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The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Completely Revised and Updated: Advice, Support, Insight, and Inspiration
Patricia Romanowski Bashe ,
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Asperger Syndrome has become an increasingly common disorder. One in 300 individuals may have AS—exhibiting characteristics such as average to high intelligence, obsessive behavior, intense special interests, and difficulty dealing with everyday social situations—and it is now more prevalent than childhood cancer and Down’s syndrome.
As the mother of a boy diagnosed with AS in 1994, Barbara Kirby found scant resources and support. She developed the internationally renowned OASIS (Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support) Web site in 1995 to help other parents find the information they need. She teamed up with Patricia Romanowski Bashe, now co-owner of OASIS and herself the mother of a son with AS, to write The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome, which has become the standout authority in the field and a must-have for this growing audience.
Now Bashe and Kirby have crafted a fully revised edition of this comprehensive resource for parents, teachers, therapists, and anyone who knows or works with someone with AS. In addition to discussing what AS looks like and how parents can guide their unique child through the social, emotional, and intellectual challenges of growing up, this edition includes new developments made in AS research over the past four years, new thinking on diagnosis and evaluation, the latest approaches to medication and social skills development, and tips on navigating the maze of interventions, therapies, and special education. The authors know firsthand the joys and frustrations of raising children with AS, and they share their own experiences as well as those of dozens of parents facing the same issues.
Filled with practical information and emotional support, this is the most complete and authoritative guide available. Whether your child has been diagnosed or troubling symptoms are just becoming apparent, this book will point you in the right direction as you face the particular challenges of loving and raising a child with Asperger Syndrome.
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Must have for the newly diagnosed.......2007-09-17
Very informative. Very detailed. This is a must have for Parents just starting to discover Aspergers.
OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome...........2007-09-15
This is an excellent resource book. A must have for family members dealing with Asperger Syndrome!
Excellent Resource for AS!.......2007-05-07
This book is a definite addition to any parent's resource library on AS. It is comprehensive and has so much to offer, that it can't be digested in one read. It must be referred to over and over again. Should be purchased for pediatricians, school counselors and anyone who comes in frequent contact with your AS child. The entire family should read this to better understand the AS child.
Oasis Guide to Asperger Syndrome.......2007-03-24
This book has helped me understand how difficult it is for someone with AS. It is everything that it says it is and more, my husband and I were feeling so hopeless and unsure of the next step. This book explained everything good and bad without sugar coating it.
Now when we run into a stumbling block I turn to the Oasis Book.
Not what I expected.......2007-03-09
Asperger Syndrome is a lot more subtle than the book would seem to indicate. Yes, Asperger is related to autism, but it is hardly the debilitating issue that this book would seem to imply.
This book makes it look like only children are diagnosed with this and have a seriously debilitating disorder as a result. AS is rarely such a disabling disorder and many people are never diagnosed with it except through adult counseling.
The information, though suspect because of the range of disability, is still very good and very well presented.
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In this comprehensive book, the authors start with an overview of those characteristics of Asperger Syndrome that make adolescence particularly challenging and difficult. The centerpiece of the book is a detailed discussion of strategies and supports necessary to ensure a sucessful school experience for students with Asperger Syndrome at the middle and secondary levels.
What sets thisbook apart is the way it ties all the recommended strategies together in a real-life study of Michael, a youth with Asperger Syndrome. This touch of real life continues in the closing chapter, which consists of statements by parents and adolescents with Asperger Syndrome.
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Excellent information for Teachers and Parents.......2007-09-28
I bought this book when it first was published 6 years ago. At that time I also went to a Smith-Myles workshop about the book. I am a special education teacher and parent of a child with Aspergers. My son with Aspergers just started Junior High. I've read several books on the subject, and it is the best I have seen having to do with Aspergers, adolescence, and school issues. Clear descriptions of the challenges kids face, modifications that may be necessary, tools to ensure success, and more. I recommend it to any parent or teacher of an adolescent with Asperger Syndrome.
GREAT Starting point!!.......2007-08-14
This book is a fantastic starting point for parents getting ready to transition a kid on the spectrum from elementary to middle school. Lots of evaluation tools and guidance on who, how and when to use them. Lots of "backbone to borrow" when working with teachers, administrators and therapists to get a strong, individualized program designed and set up. Help with timelines, objections and obstacles, resource ideas, and setting priorities. The case study and personal history sections were very comforting (I really am not alone in this struggle) and informative (just what is important to a 12yo boy on the spectrum about school).
Highly recommended - but start early!
Excellent Resource.......2005-10-17
As a clinical psychologist specializing in the field of Autism Spectrum Disorders, I have found this book to be an excellent resource. I recommend it to many families, and to teachers who work with this population. One of the strengths of this book is its articulate examination of the interplay between the cognitive, social and behavioral issues experienced by individuals with Aspergers. The book also suggests a number of intervention strategies that are realistic, practical and helpful for addressing skills deficits and encouraging the potential for individuals with Aspergers.
