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Book Description
This new and revised edition of Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP® (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.
Based on twenty years of university research, this popular book will show you how to:
- Talk more and fight less
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Customer Reviews:
Awesome book!!.......2007-10-11
This book is worth every penny! My marriage counselor uses this program and after reading the book and applying what we learned we really have not needed the counselor anymore. It is very straight forward and easy to do. It has brought my husband and I so much closer. I would love to give this book to every married person I know. I think it could lower the divorce rate in America.
Saved Our Marriage!.......2007-03-22
We spent thousands of dollars in counseling and were on the brink of divorce when we took the PREP workshop and read this book. It transformed our marriage! Five years later I am happy to report that we continue to implement the techniques learned and we have a healthy and happy marriage! Utilizing the tools outlined in this book on conflict management and effective communication techniques can change your life, and your marriage! Highly recommended!
Beautifully Simple.......2007-01-16
I was asked to read this book by my premarital counselors, and found it easy to read. The concepts presented are simple and encouraging and something I believe every couple could benefit from.
won't hurt, but not the best.......2006-11-10
The primary problem is the speaker's voice is terribly annoying--but that is a personal opinion. The robot/woman distracted from my ability to focus on what was being said. Second, it doesn't present things in a realistic way to what happens in relationships. How about telling it like it is--don't use "heated disagreement" when you mean screaming, cussing argument. They use nice terms for everything, and it waters down the listener's ability to identify what they are talking about compared to what discordant marriages actually look like. Third, everything about this material appears geared towards women and how women think. The focus is heavily on talking, discussing feelings, very warm, fuzzy, sweet little things to do. Blah! Gag. Fourth, even married couples have good old-fashioned need-based sex. Please don't continually say "making love". That is hokey and trite and laughable. I guess they have to say "making love" to protect those sensitive people out htere who are afraid that if they say SEX, then Gosh might Darn them to Heck. That, or an attmept to feel better about the fact that your man wants you to dress up like Little Bo Peep and sing Ba, Ba, Blacksheep while performing fellatio on him.
Other than that, there is some useful information and it certianly wouldn't do anyone any harm.
Best on communication ever.......2006-08-24
This book is the best on communication I have ever read! It has a thorough understanding of the problems of communication and provides a most practical approach to enhancing it.
Book Description
Written by the best-known authors in the field of family and professional collaboration, this practical text instructs teachers and families how to empower, collaborate, and advocate for children with special needs. Families, Professionals, and Exceptionality, fifth edition, continues its tradition of discussing how members of families and professionals in special and general education and related services personnel can form lasting partnerships. The new edition has been reorganized for a better flow and to reduce redundancies.
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Perfect Delivery.......2006-02-24
It got here with no trouble and was in very good condition. Thanks!!!
Product Description
Dr. Johnson ( Dr. J. )has been teaching this parenting program since 1987. After much pressure from professionals and parents to write a book, he finally wrote the book in 2000. Since 2001, he s been speaking in 80 cities per year all over the USA. He has trained over 20,000 professionals on how to work with parents with out of control children. Positive Parenting with a Plan: FAMILY Rules is now being used by group homes, treatment facilities, psychiatric research hospitals, private practitioners, pediatricians, probation officers, public and private schools, churches and synagogues, divorce courts, foster care systems, child protective services agencies, and by thousands of parents across the USA. Finally, even parents in Europe, Africa, South America, and Australia are benefiting from using Positive Parenting with a Plan: FAMILY Rules in their homes too.
As a result of speaking around the USA in 80 cities per year since 2001, some agencies have grabbed a hold of Dr. Johnson s parenting program, used it in their facilities, and have conducted their own research studies. Here is one example:
In September of 2005, while completing the networking time at the beginning of Dr. Johnson s seminar in Atlanta GA, Dr. David Anthony stood up and shared that their agency, Family Intervention Specialists, Inc., employs 57 counselors throughout 11 counties in the state of Georgia. He then told the seminar attendees that they have been using Positive Parenting with a Plan/FAMILY Rules for the past 2 years with their juvenile clients and families (i.e., from 2003 to 2005). He shared that their research demonstrated that their families have an 85% success rate with this program (i.e., the juvenile offenders are not reoffending). Finally, he stated that they would probably have a 95% success rate if they could weed out the hardened offenders.
