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Timeless advise.......2006-11-09
I thought that this book might be dated, however it reads like good medicine for a wound few of us acknowledge. My wife had five miscarriages, a couple were more than three months along; plenty of time to get our hopes up. Each time we attended to her needs, physical and emotional. I stuffed my disappointment and sense of loss. While reading this book I got a wealth of information about how to work through my grief around these losses.
An invaluable aid to any grieving parent.......2006-08-09
Shortly after the death of our son in 1977, I saw Harriet Sarnoff Schiff interviewed about this book on one of the morning news shows. I immediately ordered this book, and it became an invaluable tool for healing from the terrible pain of losing a child for both my husband and me.
As time has gone forward, I find myself giving a copy of this book to people who have experienced the loss of a child. It continues to be a book that offers concrete help to those of us who have endured this devastating experience.
I just ordered another copy. I will hand it to a young woman who is exactly the same age I was when I first read it years ago. My arms will wrap around her as I struggle to find the best way to extend my loving concern to her and her husband. Beyond that hug, this book is the kindest expression of sympathy I have ever found.
Nancy Shaw
Very Educational.......2006-07-01
This book covers every aspect of the grieving soul. People sit around thinking they must be going crazy with the thoughts and feelings they have in times of grief. This book explains those feelings and lets the reader know they are not crazy or alone, they are very normal, and things will get better. After my daughters murder in 2003 I read every book I could get my hands on and NOTHING helped me more than this book. It covers all ages, and circumstance, loss of spouse, child, sibling, parent, and does it in a way that flows not separating instances so much that only a portion of the book covers what you truly need. I couldn't put it down until I had read it to the end and I felt so much better. This auther can really get to the heart and soul of the pain of loss and let you know you are normal and the reasons why you feel the way you do. I am so glad I read this book and will continue to share it with those in need. It is the only book I have read except for one other that deals with the loss of an adult child My daughter was 23 and it was perfect. I bought this book because of a review on this site and I am so gratefull. Thank you Harriet Schiff for this book where ever you are, I am so thankfull
Blessed by this Book.......2005-04-21
By giving practical advice and necessary information, this book helped my husband and I get through the death of our infant son 27 years ago. As a clergy couple, we have used her information and suggestions in comforting and advicing grieving parents over the years. When our 7 year old granddaughter died suddenly last summer, we were able to use the invaluable practical information to help our daughter and son-in-law get through the funeral and impossible weeks and months following her death. It is written from the knowledge that only the pain, grief, and life-experience of losing a child can bring. We along with many others are blessed by having read it.
Very helpful.......2004-06-21
This was one of dozens of bereaved-parent and bereavement-in-general books that were given to us after the death of our daughter last winter. This one helped me more in terms of understanding that this is a process, rather than a destination, and helped me with understanding how my husband and I would grieve somewhat differently and how we could keep communication open.
I lent it to a friend, who said it helped her a great deal with understanding what my husband and I were dealing with; it "helped her to help us", in other words.
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This book was very comforting .......2006-03-03
Once I read this book, I realized that all of the things I was feeling were completely normal. I no longer felt all alone.The author described all the emotions that I had experienced losing both of my parents within one and a half years. I recommend reading this if you have lost a parent or have an aging or terminally ill one.
A nice little book but not quite..........2003-10-22
This is a really sweet little book but not quite what I was looking for. It was somewhat comforting to read about other people's experiences and how they felt when they're older parent(s) passed away but I guess I was and still am looking for something different. I just recently lost my dear father in a terrible accident but he was not old and he was very healthy. This book deals more with parents dying quite old and ill. Just not for me and my situation.
Not much comfort.......2003-10-08
This book was recommended by a Christian counselor after the death of both my parents within about a year's time. I found little comfort in the message of this book. The book looked at death from a New Age standpoint (we can find our comfort in the beauty of mother nature), from the Universalist standpoint (everybody goes to heaven when they die), and the Roman Catholic standpoint (we can pray to other dead people who are in heaven to help our recently deceased loved ones). The book never presents the cause for eternal salvation provided in God's Word - that faith and trust in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ is our means to eternal life with God. Neither of my parents ever spoke about trusting in Jesus Christ prior to their deaths, and it is difficult not knowing if they understood the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If we embrace the message of this book, then there's little need to spread the Gospel of Jesus Christ to the ends of the earth, because either everybody goes to heaven, everybody joins to nature, or we can pray for them after they've passed away. I'd rather use the pain of my parents passing to encourage me to try harder to spread the Gospel of my wonderful Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to the ends of the earth.