Finally a book about academics in the adolescent years ! !.......2005-05-10
This book focuses specifically on academic issues of children with Asperger's in middle and high school. There are many other books about other aspects of Aspergers, but this is the only good book I have found on this specific topic.
Diane has a great understanding of the difficulties faced by child aspies who on the surface may be getting "good grades" but are failing in many other ways. Learning difficulties in these children can be subtle and often show up as incomplete assignments or "behavior problems".
The book has extensive information and checklists on evaluating the strengths, weaknesses, and needs for accomodations. The information is detailed and exhaustive.
A large part of the book is dedicated to supports and accomodations which can help students achieve their potential.
The book also covers the oft overlooked area of transitioning between elementary school and middle school. Many children getting by in elementary school can suddenly fall apart in middle school because of problems with executive functioning.
This book is a great book for both parents and school personnel. All parents of adolescent asperger children should read this book. It will help you identify the problems your child is having and help you brainstorm about possible "solutions." The book gave me a greater appreciation for the difficulties my son faces. I wish all schools would incorporate the many accomodations listed, but understand that the reality falls short of what these children need. You may not be able to get all the accomodations listed, but you can identify key areas and focus insuring those get included in your child's IEP.
Parents should buy one copy for themselves and one for the head of the special ed/exceptional student department.
Good scheduling advice but little on pragmatics.......2003-02-05
There is a wealth of advice in this book which all parents and teachers should find helpful. Plenty of checklists are offered and numerous cameo case histories are presented. The references are good but perhaps a bit limited (may be of importance only to researchers - no mention of central coherence deficit for instance). The main point of the book is the get schools to recognise and deal with stress build up in AS pupils before it boils over. Some of this will be familiar from Myles' other book on tantrum management.
The advice for high school transition is very practical. Make sure he knows the schedule, pin the timetable everywhere, fix routine reminders inside textbook covers, make sure he knows which teacher tolerates which behaviour, etc. It is all good sensible advice, though I wonder how deliverable it is in the ordinary school setting?
The authors touch on 'circle of friends', travelcards and a host of other supports, but ultimately pin their support hopes on resource teachers and an enlightened school policy. Unfortunately, this is where I begin to part company with the book. Few schools could make the quantum shifts expected, and the authors could have made much more of their advice if they had identified compromise strategies. Teachers are human, not superhuman. Also in my limited experience, parents of AS teenagers often have unrealistic expectations of their offspring's academic performance and that tends to obscure their grasp of daily school realities. The classic example here is the emphasis on the 'gifted' child who must attend a 'gifted' school irrespective of the impact that has on the school and child. The authors tend to cite gifted children examples a lot in their case studies. I don't think this is helpful.
Perhaps unconsciously the book also portrays the AS teenager as very much a ship in the night steering a lonely course from class to class, from teacher to teacher, etc. How to help out here? Again, while friendship strategies are touched upon, no elabaorated plan is developed. A weakness to my mind.
The book presents the AS teenager as very much a patient to be treated by the environment. I don't want to appear overly critical of the book. It is good that adolescent AS are being addressed, however, for the life of me I could not grasp why there is no section on teenage communication pragmatics - these are extensively treated in another book Succeeding with Interventions for Asperger Syndrome Adolescents. The authors simply skate by the whole problematic of communication skills. It seems that as long as your 'gifted' child is doing well academically and no one is hitting him, then we should be pleased. This struck me as a very lobsided developmental philosophy. Interestingly the book points out in footnote in the beginning that it will ignore sexuality and relationship issues. Ignore these? In a book dealing AS adolescents?
Overall this is a good book for advising on schedule construction and maintenance of the daily school routine. It has limitations and depending on your needs they may be significant or otherwise.
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Revealing and filled with professional insight, Robert M. Berns' best-selling book helps students understand the socialization process of children via the powerful conceptual framework of Urie Bronfenbrenner's Ecological Model of Human Development. Berns closely examines the interactive effects of family, childcare, school, peer groups, media, community, and societal factors (including culture, political ideology, economics, and technology) on the socialization of the child to vividly illustrate the concepts of the course and help students learn how the various aspects of a child's environment affect his or her development. Truly ideal for undergraduate students and anyone who works with children, this text underscores the immeasurable value in preparing the child with the ability to adapt to a changing world.
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It is a sad fact that a growing number of families are facing the loss of a pregnancy. As more women are becoming pregnant at an older age, and as the use of fertility drugs increase the chances of a multiple-fetus pregnancy, the risk of pregnancy loss is escalating every year.
A Silent Sorrow has long been considered the "bible" for families seeking emotional and practical support after a pregnancy loss. Now completely revised and updated to reflect recent findings in medical procedures, laws governing pregnancy termination, and the complex issues surrounding pregnancy loss and reproductive technologies, this straightforward yet sympathetic guide reaches out to couples who have experienced pregnancy loss and helps them to understand and move through the mourning process. The authors address the issues of why and how men and women grieve differently; the potential impact of pregnancy loss on one's career; how to cope with ending an impaired pregnancy; the dual burden of pregnancy loss and infertility, and how to handle pregnancies that occur after such a loss. A Silent Sorrow draws from interviews with bereaved parents to illustrate coping strategies that have proven effective in such difficult situtations. Well organized, easily accessible, and filled with practical suggestions for each topic it covers, A Silent Sorrow is a positive first step for bereaved parents and their families, providing support and guidance to help resolve the grief and enable them to look to the future with hope.