In summary, Positive Parenting with a Plan/FAMILY Rules works because of the input from many moms, dads, and kids during the first two years of developing the program. It works because it supports and promotes parental authority through the use of the Hierarchy Model rather than King Arthur s Round Table . It works because the philosophical foundation of the parenting program has been built upon a rock rather than sinking sand (i.e., There are a lot of parenting programs out there that look good, sound good, smell good, and feel good but they re philosophically flawed because their philosophical foundations have been built upon sinking sand and ultimately undermine adult authority in the home, school, and in the community). It works because it targets the whole family system for changing their attitudes and behaviors not just the child(ren). Finally, it works because it takes good old fashioned parenting and puts it together in a new and improved package, minus corporal punishment, and provides order and structure in the home for parenting which is the chemo therapy needed to eliminate the dysfunctional cancer in your home. There is no other parenting program out there like this one. If you want things to actually change in your home with a spelled out game plan for implementing the program from A-Z, then you ve finally found it. If you correctly and consistently implement this program in your home, then expect things to get a whole lot better. Your quest is over. You have arrived. Congratulations!!!
Customer Reviews:
Just fine if your child is coming out of a group home..........2007-09-29
Up front, I will tell you that this book (and books like it) scare me. Having said that, I would like to write a thoughtful review that isn't too reactionary.
Approaches to parenting and child development can be broken down into two camps: the behaviorist model and the developmental model. In the behaviorist model you concentrate on the symptoms and how to "attack" them, make them better. You manage symptoms. In the developmental model, you look at how children are meant to develop, what the child's own unique potential is, and how they sometimes can get "stuck". This stuckness can often result in learning and behavior problems.
This book is firmly and proudly in the behaviorism camp. Dr. Johnson speaks of the origins of this book being in his experience of working in group homes. I have worked in group homes too, and if your child is or was in a group home and is "out of control" this book might be a good bet for you if it helps you to create some structure. I do agree that structure and ritual is good for children and helps them feel safe, but I don't think we should be turning our homes into group homes.
This book could potentially help you to create a sometimes "good" child, but it will not help you create a secure child.
Rewards and punishments have been completely disproven as a long-term parenting strategy. Read educational researcher Alfie Kohn's "Punished by Rewards" or Dr. Gordon Neufeld's "Hold On to Your Kids" if you want examples of why this is.
Rewards and punishments teach children that your relationship with them depends on their behavior which creates insecurity which is the root cause of most behavior problems. Kids do not learn to become better people because it comes from inside of them, they learn to be good to get something- a treat, a privilege, or mom or dad's approval. Parents have to keep escalating the rewards.
Similarly, with punishments, kids are made to feel bad and this makes them insecure. You have to keep escalating the punishments, taking things away that they care about, and eventually they just stop caring.
Kids don't come with a manual (the cliche this book opens with) and they are not meant to. No expert knows your child like you do. It is much harder to be a parent these days and I understand why parents are drawn to a book with a "PLAN". But kids don't need experts and programs and supernannies, they need to feel safe and secure and behaviorism does not provide that.
Great Bottom Line...Too much of a sales pitch getting there.......2007-08-23
Ultimately I believe the book is worth the read and the theory is fantastic. Though only recently implemented in our household, so far so good. My only complaints are the pages upon pages of selling the theory, citing every example imaginable, as well as religion being brought into it. We all have our own beliefs about God and religion...a proposed disciplinary tactic really does not need to incorporate that when selling to the masses. Respect for all mankind,living beings and our earth would suffice just fine! Just my feelings.
Informative and understandable .......2007-04-02
As a counselor and a teacher this is a wonderful way to help parents and families. Readable and very understandable. A very good buy for the dollar.
The book for parents.......2007-03-22
I was at my wits end with my son until getting this book and putting it to good use with my family. My son was angry bitter rude disrespectful and the change in him since we have been doing this is like night and day. The tension in our family that was a constant reminder things weren't working is now gone, the angry bitter child is now happy helpful and kind.
This book gives you the tools you need to not just get the kids on the right track but the entire family as well. It is so clearly stated and easy to follow and set up. It does take effort and work to keep it going but the results can not be argued if you follow the book!
I highly recommend this book!
