Book Description
When ZlataÂ's Diary was first published at the height of the Bosnian conflict, it became an international bestseller and was compared to The Diary of Anne Frank, both for the freshness of its voice and the grimness of the world it describes. It begins as the day-today record of the life of a typical eleven-year-old girl, preoccupied by piano lessons and birthday parties. But as war engulfs Sarajevo, Zlata Filipovi´c becomes a witness to food shortages and the deaths of friends and learns to wait out bombardments in a neighborÂ's cellar. Yet throughout she remains courageous and observant. The result is a book that has the power to move and instruct readers a world away.
Customer Reviews:
Great Book .......2007-05-25
Sheesh...this is the product of a child, not the work of a Pulitzer prize winning journalist. It is an excellent diary, an excellent primary source and an excellent text for a better understanding of the Yugoslav wars. Yes...it does only tell one point of view - hers - it is her diary! Some readers are offended because of the comparison to Anne Frank; a comparison that Filipovic and others make in the book. The comparison is totally fair. Both are intelligent children caught up in situations they have no control over during wars of ethnic cleansing and extermination. It is a testament to Zlata that she can make the connection to Anne Frank...obviously the rest of the world couldn't. They (We) abandoned the Jews sixty years ago and abandoned hundreds of thousands of Croats/Bosniaks/Serbs to genocide forty years later. Zlata remembered Anne Frank's words...the world didn't.
Good read.......2007-05-07
I remember reading this book as a child and picked it up again as an adult. It was a quick read, but really showed how a child deals with war. It made me think of how children in Iraq are feeling right now. Very interesting.
It's a diary, not a book........2007-05-04
To the reader who wrote comment "we all had our delusional moments when we were teenagers"...you should be ashamed of yourself. This "delusional moment" was war and struggle for survival in besieged city of Sarajevo.
Why don't you try and write a book, and/or diary, sitting in a basement without food, water and electricity for four years. All that while granates and bombs are raining on your city. In the meantime, one by one, all of your neighbors and friends are gone six feet under...
How about that for delusional moment...
Zlata's Diary.......2007-04-20
Zlata's Diary is about a young girl's diary named Mimi during the war in her town of Sarajeavo. She writes of the hardships of being a war child. She tells of the changes of her world during the war such as her parents may have grown older one year but looked ten years older. She is constantly hearing of people being shot and wounded. And how might I know this? She was asked if she had a diary. And guess what she did and it was sent to be published. I think this book was over all pretty well written. I would recomend this book to you if you liked the book The Diary Of Anne Frank. So to find out what happens pick up Zlata's Diary.
-Christine Lanier
Zlata's Review.......2007-04-18
Taylor (Lanier Middle School)
Zlata's Dairy is the real life issue of how an eleven year old girl struggles to stay alive during a civil war in Sarajevo, (1991-93) but more importantly trying to cope with the pain friends and family leaving to escape the war. During the whole process she decides to keep a diary which then later becomes published in the years 1992 and 1993.
This book tells a story of family, friendship, and most of all courage. Though a war might be going on, Zlata Filipovic still manages to go to school. Zlata lives in an average sized apartment with her mother and father.
The life lesson in this book is that no matter how hard things get you will always have your family there with you. And that thing's in life will get though, but eventually they will get better. Also never dwell on the bad things, but the good.
I personally do not like this book. The fact that this is a diary is one of the reasons I don't like this book, it skips around and does not tell you everything that happens.It also repeats everything, so all you are reading is what you read before.I would recamend this book to all, even though I did not like it, does'n mean you don't.
Book Description
"No one book resolves a lifetime of hurts and misunderstandings, but it can remove the blinders from our eyes. Make an effort now."
LOS ANGELES TIMES
No matter how old you are and whether or not your parents are alive, you have to come to terms with them. This wise and practical book will show you how to deal with the most fundamental relationships in your life and, in the process, become the happy, creative, and fulfilled person you are meant to be.
Customer Reviews:
Just what the doctor ordered!.......2005-08-08
This book has saved me a lot of time in therapy. The author's experience in helping clients work though many of the same issues that I'm faced with. His format worked great - summary real-life example, what's the issue, what did he advise (maybe some exercises if it's "easier said than done"), and what was the result. It's given me a whole new set of tools for recognizing what is going on between the words with my mom and I, how I CHOOSE to deal with situations, and take responsibility for building a new relationship.
You'd think that the advice would be dated by now, but it is wonderful. It was a much more helpful than the more "modern" book that I also ordered.
Great Read.......2004-03-18
I highly recommend this book. At first I worried that it would be out of date since it was written a while back. To the contrary, it is ageless. It goes to the core of the subject--making peace with your parents--and teachers you how to do it. This will give you great inner peace.
