Book Description
Need help with your kids? Learn how to parent with love and logic and be amazed at the great results! Now with a new look and updated content, readers will enjoy passing along this best-kept parenting secret to their friends.
Customer Reviews:
Fabulous Book.......2007-10-05
This book was recommended to me by a newly married woman with stepchildren. I, at the time, was dating a woman with children (none of my own). I was having a difficult time being an 'instant father', and didn't know what to do half the time. I loved this book, and used the information daily. When I am around children now, I still use the information in the book. When I have children of my own, you better believe I'll be re-reading this one. (I also bought this book for my brother)
A MUST-HAVE!.......2007-09-19
There are not enough good things to say about this book. I have it in conjunction with Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood and contrary to some other reviewers, I love having them both together.
I can't recommend this parenting technique enough. I have a 2 year old boy and we started using love and logic principles just after his 2nd birthday. What a difference it made in us all!!! Just like the authors say - it puts the fun back in being a parent. We are always getting comments on his calm demeanor and our ability to always be patient.
If you or someone you know is struggling with a child, toddler to preteen, this book will change the family for the better. It gives you the exact things to say in all kinds of situations, in fact half to book is dedicated to doing just that. This book gives you the tools to restore peace, happiness, hope, order and fun back into your home. I'm so thankful for this book!
THE best parenting book ever.......2007-09-18
All my friend and I SWEAR by this book. This my not be the ONLY book you need, but it surely is one key book you MUST have. Extremely practical - there are actual cases and actual phrases to use, while explaining the philosophy behind the approach. This is the ultimate "how to" book on raising responsible, moral, kind children who understand cause and effect! It also takes the "you vs me" out of it and teaches children that their choices and actions have consequences. As a Christian, it sits well with me. It is especially excellent with defiant or contrary children, and children raise in foster homes or others who have attachment challenges.
Best parenting book my wife and I have found.......2007-09-03
This is an excellent book on parenting, the best my wife and I have found. The principles work very well - we wish we had found it earlier. We and our children are much happier after using this book.
This is very sound parenting. This book teaches you how to raise responsible children who think about the consequences of their actions. It teaches principles and gives you strategies to help your children anticipate the real consequences of their actions - a good thing to learn when you're still a child and "the price tag is still low."
This book is not the draconian book that some negative reviewers have interpretted it to be. The authors advocate genuine compassion for children who experience realistic consequences to their bad choices. It is true that the principles in this book likely require more work on the part of the parent than other approaches.
Regarding whether this book advocates corporal punishment - it does not. Page 221 from the 2006 edition:
"Spankings ... give kids a quick escape from the responsibility of living with a bad choice. Instead of having to live with consequences and think about solutions, youngsters have a brief moment of pain, and then they're off the hook."
"The original edition of this book advocateded the use of spanking in limited, controlled situations. However, as we have grown in our professions and as more valid research has become available, we have changed our postion. There are many good reasons to avoid the use of spankings...[list follows]."
Sick authors.......2007-08-30
Any author who presents themselves as wanting to help children and then advocates corporal punishment is a sociopath at worst or terribly misguided at best. They should never yield power over someone smaller or weaker than themselves. Maybe the authors need to be physically bullied (ex. spanked) by someone 100+ lbs bigger than them so they can feel what a child feels when some stupid or gullible adult follows their advice. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Parents and caregivers- please think long and hard before you hit the children who are depending on you for love and protection. There are much better ways of discipling children. Learn them.
Book Description
You don't have to dread the teenage years! Learn how to parent your teens without nagging or yelling and prepare them for a responsible adulthood.
Customer Reviews:
A How-To Book for Parenting Teens!.......2007-08-13
In today's complex world, it is harder and harder to know what to do to maintain better relationships with our teens as well as to guide them appropriately. This book is a must for anyone who finds themselves at a loss by the challenges of the teen years, especially given the changes in our contemporary lives.
A book and a philosophy admired by counselors in this area.......2007-07-05
The Love and Logic series has been greatly appreciated and used by a number of counselors in the southwest Missouri area. I find this book especially helpful not only for restructuring the behavior of one's own children, but for helping to create a win-win sitution for teenage students. It also makes a great gift for friends and family who are looking for new ways to lovingly outsmart.
Ann L. Allman, Ed.D.
excellant book.......2007-05-13
I have just started this book and am nearly done with the new edition of Parenting with love and logic. This book was recommended my my childs vice pricipal at school. It has been a big help. It isn't easy working with teens especially if the parent has been doing things differently most their lives and to try to retrain as a parent and also the child is hard work and persistance consistance is the name of the game! Always remember, it's NEVER too later to try something new.