An excellent system of behavior training.........2006-06-18
positive, that is. A friend, who is a child Psychologist, recommended this book to me. She has attended Dr. Johnson's seminars and swears by his system. It was originally developed for group homes of troubled teens. When the kids went back home, they went back to their old ways. Parents needed a new way of teaching their children positive behavior and discouraging negative behavior. In comes the F.A.M.I.L.Y. Rules. This is an acronym. Each letter stands for an aspect of the program. In general, you set up rules for your family and then you make a point system for breaking them. The points are numbers of cards that must be completed called "Good Habit Cards". They're chores, nice things for someone, etc. Say, if hitting your brother is 2 points, then you would draw 2 cards from the pile and complete those cards. Could be mop the floor, read a book to little brother, or wash parents sheets. Also for having a perfect day, you get a token. So many tokens can be redeemed for specials treats: movie with friends, toy, extra 1hr at bedtime, etc. Great system. We use it, but it is time consuming to set up, but totally worth it. Must be consistent to see results though. Highly recommended. There's a support group online also. BTW, this book used to be called "Mother Rules".
Book Description
For twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you’ll discover how to
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.
Customer Reviews:
Insight!!!.......2007-10-09
What a great book! Everyone should read this book!!!! My wonderful intellegent cousin gave it to me when I first got pregnet and let me say WOW how it made EVERYTHING make sense!!! I even understand myself and brother better!! for 10 bucks you get a book filled with the best advice you wish every parent would take!!
Positive Discipline, Jane Nelsen.......2007-06-11
Great examples and advice for parents who don't want to use corporal punishment!
Great with a study group.......2007-05-27
This book teaches great tools for parents. I bought this book while taking a Positive Discipline class. I don't know how much I would like it without the class. It is difficult as a parent to work through your guilt, but this book can really make a positive difference. I would sigh and roll my eyes every time they mentioned family meetings, but it really is great. My kids look forward to our family meetings because it is such a positive experience for them. It really makes me feel good to discipline my child without making them feel shame and sadness.
Positive Discipline Stands Alone.......2007-02-27
Positive Discipline is all about providing a nurturing, loving environment in which our children can grow into responsible, respectful, compassionate adults. It is not about what you do to the child to force him to "mind"; it is about being present to the child in a way that models and teaches the skills he/she will need to thrive in the world. In its emphasis on the quality of the interactions we have with our children, Positive Discipline stands alone among parenting resources. Buy this book and you will need no other.
Changing lives.......2007-02-27
Dr. Nelsen has prepared a wonderful revision of the Positive Discipline book. I consider it a classic. I am a college instructor in California and one of my courses is Guidance and Discipline for Young Children. The book is the text for the course. I use it along with the experiential activities that I have learned at the Positive Discipline workshops I have attended. The students love it and all of them say that they wished they had had it when they first became teachers, but especially when they first became parents!
The ideas presented in the new edition are clear and easy to understand. The examples given are real and apply to many individuals and seem to cross cultural barriers as well. We go through the book chapter by chapter and practice the problem solving techniques each week. Many of the students are able to take real solutions back to their families and their early education classrooms.
This is a book that can improve families, classrooms and individuals all across the country. I believe that if we could learn and apply the principles in this book, we could begin to work toward real peace in our homes, our schools, and our nation. Imagine what impact that would have!
Laurie Prusso, MS Ed.
Professor of Child Development
Modesto Junior College
Modesto, CA
Book Description
Up-to-date strategies that address the complex issue of managing student behavior in the classroom of the 90s. For K-12 teachers.
Customer Reviews:
Should Be Mandatory Reading In Teacher's Colleges.......2006-06-13
I've been using Assertive Discipline since 1987. I've used it in 4 different schools, (elementary and secondary), during summer school sessions and in CCD classes.
My very first year using it, it eliminated 99% of any and all discipline problems I was having. Students quickly learned what the rules were and what would happen if they chose to break those rules. This created an environment that was conducive to learning. The students were more relaxed because the atmosphere was orderly and calm.
One of the positive rewards I used was positive notes and phone calls home. Parents were pleased and surprised to get a phone call from the school telling them that their child appeared happy in class, was performing well, turning in all his homework, etc.
I used other rewards as well, such as points towards individual and class-wide rewards, etc. I actually had students spurring each other on to make sure they turned in their homework, completed their work accurately and neatly and so on.
The use of Assertive Discipline will remove much of the uncertainty from teaching. It answers the question, "What will I do when...?"
