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Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
Charles L. Whitfield
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Have you ever heard of your inner child? Well, this is the classic book that started it all. In 1987, Charlie Whitfield's breakthrough concept of the child withinthat part of us which is truly alive, energetic, creative and fulfilledlaunched the inner child movement. Healing the Child Within describes how the inner child is lost to trauma and loss, and how by recovering it, we can heal the fear, confusion and unhappiness of adult life. Eighteen years and more than a million copies sold later, Healing the Child Within is a perennial selling classic in the field of psychology. And it is even more timely today than it was in 1987. Recent brain research, particularly on the effects of trauma on the brain of developing children, has supported Whitfield's intuitive understanding as a psychiatrist. About HCI Recovery Classics HCI's recovery backlist contains some of the most important and best-selling works in the recovery field. These books are still sought after today, selling more than 100,000 copies per year. Our new line of branded books features expanded editions of our top recovery titles, new introductions, updates on pertinent recent developments in the field, and contemporary new covers and packaging.
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Not for the average person.......2007-09-14
I thought this was hard to follow and written more for a psychologist than an average person.
Thrift store book changes Janis' life.......2007-05-17
In a thrift store at Christmastime my daughter swiped this book off the shelf and tossed it in my basket. As one of the other reviewers of this book said, I had thought references to "inner child" work to be hokie and I never gravitated toward formal Inner Child Work. With 12+ years in recovery in AA, AlAnon,and Co-dependency I was completely surprised to find a true "layer of the onion" would be removed and that this book would be a classic form of "more will be revealed" (recovery slogans). I just ordered a copy for my cousin whose childhood mirrored mine. She too has been in a form of 12 step recovery for about the same time as I. I would caution someone new to "looking at themselves" to get a therapist first and/or at least some of Melody Beattie/Carolyn Mysse's work under way. This book digs very deep----to places I have been exploring for a long time. It would flip my PhD sister out who has never done any recovery work....the going "family opionion" is that the only problem in the family was my drinking. The family opinion is dead wrong. I am the lucky one, I had a visible disease channel me into a life of living in the solution, not the problem. Give this book a try!!!!!!!!! It was the best Christmas gift I got last year!
Finding Support on the Path to Healling From Abuse.......2007-03-10
Along with other books by Charles Whitfield, this book provides a sensitive, supportive path and permission to release your hidden child within, the child that guards your freedom and your soul, the child that guards the blossoms of your virtues and gifts that are waiting to grow you into the full person you were meant to be. It allows you to say, "I was an abused child. I grieve for the stunted paths I've followed because I could not find the way to say this soon enough and release the gifts that belong to me, and to STOP asking WHY (since a dead person can't answer), but to speak outloud: 'You did this to me and I did not deserve it. It was not my fault. And I am furious. I am finally furious for the crippled life I was left to lead, and the sick pain and depression that have been my struggle.' " Then you can bring forth that hurt child and weep with, rage wih, and comfort that child. You feel like a split personality for a little while but you will heal. You will find joy. You will never be sorry. I am 69.
Healing The Child WIthin.......2007-03-09
Used for my final project in my Psych course. Very helpful with showing stategies that can be applied to help those who have suffered during childhood. My paper earned an A+
bored me.......2006-11-02
this book may have helped others, but it severely bored me. i had and extremely disturbed childhood. this book was just too basic for me, i dont feel it was written very well at all.
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A pretty darn good self-help book!.......2007-07-24
This isn't a bad book - not at all! It's very helpful at helping one realize how events in childhood affect, no - form the person we are today. It has some very good exercises for getting in touch with one's inner child . .. I liked it, and found it useful. Worth the money and the time reading it -
Deep, Painful Tilling in the Rugged Soil of Our Pasts ..........2007-05-02
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
I cannot think of another published work that deals effectively with healing the wounded inner child, like this book. Methodical and delibrate, Bradshaw explores territory unknown to our present conscious, but quite familiar to our subconscious. The earliest of memories, whether peripheral, non-descript "gut" feelings or vivid, clear, sensory-engaged recollections, can be stirred up with the meditations and mental exercises outlined by Bradshaw.
