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Becoming Attached: Psychology's Effort to Understand the Power of First Relationships and How They Impact Our Capacity to Love
Robert Karen
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The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.
Customer Reviews:
Terriffic !.......2007-09-04
Fabulously informative book; great for the therapist, the lay person, the new parent or the adult looking to beter understand themsleves. Quite thorough and engaging. Wonderful, but serious read.
Attachment Theory in all it's glory ..........2007-08-21
What a terrific book ... all new parents should be issued a copy in birthing class!
Becoming Attached.......2007-05-29
I am becoming very attached to this book! Robert Karen PhD is a stunning writer. His prose is clear, succinct, fair, honest and a delight to read. A non-expert would enjoy it as much as an experienced psychologist. A treat all round.
Totally Different Perspective.......2006-11-26
This review probably won't do this book justice. I'm analytical, Master's Degree in Statistics kind of guy, yea, stoic. Psychology. Yea that stuff is for quacks. In graduate school I worked with enough of them trying to squeeze any interpretation out of their "data".
So I have one of those life altering experiences. I go to Iraq as a reservist, spend sixteen months away from my wife and job, come back to a wife that doesn't love me anymore and doesn't know if she can. PTSD, Generalized Anxiety, and Depression all in one. But other than the PTSD symptoms, all of the other things have constantly been in my life working mysteriously in the background.
I go to a shrink as my marriage has fallen apart and I have no one to talk to and she brings up Attachment. I have never heard of it, so the scientist in me wants to learn anything and everything before our next meeting. I next day this book and begin reading "my life away" online and in the book. Or more apropriately "reading my life back." I'm fitting into this mold that is everything I don't want to be, but am and jealous of the mold that is everything that I am not, I'm being divorced by a woman that has been hardening my mold for the last 5 years. This book altered my perspective on so many things. I identified with so many others. It gave me a framework and definitions for defense mechanisims like (passive agressiveness and sublimation), a way to look at my childhood, and although the odds are against me being Ambivalently Attached and seeking Secure Attachment, I can now somewhat accurately "self-reflect" on my life experiences.
I won't lie, reading the history was kind of drab (I read math books for a living that isn't much more exciting), but I can't say pick up this book and start with chapter 7 or something like that. The history gives you a working perspective, something like "at least that didn't happen to me" but then it starts to come into more practicable situations and you start to piece how you fit into the reading. Taking and owning what is yours and totally psychoanalyzing your friends and in my case the divorcing spouse.
The chapter that "WOW"d me the most was Chapter 26 Repetition and Change: Working Through Insecure Attachment. After I was able to piece the picture together of my life and what extent of the symptoms and other things in my life that have related to the entire book thus far. This chapter has given me some hope. Some hope of finding out who I really am and exploring my sloshing bucket of memories for what decisions I have made and what decisions I am making by trying X+Y=Z over and over again instead of tring something like B/Q=A.
This review still does not do this book justice, but I'll put it out there, but it is what it is. If you don't believe in psychobabble and are a hard "nut" to crack, read this book! I have looked down at psycholgists most of my life, like they settled on an "Easier" career because they weren't good enough for a "Real" one. Well I can honestly admit and apologize to any that I may have convinced, that I could not have been more from the truth.
I'm not going to switch careers or anything, but I now have a reference in wich to self reflect and "get a grip!"
NCMom.......2006-08-21
This book explained so much! Growing up with foster parents and no consistent parenting has made life confusing. Its been interesting to read that any adult, even the adults with the same parents from birth also have attachment issues. This is the first book I have found that explains how someone's childhood dramatically affects our ability to attach to our own children. Every parent I know wants to give their children their best and this book shows me how anyone understand ALL the sides of attachment disorder. Most of the books I have found have only explained why a child is not able to attach. What a relief to understand the whole subject.
Book Description
The Power of a Positive Mom offers seven time-tested
principles that will transform your role, to make you not just a
mother but a Positive Mom.