You will have a plan. The students will know what will happen if they choose to misbehave. It's not simply about 'rewards and punishments' as it is about learning to make appropriate choices. We all have to do that, and we all have to learn to do it sometime.
Most students know how to behave properly. Sadly, many choose not to. I'm not a social worker, but I have a job to do and I can't do it if there's chaos in the classroom.
This program is especially useful for new teachers. If you're having trouble with classroom management, if you're feeling tired and stressed-out, if you find yourself REPEATING INSTRUCTIONS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER, then do yourself a favor and
BUY THIS BOOK!!
The modest investment that it costs is nothing compared to the peace of mind that it will bring.
Teachers who have been around a while develop an "aura". All they have to do is LOOK at a student and that student will usually settle down. It takes a few years to develop that "aura". I believe that that aura is based to a large extent on self-confidence and the teacher's reputation.
We develop self-confidence by accumulating a history of success in dealing with difficult situations, and we get a "good" reputation among students from being, among other things, firm but fair. Assertive Discipline will help you be firm but fair in your classroom management efforts, and it will help you build a history of success in dealing with difficult classroom management situations.
Behaviorism personified.......2005-11-16
On the face of it Canter's advice seems sound. Unless you know anything about modern psychology. His approach is purely behavioristic. It assumes that behavior should be modified thorugh the use of external rewards and punishments. While some lip service is paid to students taking ownership of their behivior, his model does not provide a way to do that. it is not even good behaviorism. Behaviroism used appropriately uses different rewards and consequences for the individual, recognizing that the same system will not work for all. Another difference is that when behaviroism is used correctly, the subject is systematically weaned from the reward system as the behvior becomes automatic. In Canter's system the rewards and punishments are the same for all, and stay the same throughout the year. His system also has the same basic reward or punishment for any infraction. It is not person, situation or bahavior dependent (except in extrmem cases).
As a long time teacher and teacher educator I have seen many teachers using Canter's as well as other apporaches. I have seen no corrolation between the use of his system and good classroom mangement.
Instead I would recommend systems that treat students as human beings who are capaple of learning to manage the classroom becasue they want a well running classroom in which to learn. This takes careful and structured guidance by the teacher. These techniques are based on the more current theories of cognitive development, soical learning theory and constructivist theories of learning. An excellent example of this type of classroom management can be found in Ruth Sidney Charney's book, "Teaching Children to Care: Classroom Managment for Ethical and Academic Growth, K-8."
Assertive Discipline Works.......2004-11-04
Assertive Discipline is an effective way to control behavior in order to help create an environment where learning can occur.
Lee Canter's Assertive Discipline.......2003-08-04
My experiences with Canter's approach have been disappointing. It can be that this approach will work, though not with the students who have the real problems, but it does NOT TEACH students how to control their behavior. It does not teach students anything except how to receive rewards and how to avoid punishments. Better to read some research on classroom management, Alfie Kohn, or Love and Logic. I believe what we need to do is help our students make better choices. I don't think this approach does that. Read lots of things and decide for yourself.
If you yelled at your class this week, you need this book.......2003-02-22
I first encountered Lee Canter's Assertive Discipline concepts in college, and again later while on the board of directors for a school.
Canter's approach is PRACTICAL, not ideological, and his goal is for you to have a classroom in which you can teach.
That's it: simply a classroom environment that is functional enough that you can teach.
I disagree with a previous reviewer: the point behind classroom discipline isn't to teach "critical thinking skills" or to have students analyze whether "Please take out your homework and pass it to the front of the classroom" is a reasonable, just, appropriate, or relevant instruction.
Getting compliance with basic classroom rules is NOT the same as controlling or manipulating students. You, the teacher, are supposed to be in charge of what happens in your classroom. Living up to your job description will not hurt your students or turn them into uncritical automata.
The real purpose of classroom management is to make it possible for you to TEACH in the first place. The fact is that, no matter how brilliantly you present today's objectives, if the classroom is too loud and chaotic for students to pay attention, then you might as well have just stayed in bed.
I really believe that the first step in direct instruction is to provide a classroom where students are able to be in their places, to look at you, and to pay attention -- or at least not prevent everyone else from doing so.
