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The classic guide to understanding children’s mental development is now updated and better than ever!
Hailed by parents and educators, Your Child’s Growing Mind is a window into the fascinating process of brain development and learning. It looks at the roots of emotion, intelligence, and creativity, translating the most current scientific research into practical suggestions for parents and teachers.
Dr. Healy also addresses academic learning, offering countless suggestions for how parents can help without pushing. She explains the building blocks of reading, writing, spelling, and mathematics and shows how to help youngsters of all ages develop motivation, attention, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills.
Using the science of childhood development, she also examines today’s hot issues, including learning disabilities, ADHD, influences of electronic media, and the hazards of forced early learning. From infancy to adolescence, this is the perfect guide to helping and enjoying a youngster’s mental, personal, and academic growth.
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Essential reading for parents of young children.......2007-09-07
This literally spells out what's going on in those little brains. Full of great advice on parenting and supporting young learners--and letting your child show YOU how they need to learn. I wish there'd been a bit more about the developing adolescent brain. You can't start reading this book too early.
If You Have Children, You Must Read This Book.......2006-02-24
I appreciated the valuable information about brain development, how children learn, how we can help them, what real education and learning are all about, and the things we do that hinder brain development.
I assigned it to my teens for part of the homeschooling program, and they enjoyed it so much they recommend it to friends, too.
Jane Healy writes well, and she makes a lot of sense. Reading this book also helped us understand why one of our children has some of the learning issues she has. I just can't recommend it highly enough.
IT IS A MUST READ!!!.......2005-07-16
THIS IS A GREAT BOOK. All my childhood development classes requires me to read this. I WOULD HAVE TOTALLY AGREE WITH MY PROFs. PARENTS, TEACHER, and anyone who have to interact with children must get this book. READ THIS & YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!
A Classic for Parents and Teachers.......2005-05-27
I am the proud author of this new edition of Your Child's Growing Mind, which is completely revised and updated with all the newest brain research and the applications for teaching and parenting. I am only sorry that Amazon has not included all the fantastic reader comments that accompanied the book before the new edition came out--it is still the same great resource. Enjoy!
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"Let him cry it out!"
"Are you feeding that baby again?"
"Don't you ever put her down?"
Parents of fussy babies hear these kinds of remarks all the time. In fact, they may even ask themselves these questions. Faced with a baby who demands to be held, nursed, and comforted much of the time, new mothers may begin to doubt their own intuition, even as they long for a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.
The first edition of THE FUSSY BABY, published in 1985, helped parents think about their demanding babies in a new light. These are children with high needs; children who are smart enough to ask for the high-quality caregiving that will help them develop their full potential.
In this revised edition, attachment-parenting experts William and Martha Sears bring new insight to the tried-and-true advice that has worked for so many families over the last two decades.
Respond to baby's needs and will build up your own sensitivity. Trust baby to tell you what he needs, and he will learn to trust himself and eventually grow to be confident and independent.
Look for new information on colic (the "hurting baby"), gastroesophageal reflux, and the challenges of breastfeeding a fussy a baby, along with updated references, reorganized chapters, and lots and lots of mothering tips.
THE FUSSY BABY has carried many families through times with a high-need infant. This new edition brings that tradition of sensitive, intuitive parenting to a new generation of caring mothers and fathers.
Customer Reviews:
great information.......2007-10-01
a really great directed approach for attachment style parenting. my only criticism is that the intended audience seems to be moms who are able to stay at home and dads that are away all day in the workforce. there aren't any approaches or direction for moms that need to return to work and dads who stay home, or for both working parents. it would be great to just be able to make the choice to not use babysitters, but that is not a viable option for a large majority of parents these days.