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Best book on loss I've read.......2007-10-07
"A Silent Sorrow" covers all types of pregnancy loss and still birth, as well as new born death. My husband and I experienced early loss at 7 weeks. I found everyone around me, including myself, minimizing the loss. Many comments like "at least you know you can get pregnant", "at least it was early", etc., were not helpful. The worst was the fact that no one thought I should be anything more than disappointed and we should just "try again". When we were unsuccessful at "trying again" I went further into depression. After 3 years of ineffective coping (not to mention my marriage was in terrible shape and we'd separated) I found a therapist who works with women with miscarriage, loss, and infertility grief. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. This therapist is the one who suggested this book. She said it is one of the best for early loss. I felt a huge release immediately after reading the part about early loss. The authors validated all the feelings I had shoved so far down and ran away from. I realized I had a right to grieve and moron the loss of my child. Yes, the baby was only with me a few weeks, but it was the a lifetime of hopes and dreams for the children of my future that instantly made that child so close to my heart. I am happy to say with the guidance of this book, the book Unsung Lullabies, After the Affair, Getting the Love You Want, my grief therapist, a great couples therapist, and an excellent RE...my husband and I are back together and expecting a child. Best of luck to those that in need of this book. My heart goes out to you!
Excellent Book.......2007-05-20
This book was a fantastic source of support and guidance for my husband and me. The author uses lots of interview research to come to her conclusions and uses current medical sources. The chapters are topical and provide you with additional resources if you wish to read further or refer you back to a particular chapter review. We both finished this book and were so impressed with the resources in the appendices. I FULLY recommend this book, even if it's been years since your pregnancy loss.
For me, the best of the books on perinatal loss........2007-03-16
After the stillbirth of our daughter this Christmas, I read quite a few books about this kind of loss. For me, this was the best book of the lot. It alone of all the books that I dealt with covered a loss after a crisis pregnancy (and talked about its affect on both your job and health). I found it matter of fact on difficult subjects (which I liked) and I particularly liked that it did not tell me what to feel. Many of the other books which focused more on the emotional side had the effect of feeling as though they were crowding me. This is obviously a matter of taste and personality.
In addition to the expected chapters, the book also has an excellent section on Special Circumstances which discusses things like pregnancy loss and infertility. There are a number of helpful appendices and a list of relevant resources together with a categorized bibliography.
I wish that nobody needed a book like this one. But if you do find yourself in this club that nobody wants to join, this is a good book to help you find your way.
I resented this book.......2007-02-21
This book, while providing some basic information, fell woefully short of truly describing and explaining grief. It minimizes the experience of having a baby who is born still, and for that I regret having picked it up.
Comforting AND Smart.......2005-10-20
This book was _very_ important to me after my miscarriage, because it was a kind book that provided comfort but also didn't dumb itself down in order to address the very real and complex stages of grief. Kohn and Moffitt also give an excellent portrait of what people on many sides of the loss experience--mothers, fathers, family members, friends--as they all respond differently to pregnancy loss. I particularly appreciated the chapter on Early Pregnancy Loss, given that the authors discuss how this can be an especially "silent sorrow" and one that has its own special challenges of bereavement. Highly recommended
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Every father can make a huge difference in his daughter’s life.
As the primary male role model in a girl’s life, fathers influence their daughters in profound ways, from how they see themselves to what they come to expect from men and the world at large. But men often don’t realize the importance of their interactions or may shy away from too close involvement because of their inexperience, or conditioning. Especially as girls move into adolescence, fathers may find themselves feeling distant from their daughters or awkward with the changing dynamic. Communication becomes difficult and parenting issues more complicated. But this is also the time when daughters most need their fathers to be an even greater presence in their lives. Dads and Daughters is a tool to bridge that gap and build a rewarding and joyful father-daughter relationship.
From father to father and with insights from many other dads, Joe Kelly shows men how they can strengthen their relationships with their daughters and explores the tremendous rewards this relationship can bring. Starting with a self-assessment quiz titled “How Am I Doing as My Daughter’s Father?” dads can immediately see what kind of role they play in their daughter’s life. To educate fathers and offer solutions when problems arise, Dads and Daughters then offers thoughtful coverage of the most pivotal issues today’s girls face, such as sex and dating, body image, alcohol and drugs, media culture and violence, money and responsibility, and the future. In doing so he both illuminates the culture our daughters live in and shows fathers how to guide their daughters toward rewarding, healthy lives.
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Dad's - Time to Wake Up!!!!.......2007-08-06
This is the must read book for ANY Dad that has a daughter. Preferably, please read soon after your daughter is born and read over and over again as she grows up. Once she is a teenager, if you haven't read it you are in trouble! If you want to really know what is going on in your daughter's mind and body, PLEASE read this book.