The Greatest Gift That You Give Yourself.......2004-02-04
In the 80's, while browsing the bookstore, someone had recommended this book to me. And I reacted with, "No. I don't think so."
Internally, my reaction was, "But you don't understand where I come from. Nobody has experienced anything like this."
This internal reaction kept me unconsciously (psychically, if you will) beating up my parents and myself. It was an agreement with myself. Or, more appropriately, I nourished and preserved an excuse for my not reaching my potential.
I read this book in 1998. This was nine years after I had made a commitment to myself to endlessly grow.
Some other books that helped me were, "My Mother Myself," to understand my relationship with my mother. And, John Bradshaw's, "Family Secrets," to understand to unspoken truths.
Five years later, as I look at my life now, I am glad that I have made peace with my parents (They did the best that they knew how; and I love for that).
Recently someone whom I've known since 1976, but had lost contact with, said to me, "Wow. I'm glad I have a great family who is always here for me."
This was a wake up call for me, because I truly responded internally with, "Wow! I am glad that I had the experiences that I had. I am also glad that I have made a commitment to use each of those experiences to enhance my self-image. Without my parents, I wouldn't be all that I love about myself."
So, for those of you who fear reading a book that guides you to take responsibility for your life, congratulate yourself for recognizing your fear. That can be the beginning of your choosing to be the best you possible - and loving that.
Life-changing!.......2002-04-26
I read a previous edition of this book 16 years ago and I am still reaping the benefits. At first, I hesitated to purchase the book because I didn't feel ready for peace. It turned out the book was really about working with the irritation with my parents I had built up over the years. Doing all the exercises in this book was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. Afterwards I felt stronger and more at peace and it was so much easier for me to have enjoyable conversations with my mother without feeling annoyed. It wasn't like I had to have any confrontation with her about anything either. I just felt better around her and it made our relationship so much better.
Don't just read the book. You have to take time to seriously DO all the exercises. I don't think just reading the book would accomplish much.
Exhaustingly empowering.......2000-03-30
This book walks the reader through steps in seeking out the everyday childhood issues which have been overlooked yet are hindering function as an adult. The exercises will exhause you, bring tears, and at times make you resent the author even suggesting anything like this could be true, yet once the exercises are completed, a new level of awaereness and freedom emerges. It is definately worth the reading, but it is also a book which only gives he reader what the reader is willing to put into it. Give 100% and the return will be in gold!
Book Description
In 1962, Don and Carol Richardson risked their lives to share the gospel with the Sawi people of New Guinea. Peace Child tells their unforgettable story of living among these headhunters and cannibals who valued treachery through "fattening" victims with friendship before the slaughter. God gave Don and Carol the key to the Sawi hearts via a redemptive analogy from their own mythology. The "peace child" became the secret to unlocking a value system that existed through generations over centuries, possibly millenniums, of time. This analogy became a stepping-stone by which the gospel came into the Sawi culture and started both a spiritual and a social revolution from within. With an epilogue updating how the gospel has impacted the Sawi people, Peace Child will inspire a new generation of readers who need to hear this unforgettable story and the lessons it teaches us about communicating Christ in a meaningful way to those around us.
Customer Reviews:
Peace Child.......2007-07-22
A true story of how the Gospel of Jesus Christ can cross cultures and change the lives of violent people. A great message for the world today, especially for people who believe that the answer to violence is more violence. Also, an interesting cultural study of indigenous people.
Amazing!.......2007-04-02
Gives a much deeper understanding of mission work and how to reach cultures in a new way. How to package the Gospel in ways that different culutres can identify with. Really inspirational! A must-read for all Christians.
Leaves you Feeling Enlightened.......2006-08-01
Peace Child was my summer reading book this past year and though there are many tough issues regarding cannibalism and violence. The people of New Guinea have never known anything different. They have need for a Savior who continues to prevail all throughout the book. As Don Richardson (the missionary) tries to find a spiritual parrallel with the gruesome Sawi culture, he finds much much more. Though at times your stomach may feel unneasy while reading it. It's a gripping and enlightening story. Without a doubt, a must-read for anyone regardless of their religion.
For it is by the grace of God that we have been saved through faith, not through ourselves, it is the gift of God.
(Ephesians 2:8)
Best Reason for Missions Ever Book.......2006-07-26
This is an outstanding book. It will give you a vision of this mission field but also the unique way God will draw a person to Himself, in this case, an entire village. I recommend this book. I am blessed to have read it.
The Power of God's word.......2006-07-04
A powerful story of how a missionary was able to find the deep structure of primitive tribe and translate God's words into their language and culture so they could understand.