Permission to grieve as I have needed to.......2003-08-05
My 88 year old dad died January 8, 2003. Although I was unable to look at his picture for a couple of months, I thought I was "handling it" just fine. Besides, although my mother was also suffering from dementia, she was obviously aware that Daddy was gone and I needed to concentrate on her. Then on May 7, 2003, Mama died - and I began to grieve. It was almost like losing them both the same day. I guess as long as my mother was still here, I still felt a connection to my dad as well. I never expected to hurt so badly. They were 88, in extremely poor health and had not been like the parents I had known for quite some time. But now they are gone.Even knowing this was coming and being 50 years old myself, I was still devastated. After I had finished everything with the memorial service and everyone had gone home, I began to realize how very bereft I was. I felt foolish having so much grief - after all, they were old and sick, better off now, etc., all of the usual platitudes. I have a strong religious faith and have no questions as to where they are now. I did not want them to continue suffering. And yet, I missed my mom and dad. I first read "The Orphaned Adult," which was extremely helpful and which I recommend. But I still seemed to be sadder than I thought I should be for a person losing parents later in life. I could no longer sleep through the night, if I got to sleep at all. I had thought about ordering this book for a while, but felt I was being too self indulgent. Finally I gave in and I am so thankful I did. Ms. Bartocci hit me "right where I lived." She put words to my sadness and gave me the permission to "still" feel sad. She describes grief as individual to each of us, which made me feel less of a "freak." As I said, I am not a "group help" person. This book, as another reviewer stated, was like having a group in my home. It has now been three months since my mother died. I still start to go to the phone to call her and I still cannot drive past the Alzheimer's unit where she and my daddy spent the last years of their amazing 67 year marriage. But, as Ms. Bartocci explained, I am having more "good days" than bad and am gradually able to talk about my parents without tearing up. Thank God for this book because her words encouraged me to allow myself to continue in my grief, gradually getting better, instead of making myself deny it,even to myself - which would probably have had dreadful consequences. I recommend this book with the highest recommendation and I want to thank the author for her kind heart and for being so open with her life so that she may help people like me.
A must for any adult who's lost a parent.......2002-09-24
When I was 12 years old, my father died six weeks after a massive heart attack. A month ago, four days before my 34th birthday, my mother died suddenly. I'm a late-comer and my siblings are a much older than me. They have their families. I have my career. Although my religious beliefs give me peace, there is still an immense sadness. I am not yet married, my beloved will never know my wonderful parents. Any children I may have will never know their maternal grandparents. Both of my grandfathers died before I was born, so this causes me grief for what my children who aren't even born yet have lost.
This book is wonderful and helped me to understand different feelings that I've been having and let me know that these feelings are not unique.
Book Description
Bringing together fourteen experts from across the United States and Canada, Bereaved Children and Teens is a comprehensive guide to helping children and adolescents cope with the emotional, religious, social, and physical consequences of a loved one's death. The result is an indispensable reference for parents, teachers, counselors, health-care professionals, and clergy. Topics covered include what to say and what not to say when explaining death to very young children; how teenagers grieve differently from children and adults; how to translate Protestant, Catholic, or Jewish beliefs about death into language that children can understand; how ethnic and cultural differences can affect how children grieve; what teachers and parents can do to help bereaved young people at school; and activities, books, and films that help children and teens cope. "In this much-needed book, a group of carefully chosen authorities explore with sensitivity and wisdom the complex problems faced by those young people whom Rabbi Grollman so correctly calls "the forgotten mourners" . . . The authors have given us a work that is direct, thorough and--most of all--useful." --Sherwin B. Nuland, M.D., F.A.C.S. author of How We Die, winner of the 1994 National Book Award
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You can't miss with Earl Grollman!.......2001-11-04
So far every book I have seen by Earl Grollman is wonderful and this one is no exception. Having lost my mother to cancer when I was a teenager and now, as an adult, working with children who have experienced the death of a family member, this book is a great guide. It has everything from explaining death to children to spiritual and cultural differences of death. If you're a parent of a grieving child or a professional helping children, this is a perfect book.
For parents, teachers, scout leaders and youth leaders........2001-09-27
Book: I Highly recommend this book for understanding grieving children. It helped me cope with what I was feeling, and with what I thought our boys might be going through, when my father in law died.
The book is good for parents, teachers, scout leaders and youth workers.
It contains over a dozen essays from religious, and medical specialists who deal with death and grief and children. Many religious and social concerns and perspectives are introduced. It is good for youth leaders because not everyone comes from your particular background and it helps you to understand where they might be coming from. It is written for an average parent or teacher to read. You don't have to be a Pastor or a Psychologist to get enormous value from it. Warning, however, it made me cry. That was part of the process too.
