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Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
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"Most parenting guides begin with the question ""How can we get kids to do what they're told?""--and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking ""What do kids need--and how can we meet those needs?"" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including ""time-outs""), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from ""doing to"" to ""working with"" parenting--including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents. "
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Unconditional parenting very challenging.......2007-09-27
Unconditional Parenting is probably the best and most provocative parenting book I've ever read. Be prepared to be challenged if you read this book. The author does not believe in time-outs, punishments in general, or in giving rewards to children. He basically believes we should be unconditional parents and treat our children like guests in our homes. Yet, he isn't hands-off or loosy-goosey. He doesn't believe in authoritative, traditional parenting or using control unnecessarily. I read this book when my boys were 11 and 13 years old. I wish I had read it when they were babies! I would have done a lot of things differently with them had I read it earlier. My husband agreed to watch the DVD (of the same name) with me and also agreed with a lot of what Kohn says.
Different take on parenting.......2007-09-16
Compared to other books on parenting this one is refreshing and original, I'm sure every parent would agree that the ultimate goal is understanding and love between child and them, not an authoritarian relationship
Changed my life.......2007-07-10
As a father of three, this book changed my life forever, and I owe him - and my kids owe him - an enormous debt. Please read as Kohn dissects the conventional wisdom regarding "time outs", and "positive reenforcement". The book is easy to read, its arguments masterfully structured, the prose smart and funny enough to keep you engaged.
A Must Read For Parents, Educators and Health Professionals.......2007-07-05
Many times I hear professionals giving parents advice that is not researched or well thought out. Time outs, stickers, manipulation, threats - all of these tactics that only make children resentful. Kohn's book is poignant, intentional and filled with research that matters. If you like Kohn's writings, you should read his other work on "how children learn" on his web site, (www.alfiekohn.com), he is intellectual and is a genuine advocate for American children....Kohn will be known in history as one of the true pioneers that stood for children.
Visit www.TheGoToMom.TV to see videos on positive parenting that have the same philosophy as Alfie Kohn's work....
Must Read for Parents and Educators.......2007-04-20
I opened the Wall Street Journal today to find an article entitled "The Most-Praised Generation Goes to Work." The article describes how some employers have to "dish out kudos to workers for little more than showing up." One company has a staff "celebrations assistant" whose job is to throw confetti at employees and pass out helium ballons; another estimates that employees receive praise every 20 seconds. The examples go on and on. Perhaps parents and educators need to look at "rewards and praise" in a new light. This book does just that and I wish I would have read it sooner! I cannot recommend this book enough. Instead of giving you a "blow-by-blow" of what to do in a specific situation, Kohn gives you strategies that can apply and be expanded to numerous situations. Many new parents and teachers want to know what to do if the child does "this." Well, as we all experience by dealing with various people in our lives, we need to treat each person as an individual and may deal with the situation differently depending on the people involved. One important point Kohn makes that I found extremely insightful was to think (and listen) to how we speak to our (and others') children. If we would not want to be spoken to like that then perhaps we need to reflect on how we can handle the situation differently. Good luck to all new parents and educators who are willing to take a deep look at their choices and make the necessary changes to help our children!
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Dr. Witiak's stories of the bond between the veterinarian, client, and pet take the reader into the exam room and on house calls to experience the laughable calamities, miscues, and surprises as well as the personal sorrows, revelations, and joys that treating animals can bring. This is a book of vignettes and personal commentary by a devoted veterinarian who is dedicated both to the science of his profession and to his personal belief in the importance of being loved and loving.
Dr. Witiak makes readers laugh when he checks a small dog's breath and gets bitten on the nose and then makes them cry when he hugs an old man who has just lost his faithful canine friend. The stories give the reader a deeper understanding of how the unconditional love of our animals enables us to love each other better.
This is a joyous ride where readers bounce from one event to the other just like the veterinarian bounds from exam room to exam room — each with its own surprises. Readers discover just how organic caring is as Dr. Witiak works his magic, enjoying his tongue-in-cheek observations and self-deprecating humor along the way.
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True Confessions of a Veterinarian.......2005-04-10
This is an enjoyable and enlightening book. The tales are short, funny, educational, and personal. Anyone who loves animals will love this book. I hope there is a followup book with more stories.