Those that are considering purchasing this book, and are reading the reviews to help your decision process, probably already discussed this with a trained spiritual counselor to truly do the work necessary, to undo years of damage in early childhood that somehow manifested itself into inappropriate social behaviors (misplaced anger or rage, attention-seeking, sexualized friendships, marital infidelity, covert sex, pornography), defense mechanisms (disassociation, projection, passing blame or guilt) and addictions (chemical, sexual dependencies). Emotional wounds sustained at such an innocent age really cannot be healed properly until an emotionally healthy parent, particularly a fully-functioning, fit mother, can teach proper coping skills that later fully develop and become integrated into adulthood. Some of us have not been as fortunate to have a parent, much less two, that offered appropriate emotional guidance. Those that need innerchild work done, are those that were raised by damaged parents and damage is passed onto their children as abuse, whether sexual, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual. Proper intervention is required to recalibrate the wiring in emotionally unstable adults and get them up to their appropriate EQ.
In doing the innerchild work, I caution those that try to accomplish this in solitude. The person in meditation may not know how to cope with the unearthed emotions (typically strong feelings of shame, guilt, and fear of unknown origin) unless a properly trained spiritual counselor provides enough guidance and tools to cope with the unpleasant, repressed feelings. It is also important to conduct the tasks in the order Bradshaw has outlined - Start at the infancy stage, do the meditation, and work on the emotions that surface, if at all. The best indication of how much damage was done to an individual is if the first task meditating at the infancy stage evokes a surge of unknown feelings. Then the work needed to get healthy requires the entire process suggested by Bradshaw. Skipping a chapter/exercise is not an option if the goal is to get emotionally fully integrated and healthy.
In closing, this book is really a new beginning to properly train and socialize a wounded adult back into society, the workplace, family life. Essentially, the process is likened to that of an infant learning to crawl, stand, walk, and explore the world around them, with the loving and caring guidance that lacked in childhood. Bradshaw also includes a section on forgiving and releasing resentment and bitterness of the perpetrator(s) of the emotional damage. I've witnessed miracles of healing because of the innerchild methodology, in lock-step with spiritual rebirth. Many times, the latter is overlooked when in fact the two complement each other in the healing and deliverance of an addicted, depressed adult. The spiritual aspect is alluded to, but not expounded upon, by Bradshaw. However, this omission does not affect the overall success of the process. I still give the book Five Stars and would recommend this to anyone in need of deep healing.
Wonderfull.......2007-02-17
This book cange my life in a lot of fields. I have read of self help books, but this book really helped me to understand so much i my life, and why other behave the way the do. I give this bokk five stars, read and bekome a new person :-)
A very important book, essential for the therapist.... The defining book of the the inner child movement.......2006-12-10
This book really started the inner child movement and to this day forms the basis of nearly all therapists training and approach to the inner child - its influence has been that strong, so many years later. This and Bradshaw's other books on Shame and The Family (which I also recommend if you want a grounding in this area) grew out of the addiction recovery movement including the 12 steps programs and have strongly influenced his approach. This of course, comes from the author's personal experiences of alcohol addiction and the recovery movement which no doubt 'saved his life' as they have done for tens of thousands of people worldwide. I've personally done 12 steps programs, therapy, therapist training and have received much, much benefit from each of them and even though they're not the models of healing though that I personally use today (I use more spiritual approach), these are tools I'd highly recommend.
One of the most important points with respect to this book is that it's not about understanding your past so much as resolving it and that involves deeply, ingrained and repressed emotional issue. You're highly unlikely to touch these issues by reading the book, in fact, you're more likely to have new knowledge to prevent you from actually experiencing the emotions that are repressed. It's simply a whole new ball game to do this work in front of a supporting other person as anyone who has done that will tell you. Consider this - can you even cry in front of a stranger without other emotions coming up (e.g. shame)? How would it feel for you tell someone, e.g. a therapist of your experiences, pains and traumas from your childhood? I think you can quickly see that this is a whole different domain than reading a book and getting some more information.
I think its essential to do this work with a properly trained therapist - WHO HAS DONE THEIR OWN INNER WORK (many in the field have not. I know because I've been in therapist training programs with people (including 'trained' practicing psychologists) who have done and continue to do little or no ongoing inner work). I've also done an inner child workshop that I walked out of half way through as the trainer was simply unqualified to run it and projected his own fears, beliefs, unresolved issues and shame onto the participants who were in the vulnerable inner child state.