Parenting Teens With Love And Logic.......2007-04-03
This book was very informative. The techniques the authors describe are effective, and easy to implement. The effort required is well worth it if you are truly interested in changing your teen's behavior.
The last chapter of the book contains what the authors describe as pearls. They are great dialog starters for tough subjects like sex drugs and money.
The only thing I would change about this book; is buying it thirty years earlier, when I raised my first teenager.
This book should be called "White Middle-Upper Class Christian Parenting with Love & Logic".......2007-03-21
Bluntly put, I found this book over generalized, arrogant, assuming and idealizing. The use of behaviorist techniques is the book's single redeeming quality, offering a small peak into the world of behavioral therapy and its effectiveness when working with teens. Even still, parents would be much better off buying a book on behaviorism than reading the repetitive stories and dialogs between parents and teens.
In terms of ethnicity, race and religious views, the book does not apply cross-culturally. Race and ethnicity are never addressed; two topics that have play a significant role in child rearing. The name of the book is not Christian Parenting Teens With Love & Logic, but it should be. Constant references to God, Christ and The Bible are made and cited as sources for how to be a good parent. A good researcher and author acknowledges their bias at the beginning of a book, but Foster Cline and Jim Fay fail to do so. "It is ok to express the desire to our children that they lead a heterosexual life. Christ's message in the new testament is very clear : God's children are all and equally loved." The author's religious beliefs so heavily saturate the information presented that it is clear they cannot separate their personal biases or even acknowledge the existence of them. The religious stereotypes are appalling, saying that parents should watch out for teens who, "wear black clothes and jewelry with inverted pentacles", that they suggest involvement in satanic activity. However, when I was a teenager, all of my friends and I wore black and studied unique religions and spiritual systems. None of us were satanic or involved in cults; we were artists. This is yet another example of how the authors stereotype and force their personal ignorant beliefs on the reader.
In terms of gender, Parenting Teens With Love & Logic does a superficial job of addressing the topic. Changes that occur in boys and girls are lightly discussed. This is a recurrent issue throughout the book- it touches only briefly on every topic and never goes into detail. While sex and gender are two different topics, it is important to look at how the author addresses both.
If I had to pick one reason, of many, why I would not recommend this book to a client or friend, the discussion of sex and sexuality would be it. The authors personal beliefs about sexuality and premarital sex are so deeply ingrained in each word of this book that Cline and Fay's message is crystal clear: premarital sex is wrong and you should only have sex with one person, your spouse, or else you will get an STD, AIDS, or have issues with fertility later on. Sweeping generalizations and simply inaccurate statements are made in reference to how boys and girls view sex. "A girl usually regards sex as being closely related to reproduction. A guy usually considers sex a physical and emotional release." Not one female I spoke with would concur with this statement, rather they all passionately disagreed and deemed the author arrogant and challenged the statement as an old fashioned myth not in any way applicable to women today.
In summary, the pitfalls of Parenting With Love & Logic far outweigh the few pearls of behaviorist wisdom. As a professional I would not recommend or cite this book as a good source for parenting skills or wisdom, but rather as a superficial, inadequate and biased book that ought to be re-titled. Parenting books that claim to hold no ethnic or religious affiliation should contain only information, research, and techniques, not personal opinions. As previously stated, Parenting With Love & Logic is not one of these books.
If you really want to have some fun though, do a little research on Foster Cline...had I done it before I would not have bought this book.
Book Description
2005 Gold Medallion Award finalist!
Dr. James Dobson has completely rewritten, updated, and expanded his classic best seller The Strong-Willed Child for a new generation of parents and teachers. The New Strong-Willed Child follows on the heels of Dr. Dobson's phenomenal best seller Bringing Up Boys. It offers practical how-to advice on raising difficult-to-handle children and incorporates the latest research with Dr. Dobson's legendary wit and wisdom. The New Strong-Willed Child is being rushed to press for parents needing help dealing with sibling rivalry, adhd, low self-esteem, and other important issues. This book is a must-read for parents and teachers struggling to raise and teach children who are convinced they should be able to live by their own rules!
Customer Reviews:
Very insightful book.......2007-10-02
Very interesting to read; we have a strong-willed 2 year old son but he hasn't done anything yet that compares with what most of the situations in this book discuss. I think by reading this and other books by Dr. Dobson and others, we will be better prepared to handle future behaviors. I appreciate the examples he uses and the references he gives. I also like how he uses his own life and experiences to make his points. I especially agree with Dr. Dobson's major point in this book: to dampen the terror of and redirect certain behaviors while not breaking the spirit! Our little's guy's will is what makes him special and dear to us and it's how we go about shaping him that will create in him a well-behaved, productive, pleasant-to-be-with person! Of course, we have to let God lead us, as Dr. Dobson thankfully reminds us.