Book Description
Guilt. Criticism. Control. Competition. Anger
-Do these words reflect your relationship with your mother?
-Can your mother make you feel guilty in thirty seconds or less?
-Do you feel that whatever you do or say, you're still not good enough for her?
-Does it feel like the woman who has known you the longest doesn't really know you at all?
If so, you are most likely experiencing mama drama, the ongoing conflict with your mother that seems too complicated to fix. But Denise McGregor has solutions for turning a challenging relationship with Mother into one that is joyful, healthy, and loving. Written with humor and heart, Mama Drama will help you get past the blame and guilt, move on with your life, and redefine your relationship with the one person you thought you'd never understand--your mother.
Customer Reviews:
You Mean I'm Not Crazy!.......2007-04-11
This book was so helpful that I passed it on to a friend. I have actually used advice suggested by the author and my life with my mom has improved significantly. It truly helped in that my mother has to break the apron strings and I have to take the responsiblity to grow up. If nothing else, this book puts boundaries in perspective. I am normally reserved about self-help books, but as a practicing mental health professional, this one will become one of my more recommended to clients.
helpful book.......2006-09-29
I'm writing a review even though I haven't completely finished reading the book in case my review helps someone else. This book is very helpful. The author doesn't mention a lot of pscyhological terms but rather tries to help you understand why you mother is doing what she is doing and provides you with tips on how to balance the relationship so you are not constantly stressed and discouraged. She encourages you not to "divorce" your mom like some would say but tells you to think about what you want out of the relationship and then work to that goal, often by finding some common ground that you can stand on to related to your mother.
I'm sort of in the midst of some major issues with my mother (again) and the one thing I am struggling with are feeling of guilt and isolation and the "why me" mindset as it relates to my mother. Wondering why I can't have a good relationship with my mother like I see other women have with their mothers. I feel further isolated since I don't have a sister or an aunt and my grandmother has passed so there's not even another woman in my family that I can share my feelings with to help me feel better. This book provides lots of examples that help you realize you are not alone and that it is possible to not be super close to your mother and still be a good person.
There is one thing I struggled with that the author says. She says that your mother isn't out to hurt you and she even pointed to examples of child abuse and extreme cases where mothers have killed their children and she still says that those mothers weren't out to hurt their children and that their actions were about their issues and so forth (please read the book for the exact wording on this topic). Anyway I disagreed with that because I think sometimes mothers can wish to hurt their children, consiously and unconsciously I think sometimes mothers are jealous, resentful, unhappy with their own lives and just mean and that they do want to hurt their children. Do I think they may regret it after the fallout of their actions? Yes. Do I think they also have times or moments where they love their children? Yes. But I just felt like when the author said they don't want to hurt you it was almost excusing the behavior and saying that your mother really loves you no matter what and that any bad thing is really not to hurt you and I just don't think I believe that...but that is my opinion.
Let me say again that the book is wonderful and offers great insight in dealing with a problem that can make you feel very sad and lonely. It's worth it if you are having an issue...perhaps you can find some peace in the pages of this book.
I have read many mother/daughter books.......2006-07-09
but this one is the best so far, even topping Deborah Tannen's helpful one ("You're Wearing That?"). What I especially found so helpful about this book is that it isn't laden with anecdotes. Instead Denise McGregor has insightful explanations for mothers' motivations, daughters' responses, and how to understand and heal these areas. She also has a deeply spiritual ( not religious) undertone that I found very calming and peaceful. Denise is an excellent writer and knows how to explain even the most complicated issues in such a way that I felt I could understand my relationship with my mom in a whole new way. For so many years I felt alone, and that I was the only one feeling so much guilt when it came to my mom, and Denise's book is so enlightening. I realize that not only am I not a freak but that it is a really common issue with most mothers and daughters, and Denise offers beautiful, excellent advice on how to deal positively and release guilt.
I can not stress how great this book is. Like I said, I have read many many many, and now I feel like this is it. I do not have to read any more mother daughter books ever again. This one book has set me on the road to healing and improving my relationship with my mom. I hope it can help you too.
A great resource for daughters AND their mothers.......1999-05-11
This book provided a lot of helpful information for mending estranged mother-daughter relationships. It also offers suggestions for improving existing relationships. Mother-daughter relationships are very complicated and the guidelines outlined in Ms. McGregor's book assist with shaping the relationship into something that is appreciated by both the mother and the daughter.
Every Mother and Daughter should read this book!!.......1999-02-05
What an incredible source of inspiration!! I had the great pleasure to attend one of Ms. McGregor's seminars and found her not only to be a warm and caring person but a tremendous source of strength and knowledge that has helped me mend my relationship with my mother. Mama Drama is a must have in any household!! For you men out there, if you care about the women in your lives, make the emotional investment and get a copy for your mothers, sisters, daughters and wives! An absolute winner!! Thank you Denise for changing my life!!