That stated, if you're training in the field, it's an essential work to read, period. I'd also get the tape recordings available through Amazon's partner Audible as they do have processes on them as well and it is helpful for review purposes to be able to listen to the work. Moreover, the author personally sells dozens of tape sets including the very useful PBS series on video. You will note in these recordings that he becomes very evangelical at times... these recordings are quite old!
The book, it's grounded on the 12 steps and addiction recovery movement as you will see. It starts out with describing the process of wounding (be careful here, while the awareness is important it's simply not enough to understand how you were wounded). The second part has steps for reclaiming your inner wounded child, the author has a model that works through a series of stages from the earliest woundings of the infant self to the much older school age self and has a series of dialogues, steps and exercises to 'recover' from each period of wounding. He says they have to be done in order. Exercises include meditations, journalling, affirmations, emotional release work, writing, feelings work, work alone and with partners. Many of these exercises will be ones your therapist has done or trained in.
The book finishes with suggetions and valuable exercises for championing your inner child, that is, taking ongoing care of it.
If you're a therapist in training, this is essential reading. If not, and you want to do the work on your own, I'd suggest talking with someone trained in the profession first before doing this as actually know the exercises and theories can contaminate your experience of them and therefore reduce their power and effectiveness. I know, as an avid reader and someone who's 'in their head' a lot, that was my tendency when beginning my 'recovery' (as it was called in those days). The reason is that you 'know' how and why and by whom you were wounded, you think you 'know' what a process is about and trying to achieve, or that you 'know' what a therapist wants to hear... making it incredibly difficult to get to the emotions and do the real work, which is raw, vulnerable and most of all, real.
I later decided for my emotional and body work therapy that I would not read anything about the underlying ideas until I'd experienced it. It made the process probably more challenging as I had to let go and trust, yet I'm very glad I did.
Good luck and best wishes to you in your healing journey and your life.
Must-read for all those whose childhoods were less than perfect, and that's most of us.......2006-02-21
John Bradshaw does a beautiful job showing how we all carry a historical "inner child," the child we really were. When that child did not get the love and nurturance that it needed, it will either act out or act in later in our adult years. Bradshaw brilliantly shows the many ways in which the inner child got hurt and how it continues to contaminate our adult lives, unless and until we take steps to heal it. This book does not dwell on self-pity or blame; rather it focuses on understanding what happened, why it happened, and then dedicates the majority of the pages to a constructive approach to healing the inner child so that we can live a full, happy life.
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This joyously inspirational Spiritual book presents a set of beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life from a Cosmic Perspective that combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles with Ancient Metaphysical Truths. It explains why a New Age has dawned in human consciousness on planet Earth and explores the interrelationship between subjects that range from the Bible, Buddha, and Jesus to quantum physics, molecular biology, and AIDS. The belief system the book is based upon is exemplified by this quote from The Dance of Wounded Souls: "We are not sinful, shameful human creatures who have to somehow earn Spirituality. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience. We are here to experience and learn, to Touch and to feel." The author, a therapist who specializes in codependence/inner child healing, not only explains the big picture of how we are all ONE, part of one Cosmic energy interaction that is unfolding perfectly, he also offers insights into how the individual being can lovingly change their relationship with self and life in order to transform their human experience into a much more enjoyable adventure. This is a life-changing, life-affirming book.
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JuJuly.......2007-08-07
Ifound this book very easy to read. The information helped me to make sense of some areas of my life. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about themself and how they are relating to people.
Misleading title and information.......2007-03-19
The Title and info about this book was totally misleading......as this is a book about a radical philosiphy that is of no psychological or cultural or spiritual value, and makes no real reference to "wounded souls" at all unless it lumps all of humanity into that category.
The World needs to listen to these CDs or read the book!!!!.......2006-11-02
I have listened to this incredible audio book. I know that my journey in recovery, will not be the same again. The information presented in Robert Burney's book, is what EVERY soul needs to hear - it is the Truth. It certainly awakens me to MY Truth. I highly recommend this to anyone, who is seeking to grow and heal; who is in trouble of any sort, or who is just seeking to explore their spiritual origins. If I had the money, I would buy this 3-CD set for everyone I love...