Dads' Manual for A Teenage Daughter .......2007-08-01
Well written and filled with common sense. Every Dad needs to read this in order to understand a teen-age daughter and how to develop an open-minded relationship with his daughter. Bettye Johnson, award-winning author Secrets of the Magdalene Scrolls.
Respectable Women are the Product of their Fathers.......2006-11-16
Just take a look at women who achieved and are respected ... and you will find the personification of the father's daughter. This book is a brilliant explanation of why the biological father must be around his children. The whole notion of single super power mother is complete fallacy because fathers are a much better protector of a daughter for reasons that have nothing to do with being anti-feminist. Studies and research has shown that women raised by single mothers are often at risk for relationship problems and addictions. Case studies have also proven that a step-father cannot take the place of the real father, although not the same is true with a step-mother. Nonetheless, a woman raised by a strong father figure often grows up to be confident, intelligent, achieving, and often lands leadership positions in life. Margaret Thatcher, the first female Prime Minister is Great Britain was profoundly influenced by her father, Golda Meir (Prime Minister of Isreal) same thing, and of course Indira Gandhi (Prime Minister of India) yet again. In sports there is Steffi Graf and Christ Evert whose fathers were their original coaches and mentors. So ... for all the women who say that fathers are irrelevant ... think again about how selfish that statement is to the child .... and consider what kind of person you want your daughter to grow up to be. If you don't believe me, read the book and do your own research. Men deserve to be in their children's lives just as much as the mother.
An interesting article on the importance of father's is also probed in this insightful commentary by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach - Friday, 15 April, 2005 on his website:
What to do about female promiscuity
American culture grows more crass by the day. One of the most successful American TV shows is The Apprentice starring Donald Trump, a man loaded with money but bankrupt of class. The highlight of the show is when Trump humiliates potential employees by barking at them, "You're fired!"
One can only grieve over a culture that promotes a coarse womanizer who has dumped a wife or two in favor of young models as its symbol of professional success.
Indeed, watching people be humiliated is big business on American TV. Shows such as American Idol feature judges like Simon Cowell ? known as Mr. Nasty ? who shoot the middle finger at contestants they don't like. Public degradation has become as American as apple pie with programs like Fear Factor garnering huge ratings by having participants eat bugs and swim with dead mice.
But perhaps the most disturbing example of the culture of crassness is the growing trend of famous young women going through the rite of passage known as the nearly naked photo spread.
Such recent graduates of the you-may-think-I-have-a-brain-but-let's-instead-focus-on-my-bust school of celebrity include Scarlet Johansson, who acted superbly in Lost in Translation, which made her famous enough to qualify for a cleavage-bearing photo op. Janet Jackson, of course, joined the club when she decided to have us all forget about her dancing and focus instead on her nipples, while Britney Spears is the club's founding member.
The reduction of talented and intelligent women to two breasts and a vagina has reached its apogee with the Girls Gone Wild videos, in which tens of thousands of college girls, often on spring break, flash for the camera, their sole remuneration being a feeling of deep satisfaction that they have played their God-given role as entertainment for lecherous men.
Why have millions of young American women abandoned the feminist dream of being taken seriously by men and instead decided to gain male attention with degrading spectacles of their bodies? I am convinced that the principal cause is an increasingly weak link between fathers and daughters.
IN OUR society, we have it all backward. Too much is made of the father-son relationship at the expense of the father-daughter one. The image of a boy being taught by his dad to catch a baseball or throw a football is commonplace, while the only mainstream image of a father interacting with his teenage daughter is telling her not to come home too late when she goes out with her boyfriend.
Pop tarts like Britney Spears and Paris Hilton, who use partial nudity to advance their careers, are often close to their mothers, who may even serve as their managers, while their dads are nowhere to be seen.
Where you do read about a father's central involvement in his daughter's career, it usually leads to respectable women like Steffi Graff and the Williams sisters, who have resisted the offers for provocative photo spreads even after they became famous as tennis stars. This is not because mothers don't love their daughters but because men are much more successful at protecting their daughters from other men. And when a daughter receives strong masculine validation from a loving and caring father, she is usually not desperate for sexual attention from manipulative and hormonal men.
Recently the New York Times ran a front-page story about a 15-year-old girl who refused to have sex with her 16-year-old boyfriend. He promptly cheated on her. When the girlfriend found out, she told her boyfriend that they should cut class and go and have sex. She did so, she said, "in order to keep him." When I read this story, I wondered Where is this girl's father? Had her father been a strong male presence in her life, she would not have been so desperate for the affection of a scoundrel.
EVEN WHEN I go to a Yankees game, I take my five daughters along with my older son. True, they often don't know the names of the players or even the score, but they know their father loves them and hates being separated from them. There is a special connection that daughters have with their fathers that even a mother cannot replicate, which grants young women a startling immunity from compromising themselves with jerks.
Indeed, when a daughter is close to her father and respects him as a man and a dad, she begins to judge other men by that same high standard. When she dates men, she will not judge them by their smooth talk but by the depth of their commitment because her own father was not a talker but a doer. She will not jump into bed with a man just to please him. She has high self-esteem, and she expects the men in her life to make an effort to please her rather than the reverse. Her idea of a relationship is not going down to the guy's level but raising him up to hers.
