginistic. . ........2007-04-02
Most of this book is tainted with this woman's petty revenge fantasies. She can't seem to seperate the idea of a well balanced BDSM relationship, founded on ideas such as trust and respect, from her indignacy at her perceived "second class citizen" status because she is a woman. I know several very self possessed dominant women in my circle who were aghast at the lack of respect represented in this book for the submissive partner.
Interesting and entertaining. Could help conservative couple's to spice up their love lives........2007-02-26
I work in the capacity of a personal and professional growth coach with a very sex positive approach. I find that when people have issues, they often show up eventually in the bedroom. I also have an assumption that our society has both a fascination with sex and at the same time a lot of guilt, shame and ignorance around it, especially areas involving sexual fantasies.
As a psychological professional, I see that shame and guilt around certain fantasies often leads to acting out. Husbands and wives are often reticent to share some of their fantasies because of shame and this creates a barrier between them. In my practice, I have found honest, humor and a safe environment leads to increased intimacy and a safe space to explore new behaviors that enhance intimacy.
In our culture, women often feel disempowered and sometimes they fantasize about turning the tables. A lot of men find this interesting too and sometimes even pay for it because they are too ashamed to discuss this desire with their wife or partner. While there is a lot of material out there on this topic and other related topics, not all of them are equal.
I came across this book accidentally in a bookstore and picked it up and started reading it. I found it entertaining and it had some ideas that I laughed at and others that sounded very interesting. This book also explored five archetypal fantasies that form the basis of many men's fantasies with respect to a woman being dominant. This was an interesting discussion and it lead deeper into the territory of how to discuss these fantasies with a partner and use this material to spice up your sexual communication and sex life.
This title is geared to conversative couples who want to wade slowly into exploring new sexual territory. As such, it is an excellent start. I personally believe that although sex is to be taken very seriously, it also important to balance this with humor and a sense of playfulness. This book has this type of approach and would be good for a lot of couples interested in this area to explore together.
Also, as part of my work I deal with people who have sexual addictions, sexual co-dependency, etc. I think there is potential in many sexual activities to go too far and the area of domination/submission role playing is no exception. However, like most things, it can be fun and beneficial in moderation. What moderation is depends upon each individual couple and what they co-create together as a safe space for sexual play.
I would love to see a world where people were less inhibited and open to learning more about their psyche and needs through the safe and open exploration of their fantasies. What we repress, we often act out and try to work out on the outside. Also, these fantasies sometimes point to deep needs, past wounds and provide compensatory mechanisms in the psyche.
If you want to introduce a partner who is shy or inhibited, but that you suspect has an interest in this area, this is probably the best book you can start with. If you are into the scene already, it may be a lot of material you've already seen. However, it's a nice, brief introduction to a taboo topic and I appreciate the sex positive approach.
I am currently doing research in the area of healthy sexuality and some must have books I've come across are YOUR EROTIC MIND, THE EVOLUTION OF DESIRE and DARK EROS. I think it is very important to explore the entire psyche and seek integration rather than cutting off or being ashamed of kinks or desire that other people might find as odd. These books that I mentioned above will help you to understand why you have the types of fantasies you have, where they come from, what they might mean and help you to develop a healthy realtionship to them.
A Fem Dom's Opinion.......2007-02-16
This book had some good introductory information, but would be most effective when used in conjunction with another BDSM primer. It offered alot of useful information,but could have benefitted from having a few diagrams. (i.e. the areas of safe spanking)Still over all a satisfactory read.
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“It’s over. Now what?”
Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you’ll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will.
Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that’s just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find out:
·How and why to cry ’til dry
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·Why it pays to forgive your ex
·How to "let go" of old memories and resentments
How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again–and you’ll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life's new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.
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"It's over. Now what?"
Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you'll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will.
Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that's just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find out:
- How and why to cry 'til dry
- Good ways to beat loneliness
- Why it pays to forgive your ex
- How to "let go" of old memories and resentments
How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again-and you'll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life's new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.
Customer Reviews:
IT MADE ME HAPPY!.......2007-10-03
I was left at the altar with nowhere to turn. Then one of the bridesmaids - or a gal who was supposed to be a bridesmaid I should say - gave me a copy of this book. Literally it changed my life. Bronson delivers from page one. The book made me want to forget old...what's his name now? My BIG MISTAKE let's call him. Anyhow, I want to thank everyone involved in How To heal A Broken Heart in 30 Days. It was, all hyperbole aside, a lifesaver.