If I can summarize the whole book in one short snippet-
Every child is different, Expect some to be completely quiet and expect others to burst out laughing. Watch for the change. Don't dismiss their feelings, it will take time to listen-- a LOT of time-- it can't be solved in a 15 minute talk, but should be addressed at the child's schedule.
Although the book is published by Beacon Press, which falls under the Unitarian Universalist Church, each of the chapter-essays are written from a different person of a different religious or social perspective. There is a chapter each on the Protestants, Catholics, Jewish, Native American, Inner City, etc. perspectives. Grollman was the editor of all the essays. Each essay is easy enough to read as a stand-alone guide.
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Grief and loss are universal experiences which are shared by all but talked about by few. As a result, many of us feel alone and isolated when we are in the grip of the crushing emotions that accompany the death of someone we love. We are, for the most part, wholly unprepared for the barrage of bewildering behaviors, thoughts and reactions that so often follow a loss. When author Peggy Waterfall watched both parents and her life partner die within one year, she emerged with a unique perspective on the timeless experience of grief and loss. In Rainbows and Rain: Finding Comfort in Times of Loss, we learn that it is possible to find joy again, but we must first learn to grieve. We also learn that we are unequipped to express to others what we are experiencing and often find ourselves at a loss to adequately convey our feelings. We want desperately to find the right words so that we can explain our strange behavior to our families, our co-workers, our friends. This book helps us to understand the importance of being patient with ourselves and is the first step in healing.
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Rainbows and Rain- A book about loss.......2007-05-07
This book is excellent, it is very sad though and you are to be warned before you buy it, you will do a lot of crying before getting to the end.
You Aren't Alone.......2005-11-28
If nothing else, this book serves to remind those suffering from grief (of any kind) that they are not alone. In revisiting her own journey out of the abyss of grief after the losses of her parents and life partner, Ms. Waterfall gently and patiently assists the reader in dealing witih the overwhelming feelings one experiences at such a time. While no book can make the pain go away, this one feels like a loving friend giving us permission to feel all that we need to feel as we work our way towards healing, giving words to the pain in our hearts.
Someone who gets it!.......2005-11-10
What struck me most about "Rainbows and Rain" was how well the author put words to the experience of grief. Her use of analogies like "the picture falling off the fall" -- her description of how it seems something that was ALWAYS there is now gone -- helps the reader better understand her own feelings, and provides words that articulate those feelings to others who don't get it about grief. Waterfall nails it when she says in the opening, "We don't manage grief, it manages us." This is a highly recommended read for people trying to grapple with their own emotions after loss.
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I hated this book! To Expensive!.......2007-09-27
I hated this book and I disliked the author. The book made me angry and depressed. Some parts did relate to my experience grieving the death of my 28 year old son but the book offers little more hope then being able to get out of bed in the morning and walk through the grocery store without crying. I grieve my son. I miss him but I do not give up hope or accept the loss of joy for the rest of my life. For me I want to read a book that focuses on what we can learn from our experience, how our love and our deceased childs love is eternal and to offer me hope for joy in my future not some endless heartache preventing you from even spending a holiday with a grandchild. I am sorry but I found the author to be arrogant and self centered. Why does this book cost so much? What a waste. Save your money and buy 2 to 3 books for the price of this rip off.
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An Intimate Loneliness: Supporting Bereaved Parents and Siblings (Facing Death)
Gordon Riches
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Univ. of Derby, UK. Explores how family members attempt to come to terms with the death of an offspring or brother or sister. Examines the importance of social relationships in helping adjusting to death. For students and counselors. Hardcover, softcover also available.
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Loss of a Child or Sibling.......2002-10-22
This book is so packed with information, don't expect to finish it quickly. The loss that brings you to it may surface as you find yourself in the pages. Based on years of experience with bereaved indiviudals, the book stands alone as a resource for counselors and other professionals who work with the grieving. I particularly liked their exploration of the search for meaning following a loss, and the concept of resilience as being a positive factor to help in resolving loss.