One idea I developed from Canter's book: attitudes are the family's problem. Even if the family is failing at their job, I'm STILL not the parent, and -- while I want my students to be happy and well-adjusted, and I certainly facilitate that noble goal -- my REAL JOB is to get them to do their work, not to throw a fit if they don't happen to hand in their papers with gracious smiles. Similarly, I actually do NEED my students to be quiet when I'm explaining the next assignment, but I don't NEED them to "wipe that scowl off your face while I'm talking."
Canter's book helps you understand the effectiveness of clearly drawn "lines in the sand" and absolutely certain, wholly impartial, escalating consequences which are given to any student crossing those lines.
I have used Assertive Discipline techniques to help parents. In one memorable instance, a young mother was very inconsistently screaming and paddling her toddler for "thinking(!) about getting into the refrigerator."
Using Canter's framework, we worked out the difference between perceived intention and actual action, and the importance of a clearly understood, black-or-white rule.
This mother resolved to enforce "Do not OPEN the refrigerator" as her rule, and developed a escalating list of reactions, so that she had clear alternatives to her screaming fits and paddle-swinging.
Consequences were applied with 100% certainty and 100% impartiality. Screaming was forbidden. The mother decided to make paddling an absolute last resort.
Two weeks later, the problem was completely gone, and the mother felt more confident, more capable, and more effective than ever before. Best yet, her child didn't need to be afraid of accidentally provoking a screaming fit any longer: everyone knew where the line in the sand was.
The same system can work in your classroom, and Lee Canter shows how to create a functional classroom without throwing a temper tantrum in front of the class.
It can be done. YOU can do it.
For some teachers, Canter's approach will be a significant departure from their "style," but if you (or your neighboring teacher) screamed at the class this week, then it's probably time for a departure from that "style," even if someone has been perfecting that temper for decades.
Let me strongly recommend that you do NOT read the first edition of this book; there are clarifications of his ideas and methods in subsequent editions that will help you avoid some common mistakes. In particular, the common misunderstanding that the author wants you to "publicly shame your students into better behavior" is specifically and categorically rejected as both cruel and ineffective.
Book Description
Positive Parenting for Those Important Teen Years
Adolescence is often a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for you, their parents as well. During the teen years, kids aggressively begin to explore a new sense of freedom, which often leads to feelings of resentment and powerlessness for parents who increasingly are excluded from their children's lives. This revised edition of
Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows you how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with your adolescents. Inside, you'll:
·Find out how to encourage your teen and yourself
·Grow to understand how your teen still needs you, but in different ways
·Learn how to get to know who your teen really is
·Discover how to develop sound judgment without being judgmental
·Learn how to use follow-through—the only surefire way to get chores done
Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the classic
Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commmonsense approach to child rearing. Inside, you'll discover proven, effective methods for working with your teens.
Over 1 million
Positive Discipline books sold!
"I highly recommend this book to parents, teachers, and all others who work with young people. It is one of the best books I have seen on helping adults and adolescents turn their conflict into friendship. Remarkably, it shows how to accomplish this while helping young people develop courage, confidence, responsibility, cooperation, self-respect, and trust. I urge you to read it." —
H. Stephen Glenn, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World.
Customer Reviews:
Positive Discipline for Teenagers, Jane Nelsen.......2007-06-11
Great advice and examples for parents who don't want to use corporal punishment!
Very Helpful.......2007-01-18
I found this book very insightfull and full of information on how to deal with the changes that occur with my child becoming a teenager.
Need help with your teen?.......2007-01-11
Whether your teen is simply refusing to clean his room, or your worried about tougher issues such as sex and drugs, this book teaches parents effective and respectful ways to deal with the whole child.
This is not a "How To" book with a lot of simple, short-term solutions. It is a basic parenting philosophy which, once understood, will permeate your decision making and way of being with your child.
Guide book for keeping your sanity!!!!.......2006-11-11
This book provides excellent interventions and techniques for communicating with your teens. It really helped me to look at things from my son's perspective and work towards acheiving goals together.
Did not like.......2006-03-22
I did not like the book. It did have some interesting points to consider, but it did not seem like discipline to me. I am more of a Love and Logic fan. I think kids cannot always see the natural consequences of their own behavior (or don't care) until far into the future and must sometimes have consequences imposed upon them, which this book says not to do. I just don't agree with it.
Average customer rating:
- Every parent should read this book!
- Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, Jane Nelsen
- Insightful
- very good for little ones
- Important topics did not jive with my child rearing ideology.
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Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child (Positive Discipline Library)
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Book Description
Make a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child's Life
The months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy, dreams, plans—and a few worries. As a caring parent, you want to start your child out in life on the proper foundation. But where do you go for the answers to such questions as: How do I communicate with an infant who doesn't understand words? How can I effectively teach boundaries to my toddler? Should I ever spank my child?
Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust
Jane Nelsen's classic Positive Discipline series. These books offer a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today's world. In
Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, you'll learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is both capable and confident. You'll find practical solutions and solid advice on how to:
·Encourage independence and exploration while providing appropriate boundaries
·Use non-punitive methods to instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home
·Recognize when your child is ready to master the challenges of sleeping, eating, and potty training, and how to avoid the power struggles that often come with those lessons
·Identify your child's temperament
·Understand what the latest research in brain development tells us about raising healthy children
·And much, much more!
Containing real-life examples of challenges other parents and caregivers have faced,
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Customer Reviews:
Every parent should read this book!.......2007-07-15
This is one of my new favorite parenting books. The authors do a great job of teaching readers how to have a mutually respectful relationship with their children that promotes cooperation. They give great communication tips and reasonable suggestions to help parents talk to their kids. They help parents understand child development so they can avoid putting their children in situations they are not ready for which leads to melt downs. They promote consistency which is so important with children. I will be recommending this book to all the parents I see in my psychotherapy practice.
Dr. Jenn Berman
www.DoctorJenn.com
Author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids
Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, Jane Nelsen.......2007-06-11
Great advice and examples for parents who don't want to use corporal punishment!
Insightful.......2007-05-07
A must read when you have a little child or take care of one or just want to know more about how to raise emotionally healthy and well-balanced children. Jane Nelsen is a phenominal insightful expert when it comes to parenting. I started giving this book to new parents as a gift as I have raised my own children by this method and the parenting job has been enjoyable throughout all years due to the positive discipline method. The book is an easy read and simple to follow. Although, the greatest benefit arises by actually applying these brilliant principles.
very good for little ones.......2006-11-13
great resource for small children, but would
recommend instead the book for preschoolers
which has more information and techniques for
toddlers.
Important topics did not jive with my child rearing ideology........2006-07-30
When I first began reading I found the stories to be unrealistic but thought that it may still be worth reading. For Example: The man who hits his child because the child said they had gone to a specific place only last night when they actually had gone days/weeks ago. His claim was that the child was a liar. Anyone who is interested in bringing up a well child would not behave that way and certainly a person like that is not interested in reading a book to improve their parenting skills. Anywho, I thought this book would give me creative ideas with discipline when the book is really about, as Tucson Toddler Mom said, common sense ideology.
I was most disappointed in their advocating "crying it out" (Yes, H. King they did advocate - check the "Sleeping Single" on pg. 130) and their bias against co-sleeping. They cite Alfred Adler as their co-sleeping "expert" who wrote junk psychoanalytical theories in early 1900s. In the section "sleeping with Parents" on pg 136 the writers write: "Some people believe children feel more loved and secure when they sleep in their parents' bed. Other experts believe children become demanding and dependent when they sleep with their parents......." Note the "other experts" as opposed to "some people" They are using the ole' "people in white lab coats" ploy to tilt you to their opinion on the subject. Shame on them! This is when I quit reading. They don't want you to hit your kids but it's ok to leave them crying and alone in another room for no good reason.
Of course, you probably now know that my husband and I are a co-sleeping, non hitting parents and IMO, babies were not intended to sleep alone. Otherwise the dingos would drag them away and eat them! More seriously though, I believe as some EXPERTS do: Co-sleeping has far more benefits than negatives and I don't believe that "crying it out" is ever an option. If you differ then this is the book for you ;)
Average customer rating:
- Super practical, non-preachy, excellent advice
- Positive Discipline A-Z, Jane Nelsen
- Is a bit confusing to decipher which information to use for your child
- This book changed my outlook on parenting
- Great book
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Positive Discipline A-Z, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: From Toddlers to Teens, 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems
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The first edition of Positive Discipline A-Z became a classic child-rearing text that helped change the way parents and experts feel about discipline. In this revised and expanded version, child psychologist Jane Nelson (coauthor of the entire Positive Discipline series) teams up with speaker and therapist Lynn Lott and H. Stephen Glenn (Raising Self-Reliant Children). Positive Discipline is based on the theories of child development expert Rudolf Dreikurs, and uses communication, consistency, and specific techniques (such as the four-step follow-through method, taking time for training, giving age-appropriate chores to teach responsibility, and using positive time-outs in which the child takes some time with a calming activity) to help children develop the life skills they need to be "effective, happy, contributing, and respectful members of the family and society."