I so enjoyed this book.......2004-12-31
I have so enjoyed reading Dr. Witiak's book. It has brought giggles, tears, and insight into the field of veterinary medicine. This passionate doctor shows his love for his patients and their owners through cleverly written snippets of interactions. His writing reminds me of James Herriot, one of my favorite authors, who wrote about his life as a veterinarian. It is a compliment when some of his pet owners say, "We wish you were our family's doctor." Truly a delightful book!
It's about love.......2004-12-21
Gene Witiak's TRUE CONFESSIONS OF A VETERINARIAN reveals him to be a caring and insightful person. Clearly, he cares about both animals and people, has lots of empathy for both, understands their strengths and weaknesses and how to maximize his skills to advance their welfare.
This book is delightfully written with an excellent blend of humor and seriousness. A great read!
Outstanding.......2004-09-01
Gene Witiak has been my personal veterinarian for 36 years. He is very fine man. I was thrilled when I heard he was writing a book. The book is full of stories both happy and sad about his lifes work of over forty years. The book also has many funny moments. Anyone who has every owned a pet or is an animal lover should read this book.
True Confessions.......2004-08-05
Dr. Gene's years of experience with people and animals gave birth to this wonderful collection of heartwarming "tails" and valuable advice. It goes from advice on a new pet to personal stories of his family and pets. I laughed in places and cried in others. I think all pet owners and pet lovers would relate to one or more of the touching stories in this book.
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Unconditional love is something we should all aspire to........2003-11-17
I was given this book and thought "yea right" it lay under the car seat for years. I discovered it there at a time when I'd run out of reading matter. It's a top book. Up there with the "Tao of Pooh". Read it!
Steps you can take right now to improve your relationship.......2000-05-10
This book has a lot of easy techniques for improving your quality of life in a relationship. It talks about converting "addictive demands" to "preferences", accepting your partner and creating an "us" relationship. Just practicing the first two techniques can completely change the feeling in your marriage whether your partner reads the book or not.
The book borrows from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques (many of which have good experimental efficacy studies) but is written in an easy to understand, interesting and readable style.
A life-changing book if ever there was one!.......2000-03-28
I highly recommend this book to anyone in his/her journey of self-actualization. Mr. Keyes speaks of the "aha experience", and I must say that I had many while reading it. You do have the power within to be happy and to have rewarding relationships. This book gives you the tools to get started. I can't say that I'm all the way there, but it's nice to have a reference place to remind me where I'd like to be.
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- Sad, strange, powerful book!
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The setting is the progressive South United States of the 80s, where education and hard work offer hope for the good life--until mental illness brings tragedy. This is an unusual true-crime book because it's neither a whodunit, nor a manhunt, nor an account of a trial. Instead, it's a character study of a sadistic sexual predator who is all too human in his desperate need for love, and of his family members who need, just as desperately, to believe that their love for him will make them whole again. Authors Steven Naifeh and Gregory White Smith are adept at teasing out the many-layered subtleties of the criminal mind. Here they create a thought-provoking portrait by alternating passages from the well-educated killer's own diary, with the unfolding narrative of how the revelations of his crimes are affecting his family. It includes a surprising twist, and a powerful scene of confrontation near the end.
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Poor, Pititful Gerry Starrett and Her Perfect Son.......2006-06-25
I am an avid reader of true crime, but this is the worst specimen of such that I have ever seen. This book focuses not so much on the crimes committed but how this serial kidnapper & rapist, once murderer, was treated so poorly behind bars. And the second story of this book focuses on how his mother worked dilligently to right those wrongs. The kidnapped, raped and murdered victims are but backdrops to this 400 page whine about the injustices suffered by the accused. This is the first work I have read by these authors and will most definitely be my last. Steven Naifeh & Gregory White Smith: Get out of the trime crime writing profession...leave it to the true professionals like Ann Rule, Corey Mitchell & Steve Jackson.
Last but not least, I must say this: many, many times we hear the accused blame negligent mothers, domineering mothers, or absentee fathers. Most times, I personally feel that this is one more attempt at ridding themselves of personal responsibility for their actions; more specifically, their choices. However, after reading this book I firmly believe that Danny Starret was the result of a over-worrisome, over-indulgent mother that, with her high-falutin' attitude, thought that her family was above evil doings. The statement that shook me the most was when discussing his case with defense attorney Bud Siemon, she made the statement "Danny is basically a good boy-" That one statement sums up the attitude of Gerry Starrett and her "perfect son."