How To.......2007-10-01
Summary: How to deal with all the effects of the kind of bad parenting I preach in other books. Self-esteem, adhd, and sibling rivalry are all effects of bad parenting. These aren't descriptive of normal, happenstance human behavior, but the behavior of those children whose essential needs are not met and furthermore needs which are exploited and violated by the kinds of cruelty Mr. Dobson suggests in all his writing. Please read Alice Miller or Charles Whitfield instead. Want to know how to be a better parent? Get some therapy and start finding out how you can change yourself first because you were probably raised badly if you have children like this, all you've done now is recreate it with your children. Get some therapy and deal with your parents, read some Alice Miller, then get some real parenting books that advise you on how to have some freaking empathy. Also, if you want good children, find out what "good" is first! "Good" does not mean convenient and quiet. Good means open, honest, vulnerable, curious, courageous, and most of all integrity. You want children with integrity? Have some integrity yourself! Children learn by example, not bullying.
Don't compete with exceptinal children!.......2007-09-10
I had a VERY strong willed, defiant little boy. I consider myself a faithful and devoted Christian who reads and studies the bible regularly.
Benjamin was willful and defiant from the time he was two years old. Some of our Christian friends (not all) decided that Benjamin problem was that he needed more corporal punishment and recommended Dobson's book. (We often were lectured about not sparing the rod). We did spank him on occasion and it did produce the desired temporary effect of submission. I mention "temporary" because he simply considered it a challenge and would revert to former behavior. It became clear that achieving the same result would require continued punishment of increasing severity. At that point, my wife and I decided that we would not spank him again but instead come from a place of unconditional love and show patience.
You know what? The improvement was almost immediate! We were amazed because the answer was so simple and so obvious. When we compete with a child it becomes impossible to express love and affection under stressful circumstances unless we as PARENTS are mature enough to rise above.
Benjamin is six now and has largely outgrown his behavior. Is he still strong willed? Yes, but he is also exceptionally brilliant, creative and shows more leadership for his age than any of his peers. These qualities will serve him in life more than his young age inclination to disobey. Don't sell yourselves or your children short!
A Saving Grace.......2007-09-08
While I think most people who read this book will be immediately sidetracked by the author's support of spanking, I would encourage these people to read the book again. Specifically for two reasons:
1. James Dobson does not state that you should spank your child for every act of disobediance. In fact, he states several times in the book that spanking should NOT be used in this way and he outlines very specifically how spanking SHOULD be used. He also states several times that there are many children who will NEVER need a spanking. So everybody jump down off those soap boxes of yours and read the next point...
2. Some of us (myself included) have children who do not respond to creative parenting or setting boundaries with your run-of-the-mill consequences. These are the children who laugh at the thought of time-out and run circles while you are giving them a consequence. These children welcome and even look forward to confrontation. These are strong-willed or willfull children. If you have one of these children, you know there are so many wonderful things about them, but that life can be a string of battles as well. If you have not been fortunate enough to have your parenting abilies tested down to your core and you have more compliant children, please ask around to see if any of your friends have strong-willed children. Then, talk to them and find out how it feels to use every modern parenting strategy in the book (those ones that are guaranteed to work!)and still feel like you are failing your children. Find out how it feels to see how other children behave and respond to these techniques and wonder what you're possibly doing wrong. Please try not to be judgemental of these friends of yours (if you can even get them to talk about their children-they probably know how perfect your own children are). It is a relief to read a book that does not restate the same failed strategies over again. Spanking is such a small part of this book. There is a greater message here. Dobson empowers parents to be parents again. Not negotiators, not doormats, not even friends (however, I believe you will have a life-long friend if you parent with the balance of authority and love he advocates). These strategies apply to many families and I would encourage any reader to keep the greater message in mind.
I would also like to address the many reviews that stated spanking has been scientifically proven to produce unhappy, dysfuctional children and adults. There have been studies done to support both sides of this argument. If you do your reading, you will find this to be a fact. So all of these studies pretty much leave us at square one.:-)
If you are at your wits end, please be sure to read this book. I believe that it can give control back to the parent and actually prevent senseless abuse that often results from a parent's feelings of helplessness, frustration, and exhaustion from parenting a willfull child.