Amazon.com
As Edmund Burke said, "The greater the power, the more dangerous the abuse." This is sometimes excruciatingly true with parents. There are the typically anxious ones who get a little uptight about letting their teenagers borrow the car, and then there are the rigid kinds who won't even let their kids leave the house when they want to--or even eat or go to the bathroom when they need to.
Written for the 14 million adult children who've survived an upbringing with the latter type of parents, If You Had Controlling Parents takes the classic Toxic Parents to a new level. Author Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., a family therapist, knows his subject thoroughly; he survived a childhood with a father who has the candor to refer to himself as "an S.O.B."
Neuharth says, "If your parents controlled you in unhealthy ways, they may have planted land mines in your psyche." Research shows that behaviors and traits exhibited by adult children of controlling parents include the following: depression, low self-esteem, distorted self-image, eating disorders and other addictions, stress-related health problems, inability to sustain an intimate relationship, and more. While this may seem like a heavy lot to handle, Neuharth maintains there's always hope of overcoming the past and changing yourself--even if it means making the drastic move of cutting off contact with one or both of your parents.
He gives a lengthy self-test to determine if your parents were controlling; gives profiles of eight typical styles of controlling parents to help you better recognize how you may be presently affected by your upbringing; and then delves into the process of understanding why your parents acted the way they did in order to start healing emotionally. This is especially important, he says, if you now have children of your own and want to stop the damaging cycle of parental control. He doesn't give a cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all recovery plan, but rather suggests several "paths to healing" and exercises to help you, as he terms it, "emotionally leave home." The book's subtitle--"A Guide for Letting Go of Anxiety, Self-Blame and Perfectionism and Improving Assertiveness, Boundaries and Confidence"--says it all. This is self-help at its best.
Amazon.com Audiobook Review
Controlling parents can leave lasting scars on your psyche and negatively influence all aspects of your adult life, especially the ways you parent your own children. Understanding and rising above these problems is the subject of If You Had Controlling Parents, read by the author, clinical psychologist Dan Neuharth. Moving slowly and carefully through the material, Dr. Neuharth gives you time to process and reflect upon topics such as why parents overcontrol and how you can gain autonomy in your life. Specific exercises at the end of the tape will help you to change the patterns set by controlling parents and deal with situations like family holidays, maintaining relationships with your parents, and developing your own parenting style. (Running time: three hours, two cassettes) --Sharon Griggins
Book Description
Do you sometimes feel as if you are living your life to please others? Do you give other people the benefit of the doubt but second-guess yourself? Do you struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, lack of confidence, emotional emptiness, or eating disorders? In your intimate relationships, have you found it difficult to get close without losing your sense of self?
If so, you may be among the fifteen million adults in the United States who were raised with unhealthy parental control. In this groundbreaking bestseller by accomplished family therapist Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., you'll discover whether your parents controlled eating, appearance, speech, decisions, feelings, social life, and other aspects of your childhood—and whether that control may underlie problems you still struggle with in adulthood. Packed with inspiring case studies and dozens of practical suggestions, this book shows you how to leave home emotionally so you can improve assertiveness, boundaries, and confidence, quiet you "inner critics," and bring more balance to your moods and relationships. Offering compassion, not blame, Dr. Neuharth helps you make peace with your past and avoid overcontrolling your children and other loved ones.
Customer Reviews:
This is the most amazing book I have ever read.......2007-06-08
I couldn't believe I had found this book (browsing on Amazon) as I was reading it!! I had not been physically abused... My parents are hard working people who did the best they could... But there surely was control from my dad. At 30 years old, this book was the key for me to understand where it's coming from!! And I made a surprising move of not mailing a destructive 40-page letter to him from the other side of the world, and having an impacting but sincere 6-hour face-to-face conversation instead. The result has been the beginning of a wonderful relation with my dad, which has had a unifying effect for all my family, which was growing apart. In my case, I have finally taken the reins of my career thanks to the incredible and quick infusion of self-confidence that has come to me.
Thanks, Dr. Neuharth.
Controlling Parents? Inside view..........2007-05-21
I was amazed at how well the book was able to take specific situtations and relate them to how they could come about from childhood experiences so well. No only was the author able to match the response to current events to specific type of parental controls growing up, but also the feelings present in both situations. The options and tools suggested were clear, workable, and didn't make you feel like you were always going to be a victim or helpless to overcome the problem. It you were under a strict rule, abused, or in any way still dealing with childhood issues haunting you, this book might just give you some insight into making the best of the situations.