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Work for World Peace - Read this book and heal yourself.......2006-04-26
Robert Burney is a pioneer. His message breaks through to the core of the human condition over, and over, and over again. I found Robert's message at a time in my life when I needed it the most. It put some very big pieces of my personal puzzle(ment) together for me in a single resource. His message gave me practical hope and began to establish a new and deeper perspective in my daily life. He is not a "guru." He is an emotionally honest man who is conveying his truth without pretense. I believe he's been given the gift of assembling some very important Truths into one practical spiritual message that addresses the human condition. Anyone, regardless of their particular belief system, who considers his message will walk away better equipped to Live their life. I highly recommend this book. I bought the tapes too.
Healing for your Wounded Soul.......2006-04-13
I've read the book and am now ordering the cassette version. I've read other books on codependence but this one has a softer, more wholistic approach that I found quite satisfying.
I'll also note that another reviewer stated that if you are a Christian to skip this book. I am a Christian and I found the author to be quite spiritual and inclusive of all faiths/beliefs.
I like that he discusses many relationships, not just romantic ones, and doesn't focus as highly on alcoholism as some other resources do.
If you've ever found yourself habitually giving more than you receive, or being drawn to needy people so you can take care of them, this little book will be a powerful tool as you rechannel your energy into healthier pursuits.
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Got Parts? was written by a survivor of DID in association with her therapist and therapy group. This book is filled with successful coping techniques and strategies to enhance the day-to-day functioning of adult survivors of DID in relationships, work, parenting, self-confidence, and self-care. Got Parts will help you introduce yourself to your internal family and improve its communication, integration, and well-being. Although written to carefully avoid triggering, it delivers well-grounded guidelines for living that DID people need to do on the way to recovery. Coping strategies included help you with issues related to triggers, flashbacks, and body memories. Got Parts also includes a detailed list of outside resources you can draw on. This book is intended to be used in conjunction with a therapist and is not a substitute for therapy.
Once thought of as a rare and mysterious psychiatric curiosity, Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is now understood to be a fairly common outcome of severe trauma in young children—most typically extreme and repeated physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse, and often lack of attachment. Formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder, DID is a condition in which a person has two or more distinct identities or personality states that recurrently take control of the person's consciousness and behavior. Symptoms can include depression, mood swings, panic or anxiety attacks, substance abuse, memory loss, propensity for trances, sleep and eating disorders, distrust, detachment, lack of self-care, and distress or impairment at work.
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OK beginners book.......2007-10-13
I didn't find the book particularly helpful, but if you are new to the subject of psychological disorders and dissociative disorders it may be helpful.
Got Parts? An Insider's Guide to Managing Life Successfully with Dissociative Identity Disorder (New Horizons in Therapy).......2007-08-09
Never received the book, only paid for it. Was in the States for over 1 months after order. Very dissapointed. Bad service!!!!!
Book Review: Got Parts?.......2007-07-28
Got Parts? An Insider's Guide to Managing Life Successfully with Dissociative Identity Disorder, is a practical guide for those with Dissociative Identity Disorder, previously called Multiple Personality Disorder.
The book covers everything from what Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is to how to find a good counselor to how to deal with life issues. I felt the book was complete except in the area of discussing the distinct, important spiritual aspects of DID. Like several earlier books, Got Parts? highlighted the importance of spiritual healing in DID. But also like several earlier books, Got Parts? limited spiritual healing to Christian ethics, which, since abusive people can choose to use any kind of ritual to abuse, can reinitiate abuse in the recovering DID individual.
A much more complete book is "The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook", published in 2001 by Conbtemporary Books and written by Deborah Bray Haddock. Ms. Haddock also discusses the importance of spiritual damage and the need for spiritual healing, but she emphasizes the need for nonjudgemental, overall spirituality rather than any one religious philosophy.
Helpful and clear for all........2007-05-13
This is a very clearly written book for the person with DID and for those who need a refresher or are new to DID. It is specific, positive, and affirming of the process and the need for therapy and support. I highly recommend it for therapists new to DID, and their DID clients.
Worst DID book I've read.......2007-04-25
I rarely write reviews, but after discussing this book with others who have and haven't read it, I felt the need to write and warn those with DID about it.