THIS IS why it's so important for a father to remain the most important man in his daughter's life until she is at least 20. I always lament witnessing the deterioration of the homes of my friends whose teenage daughters are always out, either with girlfriends or boyfriends. My daughters will not date until they are of marriageable age ? in our communities from 19. Up until that time, my own love for them will sustain their need for male attention. They will not be forced at too early an age to worry whether they're pretty enough, smart enough, sexy enough, or attractive enough. To their father, they are just perfect. And they will internalize that message in their most vulnerable years so they can grow into confident and robust women who attract men out of strength rather than weakness.
As for the criticisms that too close a relationship with your daughter will impede her ability to later form close connections with romantic partners, exactly the opposite is true. A young woman with an involved and loving father gains the confidence in herself to sever the childhood ties with her father and begin a loving relationship with a man precisely because she has learned to trust men. She has no fear of being vulnerable ? a prerequisite for romantic love ? because her father has shown her an example of a man who can be trusted and relied upon.
But if she feels betrayed by her own father, she will often run to another man more to escape pain than to find love, which is what usually makes her a prime candidate for that revealing photo spread.
Trouble?.......2006-08-18
My dad and I had problems ever since I started high school. Since I was the oldest of four kids, it was hard for him to accept the idea of me moving away...not only for college. During those years, he was very defensive and my adolecent attitude didn't help much.
We always had a good bond and when we worked together, we kicked butt. This book has helped me get in touch with my dad more, and he is now starting to get over the fact that his kid isn't a kid anymore...
It was good stuff.
Very interesting of how to raise doughters.......2005-07-27
I loved the book, it helped me to see things that otherwise I didn't notice about our culture and how it relates to the girls. With the book advice I will be able to help my doughter to grow healthy and strong
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Anger and hurt tend to figure strongly in divorce, hand-in-hand with resentment, sadness, and fear about your future. And more often than not, these emotional woes all coalesce under the banner of money. Nolo Press is known for its thorough research and user-friendly approach to legal matters, and its book on Divorce and Money is up to its usual high standards of quality. "Think financially--act legally," the folks at Nolo say, and they explain how to do so, in detailed and practical terms, for joint accounts and hidden assets, gifts and insurance, alimony and retirement benefits, marital property and the IRS, net worth and what to do about the house. They also discuss where to seek professional help, how to keep proper records and assemble the facts, why the financial issues are so sticky, in what ways you're at risk, and how to reduce the stress and avoid the bad scenes, when possible. A life-saver of a reference book for when you're at your most vulnerable and disorganized, Divorce & Money offers practical and proactive advice to help you protect yourself and safeguard your financial future. --Stephanie Gold
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Everything you need to split assets and debts as fairly as possible.
When you're going through divorce, you have to make an overwhelming number of financial decisions. Should you sell the house? What happens to retirement benefits? How will you handle taxes?
Full of sensitive and practical advice, Divorce & Money guides you through the process of making these important decisions. It covers how to:
decide whether to keep or sell the house
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The 8th edition provides the latest tax figures and data, plus expanded coverage of debts and bankrutpcy.
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"When you're going through divorce, you have to make an overwhelming number of financial decisions. Should you sell the house? What happens to retirement benefits? How will you handle taxes? Full of sensitive and practical advice, Divorce & Money guides you through the process of making these important decisions. It covers how to: determine the real value of the house, investments and other property divide debts set alimony and child support negotiate a settlement that's fair to both of you Bursting with practical strategies for surviving a divorce without going broke, the brand new 6th edition provides worksheets, charts, formulas and tables. It also includes new information on how to divide benefits like stock options and cafeteria plans. "
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Take it from me, this is the best book.......2006-02-22
All the dueling reviews below would have you wonder about the quality of both "Divorce and Money" books, so as an experiment I got both. It's pretty clear that this book (Nolo's) is the better one, hands down. The difference was evident in just minutes. Everything's presented in easy to read verbiage, the charts are easy to use, and the forms and checklists were really handy. Helped me and my ex make the split easier than I expected, frankly. Thank you for this book!!
My new favorite book!.......2004-07-13
Okay I might be exagerating but I did love this book. A friend recommended it after my husband and I decide to "part ways." I accidently picked up the other book with the same title and was not so thrilled with all the Get A Attorney advice, but then I realized my mistake and got this version -- it's SO helpful. It almost took me by the hand and showed me how to be less emotional than I would be when making decisions affecting how to split our property and bills up, and how to figure out child support.
My eyes glazed over.........FELT LIKE I WAS IN LATIN CLASS!!.......2004-03-03
Read both books and all the reviews of 2 books with basically the same name and if you want more information in a MUCH MORE user friendly, readable (in English) format at 1/2 the price buy the other book by Smith, Divorce and Money Everything you need to know. I read a review that the Smith book just wants you to hire expensive lawyers. NOTHING could be further from the truth. No matter what, you need a lawyer and this book tells you the same thing. It doesn't mean you have to be stupid! As a normal, middle class guy with a college education and MY OWN BUSINESS this book makes you feel like you are in Latin Class again. Do your self a favor and not only buy Smith's book on Money get her book on Children.......you will save lots of time and stress.