Book of Hope!.......2004-03-09
I am a new mother of now a 3 month old daughter. From the beginning people would always remark how alert she was being that she is so young. Ava was a very restless sleeper, so I started to sleep with her on my stomach. Now she sleeps 8-9 hours a night. Everyone tells me that I am spoiling her and that is why she always needs to be held and I should put her in her crib to sleep. YOu start to doubt what is best for your child. This book really helped to reassure that I am doing what I FEEL is best for my daughter. Never doubt your instincts is a good message this book delievers. I suggest this book to anyone, regardless if they have a high needs baby or not!
supportive, a must read for the parent of a colicky baby.......2002-06-14
My daughter was colicky for about 4-5 months. I was really glad to have found this book when she was 4 months old. (Wish I had read this when she was a newborn.) I almost cried when I read it. All those months I had struggled with this screaming little baby and wondered if I was doing the right thing. Other people told me I was spoiling my baby and I should change the way I was dealing with her crying, but I couldn't bear to let her suffer alone in her crib.
This book is very supportive for parents who want to nurture and calm their fussy, colicky babies. I thought that the Sears' provided nice tips for handling baby and I also found there advice on breastfeeding helpful.
My baby is now 10 months. She is trusting, good humored, smiley, and very sociable. I feel like all my hard work has paid off. I don't think that I would have been able to do it without this book.
Surviving the first year of baby's life.......2000-08-05
Even though my child was past six months by the time I had the energy to read this book, it validated the various strategies that I had attempted in order to have some relief from the screaming. My child screamed 95% of the time when we first brought her home and slept less than 8 hours a day. Many of these strategies provided me with at least temporary relief. Therefore I highly recommend the book, especially for the chapter on creative ways to soothe a fussy baby. Also, validation of the feelings of shared by parents of similar babies helps one feel understood at a time when perfect strangers constantly offer useless advice. The chapter on hidden causes of fussiness in infants is one that is still of interest to me as we as parents continue our search for answers to our struggle. I read other reviews that were not as complementary, however as a parent of one of the most difficult children that I have ever met (professionally, I deal with parents and children) this book was especially helpful to me in looking at our struggle from many different angles and feel encouraged that we will survive. Some are opposed to the idea of the "family bed" however if a child is truly difficult, parents are willing to try "ANYTHING". The "ANYTHING" is what I believe the Sears have willing explored and shared. The only thing that would have been better for me was if this book would have been on videotape or audiotape so that my arms would not have been free to consume the information contained.
I need REAL solutions!.......2000-07-14
I am tired of buying books which don't give any sort of clear solutions to the problems they are addressing. This book basically tells me what every mother and father already know. We don't need to know it will go away with TIME. To write a book like this and basically tell us what we already know should be a crime. I should have looked at it's ranking number before I bought it, I think that says enough.
I did take one more chance and also bought Dr. Marc Weissbluths, "Sweet Babies", now that's a book that is worth buying and really what all parent's of colicky infant can use. Thank God someone knows what he is talking about!
Book Description
This book, written especially for the often-neglected male half of the parenting team, is a father's guide to making wise investments in his children and family.
In BECOMING A FATHER, author Dr. William Sears shares his own story of maturing into fatherhood, discovering the joys of being an involved dad, and weathering the changes that children bring to a marriage.
This book discusses the father's role during childbirth, different ways a father can interact and bond with his child, discipline, balancing the demads of a job with the needs of a family, and more!
New information in this revised edition includes additional information for families where both parents work along with updated information on support during childbirth, co-sleeping, and breastfeeding.
Dr. Sears understands the concerns and conflicts of both fathers and mothers. Reading this book will help both partners understand each other better as they share the important work of raising children.
Customer Reviews:
A practical "what to do" manual.......2003-08-11
Now in a newly revised edition, Becoming A Father: How To Nurture And Enjoy Your Family by physician and author William Sears is an informational guide and a practical "what to do" manual written especially for fathers, and concerns everything from what a man should do during his wife's labor and childbirth; to proper discipline of young ones ranging from toddler through teens; coping with the demands children place on upon a marriage; balancing family and career needs; being a role model, and more. Becoming A Father is enthusiastically recommended reading for new and "about to be" fathers, and has much to recommended it to veteran fathers (and even grandfathers!).