Never thought I'd do this..........2007-04-19
First I never thought I'd buy a book like this, and second, I never thought I'd write a review. I've read 2/3 of the book, but that is enough to tell me this book is a gift to my soul.
Every single page is full of love, compassion and realistic advice. Thank you for skipping the platitudes and triteness and for getting to the heart of the matter. (no pun intended) The end of a relationship hurts whether you end it, she ends it or you mutually agree to end it. It hurts whether you are at fault or she is at fault or you both are at fault. It just hurts and this book teaches first that you must give up your pride and admit that it hurts. The pain can vary, but for me I found out something I didn't even know was there.
The relationship I thought I was hurting over was not the one causing me the most pain. It was the one before. I was married for 17 years and ended up divorced. I remarried my college girlfriend who I thought was the love of my life. That marriage lasted (legally) 2 years and 9 months. After that I dated around some and then fell for a woman who I thought was the opposite of every woman I had ever fallen for - but that turned out not to be true... she was the same in many ways.
When I ended that relationship (I ended it, and I was mean when I did it, but there was no other way to make sure the door was shut tight.) I mourned her for weeks. Then I realized that I was in mourning and lonely for weeks before I actually ended the relationship. When I read this book and really looked at myself I realized that I was mourning this relationship AND my second marriage. A double whammy.
This book has helped me uncover some ugly truths about myself and the patterns I keep repeating. There comes a time when grief is over and you move on, but if you move on too fast you don't learn and grow. If you linger too long you get stuck. This book's prescription is just right. Treat yourself well, be kind to yourself, understand and let yourself feel and then let yourself heal.
I am learning to let go of what my heart keeps saying what was, and what might have been, but probably never really was or would have been, both with the second wife and the rebound girlfriend. Now I am beginning to see that it IS POSSIBLE that the next time can be better.
Thank you Howard and Mike.
A great companion through the healing process.......2006-07-31
I bought this book not that long after my ex and I broke up, and I have to say that it has helped my tremendously with the healing process. The day-by-day guide provided a lot of food-for-thought that would serve me well during my counselling sessions as my thearpist and I would talk about the different tips and insights from the book. I recommend it to anyone with a broken heart.
Like A Supportive Father.......2006-02-10
I gave this book four out of five stars, not because it isn't a very helpful book but because a book can only do just so much. You have to create the final star yourself. I did read this book over the 30 days prescribed and followed its advisements as carefully as anyone could. I do feel much much better now because the book helped me understand why he wasn't for me, how separation experiences of the past can come into play and,I learnt how I could make more sensible choices as I stood up and learnt who 'me' is. I also learnt about so many things I could do immediately to help myself feel better both in action and general understanding of myself. I still miss the comfort of him but I suppose that's only natural. This just happened six weeks ago and now with St. Valentine's Day peaking around the corner, one day after my birthday, I might add, it's very hard and I just wish the right one would come along. Thirty days ago, I didn't think anything would help me in the slightest. Now after reading this book, I have hope and some positive feelings about myself once again. I wonder if the authors have found love in their own lives or, if they wrote simply out of their own experiences. I say this because it feels like they had to have survived hard losses to have this kind of unique wisdom. The book has an honest quality without ramming advise down your throat, like a supportive father. I never knew my own dad but I think I've discovered two brilliant surrogates here.
A Book with Personal Support.......2006-02-04
I'm gonna blog a little bit so if anyone doesn't like it, too bad. It's the way it is. I found this book from their really impressive byebyelove.com website which directed me here. Out of pride, I waited two months to buy the book but when I did, I emailed them at the email address provided in the book, even before finishing the book. I never expected to hear from them and, I never expected any book to ease my very real pain. But they each replied to my situation with personal emails and different but complimentary perspectives. They are real people, Mike and Howard and they really care about their readers. So this is a 'ya also get' email. Not only is the book excellent, sympathetic and abundant with real recovery tips that work, ya also get Mikey and Howard. Just thought everyone should know that you get a lot more than just a book. My only regret is that I waited two months. Otherwise, I would've been two months farther along! If this book doesn't help you, you probably have six heads, are covered with deadly green fungus and, have a closed mind.