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fantastic book!.......2007-09-19
This is a wonderful book. A most read for all moms who want to encourage their children to be positive and to live a Christan life. It is an easy read and very uplifting!
ok.......2007-02-27
There were some good things in this one. I did keep it after I was done reading it but it wasn't as deep as I had hoped it would be.
Good book.......2007-01-17
This was our first book we read for our newly formed Bible Study/ Women's Book club at our church. It was a hit and everybody thoroughly enjoyed it. There was a chapter or two that was just "ok", but the rest of it made a lot of sense. Our book club is mostly new moms or moms with younger children.
Great Reminder.......2007-01-12
While nothing in the book was a huge revelation ("your kids model themselves after you," "take care of yourself," "take care of your marriage," etc.), it was all a good reminder -- and it was nice to have the Biblical citations to back up the principles. Ladd is a great writer, making the material very easy and entertaining to read.
the power of a positive mom.......2006-03-09
I'm back for more of Karol Ladd. This book has made all the difference in the world. I have applied so much to my daily life that she writes about. she is such an uplifting and inspiring author. such a great Christian. I highly recommend this book to any mother who feels used and abused daily by her children. This book will put a different perspective on you life.
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I recommend this book for every mom!.......2003-10-03
No matter where you are in your journey of motherhood, this book will have something for you. I can't speak highly enough of the challenge and encouragement that I came away with, after reading this book. The author is very down-to-earth about motherhood and how we can really enhance our families and homes, always backing up what she says with scripture. This is a book I will keep on my shelf and read again someday.
Book Description
2 Best-Selling, Positively Power-Packed Books in 1
There's an amazing power in the fourteen principles shared in this dynamic duo of a book. Seven time-tested principles from the The Power of a Positive Mom are perfect for stay-at-home and working moms alike; plus seven more life-changing principles from The Power of a Positive Woman will unlock the potential in any woman to be a positive influence in her world
In this two-for-one book you'll learn the power of your words and how to use them positively; you'll learn how your prayers, encouragement, attitude, and example can change your family forever; and you'll learn how to become a powerful force in your family, your church, your community, and your world. Become the positive mom and woman that you were created to be.
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Parenting Power in the Early Years is just that--the confidence resource for all who find themselves raising a newborn to kindergartner! Covering from how to be a successful parent, when to start solid foods, when to begin toilet teaching, and how to handle tantrums or biting, to knowing if a child is ready for kindergarten, speaker and author Brenda Nixon offers quick, practical guidance.
The "0-5 Child Development Guide" and "Gift-Giving Key" make Parenting Power in the Early Years a valuable handbook for parents, grandparents, childcare providers, counselors, or anyone who works with parents of young children.
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Winning Wealth of Parenting Tips.......2007-02-27
Brenda Nixon's well written parenting book is a real help to parents in quandary. If you are a new parent, rearing a toddler or preschool age child, want practical childcare tips, like short reads, feel inadequate about rearing a youngster today, want answers that help resolve problems, and.....if you are committed to learn to be a good parent then this book is for you.
The delightful chapters are written in short, succinct bits of information. Besides the wealth of parenting guidance in chapters, Brenda offers an age appropriate gift giving guide, charted stages of development and a resource index for specific need-to-know issues such as thumb sucking, tantrums, toilet training, and eating.
After reading it, I recognized being in the presence of a wise and caring woman, who longs to aid parents and children.
You can succeed at parenting with this "winning wealth" of information. Returns will be greater than money in the bank. A great gift for new parents.
Practical and Powerful.......2006-12-03
Brenda Nixon draws on her experiences as an educator and mom to provide parents with helpful advice on a variety of topics. As a busy mother of a toddler and an eight year-old, I want answers but don't have the time to search everywhere for them. Parenting Power in the Early Years gave me thoughtful advice on many of the situations that concern me, and I appreciated the fact that it was an easy read. It was personal, practical, and powerful.
Practical and Encouraging.......2006-09-17
I wish I'd had this 95 page book when my kids were in the early years. Instead I had several thick books full of clinical studies and terms that boggled my already deteriorating confidence as a parent.
Brenda's friendly "been there done that" tone allows the reader to laugh with her (I Shudda Listened)and at themselves in their desire to be the perfect parent.