The tone in which it is written is very authoratative which can be quite difficult to handle for anyone who has survived trauma at the hands of authority figures. The terms "have to" and "need to" are used repeatedly. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad the author was able to heal in the way she explains in this book, but it comes across as if she's saying it's the "only" way to go through the healing journey.
There are many parts that are difficult to handle in this book. One section that really got to me is when she's discussing what she sees as a need for alters to be aware of and know who's fronting all the time. Then she says they also "need to know and be able to identify who they are" if your therapist asks. She reiterates this saying the part who is out has to "be willing to answer the question 'Who's here?' or 'Who am I talking with?' " The final straw for me on this subject was when she said that answering "I don't know" or "nobody" are not acceptable and "shyness, game-playing, or simply 'being confused' are not going to help you-all...." Face it, there are times when alters who are untrusting need to be able to come "out" during therapy in order to learn to trust and not be so shy. It may take months before they're able to say their names, if they ever do. Some experts in the field question the need names at all and don't push those alters who don't have names to choose names.
I think that this type of book, where people who have recovered from DID explain their process of healing, are needed, but this one isn't it. There are a few good suggestions in the book, but if you edited out all the negatives, it would be a very short article. Don't waste your time on this like I did. Please, if you have DID, reconsider the purchase of this book.
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Kids Are Worth It! : Giving Your Child The Gift Of Inner Discipline
Barbara Coloroso
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The parenting classic, now revised with new chapters, checklists, and information about today's most pressing issues regarding our children
This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact. Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how to parent strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullying.
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Required reading for anyone who Parent's!.......2007-05-17
This book is by far the best parenting book I've ever read. The author provides concrete examples comparing parenting styles including the "jellyfish parent" in contrast to the "brickwall," ever encouraging parent's to strike that middle of the road or "Backbone" parent. As a Special Ed teacher who has spent 23 years working with kids with behavioral and emotional disorders, I have come to the realization that so much havoc is wreaked by bad parenting. This book should be part of the package that hospital's provide when they pack you away with your new baby! A godsend for parent's who are determined to do a good job at teaching their children reasonable boundaries!!
Parenting with a backbone, neither a brick wall nor a jelly fish.......2007-05-15
When I was rearing my children back in the 70s and 80s I knew about `authoritarian' discipline and `permissive' parenting but neither met my needs or, more importantly, the needs of my children. I knew there was another way. Among the mothers I knew were many who enjoyed being parents and whose children I liked. They followed another path, one that had no name. Barbara Coloroso not only gives it a name--backbone parenting--she gives understandable, feasible guidelines for doing it.
Being a parent with a backbone starts with the golden rule: treat your children as you would like to be treated yourself.
On page 12, Coloroso tells the story of how, even with all the behavior modification techniques she had learned as a special education teacher, she found that she couldn't control a child dedicated to not being controlled. That story alone is worth the price of the book.
Then she goes on to describe how to constructively influence children and build relationships of mutual trust and respect, working collaboratively with children in their natural quest to grow strong and find meaning in life. "Discipline is handled with authority that gives life to children's learning." (page 37). What some might see as something to punish, Coloroso sees as an opportunity to teach.
For example,quoting from page 39: There is no problem so great, it can't be solved. Realities are accepted. Problems are solved. ("You failed math this term [reality]. I know you can do what you need to do to get the required math credit you need for graduation [problem to solve]. I'm here to help if you need me."
I suppose there is some parent somewhere who wouldn't benefit by reading this book but I don't know him or her. I predict you'll be glad you bought it.
Isn't as immediately "action-able" as some other parenting books..........2007-01-08
... such as the fabulous "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen" and the other two books in the same series by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish.
Both present the paradigm-shifting perspective of recognising a child, no matter how small, as a person whose feelings and points of view are valid, regardless of the parent's own. Both share similar perspectives in subjects like punishment and discipline. Nonetheless, I find "Kids Are Worth It!" too theoretical and too often leaves me wondering how to put it into practice.