Excellent Book.......2007-09-05
This book was easy to read and full of excellent advice. I noticed when I read the earlier reviews that people either love it or hate it. I think it has practical advice for dealing with strong willed children and I was able to begin applying its principles right away. My son responded well and he is a happy well adjusted 3 year old.
Book Description
Gary Smalley and John Trent's best-selling book offers a fresh, updated look at the life-changing gift the Bible calls "the blessing." Many of us-perhaps unknowingly-spend a lifetime striving for this acceptance. The unconditional love and approval that comes with the blessing is an important element of our self-esteem and emotional well-being.
In
The Blessing, Dr. John Trent tells of his search to receive the blessing from his father and the new insight-and deeper blessing-he received from God as he sought to pick up the pieces of his shattered dream. And Gary Smalley expands the concept of the blessing to include eight ways to bless adult children. "I never realized how powerful-and how necessary-the blessing has become to my older children until now. So if you have older children who have moved away from home, they're never out-of-reach of the blessing."
The Blessing is a powerful book no family should be without. Within its pages, readers will find solid, practical advice on how to be a blessing as well as how to insure that your parents, spouse, and children all feel the security of family approval.
Customer Reviews:
The Blessing by Gary Smalley.......2007-09-19
Anything you read by Gary Smalley is excellent but "The Blessing" gives great insights ino how relationships fail in your life becuse of nurturing you did not receive as a child. Very insightful and helpful!! I would highly recommend anyone to read this informative book. Gary Smalley is an expert on the study of relationships.
The Blessing.......2007-07-30
This book fully describes the Blessing given and withheld in families, but I thought it could go into depth more about how to deal with the lack of your family's blessing.
Motivating.......2006-11-03
Reading this book revealed my blessings from others...
...and my responsibility to be a blessing in the lives of others...
well written...
Book "The Blessing" can be used throught your life!.......2006-08-25
This book shows how you can be a blessing to others; how to bless and encourage. I have used if for many years. I found it very useful in my work with children and adults. It is one of the most useful books I have ever read. If you have any interaction with people, I encourage you to read this practical, short book. Your life and the life of those around you will be better for it.
I wish I had read this years ago..........2004-03-17
It would have helped me be a better father. But it's never to late to learn and improve. Don't pass it up.
Book Description
Pregnancy and childbirth are often depicted as a time of sickness and mood swings for women followed by twelve to twenty hours of pain and hard labor. Many women have been told they can never conceive. Others have suffered the pain of conceiving and miscarrying. Have you had enough of this picture?
Supernatural Childbirth is a practical and realistic look at God's promises for conception, pregnancy and delivery. This is not "pie-in-the-sky"-This is a personal testimony of how one couple overcame defeat and triumphed in God's plan! Jackie Mize had been told she could never have children. However, by unlocking powerful truths and dynamic faith principles she and her husband, Terry found in the Bible, they now have four miracle children! This exciting book shares with you these truths and faith principles.
You will learn these things:
* How to put faith principles into action for your very own supernatural childbirth
* How you can be a living example of God's promises in action
* How to deal with fear during pregnancy and delivery
* How and when to use your faith for pregnancy and delivery
Also included in Supernatural Childbirth:
* Faith-inspiring testimonies from women who have followed these principles and experienced their own supernatural childbirth
* Confessions and prayers for a supernatural conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and all- circumstances surrounding each stage
* A powerful teaching section by Terry Mize ex- planning the curse on Eve in the Garden of Eden
Customer Reviews:
A must for all women!.......2007-09-29
This book was such a blessing to me during my first pregnancy and delivery. I think every woman, married, single with or without children should read this book. It has clearly defined scriptures to build or strengthen your faith no matter how much faith you have when you start. I read this book over and over during my pregnancy and spoke out loud the appropriate confessions each day leading up to my delivery. I was very blessed and you will be too!
Excellent book.......2007-09-24
This book is a manual: it gives know-how to the Believer in terms of understanding what God has said regarding Childbirth.
We would recommend Supernatural Childbirth to everyone.
A Must Have for the Christian Woman!.......2007-09-04
This book is amazing. At first I was skeptical but found it to be very comforting and imperative during a difficult pregnancy and delivery. I now by this book as a baby shower gift/congrats-your-pregnant-gift for all my friends!
Life Changing!!!.......2007-06-08
This book is life changing! I feel like my mindsets about pregnancy and childbirth are completely different now! I loved this book, and you will too! You will never be the same!