The first part of the text provides an introduction to the concept of positive discipline and its tools. The second part of the book is an alphabetical breakdown of more than 100 child-rearing topics, from addiction to zits--including cruelty to animals, fairness, laundry, negative children, pampering, self-esteem, tattling, whining, and much more. Here, the authors move from general theory to specific suggestions and approaches for hard-core parenting issues. Whether read for theory or read for specificity, this book is terrific--and important. --Ericka Lutz
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A Positive, Proven Approach to Parenting!
As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In the completely updated edition of
Positive Discipline A-Z, you will learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You'll find practical solutions to such parenting challenges as:
Sibling Rivalry · Bedtime Hassles · The Angry Child
School Problems · Getting Chores Done · ADD
Eating Problems · Getting Through a Divorce
Procrastination · Whining · Tattling and Lying
Homework · And Dozens More!
"Good, practical ways to guide a child—and save your sanity."
—Marguerite Kelly, author of The Mother's Almanac and The Mother's Almanac Goes to School
"The perfect blend of kindness and firmness. Clearly a four-star guide that any parent will immediately relate to, with practical no-nonsense answers for today's families."
—John F. Taylor, Ph.D., author of Helping Your Hyperactive ADD Child
"As a parent and licensed clinical social worker, I found this book to be practical, innovative, and an excellent tool for both parents and psychotherapists."
—Melanie J. Stern, L.C.S.W.
Customer Reviews:
Super practical, non-preachy, excellent advice.......2007-06-11
I was a bit skeptical at first, wondering how a Q and A format could possibly be sufficient. Would the book be full of pithy, useless, empty, overly-general advice? No, in fact, it gets right to the point and is relevant and helpful. I'm very impressed with the thoughtful discussion of many of the most difficult parenting problems. It has become on of the first places I turn for advice.
More importantly, because it is quick and easy to read, my husband is willing to read it too, which helps us stay on the same page when it comes to discipline.
Positive Discipline A-Z, Jane Nelsen.......2007-06-11
Great advice and examples for parents who don't want to use corporal punishment!
Is a bit confusing to decipher which information to use for your child.......2007-03-08
I was looking for a book to assist me in "positive discipline" with my toddler. I did not find too much in regard to 2 year olds in this book except the obvious advice of keep your children home if their tired unless you want them to act out in the grocery store. There was much helpful advice for older children. I did see a book specifically for toddlers but will not be sold until April. In a book that is for a wide range of ages it wold have been best to explain in chronologically order (ie: 2-4 year olds/ 5-6 year olds etc.) The book went everywhere.
This book changed my outlook on parenting.......2006-06-05
I've read it twice and I've dog-eared the several sections I want my husband to read. This book is just common sense parenting. I love that the authors stress using natural consequences when possible and give tips for avoiding and dealing with power struggles. With the knowledge I've gained from this book I feel much more confident about disciplining my children successfully and not damaging their self esteem. Basically this book is about mutual respect between parent and child.
Great book.......2005-01-25
Yes, this is not a parenting style or system for everyone. As with all parenting books, you have to pick and choose, taking what you like and leaving the rest. I have read other "discipline" books, most of which are very different from this one. I have learned valuable things from everything I have read; however, this book is one of the few that really resonated with me.
I had noticed that many parents (present company included) didn't enjoy disciplining their kids. Sometimes they became locked in power struggles with their kids. Based on my observations, I was looking for a book that endorsed a less punitive and more egalitarian approach to the disciplining and training of children. This book approaches disciplining as character-building. In other words, the goal of discipline is to "build up" a child, instead of pushing or even shaming a child into behaving a certain way.
There are many important messages in this book, several of which are: balance firmness with kindness; watch what messages your actions and words are sending to your kids; don't expect too much or too little from your child, developmentally; and disciplinary consequences should be related, respectful, and reasonable.