The ONLY Book My Husband Read.......2002-08-31
Yes indeed. Why? I do not know. But, my husband read this book cover to cover. It was the ONLY book he read to prepare for the birth of our daughter.
His issue, and mine, has a lot to do with Dr. Sears' consistently characterizing Dad as "helper", someone secondary in importance to Mom and incapable of being motherly.
His writing style is kind of folksy if you like that.
If you are really liberal and politically correct,you will not appreciate this book or this man for that reason and for the way
you may perceive his views on gender identity and development in children.
If words like conservative, traditional are anathema to you, leave the book on the shelf.
Common Sense For a New Father.......2001-01-27
I enjoyed reading the book. I have used many of the ideas from Dr. Sears book to raise my two children. I own five other fathering books but this is by far the best and most practical one.
Lets face it, there is little support or literature for fathering. I think society expects men to raise their children just like our dads did. Most of the available fathering literature is written by men with one or two children and psychology degrees. Dr. Sears has six kids and is a busy pediatrician.
Especially if you are a first time father, do your child a favor. Buy and read this book.
Dated and demeaning assumptions.......2000-11-12
Dr. Sears is the acknowledged leader in the attachment parenting movement, with many well-received books to his name. Like his other titles, _Becoming a Father_ emphasizes early bonding, positive discipline, and respect for the child's physical and emotional needs. To the extent that all fathers need to hear this message, this is an excellent book. So why the low rating? Because despite his child-positive message, Dr. Sears is caught in a time warp when it comes to models of masculinity. Underlying his arguments for an active role for fathers are assumptions that this reader found frustratingly rigid and occasionally downright offensive. An example:
"The growing child should see that important family matters require a mutual decision-making process that involves both mom and dad, but I believe that dad is primarily responsible for making decisions." (p. 194)
Even more troubling is the author's attitude toward homosexuality, which seems to be informed more by conservative religious values than by current medical knowledge:
"'I don't want my son to grow up to be a pansy,' exclaimed John, a new father. His sentiments are shared by most men." (p. 200)
For those readers who aren't already aware of the meaning--or should I say "demeaning"?--of this slur, Dr. Sears goes on to define a "pansy" as "an effeminate boy." Given the author's 1950s-style ideas of masculinity, I'd hate to think how he would judge a boy who, after watching his father wearing a younger sibling in a sling, asked for a doll to play with. He concludes:
"I am personally concerned that our society tends to approve of lifestyles [sic!] such as homosexuality. Society sees this as an 'acceptable alternative.' I can accept a person as a homosexual without having to approve of the morality of homosexuality." (p. 208)
If this "love the sinner, hate the sin" attitude reflects your own beliefs, you will probably get a lot out of this book. But if you take a more egalitarian view of male-female relationships and don't believe--and most mainstream doctors do not--that weak paternal role models "cause" homosexuality, you may want to look elsewhere for advice on fathering. To be fair, there is much of value in this book, but the truly helpful ideas can be gleaned from Sears's array of other works (such as _The Baby Book_) or from other attachment parenting guides, like Katie Granju's _Attachment Parenting_.
A must-read for the anxious first-time father........1999-07-06
This book provides a non-nonsense look at what a man can expect (and how he can contribute most effectively) during pregnancy and as a father. There is a particular focus on the first few months of fatherhood - which are frankly the months that worry me the most as my wife enters month nine!
Sears' presents a straightforward philosophy based on nurturing the child (often by taking care of the mother). He presents nurture as fundamental to (1) providing a structured, trusting environment so that the child may develop and learn, (2) building a solid foundation for a well-disciplined child, and (3) establishing a relationship that allows your child to assume values that the parents want rather than those from other role models.