Painless Childbirth--What?!?!.......2007-05-15
The Mize's approach to conception, pregnancy and childbirth presents a fascinating glimpse into relying on the word of God for every good thing. Women have believed themselves to be under the curse of Eve for so long that emerging out of this mindset will take some time. But her stories are not unrealistic; she does not come off as holier-than-thou at all. She is a normal woman with extraordinary faith, the faith available to us all. This is a short read, full of exhilarating stories.
Average customer rating:
- Standard advice-nothing special for spirited kids
- Understand what our children are really saying.
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Besides feeling ready to pull their hair out, parents of spirited children are often convinced that their spirited child would behave better if only Mom or Dad were smarter, wiser or more patient! In their new book on"difficult" children, child development experts Claudia and David Arp remind readers that there's no such thing as a Super Parent.
Having a spirited child can make parenting more intense and sometimes overwhelming, but you can begin to recognize the eight most common cries for help and what they really mean: "Look at me!" "Did I do good?" "You're not listening!" "Let me do it my way!" "You can't make me anymore!" "I hate you!" "I can do it myself!" and "I am a big kid already!" The Arps -- with humor, compassion, insights from Scripture, and the latest in research -- show you ways to develop win-win strategies for nurturing your not-so-compliant child. Help just arrived.
Customer Reviews:
Standard advice-nothing special for spirited kids.......2007-05-11
First, buyers should know this is aimed at Christians. If you don't want to be a Christian, don't buy this book. I am a Christian, so that part didn't bother me. But, the book quotes extensively from other books, and the advice is pretty much the advice all other ordinary books give. The "war stories" gave me comfort that other parents have 8- and 9-year-olds who still throw extreme tantrums, but the book didn't give any real answers to how to teach a child to calm down before exploding.
I found Mary Kurcinka's books to be far more helpful.
Understand what our children are really saying........2003-07-31
Having raised three "spirited" sons I can heartily reccommend Answering the 8 Cries of the Spirited Child. How I wish I'd had this book when I entered my child raising years! Not only do the Arps give us tangible, specific tools to provide understanding, encouragement, boundaries, and a listening ear to our spirited children, but they give us hope for maintaining our sanity as parents. This book is a must read for all parents.
Book Description
Keys for establishing healthy boundaries--the bedrock of good relationships, maturity, safety, and growth for children and adults.
To help their children grow into healthy adults, parents need to teach them how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives. The authors of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries bring their biblically based principles to bear on the challenging task of child rearing, showing parents:
* how to bring control to an out-of-control family life
* how to set limits and still be loving parents
* how to define legitimate boundaries for the family
* how to instill in children a godly character
Download Description
Since the 1992 release of their Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend have heard these three questions rephrased thousands of times. As parents begin to realize the tremendous impact poor boundaries have had on their own lives, their concern naturally extends to their children. How can they help their sons and daughters form healthy boundaries that lead to well-rounded characters and successful adult lives? Now there are answers. Boundaries with Kids helps parents apply the Ten Laws of Boundaries (first described in Boundaries) to the challenges of raising children. In their popular, readable style, Cloud and Townsend help moms and dads make choices and develop a parenting approach that sees beyond the moment to the adults their children will become. For parents who want their kids to escape the struggles they themselves have experienced, here's an in-depth look at how to implement the preventive medicine of character development by establishing sound boundaries starting with the parents. Boundaries with Kids helps moms and dads learn how to (1) bring control to an out-of-control family life set limits and still be loving parents (2) define what legitimate boundaries are in the family (3) transfer what they are learning as parents to help their children develop healthy boundaries. Illustrating its points with numerous case studies and anecdotes, Boundaries with Kids gives parents the can-do guidance they need in order to model healthy boundaries for their kids. This book may well be the best investment parents will ever make into the lifelong welfare of their children.
Customer Reviews:
Great baby shower gift!.......2007-09-10
I wish someone had loved me enough to give this to me at my baby shower. This is a great book and wonderfully easy to read. OK maybe the baby shower is a bit early, but I would definitely recommend it for parents of toddlers and older. I ordered a copy for my best friend. I had always heard about respecting your kids so they'll respect you, but never the real "how to's". This book gives what you need.
An amazing book that will change the way you look at parenting........2007-08-22
For most parents, it is just anough to make it through. They are not looking at the long term and the fact that they are shaping the life of a future citizen of the world (and hopefully heaven). Many parents, even Christian ones, miss the mark in parenting because they forget that God teaches that discipline is a neccassary part for maturity. If children do not learn discipline at a young age, they will have a hard time coping with stress in the future, or dealing with people in general.
This book teaches you how to raise your child Biblically, and how to train them so that when they head out into the world they will not ultimate fail. This book tackles such subjects as attitudes of entitlement, how to teach your child to respect boundaries of others, and how to teach them how to deal with other children.