Could This Be your Neighbor?.......2006-03-13
The authors of this book have researched this book very thoroughly, and their style of writing is excellent. They compare and contrast the views of both the main characters that leave the reader wanting to learn more. This is a page-turner book in which you don't want to put down until it's finished.
the victim was my cousin.......2005-06-05
That's right the victim Jeannie was my cousin. We went to the beach together several times when we were kids. Now I am 32 and finally found out the previously unspeakable (in my family) details through this book. We are the same age born one month apart. I was 15 at the time the murder happened.
We were very close friends, so it was interesting reading about her. Even if it was from the killer's viewpoint. It brought back a lot of memories. For example, she liked peach wine coolers, pringles chips, her favorites, just as the killer said. You could tell she was trying to please the killer with the lies she told him, typical for victims with the Hearst-like syndrome she developed after the trauma of being abducted from her home.
The last reviewer was mistaken when he said Chrissy was murdered, and the book never says she was. Also the reviewer before that didn't read the book well either, Starrett clearly admitted he killed Jeannie. She did not kill herself. There were two bullets in her chest, so how could she have killed herself anyway?
Anyhow, I knew her very well and she was a spunky young woman. Wild and crazy and a lot of fun. Had a lot of potential. Didn't have fear of anything, and like many teenagers believed she was invincible. She was brave and mentally strong. Once she got to know him, she never dreamed he would actually kill her.
The book didn't say how much she hated the name Jean and only used it in the "runaway" note to give clues for someone to find her. She also spelled letters in her name backwards which she normally never would have done. I knew her writing, as she wrote a lot. After her disapearance, the FBI called and interviewed all her friends, including me, looking for her.
True she could have escaped if she hadn't been so ballsy and if she hadn't had that "no one can hurt me" attitude. But I remember at that age I had the same attitude so I can't blame her.
What I find disturbing is the mother's lack of compassion for the family members of the victims. She wouldn't even provide a picture of her son to help in the search. Even if he had been innocent she still should have provided the photo to help investigators. The mother was so wrapped up in protecting her grown son that she lost sight of the fact that several girls were abused and one was killed. And throughout the book she seems to want people to feel sorry for her. How would she have felt if one of her children had been killed? She didn't bother to consider this. All she cared about was whether her murderer son would go to the death chamber, or whether he had adequate prison conditions. She should have been more concerned helping authorities throughout the case. If she wanted to do the right thing. But she was too selfish to help.
It is sad how the killer keeps making excuses for himself. He may have had brain damage from his childhood injuries, but lots of people, including myself had an untreated concussion as a child from a car accident, and I didn't grow up to be a criminal! He is a sadistic calculated rapist and murderer. Something went wrong in his brain but that does not mean he should be declared too ill to be executed.
I see Jeannie's parents (it's acutally her stepdad who raised her)usually once every year. After she died, they gave me a favorite trinket of hers which I still have to this day. They didn't have any other children.
She did want to become a lawyer as the book says, and I have no doubt she was more than smart enough. Too bad she didn't get the chance. She was also one of my best friends and it sure would be nice to have her around. We would have finished growing up together. I never had a large family, and most of the family I do have I am not close with. Those are other reasons why Jeannie was important to me. After we found out she was dead I was severly depressed. My grades got a lot worse and I acted out as a teenager, getting myself into a lot of trouble. Some of it I would have gotton into anyway and some I would not have. I can only imagine if it affected me so much how it affected her parents. It would be interesting to have a book from the victim's perspective, to compare.
Due to politics and the legal system this man was not put to death like he should have been. However, from the book Starrett seemed to dislike living in prison so perhaps his 10 life sentences will be a fate worse than death. I hope so. Even if he is "suffering" then at least, lucky for him, he gets to live out a full life unlike Jeannie who didn't have the chance. I can tell you his suffering in prison, of which he and his mother complain, will never equal the amount of suffering Jeannie's family has endured outside of prison.