For my money, a better bet is............2004-03-03
....a newer book, "Divorce and Money: Eveything you need to Know," by attorney Gayle Rosenwald Smith. The newer book even has its own website, www.divorceandmoneybook.com, which allowed me to peruse the contents, view a video clip of the author on CBS, and check her calendar to see if she would be appearing at a book store near me. Well she was, and I got to talk to her in person, which was great! She's so knowledgeable and empathetic; her very human tone comes through in every page of her book. Gayle's book lists at $14.95 (but I got it for less!) vs. $24.50 for the other book. At a time like this, I need to hang onto every penny I've got. I'm really glad I bought Gayle's book, the information was up-to-date, thorough and invaluable. Why pay almost $10 more for an older book?
The best book available.......2004-01-30
Recently saw another book with this same title at the bookstore, so I picked up both. Of the two, the Nolo book was so much more helpful -- it assumes you want to handle most of the details yourself, and avoid lawyers, whereas the other kept talking about how to choose a lawyer (an expensive, time-wasting lawyer).
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Finally a book that speaks to the heart of women who have miscarried!
If you've miscarried, you don't need medical jargon-you need someone who understands what you're going through and doesn't dismiss it. In this groundbreaking book, author Ellen DuBois tells of her painful experiences after miscarriage and shares tools that helped get her through the toughest of times-from prayer to relaxation techniques. I Never Held You validates a woman's grief and gently suggests ways to get through the grief process. If you're looking for understanding and help after miscarriage, this is the book for you.
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It's a great ministry tool. By: Patti Chadwick.......2006-04-24
Posted by EMD with permission. Reviewed by: Patti Chadwick
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This is an excellent book to get into the hands of those who have suffered the tragedy of miscarriage. It's a great ministry tool. One of the best things I liked about this book were the Positive Affirmations section that encourages those who suffered such loss to allow themselves to grieve, yet also feel good things and to allow themselves to be happy again.
I highly recommend this book.
Easton Author Brings Miscarriage Support To All With Launch Of New Book .......2006-04-21
PRESS RELEASE: Author Ellen M. DuBois, resident of Easton, recently had her new, groundbreaking book published to assist women and their families who have suffered the pains of miscarriage. I Never Held You, DLSIJ Press, a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery gently guides a women who has miscarried through the processes of grief and the emotional roller coaster ride following with the help of Psychologist and Grief Counselor Dr. Linda Backman, who also wrote the foreword.
South Easton, MA (PRWEB) March 18, 2006 -- Author Ellen M. DuBois, resident of Easton, recently had her new, groundbreaking book published to assist women and their families who have suffered the pains of miscarriage.
I Never Held You, DLSIJ Press, a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery gently guides a women who has miscarried through the processes of grief and the emotional roller coaster ride following with the help of Psychologist and Grief Counselor Dr. Linda Backman, who also wrote the foreward.
In Part One, Ms. DuBois shares her poignant tale of miscarriage and the complete lack of support offered fifteen-years ago when it happened. Her chapters are followed by expert, sound and heart-felt advice by Dr. Linda Backman, who suffered a still-birth over thirty-years ago. Women who feel isolated and don't know where to turn will find great solice in both the stories offered and words of encouragement in this first part of I Never Held You.
Part Two deals with coping tools ranging from positive affirmations, anxiety attacks, (which Ms. DuBois has suffered for nearly nineteen years), and includes a special chapter on Reiki by Anna Pizzoferrato, Reiki and Shamballa Master who also suffered five miscarriages.
Part Three takes the reader on a journey of reflection with "Thoughts to Ponder." From the value of friendship and prayer to questions on heaven and faith, this section of I Never Held You brings to light those things in life which often are overlooked when in the midst of grief. Ms. DuBois gently makes the reader aware of the silver lining behind the cloud of tears, bringing to the surface the blessings in life to assist in balancing the scales. This can be applied during any time of loss, grief or crisis.
BACK JACKET OF I NEVER HELD YOU: "Finally a book that speaks to the heart of women who have miscarried! If you've suffered a miscarriage, you don't need medical jargon- you need someone who understands what you're going through and doesn't dismiss it. In this groundbreaking book, author Ellen DuBois tells of her painful experiences after miscarriage and shares tools that helped her get through the toughest of times- from prayer to relaxation techniques. I Never Held You validates a woman's grief and gently suggests ways to get through the grief process. If you're looking for understanding and help after miscarriage, this is the book for you. With Forward and commentaries by Dr. Linda R. Backman and a chapter by Reiki and Shamballa Master Anna Pizzoferrato. Companion Website: MiscarriageHelp.com"
All are welcome to post their feelings after miscarriage at MiscarriageHelp.com. No login or name required.