Book Description
Finding safe people provides the foundation for building healthy, lasting relationships. Here's how to identify safe people. This condensed audio version of the book is read by the author.
Customer Reviews:
One of the best books I've ever read.......2007-07-18
This book is one of the best books I've ever read on why I was attracting unsafe people and how to find safe ones and the importance of evaluating character.
The first story was amazing since I think I dated that very girl Dr. Townsend wrote about. The girl that says one thing and then does another. On the next page, they discuss their concern when college kids tell them they want a Christian spouse who is spiritual, religious, and funny. It concerns them, because when people come for marriage counseling, those aren't the reasons, but rather character issues like listening, working too much, and not being attentive to each other.
The characteristcs of unsafe people next provides a great way to evaluate the people in your life.
Next, they discuss why you are choosing unsafe people. It really cuts to the nitty gritty of your past. They then go through a number of false solutions that a lot of us attempt, including doing too much and giving to others. I know I can be a perfectionist sometimes, causing me to reject potentially safe people, filling the void with unsafe ones.
I really appreciated the next sections pointing out that safe people are everywhere. It says that we can learn OUR unsafe people through our safe people who will tell us.
Finally, the last chapter, Repair or Replace. They discuss how to mend a broken relationship, though those steps have never worked for me. But they sound nice to me.
As a person with many friends in their twenties, I see a lot of people who do not have enough safe people in their lives, causing them to make poor choices. I recommend this book as much as possible to them.
EVERYONE needs to read this book!.......2007-06-19
This is my 2nd book written by Dr Henry Cloud and its just as excellent at the other (boundaries in marriage). This book is NOT for persons in dangerous relationships anymore than an asprin will help your broken bones.
However, this book WILL help you reconnect with the basic fundamental idea that society has been drilling out of us since we were small.. We all really DO NEED PEOPLE in our lives. Self sufficiency is not what God had in mind for us. He built us to need eachothers company/attention/love/time and some very unhappy things happen inside us when we don't get that from others. This book helps identify how that can effect us and shows us how to find people who are safe to share who we are. This book is for you and for me.
opened my eyes.......2007-06-08
Safe People was given to me by my therapist,because there are people in my life who are not safe for me.I suffer from depression and anxiety so the book helped me look at myself and identify the qualities that me and others around me possess. not quite as good as Boundaries but close.
Safe People Workbook.......2007-02-12
This workbook helps you to personalized the material found in the book Safe People. It helps you to learn valuable life skills.
Revealing.......2007-01-09
This book is revealing both about yourself and others. Safe people are in the world and in the church, but so are unsafe people. It helped me identify why I kept repeating the same mistakes and how to enjoy healthy relationships.
Amazon.com
Inspired by the hope that the experience of satisfied husbands and wives might provide useful lessons to others, Wallerstein, a clinical psychologist and specialist on divorce, and Sandra Blakeslee, who writes frequently for The New York Times, interviewed 50 predominantly middle-class, northern California couples who had been married nine years or more and had at least one child. These strong marriages flourish, they argue, because every partner confronted a series of psychological tasks including separating emotionally from the family of childhood, carving out his or her autonomy and creating an environment where anger and conflict could be safely vented. The couples reveal their interior lives in rich, explicit detail.
Book Description
Inspired by the hope that the experience of satisfied husbands and wives might provide useful lessons to others, Wallerstein, a clinical psychologist and specialist on divorce, and Sandra Blakeslee, who writes frequently for The New York Times, interviewed 50 predominantly middle-class, northern California couples who had been married nine years or more and had at least one child. These strong marriages flourish, they argue, because every partner confronted a series of psychological tasks including separating emotionally from the family of childhood, carving out his or her autonomy and creating an environment where anger and conflict could be safely vented. The couples reveal their interior lives in rich, explicit detail.
Customer Reviews:
Good.......2007-05-16
Yes, the book is a good one, even flows and transitions between ideas very nicely. only problem that i have with the book... is that quite a bit of the information should already be known by all.