In a word--Ridiculous........2005-01-12
Given a choice, I wouldn't have given this book one measly star, but I was forced to. I've just finished the book (how, I don't know) and I'm glad it's over because if I had to read one more chapter beginning with wonderful Gerry Starrett sitting in her immaculate living room, holding hands with her perfect family, reflecting on the perfect previous years and 'her Danny', I was going to puke. I found this book to be more about the trials of Gerry Starrett than her son. I never read anything about the victims and their families. And I read very little about Danny's family (except for his strange mother) and nothing about his wife after all this except the two or three paragraphs when she asked for a divorce. Personally, it sounded to me as if Gerry was just a tad obsessed with her son and even after he confessed, she didn't believe 'her Danny' did anything. The guy was a freak and if his mother and he were as close as she claims they were, you think she would have seen some abnormalities in him. Granted, I can understand her desire to help her son but she attacked everybody around him and I got just plain sick of hearing about all the injustices that he was made to endure. He did, after all, rape a bunch of teenagers and kill one of them Gerry. If the purpose of this book--and it seemed to be that Gerry was the only participant in the writing of this book--was to conjure up sympathy for 'her Danny', it failed miserably. The only sympathy I felt for him was the embarrassment of having such a weird mother. (Example: her screaming at the prosecutor for mentioning the murder victim's name when 'her Danny' fell on the floor crying) She was just over the edge. She seemed extremely shallow, more worried about appearances than anything else. I actually thought her husband handled things much better than she did and I kept wondering when he was going to unload his half-crazed wife. As it turned out, she filed for divorce. As I said, I did manage to finish this book, but if you haven't read it, I wouldn't bother with it. It's nothing but a bunch of babble. It's actually a story about an anguished mother of a murderer than anything else.
Sad, strange, powerful book!.......2002-07-22
This was a very sad book, you got the view of the family of the criminal in this book, how they feel about the crime of their son. It's very sad and odd, why Danny Starrett had become like that when he had a loving family??? When his mother talked about how he was when he was a kid and we see his baby and kid picutures you think how a little boy who look so nice and sweet can become like that? It's was very well wrote and a very powerful book.
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A former Miss America from Colorado tells the gripping story of her life as an incest survivor. A Colorado best seller in hardcover, new in pb.
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Miss America by Day: Lessons learned from Ultimate Betrayals and Unconditional Love.......2007-10-08
I have a friend that went through sexual abuse with your father and has been suffering from this all her life. It was good to read the book to be able to understand her better and also feel it would be a good book for those that have been sexually abused by their father or any other person. You realize that you are not alone and the book helps you to understand what you are going through and why you are feeling the way you do.
A gift to those who've suffered.......2007-09-15
I read the article in People Magazine when Marilyn Van Derbur first told the world she had been a victim of incest. I shuddered and literally sobbed because it triggered a new memory for me. I'd just learned a couple years earlier I, too, had been a victimized, and I was in the process of healing. When I read her book I could relate over and over again to what she'd been through. This is a must-read for victims who want to become (or already have become) VICTORS! Soar Unafraid: Learning to Trust No Matter What
Believing Our Children.......2007-04-02
Painful as this book was to read, as a mother and a massage therapist I found it invaluable. It gives not only a gripping and heart wrenching story, but also useful ways that we can protect our children from abuse. Incest is not what you think, it affects so many more people in so many more ways than I ever thought possible. Miss Van Derbur uses her own remarkable story with statistical facts that make it impossible for anyone to say 'it would never happen to my child'. I'm so grateful that someone recommended this book to me for my own awareness of how our bodies store trauma. I have told almost every mother I know about some of the shocking facts this book reveals. Most importantly, it reminds us to talk to our children and believe them when they tell us the truth!
Excellent resource .......2007-01-10
This is a great book for both rape survivors and those who love them. This book talks about the social stigma over survivors, how they are not the ones who should feel shame, but those who abused them, helping rape and incest survivors understand they can be proud of the people they are. It also makes a beautiful connection that it doesn't matter what someone did to you, if it was a word, a touch, a brutal attack, it is how that interaction made you feel, how it hurt your spirit. This book does not minimize what happened to you and how that made you feel. It is a guide with eye opening stats, and useful advice to help protect children along with conversation starters. Even if you do not know anyone who has had this life experience, but unfortunately we all do, this is a great read for everyone to be better educated to support someone or prevent others from being hurt. Please read this book.
This book gave me hope.......2006-07-20
If you - or someone you love - has been raped or sexually violated, read this book. It is a step by step guide to recovery.
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This is a delightful book for dog lovers of all ages! Fun for people with a new puppy or new dog as well as those with "existing family pets," it is a wonderful way to record memorable times and organize the many great photos one has of their best friend.
"Finding You," "Homecoming" and "Words & Phrases" are just a few of the fun sections to complete (all of which have space for photos)! Compare what you wanted to teach your dog to what they actually learned. Record what your dog has trained you to do! Highlight things you do that wag your dog's tail. Coming home probably tops the list! How well did you do in obedience school? Was your dog the valedictorian or simply average?