Real Good Orientation.......2006-11-06
If you've been trying to figure out in vain how to get along with your dominating parents without giving up your own life and space, go and get this book. It's one of those that can actually make a difference in your life due to its exact observations, complex explications and realistic approaches. It surely got me on the right track.
Free yourself!.......2006-08-30
Even if you are advanced in your recovery, this is a fantastic book to read to see the subtleties in the way an unhealthy upbringing affects your current realtionships. The author lists all the different types of controlling parents and the way they leave us feeling. He offers stories of several other people that may have similar experiences to your own.
Very easy to read, and a way to escape the hold of a controlling & abusive parent.
If you had controlling Parents: How to make peace with your past and take your place in the world.......2006-03-28
It is and excellent book to read to learn about your past and not struggle any longer wether it be about you or not.
Book Description
In 2004, Cindy Sheehan lost her son Casey Austin Sheehan in an ambush in Iraq. As information became available verifying that the war was based on lies and "cooked intelligence," she began speaking out and testifying in the halls of Congress. In August 2005, she went to Crawford, Texas, to confront President Bush, unexpectedly opening the floodgates of a renewed American peace movement. Ten thousand people joined her, and millions more worldwide followed. The founder of Gold Star Families for Peace, Sheehan here movingly recounts her first year of activism, sharing her thoughts and actions with readers for the first time in book form. Reflecting on war and peace, truth and accountability, she takes the Bush administration to task for its corruption and incompetence. Equal parts compelling memoir and call to action, Not One More Mother's Child tells in Sheehan's distinctive voice how historical events and personal tragedy transformed her from grieving mom to ardent activist.
Customer Reviews:
Why Casey Sheehan died........2006-09-03
Since Ms Sheehan seems still incredulous that her son Casey is dead, and seems to still want George to tell her why, I'll give it a go since clearly George won't. It is clear Ms. Sheehan knows nothing about the military or combat. Without doubt war is the very epitome of insanity which her son Casey CHOSE to dive into at a time when all the knowledge necessary to realize that George Walker Bush was not the elected POTUS, and that he had no support among intelligent people for this route in Iraq and Afghanistan. By her own statements, she begged him to reconsider this asinine decision, and even offered to drive him to Canada which he also refused. He was not an Infantry soldier but a Motorpool jockey. He had no business being where he was when he was killed. It is, without doubt, a tragedy when any of these people are killed in such a worthless war. But Specialist Sheehan chose this fate. He had a desire to go with his BUDDEEEEES! Well, ignorance cannot be feigned here. All of the necessary data to remedy his ignorance was present, and ignored. This reclassifies Specialist Casey as an idiot. After a tour in Vietnam, It was clear to me that the war was a lie, but it was no where near as clear as the phony nature of this catastrophe. Ms Sheehan and her junkets around the country and the world have done absolutely nothing to even slow George down. The damnable misery of it is that Ms Sheehan will no doubt be viewed historically as the "Joan of Ark" of the latest Bushwar when nothing is further from the truth. Ms. Sheehan and entourage are nothing more than a gadflyin this mess. They too, are not willing for whatever reason to take on the task of disposing of the Bush Regime. Human kind has yet to evolve to a point where peaceful nonviolent behavior is enough to stop people like Bush, Cheney, and the rest. So clearly Ms. Sheehan and entourage are engaged in an historically proven waste of time. By the time such behaviors actually have any effect, war will very likely be obsolete as a means of arriving at an agreement.
She's No Writer.......2006-02-02
Perhaps she should take some basic writing courses first. This was a complete and utter waste of time and I was so willing to give her a chance. I basically paid good money to read someone's goofy political thoughts. I'm sorry her son died and that is why I wanted to read this. However, I just could not get past the anger in her words. She has received a lot of publicity and help from ex-Vietnam protesters that one cannot help but believe they are all trying to relive some sick and twisted nostalgic trip. The war against terror is not Vietnam. We should not surrender to the terrorists and accept their terms of surrender. Part of the terms would dictate that we lay down arms, surrender our way of life, religion, and allow them to occupy our country. This, to me, would be worse than having a democrat in office.
read it base your own opinion........2006-02-02
poorly written and a slap in the face to all who currently serve in the military. Basically telling us we have no common sense and that we are evil becuase we love being in the military. Believe it or not being in the military isnt about politics even in war we dont give a crap about it only our brothers and sisters in arms. Read this book please then make your opinion.
Testament of Grief.......2005-12-13
"Not One More Mother's Child" is a relatively short yet deeply felt read. It is a testament of a mother's loss and anguish that out of heartfelt conviction, propelled her into a life of dissent and political activism against the Neoconspiracy.