As I reflect on the book, most of it seems to be common sense, but it certainly was not obvious before my reading. I would recommend this book to all men about to have a child.
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THE CLASSIC WORK ON HELPING CHILDREN OVERCOME
THE TRAUMA OF DIVORCE
For many years, Growing Up With Divorce has offered divorced parents transformative insight, solace, and practical guidance on how to help their children cope with the stresses caused by marital separation.
Every child is unique, yet there are certain common reactions to the stresses of divorce -- anger, a sense of divided loyalties, lasting intimacy issues. Dr. Neil Kalter explains that, for children, divorce is not a single event but is comprised of "a series of events that occur over many years." Identifying three stages of divorce, Dr. Kalter cites the particular struggles associated with each stage and explains how gender as well as cognitive, emotional, and social development also affect how children react.
Dispensing sage advice on everything from understanding and minimizing the anxieties that underlie various troublesome behaviors to smoothing out your child's transitions between her two households to incorporating a new spouse into your family, Dr. Kalter gives parents and the professionals who treat divorced families an indispensable guide to navigating the difficulties of divorce.
Customer Reviews:
Book on Emotional Effects of Divorce on children and adults.......2007-07-15
This book looks at the emotions and stages that families go through with "good, bad, and ugly divorces". The book includes rarely discussed syndromes that may occur when one or more parents engage in emotional warfare and the resulting trauma for the children. For example, I have never read such a good description of parent alienation. This is an excellent book to give to people while they are considering divorce so they know what they have to face or how to proceed so that the children are spared great pain and fear. It is an excellent guide for mental health professionals for assessment of children and couples. (I am in social work.)
Helpfull.......2006-07-30
I particularly like the fact that Neil Kalter describes the emotions that children have. As they often hide them in a different way than I would expect as a parent.
Now I can see much more clear what my children reveal to protect me.
Kalter offers good to the point advice on how to help children.
Which is exactly what you need as a parent.
I greatly recommend this book.
Margo, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
Imminently helpful to separating families.......1999-10-08
As a divorce mediator, I've loaned several copies of this book to separating couples, never to have them returned. Now that the book has been reprinted, I'm ordering a dozen copies for my program, and will give it to separating parents because of its powerful message: "remove your kids from the middle of your marital conflict!"
Excellent refrence to assist children thru divorce troubles.......1998-10-13
Growing Up With Divorce by Dr. Neil Kalter has proven to be an excellent tool for helping the children through the emotional pitfalls of divorce. It is divided by age catagory, tells of the signs of emotional distress then gives practical solutions to help the children through their issues. Good tool to use again and again.
Book Description
Responsibility is a skill that can be taught. This book shows parents how encouraging this skill will produce a youngster who becomes a competent adult. Questions about discipline, household chores, homework, and independent living skills are answered through examples and exercises. Book includes a job chart listing average ages kids do household chores.
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I Highly Recommend This Book!.......2001-10-18
Elizabeth Crary really impressed me. This book was very well structured with content logically presented for parents to assist their children in developing skills and then developing self-motivation. She provides ample references to other authors for further reading as well.
Our child is in pre-school. We have just about finished potty training, and have told him how proud we are when he makes. I learned in this book how important it is that we verbalize that we are proud of him and he should be proud of himself as well.
Most of the material in the book is for children older than preschool but there is plenty here for preschool parents to think about. We will refer to this book for many years to come. I am definitely interested in reading more books by Elizabeth Crary. I highly recommend this book!
Sanity for Parents!.......2000-10-25
No parent wants to raise a child who is a slob, a couch potato and a brat. But how to help them grow from a toddler to a responsible teen is a daunting task. This book helps parents get a gameplan for teaching their children self-respect as well as respect for others. It also reduces frustration by helping you see what is realistic for different ages. With large doses of humor and many practical tips, this is a VERY helpful book.