She's got all the stuff you need to know in these few easy to read pages. And if you still want more on a specific topic, she includes five pages of Parent Resources.
Knowledge is Power.......2006-04-18
Nothing is more daunting than to bring home the first baby and have no point of reference for what lies ahead. Nixon's book is a handy little tool with user-friendly pointers for all parents with little ones. What a great gift for the new parent or the one at wit's end with a toddler! Quick and easy to read and a wealth of information.
Great for new parents and anyone else who cares for children!.......2006-01-26
What amazing advice Brenda Dixon pushed into 96 pages of her parenting book.
With winter and flu season--and unfortunately, ill children, I've had a lot of at-home downtime to read her book. But it is also designed so you could pick it up and read a little to learn about how to handle your immediate concern.
From the moment of "I'm scared out of my mind" when you arrive home with that first newborn, to the day they start kindergarten, Dixon has sound advice--advice I felt I could trust.
Her goal is to have parents realize that you are your child's best and most influential teacher, and that parenting guidelines you use in these early ages are the foundation for all future parenting.
The most common concerns most of us parents have are covered: thumb-sucking, temper tantrums, clinginess, separation anxiety,toilet training, and she also discusses spanking.
I wish someone had given me this book earlier as it might have saved some unnecessary worry and doubt at my parenting skills.
Armchair Interviews says: This confidence-building resource is great for new parents and grandparents, and anyone else who cares for your children. It would be a great baby shower gift as well.
Book Description
Today, following decades of scientific and psychological study, there is overwhelming evidence that "mother love" does forever shape the life of a child. In her compelling new work, however, author and psychologist Brenda Hunter presents a convincing argument that indicates this love is even more powerful, even more far-reaching than our culture has yet realized-not only for the child, but for the mother.
Affirming the immeasurable value of the mothering role while realistically addressing women's greatest questions and concerns, Hunter clearly reveals how mother love positively affects the way a woman defines herself. All mothers, and all those who care about the lives of women, children, and the future of our society will be dramatically impacted by this not-to-be-missed book, skillfully written to empower women to mother from the heart.
Customer Reviews:
Validation at last!.......2007-03-21
The Power of Mother Love: Strengthening the Bond Between You and Your Child
I bought this book right after my first was born, and did not honestly see the effects of applying the nuggets of truth in this book until he started preschool and was away from me for a few hours each day. The teachers noticed that my son was so well-adjusted and sociable at preschool, that they have told me "he must be getting what he needs from home." All the countless hours I spent bonding with him; from breastfeeding, holding, rocking, mirroring, echoing, cooing back to him at infancy, to helping him crawl, stand, walk, eat table food during his toddler stage, is somehow paying dividends at this time. My testimony does not end here. My son holds delightful conversations with me about his day at preschool, about his friends, likes, dislikes, ... and I cannot stop here either. (I am not bragging like other parents that proudly place "my son is an honor student at blah-blah elementary school" on their foreheads; I'm simply supporting the book's concept about the longterm benefits of appropriate mother-child emotional bonding). I know I've done the absolute minimum I need to do, to bring up an emotionally healthy child, because I don't have to put a leash on him when we are in a public place (ie. department store, park). He comfortably stays and walks by my side and goes off on his own to play, not too far, but knows that I am close by just in case he needs me. My child knows to whom he can run to, to feel safe, secure, LOVED, when he is lost or unsure of his way. This is similar to how I perceive God, because in essence I AM a child to God. And that is why, I think, the author believes God is involved in this miraculous bonding system between mother and child, because God has experience with his own children (us) to provide the guidelines for this process. Because I've received fantastic results with my son and my daughter, I highly recommend this book to new mommies.
This book changed my perspective 8 years ago........2007-01-01
I read this book when my first child was 2 years old. He turned 10 this week and I have three more little ones. I picked it up and started reading it again today. I am reminded how I devoured this book and learned that raising a child is such a valid and important career. I am so thankful for the foundation this book gave me so many years ago. It is one of the most influential books I have ever read. I took to heart the words of wisdom Hunter shares. I have invested my best energies in my family these last 10 years. I can testify that the message of this book needs to be taken to heart. As mothers we are shaping future generations and changing the world!