Given the complexity and emotional magnitude of what surely must be the near paralysis-inducing pain of losing a child, Cindy sheehan's choice to act on her convictions is, I suspect, something that perhaps overwhelms the lives of many parents who suffer that most intimate loss, no matter what the circumstances. Being a parent myself, she has my admiration and sympathy. Within the political atmosphere which frames her struggle, it's painfully obvious that she has had to suffer what I'd find to be, again, given that this is the death of her child we're talking about, nigh unbearable instances of ignorance and cruelty from scores of thoughtless, unconscionable people. Shame on them. Shame on them. I believe that Nietzsche may have been onto something when he declared that the last *true* Christian was the one who died on the cross.
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Had much higher hopes.......2005-12-03
As someone with a background in the social sciences and an interest in protest groups (particularly those in France), I had somewhat higher hopes for this book. Agree or disagree with Ms. Sheehan, she has become a national figure and is worthy of study for anyone interested in protest movements.
I've listend to many of her speeches and, to be frank, she doesn't give a speech well. At all. That said, this is to be expected - Ms. Sheehan is not a politician, not a polished public relations expert, and likely has little experience in front of large crowds when compared to a politician or academic. She lacks cohesion, tends to ramble, repeats herself, etc. I can accept this relatively poor performance in front of crowds - she doesn't have the experience and it's nerve wracking. Her message is largely driven by emotion, so it makes sense.
I expected Ms. Sheehan to be slightly more collected in this book. It is infinitely easier to structure an argument when putting it on paper - especially with the help of editors. Sheehan wants to make many important points, and I expected this to be the medium she could best use to make them.
The book failed entirely to live up to my expectations. Rather than taking a step back from the raw emotion of the podium and making calm, sensible arguments to support her views, Sheehan has published page after page of ramblings. I understand that Sheehan is not a political science professor or sociologist, but where is her research? Credible sources to support her point of view in the book are sparse - much as they are in her speeches. She lashes out randomly, stopping mid-thought to fit in a jab at her arch-enemies rather than attempt to drive points home with reasonable arguments. It is very difficult to take her seriously under these conditions.
This book simply isn't cogent. The content could have been compelling and the book could have helped Ms. Sheehan gain support for her views, but her lack of organization and constant attacks - some of which border on childishness - degrade any case she was trying to make. I'd really like to understand what Ms. Sheehan thinks - maybe she needs a better editor?
Try again, Ms. Sheehan. Get a better editing team and try again.
In the meantime, for those interested in learning about more negative views on the Iraq war I would recommend Rashid Khalidi's "Resurrecting Empire" or one of many other books on the war. Sheehan's book was not nearly ready for publication.
Book Description
More and more people over age sixty-five are remarrying each year, and few families are prepared for the avalanche of feelings that comes when adult children learn that a parent is getting remarried. Psychiatrist Grace Gabe and award winning author Jean Lipman-Blumen provide a practical guide with advice and understanding for every family facing this increasingly common, complex situation. Using case studies from a variety of perspectives, chapters address concerns frequently faced, including:* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations* Health and Illness: Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty*The Grandchildren: Innocent Pawns (or Occasional Bridges) in Stepfamily ConflictsWritten for both the couple getting married as well as their adult children, Step Wars is the only book in the market that focuses on the blending of adult families.
Customer Reviews:
The ONLY Adult Stepfamily Book You'll EVER Need!.......2004-04-23
Finally! A book that emerges amidst the sea of stepfamily guides, offering direction through the waters of ADULT stepfamilies. Step Wars assists your travel through the life of an adult stepfamily beginning with the conception of the relationship, and covering the plethora of complications, which lead up to the inheritance at its bereavement.
Straying from the theoretical pathway that too many authors follow, Grace Gabe and Jean Lipman-Blumen intertwine their theories and advice among the examples from real individuals as they experience adult stepfamilies. As you read through the various interviews throughout the book, you'll inevitably stumble upon a scenario that hits close to home.
Step Wars is more than just a book about adult stepfamilies; it is a handbook that EVERY stepparent and stepchild should not live without. As you find yourself confronted with any difficult crossroad, you'll undoubtedly find the answer you need within the covers of this book.
Step Wars is "must" reading.......2004-04-11
This is a lovely book and reads well and offers important help. Step Wars can help happy second marriages stay that way! It will help to anticipate, understand and negotiate the pitfalls of dealing with adult step children. although not advertised as such, this book offers sound advice about how parents in general should talk about finances with their grown children. I predict a wide and grateful audience.