Your children's college roommates and future spouses will thank you... :)
great resource for parents who want to instill discipline.......1997-12-02
I recommend this book all the time to friends who complain about having lazy kids. My son's hardly perfect, but he's done his own laundry since he was 4! This book helps you figure out what to reasonably expect and how to get the whole family to participate (so that you don't have to nag). It's great--even if cleaning house isn't your life's focus. It has tons of information about learning styles, developmental stages, and so on.
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Full of insights.......2005-08-12
This is a reallt great book for parents and pastors who need to work with youths. It is balanced, graceful, and full of insights. It's one of the books I want to read again and again to make sure I do not lose sight of any of Peterson's advices.
Peterson reminds us all gifts, even teenagers, are from God.......1999-09-29
Chapter by chapter, Peterson presents each teenage challenge to parents (10 of them), and answers them with scripture and understanding. If we cannot draw on the example of Jesus to relate to our teenagers, then what good is our faith? As Christians we are uniquely gifted to deal with life, especially teenage sons and daughters. I was impressed with the examples. I recommend this book for parents *and* for teenagers, as both should come to a better understanding of each other after reading it.
Peterson Builds a Theology of Parenthood.......1997-10-09
We have a review of this book on our church's web page, at www.ilinks.net/~faithpca/teams/youth/parents.html
Book Description
Every father can make a huge difference in his daughter’s life.
As the primary male role model in a girl’s life, fathers influence their daughters in profound ways, from how they see themselves to what they come to expect from men and the world at large. But men often don’t realize the importance of their interactions or may shy away from too close involvement because of their inexperience, or conditioning. Especially as girls move into adolescence, fathers may find themselves feeling distant from their daughters or awkward with the changing dynamic. Communication becomes difficult and parenting issues more complicated. But this is also the time when daughters most need their fathers to be an even greater presence in their lives. Dads and Daughters is a tool to bridge that gap and build a rewarding and joyful father-daughter relationship.
From father to father and with insights from many other dads, Joe Kelly shows men how they can strengthen their relationships with their daughters and explores the tremendous rewards this relationship can bring. Starting with a self-assessment quiz titled “How Am I Doing as My Daughter’s Father?” dads can immediately see what kind of role they play in their daughter’s life. To educate fathers and offer solutions when problems arise, Dads and Daughters then offers thoughtful coverage of the most pivotal issues today’s girls face, such as sex and dating, body image, alcohol and drugs, media culture and violence, money and responsibility, and the future. In doing so he both illuminates the culture our daughters live in and shows fathers how to guide their daughters toward rewarding, healthy lives.
Customer Reviews:
Dad's - Time to Wake Up!!!!.......2007-08-06
This is the must read book for ANY Dad that has a daughter. Preferably, please read soon after your daughter is born and read over and over again as she grows up. Once she is a teenager, if you haven't read it you are in trouble! If you want to really know what is going on in your daughter's mind and body, PLEASE read this book.
Dads' Manual for A Teenage Daughter .......2007-08-01
Well written and filled with common sense. Every Dad needs to read this in order to understand a teen-age daughter and how to develop an open-minded relationship with his daughter. Bettye Johnson, award-winning author Secrets of the Magdalene Scrolls.
Respectable Women are the Product of their Fathers.......2006-11-16
Just take a look at women who achieved and are respected ... and you will find the personification of the father's daughter. This book is a brilliant explanation of why the biological father must be around his children. The whole notion of single super power mother is complete fallacy because fathers are a much better protector of a daughter for reasons that have nothing to do with being anti-feminist. Studies and research has shown that women raised by single mothers are often at risk for relationship problems and addictions. Case studies have also proven that a step-father cannot take the place of the real father, although not the same is true with a step-mother. Nonetheless, a woman raised by a strong father figure often grows up to be confident, intelligent, achieving, and often lands leadership positions in life. Margaret Thatcher, the first female Prime Minister is Great Britain was profoundly influenced by her father, Golda Meir (Prime Minister of Isreal) same thing, and of course Indira Gandhi (Prime Minister of India) yet again. In sports there is Steffi Graf and Christ Evert whose fathers were their original coaches and mentors. So ... for all the women who say that fathers are irrelevant ... think again about how selfish that statement is to the child .... and consider what kind of person you want your daughter to grow up to be. If you don't believe me, read the book and do your own research. Men deserve to be in their children's lives just as much as the mother.