For example, page 88, the paragraph on reconciliation (imagine my 16-year old son, Frank, has rammed my car into the garage door after taking it for a joy-ride):
"Reconciliation is the process of healing with the person you have harmed. It involves a commitment on Frank's part to honor his plan to make restitution and live up to his resolutions. It also involves a willingness on your part to trust, to risk, and to rebuild your relationship with your son. It is helpful at this point for Frank to go beyond restitution and offer his time and talents over and above those required for the restitution - perhaps by waxing the repaired car every week and painting not only the garage door but the entire garage."
Yes, I get it, yet will it matter if Frank's maturity isn't anywhere near this level yet? How do I (the parent) help him, first of all, see that he needs to reconcile with me? How should I respond when he tells me what happened (or when I find out what happened) in a way that will be constructive to our relationship? Sadly, the section just ends there. On the other hand, "How to Talk" would have answered it powerfully - address what happened and how I feel, without attacking Frank's character (such as name calling).
"Kids Are Worth It!" also has many quotes, some wonderful (such as the one at the start of chapter 2: "... The value of marriage is not that adults produce children but that children produce adults") while others are only "nice".
"How to Talk so Kids Will Listen" and the other two books in the same series are no quick-fix books too, and require a tremendous paradigm shift for parents, especially those who have grown up with challenging relationships with their own parents and/or siblings. Yet these 3 books are a lot more usable as they, after showing you a whole new way of looking at your kids, also suggest how to put things into practice - immediately - with cute cartoons and reminder bullet points.
Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint.......2006-12-05
If you're looking for a "how-to" book or for an easy fix to parenting problems, this isn't the book for you. If you're looking for a book with a solid parenting philosophy with flexibility built in, this book is great. I have girl/boy twins that are nearly 14, and they are great kids. Over the years, I've pretty much stumbled into the same parenting philosophies and outlook as Barbara Coloroso, and have been delighted with the results. Descriptions of my kids from other parents typically include the words: awesome, wonderful, delightful, and terrific.
Great Book.......2006-11-05
I purchased this book after seeing Barbara Coloroso in person. While her writing is not quite as dramatic as her in person, it is an excellent read. She offers many suggestions that are practical and easily implemented. I highly suggest all her books, especially 'The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander'.
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In the rush, rush, rush of too-much-to-do-and-no-time-to-do-it, the all-important, nurturing aspects of parenthood can easily disappear. Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Wherever You Go, There You Are and Myla Kabat-Zinn have collaborated on Everyday Blessings, a book that approaches parenting from the Zen Buddhist position of moment-to-moment awareness. It's a beautiful presentation and a thoughtful approach to mindful meditation that will help you slow down, enrich your life as a parent, and nourish the internal life of your children.
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Everday Blessings.......2007-05-29
Worthwhile reading for time-strapped parents who want to be more present in their everday interaction with their children.
Not as helpful as I had hoped.......2007-04-05
I was hoping this book would help me learn to be a calmer, more patient, and contented parent. While there were lots of examples, I felt this book was rambling and didn't really give me practical help.
Tepid.......2007-03-07
The Kabat-Zinns have written a unique book in as much as it is one of the very few that apply mindfulness to parenting. Those portions of the book, where this application is described, are very good. Afterall, Jon Kabat-Zinn has done a fair bit towards popularizing this form of meditative practice. However, the book falters when the authors advise about bringing up children and disciplinary issues. They fail to distinguish, in any practical way, between utter laissez faire and much-needed corrective action. The reader is left to his/her own devices to figure out a path that should be followed. Well, one really does not need a book to tell us that the path is unique and must be forged by each parent. The manner in which mindfulness can help in charting this path is poorly described.
Overall, I recommend this book only for a few chapters (approx. 75 pages) that are very good. The rest does nothing to improve parenting skills.
Never too early!!.......2007-01-06
I read this book when I was 2 months pregnant with my first child. Now at 11 months old, I plan on rereading it. I'm a practicing Buddhist, so this fit with my belief. However, everyone can benefit from reading this book. People of all faiths can certainly relate. I passed it on to my sister, who is a Christian, and she had the same praise. Read it.
Once the realization is accepted..........2006-11-10
I found this book very useful. A friend recommended it, and emailed me an opening quote, from Rainer Maria Rilke, which I thought a lot about:
"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see eachother whole against the sky."
I have twin girls, and a lot of the what the authors write about do not particularly resonate with me, but there are pieces of the book I really enjoyed, and reading it has helped me be more attentive to choices I make that will allow me see past the reactivity of my own mind, and helped me cultivate the greater calmness and insight that I need to bring to my parenting.