Part One gives a good overview of the authors' approach, as well as a concise explanation of very pertinent topics such as some of the roots of poor self-esteem and acting out in anger. Sometimes there was a "cliff notes" feel to this section, but perhaps that was intentional because Part Two was meant to be the bulk of the book? I did think that this section was based on solid psychology, albeit particular branch(es) of psychology. If you look at parenting as a two-way transformative process, you can learn something about yourself as well through this section.
Part Two is the "A to Z" part of the book. There are quite a few helpful tips on a wide range of topics. In terms of methods, the authors emphasize verbal reasoning and consensus-building. They do offer some suggestions about more physical forms of discipline. They do not recommend spanking.
One note to the prospective buyer: this book is geared toward the older toddler and up (most of the time, the suggestions begin at 2 years of age). I do see that there are companion books for 0-3 years and teenage years, so if your kids fall into those categories, you might want to look at the other books as well.
Book Description
What are you really telling your children?
Elizabeth Pantley, the creator of the bestselling No-Cry parenting books, shows you how to improve the hidden messages behind your words and deeds. She shares with you other parents' stories that demonstrate how they unknowingly sent their kids negative messages through their words and actions. After each story she provides a gentle lesson by showing the child's perspective on the same scenario and offers suggestions for a positive outcome.
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In Hidden Messages, parent and educator Elizabeth Pantley shares stories drawn from hundreds of parents that demonstrate how they unknowingly send their kids negative messages through their words and actions.
Customer Reviews:
These messages are obvious.......2005-10-11
I bought this book because I loved the No Cry Sleep Solution. After reading the first three examples and the "hidden" messages, I was completely disappointed and returned the book. I found that I didn't even need to finish reading the chapter to guess at what the message was. In one of the chapters, Pantley uses an example from her own parenting. I thought, okay, now she's going to share with us one of her mistakes and how she learned from it, and was about to give her some credit for being honest with her readers. Unfortunately for me, in this example she comes out having done everything correctly (not doing her child's homework project for him) and a number of her son's classmates' parents are in the wrong. Don't we all know that the child should do his/her OWN homework? And maybe by not allowing him/her to do the homework, we are saying that he/she isn't capable of doing it? Or that mom or dad will always be available to tackle the complicated stuff? I don't think that we need a book to figure that out. These messages are anything but subtle.
Challenging me to better parenting!.......2004-11-15
Reading this book has been a seriously eye-opening experience for me. While I "knew" that our children are little sponges and take in everything around them, I had no idea how many "hidden messages" I was giving my daughter that were so negative. I truly saw myself as an excellent and attached parent, and I still do, but this book has truly called me to a deeper parenting model. Not everyone comes from a wonderful family of origin, and this book showed me how many things I was passing on that I had no intention of teaching my daughter. I recommend this book to every parent!
Most powerful book I've ever read!.......2004-04-20
Powerful is the only word to describe this book. I can't believe the impact it can have on your life. I think if all parents were required to read it before their children were born our world would be a place I'd be more than happy to raise my 2 children in!
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Wonderfully written....Important topics.......2004-03-04
Powerful eye-opening messages that expose the errors in our innocent daily actions with our children. Each chapter opens with a very typical and common parent-child situation. You'll be nodding in agreement as you'll see yourself displayed clearly. Then the author presents a description of the Hidden Message shown in the action and you'll stop and restructure your thoughts on the insightful take on a seemingly harmless interaction. For example, if you always do for your child by packing his lunch, tieing his shoes, cleaning his room then you may be robbing him of the ability to take care of himself. Every parent should read this book - and the younger your child the better. Excellent.
Devoted parents!.......2003-06-18
Once again Pantley has done it. What a fabulous window into myself and my children. I must confess that I think I am a most devoted and conscientious parent. With a background in early childhood education, I feel well prepared to competently reer my two boys. But Elizabeth's book has me re-examining some of my everyday decisions, such as cleaning up after my three year old or staying after him to do it. More importantly, reading certain scenarios was a reminder to me that every interaction with my children has an impact on their fragile little developing personalities. And frequently the impact is more far reaching than I anticipate.
Hidden Messages is not only valuable information. It also compellingly written by an author who is as competent and experienced as she is earnest and compassionate.
This book is a "must read" for parents!
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