An interesting article on the importance of father's is also probed in this insightful commentary by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach - Friday, 15 April, 2005 on his website:
What to do about female promiscuity
American culture grows more crass by the day. One of the most successful American TV shows is The Apprentice starring Donald Trump, a man loaded with money but bankrupt of class. The highlight of the show is when Trump humiliates potential employees by barking at them, "You're fired!"
One can only grieve over a culture that promotes a coarse womanizer who has dumped a wife or two in favor of young models as its symbol of professional success.
Indeed, watching people be humiliated is big business on American TV. Shows such as American Idol feature judges like Simon Cowell ? known as Mr. Nasty ? who shoot the middle finger at contestants they don't like. Public degradation has become as American as apple pie with programs like Fear Factor garnering huge ratings by having participants eat bugs and swim with dead mice.
But perhaps the most disturbing example of the culture of crassness is the growing trend of famous young women going through the rite of passage known as the nearly naked photo spread.
Such recent graduates of the you-may-think-I-have-a-brain-but-let's-instead-focus-on-my-bust school of celebrity include Scarlet Johansson, who acted superbly in Lost in Translation, which made her famous enough to qualify for a cleavage-bearing photo op. Janet Jackson, of course, joined the club when she decided to have us all forget about her dancing and focus instead on her nipples, while Britney Spears is the club's founding member.
The reduction of talented and intelligent women to two breasts and a vagina has reached its apogee with the Girls Gone Wild videos, in which tens of thousands of college girls, often on spring break, flash for the camera, their sole remuneration being a feeling of deep satisfaction that they have played their God-given role as entertainment for lecherous men.
Why have millions of young American women abandoned the feminist dream of being taken seriously by men and instead decided to gain male attention with degrading spectacles of their bodies? I am convinced that the principal cause is an increasingly weak link between fathers and daughters.
IN OUR society, we have it all backward. Too much is made of the father-son relationship at the expense of the father-daughter one. The image of a boy being taught by his dad to catch a baseball or throw a football is commonplace, while the only mainstream image of a father interacting with his teenage daughter is telling her not to come home too late when she goes out with her boyfriend.
Pop tarts like Britney Spears and Paris Hilton, who use partial nudity to advance their careers, are often close to their mothers, who may even serve as their managers, while their dads are nowhere to be seen.
Where you do read about a father's central involvement in his daughter's career, it usually leads to respectable women like Steffi Graff and the Williams sisters, who have resisted the offers for provocative photo spreads even after they became famous as tennis stars. This is not because mothers don't love their daughters but because men are much more successful at protecting their daughters from other men. And when a daughter receives strong masculine validation from a loving and caring father, she is usually not desperate for sexual attention from manipulative and hormonal men.
Recently the New York Times ran a front-page story about a 15-year-old girl who refused to have sex with her 16-year-old boyfriend. He promptly cheated on her. When the girlfriend found out, she told her boyfriend that they should cut class and go and have sex. She did so, she said, "in order to keep him." When I read this story, I wondered Where is this girl's father? Had her father been a strong male presence in her life, she would not have been so desperate for the affection of a scoundrel.
EVEN WHEN I go to a Yankees game, I take my five daughters along with my older son. True, they often don't know the names of the players or even the score, but they know their father loves them and hates being separated from them. There is a special connection that daughters have with their fathers that even a mother cannot replicate, which grants young women a startling immunity from compromising themselves with jerks.