Customer Reviews:
Thorough and compassionate.......2006-07-13
I really enjoyed this book, I found it thorough and empathic. The reader is lead through the many stages of childhood with compassion and given helpful exercises to overcome issues and obstacles present at each stage. The ability to understand the child is well presented by the author. As with psychotherapy generally it is more helpful to work with a therapist, this book is a great beginner or would work well alongside psychotherapy sessions.
The Inner Child Workbook.......2006-03-03
I did not find this book to be a helpful resource for my clients who have had difficult or painful childhood experiences. In many cases the exercises in this book require a greater degree of affect tolerance than the client has at her disposal. The consequence for the reader using this strictly as a self-help book,easily could be emotional overwhelm, and reinforcement of poor self-esteem as the reader continues to wonder what is wrong with her; this time because she cannot accomplish the tasks outlined in this workbook.
RELEASE THE ENERGIES THAT HOLD YOU IN LIMBO.......2002-08-28
There's a difference of talking of what your traumas (no matter how significant)are, and actually releasing the feelings and energies that accompany them. If you're really ready to get your life going and become a whole person, this book will do it. Once you've looked at the inner feelings and dealt with them, you're on your way to whatever you want of yourself. Talk about opening doors. You're worth it.
This book is a classic in its field!.......2001-05-16
After many other books on inner child work have come and gone, I keep coming back to this one. The author has given what is arguably the most complete map of the inner child work that has ever been written. To have instructions like this, that take us gently into our own inner mythology is a rare gift. If God/Goddess had commissioned an instruction manual for how to navigate these inner territories, it would have been this one. Come to think of it, maybe that's what happened! For anyone interested in doing really solid inner child work, this book is one they must read and DO! There's the potential for so much healing, and ultimately inner peace in this book!
INSIGHTFUL.......1999-09-08
I thought overall that the book was very good at helping me recognize the roots to the problems in my adult life. As a sexual abuse survivor, it has opened the doors to the little child inside of me that needs to feel safe and loved. It was very easy to read and easy to understand. The only negative thing I would have to say about the book is that it was very thorough on addressing the roots of problems, but not necessarily on what you can do now to overcome them. (But I suppose that's another story......)
Book Description
"If we wish to help humans to become more fully human, we must realize not only that they try to realize themselves, but that they are also reluctant or afraid or unable to do so. Only by fully appreciating this dialectic between sickness and health can we help to tip the balance in favor of health." -Abraham Maslow
Abraham Maslow's theories of self-actualization and the hierarchy of human needs are the cornerstone of modern humanistic psychology, and no book so well epitomizes those ideas as his classic Toward a Psychology of Being.
A profound book, an exciting book, its influence continues to spread, more than a quarter century after its author's death, beyond psychology and throughout the humanities, social theory, and business management theory.
Of course, the book's enduring popularity stems from the important questions it raises and the answers it provides concerning what is fundamental to human nature and psychological well-being, and what is needed to promote, maintain, and restore mental and emotional well-being. But its success also has to do with Maslow's unique ability to convey difficult philosophical concepts with passion, precision, and astonishing clarity, and, through the power of his words, to ignite in readers a sense of creative joy and wholeness toward which we, as beings capable of self-actualization, strive.
This Third Edition makes Abraham Maslow's ideas accessible to a new generation of psychology students, as well as businesspeople, managers, and trainers interested in applying the study of human behavior to management techniques.
An energetic and articulate scholar, Professor Maslow was the author of more than twenty books, including Eupsychian Management; Psychology of Science; Religions, Values, and Peak Experiences; Motivation and Personality; and Principles of Abnormal Psychology (with B. Mittelmann). He also edited New Knowledge in Human Values and wrote nearly one hundred articles. His teachings continue to be a staple for psychologists and psychology students.