Outstanding Book.......2004-04-10
This is an outstanding book. It tackles the delicate issues surrounding the many varieties of adult step families with wisdom and wit. A sense of profound and seasoned realism underlies the authors' approach and they address the most difficult questions ( including money and sex) with gripping and often painful experiences from real life. There are no easy answers but this book is truly a guide to realistic accommodations. It is enlivened by intelligence, a sense of humor, and is vastly above the level of most self help books. I couldn't put it down.
Book Description
Mothers and daughters go through so much–yet when was the last time a mother and daughter sat down collectively to write a book together about it all? Perri Klass and her mother, Sheila Solomon Klass, both gifted professional writers, prove to be ideal collaborators as they examine their decades of motherhood, daughterhood, and the wonderful, if sometimes fraught, ways their lives have overlapped.
Perri notes with amazement how closely her own life has mirrored her mother’s: Both have full-time careers (Perri is a pediatrician; Sheila is recently retired from a long career as a college English professor but goes on teaching); both have published books, articles, and stories; each has three children; they both love to read, and to pass books back and forth. They also love to travel–in fact, they often take trips together (and live to tell the tale). But in truth, the harder they look at their lives, the more Perri and Sheila acknowledge their profound differences in circumstance and temperament.
A child of the Depression, Sheila was raised in Brooklyn by Orthodox Jewish parents who considered education an unnecessary luxury for girls. Starting with her college education, she has fought for everything she’s ever accomplished. Perri, on the other hand, grew up privileged and rebellious in the New Jersey suburbs of the 1960s and 1970s. For Sheila, fanatically frugal, wasting time or money is a crime, and luxury is unthinkable while Perri enjoys the occasional small luxury, but has not been successful at enticing her mother into even the tiniest self-indulgence.
Each writing in her own unmistakable voice, Perri and Sheila take turns exploring the joys and pains, the love and resentment, the petty irritations and abiding respect, that have always bound them together. Sheila recounts the adventure of giving birth to Perri in a tiny town in Trinidad where her husband was doing anthropological fieldwork. Perri confesses that she can’t tame her domestic chaos even though she knows it drives her mother crazy. Sheila rhapsodizes about the bliss of becoming a grandmother. Perri marvels at her mother’s fearless navigation of the New York City subways. Together they compare thoughts on bringing up children and working, confess long-hidden sorrows, relish precious memories–and even offer family recipes and knitting patterns.
Looking deep into the lives they have lived separately and together, Perri and Sheila tell their mother-daughter story with honesty, humor, zest, and mutual admiration. A memoir in two voices, Every Mother Is a Daughter is a duet that resonates with the experiences that all mothers and daughters will recognize.
Customer Reviews:
A beautiful story of the optimum mother daughter relationship.......2007-08-02
It's a beautiful book. I love the format - daughter writes a section, mother replies, mother writes a section, daughter replies. It brings about a wonderful comedic banter that isn't at all forced. I so envy that Perri and Sheila now has this wonderful memoir to pass on. It's a quick and easy read and I recommend it to anyone who enjoys their own mother or daughter immensly.
a wonderful comparison of motherhood over 3 generations.......2007-04-04
This was a great book all around about motherhood, mother/daughter relationship, women at the work place/career, fatherhood, wife/husband and how society's expectations change over generations. I love how the authors (Mother and Daughter) took turns writing her perspective and seeing how the Mother's behavior/upbringing influences her daugher forever, and influences how she decides to bring up her own children. It made me think a lot about my mother and how her mother brought her up; and how all of our choices/decisions/outcomes are heavily influenced by circumstances of the time.
Every Mother Is A Daughter.......2006-11-05
Surprisingly interesting book. Was fast reading and was enjoyed by our book club of "ladies of a certain age" and my 33 year old daughter.
A wonderfully different mother/daughter memoir.......2006-07-30
It was such a treat to read this book! I love memoirs, but often you finish them feeling rather depressed about the state of relationships today. Here a mother and daughter who love and respect each other take turns writing about their lives together and apart. They are both authors, and so the writing is skilled, but warm and down to earth and never overblown and literary.
Some moments I especially enjoyed---how both mother and daughter spoke about how they never really learned to wear make-up or have their hair done---something I often feel very alone about as I share that trait! Perri making her mother a vest---her mother's reluctance to have any fancy or labor intensive done for her, and how the buttons cost $30, which Perri said she would never tell her mother and of course could not resist telling her right away! How both mother and daughter remember their husband/father---this book is a fine tribute to him. The tale of Bingo---the dumbest and most useless dog around---one of the only dog stories I've ever read that didn't end with everyone loving the hopeless mutt!