Author Bio: Ms. DuBois, Easton, MA, is a multi-published author in the fiction, nonfiction, poetry and Christian genres. She is the author of I Never Held You and Jackie's Heart, and a contributing author: More God Allows U-Turns, Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders, Sisters by Blue Mountain Arts, Soul Matters for Teens, and Romancing the Soul.
I Never Held You A book about miscarriage, healing and recovery
By: Ellen M. DuBois
Powerful piece of writing!.......2006-04-14
Ellen and all the contributors to this book speak in a straight-forward manner about miscarriage, grieving, blaming, letting go, and moving forward. Notice I don't say "getting over it". This books shares the realities of living with grief, reintegrating after loss, transcending your child's death to become someone different than you were before death touched your life. This is a kind of validation after miscarriage that is sorely needed in the support world!
Like a Friend comforting you after loss........2006-04-09
In the four years since the loss of my infant son, I have read a lot of grief books. I must say that this book is truly unique. The author speaks to you like a friend who shares her thoughts with the wisdom and insight that only time and serious reflection can bring. Ms. DuBois offers numerous ways in which you can help the healing process after the devastation of a miscarriage. She is also not afraid to share her sprituality in a way that is not preaching a particular religion, but one that will help you to seek help and guidance from God. It is quite comforting and inspiring to read this account of another's journey after loss.
Highly Recommended No Matter When You Miscarried.......2006-04-05
My miscarriage was quite a while ago- about four years. I've had a healthy son since, but I've never quite gotten over my miscarriage. I Never Held You, (the title expresses exactly how I feel), has helped me tremendously. This book brought about the awareness that I never completed a grieving process, and although I've been blessed with a healthy child, I didn't mourn the baby I miscarried. I see how burying my feelings only served to hurt me more, even when I thought I was 'okay'.
Note: In the tools for living section- As a Certified Fitness Trainer and Instructor, I appreciate and agree 100% with the section on the benefits of exercise in stress reduction, regardless of what kind or where you do it.
I commend both Ms. DuBois and Dr. Backman for such a helpful, warm and sympathetic book that carries a woman through her miscarriage and far beyond into the rest of her life.
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Preventing Child Maltreatment through Social Support: A Critical Analysis
Ross A. Thompson
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"Ross A. Thompson's social-policy expertise illuminates the limitations of formulating a child protection policy agenda on current research without concern for the specific populations to be served. Thompson details an ambitious agenda for child welfare reform by calling for a multistrategy approach, with specific reference to the 1990 proposals of the U.S. Advisory Board on Child Abuse and Neglect, with which he has been intimately connected. . . . This masterful work weaves together theory and application about how to prevent child maltreatment. Good references. Upper-division undergraduates and above." --Choice Recently, there has been considerable interest in providing social support to abuse-prone families as a means of preventing child abuse and neglect. Partly due to both reports that social support programs can indeed help parents and the theoretical underpinnings of these programs, social support has become the cause celebre among those who are seeking more effective new avenues to abuse prevention. However, many important issues must be considered in translating this general idea into effective public policy initiatives related to abuse prevention. Preventing Child Maltreatment Through Social Support carefully considers the various factors affecting the success of social support programs and provides the path to designing effective--and enduring--interventions. Offering the reader a critical analysis of current research concerning social networks and functions of social support, this perceptive book fosters an understanding of maltreatment, socially isolated families, and the dynamics of help giving and receiving. Ross A. Thompson moves deftly from theory to practice, including detailed lessons from applications such as home visitation and other intensive family strategies. This volume stimulates thinking about integrating research, policy, and practice, and in a progressive move, envisions social support within the larger context of child welfare reform. Dedicated to making social support programs theoretically grounded and thus able to withstand the rigor of application, this book provides a much-needed resource to practitioners, researchers, and students in social work, family studies, nursing/public health, and clinical and counseling psychology as well as educators and policy makers. "I am very impressed with Preventing Child Maltreatment Through Social Support. I think Ross A. Thompson has tackled a complex and important subject, producing a book that both practitioners and policymakers will find useful in their efforts to construct more effective programs to prevent child abuse. This book fills a unique gap in the child abuse prevention literature." --Deborah Daro, Director, Center on Child Abuse Prevention Research, Chicago "This book provides a coherent road map to the role of social support in dealing with the problem of child maltreatment. It is well researched and well thought out in every respect. Preventing Child Maltreatment Through Social Support is well digested intellectually: It covers the material in detail but is not overcome by detail." --James Garbarino, Director, Family Life Development Center, Cornell University
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Parents will help children identify the beauty and hope in all cycles of life as they follow two insect friends, Lea and Nym, and the struggles one of them endures when her friend disappears. This is a tender story about loss and change, written to help parents express their views about life and death. The book may serve many purposes, such as comforting a grieving child who has lost someone close or providing facts about dragonflies to inquisitive minds. Lea's transformation into a dragonfly may even be used as a metaphor for life-after-death. The Dragonfly Door is beautifully illustrated by award-winning artist Barbara L. Gibson. The book is cherished by parents, grandparents and teachers. It was recently brought to life as a mini-play in Alabama to help children cope with the loss of their classmates. The following is an excerpt from the book: While Nym slept, she heard Lea's voice saying, "Follow me, Nym. I'm going to show you where I am." "Will I see you again?" Nym asked. "Only when it's time for you to die too," Lea replied. "You won't see me in the marsh ever again. But let me show you what I will look like the next time you see me. Here, close your eyes." Nym closed her eyes. "Now look at me," Lea said. Nym opened her eyes and saw ...