There are twelve pages exclusively for pictures with a variety of headlines such as "Silly Moves," "Romping & Rolling" and "Unconditional Love." The last two pages of the book, "Love Notes," feature ruled lines to recount more special memories.
This book holds up to 65 photographs (depending on size and orientation). The book becomes personalized when one places their dog's photo on the title page, which then shows through on the front cover! The pages are a beautiful, heavy stock sturdy enough to hold lots of photographs. The simple, clean design is eye-catching and intentional...allowing your photos to be the highlight of the book.
A donation from each book sold will be made to The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals in honor of all of the wonderful dogs in our world.
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My sister's new baby!!.......2003-04-01
I bought this book for a special gift for my younger sister's new baby(puppy). After I surprised her with it she looked it over and said, "This is the most wonderful book I have ever seen." She is now filling out ever page with great delight> Thanks to the author for creating such an amazing gift so every person that has a furbaby will have a special way to show them off to other understanding mothers!! Thanks again Kathy
Helping the Healing.......2002-09-12
Our four-year-old dog died this summer, and our children were having a hard time dealing with it. I found this book, and was able to put a wonderful journal of her role in our family, from the day she was born to her last days with us. It has thoughtful sections that just about anyone can fill in about their dogs. Now, when we're sad, we turn to the book and it keeps her with us. It would have been great to have when she was alive, and I'm getting one for the other dog.
Really great 'baby book' for your 4-legged children.......2002-07-07
This is a wonderful book for anyone who loves their dogs as children. I bought one for our 3 year old adopted beagle, and am getting one for our daugher-in-law's birthday for their rottie. You can personalize it as you wish, and I have included comic clippings (Marmaduke, Mutts, etc.) that are appropriate along with the photos and have created the beginning of a great book for my best friend that I will keep forever.
My Dog's Life a photo journal of unconditional love.......2002-04-30
What a fun book. It is perfect for all ages, from little ones with their first puppy, to empty nesters. We picked one up when we got our new Puppy Toby, and have started to fill out the pages in detail. We wish we had one for Alex, our 14 year old Golden, that passed on in November. Many Thanks to Nancy Dewar and Marble.
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Paula White is a great role-model on love and marriage.......2007-09-08
Paula White is a great role-model on love and marriage.. and that's why I knew from the first page that this book would help me and my wife so much, even though it does have some big words near the end (on page 68, I think), and not enough pictures. (And why no CD-ROM or DVD! Bummer! That's why I couldn't give it five stars, BTW). At first we were a little put off by the freaky photo of on the cover. Perhaps it is just an unflattering photo, but my wife thought that Paula White looked sort of like a retarded version of a Barbie Doll on the cover, but I explained to her that the author has probably just had too much cosmetic surgery around her eyes, and was wearing way too much make-up, but that's just how authentic Christian women used to look in Bible days, I explained. Anyway, I have always found Paula White and her co-pastor Randy White to be an adorable couple. I love the little outfits they wear during their Sunday services on television. They are just such a cute couple, that you know they must spend hours together shopping for clothes and gossiping about the latest celebrity news. And Randy is always so well-groomed and sharp-dressed... I told my wife I had a bit of a "boy crush" on him. Tee hee! I don't know, call me "metrosexual" I guess... guilty as charged! Anyway, I was saddened to learn that Paula and Randy are breaking up, because one of Randy's kids from a previous marriage has cancer, or something like that. Stuff happens, right? And hey it's not Paula's kid anyway! But this book is still awesome advice from the Bible for the empowered woman and the man who loves her! And what's even better, is that we got our copy at the used book section of a Goodwill store for 75 cents! So how can you lose? Even at full price this would be a fabulous find.
Life Changing Book!!.......2005-11-04
This book is life changing. Don't just buy it for yourself, buy a copy for you and sow into another womans life. This book deals with real issues for real women. It is a must read! Your life won't be the same after.
A true "heartwarmer"!.......1999-05-05
Paula White has provided inspiration and comfort by sharing the story of her life and her journey with our Lord. Her warmth, openness and honesty are refreshing. She didn't just TELL me how to build a better relationship with Jesus, she SHOWED me. Thank you Paula. God Bless!
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Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am - offes insights on self-awareness, growth, and interpersonal communication. Discusses the human condition, dealing with emotions, growing as a person, and ego defenses. Concludes that the courage it takes a person to reveal himself to others is based on a mature love.