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- A must read for anyone who is grieving from a personal loss
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Heartfelt: A Companion for Bereaved Parents
Jeri Rae Miller
Manufacturer: Cypress House
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Release Date: 2006-12-30 |
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In 1976, Jeri Rae Miller's seven-year-old son, Christian, was killed in an automobile accident. After more than a year of agonizing grief, Ms. Miller created the Heartfelt Support Group to help other bereaved parents. Based on the knowledge she developed while counseling thousands of bereaved parents during the group's twenty-one years of operation, she wrote Heartfelt in hope of reaching out to even more grieving families and helping them survive the greatest loss of all. Heartfelt is a beacon of hope and a road map for recovery. Not a lengthy psychological treatise, it is intentionally concise for ease of reference, walking the reader through the stages of grief in chapters that can be read and reread in minutes. Although it focuses on parental grief, the insight it offers will help and comfort all who mourn the loss of any loved one, assuring them that, while their lives have changed forever, they will survive and smile again.
Customer Reviews:
Wonderful Book.......2007-04-14
For anyone who has ever lost a loved one, this book helps you how to get through it and encourages you to move on and live again.
Experiencing Loss.......2007-03-30
This is a down to earth real people book...giving insight into the grieving process of the survivers be it parents, siblings or others. The book tells how it is to lose a loved one, not necessarily how the world might like to see it, but how it affects those left behind.
A must read for anyone who is grieving from a personal loss.......2007-02-02
In this book, Mrs. Miller, does an excellent job balancing the process of grief with her own personal journey of the days and years after the death of her seven year old son. What makes this companion for bereaved parents so personal to the reader is the inclusion of autobiographical stories from her husband and three of her now adult children. I liked that the book was brief and to the point. The stages of grief are simply laid out and the chapter on "Living Through the Grief" was comforting and reassuring. I was grateful to learn that all though you will never forget your loss, on the other side of grief there is life and perhaps even a little laughter.
A necessary guide .......2007-02-01
Although the grieving process is different for everybody, this book will help you understand that what your going through is normal, and you will get your life back under control with time.
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- Personal experience this is the best book
- Excellent book for anyone who has lost a child........
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Meditations for Bereaved Parents (Gilgal Meditations Ser)
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Meditations for Bereaved Parents is a collection of one and two-page meditations written by men and women of all ages who have had a child die. The book provides an honest confrontation with grief and help for moving beyond it. Spiritual without being preachy, none of the authors say, "This is what you have to do to heal." Rather, each in his or her own way shares what helped them in hopes it will help the reader too. It is a book for parents to turn to in the still of the night when sleep won't come and they need to know that someone, somewhere understands exactly how they are feeling at that moment.
Customer Reviews:
Personal experience this is the best book.......2002-09-24
Years ago when I lost a child everyone had a book for me to read. I couldn't concentrate on over a page or two at a time because my thoughts were so scattered and I didn't feel any identification with anyone in the books I was given. Every situation is unique. Months later I found this book myself in a Christian Book Store. I loved it and would recommend it to anyone that has lost a child. One of the reasons was that the stories were so short that I could concentrate for a limited amount of time on what I was reading. There is enough variety in the book making it easy to find a situation to identify with. I have bought this book for other people who have lost children, and was just doing an Internet Search for the book for someone else when I came across this. I very seldom leave an opinion at any place like this, but I have to recommend this book very highly. A must have for anyone suffering such a terrible loss.
Excellent book for anyone who has lost a child...............1999-10-10
We lost a daughter in 1991 and was given this book, I have recommended it to so many people. Is is so uplifting and gives you hope......I'm glad I found it is still for sale. Highly recommend it for anyone grieving.
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Spiritual Lives Of Bereaved Parents (SERIES IN DEATH EDUCATION,AGING, AND HEALTH CARE)
Dennis Klass
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This book describes how parents lose, find, or relocate spiritual anchors after the death of their child. It describes how ordinary people reconstruct their lives after their foundations have shifted, and how they make sense of their world after one of their centers of meaning has been removed.
Klass grounds his descriptions of spirituality in his scholarly study of comparative religions, and in his two decades studying the lives of bereaved parents. He argues that continuing bonds with their dead children can give parents a new transcendent reality. Deceased children, like saints or bodhisattvas, can offer a bridge between the profane and sacred worlds, support parents as they find meaning in a world made forever poorer, and bind together a community adequate to parents' grief.
The book reports Klass's clinical practice and his work as advisor to a bereaved parents self-help support group.
Customer Reviews:
Helpful book in a time of need........1999-04-27
Losing someone is extremely hard, and this book sheds some light on what kind of things can be expected. Whether you have lost someone close to you or know someone that has, it is very helpful. After reading this myself, I gave it to a friend who had lost someone close, the appreciation that my friend expressed for it was an indication that others also found it helpful. Just wanted to pass it along to everyone else out there who has lost someone, or knows someone who has.
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