Best of all the books I've read in preparing for marriage.......2005-09-19
I have read 10-15 books relating to marriage preparation and making sure one is ready to pick and BE a good spouse. This was by far the best. The author reassured me that people who grew up with unhappy childhoods & unhappy parents have as good a chance at a happy marriage as others. It also made me aware of many issues these couples had that I had not considered. This book prompted me to think about what I want from my future husband as a type of marriage, as an emotional partner, as a parental partner etc. MUST READ! I also highly recommend "What you Need to know before you fall in Love" as a good gut check of what is normal in a relationship and what isn't, what areas you need to check on (do you have a meeting of the minds spiritually, financially, intellectually etc), and it has a great chapter on warning signs (are you dating this person to impress your boss, annoy your parents, or get revenge on an ex?). I highly recommend Harville Hendrix's Book "How to Find the Love you Want" for a more in depth look at how our childhood affects our need for love and influences our search for the source of that love.
Wonderful book.......2004-04-09
What caught my eye about this ingrossing and captivating book began on page 20 where the author is describing a variety of couples she has interviewed for her study and that while each of them is unique and in some place 180 opposite is that "I realized then that each of these marriages was a different world, a sovereign country unto itself. Rather than a single archetype of happy marriage, I found many different kinds. Like a richly detailed tapestry, each relationship was woven from strands of love, friendship, sexual fulfillment, nurture, protection, emotional security, economic responsibility, and co-parenting. But the patterns in the marital weave varied, and gradually I began to see several distinctive types. I learned that at the heart of any good marriage is a core relationship created out of the conscious and unconcisous fit of the partners needs and wishes. This core reflects what each partner wants and expects from the other -- expectations influenced by relationships that begin in infancy, childhood, and adolescence but are ultimately shaped within marriage", or what the author and I agree are core loves, likes and can live with.
And I simply loved reading about all the different couples, varied challenges and successes and failures that didn't make the marriages fall a part. Simply a wonderful book.
We could surely use more studies like this one.......2003-11-20
The authors bring a rather unusual perspective to the study of marriage -- rather than examining how it has failed or is failing, they examine how marriage can succeed. The book provides a commendable example of a study focusing on success instead of failure. The authors first define a successful marriage, then discuss nine principles common to any good marriage and use several couples as case studies to illustrate and personalize these principles. The book uses a rather small, homogenous, and politically incorrect sample -- nearly all couples were selected by the authors and were lily-white, heterosexual, reasonably honest and cheerful Americans. Of course, many ground-breaking and valid scientific studies have successfully used such small, homogenous and politically incorrect cohorts. The book is not a cross-cultural study, an historical analysis, or a "how-to" guide for "making marriage work," and those whose marriages are in trouble may not find this book much of a substitute for self-analysis or competent counseling.
Since history began, in nearly all societies, marriage has successfully survived despite never-ending pressures from those who have sought to abolish, revolutionize, over-idealize, or trivialize it. Marriage has proven flexible, durable, and critically important to individuals and to societies. Nevertheless, individuals and societies should frequently re-examine and re-explore marriage if they are to gain the most benefits from it -- marriage and success are verbs as well as nouns. Marriage and the family certainly need attentive examination today, since they remain under tremendous stresses from those who wish to change (or destroy) them and from forces causing them to fail at an increasing rate.
The authors have given us a fine example of such an examination. They write remarkably well (no surprise, given Ms Blakeslee's wonderful columns in the NY Times Science Section, which first drew me to this book). They relate how marriage can be enriching, empowering, dynamic, transformative, redemptive, and positive (I found myself cheering on one of the subjects whose marriage succeeded despite enormous psychological problems dating from his childhood). As the husband of a wife whose parents had a successful marriage, as the child of a successful marriage, and as a member of a thirty-three year old successful marriage, I found the principles outlined in this book to be reasonably accurate and helpful. No book could be the last word, but this one is a fine place to start.
Fascinating for single people, too.......2003-05-03
I strongly recommend this book to single people wondering what kind of mate would really be best for them. Ignore those dating manuals and read about the real thing -- the day-to-day relationship that has to be maintained after the wedding. As a woman, I found it fascinating to read so many men's accounts of marriage: how much they love and need their wives, how much a good relationship means to them. Most of us grew up thinking of blissful romance as the only model for marriage, but Wallerstein carefully shows that marriages take many forms. I can't recommend this book highly enough.
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