I have a read a lot of books, and few books have shed the light onto why so many people behave the way that they do today. So, if you have problems dealing with people and you want to understand the roots of it, or you have children (whether your own or ones you watch) then you should read this book. It will change the way that you view childr-rearing and will dramatically improve your results.
God Bless ~Amy
Just OK.......2007-06-27
I finished reading the book in no time. There are several interesting stories in this book. However, many opinions listed in this book are just common sense to me.
The Best Parenting Book Out.......2007-05-11
This is without a doubt the best parenting book I have ever read! I am a Pastor and a Foster Parent and have greatly benefitted by putting these principles into practice. I know if these principles work with kids who are troubled and come from broken homes, they will work with any children.
I especially appreciate the way the authors emphasize how teaching children boundaries when they are young will set them up for success as adults. They focus on the value of teaching children life lessons while the cost is low so they don't have to learn them as adults when the cost is so much greater. I would recommend this book to anyone with kids regardless of their age.
Deserves AT LEAST 6 stars! .......2007-04-21
This is by far the most amazing parenting book I have EVER read. I have a two year old and an infant and feel much better prepared to raise them to serve God in their lives.
I can't stop talking to my friends about how practical, simple, and easy-to-apply the principles of this book are - I'm reading the book again because it is so full of great information that I have to absorb it for a second time.
I do believe that this book has to be put into practice BEFORE a child reaches their teen years, simply because that is a time when children become adults and it could be more difficult to apply boundaries only if you have not started the boundaries when they were young. If your child is a teen already, this book might just frustrate you because it will make you wish you had started earlier...just to be honest.
Book Description
Author of
Grace-Based Parenting and the best-selling
Little House on the Freeway, Dr. Tim Kimmel helps Christian parents avoid the potential problems their well-meaning parenting styles could create. This book offers a new way to look at the "ideal" Christian home and shows why "cocoon-style" Christian homes don't always work.
Many parents have "done it all" when it comes to the checklist of good Christian parenting, only to see their son or daughter step away from their belief system and embrace other lifestyle choices.
Dr. Kimmel helps to increase the chances that your children will develop a vibrant faith early in life and stick with it on into adulthood. It will also provide help and hope for those already dealing with a rebellious teen and teach them how to lead the child back into a walk of faith.
Customer Reviews:
Analyzing your Parenting.......2007-09-30
This is not about tattoos and rock and roll and controlling your child (like others have assumed), but about what you can do as a parent to help your child not turn away from the Christian faith they have been raised in (rebel). It might surprise you that Dr. Kimmel actually encourages you to allow your child to experience the world and not be sheltered by a "Christian everything" community. He talks about the importance of your child's faith being their own, and not a "hobby" they are a part of because the parent has a strong faith. He points out decisions that many Christian parents make, which actually backfire. Being a child who rebelled, he is right on the mark. It has helped me (now as a parent) as I can identify mistakes from my youth that I do not want to repeat with my children. I strongly recommend this for every parent who wants to encourage their child's spiritual growth and not hinder it.
Can't I give it 10 Stars?.......2007-07-12
Obviously, those who rated this book low, based on their comments, did not read the book.
This book has very, very, very few words about how to "raise" our children.
It will, however, cause the parent reader some uncomfortable moments as Dr. Kimmel shatters the standard American Christian ideas of "requirements" for raising Spiritual Children.
Dr. Kimmel will focus you on your own spiritual walk. What are you showing your children about what you believe real faith is by the way you live. He will allow you to see that how you live out your faith in your daily lives impacts how your children grow in their faith.
As a child raised in a strict religious environment, this book provided me a good framework for really understanding why I turned as far away as possible from "religion."
This book is a keeper - something to be reviewed at least annually as a spot-check on how am I walking in my faith - and to remind me that there are 4 little eyes watching how I live and what they see will impact them much more than what they hear at church or school.
One warning for those Christians who believe that by shielding your children from worldly influences you are benefitting them more than those who send their kids to public school, or allow their kids to read Harry Potter or go to movies, etc - this book might offend you. Give it a chance - get all the way through it and evaluate it with an open, prayerful heart. Ask the Lord if there is any truth He would like you to think about? Perhaps for your family, your choices are the right ones, but Dr. Kimmel definitely presents another way of looking at things.
Excellent book for every Christian parent.......2007-03-16
As a Christian parent I often feel intimidated by the task of passing my faith on to my children. I picked up this book from our church book table and am so glad that I did.