Indeed, when a daughter is close to her father and respects him as a man and a dad, she begins to judge other men by that same high standard. When she dates men, she will not judge them by their smooth talk but by the depth of their commitment because her own father was not a talker but a doer. She will not jump into bed with a man just to please him. She has high self-esteem, and she expects the men in her life to make an effort to please her rather than the reverse. Her idea of a relationship is not going down to the guy's level but raising him up to hers.
THIS IS why it's so important for a father to remain the most important man in his daughter's life until she is at least 20. I always lament witnessing the deterioration of the homes of my friends whose teenage daughters are always out, either with girlfriends or boyfriends. My daughters will not date until they are of marriageable age ? in our communities from 19. Up until that time, my own love for them will sustain their need for male attention. They will not be forced at too early an age to worry whether they're pretty enough, smart enough, sexy enough, or attractive enough. To their father, they are just perfect. And they will internalize that message in their most vulnerable years so they can grow into confident and robust women who attract men out of strength rather than weakness.
As for the criticisms that too close a relationship with your daughter will impede her ability to later form close connections with romantic partners, exactly the opposite is true. A young woman with an involved and loving father gains the confidence in herself to sever the childhood ties with her father and begin a loving relationship with a man precisely because she has learned to trust men. She has no fear of being vulnerable ? a prerequisite for romantic love ? because her father has shown her an example of a man who can be trusted and relied upon.
But if she feels betrayed by her own father, she will often run to another man more to escape pain than to find love, which is what usually makes her a prime candidate for that revealing photo spread.
Trouble?.......2006-08-18
My dad and I had problems ever since I started high school. Since I was the oldest of four kids, it was hard for him to accept the idea of me moving away...not only for college. During those years, he was very defensive and my adolecent attitude didn't help much.
We always had a good bond and when we worked together, we kicked butt. This book has helped me get in touch with my dad more, and he is now starting to get over the fact that his kid isn't a kid anymore...
It was good stuff.
Very interesting of how to raise doughters.......2005-07-27
I loved the book, it helped me to see things that otherwise I didn't notice about our culture and how it relates to the girls. With the book advice I will be able to help my doughter to grow healthy and strong
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Your Child At Play - One to Two Years: Exploring, Learning, Making Friends, and Pretending (Your Child at Play Series)
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Poems to Learn to Read by: Building Literacy With Love
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Product Description
Growing Up, Language, and the Imagination. This series provides vivid descriptions of how children see themselves, learn language, learn to play imaginatively, and make friends. Specific situations describe and advise on routine problems and concerns common to that particular age.
Product Description
This practical book offers tools that empower parents and caregivers to be their own best resource by helping them think in new ways, an idea called reflective parenting. The authors present complex child development concepts, including milestones, in accessible language and offers vignettes, questions, and discussion points to promote dialogue. 52 pages.
Customer Reviews:
Real Help for Real Parents.......2000-09-01
As a parent, I've read lots of parenting books. Most of them seem to tell you what to think and what to do, and often give advice that doesn't really fit for me or my children. But this one encourages you to think for yourself, and to really observe and understand your child, to figure out what works with him or her. I love it. Reading it is like having a chance to talk things over with someone who really knows what being a parent is like. I felt very helped by it, and very much liked the authors respectful tone.
All this, and it's short, and easily readible - very important for tired, busy parents!
I think this is a wonderful book is perfect for mothers and fathers who have a child up to three years old.
Great resource for parents!.......2000-08-18
This is a great resource for parents! I like how it encourages you to get to know your baby as an individual so that you can know how to respond. I've noticed how different kids react so differently to the same situations...now I understand better why that's so. This book can save parents a lot of headaches in frustration over figuring out their kids.
Book Description
"One parent is worth a thousand teachers".--Chinese Proverb. The sound, practical advice found in this worthwhile guide will help parents--a child's first and most important teachers--instill in their children a love of learning, a greater sense of self-esteem and self-discipline, and the confidence to realize positive and fulfilling school and life experiences.
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