Customer Reviews:
The warm, emotional colors of award-winning artist Barbara L. Gibson.......2007-09-07
The debut children's picturebook of author John Adams, The Dragonfly Door dares to confront serious topics - of loss, death, grieving, and transition. Nym and Lea are two close insect friends, but one day after Nym yells at Lea, Lea disappears. Nym searches everywhere for her missing friend, and can't find her. At last Nym falls asleep, grief-stricken, and finally hears Lea's voice one more time. "'I died and went to this special place,' Lea said, her voice full of love. 'But I didn't want you to leave,' Nym pleaded. 'I'm sorry I yelled.' 'I know you're sorry,' Lea assured her. 'I left because my water nymph body died while I was picking flowers in the reeds, not because you yelled.'" The warm, emotional colors of award-winning artist Barbara L. Gibson illustrate this highly recommended picturebook for sharing the bittersweet realities of life with young people.
Jewel's Reading Excellence Review: Helps children understand nature's life cycle.......2007-05-10
John Adams brilliantly invites the reader into the world of Nymphs and Dragonflies to explore the changes that take place when Nym's friend goes to a special place.
When I had lost a family member I had read a wonderful story called, "The Water Bug Story." John Adams adds a fresh approach to this story by focusing on friendship loss and giving a voice to his characters. With the help of Gibson's eye-catching nature illustrations, "The Dragon Fly Door" answers general questions surrounding loss, such as feelings about loss, what happens to the nymph's body when he dies, and how a nymph is transformed into a dragonfly.
Adams creatively normalizes typical friendship rivalry and takes the reader on a nature journey to discover that one chooses to resolve conflict, loss, and changes in different ways. Adams concludes the book with uncomplicated educational facts for the inquisitive science mind.
This is a great educational tool for parents, grandparents or professionals to use to help explain the uncontrollable life cycle changes and loss.
Reviewed by Jewel Sample, MS
Award-winning author of Flying Hugs and Kisses(2006), also translated: Besos y Abrazos Al Aire(2006, Spanish edition) and Flying Hugs and Kisses Activity Book(2007)
A Message of Hope for Children Who Are Grieving.......2007-02-26
As President of a nonprofit organization that reaches out to those who are grieving, I was very pleased to read a book such as The Dragonfly Door. This book provides a much needed way to offer children (and adults) a message of hope following the death of a loved one.
Children can relate to the playful nature of Nym and Lea who are the two young nymph friends, the sorrow of Nym when Lea dies, and the comforting feeling when when Nym realizes that he will one day see Lea again as a dragonfly, when he too has made his transformation into a dragonfly.
Our nonprofit organization recommends this book so highly that we have decided to make it available for purchase at all of our events.
-Valerie Marquardt
Beautiful and excellent for all who grieve.......2007-02-18
I received this wonderfully beautiful book on the 8th anniversary of my son's graduation to Heaven ... that evening, I was able to read it with his daughter, who is now 9... I believe she gained another understanding of her Very Own Daddy in a beautiful place that we have not seen just yet ... and though she already knew he is waiting for her, this was another good reminder of that ... I was unaware of the dragonfly's life cycle and was so blessed to see how it seemingly parallels this life and the next. Thank you, John, for a wonderful way to help us all in our continuing journey with grief and the Hope we can have.
Customer Reviews:
Prodigals and other life anomalies.......2007-01-16
This is the most complete book on the subject of wayward children I have read. I teach an adult Sunday School class and found a wealth of material and application. Also, having had a prodigal son, I found this book a tremendous comfort and tool to sort out the factors that led to my son's rebellion.
Excellent book!.......2004-02-05
13 years ago, we belonged to one of Buddy Scott's support groups and used his book as our manuel. I am firmly convinced that my husband & I would have been divorced now if we didn't have the help from Buddy's book. It is clear and concise with common sense approach to dealing with an out of control teen. It also gives principals to help younger children before they reach that horrible stage in their life. I will forever be grateful for Buddy's help! I am always recommending his book to those who are struggling with difficult teens. It's like receiving something substantial to hold onto along with the Word of God in a emotional emergency.
A wonderful help for my family - to be passed on........1999-02-21
Our group of four couples "taught" ourselves the associated class based on the principles in this Christian-based book; three couples for rescue and one for prevention. I am now teaching the class for the third time and, as word spreads, several dozen families have been helped in rescuing their rebellious teens and by learning prevention techniques and guiding principles used in raising their children. We recommend it highly.
A welcome resource when your child has you at wits end.......1998-11-20
Our church used this as the core text for a series of group sessions for hurting parents-- parents of teens in various states of rebellion, destructive lifestyle choices, and apathy. It proved to be quite helpful, well-grounded in Christian principles, and with many good insights and practical steps to take.
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