The Secret of Staying in Love - The secret of staying in love is communication. The greatest gift we can give to one another is the gift of self.
Fully Human Fully Alive - discusses our vision of ourselves, others, the world, and life itself.
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Wonderful on the What - Brief on the How.......2007-07-16
I love Scott Morrison's writings. I have found him to be truly committed to living in the now and manifesting Unconditional Love. I learned a lot fomr reading this thin volume.
On the other hand, I myself find it difficult just to "let go" by telling myself to "let go." Telling myself to be committed to living in the present moment has not caused it to happen in my life so far. In that sense, this book might either be:
A) An introduction to where you want to go i.e. creating your destination
or
B) The last step in the journey - when you are the precipice of arrival.
For those on the path.......2003-10-20
I imagine that it must be so difficult to write a book about how to live in the present moment because the mere act of trying to live in the present moment takes us away from it. Despite this difficulty, this book does an admirable job in helping people understand this and eventually "know" this in their hearts. I must admit that just reading the book was incredibly soothing to me. This is a great book if you feel like you could use some help on your path to the spiritual goldmine many people talk about. The book that I presently like the most on this subject is "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone truly interested in personal growth and happiness.
yet another book .. nothing remarkable .. more preliminary.......2003-07-11
On first reading, I did not see any point in the book. This prompted me to read it again, to take a second look. This time I appreciated its content, and the continuity of thread of thought.
I felt that the title did not truly reflect the content. There was not much which takes or directs one to the Now, as grand as the title sounds.
There are no new ideas. The treatment of various topics is more basic. 'Clarity of Motive', 'Clarity or onepointedness of mind', and 'Clarity of View' i.e 'go ahead and be what you already are' - form the main analysis and prescription of the author.
Page 39: " True love is, in fact, what you discover you are, the instant you cease to be preoccupied with yourself as a separate entity with its endless ambitions, problems and worries."
Page 44: "To be enlightened is to be unconditionally intimate with this moment. There is no other time or place to give yourself, totally, to all that is."
Page 45: "If you are willing, completely willing, to let go of every thing you think of as "yourself" and "your life", to bring it all to an absolute STOP, right now, then something profoundly sensitive and beautiful will be free to reveal itself."
Page 51: "If you completely abandon your compulsive preoccupation with your mental/emotional versions of yourself, with their endless ambitions and the constant flow of problems that arise because of them, it's an absolute shock !"
Page 58: "The way of Realization is not difficult. All you have to do is open your eyes ! If you allow yourself to see things as they actually are, without confusing yourself with prior opinions, every thing will be clear and freedom will be everywhere."
Page 75: "Question to the core this fundamental assumption: that there is a separate "you", as pictured or heard or fantasized or remembered in your mind, and that "he" needs to be improved, because he is somehow incomplete or unacceptable."
Page 76: "If you are willing to accept yourself and your life so thoroughly, such that "you" are no longer an issue, all seeking, all searching, all longing will cease. (And even if it arises again, it will be seen for the sham that it is.)"
. . . is all the help one gets about the practice/technique for Realization.
The chapter on 'How delusion works' is a helpful tool to understand the mental prosess of individual self.
In a way, the book teaches the same conventional do good and be good lesson, and some vertically typed lines - what people call as poetry. It only says that without taking things for granted, please see every thing afresh, and you will discover 'something'.
I happened to read 'As It Is' by Tony Parsons, just before this book. I read it twice and hope to read it several times more. 'As it is' seems to be more helpful teaching, as it seems to present some conclusions and techniques directly. Also, 'Consciousness Speaks' by Ramesh Balsekar will make a better reading. Probably one can read "There is only now" as a preliminary preparation to "Consciousness Speaks" or "As it is".
A SOOTHING BOOK FOR THE HEART AND SOUL!.......2001-10-26
This book is as warm as the sun on a hot summer's day and as refreshing as a breath of fresh air. Finding peace, happiness and balance in one's life is not easy these days, but this author has brought some very important messages to the forefront and written a book that both inspires and teaches. The thoughts and words will cause readers to do some serious soul searching about who they are and where they are proceeding on life's path. "There Is Only Now" is a book well worth reading and definitely worth a five-star-plus rating.
Just Great.......2000-11-12
This book is an intellectual discourse on someone's view of religion but a guide for people having personal spiritual experiences. I loved the book. I would also recommend the book An Encounter With A Prophet for the same reasons I appreciated this book
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