It was not so much about rebellion, as about how to raise your children to NOT see rebellion as an attractive option. What a weight was lifted off my shoulders as for the first time i really caught a vision of what path to follow to help my children grow up knowing and loving Christ.
The book has a message of truth and hope - not condemnation - though the author has strong things to say about what environments tend to breed rebellion. I highly recommend this book along with Grace Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel.
Biblical Parenting.......2007-02-19
Dr. Kimmel's book helped me understand a great deal of my own teenage rebellion years ago. I know that I am ultimately responsible. However, it comforted me to know why I was frustrated as a teenager and why I rebelled against my Christian faith for several years.
This book covers the different styles of parenting that breeds rebellion. It is a great read for students, adults, parents, and parents who no longer have children living at home.
I taught through this book in a parenting class. It proved to be very helpful to them. Some parents shied away from it because of the title. They didn't believe their kids were rebellious or ever would be. As Dr. Kimmel will state in his book, not every child rebels the same way. Their rebellion may come later when they are out of your house.
This book is for everyone. Even for those parents who believe themselves to be the model parents who do not need a lesson on biblical parenting.
As for the student on the front of the book. I have been in youth ministry for many years now. I have also taught in Public and Private Schools. Is this what many teenagers "look" like. Yes it is. But the question is, "Should it be?" Whether you are a teenager or an adult... you should give a great deal of thought as to what it means to be in the world but not of it.
If you are a Christian... I believe the real issue is not clothes, hairstyle, piercings, etc. The real issue is Christ-likeness, holiness, being aliens and strangers in our modern day Babylon. Real Christians will understand this. The world will scoff at it. If Christian teenagers desire to look like the world... you know there is rebellion lurking in their hearts. Man's sinful nature says, "Express yourself!" The world seeks to throw off all forms of authority. Trust me... I remember why I got an ear ring when I was a teenager. I remember why I rebelled against my parents and the faith. I didn't see biblical Christianity matching up to what was modeled to me. I was tired of fighting against the grain of culture. "If you can't beat them, join them." This was my thinking. I did what I did out of pure human "free will" rebellion!
Of course, if the parents are dressing like the world, acting like the world, and are not modeling Christ in every way... the rebellion lurking in the child's heart may be a learned thing. Most of the time... this is the case. Although, you will occasionally have children who rebel despite their parents loving guidance.
All mankind is born rebellious. Man ultimately wants to do his own thing. This is not just a problem for teenagers, but for adults too. Every child should be given the opportunity to choose their own way when they reach a certain age. If the parent is confident in the way they have raised their child, they will have no problem releasing them to make their own decisions when they reach the time to leave the nest.
I have seen two extremes among parents: some let their children do whatever they want AND some do not allow them to make any decisions for themselves at all. These children do not have the true love of God modeled to them. They have parents who parent by worldly wisdom. If you're not willing to let your child choose his own way at the end of high school (and possibly sooner) then you haven't done a very good job of parenting.
I highly recommend Dr. Kimmel's book. If you are a worldly person... this book will not be of much help to you. However, if you are a Christian and are concerned about biblical parenting or you were a rebellious teenager years ago... this book is for you!
Absurd, irrational, insane, and vomit-worthy.......2006-12-16
I would like to know what this author is a "doctor" of? I find it somewhat surprising that someone can go through that much schooling without once encountering information which completely counters the absurd beliefs he holds. Rebellion is about releasing humanity from the clutches of social conditioning. We have obedience and conformity to authority smashed into our heads from the moments we're born, brainwashed by television and school to believe in our nation, economic system, and give up your life and time to work for someone else, lead an insignificant life destroying the Earth to die at the end of it all.
Religion is a product of modern society. Humans have existed for over 2 million years and we've existed in our current species, homo sapien sapien, for over 100,000 years. Religion is only 10,000 years old and Christianity is only 2000 years old. Were we seriously "living in sin" for 99.9% of human history? And even when you look at us now compared to the amount of people who do not fully embrace evangelical christianity, are 97% of us "living in sin?" Religion was created as an arm of the state to help the coersion of humans into obedient workers for an absurd society. This is not a dissenting opinion, it's mainstream anthropology. Religion is made to enforce authoritarian ideals and beat people into a point where they submit willingly and do not naturally rebel against the horrible force of law and morality (Carefully crafted to meet the needs of the power elite), continuously using the truncheon physically and psycologically to control us from reaching our true potentials of real freedom, autonomy, and liberation. By society's definition, freedom is the ability to do what the government deems unimportant.