Even a Man can benefit from this book.......2006-02-10
As a father of four, student of child development, a social-worker and educator I must say that I have found few books that have been written with such tenderness on the topic of (call it) mother love, attachment-bonding, and early relationships as this. I am an admirer of Mary Ainsworth & John Bowlby's work on attachment. Much of their written material is cut and dry clinical style material. Brenda Hunter brings the message home in a way that you can relate it to your personal life. Theistic or not, there is enough material inside that will make its reading enjoyable. (Bowlby and Stanley Greenspan often make mention of evolution and/or Darwinism which I care nothing for but still found their material compelling).
As a man I was reminded of the importance and need for my sensitivity toward my wife as she was pregnant, in delivery and beyond. I understood the importance of why she needed to be mothered after her pregnancy, the cause & effects of past relationships and how my support would enable her to be a sensitive parent, creating in turn (for our babies) secure attachments. She spends time toward the end of the book discussing empathy and how it's disappearance from the current generation could have profound effects on society. How can you cultivate it from birth? Brenda is a strong believer that meeting a childs NEEDS is so very important in enabling them to empathize with others. Its seems like a no brainer but damaged emotions from early relationships lead to repeated patterns toward our/their own children. Breaking the cycle is easier said than done.
When I passed this book on to my female cohorts... they all cried! That wasn't my response, but it goes to show the power of Brenda Hunters message.
This is truely a must read (and yes, even for men).
Not for non-theists.......2003-10-02
I actually was disappointed in this book, because it has a pretty heavy emphasis on theism, and "G-d led me here".
As a non-believer, it created an automatic distance between the material presented and myself, because I couldn't identify with the author, who attributed many things about motherhood directly to her belief in G-d.
Anyways, for a person of a closer mindset to her, it might be a good fit for a book, but for me, it just left me grasping for some commonality, and not finding much. I would go as far to suggest that the book jacket really should have more of an outright mention of the spiritual bent of the book, because then a more appropriate audience could choose to read it.
great book for new moms.......2002-07-25
I received this book as a gift when my baby was two months old. The first section on Mother Love in the Mother's Life were very encouraging during the early months of motherhood. The second part of the book describes how important Mother Love is for your child. If you are thinking about staying home with your children, this book gives some amazing reasons for doing so.
Book Description
Part of the popular Motherhood Club series, this devotional is a companion to the best-selling book The Power of a Positive Mom. These fifty-two Monday-morning devotionals are filled with encouragement, hope, help, and fuel for any mom's busy week. Author Karol Ladd offers a unique journey through the Bible as she provides motivational messages all the way from Genesis to Revelation. Each devotional includes a passage of scripture, a sample prayer, a series of suggested choices to make a mom's week better, space for prayer requests, a powerful quote by a godly hero, and more. Ladd's weekly boost will help any mom become more positive in her important role.
Book Description
When Mothers Pray is a book of hope, inspiration, and stories that will revitalize the prayer life of readers. Many women experience hopelessness when they pray for their children and see no discernible results -- yet praying is one of the most vital things we can do for our kids. Now with a lovely new contemporary cover, this bestselling book offers encouragement and a larger perspective as moms from around the world share their own personal stories, struggles, and ultimate victories. Women will find new motivation to refresh their prayer lives -- and to make a difference in the lives of their children as they intercede for them.
Customer Reviews:
ENCOURAGEMENT THROUGH ALL SEASONS!.......2006-09-29
A beautiful job of encouraging us Moms to continue to pray through every area of our children's and then grandchildren's lives, opening the floodgates of heaven upon their hearts and lives!
I have seen God's power and blessing, deliverance and goodness as never before ever since I daily started praying over and for my own children! (Especially PRAYING GOD'S WORD, the SWORD OF THE SPIRIT!) AND IT ENCOURAGES THEIR FAITH TO HEAR THE PRAYERS!