I almost missed reading this book, as the title and the cover dont't really describe well what it is---a memoir. I thought it was an advice book, or a book of stories of MANY mothers and daughters, not a specific pair. I am glad I read it anyway, based on my enjoyment of previous Klass books. It is a heartwarming book in the most true, non-sentimental way.
Funny, honest, heartwarming.......2006-05-07
Every Mother is a Daughter is a window, albeit a rose-tinted one, into the lives and the relationship of Perri Klass and her mother Sheila. They're both smart, funny, talented writers, and they speak on the ways in which they're alike and the ways they think they're not, and speculate on the reasons why that might be. Sometimes, though, it feels as if they skip over tough points and disagreements, and even when they try to criticize each other they turn that into a compliment to the other person and a put-down on themselves. The only exception to that rule is Sheila's mother, Perri's grandmother, who seems to get portrayed warts and all. Aside from that, this is a colorful, heartwarming portrait of the psyche of these two colorful, interesting women, and would make a great mother-daughter read.
PS. Those of you thinking of buying it because the word knitting is in the title, I'd think twice. It's not a knitting book. There is a pattern, but that's it. Go with "Two Sweaters for my Father" instead and there you won't be disappointed.
Book Description
Caring for aging parents is difficult-it's exhausting, expensive, time-consuming, and under appreciated. And that's under the best of circumstances, when the caregiver loves and respects his or her aging parent. What happens when adult children are asked to care for elderly parents who were abusive, neglectful, or absent? Here is a compassionate and practical guide to facing the psychological and emotional issues that arise when caring for aging parents. Eleanor Cade offers sound as well as personal accounts from individuals who have made the choice to care for difficult parents. The result is a powerful guide to moving beyond feelings of anger, regret, and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy. Target audience For individuals who are caring for aging, dysfunctional parents, as well as counselors and therapists who work with families Features an authoritative resource for baby boomers caring for aging parents defines differences between "normal" and "dysfunctional" families personal stories validate the experiences and feelings of readers
Customer Reviews:
Taking Care of Parents.......2006-04-26
Many of us are faced with the aging of parents and often the onset of dementia. Eleanor Cade's book gives us examples of that common stuggle and what other people have done to cope with this difficult transition in our parent's life. After I'd read this book, I gave copies to my sister who is a primary caregiver of our mother, my cousin and another friend. All of these women found hope and encouragement in the stories of others. I recommend it.
Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You.......2006-04-24
Eleanor Cade's book has been an enormous help as I wade through elder care for my mother. It provides practical advice, straightforward talk, and especially emotional companionship. It's a really difficult situation, and we need this kind of support. My mother even read it and said it helped HER! That's amazing.
Great Read.......2006-04-24
Given to me as a gift, I knew not what to expect, but found a very readable, thoughful and insightful book. Moreover, I too have taken the opportunity to give it as a gift to at least 7 other people. Even if you were fortunate enough to have had parents that took care of you, this is a sensible, reflective, and skillfully written manual for dealing with any emotions associated with aging parents.
Important Book! .......2006-04-24
Indeed, Cade asks us, how do you take care of your parents, when they didn't take good care of you - and in fact may done have you harm?
Cade, through interviews with adult caregivers and mental health professionals, encourages us to use the grieving process for the care-givers experience. Denial, Anger, Acceptance, and (eventually) Gratitude are stages in grieving that are broadly accepted in the mental health community. The call to action, if you want to call it that, is to find a motive for taking care of troubled parents that you can live with and live for.
If you have unresolved issues with your parents, this book might challenge you to move beyond your (legitimate) anger and defenses. The surprising news is there are a quite a few of us who are challenged with taking care of our troubled and troubling parents.
I was surprised, for example, to read that some caregivers she interviewed thank their parents for modeling how not to live and act. If you're ready to do the work of emotionally evolving and taking care of emotionally damaging parents, I recommend this book.
Barefly Scratches the Surface .......2006-04-11
The book barely scratches the surface. While the author does give helpful comments on the importance of siblings offering mutual support in caregiving, she offers a rather superficial nod to the experience of being re-engaged in the overwhelming world of one's pathological (now crisis-driven) family-of-origin.
Guilt, anxiety, grief, and helplessness are not just part of eldercare in these families. They are ghosts of the childhood helplessness and dispair that have often drained emotional reserves.
Most healthy adult survivors of chaotic families have devoted their lives to making peace with their parents, living with integrity and compassion, and creating healthy relationships. The return to the family of origin, the barrage of unsolvable problems and crises, the prospect of uneneding needs and demands, the double-binding parents who simultaneously complain and refuse help, is a nightmarish flashback for some adult children. They are likely to receive rather cold comfort in this book.
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The Boy Child Is Dying: A South African Experience
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