If you want to help your kids, tell them to think for themselves, live free of all restrictions and resist any social force which limits their ability to exist freely. Tell them that one day we will tear all this down and dance on the ashes of churches, corporations, governments, and economies, and once again embrace our truest and most amazing desires in voluntary association with humans, non-humans, and the Earth.
If you want a wakeup call from the horrible and miserable daily reality authors like this seek to defend and enforce, read books by Derrick Jensen, Daniel Quinn, Crimethinc, and Raoul Vaneigem
Plant your rebellious seeds, revolt against the prevailing artificial reality, fight the revolution of everyday life!
Book Description
Marriage, children, and family have been lifelong priorities for Charles Swindoll. Following a biblical exploration of God's purpose and plans for families, readers are equipped in
Parenting Workbook: Practical Advice on Keeping Your Family Together with all the tools necessary to grow strong, healthy families. Chuck then takes a focused look at those areas where parents and families often experience difficulties, and offers helpful and practical solutions to those difficulties. This book will strengthen the bond between parent and child, and will help keep this life-long connection strong even after the child has grown.
Book Description
In an attempt to gather what wisdom he could to guide his son into adulthood, Kent Nerburn published a powerful collection of essays that touched the hearts of parents and children everywhere. In this beautiful revised edition, Nerburn refines his advice and expands his thoughts.
Customer Reviews:
Best book I've ever read of things that should be said........2007-02-04
In my 61 years of male life experiences, this is my favorite book, for it puts to words human ideals that are so beneficial for people of all ages to understand.
I found this book by chance in a used book store and bought it to read, to reflect on my experiences with my two sons and two step-children. Immediately I realized that Kent had put to words the things I had wanted to say to my children, but didn't know how to express it.
I then bought 30 copies, giving them to my children and friends with children. I read it again, this time calling Kent and thanking him for writing his thoughts for me to share with others whom I love.
I'm here at Amazon again, sending a link to Kent's Letters to a friend, who's husband has died, leaving their teenage son so alone. I'm constantly recommending this book, as well as quoting from it to share thoughts with others. When my brother-in-law died a couple months ago, Kent's thoughts on Tragedy and Suffering were most comforting to my sister and her in-laws. I know Kent's thoughts on Falling In Love I've shared with others has mended many a broken hearts.
Kent's dedication page statement - "We are born male. We must learn to be men." implies it's a book for guys to read, but I know many gals who have found it a valuable read.
I was just on a lengthy trip, with a number of extended layovers. Knowing this, of all I could have chosen to bring to read to make that time most worthwhile, I brought Letters to my Son. And I'll read it again and again.
For years I've thought that too often people read one book after another, searching for something very meaningful to be made know to them. Here is a book I believe, if read a number of times in a thoughtful way, and taken to heart, it will be the most satisfying read ever. I've become certain that it's good enough to last my lifetime.
Father to Son to..............2006-02-28
I gave this book to my husband to give to our older son.
My husband liked it so much that he asked that I get
another for our younger son.
All seem to enjoy it very much.
Rae
a new father's best gift.......2004-11-17
I am 26 and I just became a father. I still feel like a kid myself. Someone gave me this book for a birthday present. I read it to see if these were letters I would send my son. They are not really letters but more like essays or thoughts. This man says so many things I wish I could say. He helps me understand what is important in my life, what is important to teach my boy when he gets old enough. I don't always agree with Kent Nerburn's thinking. But I think he is very wise. I wish my dad was like him. I hope I can be a dad like him. He knows what is important in life. He doesn't just preach or lecture. He unfolds his thinking with stories from his own life. Sometimes he made mistakes and he tells us. He learned. Now he is teaching me so I can teach my son.
Thanks, Kent Nerburn. You tell a good truth.
Disappointed.......2004-10-18
This book is nice, sweet, and somewhat insightful. But I wanted a book that spoke more of the relationship between a father and a son. The vast majority of essays/chapters in this book could have been written by anyone for anyone. For example, Nerburn warns of the dangers of drugs and alcohol, and extols the virtues of giving. But those lessons could have been taught by a mother to her daughter, a priest to a parishioner, or an uncle to a nephew. Many other essays in the book are similar in that they contain no unique perspective on the father-son relationship. (What does the "Power of Art" have to do with fatherhood?) This book reads like Chicken Soup for the Soul. In my opinion, the other reviews overrate this book.
The perfect gift.......2004-07-24
Over the years I have had read numerous books of this nature, but always find myself returning to read a section, a paragraph or a few pages. A wonderful book that I have had the opportunity to share with numerous friends. I think I have purchased at least 20 copies a gifts.
A must read.
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