I myself was a prodigal child and had a committed Grandmother who faithfully prayed with her prayer groups; now my Mom, Dad, aunts and uncles, cousins, and I (and my husband) are all walking in joyful relationships with the LORD, as are my Dad and all 5 of my children (along with the rest of almost all her great-grandchildren children, so far)!
ONE PRAYING MOM/GRANDMOTHER WILL IMPACT THE ENTIRE FAMILY & GENERATIONS TO COME!
We can't leave our children out there and expect God's goodness to just happen upon them, GOD desires us to ask, seek & knock, that not only does He bless and keep them, but He blesses and transforms the "pray-er".
I was especially encouraged as she brought out all the different areas of prayer, with daily and weekly focuses, not leaving out friends, schools and the rest of the generations that need our prayers for REVIVAL, because they need more than ever>>>the Power, Presence and Protection of our Almighty God!
And the section regarding prayer in agreement, in groups is especially encouraging when going through seasons of "waiting" in prayer! We are usually not the willing ones to have to wait, and not until we've been encouraged and prayed through our wait do we usually see how God was making the stage larger while we waited, drawing us and others deeper into Himself, and all around He receives more glory. There are times in some of our children's lives it will imperative to have godly support and help from those who've been there and done that! If we're keeping them in daily prayer, there will be alot less "911" prayers that need to go up, and alot more praises, as you read you will be encouraged to faithfully pray>>YOU WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE In THE LIVES FOR WHICH YOU PRAY!! (Don't forget future friends and spouses either!!)
Wonderful book, KEEP ON PRAYIN!!
GREAT book!.......2006-01-30
Being a new mom myself, I am thrilled to find a book that will help me to pray over my child. It lets me know that I have a lot of power in my daughter's life as a prayer warrior for her. It is a very uplifting book and I love to read it right before bed to help me cover my daughter in prayer.
Encouragement for praying moms.......2001-11-16
One of the best things we can do for our children is to pray consistently and specifically for them. Cheri's "When Mothers Pray" comes alongside the mother and encourages her to pray through all the ups and downs--throughout a lifetime, even into the grandparenting years. I highly recommend this book.
Helpful for moms of all ages.......2001-03-11
I expected this book to be more for moms of younger children, so I was pleasantly surprised to find that most of the book was very applicable to moms like me who have older children.
Cheri tells of other mothers throughout history who prayed about situations their children encountered which are so similar to the problems of the youth today - and these women were the mothers of Augustine and Hudson Taylor!
I thought Cheri's suggested schedule of what to pray for on which days of the week was very helpful. She has many ideas which will give you ideas of your own.
She includes many scriptures to look up and use in your own prayers for your children. Her chapter on waiting was especially good, I thought!
There is a chapter on praying for prodigals and another about praying for grandchildren, so if you are a mom, this book is for you!
Thanks Cheri, for another great book on prayer.
My only suggestion would be for the author to include her email address so those of us who would like email her to tell her how much we enjoyed her book could do so!
This book puts into perspective what prayer is all about!.......1999-10-23
Cheri Fuller leads her reader through many different aspects and levels of praying for ones child/ren. Her book brings into focus the special relationship between God and Mothers and how we must allow God to do his part without our holding him back.
By stepping back and letting God do His will, we not only set our children free, we set ourselves free from the constant pressure to control situations that were God's to control to begin with!
Cheri's statement ("Effectual prayer means being completely committed to God's will. The prayer that brings results--that is great in its power--is one where we don't give God the answers...") couldn't be more true!
I highly recommend this book to Mothers of ALL ages!!!
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The Power of Motherhood
Robert Strand
Manufacturer: Evergreen Press (AL)
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Motherhood is one of the most awesome gifts that God has given to women, and it's a privilege that lasts forever!
The Power of Motherhood is a delightful collection of over 20 heartwarming stories combined with insights from Robert Strand's 40-plus years of ministry. What does a child going blind see in the eyes of her mother? "Love, Mommy. I see love!" says one story. Mothers, if you're torn in many different directions, this little book will help you to stay focused on what's important. It will inspire, encourage, empower and motivate you to be the best mother you can be!
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