"Capacities clamor to be used, and cease their clamor only when they are well used. . . . Not only is it fun to use our capacities, but it is necessary for growth. The unused skill or capacity or organ can become a disease center or else atrophy or disappear, thus diminishing the person." -Abraham Maslow
Toward a Psychology of Being, Third Edition
Abraham Maslow doesn't pretend to have easy answers, absolutes, or solutions that bring the relief of finality-but he does have a deep belief in people. In this Third Edition of Toward a Psychology of Being (the original edition sold well over 100,000 copies), there is a constant optimistic thrust toward a future based on the intrinsic values of humanity. Professor Maslow states that, "This inner nature, as much as we know of it so far, seems not to be intrinsically evil, but rather either neutral or positively 'good.' What we call evil behavior appears most often to be a secondary reaction to frustration of this intrinsic nature." He demonstrates that human beings can be loving, noble, and creative, and are capable of pursuing the highest values and aspirations.
This Third Edition will bring Professor Maslow's ideas to a whole new generation of business and psychology readers, as well as anyone interested in the study of human behavior.
Customer Reviews:
How could this book possibly cost $50?.......2004-01-14
This book was not written as a textbook - it was written as a standard work of non-fiction. 15 years ago it cost $8. How can they charge $50 for it?
I believe we have to take these factors into account when discussing the merits of a book. This price is really out of hand.
Hard Reading but Worth It.......2002-08-16
I had to read this for an Organizational Leadership class in graduate school. When I first got it I thought, "This is going to be like reading a VCR manual." That is, it appeared to be boring theoretical way out there stuff, with sentences lasting a full paragraph.
However, it is one of the best books I have ever read in helping me to understand people and why they are the way they are. This is a quick written self help book. Rather, it explains the fundamental causes of people's behavior in life.
Tough reading.......2001-10-29
I've got more knowledge about psychology than most of the people in the general population and found this book difficult reading. It focuses on actualization rather than on the hierarchy of needs.
one of his best..........2000-06-01
...and easier going than the more technical FARTHER REACHES. A good intro to Maslow's thought and to humanistic psychology in general, it lays out many of his key ideas in a plain and simple style.
Change Your Life!.......2000-01-30
Discovering this book back in the 1960s changed my life and led me into the field of first, Humanistic Psychology and then into Transpersonal Psychology, where I found my life-work and purpose.
Read it, and if you are searching for some real meaning in your life, you will find the beginning of the way. Then read all the books in the list of references, and that will be even better!
It opens up a whole new world!
Book Description
Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul show how anyone can reconnect with his or her Inner Child to short-circuit self-destructive patterns, resolve fears and conflicts, and build satisfying relationships. Healing Your Aloneness outlines a self-healing process that can be used every day to restore a nurturing balance between loving Adult and loved Inner Child.
Customer Reviews:
Wonderful book.......2007-09-08
This book is tremendous to help to heal the wounds inside. I rate it 100 stars
Great gift.......2006-03-17
I gave this book to my friend on her 45th birthday. She can't stop talking about it and how much it has helped her.She says she just keeps reading it over and over again.
Excellent Help.......2006-02-26
Most of us have been raised by parents who did not realize the damage they did to us in our formative years.
This book allows us to see and repair that damage and therefore to treat ourselves as our parents should have treated us.
I recommend this book highly.
Well-received, well-written, helpful and insightful.......2005-05-26
This is really one of the most profound books out there on Inner Child work. It is written in a concise, easy to read and follow manner. I bought it some time ago and recently was drawn back to reading it and this time the light bulb really went off and I really "got it." The authors do an excellent job in really making it very reader-friendly. My copy is now dog-eared and highlighted all through...it has helped me tremendously and continues to help me tremendously as an individual, and also as a counselor/therapist.
All growth is hard work.......2005-03-03
All growth is really hard work. This is hard work. I would equate it to the transformation that The Incredible Hulk goes through. The thing is though, it isn't that fast. It takes time and dedication. I've read maybe 30 books and they all have their wisdoms and their truths, but it was this book that put me on the road I needed to be on. Somethings just resonate. This resonated with me, and when I started communicating with the abandoned and hurt child within me, I could for the first time see what had gone wrong and what I needed to do to fix it. I'm not completely there, but I have no doubt that I will.
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- Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
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- How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk
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- Infant Massage--Revised Edition: A Handbook for Loving Parents
- Infants and Children: Prenatal Through Middle Childhood (5th Edition) (MyDevelopmentLab Series)
- It's Called Work for a Reason!: Your Success Is Your Own Damn Fault
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